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develop their own personalities throughout their lives.

6. You can’t find time with your significant other.

In the hustle and bustle of raising twins, your partner often times gets overlooked. The first thing to remember is that it’s natural when you become a parent to focus most of your energy on your babies. But, it’s important to take opportunities to be alone so that you can keep that most important relationship going. You have to have moments to remember why you ended up with twins in the first place.

7. You don’t trust anyone else with them. Unfortunately, this is

natural, too, but it causes a lot of stress because you start convincing yourself that other people didn’t have to take care of more than one child at a time. But, if they volunteer and you trust them, they can probably do it. If you are unsure, take an opportunity and let your twins play with the applicant for brief periods of time before handing over the keys. I would also recommend that the person watching your twins come to your place, so the twins are in a familiar setting, particularly if bedtime is near.

8. You don’t have friends anymore.

Sure you do; they are on Facebook posting pictures of their crazy vacation to Madrid. The truth is, while your social life may suffer at the beginning of twindom, you can also take the opportunity to connect with other parents who are going through the same things. You may find that the friends you currently have are not able to adjust to you having children, and perhaps new friends that

understand your plight can be beneficial. I’m not suggesting that you have to get rid of your friends, but true friends stick together through life’s changing circumstances.

9. Your Gucci is now from Carter’s.

daddies get the blues, too!

10. You constantly second guess.

In fact, researchers at Eastern Virginia Medical School now say that the number of dads who experience depression during baby’s first year is as high as 10%.

You may find that twins cost a lot of money, and that your expenses will be much tighter. The pressure is definitely there to buy them the best of everything, and if your extended family wants to do that, let them. Keep in mind that the things they wear they will shortly outgrow, and newborn twins will go through about sixteen diapers a day. When you take those things into consideration, you will buy yourself less and spend more on your children.

Been there, done that. I may have a t-shirt somewhere. But, there are a lot of great resources for parents of multiples that include groups, educational materials, and even magazines like this one. You are dealing with unique situations that few parents have to encounter, and let’s face it; you are special because you have twins. If you can navigate these things, you can alleviate a lot of stress from your life as a parent with twins. Good luck!

Mike is a school administrator and a father of twin girls. He writes about his family’s adventures at his blog Twin Dad Talks. He’s also published an e-book though Amazon called Twin Dad Talks: Help for First Time Fathers Navigating Pregnancy. You can find him on facebook and twitter. multiplicity

That’s a big deal, especially considering less than 5% of all men experience depression in their lifetime. Symptoms are just like that of mom’s, including general sadness, sleeplessness, withdrawal from the family, etc. While mom’s post-partum blues typically occur as a result of hormones, loss of sleep has been the biggest trigger for dads, as they tend to experience depression around the 3-6 month mark. Regardless, watch the signs and know when to step in and help if you see that your significant other is suffering. Research has also shown that while the family as a whole suffers when both parents aren’t a strong unit, children are directly affected by dad’s depression through reduced vocabulary. *research found at www.webmd.com

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