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editor’s note stuff Hello all,

P.O. Box 500 Grantham, N.H. 03753 www.uvkidstuff.com

I was having trouble with the summer issue. I chalk it up to a long

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winter of stomach flues and head colds. Then I have to write sunny, outdoor features in April when there is still a significant amount of snow on the ground. I moved articles forward and back, and then had the luck of having local organizations send in some great editorial. Hopefully the summer issue of Kid Stuff is more fun, with articles on mini golf, Lost River, live music at June Jam (a great event for families), and a summer camp that boosts confidence in the young and the old. We even have a Dad’s View column for Father’s Day and a summer safety article with advice from local experts. And as soon as the snow melts, the mud dries up, and the black flies recede, I’ll get out there and start work on the 2015 summer issue, pronto. Enjoy the sun!

Editor Laura Jean Whitcomb Art Director

Laura Osborn Advertising

Amy Davis Laura H. Guion Writers

Barbra Alan Larry Ballin Chery Fish Adrienne Flower Amy Nelson Makechnie Meghan Marcus Bill Steel Ann Stout Laura Jean Whitcomb Emma Wunsch Photographers/illustrators

Amy Nelson Makechnie Laura Osborn Ann St. Martin Stout Becky Whitney

Laura Jean Whitcomb Co-publisher and Editor

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Please send: 1. The ad (the name of the business) where you found the logo 2. Your name and mailing address Winners will be announced on Facebook and in the next issue. Good luck!

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Kid Stuff is available for free at 140+ locations across the Upper Valley. We’re happy to provide copies to kidrelated businesses or organizations related to tourism — just email us at info@uvkidstuff.com Kid Stuff Magazine is published five times a year, in February, April, June, September, and November © 2014 by 9Dot Publishing, LLC. All photographs and articles © by the photographer or writer unless otherwise noted. All rights reserved. Except for one-time personal use, no reproduction without written permission of the copyright owner(s) is allowed. On the Cover: Blowin’ Bubbles Photography by Becky Whitney Follow her parenting blog at www.rubsomedirtblog.com or enjoy her photographs at rebeccawhitneyphoto.smugmug.com


contents

Photo Courtesy of Lost River

June – August 2014

FEATURES 12 Adoption Homecoming

of the earth, there are It is important to a lot of great things remember that to do with your family homecoming day this summer. By Larry belongs to you and your Ballin and Laura Jean new family member. Whitcomb Give yourself permission to simply enjoy getting DEPARTMENTS to know this new person Art Smart in your life. Part two in a 4 Photo Album in a series. By Chery Fish Little Box 14 Moving with Kids By Ann St. Martin Stout Whether it’s across the Dad’s View country or just down the road, moving is a 6 The Incredible challenge. But before Bead Necklace you hide under the By Bill Steel packing peanuts with Seasonal Safety your toddler, here’s advice to help make your 8 Summer Safety Tips By Emma Wunsch next move a smooth one. By Emma Wunsch

18 Family Fun From live music at a historic farm to a journey to the center

By Amy Nelson Makechnie

YOUR CHILD Your Child 0 to 4 22 A Piece of Fertile Ground By Adrienne Flower

Your Child 5 to 9 23 Play Dates and the Gentle Art of Butting Out By Barbra Alan

Your Child 10 to 12 24 Nonprofit Builds Confidence at Summer Camp By Meghan Marcus

Your Child 13 to 18 26 Exploring Careers in Criminal Justice By Kim J. Gifford

Photo courtesy UVAC

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Good Food 10 The Amazing Avocado

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art smart

Photo Album in a Little Box

This easy gift project is perfect for Father’s Day. Text and Photography By Ann St. Martin Stout

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ere’s a gift that can be made with materials found around the house. It is personal, portable, and sure to be enjoyed. Dads or granddads would be happy to open the box and find happy moments preserved.

WHAT YOU Will NEED 1. A jewelry store box, approximately 3.5 inches square with lid

5. Ruler

2. Card stock

7. Brush

3. Scissors or paper cutter

8. Photographs

4. Double-stick tape or glue stick

9. Decorative paper for covering box (quality gift wrap works well)

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Measure the inside of the box and cut four strips of paper the length of the sheet of paper by the width of the box, minus ¼ inch.

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Accordion fold one strip of paper so it fits nicely within the box. Do not trim the tab leftover after folding.

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Align the next strip of paper over the short tab on the first piece of paper. Use a glue stick to adhere, lengthening the accordion-folded paper. Fold the new strip in the same manner as the first one.

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Continue gluing new strips onto previous one, and accordion folding until you have an accordion-folded booklet. Trim the final page to the same size as the others. Set aside.

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the box and extend to completely cover the interior side walls of the box. Cover the outside of the box with Mod Podge, and secure the paper to the box, smoothing as you go. Before folding the paper to the inside of the box, cut and remove a narrow wedge of paper at each corner. This will prevent bulk at the corner folds. Secure with Mod Podge, using clothespins if necessary to hold the paper in place while it dries.

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Glue a plain piece of card stock inside the lid of the box, covering the paper edges for a neat look. Glue the bottom page of the accordion booklet to the inside of the bottom of the box. Your photo box is now ready to be decorated and filled with photos.

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On the top page of the accordion booklet, create a title, either handwritten or computer generated.

6. Mod Podge (or other decoupage medium)

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Look around for the perfect combination of photographs that will bring a smile to the face of a special person. Then on each page of the booklet, secure a photograph using double-stick tape or a glue stick. Use the facing page for a caption, quote, date or another photo. Both sides of the accordion-fold page can be used.

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When finished, close the box and tie with a ribbon or elastic cord. Ann St. Martin Stout resides in Newport, N.H., and enjoys creating and writing for families and children.

TIP Colors of card stock and decorative exterior paper can be coordinated to the theme of the book, for example playful, classic, children or nature. Try using a mint tin for a snap-shut photo album that can be easily carried in a purse. Decorate the top and bottom of the hinged box with contact paper and stickers.


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The Incredible Bead Necklace By Bill Steel

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REALLY like your beads, Bill.” For the first time in all my shopping experiences, my awareness of each approaching shopper grew. I began to want them to notice The Kid’s beads, smile and feel happier. Some might say my new feelings were what psychologists might call “sweet insanity” or just plain nuttiness. I felt the hairs on the backs of my hands rise up as I gripped the shopping cart metal handle. I heard Leslie’s word “arrive” and continued to wonder, “Arrive where?” CRASH! A 6-year-old boy had just charged out from behind a 6-foot high display of soda cartons and smashed into my shopping cart. A large bag of potato chips fell out of my cart and onto the floor. Annoyance, perhaps coupled with some grumpy words, might have been my usual response, partly because I really dislike eating potato chip crumbs. However in this case, I felt a smile spring onto my face at this little potato chip crusher. I wanted him to see my beads and smile back. “I’m sorry sir!” he blurted out. He raced off a few yards, suddenly stopped, turned, smiled and said, “Nice beads!” then disappeared around another aisle. And I was left…THERE. I had…ARRIVED THERE. THERE, I suddenly understood,

was the state of mind/awareness that I, of all people, can actually make other people happy. THERE is a state of mind where all of us in Adult Land can choose to make each other happy — in a supermarket, or any place — where all of us can become more alert to opportunities to make each other smile (and maybe even smile when eating potato chip crumbs). Leslie was right. I needed to “arrive.” The Twoster’s beads had transported me THERE, where I would be more interested in the happiness of others, than in myself. I believe that my beads were charged with Twoster magic energy. This kid-created energy was reflected from the multicolored bead necklace; and caused all those smiles during my shopping trip…as I ARRIVED, THERE. Bill Steel is a retired businessman and public school principal but, more importantly, the husband of a great wife and a proud dad and granddad. His interest in a dad’s vital role in early childhood development crystallized while studying at The Principals’ Center Harvard Graduate School of Education. Bill is using his book, Dadhood: Journey of Hero or Heel?, to show dads how their child is one of the greatest cultural forces on earth since the development of writing, as first suggested by Bill and Melinda Gates.

photo by Laura Osborn

t 8 a.m. on a Friday morning in November, I put on a 24-inch, multicolored bead necklace that The Kid had just given me as we were about to drive off to her preschool at Colby-Sawyer College. “I made this yesterday at school… just for you, Daddy!” the Twoster jubilantly announced. My necklace consisted of 38 round, bright red, orange, purple, yellow, dark blue, light blue, dark green, light green and white dime-sized beads that she had carefully strung on 24 inches of monofilament. We entered the classroom after our drive and Head Teacher Leslie gave me a warm smile and enthusiastically said, “Great beads, Bill… but you will not arrive until you wear them when you go grocery shopping.” Leslie’s comment made me happy. I quickly departed, feeling somewhat embarrassed and confused because I had never worn beads before. To my knowledge, most Dads do not generally wear brightly colored beads to the grocery store, or anywhere else. Over the weekend Leslie’s words — “You will not arrive” — echoed in my mind. I thought, “Arrive where? Where is there? Why would I want to arrive there?” So, at 2:30 p.m. on Sunday afternoon, I was wearing the Twoster’s bead necklace while pushing a grocery cart down an aisle in our crowded local supermarket. Many shoppers noticed the beads and gave me a smile as they passed by. Some of the people I knew added comments like, “Nice beads, Bill” or “I


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Summer Safety Tips By Emma Wunsch

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Photo courtesy of Upper Valley Aquatic Center

he smell of freshly mowed grass, sunblock and citronella candles means summer has (finally) arrived in the Upper Valley. But along with the joys of swimming, fireworks, sailing and ice cream, there are the dangers of drowning, sunburn and dehydration. Here are some tips from the experts to have a safe and fun summer in the Upper Valley.

Sunblock Tricia Groff, a DHMC pediatrician and mother of two, says parents don’t apply enough sunblock often enough. “Parents should reapply sunblock at least every two hours when children are out, and possibly more frequently if they are in and out of the water often,” she says. “If clothes are not SPF-rated then a sunblock should actually be applied under them.” She isn’t a big fan of sunblock sprays because she thinks parents are “more likely to miss a surface with them.” Marie Dumont, who has been the program director of the Carter Community Building Association (CCBA) camp for 11 summers, says it’s essential that parents pack enough sunblock for reapplications

The Environmental Working Group offers a free online guide to sunscreens, reviewing ingredients for toxicity. It can be found at ewg.org

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The Upper Valley Aquatic Center offers swim lessons year round to both children and adults at all levels. A parent that cannot swim puts their child at greater risk.

throughout the day. If you’re concerned your child has sensitive skin and can’t tolerate sunblock well, Groff recommends “SPF clothing…and a zinc oxidebased sunblock with minimal additives (the kind that turns your skin white) because there are few children who will have a reaction to this.”

before continuing in an activity. Hank Tenney, the director of Hanover Parks & Recreation, says in his programs there’s “no such thing as a water break. Kids can get water whenever they’re thirsty.” And remember that water is best. Although kids might prefer sport drinks and juice, those beverages contain sugar.

Staying Hydrated

Water Safety

On hot days or when your child is especially active, it’s important for parents to monitor their childrens’ water intake more than usual. Dumont says it can sometimes be a battle to get kids to drink enough water, especially younger campers who sometimes get “too busy” or don’t feel thirsty. While she stresses that the CCBA camp would never force anyone to drink, they will occasionally sit with a camper and gently encourage him/her to drink

With its many lakes, swimming pools, ponds and rivers, the Upper Valley can be a swimmer’s paradise, but keeping kids safe around any kind of water should be every parent’s priority. A recent report from the U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission reveals that children younger than 5 represent more than 75 percent of all pool and spa submersion deaths, and 78 percent of pool and spa submersion injuries in the United States involve children


younger than 15. Dumont recommends “consistent swim lessons� so kids can become safe, strong swimmers with a good understanding of “overall water safety.� Echoing this, Groff says, “Water safety is the key to summer.� She says not only should parents keep a close eye on their children, but also teach children from an early age “that no one (not even adults) should swim alone.� Parents who don’t feel comfortable in the water should consider taking swim and water safety classes as well. There are several local pools that offer adult swim classes.

Grilling Safety The Lebanon (N.H.) Fire Department recommends that, as with all heating and cooking appliances, parents should maintain a 3-foot “kid-free zone� around a barbecue grill. The grill should be well away from the house siding, deck railings and out from underneath the eaves of the house. When using a charcoal grill, always store the starter fluid and matches safely out of the reach of children. Emma Wunsch lives with her husband and two daughters in Lebanon, N.H. She works in donor relations at Dartmouth Hillel and writes fiction in her free time.

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The Amazing Avocado text and photography By Amy Nelson Makechnie

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ften referred to as one of Mother Nature’s super foods, avocados are obvious salad and salsa staples. But consider another purpose: avocado as a butter substitute. For every ½ cup of butter or margarine (one stick), simply substitute ½ mashed avocado (average size). If a cookie recipe calls for two sticks butter, use one stick butter and half of an avocado, mashed. You can do a full swap and still bake a decent cookie, but the result won’t be as consistent as the original baked good. This is important — we’re hiding the avocado, not showcasing it. Now, butter substitution may sound like baking blaspheme. But

if the kids can’t tell the difference, why not lighten up a calorie-laden sweet with healthier fare? The biggest hurdle is always “Will it taste the same?” I first experimented with my children, always the best guinea pigs. The cookies, still light and fluffy (and not bright green as I feared), were heartily consumed, with no detection of avocado. We then moved on to picnic guests. After the entire plate of cookies was inhaled,

the big reveal came. Our guests were shocked — and then went home and tried it for themselves. Hope Damon of The Nutrition Counseling Center in New London, N.H., says, “Avocados are a great alternative to butter in baking. For less calories, you get the same creamy texture but with much healthier monounsaturated fat plus a good amount of vitamin E and potassium.” In addition, avocados, which are classified as a fruit, are

Banana Bread It is sound nutrition to start out the day with a blend of carbohydrate, fat and protein — three essential macronutrients. An avocado contains all three, making it a perfect breakfast addition. An avocado’s healthy fat will also help keep you full longer in between meals, and the protein will help stave off sugar cravings. It’s often difficult to fit greens onto the breakfast plate; smoothies are the perfect place to hide them. “I am a big fan of greens in smoothies — except for the extraordinary green color, you hardly know they are there,” Damon says. “Instant veggies to go, anyone?”

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Tasty Green Smoothie 1 cup water 1 large handful of spinach (fresh or frozen) 2 carrots (raw, peeled) 1 Honeycrisp apple, cut and cored 1 Granny Smith apple, cut and cored 1 avocado, peel and discard pit 2 kiwis, peeled 1 handful ice Blend it up! Feeds four to six people, depending on the size of the glass.

¼ cup butter ½ mashed ripe avocado ¾ cup brown sugar 2 eggs, beaten 3 mashed overripe bananas 2 cups all-purpose flour or whole-wheat white flour 1 teaspoon baking soda ¼ teaspoon salt Cream first five ingredients. Mix last three in a separate bowl. Stir banana mixture into dry mix; stir just to moisten. Bake at 350 degrees in a lightly greased 9-by-5 inch loaf pan for 45 to 60 minutes, or until a toothpick inserted into the center of the loaf comes out clean. Let bread cool in the pan for 10 minutes, then turn onto a wire rack. Adapted from allrecipes.com


Chocolate-Chip Oatmeal Cookies 1 stick butter ½ mashed ripe avocado ¾ cup granulated sugar ¾ cup brown sugar 2 eggs 1 teaspoon vanilla 2 cups flour ½ teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon baking powder 1 teaspoon baking soda 2½ cups rolled oats Cream first five ingredients. Mix next five in a separate bowl, then add dry mix to wet. Stir in one bag of chocolate chips. Spoon on to an ungreased baking sheet, two inches apart. Bake at 350 degrees for 8 to 10 minutes.

easily burned for energy, and many studies show benefits for heart health, weight management, diabetes and its ability to help the body absorb other nutrients.

The versatile avocado is easy to bake with, lightens up calorie-laden baked goods, and is a delicious smoothie addition. And that’s a recipe for a healthier household. Per ½ cup serving size, avocados have 400 less calories than butter. Avocados contain significantly less saturated fat than butter, but are high in fiber, vitamin K, copper, folate, vitamin B6, vitamin E and vitamin C. Avocados also have twice the potassium as bananas, a needed nutrient for any active individual. You can’t say that about butter.

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When it comes to green smoothies, start with a larger fruit-to-vegetable ratio. Introduce greens slowly. Over time, switch the ratio, making a greener, less sweet drink.

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Adoption Homecoming By Chery Fish

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could not love your little girl more if she had been born to you. It is important to remember that homecoming day belongs to you and your new family member. Friends and family, so eager to meet the child or baby, will want to be there, but excited voices and camera flashes might be too much that first hour or day together. Give yourself permission to simply enjoy holding and getting to know this new person in your life, and let everyone else know that very soon

Photo courtesy of Burnham/sabadosa family

our heart feels like it will pound right out of your chest as you lean over the crib to adjust the Winnie the Pooh mobile. The call from the adoption agency came today, and after waiting and preparing for your child’s arrival, it is time to get in the car and go meet her. Approved car seat installed: check. Homecoming outfit in the baby bag: check. Nerves calmed: well, not yet, but maybe after you hold her in your arms for the first time. One nagging fear is forever laid to rest: that you

Homecoming: Bob Burnham and Kathryn Sabadosa used an agency to adopt their son, Peter, from Seoul, South Korea. He’s pictured here with his brother, Jack, soon after coming home to Hanover, N.H.

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you would like nothing more than to have a homecoming gathering.

Preparation Every family is unique, and so is their adoption story. Some travel to China to bring a daughter home. A couple may learn that a newborn is available for adoption when a birthmother choses them from the profile they prepared about themselves. In New Hampshire you must become licensed as a foster parent before a child or sibling group is placed in your home. In Vermont you need an approved homestudy to be considered for placement but, according to Toni Yandow with Vermont Department for Children and Families, if you have not had a homestudy it will be done free of charge. Grandparents and other close family are considered first for each child in custody. When a child being adopted has special physical, mental or emotional needs, adoptive parents will receive specialized training and ongoing help to face the challenges. Older children may have attachment disorder due to abuse and neglect and will need ongoing special services. Efforts are made to keep siblings together.

Always Learning As a former adoption worker I


The Court Date In most cases, after six busy months adjusting to your new family configuration, it will be time to finalize the adoption. In some cases your child will be adopted before the homecoming, but, for the most part, paperwork is filed with the Probate Court in the county where you reside, and you are notified of a court date. I’ve witnessed many joyful celebrations with family gathered at the Probate Court in Woodstock, Vt. Friends and relatives bring balloons and gifts, and have their picture taken with presiding Judge Joanne Ertel. When the court reviews and approves your petition for adoption, your child becomes yours legally,

Photo courtesy of Kathy Meyer

often heard new adoptive parents say, “I didn’t know how much I’d learned about the whole process until people started asking questions and making comments.” Sometimes remarks are amusing and fun, such as when someone makes comparisons about behavior or personality you and your new child seem to share. Other times comments reflect a deeper issue of bias, remarks about ethnicity or race that may catch you off guard. Address them with tact and understanding, so grandparents and other close relatives hear your words of wisdom about reactions to differences in skin color, hair texture and eye shape. There are opportunities in the Upper Valley to explore your child’s culture. Chinese New Year and Kwanzaa are two celebrations to consider, and many parents get together informally so their child of color spends time with someone who looks like him or her, in another blended family. You can share what you are now embracing as a mixed-race family.

Support: Groups such as the Upper Valley chapter of Families with Children from China offer support to adopted children and their parents.

with all of the responsibilities and privileges of a parent. Some parents describe their thoughts and feelings this way: “I felt married throughout my engagement, but it was special to have a legal ceremony to announce ourselves to the world as a couple. It is the same with our child becoming legally binded to our family.” The adoptee who enters their “forever family” as an older child often expresses relief, and may experience a new level of understanding of permanence. More often than you would think, a child will begin to behave poorly or in other ways act out their insecurity around the time of finalization. They fear abandonment (and also perhaps fear the unknown experience of having a secure home with parents who love them) and unconsciously try to sabotage their adoption. Many times the child is also legally taking on the last name of their family at the time of finaliza-

tion, which is a very powerful way of knowing you belong. Adoption for a child can mean having everything he or she ever hoped for; a family who loves and accepts him or her unconditionally. Adoption for the adult can mean the dream of being a parent coming true, sometimes after years of heartache over failed infertility treatments. Single adults, older adults, physically challenged adults and same-sex couples find that adopting a child fulfills the longing to create a family. There are so many children waiting, and so many people wanting the right child to come into their lives. I encourage you to read, talk with adoptive families, and look into having a homestudy done if you feel adoption is right for you. For more than six years Chery Fish worked as an adoption social worker with Vermont Children’s Aid Society in Woodstock, Vt.

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Advice from Parents, Realtors and a Children’s Librarian By Emma Wunsch

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children to have emotional issues after a move. Even though her kindergartner was an experienced mover and traveler, he had more difficulty settling into his new house in Vershire, Vt., than she expected.

hether it’s across the country or just down the road, moving is challenging. But before you hide under the packing peanuts with your toddler, read this article. There’s advice from parents, a realtor, a teacher and a librarian to help make your next move a smooth one.

McCarthy also points out that within one family different children will have different reactions to a move. Parents should be prepared to have different responses and approaches for each child.

Focus on the Positive The ultimate moving-with-kids story probably belongs to Amanda and Trevor Bayliss who, upon being released from DHMC with their 2-day-old son last June, piled into their minivan with their two older sons and moved from the Upper Valley to Williamstown, Mass. Although the Bayliss family wasn’t planning on moving straight out of the hospital, they did know about their move for more than a year so they were able to get their older sons accustomed to the idea. If possible, Amanda Bayliss recommends having children visit their new town, neighborhood or house. She says being able to spend time in Williamstown “really helped familiarize the older boys with the area.” When she and her husband talked about moving they focused on the good aspects, like being closer to cousins and grandparents. Whenever they visited, Bayliss made it a point to spend time at local playgrounds so “when we went back home we could talk about all the positives and fun associated with the place.” Although Kara and Tony Moseley weren’t traveling far when they moved from Canaan, N.H., to West Lebanon, N.H., last fall, it was far from easy. To ease the transition for their three children — ages 1, 3 and 5 — Kara Moseley also stressed the

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positives the move would bring. She talked about how moving would put them closer to good friends, school, local pools and gymnastics. The positive hook for Eric Boyer and Erica Webb’s almost 5-year-old son was relatively small: he was thrilled that there would be a rainbow ceiling fan in his new room. When talking about their move from New London, N.H., to Newbury, N.H., Boyer and Webb would often mention the cool new fan. Parents should be realistic: no move can be 100 percent positive. Nearly two years after he moved from Lebanon to Hanover, N.H., realtor Liam McCarthy’s son mentions he misses being on the same floor as his parents like he was in their old house. McCarthy, who works at Coldwell Banker Redpath & Co. in Hanover, suggests parents look at the big picture: since his son is happy overall in the new house, it’s fine if he occasionally expresses sadness over something he misses. Educator and mom Corin Benedict says parents should prepare for

As a realtor and parent, McCarthy feels kids should never be surprised by a move. As soon as he and his wife signed a contract for their new house, they began talking to their son about it. Because they were only moving about five miles away, they were often able to drive through the new neighborhood and show him the house well in advance of the actual move. But you know your kids better than anyone else. Although Ella Martin and her husband Josh Lascell will know their destination for her medical fellowship more than a year in advance, they aren’t planning on telling their children until much closer to the move. They feel there’s no reason to cause unnecessary worry or stress for something so far away. Since they weren’t moving far from their New London rental, Webb and Boyer chose to include their son in their plans to find a house. Although having a child at showings can come with its own set of issues, for Boyer and Webb it helped that moving didn’t come as a surprise for their son since they looked at houses so often. › › › › ›

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Packing “Open” Boxes To help with her son’s anxiety about not being able to access certain toys, Webb designated two boxes “miscellaneous” and didn’t tape them. When her son decided he wanted something out of a box, he could go look in one of the miscellaneous boxes and take out the desired toy. To make sure the packing progressed, Webb insisted he trade an unpacked item for a packed one. McCarthy thinks packing is a terrific way to help get kids involved with the idea of moving. Toddlers especially can get into “working,” and the process can be made a positive by putting on music or making it into a game. McCarthy says older kids will feel more “invested and involved if they pack some of their important stuff themselves.”

Get into a Routine Although you might not have unearthed your coffee maker from the millions of boxes in your new home, it’s important to help kids feel secure in their new environment as soon as possible. To help her boys transition to life in Massachusetts, Bayliss arranged for summer programs before they moved. Although there were a

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Read About It Amber Coughlin, the children’s librarian for the Lebanon (N.H.) Public Libraries, says moving definitely comes up when children ask about books. She highly recommends Anika Denise’s Bella and Stella Come Home, which captures a child’s fears of moving into a new house. She also likes Charlotte Zolotow’s A Tiger Called Thomas, which deals with the idea of being a new kid in the neighborhood, and Tim’s Big Move by Anke Wagner, which describes moving from a stuffed animal’s point of view.

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few bumps along the way, Bayliss feels the built-in social network in camp and day care helped her sons adjust to the move quickly. The Moseleys had their kindergartner start her new school as soon as possible even though they weren’t officially moved in. To keep all their kids settled, they made sure the children’s rooms were finished and comfortable long before their own bedroom was livable.

Combining Transitions Moving can be a good opportunity to make other changes to a child’s routine or habits. When Michelle and Patrick Schembri moved from Etna to Hanover, they used the opportunity to move their then 2½-year-old daughter from her crib to a bed. Michelle says “the move was a good opportunity to provide a seamless transition from crib to bed.” In her daughter’s mind, the new house went along with her getting her new “big girl” bed. Before Corin and Jared Benedict moved from Orford, N.H., to Vershire, Vt., they had their then 2-year-old son sleep on a twin mattress on the floor. When they set up his new room they put the mattress on the bed. Benedict says her son’s transition to a bed was seamless. “We just packed up the crib like we packed up everything else,” she says. “He wasn’t sad about it at all.”

Give Yourself a Break No one ever says moving is easy or fun, but it’s good to remember that it’s hard on kids and parents. When the packing seemed endless, Webb and Boyer allowed their son an unlimited movie and snack day so they could get everything done. “I gave myself permission because

it goes against my typical parenting style. We needed to survive the process; it wasn’t a day for enrichment!” she says.

Saying Goodbye Even if you’re staying, having families around you move can be difficult for kids. Lebanon High School student Madi Alves says it was very hard when her best friend moved away when they were 11. Alves said her parents set up a trip for the girls to get together by meeting halfway between the Upper Valley and her friend’s new home in New York. Susan Simon has set up Skype dates so her son can check in with his good friend who recently to moved to Canada. She says she and the other mom “couldn’t get a word in edgewise. [The boys] were back to chatting like crazy — like old friends!” McCarthy points out that with technology like Skype and Facebook, moving today is a lot different than it used to be. It’s possible for you and your children to stay connected to friends and family. Even though moving is challenging, by being open with your children, sharing appropriate books, including them, connecting online, and being prepared for potential difficulties, you can make any move a new family adventure.


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Family Fun From live music at a historic farm to a journey to the center of the earth, there are a lot of great things to do with your family this summer.

June Jam

Live Music in a Historic Setting

Where can you find a variety of live music in a beautiful, familyfriendly setting? At Muster Field Farm Museum in North Sutton, N.H. This year, the farm will host its 12th annual June Jam on the first day of summer, Saturday, June 21. Dave Gardner, a music lover and father, describes June Jam this way: “It’s a carnival for music lovers set against an incredible backdrop.” June Jam originated in 2003 after a fire destroyed the workshop used to store and maintain the farm equipment. Local musicians — led by Gerry Putnam, Click Horning and Dana Flewelling — offered to perform as a fundraiser at the

farm. Folk artist Derek Astles, the bluegrass band Fat Hands, and local favorite Night Kitchen entertained friends of the farm in the Pillsbury Barn for an evening early in June that year. A modest amount was raised, but the seeds had been planted for an annual event that now raises critical funding to support the historic farm museum. Over the years, dozens of different musicians and groups have performed on the makeshift stage set up under a small tent in the shadows of the Hardy-Pillsbury Barn, a restored 30-by-60 foot barn that is the centerpiece of the many restored buildings on the property. Concertgoers can roam Mark Your Calendar the property June Jam takes place at the Muster Field Farm Museum on and enjoy the Harvey Road in North Sutton, N.H., from 4 p.m. until dusk. gardens, farm Learn more at www.musterfieldfarm.com

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animals and the numerous outbuildings with their collections of farm tools. Children love to explore in and around the old schoolhouse on the property, as well as try their luck with the antique wooden stilts that are set out for the entertainment of all who dare. Steve Paquin, who has been the farm manager for more than 20 years, appreciates the funds raised, but also sees June Jam as a community event. “Families and friends surround the music tent with blankets and chairs, kids are freely running around — and everyone just kicks back and has fun,” Paquin says. “It’s like a community picnic with music and dancing, and anybody can join.” Larry Ballin is the chairman of the Muster Field Farm Museum Board of Directors. He lives in New London, N.H.


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Journey to the Center of the Earth Looking for a fun, hands-on learning adventure to take with your children? This summer, plan a journey to New Hampshire’s scenic Kinsman Notch in the White Mountains to explore the magnificent Lost River Gorge and Boulder Caves. Forged by glaciers thousands of years ago, this natural wonder is a popular destination for visitors of all ages. A ¾-mile boardwalk guides you into the gorge, bringing you up close to jagged rock walls, gigantic boulders, rock-strewn glacial caves and cascading waterfalls. Your journey can be as easy or as ambitious as you choose: you may remain on the boardwalk, or accept the challenge of exploring 11 boulder caves. Ladders along the boardwalk descend into the lantern-lit boulder caves — each with its own tale. See what’s cooking in Devil’s Kitchen, journey

to the Center of the Earth, sneak through the Bear Crawl, and conquer the infamous Lemon Squeezer. Which cave is the only cave in the Gorge where the river cannot be seen or heard? Young explorers are encouraged to answer fun facts like this during their journey. With a completed quiz card, they become an Official Junior Gorge Guide and earn a prize. New for 2014, Lost River added an “out of the gorge” adventure for visitors to experience. Your excursion begins on a 750-foot boardwalk forest adventure trail, which takes you deep into a forest of majestic northern spruce, fir balsam and hardwood trees. On the trail, there are giant granite boulders that broke off from the cliffs above when the glaciers receded to form the Lost River Gorge. The trail leads to a treehouse and bird cage overlooks and a 60-foot suspension bridge spanning the

It’s an Adventure! Lost River is open May 10 to Oct. 19. Learn more at www.lostrivergorge.com upper gorge — all of which provide breathtaking, bird’s eye views of the gorge and the scenic Kinsman Notch. The mystery of the boulder caves and the gorge’s rock formations become even more dramatic › › › › › photos courtesy of Lost River

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Lost River is a great place to visit on a hot day, as temperatures are usually 5 to 15 degrees cooler in the gorge. Boardwalks and rocks can be wet so sturdy shoes are a must.

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under the flicker of headlamps and lantern light. The guided weekend evening Lantern Tours allow you to experience the same thrill and wonder of those who discovered the gorge in 1852. Lost River offers more than caves and boardwalks. Enjoy a stroll on the Ecology Trail or through the Nature Garden or, for the experienced hiker, climb up the boulder-strewn Dilly Cliff Trail. The main grounds also offer a patio and covered picnic pavilion where you can simply enjoy the spectacular views of Kinsman Notch.

Mini Golf

Outdoor Fun for All Ages and Abilities

The ball needs to go down a fiveyard ramp, through a windmill, over a bridge, then another five yards into a hole. Although it may sound like a computer game, it isn’t — it’s an outdoor game of mini golf. Kids enjoy it as much as its online counterpart and, triple bonus, they are having fun outside in the fresh air, interacting with friends and family. Mini golf is a novelty version of golf; participants use a ball and putter on a miniature course. Originally, the game was played just like regular golf with a country club atmosphere, lush greens and caddies. But after the stock market crash of 1929, regulation miniature golf was too expensive, so people made their own courses. Obstacle or hazard holes were made with scavenged items — wagon wheels, barrels, pipes — and became the models for today’s courses. Miniature golf at Fore U Golf Center in West Lebanon, N.H. In the 1930s, includes interesting hazards such as one hole and green inside a cave. there were approximateWHERE TO GO for Mini Golf ly 30,000 courses in the BRADFORD, VT NEWPORT, N.H. country with Mr. Puttz Fabulous 50’s Car Hop Drive-In more than 150 Route 5 308 Sunapee Street rooftop courses (802) 222-4909 (603) 863-5171 in New York www.mrputtzgolf.com WEST LEBANON, N.H. City alone. QUECHEE, VT Fore U Golf Center The game is Pizza Chef of Quechee 298 Plainfield Road still popular 5893 Woodstock Road (603) 298-9702 today, mainly www.foreugolf.com/minigolf.html (802) 296-6669 because it can be enjoyed by 20

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any gender at any age. You don’t need to be an athlete to play. And it’s not super expensive: a family of four can play 18 holes for under $20. Fore U Golf in West Lebanon, N.H., opened their original mini golf in 1996 and two new courses in June 2005. With an ice cream stand, a shortgame practice area, and batting cages, the mini golf course is a busy place — about 22,300 rounds of golf were played on the two courses in 2013, according to Meredith Johnson, owner. “My favorite hole on our courses is on Alpine Adventure. I like the ‘cave hole’ because it is cool on hot summer days and the view from the window looks through the waterfall and over the beautiful gardens in front,” she says. “It doesn’t hurt that with a lucky bounce you can score an ace on this hole!” Mr. Puttz in Bradford, Vt., offers 18 holes on an expansive course; one hole has a covered bridge large enough to walk through. In the summer, it’s open every day from 10 a.m. to dusk. There’s also homemade Slick’s Ice Cream and a driving range. The Fabulous 50s Car Hop Drive-In in Newport, N.H., (yes, there’s still one left in the area) has an 18-hole course behind the restaurant. You can drive up and eat in your car, or eat inside in the dining area, then play a round after your meal. No matter where you play, “it is all about making memories,” says Johnson. “Listening to laughter wafting by as we are working in the gardens is one of the most rewarding parts of our job.” Laura Jean Whitcomb is the editor of Kid Stuff, Kearsarge Magazine and Upper Valley Life.


More Family Fun

Photo courtesy of the Montshire Museum

We’ve highlighted three this summer, but we know there are many, many more places in the Upper Valley to spend the day with family. A partial list is here. If you think we missed some, please post your favorites on Facebook and we’ll include them next time!

Montshire Museum Norwich, Vt. www.montshiremuseum.org See the exhibits, play in the water park, bring a picnic lunch and explore a trail. Tip Top Pottery White River Junction, Vt. www.tiptoppottery.com Paint ceramics, fuse glass, tour the historic Tip Top building, stop for lunch.

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Ice House Museum New London, N.H. www.wfkicehouse.org Step back into time: antique autos, children’s ride-on toys, steam whistles, horse-drawn carriages, a town jail, a blacksmith shop and a tinsmith shop. Great View Roller Skating Enfield, N.H. www.greatviewrollerskating.com Public roller skating times are Saturday and Sunday, 12 to 3 p.m. Storrs Pond Recreation Area Hanover, N.H. www.storrspond.org Scenic woodlands, a man-made 13-acre pond and two sandy swimming beaches, heated swimming pool, tennis courts, basketball court and picnic areas. Elizabeth’s Park Bradford, Vt. www.bradford-vt.us Elizabeth’s Park is a castle-style playground with volleyball courts, picnic areas and restrooms. Billings Farm and Museum Woodstock, Vt. www.billingsfarm.org A working dairy farm with Jerseys, sheep, horses, oxen, and chickens as well as interactive programs and activities.

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your child Ages 0-4

A Piece of Fertile Ground By Adrienne Flower

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ust inside the doors of the Hampshire Cooperative Nursery School (HCNS) lurks a creature feared by many an adult in the Upper Valley. Every morning my daughter blithely sails past the beast as she greets her friends with hugs and smiles and stashes her backpack and outdoor gear in her cubby. The creature is the tomato hornworm, and I am happy to report that it is safely contained in an aquarium near the entrance of the school. Anyone who has tried growing tomatoes has most likely encountered this garden pest, which can decimate

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tomato plants and fruit in a matter of days. When huge chunks appeared in our preschool’s tomato plants, we suspected the hornworm as a likely culprit. There are many ways of doing away with this pesky critter, so I was surprised to see it alive and happily munching away on leaves inside the school. I loved that the teachers had turned a pest into an opportunity for teaching. The children loved trying to spot the worm as it clambered about the leaves and sticks in its home. We watched it burrow into the dirt where it built a pupa, and my daughter’s teacher hung a picture of the moth stage in their classroom. Opportunities like this abound in HCNS’ school garden. Every fall the students make pesto from basil that they planted in the spring. Because our school is cooperative in nature, parents get to spend time in the classroom, and I was lucky enough to help out on the day that my daughter’s class made pesto. In groups of two or three, the students tripped out to the garden with an adult to harvest the basil. Inside, they washed and cut the leaves, Children harvest vegetables in the school garden at the grated the cheese, Hampshire Cooperative Nursery School in Hanover, N.H.

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poured the oil, and sprinkled in the salt. The classroom was awash with the smell of basil and the sounds of happy productivity. Studies have shown that children are more likely to eat food that they have participated in making, and this was no exception. Every student tried the pesto served over pasta, and some downright devoured it. Because HCNS is located in the same campus as the Dartmouth Organic Farm, students have the opportunity to see a large-scale garden in operation. They have harvested and eaten squash with Dartmouth students and built their own barns out of Lincoln Logs after watching the construction of the farm’s barn. Our annual trip to the farm’s sugarhouse is a highlight of the spring. The preschoolers help with the collection of sap, watch it boiled down into syrup, and then feast on waffles with fresh maple syrup. In this single event they are connected to the land, their food, their local culture, student role models and each other. The sugaring event heralds the arrival of the spring season, and soon the cycle of growing and harvesting will begin again. I will be looking for the tomato hornworm, notorious villain of gardening circles. To me, this green beast has come to symbolize the wealth of opportunities for growth in a school garden. The tomato hornworm makes its home at the Hampshire Cooperative Nursery School, a play-based cooperative preschool in Hanover, N.H., for children ages 2.8 through prekindergarten. Learn more at www.hampshirecooperative.org


your child ages 5-9

Play Dates and the Gentle Art of Butting Out By Barbra Alan

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remember my daughter Sabrina’s first real play date like it was yesterday. She was in first grade and wanted her best friend Caitlin to come over and play. Except for my working out the logistics with her friend’s mom and providing some general supervision, I wouldn’t be needed. The girls would be able to do their thing and I’d be able to do my thing, which involved hot tea and a good book. At least that’s how I thought it would go. After much anticipation — by which I mean Sabrina asking me “When is she going to be here, mom?” about a hundred times — Caitlin arrived. The girls were all smiles and giggles. After making sure we had each other’s numbers, Caitlin’s mother bade us all a quick goodbye and was off. A few minutes later, I noticed Caitlin lingering by the front window, looking down our driveway. She continued to linger, occasionally looking wistfully at Sabrina, who didn’t take the cue, and then at me, who took the cue a little too quickly. “Well,” I said, with more enthusiasm than a counselor on the first day of summer camp. “What do you girls want to do?” “I don’t know,” our young guest mumbled shyly, eyes on her shoes. “I don’t know,” Sabrina said with a shrug and a look of bewilderment on her face. In the awkward silence that followed, I made a decision: I was not going to let this play date fail. These girls were going to have fun. Who needs “me” time anyway, when the success of my kid’s first real play date hung in the balance? I then proceeded to micromanage the afternoon. We played Clue. We broke out the chemistry set. We made and ate chocolate chip cookies. When it was time for Caitlin to say good-bye, she thanked me for a great time and had to be reminded to say goodbye to a clearly deflated Sabrina. It didn’t truly hit me until, after Caitlin and her mother left, Sabrina looked at me with tears in her eyes and said, “She likes you better than me. You took my friend away.” To say that I felt horrible is an understatement. In my eagerness to make the playdate a success for Sabrina, I took her newly won independence away. If I had just left the girls to their own devices, one of them would have

come up with something they could do. I didn’t need to step in and save the day, and I really had no business trying to. These realizations came too late to salvage the play date for Sabrina, but I’m happy to report that, in the many, many play dates that have followed over the years I have managed to butt out and just let the kids figure things out on their own. It’s my responsibility to make sure they’re safe; it’s their responsibility to make sure they’re having fun. I’m not going to lie: I’m still tempted on occasion to jump in when there’s long, awkward silence, or squabbling, or even the rare impassioned plea for me to “butt in.” But I resist the temptation, knowing that it’s far better in the long run that my children and their friends are given the space to work together, talk things out, and make their time their own. Barbra Alan is a freelance writer from Alexandria, N.H.

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your child ages 10-12

Nonprofit Builds Confidence at Summer Camp By Meghan Marcus

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An afternoon group of builders at Camp Spaulding get ready to start with scraps of wood (top). They hone skills at the band saw while cutting out shapes (middle) and create smooth working surfaces with palm sanders (bottom).

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pproaching the back of the dining hall at Camp Spaulding on Friday afternoon, the noises coming from downstairs aren’t those you would expect to hear from a summer camp, much less a dining hall. Power sanders gently hum and a band saw glides through a piece of plywood. This is what happens when Elaine Hamel of Girls at Work shows up with her mobile workshop. Camp Spaulding is a residential camp run by New Hampshire’s Child and Family Services for children ages 8 to 14 from low and moderate income families. Girls at Work has been retained by the camp to offer summer builds — days when young girls away at camp can learn to build but often get much more. Girls at Work, Inc. is a nonprofit organization based in New Boston, N.H., that empowers girls at risk in New Hampshire and throughout New England by teaching them woodworking skills and the safe use of power tools within a team setting. These activities help participants discover their inner tools of strength and courage while lifting their spirits. Each summer, Hamel gets into the rhythm of packing Girls at Work’s black 2005 Chevrolet Silverado with everything needed to create a makeshift woodshop at summer camps throughout New England. She’s been doing this for nearly nine summers now and never grows weary of it. “Even though it is my busiest and craziest time of the year, I love each and every minute and each and every mile I put into this,” says Hamel. “I know what it means to these girls to escape their problems for the day and focus on something else — something that is out of their comfort zone; something they have no experience with; something that will leave them feeling capable, confident and empowered.” The girls are drawing leaves on pieces of plywood which they will then cut with a band saw. The leaves will later be painted by the girls and attached to a similar plywood tree, each leaf representing donors and friends of the camp. Previous camp builders worked to create a new set of bookshelves to house the many books regularly donated to the camp. Hamel tries to ensure the builds serve double duty for the camp. “If the girls can build something that not only makes them proud but also helps the camp itself, it’s a win-win,” she says. When asked what Hamel teaches them, some of the


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he room buzzes with activity. A police scanner in the corner periodically rattles off updates on a search for a missing senior citizen in Randolph, Vt. Tom Harty, the instructor at the front of the room, passes out a packet of material, freshly printed from Google Maps. “We’re on standby to help with the search,” Harty informs the room of approximately 13 students — 10 males and three females, who eagerly thumb through the images of the surrounding area as Harty begins his briefing. “Where did he go missing?” one student asks. Harty shows them on the map, while grilling them on what they should know. “We are talking about an elderly person, confused and out in the cold. What are the probabilities on the way he is going to travel?” The students begin to shout out answers. “He’s probably not going to trudge through mud or snow,” one of them offers. “Correct,” says Harty. “Will he go uphill or downhill?” “Downhill,” another answers. “If it comes to a choice of crossing a brook or walking alongside, what is he likely to do?” “Walk alongside.” The scene is reminiscent of a police briefing room, but instead this is the Public Safety/Criminal Justice classroom at Randolph Technical Career Center, a program that allows high school juniors and seniors to explore a broad spectrum of careers related to criminal justice, emergency services, and law, preparing them to do anything from joining the military to becoming a future first responder. 26

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A rope rescue training at Randolph Technical Career Center

Students receive classroom and hands-on technical training in everything from constitutional, criminal and motor vehicle law to rope and ice rescue. Many are able to earn industryrecognized certifications, including: First Aid; CPR, Blood Borne Pathogens; NFPA Rope Rescue; AED (automatic electronic defibrillators); OC (Mace) Training; MOAB (management of aggressive behaviors); FEMA ICS (incident command systems); Helicopter Landing Zone Operations (DHART); Fire Extinguishers; and Ice Rescue. “We want them to be well-rounded emergency responders,” says Harty, who leads by example, refreshing his skills with ongoing professional development. Last year he visited Oregon where he spent a week taking a specialized rope rescue class, bringing what he learned back to the classroom. “It’s better than any class, I’ve ever taken,” says Sasha Jarvis of Randolph. “It gives us a broad perspective. It’s

not any one thing.” Students come to the program with a variety of interests. “I’m interested in being a game warden,” says Hunter Paradis of Bethel, Vt. “I wasn’t really interested in law enforcement until coming here. But then we were doing Title 23 and traffic stops and it interested me. I’ll probably come back and do something in law enforcement after the military,” says Kris DeCoff of Bethel. Three students — Derek Gendron of Rochester and Cody Snelling and DeCoff of Bethel — are already members of their respective town fire departments. Many seniors have either enlisted or plan to enlist in various branches of the military. “I enlisted in the National Guard. This class definitely helped me make that decision. Originally I wanted to do law enforcement, but after two years seeing all the stuff we do, I decided there was more opportunity in the


Guard to use a lot of the skills that we learned,” says Christian Jarvis of Randolph. Whatever path students choose, they receive some essential values that they can take into the future, not least of which are “discipline, structure and a sense of accomplishment,” says Harty. “They have a well-rounded curriculum throughout the whole year,” says Scott Clouatre, a detective with the Orange County Sheriff’s Department who has worked with the students in the past. Although only a few students end up searching on this day and the missing man is found safe, it is clear that the learning happening in the classroom goes far beyond the excitement of police searches and repelling off 100-foot cliffs. “I think it definitely made Christian mature more quickly,” says mom Chesne Jarvis of Randolph. “I don’t think this would have happened as fast if he wasn’t in the program. I’m more supportive of his choice to enter the National Guard knowing that his teacher thinks he is a leader and has excelled. This class gets them prepared.”

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Kid Stuff Magazine, June-August 2014