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INSPIRING PARENTS • MOTIVATING KIDS • CELEBRATING LIFE November/December 2009 / parkercountyfamily.com / PRICELESS

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INSIDE Wise Words / Parenting Tomorrow’s Leaders / Life Skills / Laying Down the Law / Dave Says


As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.  John Fitzgerald Kennedy

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Recently the Weatherford Public Library hosted a family storytime on Saturday morning, and members of the Burch School of Music performed Saint-Saens’ Carnival of the Animals. Originally scored for small orchestral ensemble with two pianos, this version was for two pianos, which were played by Holly and Russell Hughes. They recruited help from fellow teacher Steve Lent to narrate the work with poetry by Peter Schickele, and they also recruited two instrumentalists to join them. Lisa Poole is a professional cellist and the mom of one of Russell’s piano students, and Matthew Thomas is Holly’s piano student and a member of the Tison Junior High Band. Pictured here are Matthew Thomas and Lisa Poole demonstrating their instruments after the performance to some of the audience members.

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Springcreek 4-H Club’s September meeting. Springcreek 4-H’ers donated Pedigree dog food and Pedigree kitty litter to the Weatherford-Parker County Animal Shelter.

Recently Zachary Jones attended a performance of the Texas Camarata at University Christian Church in Fort Worth. The ensemble presented a program called Royal Baroque and after the performance, Zachary met UNT trumpet professor Keith Johnson, who let him look at his Baroque trumpet. Zachary is a piano student at The Burch School of Music.

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Students from Hall and Tison Middle Schools attended Saturday’s TCU vs. Colorado State football game at Amon Carter Stadium in Fort Worth. Each student attending the game received complimentary admission as well as a free TCU t-shirt.

Thanksgiving Day is a jewel, to set in the hearts of honest men; but be careful that you do not take the day, and leave out the gratitude.  E.P. Powell

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Taylor, Dunny and Merry. Best friends for life.

Randi Rovnyak 2nd grader at Austin Elementary earns her Red Belt from The Karate University.

Members of the Lady Roos volleyball team sport their pink shirts in preparation for their “Pink Out” to help spread the word out about breast cancer awareness.

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Southwest Ford in Weatherford recently donated $1,000 to the WHS Cheerleading Booster Club. Pictured is Chris Bonett, sales director for Southwest Ford, and a host of varsity and NGC cheerleaders.

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On The Cover: November/December 2009 In our 3rd year of “Making A Difference”

The McMillan family wishing all of Parker County and safe and family filled Holiday Season. Sarah Ann, Don, Michelle and Kayla. Photo sent in by Mary Sheldon.

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Back Cover: Grace West, age 8. It’s going to be a Cowgirl Christmas! Photo sent by Heather West

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Wise Words . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8 Discover Weatherford . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9 Music From The Heart . . . . . . . . . . . 10 Parenting Tomorrow’s Leaders . . . . . 11 Laying Down The Law . . . . . . . . . . . 12 Life Skills . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 14 Associations . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15 Manners Minute . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 16 Dave Says . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19

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Twelve Hall Middle School Yearbook Staffers volunteered a total of 84 hours for the Inaugural Hot Dog Trot. Over 174 runners from around North Texas participated and more than $4000 was raised for the local animal shelter. The students had to arrive at six a.m. to be out on the route to help guide contestants along the trail. Then they stayed to help clean up the site, and packed numerous tents, tables, and chairs onto trailers for removal.  Yearbook sponsor Bobbye Moreno supervised the students. Ryan Rovnyak at the Fort Worth Zoo.

Aledo High School’s three National Merit Semifinalists for the 2010 National Merit Scholarship Program. Kathleen J. Taylor, Christopher W. Twedell and Anna M. Flinchbaugh. Well done!

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Let us remember that, as much has been given us, much will be expected from us, and that true homage comes from the heart as well as from the lips, and shows itself in deeds. Theodore Roosevelt

ovember is the month for being thankful so here is my list. I am thankful to live in a country where a person has the right to: • M u t i l a t e t h e E n g l i s h language with slang and profanities • Worship or not worship God, money or celebrities • Live in obscenely huge mansions or small rundown cardboard shacks • Own a business even if they don’t have the ability or the talent to do so • Drive a nice car and live in an expensive home even if they can’t afford it • Wear clothes that don’t fit or flatter but make them feel younger • Sleep through class because education in this country is free and the likelihood of them failing is slim because they win games and the school doesn’t have the room

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or the patience to deal with them Have as many kids as they want because kids are a meal ticket Show up at the hospital emergency room with a cold because they don’t have health insurance and the hospital has to take them Believe whatever the media tells them is right, wrong or justified Throw trash out their car window because someone gets paid to pick it up Scream and yell at their kids in the store because they’ve had a tough day and their kids have it easier than they ever did growing up Divorce their fifth wife because she just doesn’t get them Run around on their third husband because he isn’t who they thought he was Spread rumors about their boss because she just doesn’t

understand that if she would just give them that raise then they would come to work on time and quit stealing from the supply cabinet I could go on and on about the ‘Rights’ we have as Americans. But what I am most thankful for is the “Responsibility’ we have as Americans. I am thankful for my country’s history and the fact that being an American gives me the right to be free, stupid and irresponsible. It is because of this freedom that I am proud to call myself an American. I do have the right to be less than I am. As an American, I can be less than what my rights say I can aspire to. As for me, I am a thankful American who chooses to live a life that speaks of hope; promise and a bright future. I am a THANKF UL AMERICAN. God Bless America. ■

Dear Readers, This issue is our November and December issue. We will not be publishing a separate December issue this year. Times are tough right now for everyone but we know and believe that if we stick together and help each other we will start the New Year off on a very good note. During this holiday season remember those in need, take time to realize what we do have and just how much we are blessed. Please help your neighbors by shopping local whenever you can. If money is tight and you don’t find yourself shopping as much please take the time to visit a local merchant and tell them how much you do appreciate them and that you will do business with them as soon as you can. I want to wish all of you a very Happy Thanksgiving and Merry Christmas. See you in January! Kim Tinkham, Publisher Firefighters Dwayne Lackey and Gene Smithwick from the Hudson Oaks Fire Department visited Mary Martin Elementary’s Reading Rainbow class to celebrate Fire Prevention Month. Pictured (from left) are John Enslow, Samantha Goodwin, Meredith Miller, Gene Smithwick, Dwayne Lackey, Hannah Baker, and Analise Hefner.

Hall Middle School’s Theatre Production Class is gearing up to perform the musical Dear Edwina, Jr in late November.

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These events are brought to you by Discover Weatherford Texas. For a more detailed and up-todate event calendar and information on local attractions within Parker County and outlying areas please visit www.DiscoverWeatherfordTX.com. Girl’s Night Out: November 5th from 5 to 9PM. Historic York Ave, Weatherford TX. Free event. Ar t Ranch Acoustic Sessions: Stan Crawford, Doug & Jill Bryan, and the  Lost Immigrants on Nov 6th-7th. Doors open at 7PM & show starts at 8PM. Double J Hacienda and Art Ranch ,133 Seybold Rd., Mineral Wells, TX. $10 per person.

Penitentiar y Hollow Wild Walk: Nov 28th from 1-3PM Mineral Wells State Park Amphitheater, 100 Park Road 71 Mineral Wells, Texas. Free event; Admission to park is Free$5. Reservations Required. 940-328-1171

Christmas Tyme in Aledo – Dec. 5th from 5-9PM. Downtown Aledo TX. (817)441-7199. Free Event. Christmas on the Square – Dec. 5th from 4-8PM. Downtown Weatherford on the square on the corner of Hwy 51 and 180 (Fort Worth Hwy). Free Event.

Tr e e o f A n g e l s C e r e m o n y – D e c . 1st at 6PM. District Courts Building 117 Fort Worth Hwy., Weatherford, TX (817)598-6124. Free Event.

Cross Timbers Cowboy Campfire Christmas – Dec. 5th & 12th from 6-7:30PM. Mineral Wells State Park, 100 Park Road 71 Mineral Wells, Texas. (940)328-1171. Cost: Free - $5.00. 

Folk Art Nativities of the Americas Exhibit: October 24, 2009 thru Saturday, December 19, 2009 from 10-5 Tuesday through Saturday. Museum of the Americas, 216 Fort Worth Hwy., Weatherford, TX. Free Admission.

Folk Art Nativities of the Americas Exhibit – Tue thru Sat from 10 to 5PM, Oct. 24th thru Dec. 19th. Museum of the Americas, 216 Fort Worth Hwy., Weatherford, TX. (817)341-8668. Free Event.

Breakfast with Santa – Dec. 05, 2009. Two breakfast schedules from 8-9:30 or 1011:30.  Central Christian Church, 1602 S Main St, Weatherford, TX (817) 594-3053. Cost:  Children 12 & under $10, Adults $5.

Veteran’s Day Parade: Nov. 7th starting at 10AM at the 9th Grade Center on S. Main St. in Weatherford TX. Free event.

Storybook Holidays – Dec. 3rd from 6:30-8PM. Weatherford Public Library, 1014 Charles St., Weatherford, TX (817)598-4150. Free Event.

Cowboy Campfire - Music & Poetry: Nov 7th, 2009 at 7PM. Mineral Wells State Park Amphitheater, 100 Park Road 71 Mineral Wells, Texas. 940-328-1171 Free event; Admission to park is Free-$5.

Girls’ Night Out – Dec. 3rd from 5 to 9PM. Theme: Senior Angel Tree.   Historic York Avenue,129 York Avenue, Weatherford, TX (817)594-8088. Free Event.

Frontier Christmas – Dec. 10th from  5:307:30PM. Old Jail Museum Complex, 231 S. 5th Avenue, Palo Pinto, Texas (940)7692600.  Free Event.

“The Classics and More” Choir Concert: Nov 10th at 7:30PM. Weatherford College Fine Arts Center, 225 College Park Dr, Weatherford, TX. Free admission. Fall Festival: Nov 14th from 11AM-3PM. Central United Methodist Church , 1007 SW 4th Ave, Mineral Wells, TX. Free event. Fall Jazz Concert: Nov 17th at 7:30PM. Weatherford College Fine Arts Center, 225 College Park Dr, Weatherford, TX. Free admission.

Old Fashioned Holiday Festival -  Dec 3-6th and 10-13th.  Thursday thru Sat from 5-9PM and Sundays from 4-8PM.  Have Dinner with Santa on  Saturdays at 6PM. Clark Gardens, 567 Maddux Road Weatherford, Texas.   Cost: $5-$7 admission to the park. $15-$18 for Dinner With Santa (RSVP for dinner).  (940)682-4856 Christmas Parade – Dec. 5th at 4PM.  Downtown Mineral Wells, TX. Entry line up at 2:30PM. (940)325-9232 x 201. Free Event

Art Ranch Acoustic Sessions – Musicians Mark Jungers on Dec. 11th & Randy Weeks Dec. 12th from 8-10PM. Doors open at 7PM. Double J Hacienda and Art Ranch, 133 Seybold Rd., Mineral Wells, TX 76067. RSVP 940-325-1813. Cost: $10 Messiah Concert – Dec. 11th at 7:30. Weatherford College Fine Arts Center, 225 College Park Dr, Weatherford, TX. (817) 594-5471.  Free Event. Girls’ Night Out! – Jan 7th from 5-9PM. Theme: Elvis’ Birthday! Historic York Avenue,129 York Avenue, Weatherford, TX (817)5948088. Free Event.

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After spending twenty years as a university professor of music, Dr. Holly Hughes moved to Weatherford and founded The Burch School of Music with her husband, Fred Burch. The newest addition to the faculty at the BSM is Holly’s brother, Russell Hughes. The two pianists attended Texas Tech for bachelor and masters degrees, and both were recipients of the Rotary International fellowship to study abroad, where they studied piano at the Mozarteum in Salzburg, Austria. Holly later earned a doctoral degree from Ball State University, while Russell pursued a career in arts management, before returning to his first love, music. For more information about them and about the Burch School, log onto www. burchschool.com.

he holidays are fast approaching, and it is always a toss-up as to whether the students or the teachers are happier about time off! We believe there will always be a Thanksgiving break, a Christmas break and a Spring break, as long as teachers have a say! But in reality, teaching is such a great job, and working with children is so enjoyable, that even on vacation days, our minds are continuing to think of the next goal, the next challenge, the next opportunity to bring music into the lives of our students and their families. As physically and mentally taxing as teaching can be, more often than not we find ourselves energized at the end of the day. Especially when students have arrived at their lessons prepared to learn. The joy of watching young people grow and develop as musicians is even greater because of the funny things they sometimes say.

By Holly and Russell Hughes

Af ter playing gr ueling and uninteresting piano etudes by Carl Czerny, one little girl asked her teacher if Czerny had ever had kids of his own. The teacher hadn’t thought about it, and wondered why she would ask such a question. When asked why she wanted to know, the little girl exclaimed, “He must have HATED children!” We watch with delight when a shy individual walks off stage after a successful performance. Their look of triumph is unmistakable. One such girl developed such a streak of selfconfidence that she was able to enroll in a theater camp, and deliver lines like any other actress on the stage. After playing piano for several years, she had lost her fear of being in front of crowds. Another child performed in recital for the very first time as a six-year-old, and started her piece too high on the keyboard. Without even flinching she gracefully changed positions at

an appropriate spot so that not even her own mother, who had heard her practicing the piece for weeks, noticed. “Grace under fire” is truly a beautiful thing! But the greatest thrill of all is a child’s love: the hugs and the sincere I-love-yous we receive. We are blessed with the lovely opportunity of molding and shaping young minds, knowing that music can make a difference in developing individuals as they grow into the world as young adults. For this we are truly thankful! ■

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Holiday Preparations begin in the Heart

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s the days quickly turn to the upcoming holiday season, most families begin what I call, the Holiday Marathon Race. Holiday activities, shopping, party plans, vacation schedules, child care management arrangements, decorating, gift wrapping, meal planning, and the list goes on and on. Often in this rush of “activity”, the meaning and purpose of the holidays is swept away in a cloud of good intentions. Failing to take the time to live in the moment adds to stress and burnout for the entire family. Suddenly, the holidays are here and gone before one knows what has happened. This season’s challenge to parents and children alike

should be to slow down and enjoy the individual moments that are shared – building memories of time spent together and not just the activity of the hour. In reality, the art of slowing down takes effort. Slowing down requires learning how to use, and then practicing, the magic of the word “No”. Slowing down is a choice. Often, this choice is difficult and misunderstood. But the reality is, activity does not necessarily equate to enjoyment and pleasure and joy. For holidays to become less stress inducing, control must be exercised. Try to plan activities that involve the family together. Simple things are often the best. Last holiday season,

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– to match the personality of the receiver. Oh, we also turned the television off! I guess you could say, we enjoyed the gift of each other. Nothing we did cost much money. But everything we shared was priceless. Holiday preparations do begin in the heart. They begin with the decision to “gift” your time and attention to family and friends. Actually, this is the gift that keeps on giving. Nothing is more loving and personal than the gift of yourself and your heart and your time. Can you recall all the toys and gifts of your childhood or do you remember who you spent the holidays with? Happy Holidays! Begin a memory of the most valuable gift – You! ■

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Laying Down The Law

By Timothy J. Mendolia

The Holiday Party Quandary – To Have or Not To Have?

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TIMOTHY J. MENDOLIA, a Weatherford native, graduated from Baylor Law School in 1994 and soon after founded, along with partner, Keith Mayo, another Weatherford native, what has become Mayo Mendolia & Starr, LLP, a law firm of 15 attorneys and offices in Willow Park, Southlake, Dallas, Royse City, and Tyler, Texas. Willow Park office located at 5189 E. I-20, N. Service Rd., Suite 104, Willow Park, Texas 76087, 817.546.4100.

o you want to have a holiday party? Whether it is an office party or just a social gathering of friends and family, have you considered the potential liability to you or your company if alcohol is served? We have all been at the party where one or two party goers have one, two or three drinks too many, right? Well, controlling the situation at the party may not be the biggest worry for the host. Much more important may be the potential for their liability after the Alife of the party@ over-drinker gets behind the wheel of a car to venture home or wherever. Without getting too deep into Texas case law and statutes, I will attempt to educate the host of the social party as to what his or her obligations may be for this situation. As a ‘social host’, meaning one hosting a social gathering, Texas law does not impose a duty to refrain from providing alcohol to guests, therefore,

the host who makes alcohol available to an intoxicated guest, who the host knows will be driving, is not legally liable to the guest or a third party injured by the guest, whether it be driving home or otherwise. This nonduty is derived from consideration of the statutes set forth by the Texas State Legislature regarding the serving of alcohol and related liability; otherwise know as the Dram Shop Act, and public policy. The Legislature, while considering and enacting the Dram Shop Act, considered the ‘social host’ liability issue and declined to include it in the Act. Moreover, it has been decided in cases on the subject that the guest is in a far better position to know the amount of alcohol he or she has consumed, his or her state of sobriety, the consequential risk he or she poses to the public, and to control his or her consumption of alcohol. Now, as with all law, there is a

catch. To the extent that a ‘social host’ sells alcoholic beverages to his or her guests, the host will potentially fall under the Dram Shop Act as a ‘provider of alcohol’. This creates a standard of care that if, at the time the alcohol was provided, it was apparent to the provider that the recipient was obviously intoxicated to the extent that the recipient presented a clear danger to himself or herself and to others, the provider could be liable for injuries to a third party, injured by the recipient or the recipient for injuries to himself or herself. As you can see, the Dram Shop Act imposes a very harsh duty on providers and is obviously intended for commercial providers-bars and the likewho have trained staff to look for this. Just keep in mind, if a ‘social host’ sells alcohol by setting up a ‘cash bar’ or even charges some type of cover charge, he or she very well may be buying a larger liability than they want or know.

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The law is again different when it involves employers providing alcohol to employees at social functions. The general premise for ‘social hosts’ as previously discussed prevails except in a situation where an employer exercises control over the employee. In this situation, the employer assumes a duty to exercise reasonable care and control in order to prevent the employee from causing harm others. In other words, the employer must take whatever action a reasonably prudent employer, under the same or similar circumstances, would take to prevent the employee from causing an unreasonable risk of harm to others. The best example of exerting control over an employee would be a requirement by the employer that the employee attend the function where alcohol is served. So, to this extent, inviting an employee over for drinks, buying a beer for an employee while out

socially, or even allowing consumption on company property after hours has been determined to not create the control required by Texas law as it now stands, however such factors are considered on a factual and case by case basis. It’s not recommended, nor good business practice, to allow alcohol consumption on company property, even after hours, as this issue of control could become an issue to be determined by a judge or jury-a position in which you do not want to be. So if you are going to be the Host, be the Host with the most knowledge about the potential holiday party liability pitfalls. Your safest bet is to not serve alcohol, but if you do, of course, try to prevent anyone who you think has had too much to drink from driving home. Do not sell the alcohol, by cover charge or cash bar, without understanding you, potentially; have opened yourself to liability for the

actions of intoxicated party-goers as any bar has. For employers, do not make the party a requirement to attend or control your employees’ actions at the function. These suggestions may not keep

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Life Skills

By Deborah King, AICI CIP

Prepare for the Holidays Deborah King is President of Final Touch Finishing School, Inc. which she founded in 1989 in Seattle. As a certified image professional, with over 30 years of experience, she presents her programs nationally and internationally for youth and corporate clients. She is co-author of “Image Power” and developer of several educational tools. www.finaltouchschool.com

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he holiday season is here! How do you avoid holiday stress and create h a p py c e l e b r a t i o n s a n d wonderful memories? The key is preparation! Prepare your calendar Carefully consider your calendar and what holiday events are realistic to add to your schedule. Choose activities that are most important to you first, and then add other options as time permits. Remember, an over loaded schedule is guaranteed to create stress. Prepare your budget Be realistic about what you can comfortably spend for gifts, decorations, meals and holiday events. Challenge yourself to make this holiday season credit free! If you do, you will ring in 2010 with joy. Prepare your decorations Schedule one of your

holiday events as the day you decorate. Involve the entire family, play your favorite holiday music and enjoy a festive meal. This is a great way to usher in the holiday season and create wonderful family memories. Prepare your menus Plan your meals and shop in advance. This will ensure you have the items you need on hand so you are not rushing to the store at the last minute, saving you time and money. How often do you run to the store to pick up just one item and leave with several extra that caught your eye? Prepare your guest list For those events you are hosting, it is best to select your guests and send your invitations out early. Remember, everyone is faced with balancing their schedule at this time of year.

For those events you are invited to attend, please R.S.V.P. promptly! It is an honor to be invited to any event and absolutely thoughtless to not R.S.V.P. If you are unable to attend the event, simply thank your host and let them know you have another commitment. If you said you will attend, then you must – unless there is a dire emergency. If there is, please call your host promptly and let them know. To say you will attend and then be a no-show is simply rude. Prepare your gifts Select gifts based on your budget, relationship and desire - not pressure or guilt. The best gifts are often the most simple.  Gifts should be personal people may appreciate a gift card but no one ever forgets a gift selected just for them.

Prepare your attitude Stress and fatigue make it difficult to maintain a positive attitude. Eat healthy meals, get enough rest, exercise and keep a stress free schedule. A good attitude is far more enjoyable than a perfectly set table and beautiful meal served by a cranky person. Prepare your memories Find a way to record the holidays. Take photos, videos, scrapbook, or keep a journal. Pause often and really take in the moments. Prepare your thank you Purchase a box of thank you cards in advance so you are prepared. Don’t forget the stamps! Look for opportunities to express gratitude to others. There is no better way to end the year and usher in a new one. ■

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Miscellaneous

Animal Control Parker County Animal Shelter 817.598.4111

Childcare Kalyn’s Country Day 817.596.9596 817.594.9990

Aledo Community Lions Club 817.441.9053

Aledo Children’s AdvoCats 817.31.0777

East Parker County Genealogy and Historical Society 817.441.7517

A Place for Grace 817.613.9947

Parker County 4-H 817.598.6172 Parker County Heritage Society 817.596.8108

Reading Friends Academic Preschool 817.441.6060

Parker County Master Gardener Association 817.598.6168

Sprouts Learning Center 817.441.1906 sproutslearningcenter.net

Parker County Sheriff’s Posse 817.599.9076

Education - Private Burch School of Music 817-341-2345 Reading Friends Academic Preschool 817.441.6060 Sylvan Learning Center 817.594.4461 Weatherford College 817.594.5471

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CASA of Parker County 817.599.6224

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Center of Hope (Aledo) 817.441.2442 Center of Hope (Weatherford) 817.594.0266 Crossroads Youth Ministries of Parker County, Inc Jeff Johnson 817-304-7472 Freedom House 817.596.7543

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Parker County Committee on Aging 817.596.4640 -Senior Center-Meals on Wheels-TransportationResidential Repair and more Adult Protective Services Hotline 800.252.5400 940.325.6959 AARP 888.687.2277 Local 817.599.8601 The Weatherford Senior Center 817.596.4640 Legal Hotline for Older Texans 800.622.2520

Sports/Recreation THE ROCK 817-596-9689 Weatherford Little League 817.599.0456 Veteran Services Disabled American Veterans Transportation Network 817.347.7352 Veterans Services of Parker County 817.598.6152

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Manners Minute

By Sharon Pate

Thanksgiving Manners 101

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Sharon Pate is the director of the Greater Fort Worth Chapter and the Hood County Chapter of the NATIONAL LEAGUE OF JUNIOR COTILLIONS.TM Her program, which targets sixth through eighth graders, builds self-confidence, character, and leadership skills while teaching etiquette, ethics, and social dance. www.nljc.com/chapter/ sharon.pate

There is one day that is ours.  There is one day when all we Americans who are not selfmade go back to the old home to eat saleratus biscuits and marvel how much nearer to the porch the old pump looks than it used to.  Thanksgiving Day is the one day that is purely American.  O. Henry

hanksgiving signals the beginning of the holiday season, and it ’s a special time of feasting with family and f riends. We’re often so consumed with the dinner details that we just assume our children know how to act when the company comes. So, how do we prepare our children for this special day? Below are ten behaviors for a children’s refresher course on Thanksgiving Manners 101 that if practiced by children and adults as well will make the holidays fun for all. 1. Remember the mag ic words. “Please” and “Thank you” and “You’re welcome” work wonders with adults and are met with positive attention. Answer, “Yes, Ma’am” or “No, Sir,” when adults ask questions. Not all adults expect this courteous response, but almost all are impressed. 2. Show respect by using good greeting manners and introduction skills. Failing to acknowledge another person’s presence is a sign of disrespect. Instead, children should: • Smile, stand tall, look the person in the eye, and say, “Hello,” in a pleasant

voice. • Shake hands if the person extends a hand. All children need instruction in how to shake hands— neither too hard nor too limp. • Listen to what the person says and answer courteously. 3. Lend a Hand. Be available to help carry packages or dishes of food into the house. Hold the door open for family members or guests. When it’s time to be seated at the table, pull out the chair for the ladies or elderly guests. 4. Accept compliments with grace. Guests and relatives usually compliment a child on how much they have grown or how they look. Children should receive the compliment with a smiling, “Thank you.” It’s disrespectful to contradict a complimentary remark. When a child is told she looks pretty in her outfit, she shouldn’t reply that she hates it and her mom made her wear it anyway. This implies that the person complimenting her is wrong. 5. Stand up for adults.

Children should always rise from their seats when an adult they haven’t greeted enters the room. They should acknowledge the older person with eye contact and a smile. It is always courteous to greet people cheerfully, turn down the TV or music, and share the space on the couch or at the table. 6. Avoid annoying behaviors. No gum chewing, roughhousing, or yelling where adults are congregating. Instead be happy and pleasant to be around. 7. Ask to be excused. Though adults often linger at the end of the meal, most children can’t sit that long without fidgeting. When a child has finished eating and has visited a reasonable amount of time, they should ask, “May I please be excused?” Their polite request should be honored. 8. Stay off the phone. Cell phones should not be brought to the table, nor should a phone conversation be held in the room where people are visiting. If a child must talk on the phone, he should go to a private place and talk briefly so he can

rejoin the group. 9. Te x t m e s s a g i n g a n d visiting don’t mix. Children truly believe they can carry on a polite conversation and send or receive text messages at the same time, but when their attention is divided, they aren’t respecting the other person. Ask your child to put their phone away for the day. When everyone has gone home, they can talk and text as much as they want. 10. Take out your ear phones and turn off your IPOD. You can listen to your IPOD later, but for now, spend time talking and sharing with the people who really care about you. Practice makes perfect, so start practicing with your child today. By Thanksgiving, their manners will be as natural as breathing. ■

MANNERS MINUTE Q: Who should be the first to begin eating at dinner? A: If there is a guest of honor, he or she should begin eating first. If not, the host or hostess should begin first.

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EXTRAVABANDZA! night at the Aledo High School Football game. Halftime performances included 600-plus members of bands from McAnally Intermediate School, Aledo Middle School and Aledo High School. What a performance!

Curtis Elementary’s Kids Unite had its Fourth Annual Paper Airplane races where students design and fly their own paper airplane designs. Pictured is fourth grader Austin Christmas who won this year’s event.

Rafe Fairfield, a first grade student in Elisha Drake’s classroom at Ikard Elementary, used the school’s magnetic letters to compose a letter to his father during the school’s “Lunch with a Loved One” day to support the Book Fair.

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Coder Elementary recently hosted a “Date with Dudes” event where kindergarteners and their dads have breakfast before dads are off to work. Fun morning for all! Here are just a few of the smiling faces.

Fairy Tales Teach First-Graders Reading Skills. Having parents read to their children at home is a fond memory for many of us. At Coder Elementary’s recent first-grade Fairy Tale Ball, children dressed as their favorite fairy-tale characters and listened while volunteers read fairy tales to them. The kids also dined on royal snacks and danced. AISD Board Vice President Bobby Rigues was one of the volunteers reading to students. “It was a pleasure to see their eyes light up at familiar parts of the story,” he said. “Watching their enthusiasm reinforced how incredibly important reading is, and also the importance of being read to ... something we sometimes forget to do as our children get older.”

What we’re really talking about is a wonderful day set aside on the fourth Thursday of November when no one diets.  I mean, why else would they call it Thanksgiving?  Erma Bombeck

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and beat them at their own game. The only way to win against credit card companies is by refusing to play! —Dave

Dear Dave,

Dear Dave,

Do you recommend paying off credit card balances before or after you close the accounts? — Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

Either way is fine. The point is to get rid of them, and stop using the stupid things! I like the idea and the finality of going ahead and closing the accounts, but doing that will sometimes

spur credit card companies to do dumb, unfair things—like jack up the interest rates. You’re on the right track, though. Personal finance is 80 percent behavior, and getting credit cards and credit card debt out of your life is a great first step in learning to behave with your money. You don’t build wealth or save money by using credit cards, and you’re naïve if you think you’re going to play around with a multi-billion-dollar industry

You talk a lot about delaying gratification in order to attain what you really want. This is such a difficult thing to do. What techniques do you use to make this happen? Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

You’re right, it is hard. Sometimes it’s very difficult to push away from that second piece of pie or get up off your tail and exercise. But learning to delay pleasure is part of the process when it comes to growing up emotionally. I think when you’ve practiced it long enough your mind begins to grasp

the concept that what’s waiting down the road is much better than whatever happens to be sitting in front of you at the moment. I didn’t want to get up and run this morning, but I know that I look and feel better when I do my roadwork. That’s why I made myself get out of bed early and run three miles. The whole process has to start in the brain, and drop from there to the heart, where it promotes understanding and mature actions. So really, it’s an intellectual behavior that affects will. You have to logically and intellectually grasp the concept, then think about where you’re going and where you’ll end up as a result of your actions! — Dave

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Community interactive motivational magazine for Parker County, Texas.

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