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How to wear the










for Love p34

IT’S TIME!p22 • for a change p24 • for a party p26 • for cocktails p30 • to give p32 • find it p32 • to make amends p34


Fun Things p14 for this Trainer p8

HOLIDAY BITES Recipe Winners p50

THE RIGHT TIME (and place)to wear the New Looks p36

Her Turning Point was 10 years long p10 BEFORE KAREN McKINLEY GOES p58

TIME TO LOSE 70 POUNDS! Read about Deborah on p24


Take this TRUE/FALSE Health Test p44


VOL .25/NO. 12

Time Management Tips from a president p12



“I want my husband to talk to me.” p54

Mary Greenbaum Lets it Fly p54

Celebrating Amazing Anita! p48


23 years

of inspiring, informing, and encouraging women!

DECEMBER 2014 Volume 25 8 Number 12



Melina Decker, our cover model, is wearing some of the latest trends we’re featuring this month. RIGHT TIME TO WEAR THIS TREND: Not

all holiday parties require sequins and sparkle. A laid back, cozy winter look like this one on our cover girl is perfect for holiday festivities. Use accessories to dress up an outfit. The right accessories can take an outfit from drab to fab instantly. Since this plaid shirt dress and scarf is more casual, a fun chunky bracelet and earrings with some flare help dress the look. You can even accessorize your accessories. This cute hat is adorable already but you can make it your own style by adding different brooches or pins to it like we did with vintage time pieces from Lucy Pritchett.


MELINA DECKER IS WEARING: Dress from Chartreuse $56; scarf from Apricot Lane

$20; hat from Clodhoppers $58; earrings by Summer Eliason $150; bracelet by Summer Eliason $298. STYLING: Alissa Hicks; MAKEUP: Denise Cardwell; PHOTO: Melissa Donald

Read more about the Right Time to Wear This Trend on page 36. Read more about Melina’s love story on page 34.





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Casey Schneider, 32, personal

trainer and health coach; owner of the training studio Outlast Strength and Conditioning, 131 E. Court Ave., Jeffersonville HOMETOWN: New Salisbury, Indiana NEIGHBORHOOD:

Sellersburg, Indiana HOUSEHOLD: Husband, Addison.




Casey Schneider has a mission: “I want to help people have healthy, fulfilled lives.” Interview by LUCY M. PRITCHETT / Photo by MELISSA DONALD

HER BODY OF WORK “My favorite piece of fitness equipment is the body. By that I mean doing body-weight exercises — push-ups, squats, lunges. These are exercises I can teach people and they can do them on their own at home or in a park or, if traveling, in a hotel room. Because the body needs variety, I also add workouts with medicine balls and kettlebells for strength training.”

IF THE SHOE FITS... “I am a runner. Running is a good body-weight exercise. I wear ASIC GEL-Kayano running shoes that I buy at Pacers and Racers in New Albany. The colors of the pair I have now are purple with bright green trim. For working out in the gym, I wear Nike Free TR Fit 4. I like bright, crazy colors that make things fun, so my current pair are fluorescent orange with pink and purple trim. I wear a size 7-and-a-half athletic shoe, which is a half size larger than my dress shoe size. You need to wear a little larger athletic shoe.”

SHAKE IT UP, BABY “I drink a Shakeology every morning for breakfast. It is a health-food shake that gives me energy, helps digestion, and reduces food cravings. It can also help in weight loss as it provides the nutrients the body needs so you don’t get as hungry. Shakeology comes in a powder form. I mix it with water, but some people use almond milk or another liquid. You can add fruit or coffee or other flavorings. It comes in a couple of flavors, including chocolate and vanilla. I drink the Tropical Strawberry Vegan.” TODAY’S WOMAN





STACIE BALE, 44 Owner/operator of Earth Friends Cafe, 829 E. Market and at 221 S. Fourth St. Hometown: New Albany Neighborhood: Nance’s Corner on Hwy. 62 in Southern Indiana Household: Husband, Brandon and daughter Leyna, 4.




Sometimes life turns on a dime. Stacie Bale’s life, however, turned on a decade. We have all heard of the gap year. That year, usually taken between graduating from high school and starting college is meant to expand personal experiences, foster independence, and build self-confidence and self-sufficiency. But, instead of taking a gap year, Stacie took what became a gap decade. “In my 20s, I pretty much just played around,” she says. “I took classes and got an associate’s degree, worked a bit, partied. But, by the time I hit 30, I settled down and spent the next 10 years journeying inward defining who I am and what I want to do. “I read so many books on spirituality during that time. The Celestine Prophecy and The Way of the Warrior are two that had a great effect. I tapped into nature and the quiet state that it offers the spirit. I studied Eastern philosophy, went on retreats, traveled to Egypt on a spiritual journey. I met many amazing older, stronger, wiser women.” By the time she turned 40, Stacie had earned a bachelor’s degree in general studies, gotten married, had her daughter, and opened her restaurant, Earth Friends Cafe, with its tagline: Culinary Anarchy. “I have chosen a vegan lifestyle,” she says. “It is a moral choice that I feel strongly about. It is important to me what I put in my body. I didn’t ever really eat much meat, but one day it hit me that I could make that choice for myself. As a result of that decision, I opened Earth Friends Cafe, which has mostly vegetarian and vegan options. I felt I needed to do something to make a difference, and opening a sustainable food establishment seemed to fill a void.” Those 10 years, she says, prepared her for anything. “That time gave me a great faith in believing I could do anything and that I have the strength within to handle all that comes at me. All that I have and believe in today grew out of that decade.” TODAY’S WOMAN

Survival Skills


Illustration by MOLLIE BAUMANN

Tips that help Jennifer manage her time:

1. Be proactive

and responsive… and don’t procrastinate.

2. Surround yourself

with people you trust and who can and will support you. A great spouse and supportive business partners are invaluable!

3. Know your

strengths, but more importantly, know and accept your weaknesses.

 . Embrace change. 4 It is inevitable.

5. Make technology Jennifer Hughes, President, DMLO

Quality Time Counts “Y

ou have 86,400 seconds a day to get things done,” says Jennifer Hughes, president of Deming, Malone, Livsay, & Ostroff (DMLO), one of the largest CPA firms in Louisville. “As an accountant, I’d never really thought about it,” Jennifer says about this tidbit that she learned in an email. “It was profound to me at that moment. “We all only have so much time. You can’t borrow from the future, can’t spend from the past, and you can’t create more time. It made me do some thinking about managing a company. You have things you want to do each day, but you also have to deal with things that come up that change your schedule. You have to be flexible. You have to stay positive. You have to stay in the moment, to focus on what’s in front of you, not on what you can’t control that might happen later.” On April 30, 2015, Jennifer will pass the baton of the presidency to Chris Ward as




part of a planned rotation in leadership roles. “I have led our company for five-and-a-half years,” Jennifer says. “It’s like a relay race. I’ve done my part, and now Chris will take over and do his part of the race. The most rewarding part of my career was taking over that position. I am a person who puts in 110 percent. I wanted to step down before I wore myself out completely.” During her tenure, DMLO has won the “When Work Works” award twice — in 2013 and 2014. “It’s focused on a survey that you give to your employees — how friendly is the workplace, how flexible is it, how many things do you do that are outside of the box?” Jennifer says. “Accounting can be boring and stressful. We try to do things that are fun for our staff. We’ve tried to be flexible when they need family time or to attend children’s events. We have a lot of part-time and flexible schedules, and you can do that with technology.”

work for you. Learn new programs so technology will help you be more efficient at work, and use your brain for more important things. I have learned to use smart phones — calendars and notes — instead of having to write something down three times.

6. Make the best of the 86,400 seconds you have each day. Once they’re gone, you never get them back!

7. Take time to relax

and recharge. When I reach my limit, I know I need to take a deep breath and get away.

8. Exercise is a MUST.

What’s helped me deal with the stress is exercise. I started doing hot yoga about six years ago. You have to find a way to manage and control the stress so that it doesn’t physically harm you. TODAY’S WOMAN


rs! 23 Yea

Why 23? Because we are 23 years old!

Happenings, news, celebrations, and tidbits that caught Today’s Woman’s eye this month. By ANITA OLDHAM

Happy Birthday, Today’s Woman! – from the editorial and design teams

5 and read Publisher Cathy Zion’s (See our sales team on p. 23, 8 comments on p. 46)

I’ve learned how to give an interview in my time!



“It surprises me that I have been here 20 years! I kept thinking I was going to run out of women’s stories to tell, but that hasn’t happened yet.” — Editor-in-Chief Anita Oldham, 20 years

Did you imagine that 23 years ago, you would become what you are today? A: I started out as an idea to help give women in this community a voice. It was during a time when there wasn’t much attention given to how women were changing our local business scene and overall community.


“Today’s Woman is the figurative girl next door who is always looking for ways to celebrate the accomplishments of women in the community while giving others the inspiration to grow their greatness.” — Editor Tiffany White, 10 years

Do you think you gave women that voice? A: I think it allowed us to celebrate all the things that are good about women. I started out covering a lot of women “firsts,” such as the first woman to lead a company, the first woman engineer, etc. Now, I report on women’s “bests” because we are past the “firsts.” Q: Is your main mission about advancing women? A: I think my main mission is really about encouragement — inspiring a reader to see that she can do something she thought she couldn’t do. I also try hard to keep the newest health information in a woman’s hands so she can be informed. Q: How would you describe yourself? A: I want to be like your trusted friend who lives next door — giving you any inside scoop I get, introducing you to people you should know, inviting you over to discuss something new, laughing with you, and always being there to say, “You got this!”

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“One of the stories I like to tell is about the time I interviewed then-Mayor Jerry Abramson for an ‘I Am Today’s Man’ feature, and he invited me into his clothes closet to see just how many ties he owned. Not many people can say they have stood inside the Mayor’s closet.” — Contributing Editor/Copy Editor Lucy Pritchett, 18 years


Y ea rs!

5 “Louisville and Southern Indiana have a fascinating and creative group of women, men, and children. It has been such a great opportunity and pleasure to meet and photograph these people.” — Photographer Melissa Donald, 5 years

6 “A fun memory was finding a 1948 issue of Today’s Woman (a magazine with the same name as ours) and recreating it by adding our own unique ‘pages’ as a present for Cathy Zion’s birthday.” — Graphic Designer Kathy Bolger, 12 years

7 “I feel I’ve ‘grown up’ with TW, starting as a newly married gal in my 20s to now a mother of 2 (ages 9 and 12) who just celebrated her 17th wedding anniversary. The women who work at TW have been a great source of wisdom for me personally over the years.” — Graphic Designer April Allman, 14 years

8 “Strangely, when you are working on the magazine, sometimes you forget that people out there actually read it. It’s always rewarding when readers remind us that the magazine has a special role — like a stylish, easygoing sister.” — Assistant Editor/Designer Jessica Alyea, 2 years TODAY’S TODAY’S WOMAN WOMAN

Illustrations by JESSICA ALYEA


An interview with TW, the magazine



Great Gifts! We scouted out some gift ideas around town so you don’t have to. Happy shopping!




9 Knitted hats $32, Work the Metal 10 Scarf $19, hat $29, Work the Metal 11 Mustache mugs $50, Block Party 12 Horse wire pin $90, Kentucky Museum of Art & Craft

13 Flasks $29, shaker $43, Work the Metal 14 leather bracelet $55, Kentucky Museum of Art & Craft

15 Head band $10, Block Party




15 8> See more gift ideas on p. 16 14




23 THINGS 17 16

18 Replace gifts with experiences.


21. How about treating a friend to time at a place where the two of you can create something beautiful? You might try a gift card to a glass-blowing studio such as Flame Run. (Flame Run, snowman $35 and pumpkins, also pictured above, $25 or more.)


22. Some other ideas from Donna Skeels Cygan, author of The Joy of Financial Security. e Spend a morning baking cookies together. The cookies can be packaged with holiday ribbons, and everyone can go home with several types of cookies to enjoy or give as gifts. e Together with family or friends, choose a local charity or “adopt” a family that is less fortunate. Shop for food and/or gifts, then wrap and deliver them. Neuroscience research shows that reward centers light up in the brain when we give to charity. e Volunteer at a soup kitchen, hospital, nursing home, or homeless shelter. Giving your time to the less fortunate will help you focus on gratitude. – twenty-three –

16 Clocks, $34-49, Work the Metal 17 Dog bottle holder $70, Kentucky Museum of Art & Craft 18 Necklace $48, earrings $44, Kentucky Museum of Art & Craft 19 Cardinal gifts, $10-$23, Work the Metal 20 Dog collars $11- $15, Block Party 16 18



Special thanks to everyone who has made Today’s Woman the magazine it is today. There are so many writers, photographers, advertisers, employees, interns, and community members who have contributed to the success over the years. We could not have done it without you! TODAY’SWOMAN WOMAN TODAY’S

She Kicks It!


Sandra Perry


andra Perry spent 10 years in New York City working for various fashion houses, including Chado Ralph Rucci and Shipley & Halmos. Her journey to Louisville and ownership of Honest Home a year ago wasn’t a straight and smooth path, but she quickly discovered the power of community in our fair city. Through her participation in the US Green Building Council’s Kentucky chapter, LVL1, and Lean in Louisville, she says, “I’ve met strong women here in Louisville who saw past my personal challenges and supported me.” She loves Louisville’s accessibility, not only in geographic terms to the Midwest, but also in how people relate to each other, which she says would never happen in New York City. As she works to build her business and bring sustainable and efficient products to Louisville, she continues to lean into other women at different points of their careers for their energy and experience.

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n honor of Today’s Woman turning 23 years old, we wanted to consider time and how we use it. Do we use it to make a difference in our lives and those lives around us?

“Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresa, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein.” — H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

“Time is free, but it’s priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it, but you can spend it. Once you’ve lost it you can never get it back.” — Harvey MacKay

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” — Steve Jobs

“Defer no time, delays have dangerous ends.” — William Shakespeare

“How did it get so late so soon?” — Dr. Seuss

“You can have it all. Just not all at once.” — Oprah Winfrey

“This is a new year. A new beginning. And things will change.” — Taylor Swift

“Time is a created thing. To say ‘I don’t have time,’ is like saying, ‘I don’t want to.” — Lao Tzu

Time is what we want most, but what we use worst.” — William Penn

There is no time for cut-and-dried monotony. There is time for work. And time for love. That leaves no other time.” — Coco Chanel

“Time moves slowly, but passes quickly.” — Alice Walker

In this section, read about: Time for a Change…p24 / 7 Ways to Find Time…p24 / Time to Party p26 / Time to Make a Cocktail…p30 Time to Make Amends…p32 / Time to Donate…p32 / Time for Love…p34 / Time to Wear the Trends…p36 / Good Timing…p40








ocal artist Deborah Stanley had lap band surgery for weight loss in January 2013. Prior to that, she felt depressed and lacked self-confidence and energy. “After years of struggling with obesity and diabetes, I had to do something drastic,” she says. “I’ve lost 70 pounds, and I am no longer on medication.” Deborah’s husband Chuck was by her side in 2012 when her primary care physician suggested weight loss surgery. Her overall health was labeled as poor. Deborah wasn’t interested at first. “Then Chuck said Deborah Stanley he didn’t want to lose BEFORE me,” Deborah recalls. “He was a huge inspiration for me to get this surgery.” After considering different options such as gastric bypass, Deborah chose the lap band procedure, which is reversible. The surgeon puts a small, round clamp at the top part of the stomach, creating a small pouch that reduces the amount of food that can be eaten. “It took 15 minutes to complete,” she says. “I had very little pain, using medication for only one day.” Post-surgery, Deborah completely changed her eating habits. It wasn’t easy, but she followed instructions in order to feel full until the next meal. “Now I have small portions of nutritious food. I learned the difference between a food craving and thirst,” she says. “Once I figured it out, it was all downhill.” Exercise became a joyful addition to her routine. “I’m now able to walk for five miles,” she says. Deborah does a variety of aerobic exercises six days a week, along with weight training. Her clothing size has gone from a size 24 to a 14-16. “It’s not about fitting into a size 6 jeans,” Deborah says. “I got it into my mind how to take care of my body. I feel very triumphant.” As an African-American woman, Deborah is aware of her risk of major medical issues. She wants to share her story to help others. “That’s what I’m all about,” she says. “It changed me in so many different ways.” To celebrate Deborah’s 50th birthday, she and Chuck are going to Las Vegas. “I plan to dance, walk, and feel free,” she says. “It’s time to have a healthy decade!”




Deborah Stanley after losing 70 pounds.



r. Kim Critchlow learned all she needed to know about time management from her 25year career in post-secondary education, consulting, and business management. Dr. Critchlow retired in 2012 and recently opened ACOT Express Delivery a company that provides personal shopping services located in Shelbyville. Here are a six ways to get started:  ake a list of the things you 1. M want to accomplish. “Prioritize and stick to the list.” 2. Apply realistic timeframes. 3. Anticipate and avoid distractions. “Sometimes we allow our brain to be distracted and pulled in different directions. When you do this, you are taking more time to get more things completed, because you are trying to focus on too many things at once. Our brain can only focus on one thing at a time.”  et started. “The sooner you 4. G start working that list, the sooner you can complete the list.” 5. E xclude unnecessary or assignable tasks. “About 35 percent of the activities we are involved in can be assigned or outsourced. Ask others to help so that you can use that time for yourself.”  ecome comfortable with saying 6. B ‘no’ or ‘not now.’ “Women are notorious for taking care of people, because we are so expandable and we expand ourselves to the point of exhaustion.” 7. Evaluate why you are procrastinating. Making a task list may be easy, but executing it becomes a bigger challenge than the task. Fear could be the culprit. “You might need to ask yourself ‘what are you afraid of?’ You might fear how whatever you’re working on will be received by others,” she says, adding that sometimes we create barriers which cut into time and productivity. — Tiffany White

TODAY’S WOMAN / / @todayswomannow



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Cheers To You, M y Friends! BY LAUREN DAHL

Instead of using gift wrap, buy discount fabric scraps in your favorite holiday patterns and colors. Usually a “scrap” piece of fabric is the perfect size for wrapping a small canvas.







lan a party with your closest friends that will enhance the holiday schedule and not add to the chaos. Choose a morning or midday event and leave your evening wide open. Host a friends’ craft party (or have your much-more-organized friend be the host). You not only get to gather with your BFFs, but you can also spend the time eating, laughing, drinking mimosas, and making crafty projects that will double as Christmas gifts.

Dressing up is fun and can make the day feel extra special. Paintings are a lot like style — each person’s artwork will have its own twist. Some of Today’s Woman staff pose for the photo: (l-r) Suzy Hillebrand, Jillian LeMaster, and Alissa Hicks.


Bite-sized food is cute and will keep this party going. Painting isn’t easy when you’re eating a massive cheeseburger or plate of pasta. So, keep things simple and small.

The host can supply the mimosas, craft space, and paint. Each guest brings a craft item (canvases, glitter, bows, ribbon, fabric, and paint brushes), and a food item. Everyone comes dressed in her best winter attire. Yes, it’s a craft party, and yes, dress up anyway. / / @todayswomannow

Do not underestimate the use of floor space. A huge drop cloth is inexpensive and can make a great workstation for painting and crafting. Table space can be designated for “cleaner” aspects of this craft party, like writing notes in holiday cards or wrapping the paintings once they are dry.





To Unwind “Here is the perfect cocktail to unwind with during the hectic holiday season. It is a bourbon forward cocktail that adds the tastes of the season including cloves, cinnamon, and apple cider.” ­— Tim Laird, Chief Entertaining Officer with Brown Forman

SPICED APPLETINI In a shaker with ice, add: 1½ ounces Woodford Reserve bourbon 3 ounces apple cider 1 clove Squeeze of lemon Dash of cinnamon Shake and strain into a chilled cocktail glass. Garnish with a slice of red apple. Note that the spiced appletini garnish looks great in a martini glass. Simply slice an apple into a small round and sprinkle top with cinnamon. Float on top of drink. — Recipe provided by Brown Forman

In the Spirits Get into the spirit with cocktails and punches that will add plenty of merriment to your holiday season. We asked some local experts about the newest trends, a great party drink, and a drink to unwind after hitting the shopping scene. By TIFFANY WHITE • Photos By MELISSA DONALD 28



NOT-SO-SILENT PUNCH Bottle of Pomegranate juice ½ to 1 750-ml bottle of Bourbon 1 bottle of Champagne Mix together and serve. 

— Recipe provided by the Bourbon Women Association TODAY’S WOMAN

To Party “For holidays you want to keep it simple. Don’t make something too complicated and keep your opening cocktails light so your guests don’t over-imbibe early in the evening.” — Lynn House, the national brand ambassador for Pama Liqueur with Heaven Hill Distilleries.

“It is a great welcome cocktail…a nice way to greet your guest and start off the night before dinner.” says Lynn House.

THE POINSETTIA 1 ounce Pama Liqueur 3.5 ounces of sparkling wine Add three Pomegranate seeds into the champagne glass for garnish — Recipes provided by Lynn House, the national brand ambassador for Pama Liqueur with Heaven Hill Distilleries.

PUNCH ROYAL In a punch bowl or large pitcher, add:

“The holidays bring many opportunities to entertain with family and friends. To help make your entertaining easy, here is a great recipe that can be made by the pitcher or in a punch bowl so you don’t have to play bartender and make individual drinks.”

1 cup Chambord black raspberry liqueur 1 cup cranberry juice 2 chilled bottles of Korbel Brut California Champagne Fresh raspberries or blackberries for garnish To make this drink dramatic, use a bundt mold to freeze water and raspberries — Recipe provided by Brown Forman

­— Tim Laird, Chief Entertaining Officer with Brown Forman




TODAY’S WOMAN / / @todayswomannow










ometimes it’s better to give than receive, especially during the holiday season. But how can you be smart about your charitable donations? Jennifer Hiegel, a CPA and partner with Rye, Wright & Hiegel, PLLC, offers a few quick tips about managing your finances in preparation for the season of giving.


How should you organize your finances so you can donate?

“If it’s important to you, make it part of your monthly budget. Waiting to give might mean you used the money for something less important to you, and now there is not enough.”


Who should people speak with about tax questions regarding donations?

“A CPA or other tax professional. The IRS has very specific guidelines regarding which organizations allow your contribution to be deducted and what documentation you are required to maintain.”





Right there in the craw, and your mouth goes dry, and you feel like maybe your tongue is sawdust. It’s hard to admit when we’ve messed up, hurt someone, or simply not lived up to our best selves. It’s hard, too, to be the one needing to hear the “I’m sorry.” A lack of acknowledgement on someone else’s part that they’ve really hurt us makes it easy to foster resentment and breed bitterness. And in the end, this makes the hurt we’ve felt become a giant ball of anger and sadness. Either way, it’s no good. Either way, a relationship is broken. Either way, we hurt. Either way, there comes a time when you’ve got to make it right. If not by true reconciliation, then at least by not letting it control you anymore. You can’t make someone say, “I’m sorry,” and so maybe, like so much else in this life, it’s best to take a look in our own mirror first. Making amends matters, for the big and little things both, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. Nor does it mean there’s a 1-2-3, this-is-how-you-do-it flowchart for the process (how I wish!). That said, “I’m sorry,” can go a long way. So…where do I need to make amends? Who have you — whether intentionally or not — hurt in recent months, or even years? Where would a kind word on your part make a significant difference in a situation or relationship? Where could you ease some of the drama or angst in your own soul simply by asking, “How can I make this right?” I’ve got my own list, believe me. And I imagine you do, too. There are, perhaps, in this life, things beyond forgiveness, at least in the here and now. But the things that aren’t? They are so worth our time and effort to find a sense of peace about, because, in the end, the brokenness wreaks its own sort of havoc on our lives, and in doing so generally makes us less of who we’re meant to be. I am not suggesting it is easy, friends — don’t misunderstand me. I am suggesting that the struggle, real though it may be, is worth entering into. It’s possible that on the other side dwells something even better, something we never imagined, something that will help us see that this messy life we live can, even in the heartache, be so very beautiful.

’m sorry,” you want to say, knowing you need to, and yet, the words just stick.

TODAY’S WOMAN / / @todayswomannow






The Right Time for Love By LUCY M. PRITCHETT

Love knows not what time is. Time is really just a concept invented by humans to measure our days and nights on earth — a mere reckoning of hours and minutes. But when you are separated from the one you love, you count the seconds one by one. Five years is made up of many seconds. Here is a story of how one couple, Melina Decker and Chris Wathen, now both 25, managed to endure five years apart and occasionally make time stand still. Melina is from Berlin, Germany. When she was Chris Wathen almost 19, she came to Louisville to spend the and Melina summer of 2008 with a friend who had been a Decker were foreign exchange student in Melina’s class. meant for each other. “We went to a party in Old Louisville,” she says. “I walked in the apartment and saw Chris standing in the kitchen. I was smitten. I sort of followed him around trying to talk to him. He was a little shy.” Eventually, he got the message that she was interested, and the two spent the evening talking. “I was getting ready to return to Germany in two days,” Melina says. “I wrote my phone number on a paper plate and asked him to call me the next day at 3 o’clock. At 3 o’clock on the dot, he called. We only saw each other two more times before I left.”

There comes a time in every life we find the heart we’re looking for. From that point on, Chris and Melina kept in touch via MySpace, then Facebook and Skype. They would each make videos of how they spent their weekends and share them with each other. “I had a long-distance telephone plan so we could talk for free. We talked every day,” Melina recalls. From the time they met, neither one dated anyone else. That first Christmas, Chris flew to Berlin to meet Melina’s family. “I was really nervous about this visit,” Melina says. “I hoped I still liked him. But the moment I saw him at the airport, I knew I did.” Over the next years, the couple spent Christmases and summers together, alternating between Louisville and Berlin. How did they keep the romance going from a distance of 4500 miles and with a six-hour time difference? The couple got innovative. “We would watch a movie at the same time in our respective homes and chat about it on Facebook,” Melina Says. “We had Skype talks. We would both sit with a glass of wine and pretend we were sharing a drink together.”

If distance were measured in terms of the heart, we’d never be more than a minute apart.

The longest Melina and Chris didn’t see each other — face-to-face and hand-to-hand — was a year. “You really get to know a person on a different level when all you have is conversation,” Melina says. “There are no physical distractions. All we had was talking, and we talked about everything.” 34



It was not always sunshine and butterflies, though. “It was very difficult because we wanted to be together,” Melina says. Originally, the plan was for Chris to move to Germany, but he didn’t speak the language, so they realized that wasn’t the best option. Melina thought about moving to Louisville and attending college here, but in Germany she could attend university tuition-free, so that strategy was sidelined as well. In the summer of 2011, three years after they met, Chris proposed to Melina. It took more than a year for her to receive a fiancée visa, which finally came in February 2013. She flew once more to Louisville in April. They only had 90 days to get married before the visa expired. “We actually had two weddings: a small outdoor wedding on May 25, 2013, with Chris’ family, my mother, and a few friends; then on August 24, 2013, we had a larger wedding with about 65 guests. My friends who came from Germany were so happy for us. They all cried at the wedding. They were happy tears. They knew how much Chris and I had been through and how difficult it was for each of us when we were apart.” Even though personality-wise they are opposites – Melina is energetic and outgoing while Chris is quiet and laid back – they share similar interests: watching movies, attending festivals and concerts, and spending time with friends. The married couple now lives in Middletown. Chris works for Rainbow Design Services, and Melina has started her own photography business. How does Melina stave off any feelings of homesickness? Working three evenings a week at the Gasthaus German restaurant where she can speak German with the owners gives her a little taste of home. And, she recently watched Unknown, which was filmed in Berlin, and was excited to see a shot of the building she lived in the last three years she was there. “Of course I miss Berlin,” she says. “It is an amazing city. I feel an intense pride for it. But, I don’t miss it as much as I would miss Chris if we weren’t together.” TODAY’S WOMAN

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WEAR THE TRENDS Styling and story by ALISSA HICKS Photographs by MELISSA DONALD


e brave and layer in some trendy styles with your more classic looks. Here’s how and when to wear two of the newest trends. TREND: LEGGINGS RIGHT TIME TO WEAR IT: On the weekends. It’s a great casual, wearanywhere look. Pair together different leggings (even your workout leggings like we did here!) with your favorite sweaters. Also, try a scarf instead of a vest or pair with flats instead of boots. TIP: If your place of work is casual enough, pull this look off there or even when running errands and to lunch with girlfriends. Get creative and transition different pieces like your yoga leggings into different outfits. NICOLE ROBINSON IS WEARING: Boots from Modern Elegance, $160; Leggings from Pure Barre, Westport Village, $82; sweater from Modern Elegance, $168; vest from Chartreuse, $64; necklace from Chartreuse, $28.




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RIGHT TIME TO WEAR IT: Going out with friends. Mix and match prints; leopard and plaid is an unlikely but trendy combination. A good leather jacket and a neutral pair of booties can pull any look together. Staple items like these are good to invest in. TIP: Mix unlikely pairings such as an animal print and plaid like we did here or leather and lace, but remember not to overdo it. Simplicity is key! LEAH GERSTORFF IS WEARING: dress from Merci Boutique, $158; jacket from Apricot Lane, $69; scarf from Apricot Lane, $30; booties from Modern Elegance, $198; earrings by Summer Eliason, $74.




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hether you like it or loathe it, your hormones wield a lot of power over your body. They can make you feel calm and more confident or edgy and self-doubting, and that affects how you handle any situation—whether you freak out when your boss gives you a last-minute project, for instance, or find the willpower to resist a second piece of chocolate cake. We asked top experts to explain how you can use hormonal shifts to your advantage. Follow this guide to timing life by your cycle.

THE BEST TIME TO... Get a Mammogram


DAYS 1-9 Studies show that during this low-estrogen, low-progesterone phase, breast tissue tends to be less dense, so mammograms are more apt to spot small, hard-to-see tumors. But don’t postpone getting this crucial screening if you can’t make an appointment during the first two weeks of your cycle, cautions Robert Smith, Ph.D., director of cancer screening at the American Cancer Society. “Getting screened within the recommended time intervals [yearly for women age 40 and older] is crucial to catching breast cancer in its early, most treatable stages,” Smith explains.

Attack a Stressful Problem DAYS 3-10 When stress and female sex hormones are low, you’re biologically programmed to perform well under pressure, according to Dmitry M. Davydov, M.D., Ph.D., a Moscow-based psychiatrist and physiologist who studied the interaction between sex hormones (which drive the menstrual cycle), stress hormones, and mood. At other times of the month, you may feel less motivated to take on a stressful situation.

Take a Risk DAYS 3-10 Always wanted to try bungee jumping or snowboarding but couldn’t get up the nerve? Now’s the time to go for it. Not only are you better equipped to deal with stress right now, you’re also more willing to do something daring, says Dr. Davydov. Since your levels of sex hormones progesterone and estrogen are low, activities that boost your stress hormones can help restore your overall hormonal balance. In fact, around this time of the month many women unconsciously seek out stimulating events to elevate their cortisol and epinephrine levels. Otherwise you may start to feel bored or depressed, says Dr. Davydov.

Burn More Fat DAYS 15-28 As estrogen and progesterone levels rise during the two weeks before you get your period, so does your body’s ability to metabolize fat. “You’ll burn more fat not only when you’re exercising but when you’re at rest as well,” says Leanne M. Redman, Ph.D., a researcher at the Pennington Biomedical Research Center in Baton Rouge, La. So don’t skip your workouts during this time; in fact, try to make them harder or longer to maximize your fat-burning potential.

Make a Baby DAYS 10-13 If you have a typical 28-day cycle, you’re most likely to ovulate around day 13 or 14, during the ovulatory phase, says Nancy Klein, M.D., a reproductive endocrinologist at Seattle Reproductive Medicine in Washington. If your cycle doesn’t average 28 days, your most fertile time is probably about two weeks plus three to four days before your next period. If you have 35-day cycles, for example, that would be day 18, 19, 20 and 21. In any case, you should have sex every other day during your fertile window. “Sperm can reside in cervical mucus for several days, so you don’t have to be that precise,” says Dr. Klein. An egg, on the other hand, is viable for less than 24 hours, so it’s important to have the sperm on board before ovulation occurs.

Have Hot Sex DAY 13 “The day before you ovulate is when your libido is highest, orgasm is easier to achieve and is most intense. It’s a day you definitely don’t want to miss,” says Gabrielle Lichterman, author of 28 Days: What Your Cycle Reveals about Your Love Life, Moods, and Potential. This is also nature’s way of nudging you into bed, because that’s when you’re most fertile. It makes sense: If you have sex on day 13, there will likely be sperm waiting for the egg’s arrival on day 14. So grab your man and go for it. If you don’t want to get pregnant, be extra vigilant about birth control and use a condom to protect yourself against sexually transmitted diseases.

Ask for a Raise DAYS 10-13 In addition to hitting your sexual and fertile stride, days 10 to 13 are also the best times to ask for a raise or promotion. “The rise of progesterone, estrogen, testosterone, and other hormones in preparation for ovulation correlates with keener cognition abilities and verbal skills,” says Dr. Haltzman. You’re hormonally charged to think on your feet and defend your position if your boss throws you a curve. “Your confidence level also tends to go up, and you’re the most clearheaded right now,” he adds.

Make a Major Decision DAYS 24-28 Progesterone and estrogen levels ebb in the latter part of your cycle, and you become less impulsive. Your intuition also becomes razor-sharp, so if you’ve been pondering a big life change, now is the time to trust your instincts. “Days 24 to 28 are when your decisions are more conscious and less driven by hormonal changes you may not be aware of,” says Dr. Haltzman. Use this time to finally decide whether to move, tweak your career track, or adopt that puppy in the window.




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Networking and careerbuilding opportunities for women around town

Athena’s Sister Every 2nd & 4th Mon. • 6-8pm 1741 Frankfort Avenue Marlene Aldrich Perry 502.322.4135 BPW- Business and Professional Women- New Albany Every 3rd Mon. • 5:30pm Contact for info & reservation. Tuckers, 2441 State St. Nadine Wilkinson 502.523.1698 BPW- Business & Professional Women- River City Every 2nd Wed. • Noon Lunch and Program noon-1pm The Bristol-Downtown 614 West Main Street 502.499.4420, Bridge the Gap Professional Women Every 5th Sun. Heyburn Building 430 W. Muhammad Ali, Suite 24A Hazel Parrish, Chapter President 502.417.2566, Call to reserve. CBPW - Christian Business & Professional Women Every Second Thurs. (Odd months only) • Noon Hurstbourne Country Club 9000 Hurstbourne Club Lane Sharilyn Unthank 502.417.5481 Distinctive Women, Entrepreneurial Women Making a Difference Every 1st Mon • 6:30-8pm Email for meeting location Deleskia Butler 502.509.5521 EWI - Executive Women International- Kentuckiana Every 3rd Tues. • 5:30pm Contact for information & reservation Dotty Wettig

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The Heart Link Network Every 1st Wed. • 6:30pm Inverness at Hurstbourne Condos 1200 Club House Drive Barbara Madore 502.377.8625

Southern Indiana Women’s Networking Group Every 3rd Wed. • 11:30am Holiday Inn-Lakeview 505 Marriott Drive, Clarksville

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ZONTA- Advancing The Status of Women Every 1st Thurs. • 6pm Logan’s Steakhouse 5005 Shelbyville Road Joyce Seymour 502.553.9241 Listings are on per month basis. To list your meeting for free, email your meeting date, time, location, contact info and website to or call 502.327.8855 ext. 14. Deadline for inclusion in next issue is 12/8. TODAY’S WOMAN // // @todayswomannow @todayswomannow


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How Well Do You Know Wellness? with Jinjer Luca, a nurse practictioner from Family Care Physicians

Women, regardless of age, should get a pap smear once a year.

Chest pain is the most common symptom of heart disease in women.

Losing 10 percent of your body weight can lower blood pressure.

You should only see a primary care physician when you feel sick.

Writing with pen and paper everyday can help improve your overall health.

Use hand sanitizer as much as possible to stay germfree.

FALSE: Women used to be told to get a pap smear at the age of 21 or when they became sexually active. Now, women do not get a pap smear until the age of 21 and continue once every three years as long as past results have been normal.

FALSE: “Women don’t typically get chest pain with heart disease,” says Lucas. “They are more likely to have other symptoms such as jaw and arm pain or fatigue.”

TRUE: Losing just ten percent of your body weight can not only lower blood pressure but can also change cholesterol numbers. “Typically you hear of low fat diets, but studies have shown lowcarb diets to be more effective. You need some fats in your diet so concentrate on cutting carbs instead,” suggests Lucas.

FALSE: Every age group should visit a primary care physician at least once a year to get a checkup and general blood work.

TRUE: Writing with a pen and paper as well as reading actual paper books can lower stress and improve overall health. A different side of the brain is used when doing these activities and it lessens the use of electronic devices that can hinder your sleep. Turn off all electronic devices and pick up a pen about two hours before bedtime for a stressfree night’s sleep.

FALSE: “We are overusing hand sanitizer,” says Lucas. “Lower your risk of getting sick by washing your hands with plain soap and warm water. Only use hand sanitizer when soap and water is not available.”




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wenty years ago, the then-owners of the fledgling Today’s Woman had the great sense to hire a bright, young woman relocating to this area with her husband and two toddlers. Although her initial contract was for part-time assistance, Anita Oldham quickly began pouring herself into transforming the publication, and she hasn’t let up since. How much has Anita contributed to the growth of the magazine over the past 20 years? Let me count the ways! • She brought editorial integrity to the articles. Anita engages the best freelance writers, mixing them up every year, to ensure what you read is enjoyable, accurate, and fresh. She ensures variety within each magazine so there’s something of interest to everyone. As one reader so succinctly said, “Reading Today’s Woman is like being with a loving friend.” That’s Anita!


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We asked our readers to help us find some great recipes for the party season, and here’s what they brought to us. Read about our winners and their recipes at You will also find delicious recipes from our finalists! Our winners received a gift basket from A Taste of Kentucky.





Side Dish Winner — Kale Salad

Recipe by: Kayla Douthitt

Kale Salad Serves 4-6

Kayla Douthitt loves to cook and is always creating new dishes and working to replicate dishes she has enjoyed at her favorite restaurants.


1-1½ cup cubed butternut squash (from one medium sized squash) 4 cups (1 box) fresh baby kale 1 small red onion sliced * 1 /3 cup reduced fat blue cheese crumbles ½ cup dried cranberries 1 /4 cup sliced toasted almonds 1 /4 cup lite balsamic dressing ½ tsp cayenne 1 tbsp olive oil Salt and pepper to taste

Preheat oven to 375ºF.

DIRECTIONS: Toss butternut squash with olive oil, cayenne, salt, and pepper. Place on baking sheet. Bake 10-12 minutes, take out and toss and bake another 10-12 minutes until tender. (A Today’s Woman recipe tester roasted the onions with the squash — a great alternative). Once done, remove the squash from the oven and set aside. Place baby kale on large serving dish. Top with squash, sliced red onion, and cranberries. Drizzle dressing. Then place cheese and nuts on top. Serve immediately and enjoy! There are so many options and alternatives that you can use with this dish: add chicken or fish to make it a meal, add whole flax seeds, and an apple (chopped). Instead of almonds use your favorite nut, like walnuts or pecans; instead of blue cheese, choose gorgonzola or feta cheese.

Appetizer Winner — Spinach Dip Spinach Dip Serves 6-8


1 package of Knorr brand vegetable or leek soup mix 1 cup mayonnaise 1 cup sour cream 1 8-oz can of water chestnuts (chopped) 1 10-oz package frozen chopped spinach, thawed and thoroughly drained and squeezed dry (do not cook) 1 dash Worcestershire sauce

DIRECTIONS: In a medium bowl mix together the soup mix, mayonnaise, and sour cream until well blended. Chop the water chestnuts and add to the soup mixture. Squeeze dry the thawed spinach to remove all the excess water Add to the mixture along with the Worcestershire sauce. Refrigerate for at least 8 hours or overnight before serving. Alternative: add a ¼ cup of finely chopped onion or to taste. Serve with your favorite chips and crackers. Excellent served with tortilla chips. / / @todayswomannow

Recipe by: Tracy Snow

Tracy Snow has experimented a lot with this dish and has found the Knorr vegetable mix adds a nice color along with a great flavor to this dip.




Dessert Winner (tie) — Cranberry White Chocolate Oatmeal Cookies Cranberry White Chocolate Oatmeal Cookies Recipe by:

Makes approximately 2½ dozen cookies INGREDIENTS:

Suzanne Busse


/3 cup butter or margarine, softened /3 cup brown sugar 2 large eggs 1½ cups old-fashioned oats 1½ cups flour 1 teaspoon baking soda ½ teaspoon salt 1 5-ounce package dried cranberries 2 /3 cup white chocolate chunks or chips 2

Suzanne Busse uses a family oatmeal cookie recipe, which she altered by adding the dried cranberries and white chocolate chips (some of her favorite things).

Preheat oven to 375ºF. DIRECTIONS: Using an electric mixer, beat butter or margarine and sugar together in a medium mixing bowl until light and fluffy. Add eggs, mixing well. Combine oats, flour, baking soda and salt in a separate mixing bowl. Add to butter mixture in several additions, mixing well after each addition. Stir in dried cranberries and white chocolate chunks until just blended. Using a tablespoon, drop into rounds onto ungreased cookie sheets. Bake for 10-12 minutes or until golden brown. Cool on wire rack.

Dessert Winner (tie) — Rum Cake Rum Cake Makes One Bundt Cake

Recipe by:


Debra Nelson This cake is delicious and easy to make! Debra Nelson makes many of these during the holiday season for parties and as gifts. This cake tastes even better over time. A great touch of rum, but not overpowering. It is moist and full of flavor. If it lasts, cover with plastic wrap and refrigerate.




1 box of your favorite yellow cake mix (do not use cake mix with pudding in it) 1 box of instant vanilla pudding ½ cup water ½ cup oil 4 eggs ½ cup spiced rum ½ cup chopped pecans

Preheat oven to 325ºF. DIRECTIONS: In a mixer add the cake mix, vanilla pudding mix water and two eggs. Mix on low speed until the ingredients are just blended. Add the remaining eggs and the spiced rum and mix until everything is smooth. Do not over mix. Grease a Bundt pan with oil. Place chopped pecans in the bottom of the Bundt pan. Pour the cake mixture over the nuts and bake on the middle rack in the oven for 1 hour. Allow cake to cool for 5 minutes while cooking glaze.

GLAZE INGREDIENTS: 1 cup sugar 1 stick of butter ¼ cup water ½ cup rum

DIRECTIONS: In a medium sauce pan on the stove, bring the sugar, butter, and water to a boil and boil stirring constantly for 5 minutes. Remove from heat and add the rum. With the cake still in the Bundt pan, poke holes in the cake including the sides. Pour the glaze over the cake, with the cake still in the Bundt pan. Once the glaze has been poured, let it sit for 10 minutes, then invert the cake onto a decorative plate and sprinkle with powdered sugar.







In relationships…play…community By MARY ELLEN BIANCO


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ary Moss Greenebaum founded the University of Louisville Kentucky Author Forum (KAF) in 1996. Held at The Kentucky Center in four sessions per season, it’s a nationally recognized literary event featuring a candid conversation between an author and interviewer that is taped and distributed by Kentucky Education Television. “It highlights those who have impacted the world, nation, and our community,” Mary says. Past speakers include Madeleine Albright, Elizabeth Gilbert, and Tom Brokaw. “Nearly 20 years ago, when I came up with this idea, I spoke to a few people who I respected and particularly admired to get a reading,” Mary says. There were other excellent lecture series in Louisville that she didn’t want to duplicate. Over the years, people have asked Mary why she thinks it worked. “First, I had the luck of three reliable, continuing sponsors. “Secondly, I had a local team instead of going outside of Kentucky,” Mary recalls. “I wanted it to shine, and I identified at the beginning a team that made it.” An uncompromising attention to detail is what Mary thinks is the third factor. Each year involves dedication to a fearless interface with the publishing world, authors, and leaders in fields such as finance, politics, science, and the arts. “My two associate producers, Melissa Bernstrom and Jan Weintraub, are determined to make this

Author Elizabeth Gilbert (right) and University of Louisville Kentucky Author Forum Founder Mary Greenebaum backstage at a Forum event in 2009. Gilbert was interviewed by author ZZ Packer.

exceptional,” Mary says. “A real reward is that several years ago we were contacted by the WORLD Channel. They will be airing upcoming sessions in major TV markets across the country.” For those who have a passion to create something of their own, Mary has this advice: “There’s more opportunity than women realize for focusing on creative ideas, evaluating them, and proceeding to accomplish them,” she says. “Too often, people are inclined to be quelled. The circumstances around them will cause them to give up the concept. Often you have to identify an idea, look for its uniqueness, and let it fly.” To find out more about the KAF, go to

“There’s more opportunity than women realize for focusing on creative ideas, evaluating them, and proceeding to accomplish them.”


“I’ve heard you talk on your radio show about communicating with your spouse. Your ideas are great, and I have tried all of them to evoke conversation with my husband. In more than 20 years, nothing has ever gone undone as far as financial obligations, planning events, picking up kids, and juggling schedules. But I want to talk and share my deepest thoughts and emotions. When he doesn’t engage conversationally, it’s difficult for me to engage intimately. I love him, but I would also love to know how it feels to exchange more than looking and touching.” Find the 54



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If the term ‘the healing powers of music’ had a list of artists’ names associated with it, then hands-down, the platinum-selling songwriter/pianist Jim Brickman would be on it. Brickman’s 2014 holiday tour brings together the sounds of the season with his newest album On A Winter’s Night, along with holiday favorites and the hits that made him the most charted Billboard Adult Contemporary artist (i.e. Valentine, If You Believe, The Gift, Angel Eyes, and Sending You A Little Christmas), earning him two Grammy nods and four gold albums. The tour’s featured musical guests are singer Anne Cochran and electric violin virtuoso Tracy Silverman.

Six strangers gather at an elegant mansion, having received an invitation to a lavish holiday soirée only to discover that they are locked in for the night and that one of them is intent on murdering the others! But which guest? And why? Critically acclaimed as one of WhoDunnit’s all-time best productions, the show was written by A. S. Waterman. WHEN ~ Saturday evenings thru December 20, plus Fridays December 5 & 12 and Saturday, January 3. WHERE ~ Hilton Garden Inn Airport, 2735 Crittenden Drive TICKETS ~ $45.50 (includes dinner, show, tax and gratuity). Discounts for groups of 6 or more. CONTACT ~ 502.426.7100 or Advance reservations required.

A Wonderful Life


WHEN ~ December 18 @7:30pm WHERE ~ Brown Theatre TICKETS ~ start @ $25 CONTACT ~ Kentucky Center box office (walk up or drive thru) or 502.584.7777 or

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Forgive Me, It’s Christmas




Jim Brickman On A Winter’s Night Tour


Last mounted at DDP in 2009, this captivating musical version of Frank Capra’s film classic is set in 1945 and tells the story of George Bailey, a man who is continually setting aside his own dreams in order to keep his late father’s building and loan business afloat. But when the accidental error of his employee results in Bailey being threatened with jail, it is a guardian angel sent on Christmas Eve who pulls Bailey back from the brink of despair.

From the author of A Homeless Holiday, A Hanukkah Christmas, Salvage Yard, and Uncle Smiley’s Comin’ Home comes a new comedy. Meryl is about to receive a prestigious horseman’s award and needs his challenged older brother, Loomis, to put on his tuxedo for the occasion. But after Loomis gives it to a Jehovah’s Witness in a moment of generosity, all heck breaks loose. Even worse, the brothers’ greedy cousins are about to come knocking at the door in hopes of breaking the family trust before Loomis can come into a newfound inheritance. WHEN ~ December 5-21, matinees and evening performances WHERE ~ Henry Clay Building, 604 South Third St. TICKETS ~ General admission $22 CONTACT ~ 502.585.5306 or

WHEN ~ running through December 31, matinees and evening performances WHERE ~ Derby Dinner Playhouse, Clarksville, Ind. TICKETS ~ $36-$45. Group rates for 20 or more. CONTACT ~ 812.288.8281 or TODAY’S WOMAN / / @todayswomannow







NAME: Karen McKinley AGE: 57 JOB: Owner, All Starz Gymnastics and Cheerleading LIVES IN: New Albany For Karen McKinley, a day at work is filled with back handsprings, back tucks, and 150 eager students. The owner of All Starz Gymnastics and Cheerleading says choosing her profession was natural since her mother and a cousin were cheerleaders. “When I was a child, I would always be tumbling in the front yard, and my dad would say, ‘Go to the back to tumble because you are putting holes in the yard,’” she says. Karen began taking gymnastics at age 11, but her teacher required that she also take dance lessons. By 16, she began teaching kids dance and acrobatics in the same studio where she took dance lessons. The combination of teaching and genuine love for gymnastics led to Karen opening the first gymnastics facility in New Albany at age 25. Ironically, the facility was built across the street from the dance studio she attended as a child. Karen, who describes herself as an overachiever, says working with the kids fuels her ambition. “Knowing that I get to go in there every day and see what they accomplish keeps me motivated. If I don’t go to the gym, I feel like I am letting the kids down.” FASHION SHE’S WEARING: “I am a jeans girl, or I wear an edgy black dress with leggings and heels.” SKIN CARE PRODUCT SHE’S LOVING: “Nerium. It is like magic because it tightens my skin and makes it more radiant. I put it on at night and then wash it off and apply their brand of moisturizer.”

Before I Go...

“I have lunch with my boyfriend Billy every day at either Kansai or Jimmy John’s, and then I go to work at the gym.” 58



LATEST CHEERLEADING/GYMNASTICS MOVE SHE’S TEACHING: “My students are learning the Arabian Twist. It is a tumbling move that is more challenging. The more difficult the skill, the more I want to teach it.”


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