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APRIL 2010

Better Student – Better Future By Amanda Harvey

@ Your Library By Cecilia Hurt Barham

Wise County 4-H News By Remi Swensson

HISTORY WISE By Rosalie Gregg

LAYING DOWN THE LAW By James Stainton

HEARTSTRINGS By Glenn Walker

WISE COUNTY’S MOST VALUABLE RESOURCE By Mandy Hays

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On The Cover: Raina Wilkerson loves hunting those special eggs at the Decatur Public Library’s Easter Egg Hunt.

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In Each Issue: Better Student - Better Future . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 At Your Library . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7 Wise County 4-H News . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9 History Wise . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 10 Laying Down The Law . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11 Heartstrings . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 13 Wise County’s Most Valuable Asset . . . . . . . . . . . 14

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The true harbinger of spring is not crocuses or swallows returning to Capistrano, but the sound of the bat on the ball. Bill Veeck

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Luke Broussard (13 months old) of Decatur, attending his very first Fort Worth Stock Show recently taken by his grandfather, Dr. Jimmy L. Horner.


BETTER STUDENT – BETTER FUTURE By Amanda Harvey, Center Director, Decatur Sylvan Learning Center

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Sitting quietly, doing nothing, spring comes and the grass grows by itself. Zen Saying

hroughout our lives, we read directions or instructions to perform a task, we read newspapers, magazines, and other publications to be informed and we read stories, poetry, and plays for the literary experience. Students are now required on state exams to have solid reading skills and children who do not master “reading for different purposes” may have difficulty completing job-related tasks or reading for enjoyment as an adult. As students become more sophisticated readers, their reading behaviors become more analytical and their thinking more abstract. Children in elementary and middle school begin to dissect words and word parts for meaning and continue to expand their vocabularies. Also, the older students become, the more they read for enjoyment in areas of personal interest. The more students read, the more enjoyable reading becomes and the more those skills are used in real-life situations. Add it iona l ly, t he se sk i l ls transfer to classroom learning and, ultimately, lead to higher standardized test scores. To help parents nurture their children’s reading behaviors, the experts at Sylvan Learning recommends that parents spend at least one hour per week – 10 to 15 minutes a day – engaged

in a language arts activity with their children. Sylvan offers these tips and ideas for encouraging “reading for different purposes” and increasing comprehension: • Encourage children to read a variety of texts, including book s, poems, magazine a nd ne w spaper a r t ic les, instr uctiona l manua ls, cookbooks, and comic books. • L ook at e ver y read ing opport unit y as a chance to strengthen reading and comprehension skills. • Identify a purpose for reading anything that includes text, ranging from a menu, to an advertisement, to a recipe, to a science textbook, to a fulllength novel. Is the purpose to entertain, inform, describe, or persuade? • Actively engage your child in

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If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant: if we did not sometimes taste of adversity, prosperity would not be so welcome. Anne Bradstreet

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@ YOUR library By Cecilia Hurt Barham

April is Library Month! Born to be a librarian, Cecilia Barham began reading when she was three and was a library aide in elementary school. After earning a Master’s degree in English, she finally realized her true calling and continued her education to become a librarian. She has worked in both academic and public libraries and has found her home at the Decatur Library, where she serves as Library Director. She is professionally active and currently serves as the president of the North Texas Library Consortium and chair-elect of the Public Libraries Division of the Texas Library Association. She may be contacted at cbarham@ decaturtx.org.

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n April, the American Library Association celebrates libraries in two important ways. First during the week of April 13 -19, libraries across the country will celebrate National Library Week, and then on the April 15 they celebrate National Library Workers Day.

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National Library Week Libraries of all kinds continue to be engines of learning, literacy, a nd economic development in communities nationw ide. Americans are acting on their conviction that school library media centers are a key element in delivering the kind of education the next generation needs in order to succeed in a global society and public libraries are redoubling their efforts to serve linguistically isolated communities. These are among the findings detailed in the 2008 State of America’s Libraries report, released each year as part of National Library Week, observed this year from April 13-19. Americans check out more than 2 billion items each year from their public libraries, according to the report. At your library in Decatur, almost 100,000 items were checked out in 2009. Nationwide, the average user takes out more than

seven books a year, but patrons also go to their libraries to borrow DVDs, learn new computer skills, conduct job searches and participate in the activities of local community organizations. The average bill to the taxpayer nationwide for this remarkable range of public services: $31 a year, about the cost of one hardcover book. At your library, the average cost per citizen is substantially lower, at only $24.00 per resident. Your community’s return on investment, in terms of services for 2009 was 147%. New studies provide solid ev idence t hat t he nat ion’s public libraries are engines of economic growth, contributing to local development through programming in early literacy, employment services and smallbusiness development. Other studies show that libraries provide an excellent return on investment, have a measurable positive impact

on the local economy and contribute to the stability, safety and quality of life of their neighborhoods. National Library Workers Day The theme for National Library Workers Day is “Libraries Work Because We Do,” which focuses on how library services depend on the important work done by each library staff member and department. It is common to hear people talk about “Googling” something to find an answer, but when Google gives you over 50,000 results, it is your librarian that can help you find out which is correct. You may find self checkouts at grocery stores and large libraries, but at your library there is always someone to help you and serve you with a smile. It is our honor and our pleasure, not just our job, to serve you each day. So, we will be celebrating National Library Week and National Library Workers Day by serving you! ■

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April Fools Day 10k Run April 1 Sponsored by and supporting the Bridgeport Education Foundation. Contact: Marti Hines, 940-626-9455 or Stacy Riley, sriley@bridgeportisd.net 3rd Annual Barnett Shale Sporting Clay Shoot April 2 $100 per person or $500 per team. Sponsored by Bridgeport Tank Trucks, benefiting the Bridgeport Visitors Center. Contact: Teri Bland, 940-683-2076  Easter Eggstravaganza April 3, 9:00 am Activities include Easter bonnet contest, sidewalk chalk drawing, carrot decorating, a parade with the Easter Bunny, and Easter egg hunt at 11:00 am. Harwood Park, 707 Hovey Street, Bridgeport 

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District 5 Playdays April 3, Noon Open to any rider of any age. Cost is $1.50/event with 6 events each day.  Negative Coggins required. Jack County Rough Riders. Contact: BJ Parham 817-253-3075 or Wendy Vann 817-360-1214, www.narcsp.org Easter Brunch April 4 Decatur Civic Center, 2010 W Highway 380, Decatur $20.00 per person. Contact:  940-627-2369 Dazzle Me Pink Fashion Show & Luncheon April 7, Noon Fashions from local stores will be modeled to benefit the Women’s Health Center. Sponsored by Wise Regional Health Foundation. Decatur Civic Center, 2010 W US Highway 380, Decatur Contact: Christy Raasch, 940-626-1384 1st Annual Decatur Chamber of Commerce Sporting Clay Shoot • April 23 Fossil Pointe Sporting Grounds, 756 CR 2622, Slidell Contact:  Misti Hudson, 940-627-3107 Wise County Health Fair April 24, Saturday, 9am-1pm Decatur Civic Center. FREE ADMISSION Contact: Toni 940210-1151 Off 380 Players April 29-May 2 and May 6-9, 7:30 pm, 2:30 pm on Sundays Presents “Nunsense”, The Bridgeport Stage, 1009 Halsell, Bridgeport Contact: 940-389-7151 or www.off380players.org.

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wise county 4-H News From Remi Swensson

The Extension Service – Our Link Between 4-H and Our Future

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’d like to share a little about how I go about writing this article each month. It will help explain my topic, too. Usually, I ask our 4-H Extension Agent what I should focus on that is relevant to 4-H or see if he has any ideas. My Mom and I think of a few questions that folks might want answers to about that topic. Then I sit down and write answers to questions.  After that, depending on how close to our deadline for publication we are, I will type my answers on the computer and try and get everything in order so it makes sense, or my Mom will type as I read what I wrote and then we will edit and fix it so it is more organized. This month, we needed to come up with a topic ourselves.  Our 4-H County Extension Agent is relocating to another

county in South Texas.  So Mom thought it might be a good idea to investigate and share a little about the Extension Service which is the center for 4-H in any county or state in the U.S.  Extension People are part of land grant universities. Land grant universities were created by an act of our US Congress when they passed the Morrill Act in 1862, which provided for a university in each state to provide education to citizens in agricultural and mechanical fields. Then in 1914 Congress pa s s e d t he Sm it h L e v er Act which provided for the establishment of the Cooperative Extension Service. It was created by the U.S. Congress because of concern for the education of the average citizen.   Texas A& M joined the service in June 1914, and the

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Texas Agricultural Extension Ser vice became part of the Texas A&M system. Then in 1915, the Texas legislature accepted the provisions of the Smith-Lever Act and assigned the Texas Extension Service to Texas A&M for administration.  The Extension service and their people helped focus and increase our agriculture and livestock through the War years and later major areas of program emphasis were efficiency in production and marketing, distribution and utilization of farm products, conservation, development and wise use of natural resources, farm management, leadership development, family living, c om mu n it y i mp r o v e m e nt , resource development, and public affairs. The 4-H Clubs are the major youth organization and the focus of Extension is updated to

Remi Swensson is a Wise County 4-H’er and serves as the Public Relations Officer for the Wise County 4-H Council. She is the 4th generation in her family to participate in 4-H. provide education to meet current needs in our area. 4-H was around before the Extension Service was created since 4-H was started in the northern plains around 1904 and Texas formed the beginnings of 4-H clubs in 1908. The link with Extension to the universities and knowledgeable agents in our counties has kept 4-H as the largest youth organization in the United States. We wish our former 4-H Agent Good Luck in his new county! ■

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history wise

By Rosalie Gregg

The Waggoner Mansion

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Rosalie Gregg was born near Hayden, New Mexico. Ms. Gregg graduated from Paradise High School and from Decatur Baptist College. She married Robert Nolen Gregg, Jr., who had been a Prisoner of War for 3-1/2 year during which time he helped build the railroad that led to the Bridge over the River Kwai in Thailand. Ms. Gregg has been involved with the Wise County Heritage Museum since its inception in 1967. www.wisehistory.com

he Waggoner Mansion, located at the end of Main Street in the City of Decatur, Texas, was built by Mr. Dan Waggoner for a growing family.  Sometimes called “El Castile.” This is a large home, situated on a hill east of town, sitting on thirteen and one-half acres.  It consists of two stories, sixteen rooms, with a full basement. “Thistle Hill” by Roze Porter, describes the mansion in Decatur thusly:  “It was constructed of old fossilferous limestone and decorated with handcrafted wrought iron on the roof and balconies. Half-moon-shaped stained glass added an arrangement of color to the tops of the windows, and to the large massive hand carved entrance door. At the peak of the house, an ornate cupola gave great height to the stately home. “The inviting first floor entrance hall revealed a winding stairway sweeping up to the second floor.  Hand carved Texas Star motif decorated the walnut and oak stairway and wood work throughout the house.  Massive doors with solid brass hardware, stood sixteen feet tall minifying the tall ceilings.  Three of the huge

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doors enhanced with stained glass projected dancing rays of colored light in the interior. “Adding an air of elegance to the front parlor hung a beautiful ornate chandelier. Wrought iron and handmade isinglass fixtures from Denver, complimented the Victorian library, large dining room with two halls. Also, on the first floor were five bedrooms, three marble baths, a keeping room, butler’s pantry, and a huge kitchen with copper sink and accessories.” “The second floor contained a large game room, three bedrooms and two marble baths.  The house is enclosed by a wrought iron fence with ‘El Castile’ over the archway.”   In the late 1960’s the house was offered to the Wise County Historical Society, Inc., for the sum of $45,000.00. We were just getting started as an organization, and had no funds. Could we have only seen into the future!!  Think what we could have done with the property with what we have spent where we are. Perhaps it was meant to be, in order for us to restore the Administration building for the old college. ■ THE MANSION IS NOT OPEN TO THE PUBLIC.

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laying down the law

By James Stainton

Get Outside With Your Kids

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f you haven’t noticed, things are heating up outside. Spring is in full swing and summer will be here before you know it. Most of you know that I am an avid hiker and I spend quite a bit of time outdoors, especially during the summer. I would like to encourage you to take a bit of time this summer and get outdoors. If you have kids then you understand what it means to be busy with school, homework, and extracurricular activities. That said, there are so many things you can do as a family outside of your daily routine that involve little to no money and pay big dividends with the kids. Here are my top three things that I

regularly do outside with the kids during Spring and Summer. 1. Do yard work. I know it sounds crazy, but getting outside to pull weeds, clean up sticks, plant flowers, and generally work in the dirt is one of the best ways I have found to spend time with my family. It takes very little time to make a difference that your kids can be proud of. 2. Take a short walk. A 30 minute walk from time to time allows you to get a bit of fresh air away from the TV and game console. More importantly, it gives you a chance to chat with the kids about their day and what is

important in their world. Besides, a bit of exercise does us all good. 3. Eat outside. Really? Yes, at the very least take your dinner outside and eat as a family or, even better, pack it all up and go to the park. You gotta eat, right? Take that hour you would be cooped up in the house or in front of the TV and take a mini (very mini) vacation. After all, it’s free. `Whatever your choice of activity, just be sure that you and your family get out regularly. Those precious moments working and playing together mean more than you can imagine to your kids. ■

After seven years in private practice, James Stainton took office as the Wise County Attorney in January 2009.  James works with the Wise County Teen Court and Wise County Domestic Violence Task Force and believes that only through involvement and action can we make a difference in our community.

Spring is when you feel like whistling even with a shoe full of slush. Doug Larson

Enjoying Spring Break at the Zoo with Friends.  Roan Massey, Henry Oberg, Blane Worley, Harrison Oberg, Brock Worley

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Brock Worley celebrating his 3rd Birthday with friends.

For every person who has ever lived there has come, at last, a spring he will never see. Glory then in the springs that are yours. Gunner’s “First Fish.”

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Heartstrings

by Glenn Walker

Spring

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ith the change of seasons, I’m reminded of something I once heard about what the change of seasons meant as it related to a farmer. As I recall, Spring was the time that the ground was prepared for the planting of seeds. The soil was tilled and loosened making the earth an ideal cradle for the seeds that are to be planted. Soon new life would spring forth and grow, producing an abundance of that which was planted. But, the tilling and planting is only the beginning, there is much more to be done. Weeds sprout up among the plants and must be removed; the crop will need adequate moisture and the proper temperatures. Some things can be controlled, some can’t. And so it goes with the budding musician; from the moment that the desire to play an instrument is implanted in a person’s psyche, a process begins that may produce a harvest of music that feeds the soul, or a fruitless, less than satisfying outcome. The good news is that the desire to play music doesn’t depend on as many outside influences; come rain or shine you can grow as a musician. I frequently have conversations with potential students and parents of potential

students about whether they should pursue learning to play an instrument. I’d like for all of them to learn to play so they can have the rewards that come from playing. However I’ve found that many people haven’t counted the costs of becoming a musician. It takes a lot of dedication. For those who decide that being a musician is a part of their future here are a few thoughts that I hope will encourage you. First, know that it won’t be easy but as you practice and work at it playing does get easier. Second, Bad habits will sprout up like weeds and are easiest to conquer with knowledge and persistence. The time you spend on the basics is key to your success. Third, just as in growing a crop, time is a big factor in becoming a good musician. Trying to play pieces that are above a student’s skill level is perhaps the biggest reason for abandonment of the dream of playing. Now is the season for starting something new. Prepare yourself and choose what you want to reap later. Tend your garden and be sure to take time to smell the roses along the way. ■

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Wise County’s Most Valuable Resource By Mandy Hays

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ot too far beneath the surface of the communities of Wise County, there lies a tremendous resource. There are no mineral rights involved, nor is there any need to change the landscape or adjust for the demands of tapping into this reserve. I’m talking of a bottomless resource, which sounds too good to be true in this climate of scarcity and want. That resource is our teenagers. There’s a group that is spreading virally, thanks to the internet and social networking sites, which was created and is now run almost exclusively by teenagers all over the country. This group has nothing to do with the risk-taking behaviors or timeless rebelliousness that can be viewed on YouTube or the nightly news. Instead, this group, called the Circle of Friends, is an organization of young people that give up their lunch period of eating with friends, instead opting to eat with the oft-overlooked physically and mentally challenged members of the student body. The group operates with very little input or faculty sponsorship. Stop to look at your own beliefs about teens. Do you think they are lazy? Unmotivated? Apathetic? Ouch. But you are not in the minority if you do. The perception of teens as lazy is

perpetuated through television and movies, and has been around for generations. Along with the increased minimum wage, the belief that teens do not make good workers rates at the top of the list of explanations for the 25.5% teen unemployment rate in the country. A recent Canadian study shows just the opposite. Teens, on average, actually worked the equivalent of a 50 hour work week, largely unpaid. Initiatives that involve teens as the primary stakeholders, such as Circle of Friends and a nationwide commun it y improvement initiative called Community Works are springing up with the help of the intense network that teenagers comprise. In an April 2007 article for Scientific American Mind regarding myths about the teenage brain, Dr. Robert Epstein says, “Teens have the potential to perform in exemplary ways but we hold them back by infantilizing them and trapping them in the frivolous world of teen culture.” We can overlook the potential in our teens. In 1991, a study was conducted on teens in rural communities all over the world. Among the important conclusions drawn: about 60 percent of these societies had no word for “adolescence.” Look at

this: In those societies studied, teens spent almost all their time with adults, teens showed almost no signs of maladaptive behavior, and criminal and defiant behavior in teenage males was completely absent in more than half of these cases. When it was observed, those behaviors were considered “extremely mild.” What’s true in Wise County is this. Because we live in what is still a largely rural area, our lives ref lect the benef its of living in such a place: closer communities, an atmosphere of cooperation, and interaction between people from different generations. As we become more urbanized, however, histor y proves that those community and cross-generationa l ties dissolve. Where are young people without the benefit of that kind of interaction? Look around at other communities to the east of us. The communit y is facing increased challenges as we look more and more like the suburb that we have been on the fringe of becoming all these years. Its time for unity in addressing the challenges that come with size. History and research point to the following two things that will enable this to work: 1. Teens need to have a chance to be involved. The United Way

is strong in Wise County, and offers a plentitude of volunteer work opportunities for teens and adults, alike. The chance to work outside of themselves w ith similarly motivated adults has proven to be a valuable method for curbing the pressures that come with teen-hood. 2. Teens need the chance to work alongside adults. Let’s face it— one of the greatest pleasures in life is to pass ideals and lessons on to the next generation. And the chance to work with adults, as adult equals, is one of the factors mentioned in the 1991 study. You can’t learn to be a plumber without working alongside other plumbers— right? So how do you learn to be an adult? We have a challenge that can only bring us closer together. Let’s step up together to encourage and work with our teens. If we do, the bonds that tie generations together for mutual benefit will survive, and groups like Circle of Friends will be only the tip of the iceberg. Our future depends on harvesting the most abundant resource in the area, and it is a resource that is completely recession-proof. ■

All my life I have tried to pluck a thistle and plant a flower wherever the flower would grow in thought and mind. Abraham Lincoln

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APRIL 2010

CORINA’S CLOSET By Corina Rodriquez

DAVE SAYS By Dave Ramsey

Inside the box By Michael Dunham

ENDLESS SALES By Bob Burg

Life Skills By Deborah King

Virtually Yours By Deborah Reynolds

Women’s OCCUPATIONAL WORKSHOP

By Keitha Story-Stephenson

MARKETING THE INVISIBLE By Kim Tinkham


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Corina’s Closet By Corina Rodriquez

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Corina Rodriguez has over 20 years experience in the Fashion Industry. She modeled with Kim Dawson Agency, styled wardrobe for various Fashion shoots and TV sets, worked for major High end retailers such as Neiman Marcus and Saks Fifth Avenue and is the founder and Operator of Corina’s Boutique.

eggings, jeggings, jeggings ... jean leggings. They are all over the fashion magazines and style shows. You may tire of hearing about them, but you will never tire of wearing them. Jeggings are a great “doable” trend for everyone.  They are very comfortable and flatter a variety of sizes and ages. Lately women have been asking, “Can I wear jeggings, and how should I wear them?  Pictured in this article are several looks with one pair of jeggings and one pair of versatile flats. Jeggings

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also look great with a fabulous pair of platform pumps, wedges, sandals or flip-flops.  Jeggings are the hottest rage for Spring and you will find them in practically every shopping venue. They are not expected to be a short lived fancy.  Expect  them to gain popularity into the Fall as well. A few other trends for Spring are bright colors, floral prints and appliqués and animal prints. Great news for all you animal print “Divas” out there! Accessory trends for Spring are mixing things up with color,   texture and a  feminine flair. Jewelry or shoes do not have to be so “matchy matchy” any more.  As a matter of fact, an eclectic look shows creativity and confidence. As seen in this month’s pictures, a black top does not require black shoes and a floral print top can be worn with a gingham print ribbon necklace. Simply try to stay within the same color family when working with bright colors, like the orangered  enamel heart necklace

worn with the animal print tunic, which has orange and pink f loral appliqués.  As always have fun and be confident in your choices. ■ Editor’s Note: Several of our readers have requested a Fashion Q & A article. Please feel free to submit your fashion questions to Corina at fashion @wisewomanmagazine.com. She will do her best to answer your fashion  questions in future articles.

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Dear Dave, Is it worth the trouble to sell my old car now and buy a hybrid or another car that gets better gas mileage? I’m getting mixed advice from my friends on this issue. — Ted

Dear Ted, Hybrids are a really big deal now, aren’t they? Lots of people want to get rid of their $10,000 cars and buy these $25,000 cars so they can save on gas. Let’s take a closer look at this. So, you’re going to spend $15,000 extra to save on gas. Did you ever think about how long it will take to get your money back? Let’s say you go

from averaging 15 miles per gallon to 25 miles per gallon, and you drive 100 miles each week. That will save you about $10 a week at recent, average gas prices. That means it would take almost 29 years to get your money back in this deal. Does this make sense to you? It sure doesn’t to me! Listen, I’m all about saving money on gas. But people have lost their minds if they think it makes sense to go $15,000 into debt—or spend $15,000 cash—to save $10 a week on this kind of deal. The truth is that a lot of people who do this kind of thing aren’t as worried about the environment or saving gas as they are about having that “I’m cool in a hybrid” feeling. Hybrids are a really new technology and that means they’re going to improve rapidly. You don’t want to buy a first generation hybrid and then have to go through the pain of trying to sell the

thing five years from now. Talk about something that’s going to go down in value like a rock! Now, if you’re driving an $8,000 car that absolutely drinks gas, and you want to sell it and buy some little $8,000 gas sipper, I’m fine with that. But don’t use the gas argument to rationalize buying an expensive new car or even spending a dime more on a different car. Make a lateral move, or better yet a move down in price, and you’ll save money from day one! — Dave   Dear Dave, Should you skip vacations when you’re getting out of debt? Also, once you’re debtfree, is there a rule as to what percentage of your income you should use on vacations? — Carl Dear Carl, I think you should put vacations on hold while you’re

My Mom used to cut chicken, chop eggs and spread mayo on the same cutting board with the same knife and no bleach, but we didn’t seem to get food poisoning.  My Mom used to defrost hamburger ( or the Thanksgiving turkey - gasp!!! ) on the counter. Our school sandwiches were wrapped in wax paper in a brown paper bag, not in ice-pack coolers, but I can’t remember getting e.coli.

Black and White  (Under age 35? You won’t understand.)  You could hardly see for all the snow,  Spread the rabbit ears as far as they go.  Pull a chair up to the TV set,  ‘Good Night, David. Good Night, Chet.’ 

Almost all of us would have rather gone swimming in the lake or river instead of a pristine pool (talk about boring); and no beach closures then.  The term cell phone would have conjured up a phone in a jail cell, and a pager was the school PA system.  Flunking gym was not an option, even for stupid kids! I guess PE must be much harder than gym. Speaking of school, we all said prayers and sang the national anthem, and staying in detention after school brought all sorts of negative attention when we got home.  

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trying to get out of debt. My family and I didn’t go on vacation for nearly 10 years while we were getting out of debt. Why? Because we had work to do! We had bills to pay and kids to feed. That’s just the way it goes sometimes. I’m not sure that there’s a specific percentage involved on vacation spending. It definitely shouldn’t damage your f inancial foundation, or put you back into debt once you’ve worked your way out. You don’t touch your emergency fund to go on vacation, and you don’t stop funding your retirement or saving money so the kids can go to college. You just save up, and pay cash! In most cases, this kind of plan will almost force your vacation spending to be a reasonable percentage of your income. — Dave For more financial help, please visit daveramsey.com.

We all took gym, not PE, and risked permanent injury with a pair of high top Ked’s (only worn in gym) instead of having cross-training athletic shoes with air cushion soles and built in light reflectors. I can’t recall any injuries, but they must have happened because they tell us how much safer we are now.  We must have had horribly damaged psyches. What an archaic health system we had then. Remember school nurses? Ours wore a hat and everything.  I thought that I was supposed to accomplish something before I was allowed to be proud of myself. We didn’t act up at the neighbor’s house either because if we did, we got our butt spanked there and then we got butt spanked again when we got home.  Oh yeah .. and where was the Benadryl and sterilization kit when I got that bee sting? I could have been killed!   LOVE TO ALL OF US W HO SHARED THIS ERA, AND TO ALL WHO DIDN’T; SORRY FOR WHAT YOU MISSED. I WOULDN’ T TRADE IT FOR ANYTHING. 


Inside The Box By Michael Dunham

Q. Is it better to leave my computer running, or turn it off ever y night? A. It depends. How old is your computer? Your computer’s age is important, because of the few moving parts inside the box. The power supply fan, CPU fan, case fan, as well as the hard drive are spinning hundreds of revolutions per minute, every minute your computer is running! Whew! Manage these things by adjusting the power management settings found in your screen saver menus. These moving parts have a finite number of revolutions until failure. Oddly, some older computers should be

kept running! To prevent freeze-ups, it is easier to just keep spinning. With proper cleaning, a soft brush, and blow off duster can extend the life of these components. Consult a computer specialist if you are not sure how to clean you computer, and ask him to show you. When does your computer update itself? The flipside of turning your computer off is some programs run at night. You need to know which ones and when. • B a c k u p s s h o u l d b e scheduled after hours. They take time and affect system performance. Here is an idea, schedule a backup at lunchtime. You get

nourished, and your data gets a new lease on life! • Operating system updates can be scheduled. Make sure your computer is "conscious" and able to perform them. • Antivirus programs not only update, but they run scheduled scans while your snoozing. Don't let your computer sleep through guard duty! This is of primary importance to satellite internet users, because they are allowed limited data usage during prime-time. However, during non-peak they have unlimited use. Don't let updates use up your daily quota, schedule them after hours. So, in summary: To shut

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Virtually Yours By Deborah Reynolds

Social Media: You Can Run, But You Can’t Hide

Deborah Reynolds, Owner of DediKated Resource Virtual Administrative Solutions, virtually assists solo and small business owners in growing their businesses and educating them on Web 2.0 technologies. She is a Certified Social Media Specialist and Internet Marketing Virtual Assistant, and specializes in establishing a local online presence. For more information on her services, please visit www.dedikatedresosurce. com, and follow her on Twitter @DediKatedVA.

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ocial media is not a trend, it is the future of marketing and businesses simply can’t afford to hide from it. Social Media is powerful because it is consumer driven and viral. People are more likely to buy from a recommendation. Social media only requires a small investment of your

time and offers unlimited possibilities. Companies such as BestBuy, Dell, and Pepsi are using social media for marketing and to engage with their customers. BestBuy has a tremendous presence on Twitter, with actual employees answering customer’s questions… in real time. Dell has generated $6.5 million in sales from their presence on Twitter. And, Pepsi made the decision not to advertise during the Super Bowl for the first time in 23 years and instead invested their advertising dollars into social media. Why? Because that’s where the people are daily. Social media is here to stay, just look at these statistics: • Social media is the #1

activity on the internet • If Facebook was a country, it would be the 4th largest country in the world • Twitter experienced 1922% growth in 2009 • Gen-Y will outnumber Baby Boomers in 2010 and 96% have joined a social network • 85% of socia l med ia users want their favorite businesses to engage with them on social media Now is the time to get your business into social media! So, create a strategy and determine which social media avenue to use. Using social media the right way will build a relationship with your audience (potential customers). Be real, offer your expertise, and be engaging.

Using social media the wrong way could be harmful to your business. Don’t over promote, don’t share only about your business, and don’t be too personal. Find a balance of both, and treat others as you want to be treated. Virtually Yours Tip of the Month: Try not to get overwhelmed w ith socia l med ia, it ’s impossible to maintain a presence everywhere. Find out where your target market is and focus your time and energy on that social media avenue. Whatever avenue you choose needs to be a good fit for your personality and comfort zone, otherwise you won’t be active enough to see any results. ■

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Go-Give Your Way to Endless Sales By Bob Burg

Giving Without Attachment to Receiving Results in Receiving More

C Bob Burg is co-author of the Wall St. Journal and Business Week Bestseller, ‘The Go-Giver’ and the soon-to-be-released (Feb ‘10) ‘Go-Givers Sell More’. You may download a free Chapter at www.burg.com.

ontrary to what many believe, t here is nothing

“Pollyanna” about being a giver. In fact, giving without an emotional attachment to receiving is your surest route to higher sales, greater production, and ultimate prosperity. It sounds somewhat counterintuitive, doesn’t it? However, if you truly observe and take notice, you’ ll come to the conclusion that the most successful salespeople; the top-producers . . . are givers. Or, what my co-author, John David Mann and I would call, Go-Givers. This doesn’t mean they are martyrs or anyone’s doormat – not by any means. They have simply mastered the art of taking their eyes off

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of themselves and, instead, focusing on how the can bring value to the lives of others. The typical question most salespeople ask themselves before giv ing someone a referral or doing any type of kindness is, “If I do this for him, what will he do for me?” Instead, see how much you can give without feeling the need to receive anything in return. Why? Because, as speaker and author, Jim Pancero says, “ You cannot give yourself away.” It simply cannot happen. In other words, long before you’ve expended your resources, much, much more will already have come back to you. Directly from everyone you’ve helped? Certainly not. But bounty will come from three sources (in terms of “earthly sources” of course). #1 Direct referrals from some of those to whom you have given referrals. They appreciate the value you’ve provided them and feel only the most positive desire to provide value to you, as well. They know you, like you and trust you; they want to see you succeed. #2 Referrals from the referrals you received from #1. Yes, one of the nice benefits of having a referred prospect is that they already see you as a referral-

based professional. After all, that’s how they met you. So, in their belief system, you meet your prospects through referrals, you make the sale, and then you receive referrals from them to others. And . . . #3 The general population that hears about you from those whose lives you somehow touch. I love how my friend, the noted business coach and networking aut hor it y, L en i Chauv in describes it (I’m paraphrasing here – Leni says it better): “You’ll soon be the one whom others call to ask for advice. They’ll tell you that “Mary told me you’d know where to . . . “ Once that starts happening, the momentum is with you. Referrals will trickle, stream, and then gush from the fountain of prosperity. The best part is that you did it through giving first and teaching (by example) others how to do the same. By the way, notice I never suggested you give without expecting to receive? I never used that term. I want you to expect to receive. Expect to receive big-time from life. I just don’t want you to be emotionally attached to it having to be from anyone in particular. That’s a big difference. ■

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Life skills By Deborah King, AICI CIP

Civility In Action Deborah King is President of Final Touch Finishing School, Inc. which she founded in 1989 in Seattle. As a certified image professional, with over 30 years of experience, she presents her programs nationally and internationally for youth and corporate clients. She is co-author of “Image Power” and “Executive Etiquette Power” and developer of several education tools. www.finaltouchschool.com. www.facebook.com/deborah.king1 www.linkedin.com/in/finaltouchfinishingschool

Wise Woman Magazine agrees with Ms. King. Please see our Civility Proclamation on page 9.

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ivility is demonstrated in small daily acts of k indness, done w ithout fanfare, that create the fabric of a healthy society. Civ i l it y in act ion is experienced when a person places their trash in a garage can, drives without being distracted by texting or talking on their cell phone, fully listens to every person they are in conversation with, speaks well of others, avoids asking personal questions, responds to phone calls, emails and RSVPS, is on time for meetings and events, is kind to animals, avoids constant complaining, thinks before they speak, respects the opinion of others – especially when they differ from your own, expresses gratitude to others, and is quick to apologize when they have wronged another person. Acts of civility happen when we treat others with care and consideration. Civility deals with how we view and treat others. It requires us to look beyond our own interests and look to the interests and well being of others. Dr. P.M. Forni, author of Choosing

Civilit y – The Twent yf ive Rules of Considerate Conduct, describes civility as a code of behavior that is based on respect, restraint, and responsibility. These are values that cross all socioeconomic and cultural lines. For too long our society has laid aside personal restraint in how we choose to speak and behave. If it felt good to me, that was all that mattered. This thought process is certain to end in rude behavior that disrespects others in favor of personal good. Daily acts of civility begin before you even get out of bed. In order to act in a civil manner, you must embrace thoughts of goodwill toward others. You must believe that your actions, no matter how small, make a difference in the world. Your life is ultimately linked with others. A civ il person enjoys

many benefits. They find it easier to create and maintain relationships, enjoy greater satisfaction in the daily tasks of life, enjoy greater success in their career, and better overall health. Studies reveal that the stress caused by acts of incivility in the workplace cost US corporations $300 billion dollars per year. It pays to be civil! How can you increase your own civility? Raise your awareness of those around you and think about everything you do and say and how it may impact them. As we know, we cannot change other people; we can only change our own behavior. My daughter often comments how being kind takes such little effort, and yet, produces a significant difference in making the world a better place. I could not agree more! ■

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Women’s Occupational Workshop By Keitha Story-Stephenson D.S.

Building a Bridge to Success – One Friend at a Time Be careful the friends you choose for you will become like them. W. Clement Stone

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uccess, in both your business and personal life, is strengthened by reconnecting with other women in your area. It requires building friendships, one at a time, with women passing through situations and opportunities that mirror and reflect your walk through life. One of the great mysteries of life is that people fail to remember the power of friendship in their daily life. As a young girl, we clung to our ‘best friend’ as our source of laughter, our confidant, our companion, our coconspirator and occasionally our protector. As we move into adulthood, we often lose contact with other women. We are busy with family and work and opportunity slips away. We become isolated from other women. It takes time and involvement to develop

and mature friendships. We need them to balance our daily life. A s a businesswoman, friendships become a lifeline for our sanity. They become a stable port in the winds of our entrepreneur dream. They offer the ability to see situations and opportunities from a variety of viewpoints. They remind you to laugh. They encourage you to carry on. They believe in you and your dream. But, how do we build friendships, both private and professional, that will grow us into the women we want to be? There is truth in the old saying that ‘it takes being a friend to create a friendship’. Start by looking for women that share similar interests. Take time to invest in your peace of mind by sharing companionship with women that stimulate your thinking.

Listen to their struggles and accomplishments and learn from them. Give them your support and most importantly, your time. Look for women that have reached top levels of success in a variety of fields. Exposure to successful business acumen is in itself a training course in how to grow your company. Seeking out friendships is the first and best networking skill you can develop. They will strengthen and renew your spirit. They will add energy in your daily work. They will challenge you to grow and improve your personal and professional goals. They will also allow you to assist others in their development. These new friendships will build a stronger local community and economy. Stone, as quoted above, is correct. “Be careful the friends you choose for you will

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become like them.” Discover friends that are positive, nurturing, and encouraging. Be that kind of friend. I know I am blessed to have discovered a band of friends that challenge me everyday to be my best. Take the time to reconnect with women in your area and together build your community to be all it can be. ■

Save Our Supplements On February 4, 2010, Senators John McCain and Byron Dorgan introduced S. 3002, the “Dietary Supplement Safety Act.” This legislation would mandate that every dietary supplement would have to go through a brand new process of government review in order to stay on the market. If this bill becomes law your health care choices will be drastically reduced, and many of the supplements available today will become illegal. If this concerns you, please go to www.saveoursupplements.org to send a note in opposition to S. 3002 directly to your two Senators or use the information on the website to write a personal letter. Do not let Congress take away your right to dietary supplements. 8  www.WiseWomanMagazine.com • 888.878.8465

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MARKETING THE INVISIBLE By Kim Tinkham

Announcing the Civility Awareness Survey There is nothing as important as being civil to our fellow human beings. That is the mark of real success. Take our survey at WiseWomanMagazine.com and then read the results next month!

Whereas Wise Woman Magazine hereby declares May 2010 as Civility Awareness Month to celebrate the spirit of Civility among all peoples regardless of race, creed, color or station in life. Let us celebrate Civility by treating each other in our schools, communities, businesses, families and places of worship with Respect, Restraint and Responsibility, the three “R” principles of Civility as defined by Dr. P.M. Forni, co-founder of the Johns Hopkins University Civility Project and internationally renowned Civility expert; and Whereas acts of incivility have become prevalent in today’s complex, competitive society and affect the quality of life for all who live and work in and visit our City; and Whereas life is all about relationships and the quality of our lives depends on our ability to relate and connect with each other; and Whereas everyone is a winner when we treat each other in the best way we know how and urge them to do the same. Our city and nation are stronger and our global image more elevated as a result; and Whereas the Association of Image Consultants International (AICI) has been inspired by Dr. Forni to increase public awareness about Civility by launching the Civility Counts Project globally, and Wise Woman Magazine is proud to be included in this initiative: Therefore, during the month of May, let every man, woman and child practice to embrace Civility by being attentive, considerate, kind, giving, polite and thoughtful and following the three “R” principles of Respect, Restraint, and Responsibility in all their interactions with each other; Now therefore, Wise Woman Magazine proclaims the month of May 2010 as Civility Awareness Month. All readers of Wise Woman Magazine are encouraged to embrace Civility and practice it in their daily lives, today and every day, in recognition of the global AICI Civility Counts Project.

Wise Woman Magazine wants everyone to know that they can control the way they look and feel by making good decisions in the foods they eat! For more information about how you can get involved visit www.jamieoliver. com. Help us change the way America looks at food.

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