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ON THE COVER 5 / 5 STEPS TO EATING RIGHT 7 / NEW HEALTHY RECIPES 8 / FASCINATING BEFORE & AFTER 14 / BUSY PLEASING ME Owner Phyllis Hayden Executive Producer Bailey Jordan Art Director Angie Covarrubias Managing Editor Irene Farrimond The views presented in this magazine are those of the individual contributors and do not necessarily represent those of Phyllis Hayden, Transitional Woman or Ardyss International. Transitional Woman accepts no liability for any of information contained within. 4 JAN 2013 transitionalwoman.com
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Trade sugary and diet sodas for water. Sick of plain old water? Try squeezing a lemon into plain water or unsweetened tea for a tasty alternative. Skip the vending machine when hunger strikes at 2pm. Instead plan ahead with high protein snacks like a handful of almonds, low-fat string cheese, or carrots and hummus that will keep you energized and awake until dinnertime.
Commit to at least 8 hours of shut-eye each night. According to Michael Breus, PhD, of the Atlanta School of Sleep Medicine, sleep deprivation can cause imbalances in leptin and ghrelin, two important hormones for keeping your appetite in check! The result: you may find yourself overeating throughout the day. Fill your plate sky-highâ€Ś with low-starch vegetables, that is. Fill at least half your plate at every mealtime with colorful fruits and vegetables. For recipe ideas that go beyond basic salads, turn to pages 7 and 27.
Choose whole grains whenever possible to keep you full and satisfied. Some examples of whole grain foods are brown and wild rice, quinoa, and even corn. Popcorn is also a high fiber whole grain source and is a great choice when you want to snack smart. mytransitionalwoman.com JAN 2013 5
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Action Has No Season
Ladies, it’s time to break those chains you’ve been carrying around and become a Transitional Woman. You can be the woman you’ve always wanted to be through dedication and hard work.
There’s no better time than right this second to start living your best life. But how to start?
Write down your goals every
The most important step in becoming a Transitional Woman is goal setting, “What are your dreams? What do you want to do?”. Then, stop dreaming and start doing. Outline a plan of action and share it with your loved ones. Most importantly, share it with God. Pray on it and make sure that it is what He wants for you. Goal setting is critical to achieving any kind of success. “Write down your goals and do this every 30 days” said Hayden. Once you’ve set your goals and outlined the steps to achieve them, it’s time to take massive action and execute your plan for your dreams of success. However every Transitional Woman will encounter roadblocks along the way. What do you do when you start to fall? Revisit your goals, says Hayden, “applaud yourself for the goals you did accomplish, and recalculate the goals you didn’t accomplish. Starting over the next month is ok but whatever you do don’t give up!” Be honest with yourself: “What did I do wrong? Did I work my plan of action?” Perhaps you were lacking in discipline or the skills needed to accomplish your goal. A Transitional Woman does not always start with the right answers, but through goal setting and dedication she will reach her dreams.
Hot Smoked Salmon & Lemon Risotto For Two • 1 large lemon, finely grated rind • Salt and freshly ground pepper, to taste • 100g hot smoked salmon • 1 Tbsp olive oil
• ½ medium onion, finely diced • One small leek, washed and finely sliced • 1 cup Arborio rice
• ¼ cup white wine • 2 cups fish or chicken stock (hot) • Pinch saffron threads • 1 Tbsp lemon juice
Combine the lemon rind, salt and pepper in a bowl and toss with the smoked salmon. Heat the olive oil in a fry pan over medium heat. Add the onion and leek, and cook gently for a few minutes, until the onion is soft and clear. Add the (uncooked) rice and stir it around to coat it in the onion, leek and oil mixture. Cook it for a minute or so like that. Add the wine, and then a little bit of stock. Keep stirring, and as the liquid evaporates and cooks in, add a bit more. Keep cooking like this till all the liquid is added. Add the saffron and lemon juice and keep stirring, keep stirring. Adjust seasonings to taste. If you want the salmon hot, add it to the risotto, pop the lid on and leave it for two minutes. Either way, serve with fresh lemon wedges, and some chopped fresh mint, coriander or Italian parsley, if you have it. Perfection!
Spicy Sausages with Harissa & Couscous Adapted from Home Food • 1½ cups couscous • 2 tsp harissa paste, or more to taste • 2 Tbsp olive oil • 2 Tbsp lemon juice • 1½ Tbsp finely grated lemon zest
• 2 Tbsp Italian parsley, chopped • 1 char grilled red capsicum, skinned and thinly sliced (or buy some from the deli)
• 1/3 cup raisins • Enough sausages for four people – I used two each standard size • Thick unsweetened yogurt, to serve
Preheat the grill to high heat for the sausages (you can do them under the grill in the oven, or in a hot pan on the stove top). Put the couscous in a heatproof bowl, and pour over 1½ cups boiling water. Whack a plate or lid on top, and set aside for 5 minutes. In another little jug or bowl, mix together the harissa paste, olive oil, lemon juice and zest until well mixed. Add the parsley, capsicum and raisins and set aside to marinate. Meanwhile, start cooking your sausages – they’ll probably take 8-10 minutes – turn them during cooking so they brown on all sides, and make sure they cook through. Once the couscous is done, fluff it up with a fork, and then stir in the harissa mixture. Place this in serving dishes. Slice the cooked sausages diagonally and scatter on top of the couscous. Serve with a large dollop of yogurt. mytransitionalwoman.com JAN 2013
Ardyss Changed My Life A Testimonial from BJ Brown
My weight loss journey in Ardyss International started 4 years ago when I received my own free experience. It took my upline every bit of 10 minutes to get me into my 1st garment. When I finally got to see myself in the mirror it bought tears to my eyes, I loved what I saw. I no longer had to use sweaters and over coats to hide my figure. Wearing the garment everyday and partner with the nutritional products as part of Ardyss 2-step system. In 2 years I was able to go from pushing a size 22 down to a size 14. I hit a plateau at size 14 until Ardyss introduced the Transform 90 system. During this system I was able to go from size 14 to a size 12 where I currently am today. Ardyss International is truly a Heaven sent company, an appointment with Ardyss really has Changed My Life!!!!!!!
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I Have My Life Back! By LaTwyla Phillips
When I was introduced to Ardyss I had gotten up to 325 pounds and was wearing size 28. I was taking blood pressure medicine 3 times a day and high cholesterol and was diagnosed as type II diabetic. My journey begin February 2010, I started with the 2-system wearing the garment and nutritional products. My first garment was the body magic size 42, I was wearing a size 28w was able to get into size 22w and a few 20w. I looked good and I couldnâ€™t believe how wonderful I looked. Coupled with the LeVive I began losing weight my energy level increased, blood pressure, blood sugar and cholesterol begin to level off. Within first 45 days I lost first 35lbs. By becoming a product of the products I have dropped 138lbs, to date, I am wearing regular size 16 and some 14. And as of June 2012 I am now medication free. Ardyss has changed my life and now I have my life back.
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Blessed With A Second Wind By Delores Lee
In 2003 I was in a car accident. Six months later, I was scheduled for cervical surgery to have two discs removed in order to try to relieve some of the discomfort from the severe pain that I was experiencing along with numbness and tingling in my hands, feet and legs. After having the surgery, several injections and visits to different doctors, in 2005 I was diagnosed with fibromylgia. The problems didn’t get better, they got worse. I ended up being prescribed all types of medication in a course of 8-1/2 years. I was on 4 different blood pressure pills, steroids medication, pain medication, depression pills, sleeping pills, cholesterol, migraine 12 JAN 2013 mytransitionalwoman.com
medication, medication for swelling, had several injections, attended pain management therapy and acupuncture and had gained an excessive amount of weight. I wanted relief from all the pain that I was enduring everyday. I was at the point of almost giving up because the doctors had told me that I would have to live with this disease for the rest of my life and there was no medication that would take the pain away. When you have had to deal with chronic pain every day of your life for 8-1/2 years, chronic fatigue, being over weight, high blood pressure, not able to function, short term memory, not being able to sleep at night because of the pain or even a sheet touching your body increasing the pain. Sometimes even the simplest things such as the vibration from riding in a car, the change of the weather, stress and lack of proper rest/ sleep would cause a flare-up of the fibromylgia that could last anywhere from 3-7 days. In October of 2011, I was introduced to the Ardyss products by one of my daughters, Tosha Lee, who is now my upline. After being on the products for about 2-1/2 weeks, I was amazed by the improvement in such a short time, because the pain had begun to decrease and I was able to sleep all night. Two months later, after experiencing even more results by adding other products, I decided to become a distributor. In April of 2012, my doctor allowed me to come off all prescription medications. I’ve lost 30lbs and have dropped 6 dress sizes. I praise God because I feel as though I’ve been blessed with a second wind of life.
Ways to Put Yourself First Right NOW! Schedule a 15 minutes daily ritual. Wake up a few minutes early, or snatch some time in the middle of the day to sip a cup of tea and read the newspaper or take a bubble bath. No multitasking allowed!
Stop apologizing. Asking a grocery clerk to for help or a stranger for the time is nothing to be sorry about. Replace an “I’m sorry, but…” with “Excuse me.”
Skip the hints and just ask for what you want. Extra whipped cream on your drink? Your husband to take the kids to school? It’s not going to happen unless you ask for it! You’ll be amazed at how often you get what you want.
Break a sweat every day. Find a workout you love so much, you won’t even think of skipping it when life gets busy!
Leaving the office for a doctor’s appointment? Take advantage of your break from the office and stop for a pedicure and a latte on your way back.
Take 15 minutes and unsubscribe from all the email newsletters you never read. Finish with time to spare? Head over to Pinterest for some guilt-free window-shopping.
Make a standing date with a good friend every other week. Whether it’s a cup of coffee or happy hour, it’s important to have time with your friends too, in between kids birthday parties and work dinners.
Learn to say “no” to things you just plain don’t want to do. No explanation or excuse necessary.
Pay the $25 to check a bag instead of cramming it all into a carry-on. Don’t make life more difficult than it needs to be - if you can find one thing that makes your life easier right now, do it guilt free.
Schedule a weekend afternoon off. Send the husband golfing or to a movie, the kids to a neighbor’s and spend an entire afternoon catching up on Real Housewives of Atlanta. Bring on the popcorn!
what is a transitional woman? A TRANSITIONAL WOMAN is
a woman of action who executes her dreams and goals from one phase of her life to another.
ransitional Woman was initially founded by my mother, Annie Connoley, in Memphis, TN in 1995 as a clothing boutique to help provide women with the clothing they needed to transition between all of life’s roles: work, church, home, etc. Upon her death, my sister Velecia and I moved the boutique to Dallas, TX where I began specializing in unique, high-fashion bling! “Walking by faith,” “stepping into my destiny,” and “enemy under my feet” were the first t-shirts I designed when I took over the company. I wore and lived these words through my journey. I believed ind the power of prayer to help me find where I needed to be. Today, Transitional Woman is about so much more than clothing. It’s about identifying your destiny and achieving it. My goal is to help women with their spiritual, social and financial transitions. My mission is to be a motivational mentor who empowers women who have a desire to seek their gifts and talents through entrepreneurship, and to help those women to discover, develop and deliver their God given talents. God has brought us a long way!
A TRANSITIONAL WOMAN
is a woman who has realized who she is and where she has a desire to go. A TRANSITIONAL WOMAN
transforms average into extraordinary. A TRANSITIONAL WOMAN
picks herself up when she falls, formulates a plan and becomes laser-focused on her plan and has the determination to see it through. A TRANSITIONAL WOMAN
realizes her genuine value, and everything she wears represents the true queen that she is.
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It’s Not An Attitude, It’s Not A Skill...Discipline Is A Tool There are many attributes that contribute to what we achieve and accomplish in business and in life, such as focus, desire, commitment, standards, and discipline and there are many others depending upon who you ask...
tool for the job. Once they have found the proper tool they must have proper instruction or knowledge how to use this tool to assure efficiency and progress, and that the job is completed to success. Life is not very different!
It is my belief the most important of these attributes is discipline. As defined, discipline can be the driving factor in developing skill, achieving success, and setting one apart from the crowd. However, what most people don’t understand about discipline is it is not a skill or talent limited to a certain few. It is an attitude or a tool, and like any other acquired habit or skill when used consistently it can change the course of one’s path, and even change your life!
Learn to “use and apply” discipline in your daily routine (life) as you would any tool, and I believe you will find the outcome very favorable! The “tool of discipline” is extremely effective when used to build work ethic, structure one’s finances, strengthen your personal development skills, keeping to a diet, and improving your overall health.
I suggest you look at discipline like a tool such as a hammer or a screwdriver. Whenever a mechanic or carpenter has a job to do, they must first find the proper
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womanhood wisdom I Just Want To Be Heard!
What Women Really Want How many times has someone listened to what you just said and then done the complete opposite and then tried to tell you that’s not what you said at all? Why? Women are such unique individuals that we just communicate differently than everyone else, even sometimes differently from other women. We say things that are important to us and if we don’t say them in the right tone (yelling at the top of our lungs) it feels like everyone just ignores us and walks all over what we have just said with no regard to how we might feel. The truth is when we aren’t being heard it hurts. For a woman 90% of what we say is not even something that we will remember later or want something done about, it’s more about wanting to be heard. Being heard makes us feel important, loved, and really treasured. Women that are “heard” in 75% of their lives can usually deal with the other 25% by doing something to offset it, like reading a book, going for a walk, cooking something only we can eat, or simply something to please me. So ladies, here is the million dollar
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question: “How do I get heard”? The surprising truth is… by listening! As women we spend so much of our time trying to be heard by someone else we never get to actually say what we want to say and instead end up arguing, half listening, or just ending the conversation and going into a room with a bag of chips and The Real Housewives of Atlanta. We are always right and want to prove our point but the real key to being heard is waiting to prove our point after we have heard
theirs. When we are talking to a man, most of the time he feels like he just doesn’t get you but the real question we should ask ourselves is why? Why doesn’t he get me? We tell our kids time and again not to throw things in the house or clear their plates when they are done eating and they never do, why? We talk to our friends and though we have fun with them most of the time we are always left wondering; is what she said really true? Do people really think that about me? The reality of it is most of us
feel like if we want to be heard we can’t express our true feelings, so we just take what we can get and run. Ladies that is not healthy or wise, so I will tell you the secrets to being heard: First, start everyday by taking five minutes with one person that you see or talk to every day and just listen, no remarks, no comments just listen. You will find this person will love you so much more and if you actually listen, and you might even enjoy listening. Second, tell one person that you see or talk to everyday; “what I’m about to say is very important to me and I want you to listen closely”. This will make the person you are talking to listen because without screaming at them you have told them “Hey this means a lot to me”. You will be surprised they will hear you every time. Finally, think before you speak! Many of us say how we feel and don’t consider the effect it might have on the other person. Saying whatever comes to mind can have a damaging effect on the relationship. Your mom used to say “sticks and stones may break your bones but words can never hurt you.” Well ladies, I’m here to tell you mom was wrong. Words hurt, and yours could be the ones causing problems in your marriage, with your kids, or on your job. Stop for a second and think about you are about to say before you say it. You will be surprised how often people want to hear what you have to say. Written by Joni Gray
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body wants to survive forever to be free from all pain and illness. It has the innate capacity, knowledge, and wisdom to heal itself if it is allowed to do so. Cells will live indefinitely if they have the proper nutrients and proper waste removal; consequently, our job to either get well or prevent disease, is to help change the biological terrain of these bodies. Out of 93 nations, our nation ranks number 93 in terms of health. It’s very apparent that we’ve been doing something to defy the body’s natural healing abilities. Our bodies are live, living organisms and require live living food and enzymes in order to be in a regenerative mode. Could it be that everyone is starving of these live, living foods and enzymes that our live
living organisms require? We are overeating because we are seriously hungry! Americans are malnourished; our soil is severely depleted of proper vitamins, minerals, etc. Plus, we are now subjected to genetically modified (GMO) foods, added chemicals, preservatives, pesticides, hormones, estrogens, glutens, antibiotics, high fructose corn syrups, etc. Is it not surprising that Alzheimer’s, intestinal issues, obesity, arthritis, ADD, ADHD,
high blood pressure, high cholesterol, diabetes, autoimmune disorders, and cancer are seemingly in epidemic stages? Possibly a new realization would be that consuming alkaline foods such as: raw fruits, vegetables, seeds, nuts, sprouted grains could actually bring us to desire more and more of these. Just being diligent to add alkaline makes such difference in having less desire for toxic acid forming foods. Toxicity breeds toxicity! Our pH of the cell should be at 7.0 to 8.0. However, most people in America are at 5.3 to 5.8. In order for cancer or degenerative disease to form the person must be at 5.5 or under. Fifty percent of Americans have cancer; is it not surprising that most of the other 50% are sitting on the fence? We can actually come above disease by raising the pH of our cells. Just adding raw food and supplements in order to alkalinize, such as: Levive, Prodigest, Nutrishakes, Coral Calcium, Ennerlife, Cran Aloe, Green 29, Fiber Balance, etc…. The Ardyss Nutritionals help put us above disease; making these supplements the very best health insurance we can purchase! What we start doing is much more powerful than what we stop doing. Just by being diligent to add as much alkaline as possible can help to change the biological terrain of our bodies. Let’s wise up and begin taking responsibility for our own health and the health of our children. Maybe if we have an attitude of adding more “Life Giving” foods and supplements that are alkaline; then we can give these “Live Living Organisms” some FOOD FOR THOUGHT! Proverbs 13:4 The appetite of the sluggard craves and gets nothing but the appetite of the diligent is abundantly supplied.
Easy Ways to Incorporate Alkaline Foods Into Your Diet Lemons: Believe it or not, this sour citrus is highly basic with a pH of 9.0. Try squeezing it into warm or cold water for a tasty beverage with a myriad of health benefits! Root vegetables: Beets, carrots, turnips, radishes and rutabaga can be slow roasted in the oven for a satisfying winter meal. All are highly alkaline. Spinach: Full of essential vitamins and minerals, Popeye’s favorite can help lower the acidity of your cells with a pH of 9.0. Try it instead of iceberg lettuce in your favorite salad, or sautéed with garlic, another alkaline! Cruciferous vegetables: Classic vegetables like Brussels sprouts, cauliflower, broccoli and cabbage are on the alkaline list. Shred raw cruciferous vegetables for crunchy slaws or incorporate into stir-fries.
GOD BLESS AND LIVE HEALTHIER IN 2013! Dr. Karen Harris-Dial
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Keep More of What You Make!
Tax Tips for Transitional Women Sole proprietorships, which are easily the most common type of business, are owned by one person. Business licenses and permits aren’t always required, and earnings pass through to the owner’s personal income tax return. To offset income, sole proprietors often take advantage of many tax-saving deductions that owners of other types of businesses can’t. If you are not a sole proprietor (business owner), you are giving away hundreds of thousands of dollars in your lifetime! As a Transitional Woman, you need to be aware that according to IRS regulations the following statement best describes the definition of business expenses. “Business expenses are the costs of carrying on a trade or business. These expenses are usually deductible if the business is operated with the 24 JAN 2013 mytransitionalwoman.com
intent to make a profit. To be deductible, a business expense must be connected with or pertaining to your trade or business and be both ordinary and necessary. An ordinary expense is one that is common and accepted in your trade or business. A necessary expense is one that is helpful and appropriate for your trade or business. BUSINESS USE OF HOME.... Operate your sole proprietorship out of your home? Great! You can deduct a portion of your home office expenses on your income taxes. You’ll need to have a specific area in your home set aside for business purposes, along with the area’s square footage. Once you have those areas covered, you can deduct a proportional share of your mortgage or rent payment, your utilities and your maintenance and repair costs. You also can deduct or depreciate the cost of your computer equipment. Keep in mind that if you also use the equipment for personal use, you’ll only be able to count the proportion that you use for your business. You also should be advised that home office deductions often get flagged for audit -- so make sure your deductions are honest as well as accurate. A GOOD RECORD KEEPING SYSTEM.... The IRS requires that everyone in business keep accurate and timely tax records. Transitional Women can contact us today for their personal Cash Flow Manager, which is an online record keeping system which records, organizes and stores all of your business and personal tax records. The Cash Flow Manager makes business tax record keeping easy, simple and fast. Many business structures have to file a separate return, but sole proprietors report earnings on the Form 1040 Schedule C. Of course, if you elect to hire a professional, that cost is deductible, too. Juan J. Williams CEO & Founder Nvisionit Financial Solutions
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Grilled Salmon with Avocado & Corn Salad (Serves 2) • • • • • • • • • • •
corn kernels – from say 1 cob (or about half a can if you’re using the tinned variety) ½ a medium avocado 1 Tbsp lemon juice 1 ripe tomato, copped – or use a few halved cherry tomatoes ½ a red onion, finely chopped ¼ cup chopped fresh coriander salt and pepper, to taste 2x salmon fillets, skin removed if you prefer (or if you want the even healthier version) 2 tsp Moroccan seasoning cooking spray – canola or olive oil baby spinach or lettuce leaves, to serve
Cook the corn in the microwave until just tender (this won’t take long at all). Set aside to cool. Place the avocado and lemon juice in a medium bowl and toss to coat the avocado. Add the warm corn, tomato, red onion and coriander. Toss gently to combine and season to taste. Heat a char-grill pan, barbecue, or fry pan over medium heat. Sprinkle the salmon fillets with Moroccan seasoning, salt and pepper, and spritz with cooking oil spray. Cook the salmon for 4-5 minutes each side. Place salmon on plates with salad leaves, and serve with the corn & avocado salad. mytransitionalwoman.com JAN 2013 27
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