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Rayven and Jillian Jones are recognized for the brave, courageous and quick team work in helping their father out of a very dangerous situation. Their father’s hands were pinned under his truck rotor while he changed the brakes. Fortunately, Jillian heard her dad and ran and told Rayven and the girls worked together (along with help from the Lord) to free their father. Thankfully, the situation ended with their father being blessed with two unbroken hands. Both Rayven and Jillian go to school in Millsap, Texas and are the daughters of Jock and Lydia Jones.

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Manners Minutes

By Sharon Pate, Director, National League of Junior Cotillions

The Power of Our Eyes

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rave people are not necessarily more courageous than normal people. They have just learned to overcome their fears. Many young people are uncomfortable and even fearful when conversing with adults. As parents, one of the most important skills we can teach our children is the proper way to converse with adults. Two of the most

important things are to make good eye contact and smile. Eye contact and smile … it’s a simple courtesy. When we meet other people, we usually observe their eyes first. When we speak, we tend to look into the other person’s eyes, and we expect them to look into our eyes and pay close attention. Making and keeping good eye contact is important, but it can be frightening for some, and a difficult habit for others to master. Our eyes convey the most about us when we met someone new. When we look down to the ground, we convey the message that we are shy, nervous, or perhaps even untrustworthy. When we avoid eye contact we convey the message that something is wrong or we feel guilty. When we look over the person’s shoulder while we are talking to them, we convey the message that other people in the room are more important. These messages are often not what we

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truly meant to communicate. When you meet or greet someone for the first time, make note of their eye color. If you’re looking for their eye color, you’ll automatically make eye contact for a second or two. Another technique is to imagine an inverted triangle on the person’s face. Their eyes form the base of the triangle and their lips form the opposite point. This inverted triangle becomes the ‘look at’ area during conversations. You should look at one eye for five seconds, then the other eye for five seconds, and then the mouth for five seconds. This helps overcome the tendency to focus on one of the person’s eyes too much. If you want to improve your eye contact, follow these guidelines: • Work on proper eye contact gradually. Start with a brief glance and gradually maintain the contact for a few seconds at a time. • Practice first as the listener and then

work your way to making better eye contact as the speaker. When you are listening, it is easier to concentrate on making eye contact. As a speaker, you must focus on your own words which makes eye contact more difficult. • Turn off all other thoughts. Don’t think about what you are going to say next. Think about what the other person is saying, and eye contact will be easier. • Focus on the other person and don’t be distracted by other people in the room. If you feel your eyes drifting, softly return them to the other person. When was the last time you really looked at another person’s eyes while you were having a conversation with them? Next time you’re talking to someone, remember to make eye contact and smile … it’s a simple courtesy. ■

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On The Cover: October 2009 In our 3rd year of “Making A Difference”

Being Brave is easier when you have someone you trust by your side. Brooke Hundley and Shelby King at the first Millsap Varsity home game.

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Yo-Yos Teach Life Lessons Coder kindergarten-through fifth-graders participated in the NED Show - an assembly promoting academic achievement and character development. NED combines a great message with yo-yos, humor and audience participation to teach students how to develop three valuable characteristics to become champions at school and in life: Never give up (persistence, focus) Encourage others (kindness, shared learning) Do your best (diligence, excellence) The program encourages and inspires students with the belief that there is a champion in every kid. Coder Counselor Jennifer Kirkpatrick said students will be reminded of the message, “Never Give Up, Encourage Others and Do Your Best” all year long. ■

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Wise Words By Kim Tinkham, Editor

Being Brave

Courage is not the absence of fear but the judgment that something else is more important than fear. The brave may not live forever but the cautious do not live at all. For now you are traveling the road between who you think you are and who you can be. Meg Cabot

I wake up every morning like thousands of other people in our county, look in my bathroom mirror, take a deep breath and resolve to be brave. My act of everyday bravery isn’t about rushing into a burning building to save a life. It isn’t about placing myself in harms way for a citizen. It isn’t even about fighting off someone who is a potential threat to my loved ones. My act is a smaller act of bravery; but like those thousands of others who join me; my act is that I go beyond my comfort zone each and every day. I push myself to do something I am either uncomfortable with or not particularly wanting to do. I do something that scares me. I face my fear and that fear is being the ‘me’ that I was born to be.

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“That’s not frightening,” you say. “What’s so fearful about being yourself?” Well, if you believe, as I and many others believe, that you have a great destiny in this lifetime, that you were created for greatness and that you will never truly know your purpose in life until you reach that destiny; then you understand the ‘bravery’ that it takes each morning. Most of us have to be brave because we find ourselves seemingly ill equipped for this mission and that the faith that we are here for a purpose is our only weapon. Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. Hebrews 11:1 My ‘fear of failure’, in this mission to reach my full potential, drives me to get out of bed on mornings when

the rain is drizzling against my window pane, the sky is gray, the weather is cold, I am feeling weak and exhausted and I would like nothing more than to stay in bed with a good book and a hot cup of tea. It drives me to go help one more person, smile at one more passerby, go to one more meeting and shake one more hand. You see, we ‘brave ones’ hear little voices in our heads that try to turn us back from our appointed missions. Those voices try to remind us that we have too much or not enough looks, brains, money, degrees, kids, spouses, friends, reputation, experience, health, energy, time or control. We hear those voices and keep on going. We face our fears and do it anyway. Why? Because there is a stronger voice

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that nudges us towards our goals of being good providers, great parents, better spouses, mentoring bosses, loyal friends, successful business owners and the people we were born to be. They do not give medals for this ever yday type of bravery. There is nothing that someone can pin upon your chest or bestow upon you that pronounces that you bravely faced each day not knowing what would be ahead and yet you did it with a prayer and a smile. The only reward you may ever get for facing your fears and reaching your full potential are the final words,”She made a difference.” Go out and ‘Make A Difference.’ Enjoy the issue! ■

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MUSIC MUSIC MUSIC Students in the Kindermusik curriculum at The Burch School of Music are learning about Appalachian music and culture by playing folk songs on a dulcimer. Each child decorates his own instrument and then learns to play tunes on it. They also hear stories, learn dances, and explore other instruments, including playing spoons and washboard. Students pictured are: above photo: (dulcimer 1) Front Row: Parker Robertson, Seth Bullard and Ben Wilhelm; Back row: Andrew Hough and David Sawyer. Right photo: (dulcimer 2) Autumn Andrews, Carson Leatherman, Tyler Anne Leatherman, Ava Larsen, Reagan McKinney, Olive Cogburn, Charlotte Floyd, and Sophie Bailey.

Colby Hicks and friend Zachary Thompson with Colby’s Grandfather

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Music From The Heart By Holly and Russell Hughes “I wish my mom hadn’t let me quit piano lessons when I was a child!”

A After spending twenty years as a university professor of music, Dr. Holly Hughes moved to Weatherford and founded The Burch School of Music with her husband, Fred Burch. The newest addition to the faculty at the BSM is Holly’s brother, Russell Hughes. The two pianists attended Texas Tech for bachelor and masters degrees, and both were recipients of the Rotary International fellowship to study abroad, where they studied piano at the Mozarteum in Salzburg, Austria. Holly later earned a doctoral degree from Ball State University, while Russell pursued a career in arts management, before returning to his first love, music. For more information about them and about the Burch School, log onto www. burchschool.com.

re you one of the thousands who have said these words at some point in your adult life? As piano teachers we hear this phrase, and others like it, very often – in fact, we would be rich if we had a dollar for every time we heard those words. When a child begins studying the piano, their wide-eyed wonderment of playing such a big instrument, along with the challenges of recitals and festivals, help them learn invaluable skills in goal-setting. However, with the onset of the “junior high years”, many of these same students are swept up into the topsy-turvy world of teenage activities. Many find that the somewhat lonely pursuit of playing the piano begins to lose its appeal. To their later regret, they stop their music study in favor of more social pursuits. But time passes, hormones settle and life begins to take its innumerably fascinating turns. All the while the piano sits in the corner, silently beckoning them to sit down and make some music. It takes immense courage to come back to the piano as an adult, especially if you are one who has been away from it for several years. Most adults come back to piano because they miss it, or they have learned to appreciate it over time, or they might have realized what they are missing. Often adults come to us with a specific goal in mind, but most come to “get better” at playing. Many arrive

with trepidation, and we often see trembling hands in the beginning. Soon, however, they see that they can relax at lesson time and begin to really enjoy themselves. One adult who studies with us recently played piano for a large wedding, and though she was nervous, she was also very well-prepared. Her excellent organizational skills acquired in her non-music profession, were applied to practicing, arranging the order of her pieces, and arriving at her goal on the necessary date. Another adult faced her fear of performing in church by rehearsing for a smaller group of bible study members, before deciding to take the necessary “leap of faith” to play for the entire congregation. It is now one of her cherished memories. One grandmother, while at lunch with friends, mentioned that she was finally taking piano lessons and learning to play a number of American folk songs. The next thing she knew, they adjourned to her house where they sang along while she played. She later told us that “playing for a sing-along” had always been a dream of hers, and now she plans to do it as often as possible. Playing in recital had always caused one woman to break into a sweat anytime she thought about it. But she recently organized a “musical afternoon” where she and several other friends performed a program for an audience of about 50 guests. The exhilaration of

Editor’s Note: This is Fred Burch. Thanks, Fred, for being such a good sport!

facing down that particular barrier has given her confidence in all aspects of her life. One grandfather decided that his retirement years would be the perfect time to learn to play Christmas carols. His brothers, sisters and their families stood with open-mouthed amazement as he pulled out a portable keyboard and played several well-known songs for the children who gathered around him. Others might have had a lessthan-desirable experience with their childhood piano teacher. But their burning desire to claim music as an avocation allows them to put that in the past, and approach something they love with a fresh outlook. We encourage all of you to step out of your comfort zone and follow a dream you may have been harboring for years. Be brave!

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Parenting Tomorrow’s Leaders By Keitha Story-Stephenson, DS

On Being Brave

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The truly brave never let their actions be influenced by their fears. Cheyenne

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n order to understand the idea of bravery as it relates to parenting is to gain understanding of the concept itself. The definition of bravery is “a quality of the spirit that enables you to face danger or pain without showing fear”. It is not inborn, but, rather, must be demonstrated before a child to develop into a true quality of the spirit that will last into adulthood. Perhaps, breaking down the definition will form a workable plan to achieve this parenting goal. Bravery - a quality of the spirit: The spirit is the vital principle or animating force within living things. Parents must understand that the nurturing of the spirit of a child is not limited to feeding, clothing and formal education. It entails demonstrating before the child the ability

to stand strong in difficult circumstances. It testifies to the strength needed to endure and have faith in yourself and your decisions. It also necessitates a strong and developed self-confidence. Parents can daily encourage a child to make decisions and to understand the consequences of those decisions. Parents must encourage confidence by listening to their child and by firmly standing on their own words or warnings. ..that enables you…: Bravery empowers a child to advance in their daily life. Bravery encourages strength of character and purpose. Aristotle reminds us that moral excellence comes about as a result of habit. We become just by doing just acts, temperate by doing temperate acts, brave by doing brave acts.

The purposeful decision to instill bravery in our children by example in our own life means that we are planning for the future and the strength of our child and that of our nation. Being enabled means having the innate power of bravery dwelling within our children; preparing them for the challenges of tomorrow. …to face danger or pain without showing fear.: Cabot explains that courage is not the absence of fear but the judgment that something else is more important than fear. The brave may not live forever but the cautious do not live at all. For now you are traveling the road between who you think you are and who you can be. For a child to mature completely in their thinking and reasoning, they must learn to be brave in the light of their

decisions, trials and challenges. One of the most empowering gifts a parent can give their child is the strength to stand alone against evil – ideologies or people - because they have the equipped power to make good and sound choices for their future. Parents can encourage this type of maturity by open and free dialogue with their child. Let them explain their thoughts about issues in the world today. Listen without judgment. Offer praise on mature beliefs; define better choices on unclear or peerinfluenced stands. You are their best and first teacher. Teach your child to never be bullied into action or silence. Teach your child to be fearless and to define who they shall become. Instill bravery! ■

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Grandparents Day at School! Zachary Dobbins

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Time For A Laugh A big city lawyer runs a stop sign and gets pulled over by a sheriff ’s deputy.    He thinks that he is smarter than the deputy because he is a lawyer from a really big city and is certain that he has a better education  then any cop from a rural Texas town. He decides to prove this to himself and have some fun at the Texas deputy’s expense. The deputy says, “License and registration, please.” “What for?” asks the lawyer.

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The deputy says, “You didn’t come to a complete stop at the stop sign.” Then the lawyer says, “I slowed down, and no one was coming.” “You still didn’t come to a complete stop,” says the deputy, “license and registration, please.” The lawyer asks, “What’s the difference? “The difference is that you have to come to a complete stop. That’s the law. License and registration, please!” the Deputy says. Lawyer says, “If you can show me the

legal difference between slow down and stop, I’ll give you my license and registration and you give me the ticket. If not, you let me go and don’t give me the ticket.” “That sounds fair.  Please exit your vehicle, sir,” the deputy says. At this point, the deputy takes out his nightstick and starts beating the tarnation out of the lawyer and then asks, “Do you want me to stop or just slow down?” ■

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For a day of fun each month, join the Doss Wrangler program. It is for ages 4 - 6 years old and 2nd - 7th grade. Ageappropriate programs, games and crafts are held concurrently for each age level. The cost is $15 for 12 months of activities. The October 3rd program will feature plants for our area and earth friendly gardening for wranglers. The program is from 10am - noon. Doss Wrangler Day Schedule: November 7th - The Vaquero December 3rd - Decorating for the Holidays To download a registration form visit our website at www.dosscenter.org October 10th, the Doss will host Spooky Saturday, fall carnival, featuring crafts, storytelling, face painting, and pumpkin carving. Lots of fun and treats for all youngsters. Free event from 10am to noon. Also, the Doss is looking for junior volunteers and junior docents. Volunteers in the program would help with receptions, assist in tours, and serve as volunteers for summer camp, Doss Wrangler Days and at other events. Volunteers should be in the 8th - 12th grade. Everyone is invited to a reception and opening of the DHCC’s newest exhibit, Vaquero: Genesis of the Texas Cowboy & Back in the Saddle. Thursday, October 8th from 6pm-8pm. Doss Heritage and Culture Center is located at 1400 Texas Drive, for more information about any of these events call 817-599-6168.

When McCall Elementary heard the shelves were almost bare at the Center of Hope recently, the school’s Student Council took on the service project to “Fill the Shelves.” They collected nonperishable food items like canned soup, canned meat, canned vegetables, peanut butter, etc. The students surpassed their goal of collecting 500 food items to help the Center of Hope! McCall Counselor Shannon Reynolds said, “We are very proud to have so many students dedicated to helping others in our community!  Way to go McCall!” Student Council members pictured are: Alex H., Emma H., Kennedy D., Macy F. and John M.

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These events are  brought to you by Discover Weatherford Texas. For a more detailed event calendar and information on local attractions visit: www.DiscoverWeatherfordTX.com.   Did you know that there are dozens of FREE and low-cost events being held around Weatherford every month? DiscoverWeatherfordTexas. com is a local family-owned website dedicated to bringing you all the up-to-date event and attractions in the Parker County and Mineral Wells area!  It’s easy to plan some fun with their online event calendar. With just a glance, you can see if the event is free or in your price range. Discover printable local coupons, real estate, maps, hotel directory, photos, attractions and more! Events: Girl’s Night Out: October 1st from 5 to 9PM. Historic York Ave, Weatherford TX. Free event.   First Monday Trade Days: October 2-3rd. Gates open at 8AM. Santa Fe & Hwy 180 – First Monday Fairgrounds. FREE Admission. Possum Fest /Chili & BBQ Cook-off: October 2-3rd, all day event. 362 N FM 2353 Graford, TX. 940-779-2424. Free Event Clark Garden’s Fall Festival: October 3rd from 7:30AM-9PM. 567 Maddux Rd, Weatherford TX 940-682-4856. Cost: Free-$7.   Riding for Roses: Motorcycle Ride benefiting the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation. Oct 3rd starting at 9AM. B&P Cycles, 915 Fort Worth Hwy, Weatherford TX 817-294-7744. $10 per run card.  

Bats in the Belfry: Oct 9th-21st  Fri-Sat 8PM & Sun 2PM. Theater off the Square, 114 N. Denton Rd. in Weatherford TX 817-341-8687. Cost: $912.   Crazy Water Festival: October 10th at 9AM. Downtown Mineral Wells TX. 940-325-2557. Please bring a canned food donation.   Trash to Treasure Day: October 10th from 8AM7PM. 1410 SE MLK Jr Blvd Mineral Wells, TX. 940-452-4828. Free Event.   Spooky Saturday Fall Carnival: Oct 17th from 10AM-12PM. Doss Heritage and Culture Center, 1400 Texas Drive, Weatherford, Tx. (817) 5996187 FREE Event. Octoberfest: Outdoor Music, food & Dachshund Parade. October 17th from 12-4PM. 1201 SE 25th Ave Mineral Wells, TX. 940-325-4282. Free Event. Azle Arts Ride: October 17th from 10AM-2PM. Azle Arts Theater, 1112 Hwy 199, Azle TX. (817) 714-4747 Cost to ride: $5-15.   Texas MG register Car Show: Oct 22nd – 25th. SE side of Weatherford Town Square. 817-8752110 Free to look.   Talking Tombstones Tour: October 24th at 1PM and 3PM. Old Greenwood Cemetery, 400 Front St., Weatherford TX. RSVP 817-341-7600. Cost: $5-$10.   WCPD Safe Halloween! October 31st from 6-9PM. Lots of games and candy! Rodger Williams Ballpark, 225 College Park Drive, Weatherford, TX 817-594-1731 Free admission.

Boo-tanical Park Festival! October 31st at Clark Gardens. 567 Maddux Rd , Weatherford, Texas. (940) 682-4856 Cost: Free-$7. First Monday Trade Days: Oct. 30th – Nov 3rd. Gates open at 8AM. Santa Fe & Hwy 180, First Monday Fairgrounds. FREE Admission.   Veterans’ Day Parade: November 7th at 10AM. 9th Grade Center, 1007 S Main St Weatherford, TX. Bring your lawn chairs. Free to watch! 817-594-4101   Mineral Wells State Park Family Events:   Cowboy Campfire: Music & Poetry: October 3, 2009  07:30 PM. Mineral Wells State Park Amphitheater, 100 Park Road 71 Mineral Wells, Texas. 940-328-1171 Free event; Admission to park is Free-$5. Night Sounds: October 10th at 7:30PM. Mineral Wells State Park Amphitheater, 100 Park Road 71 Mineral Wells, Texas. 940-328-1171 Free event; Admission to park is Free-$5. 13th Annual Amateur Astronomer’s Star Party: October 17th starting at 4PM. Bring your telescopes! Mineral Wells State Park Amphitheater, 100 Park Road 71 Mineral Wells, Texas. 940-328-1171 Free event; Admission to park is Free-$5. Storytelling Down in the Hollow: Mineral Wells State Park Amphitheater, 100 Park Road 71 Mineral Wells, Texas. 940-328-1171 Free event; Admission to park is Free-$5.

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Creating Traditions for Your Family By Jennifer Gregory Here are some simple ideas to start new traditions in your family. Personalize the Holiday Some of the best family traditions are ones that add personal meaning to holidays or events. Think about what the holiday means to your family and brainstorm ways that you make it meaningful to your family. You can celebrate Thanksgiving by creating a Thankful Tree. Have each member of your family cut out their handprint and write what they are thankful for. Make a tree trunk out of construction paper and hang the tree on the wall. A fun News Year Eve activity is to have each person make a list of their favorite events that happened during the year and share their list with the rest of the family over a cup of hot chocolate. 

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any people think of traditional events and formal dinners when they think of family traditions. Family traditions do not need to be elaborate to be meaningful to your family. Many times the most fun and anticipated traditions are the ones that are unique to your family. There is often a big focus on traditions during the holiday season. However, family traditions can be incorporated into your daily life throughout the year to build memories and give your family celebrations to look forward to. “Traditions need not cost any money or take much time. For a family activity to become a positive tradition, it must be fun, include the entire family, memorable, and repeated over time” says  Dr. Glen Earl, Child Psychologist.

Create a Special Family Food Dish Many family traditions revolve around food dishes that have been passed through generations.  If you serve a traditional family favorite, be sure to share the story of how the tradition got started and tell your children stories about their great grandmother who always made the green bean casserole. For holiday meals, try to cook a new dish with your kids to serve. It just may become a new family favorite. An easy way to create a family tradition is to have a weekly-themed meal, such as breakfast for dinner on Sundays or family pizza on Friday nights. You can also have a special meal before certain events, such as eating lasagna before heading out to trick-ortreat on Halloween or always having a special meal for birthdays.

Celebrate Each Member of Your Family By creating rituals throughout the year that celebrate the unique qualities that each member brings to the family, you are helping to get to know each other better and creating a family identity. A simple dinnertime tradition is to for each person to share one thing that made them happy during the day. You can also designate a Gratitude day for each member of the family where everyone else takes turns sharing something special about that family member. A fun way to celebrate a family member’s accomplishment is for the person to eat dinner off a special plate that evening for dinner. You can include accomplishments such as doing something nice for someone else, sports performance, and academic achievement. Plan an Outing Some of the best family traditions revolve around events or activities that you do every year or throughout the year. Consider playing a family football game in the yard after Thanksgiving dinner or take a drive to see the holiday lights together. Jennifer Catlin, mother of two children, joined a farm co-op and visits the farm as a family every Saturday morning during the summer. Her kids look forward to picking up the produce and visiting the animals. Vacations offer a great opportunity for incorporating family traditions. During the vacation, you can collect postcards, shells or other items meaningful to your family. Another vacation tradition is to create a family

scrapbook of the vacation together when you return home. Celebrate Different Holidays Think of unique ways for your family to celebrate various holidays throughout the year. You can always watch the Groundhog Day ceremony together as a family or make a loaf of bread together to celebrate Homemade Bread Day on November 17th. Keep an eye out for fun and silly holidays that are meaningful to your family. Another fun thing to do is to celebrate half birthdays by feasting on half a cake. You could also have a special celebration to kick off the start of school or end of school. Catlin, who adopted her daughter from Korea, celebrates the day that her daughter joined their family. The most important thing to consider when coming up with traditions is to be sure to think about the interests and personality of your family. “Most treasured family traditions are simple things such as playing a favorite board game, following a particular sports team, or even watching a favorite TV show.  Growing up as a child, my family watched Bonanza on Sunday evening and ate a bowl of ice cream. We still talk about at family reunions” says Earl.  As you go through your day, keep on the lookout for new opportunities for traditions.  ■ Jennifer Gregory is a freelance writer and the mom of 2 children.  Her family loves to celebrate half-birthdays and bring home a shell from every beach that they visit.

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Life Skills Cost of Incivility

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he cry for civility is sweeping our land in part due to the daily acts of incivility that are being played out on television, in sports and in our government. These uncivil acts spread like wildfire through social media being played again and again until they are seared into our memory. Even when apologies have been delivered and accepted the tarnished reputation of the offender may never fully recover. As much as we talk about civility, I find few who can accurately define it. Interestingly, there seems to be no shortage of those who are able to describe acts of incivility with great detail. Have we become less civil? Studies seem to support that we have. A recent study revealed that eighty percent of people believe incivility is a real problem. Ninety-six percent said they have experienced incivility at work resulting in high levels of stress. Christine Pearson and Christine Porath

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note in their book, “The Cost of Bad Behavior – How Incivility Is Damaging Your Business and What to Do About It,” the annual cost of job stress to U.S. corporations is $300 billion dollars. Acts of incivility in our schools create high levels of stress for our children. What is the impact on their education, their health, self-esteem and sense of wellbeing? Pearson and Porath also note that ninety-four percent of those who are treated uncivilly by others will look for opportunities to get even with the offender. How are acts of incivilit y demonstrated? There are the blatant outbursts of rude acts that we all have witnessed, but most uncivil acts are delivered under the radar through tone of voice and body language. Typically, only the offended, and sometimes those nearby, detect the cutting act. The offender exercises their position of power over the individual or situation and uses rude comments or acts to intimidate and control. Civility starts with the individual. Choosing civility in daily life requires character, confidence and class. Since most incivility is demonstrated through tone of voice and body language, carefully consider your words and how you will deliver them before you

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speak. Speaking without thinking often ends with regret. It is always best to avoid interacting with others if you are emotionally charged. Those who are able to control their tongue are less likely to offend. As we have seen in the media, once branded as being uncivil it is nearly impossible to be remembered for much else. As an individual, family, school, business and community it should be our highest priority to promote civility. A civil environment enhances life for everyone emotionally, physically and financially. Civility education should be provided in our schools and businesses. Acts of civility should be rewarded and consequences for incivility should be standard. No one benefits when someone is treated in a rude manner. A healthy society requires every person be treated with respect. ■ Executive Etiquette Power is now available! A no nonsense approach to today’s new business etiquette rules. Coauthor Deborah King was selected as one of North America’s leading business etiquette pros to share her wisdom for success in the workplace. Order your copy at www.finaltouchschool.com or call 877.808.2078.

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Laying Down The Law

By Timothy J. Mendolia

Halloween Prank or Crime? A Question to Consider.

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Timothy J. Mendolia, a Weatherford native, graduated from Baylor Law School in 1994 and soon after founded, along with partner, Keith Mayo, another Weatherford native, what has become Mayo Mendolia & Starr, LLP, a law firm of 15 attorneys and offices in Willow Park, Southlake, Dallas, Royse City, and Tyler, Texas. Willow Park office located at 5189 E. I-20, N. Service Rd., Suite 104, Willow Park, Texas 76087, 817.546.4100.

kay, so I am sure every parent can remember some Halloween f rom their childhood when they saw, or come on, admit it, was a part of, what may or may not have been an actual crime according to the Texas Penal Code (the law outlining crimes in the State of Texas.) In fact, you may not realize it, even today as an adult, that the prank you pulled as a kid was criminal. Halloween can be a fun time for our community’s youth, but also a dangerous time. Dangerous for the little ones that are out there to collect more candy, in one night, than you will allow them to eat the entire year, though this article is not aimed at the dangers facing the little ones. I am sure you all consider the safety issues involved with excited,

little kids running from house to house in your neighborhood after dark. This article is a warning or reminder to the older Halloweeners. It is aimed at the legal dangers facing the older kids and teens who are out to just be mischievous and have some fun. Unfortunately, being mischievous can lead to criminal mischief which is illegal and carries fines, and potentially even, jail time in Texas. Criminal mischief in Texas is simply the intentional or knowingly damaging of another person’s property. Damage to property in an amount less than $50 is a finable criminal offense; damage amounting to over $50 is considered a Class B Misdemeanor or above, which carries fines

and potential jail time; and over $1,500 of damage can be considered a Felony. This is probably not something a teen is thinking about when nabbing that Halloween decoration from someone’s yard, or tearing up that witch someone put on their front porch, or throwing an egg at a car, or disturbing a grave stone, but it should be. No one wants a night of fun to turn into going to jail, even juvenile jail. I will leave you with this amusing, but appropriate news story from the Fort Worth StarTelegram, circa 1996. It seems that a Disney-theme Halloween party in North Richland Hills was interrupted by the shattering of some glass of a car parked outside. Apparently, some youths, armed with sling shots and rocks, were running

around the neighborhood shooting at car windows. Well, they happened upon the wrong house as they hit the car window of an off-duty police officer, dressed as Tigger, who, along with his partner, offduty police officer aka Snow White, proceeded to chase and apprehend the teens. Besides the obvious embarrassment of being apprehended by Disney characters, they were charged with criminal mischief. The message to these youth and teens is simple, have fun, but be smart. Damaging someone’s property can lead to things much worse than simply replacing the damaged property. Bottom-line, if you think it may be wrong, it probably is. ■

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job. I’ve always been a hard worker, so the 70-hour weeks don’t bother me. However, I do miss getting to spend time with my kids. I feel like I’m missing out on their lives. Do you have any advice on how to change my situation? —Scott

Dear Dave,

I’ve heard you say that your mortgage payment shouldn’t be more than 25 percent of your take-home pay. Does this figure include taxes and insurance, or just principal and interest? — Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

That figure includes taxes and insurance. Just remember, the whole idea is to make sure your house payment is manageable. You don’t want to have so much money going toward your mortgage every month that you can’t enjoy life or take care of your other financial responsibilities. I figured out a long time ago that I’ve got more money when I don’t have debt. It’s a pretty simple formula, isn’t it?

If you want to build wealth, you have to get out of the payment business. I don’t beat people up for getting a 15-year, fixed-rate mortgage, but you don’t want all of your income going toward your house payment, either. If half of what you make every month goes straight to the bank, you’ll have less money for other stuff. Plus, after a while that great house will stop looking so great. It’ll be a chain around your neck instead of a place you love to call home. Don’t try to figure out how much debt you can get into. Instead, figure out how much debt you can get out of! —Dave

Dear Dave,

I’ve only got a high school education, and I’m stuck in a dead-end

Dear Scott,

I think you’ve already solved a lot of the problem by realizing that you’re like a mouse stuck in a wheel. You know you’re not getting anywhere, and you’re ready for things to change. Identifying the problem is a huge step in solving the problem. Now, mechanically and logistically, how do you make the change when you’re handcuffed to a job that works you 70 hours a week? You’ve got a family to feed, so you can’t just quit your job. But you can talk to your boss, and see if the company will back down on your hours a little bit. Let them know what’s happening with your family, and that you’d like to take some classes and improve yourself and your value in the workplace. But before you do any of that, you’ve got to have a definite direction in

mind. The idea of making more money and working less isn’t the answer. You need an in-depth, detailed game plan for where you want to be in the next three to five years and how to get there. It may involve going back to school for some classes, or even getting a full-blown degree. If you identify your long-term goal in detail, it will lead you to some of the short-term goals that will help you arrive at your final destination. The best book I’ve ever read on this kind of thing is 48 Days to the Work You Love by Dan Miller. He’s my all-time favorite career coach. He’ll lay out the steps to discovering what it is you really love to do and how to get there. God bless you, Scott! —Dave

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