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Ask Gabby Gayle Advice for the over-50 crowd

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By Gayle M. Lagman-Creswick

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ear Gabby Gayle: I have read the “Old Bags Rules for Casual Dating.” I know some men who use it, but I have yet to meet a woman who likes it. We grew up in an age when your date paid for you, and it seems embarrassing to me to be asked to pay my own way. Sure wish you would amend your rules! Signed, Old Fashioned

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ear Old Fashioned: The Old Bag Rules were born basically for two reasons. 1. Many women had written me that when going out with a guy and he pays, he thinks it comes with “benefits.” 2. Guys wrote to me saying they would like to date more but could not afford it, saying that a dinner and theater date could cost $100 or more, depending upon the venue. So the rules for casual dating were born. Concentrate on the word “casual” and also, they are optional rules! What does the Old Bag know about you and your dating buddies? At any rate, Gabby doesn’t care what you do. It should be between you and your date. It is, however, nice to know ahead of time. Guys: please do not spring this on your date, when it’s possible she didn’t bring any money! LOL. P.S. For those who have not followed me for long, in Arizona and Nevada my column used to be called “Ask the Old Bag.” My column is still called by that same name in Colorado. —GG

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ear Old Bag: (from Colorado) First of all, I love your column. I have been reading the letters about people and their gay children and or grandchildren. What is wrong with you people? These kids of ours were created by God. I am a Christian, but I am smart enough go know the Bible is a book of stories written back before they knew what toilet paper was. Your children and grandchildren are a mixture of the DNA between you and your husband. Did you ever stop to think it’s your fault, not theirs or God’s? Blame science. They are “people” for Heavens sake! I have a gay daughter with an IQ of 189. My feeling is this: God does not make junk! The love I

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have for my daughter outweighs the opinion I may have of her lifestyle. She is no different than you and me. She is a human being and deserves love and respect like anyone else. What if it were you? Get your head screwed on correctly. Signed, KM

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ear KM: Thank you for writing! This has been a topic which has drawn lots of letters, both for and against acceptance of alternative lifestyles and sexual orientation. I am all for family unity and that requires lots of acceptance and love in every family. If your attitude breaks up family unity, I say rethink what kind of results you want. Do you want family unity, or to create a situation where people do not speak to each other, or engage in other, more covert behaviors? The Old Bag

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ear Gabby Gayle: I have been following your column for some time and I know you always say, “Don’t give advice to your adult children unless they ask, and then only very carefully.” I agree with this advice, but we have a situation that I believe requires intervention from someone and perhaps me. My grandson is fifteen-years-old and in my perception is way out of hand. They say he has a bad temper. I think it is far worse — maybe bipolar (disorder). I am afraid he is going to hurt someone if something is not done to help him ...What can I do? Signed, Helpless

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ear Helpless: If you truly believe that someone is in danger, you do need to try to intervene. I suggest you get help yourself from a professional, who can guide you on this path to talk to the child’s parents. I wish you the best in results. Sometimes, it is sad to say, nothing will be done until a crisis occurs. —GG If you have a question for Gabby Gayle, please send it to: Ask Gabby Gayle in care of this newspaper, or email it to: lagmancreswick@cox.net

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