To Love Again Ministries
Credits Founder & Editor
Content August 2012
Do You Love Me
Holding Onto Peace
Ending Summer in Style
Are We Ready
Holly Rhody Kimberly Borst Mary Corey Sarah Williamson Michele Peterson Leilah Wright
Editing Kathy Klay
Photography Brooke Borst â€“ Cover Bethany Harrington Melissa Peterson Kimberly Borst Or indicated
Layout &Design Kimberly Borst
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Be Be Intentional Holly Rhody
As busy wives and mothers of young
children, we often become distracted by the demands of our day and the needs of our children. Sometimes, the hearts of our husbands get moved to the bottom of our priority list. When they walk through the door at the end of a tiring work day, do we take the time to honor them with a few moments of focused attention and affection?
Often, our approach may be, “Hi honey, here I am and all the things I need from you…” But, perhaps a more honoring approach would be, “Hi honey, there You are…what can I do for You?” This kind of thinking does not come naturally when they walk through that door. We must be intentional and prepare our minds for his arrival.
Dr. Gary Chapman is a relationship counselor and author of “The 5 Love Languages”. He has researched and found that people feel loved, by others, in one or more of the following ways: 1. Words of Affirmation 2. Quality Time 3. Receiving Gifts (don’t have to be costly…favorite pack of gum, etc.) 4. Acts of Service 5. Physical Touch It is important that we know the love language(s) of our husbands. And, not only do we need to know what their
by Savanna Daniel love language(s) are, but we need to exercise these when we are thinking of ways to show love to our husbands. If you do not know the love language(s) of your husband, simply ask him. Chances are, he will ask you what your love language(s) are. As a result, the two of you may learn more about how to love one another. Even more important than Dr. Chapman’s list, would be the list that the Holy Spirit gives you when you pray and ask the Lord how to best love your husband. God created your husband and knows him better than you ever will. God knows the inner most needs of your husband throughout the different seasons of his life. The Holy Spirit will teach you about your husband and spark creative ideas for ways you can show love to him. The Lord knows your responsibilities and He will help you think of ideas that will easily fit into your schedule. Even a simple act of love and kindness toward your husband, will have a huge impact upon his heart.
Again, this kind of loving and thinking will not come naturally. You will have to be intentional in showing love to your husband. Set goals for yourself. Maybe you could start by trying to give one affirming word to your husband every day. Another goal could be to do something extra special, once a month. Pick a date so you will have accountability to follow through. One suggestion would be to pick the number date of your anniversary. For example, almost 17 years ago, we were married on December 16th. So by the 16th of every month, my goal is to be intentional about doing something a little out of the ordinary, to show love to my husband…like leaving a note on his windshield.
Remember that LOVE is a verb…an action word. Love is not to be based on feelings. Because our lives are so busy and tiring, chances are that you won’t feel like being intentional to love your husband. If you perform according to how you feel, you will always be too tired. Push how you feel aside, and spring into some action. If you are struggling, pray and ask the Lord to help you love your husband. You will find that not only will He help you, God will do it through you! (2 Corinthians 12:10…For when I am weak, then I am strong.)
Be intentional in showing love to your husband, and you will experience a new sense of joy and intimacy in your marriage that will be an inspiration to many…especially your children!
Do you love me? Kimberly Borst We love our kids and want them to have self-control and self-discipline. True discipline is done in love. Itâ€™s our implementation of external constraints (consequences) in their lives that cultivate internal constraints that help them succeed. Hugging, holding and encouraging our kids should be common practice in our homes. Just remember discipline applied consistently is love too.
There are many consequences parents
Those who spare the rod of discipline hate their children. Those who love their children care enough to discipline them. Proverbs 13:24 (NLT)
can and should use when training their children, the more creative and linked to the crime the better. When a child damages something intentionally, let them be the one to fix it if possible. A great mom once found her son spitting on his brothers in their room. She had the spitter proceed to the bathroom and spit in the sink till he had no more spit to spit, problem permanently solved. Just be careful to take time when choosing a discipline so itâ€™s one you can follow through with. There are still times that a simple spanking is the best course of action. Discomfort, as much as we hate it, is an effective deterrent. (Just to be clear, I am NOT referring to a beating but a controlled swat on the behind.)
There is an underlying message today that it’s wrong to discipline children. Instead a ‘free to be me,’ ‘no constraints,’ philosophy is touted as enlightened. Those ideas leave us with little to no respect for ourselves. God has written His standards in our hearts, thus our own hearts condemn us as we live without morality.
Whatever discipline we utilize will be most effective when administered consistently and quickly. Delaying discipline and repeating verbal correction only escalates the situation and causes anger. Consistent, loving discipline trains our children to obey and decreases the need for correction.
Children become more content and secure when they know our boundaries and expectations. The whole environment of the home is more pleasant when tiny rebels are reformed. It’s enjoyable to be with children who are well trained and obedient. If our child runs towards a busy street they better know STOP, means STOP! Training can save a life. It is well worth raising respectful, responsible, obedient, Godly children.
Listen to your father, who gave you life, and don’t despise your mother when she is old. Get the truth and never sell it; also get wisdom, discipline, and good judgment. The father of godly children has cause for joy. What a pleasure to have children who are wise. Proverbs 23:22-24 (NLT)
Holding on to Peace Mary Corey As for me my greatest peace comes from the knowledge that God always loves me, hears my cries, and meets my every need. This peace brings with it so much joy.
We have to remember that desires of this world and spiritual needs are totally unrelated (whatâ€™s of this earth will stay on this earth.) Focusing on our spirit, knowing where we came from and where we are going is whatâ€™s important. Understanding that only with Jesus can we get there is the true issue. Having been a very wanty and needy person, in the worldly sense, I was always looking for the next high in the form of person, place, or thing. It would bring me such happiness for a moment. When in reality it was not a high at all but a very low place to be and certainly did not bring lasting peace or joy.
Having total peace is a daily pursuit, as we are often in the line of fire. I find myself grabbing for that life line, determined to hold on to my peace, in spite of all those silly things that threaten to shake me to my core Recently I had a close encounter with a tornado that touched down behind my property. Consequently I ended up being in the midst of a fierce hail storm that broke windows out of my house, shredded everything that had leaves, stems, or flowers and did its best
to take out my vehicle. Again I fought to hang on to the peace that I so enjoy by living on the eastern Colorado plains. Besides I have insurance “right!”(That was a storm of its own.) The cost was high in the form of my health both physically and emotionally. Again I lost sight of where I’m going and how I’m getting there. With the love and encouragement of my friends and family I found my peace again. One and a half weeks later our mountains went up in flames. In the wake of this fire hundreds of homes were lost, thousands of people were displaces and two were dead. I was determined to hold tight to my peace instead of running for cover yet again. The truth is we all still have to live in the midst of life. It’s how we pick ourselves up and rebuild knowing God is a great father and He never leaves us. To quote my pastor, “It is not yet over, with heaven before us the best is yet to come!”
I purpose to stay on the path and to focus on the truth! Instead of running for cover I should have been running for covering. I pray God will continue to pick me up in the midst of the storm and carry me to the rock that is Christ crucified, which brings me back to my blessed peace.
"and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house; and it did not fall, for it was founded on the rock. Matthew 7:25(NKJV)
Natural Clean Michele Peterson
Cleaning products, like most things keep going up in price. So while looking for a safer and more economical clean I found some great options. Vinegar and baking soda are products you can buy in large quantity (at discount warehouse stores) and can be used all over your house. Vinegar in a spray bottle cleans glass and mirrors. Baking soda by itself works well as a powdered cleaner. Mix 1/4 cup baking soda with 1 tablespoon of liquid dish
detergent, add enough vinegar to make a creamy paste and you have a cleaner that will make you bathtubs and sinks sparkle! You can also sprinkle baking soda on your carpet before you vacuum to remove odors. I use 1/4 cup of vinegar instead of fabric softener in my washing machine, it removes odors from the machine and soap residue from the clothes. There are many uses for these products around your home, including mopping floors and freshening drains. If you have allergies and are sensitive to normal harsh cleaners this can be a great option as well. Give it try; you will be pleasantly surprised and stretch another dollar farther. For more uses of vinegar check out THE
Baking Soda Try baking soda as a facial wash and exfoliant. It may even help with acne. Itâ€™s a great tooth polish if you can handle the taste.
Vinegar Kill weeds by pouring, or spraying straight vinegar on them. Try apple cider vinegar as a digestive aid.
The Road Less Traveled Kimberly Borst A little over a mile hike seamed doable and the beautiful lake at the top was inspiring, a worthy destination. We set out early to avoid the heat of the day. The base of the mountain was thick with trees, colorful shrubs, and delicate flowers. I hardly noticed that the path was laden with large jagged stones. The sound of water splashing over rocks and the trickling of a stream filled the valley. Fresh crisp air with the aroma of pine surrounded us, it was invigorating.
What an amazing place! We continued climbing and stopping for the next hour. Finally at not quite half way up I was exhausted, my poor physical condition had prevailed, I decided to quit. With the encouragement of my husband, my friend, my love I continued. I feared even if I made it up I would not make it down. He assured me we would rest and enjoy the lake and waterfalls at the top. It doesn’t matter if it takes all day, he affirmed, so we continued.
From the start the trail was rugged and
At the next turn the terrain changed, I
steep but the beauty and tranquility over shadowed the exertion of the hike. As the rocks turned to boulders my attention turned to the path, each step had to be chosen carefully. I took my lover’s hand he guided me skillfully up the mountain one step at a time. In some places he lead showing me the best way to go, others he walked along side me taking the harder ground so he could support me through a precarious spot. My surroundings completely faded as my breathing quickened and the road was all I could see. My heartbeat escalated and I had to rest. Though the climb was only 1.2 Miles we were also going 1000 feet up in elevation.
couldn’t believe it, it was glorious, incredible. There were ferns growing wild, the foliage was lush with them and there were waterfalls all around us. It’s Colorado I thought ferns don’t grow here. Amazing beauty all around and it just got better and better, I was reenergized. It was the most beautiful place I’ve ever been. The pain in my feet and knees even faded, I was in awe.
Once again the beauty of where we were came into focus; waterfalls beside us, rocky crags above and trees all around.
A little before we reached the top I saw railing, I scoffed, “now they give us railings.” Oh yes, railing as hard as it had been it got worse. The trail was now all rock, no more dirt covered reprieves, just jagged rocks ever steeper, some with steps carved in them. The climb was exhausting and slow. I led and set the pace. Michael’s watchful eye was making sure I did not fall. Once again I questioned my sanity for
initiating such a journey. Just then a couple, who were heading down, encouraged me, “You’re almost there.” As we looked down over the valley so close to the top I contemplated. So many lessons so many parallels: how God is with us every step, guiding us holding us, especially when it’s hard, that we shouldn’t let the hard parts in life distract us from the beauty all around us. That life is an amazing climb, it’s short and worth the struggle we face. The narrow road, choosing God’s ways and a relationship with Him is worth it.
A few more paces and we arrived,
hanging Lake. The water was crystal clear with a travertine bottom that reflected a deep turquoise. Above were cliffs with sheets of water falling into the small lake. It was breathtaking but did not quite compare to the majesty we had experienced in the climb. We took our time and enjoyed it. After a total of about four hours (mostly spent hiking) we returned to our car. I was very tired and sore, but grateful for the journey. Heaven will be eternal majesty beyond our wildest imagination, a far greater reward.
Are We Ready Leilah Wright Let's look at the first section of Matthew 25: 1-13
“Then the kingdom of heaven will be like ten virgins who took their lamps and went to meet the bridegroom. Five of them were foolish, and five were wise. For when the foolish took their lamps, they took no oil with them, but the wise took flasks of oil with their lamps. As the bridegroom was delayed, they all became drowsy and slept. But at midnight there was a cry, ‘Here is the bridegroom! Come out to meet him.’ Then all those virgins rose and trimmed their lamps. And the foolish said to the wise, ‘Give us some of your oil, for our lamps are going out.’ But the wise answered, saying, ‘Since there will not be enough for us and for you, go rather to the dealers and buy for yourselves.’ And while they were going to buy, the bridegroom came, and those who were ready went in with him to the marriage feast, and the door was shut. Afterward the other virgins came also, saying, 'Lord, lord, open to us.’ But he answered, ‘Truly, I say to you, I do not know you.’ Watch therefore, for you know neither the day nor the hour."
All ten of these women were invited to this wedding. The five foolish weren't hanging around to crash the party. So we can know that all 10 represent believers. Five were ready when the bridegroom came, but the others were not prepared and the door was shut to them.
Time and time again we see in the Bible that Jesus will come like a thief in the night, to watch, the kingdom of Heaven is nigh. We need to take these warnings seriously. We need to not get caught up in material things. We need to be heavenly minded.
Not only is the day coming, but the very hour! We can't know when it will happen, but Jesus will come back for us soon. Some may even be called home before this. How can we be prepared? Dive in to God's word. Know His voice. Do the work that He has laid out before you, work for His kingdom.
Sometimes we get so caught up in the things that need to be done:
work, cleaning, shopping, holidays. And we forget what's important. We forget to minister to our family and neighbors. Somehow what should be our highest priority becomes our last, or falls off the map altogether. Let's not be found with the group of foolish women. Let's be the wise and be prepared!
Lord, wake us up from the stupor brought on us by comfort-ability. Show us how to seek your will rather than earthly stuff. Remind us every day to be prepared so that we will be ready to see you when it is our time. Bless each of these ladies. Keep them in your perfect peace through whatever might come their way. Help us to prepare our loved ones as well, and to be an example to everyone around us.
Remember that in James God promises, "If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you."
Art by,- Chris Bearing