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TIDBITS® REMEMBERS FAVORITE TV DADS

by Kathy Wolfe They solved sibling disputes, dispensed wisdom, and were pillars of the community. These were our favorite fictional dads, the ones we watched on the small screen while we were growing up. • For 203 episodes, Michael Landon played the pioneer Charles Ingalls, loosely based on the Little House series of books penned by Laura Ingalls Wilder. Little House on the Prairie aired from 1974 to 1982, and chronicled the family’s life on their Walnut Grove, Minnesota farm in the 1870s and 1880s. The real-life Charles loved traveling and moved his family six times. In addition to portraying Ingalls, Landon directed over 40% of the episodes. Charles Ingalls holds the #4 spot on the TV Guide list of the greatest TV dads. • The model dad of the 1950s was Jim Anderson, a salesman and manager of the General Insurance Company. Robert Young portrayed Jim for 203 episodes beginning in 1954 in Father Knows Best, a program with the ideal family and a moral lesson each week. Jim was the husband of housewife Margaret and father to Betty, Bud, and Kathy. The show was not successful its first season and was cancelled. CBS was inundated with viewers’ protest letters, and the series was picked up by NBC, who moved it to an earlier, family-friendly time slot, where it remained for the next five years. turn the page for more

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Tidbits® of CDA TV DADS (continued): • Another classic 1950s dad was Ward Cleaver, head of the family on Leave it to Beaver, husband of June and father of Wally and Theodore (the Beaver). Ward was a native of Shaker Heights, Ohio, who graduated from State College in Philosophy and served in World War II as a Seabee. During the series’ duration from 1957 to 1963, Ward was most frequently seen in his business suit and white shirt, toting his briefcase to his job at the trust company, although he drove his Plymouth Fury to Mayfield’s country club golf course on the weekends. In real life, actor Hugh Beaumont was a licensed Methodist preacher, who opted for a career in show business. After retiring, he began a new career as a Christmas tree farmer in Minnesota. •Baby boomers will remember the trials and tribulations of single parenthood from the long-running series, My Three Sons. Steven Douglas ranks #7 on TV Guide’s list of the greatest TV dads. Played by actor Fred McMurray from 1960 to 1972, Steve was a widowed aeronautical engineer raising three boys on his own, assisted by cranky Uncle Charlie. MacMurray was the only cast member to appear in every one of the series’ 380 episodes. The sons changed over the years, with some growing up and moving away and others being adopted, and the addition of triplet boys to one son’s family in keeping with the “three sons” theme. • Single dad Andy Taylor served as the sheriff and justice of the peace of Mayberry, North Carolina on CBS from 1960 to 1968 on The Andy Griffith Show. Fans will remember the opening credits that featured Andy and son Opie strolling down a country lane, fishing poles in hand, to a whistled tune called “The Fishing Hole.” Andy put up with his harebrained deputy Barney Fife, who also

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An INVITATION to Come Together and CONNECT

We are announcing a new network and looking for members who service people in the age group 40 plus. The focus will be to Educate, Support and Expand. We are committed to making a difference, living simply, giving and receiving with care and respect. Rather than a monthly meeting we will come together to help support at least one of our fellow members with a function or event that they may be hosting, especially our not-for-profit members. Coming together in this manner will help us all. A fresh way to network! FOR MORE INFO CHECK OUT PAGE 4!


Page 3 TV DADS (continued): happened to be his cousin. Around town, Andy played checkers at Floyd’s Barber Shop, visited Gomer Pyle and his cousin Goober down at the filling station, and romanced schoolteacher Helen Crump. At home, he enlisted the help of his Aunt Bee for household chores and assistance with Opie (played by Ron Howard, who went on to movie directing fame.) • The old West had its own version of the single dad with Ben Cartwright, owner of the 600,000-acre Ponderosa Ranch on the shores of Nevada’s Lake Tahoe. Bonanza endured 14 seasons from 1959 to 1973, frequently ranking as TV’s number one program. Ben was widowed three times, with one son from each marriage – Adam, Hoss, and Little Joe. His first wife was from Boston, where Ben had been a seaman and later a shop owner specializing in supplies for merchant vessels. Newly widowed, he and Adam moved out West. Ben ranks #2 on TV Guide’s list of greatest TV dads. • It wasn’t the plan for Eight is Enough’s Tom Bradford to be a single dad. The series started out in 1977 with actress Diana Hyland starring as his wife, but Hyland fell seriously ill after taping just four episodes, and passed away 12 days after the first episode aired. Tom remarried a schoolteacher during the series’ second season. Tom was a columnist for a Sacramento newspaper, a storyline based on the real life of syndicated columnist Thomas Braden, a father of eight children who wrote a book about his parenting adventures. • Another widower, magazine publisher Tom Corbett, was kept busy raising his six-yearold son on The Courtship of Eddie’s Father. Eddie occupied his days scheming to find the ideal wife for his dad. Bill Bixby starred as

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• Summer travel season will soon be in full swing. So this week, here's a collection of tips for airline travel, beginning with one of my own: Make all reservations with the name on your official ID card, be it your driver's license or state ID. It will streamline every encounter where you need to present your ID and tickets. • "Get samples of your favorite cosmetics, if you can, from your department store. This way, you'll be able to leave your full-size cosmetics at home during weekend trips." -- B.B. in California • If you travel quite a bit and are in the market for a new suitcase, spring for a color or pattern version -- the brighter, the better. There is an endless parade of black cases on every baggage-claim belt. Ribbons and tags can come off in travel. If your case is black and you aren't ready to replace it, try decorating it with colorful duct tape on all non-fabric areas. • "Bring contact information for your airline with you. If you miss a flight, call rather than stand in line. It's more effective. Make sure you have all your information handy." -- A.R. in Ohio • A "nonstop" flight goes directly from one city to the destination city, no stops. A "direct" flight means that you might make stops along the way, some even requiring that you disembark, but you will not change planes before your destination. There can be many hours' difference in travel times, so know the difference! • "Delayed flights happen. If you are late getting to your hotel, call ahead and have dinner waiting. If the hotel does not have room service, the front desk will have the phone number of a local pizza or other food delivery service, guaranteed! It's one less stop to deal with." -- J.L. in North Carolina

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Page 4 An INVITATION to Come Together and CONNECT

Are you community minded, want to make a difference, and are looking for a fresh new way to grow your business and yourself? We are proud to announce the expansion of TIDBITS and a new opportunity for you and your business or service: CONNECT, a bright new inclusive network now forming. We are looking for members who serve the 40 + age group and want to CONNECT and: EDUCATE BE KNOWN AS THE EXPERT YOU ARE AND SHARE THIS KNOWLEDGE. You will be a featured ‘Expert’ once each month, answering questions, sharing information or updates about your business, or announcing an event. SUPPORT MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN YOUR BUSINESS AND IN OUR COMMUNITY. Come together to support other members - especially our non-profits, be a part of what is happening in our community, and be of service. As we Give, we Receive! EXPAND GROW YOUR BUSINESS AND GROW YOURSELF! Get affordable exposure to new customers and learn new practices that will keep you and your business fresh and exciting. Many are mightier than one! Join, have fun, and be ready to grow. For CONNECT particulars and how to become a member Contact: Mary Thomas, at Mail.mary.e.thomas@gmail.com or call Mary at: (208) 964-9357

® of®Dallas Tidbits County Tidbits of CDA TV DADS (continued): Corbett during Courtship’s run from 1969 to 1972, moving up to direct eight episodes. When Bixby had a disagreement with the producer over the direction of the show, it was cancelled after its third season. • It was the story of a man named Brady from 1969 to 1974. Mike Brady, that is – architect and father of three sons, who married Carol, mother of three daughters, to form one of America’s favorite blended families. The program was created by producer Sherwood Schwartz after he read a newspaper article in the late ‘60s stating that nearly 30% of families had a least one child from a previous marriage. More than 450 girls and boys were interviewed by the producer before narrowing the number down to the six Brady children. Although Mike was considered one of TV’s greatest dads (#14 on the TV Guide list), in actuality, actor Robert Reed strongly disliked the role and was difficult to work with on the set. He had been trained as a Shakespearean actor at London’s Royal Academy of Dramatic Arts, and viewed the show as a silly sitcom and beneath his acting abilities. However, Reed genuinely liked his co-stars and would even take them on trips during their summer break. The storylines were drawn from the producer’s own family as well as those of the cast members. It must have seemed very realistic to many viewers, as fan mail from children frequently arrived, asking if they could live with the Brady family, due to troubles within their own families.

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SENIOR NEWS LINE by Matilda Charles

Senior Discounts Are the Real Deal

A young guy working in a restaurant recently made my day. He leaned over and whispered that if I asked for the "senior dinner," I would save nearly $2, and the senior dinner came with extras. Who wouldn't want that? Sometimes the hardest part of getting a senior discount is knowing what age qualifies as "senior." Do they mean 50, when AARP starts sending us mail? Or 55? Or is it 60, 62 or 65? To find locations in your area that give a senior discount, check these locations online: http://www.sciddy.com -- The site is called "Seniors Pay Less," and it's organized the information by category. Put in your ZIP code and the distance you're willing to travel. I learned, for example, that there's actually a pizza shop in my area that gives an over-55 discount. http://seniordiscounts.com -- Full access costs $12.95 a year, but may be worth it if you'll use your senior discounts. As a sample of the free access, go to the site, click on "restaurants" in the drop down menu and put in your ZIP code. Your best bet is to call businesses and ask in advance (even Senior Discounts has some outdated information). If there are certain places in your area that you like to shop or have a meal, call to inquire about their age cutoff for seniors discounts. Make your own list. Don't forget some of the big-ticket items, like your property tax. Some municipalities give discounts to seniors. If you're traveling, ask about a senior discount for motels, airfare and car rental. Ask in places where you routinely spend money, such as the grocery stores, especially the chains. Carry your AARP card in your wallet, because in many places that's all you need. Matilda Charles regrets that she cannot personally answer reader questions, but will incorporate them into her column whenever possible. Send email to columnreply2@gmail.com. (c) 2013 King Features Synd., Inc.


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By Dr. Holly Carling

Are You Suffering from Sleep Deprivation?

When was the last time you slept well? Over 80 million Americans suffer from lack of sleep. It is estimated that 50% of work related accidents and 25% of household accidents are caused by fatigue due to lack of sleep and 100,000 auto accidents occur annually due to lack of sleep. Taking OTC or prescribed medications may help you sleep, but you are generally left feeling groggy or just as tired in the morning. The quality of sleep isn’t good and more importantly the cause of not sleeping has not been addressed. Many people say to me: “I know the cause – I just can’t shut my mind down!” But if you used to be able to shut it down and can’t now, why not? Insomnia is a red flag that something is out of balance in the body. There are many nutrients that are essential to have balanced brain chemistry which is vital if you want to “shut your brain down” at night. Are you consuming those nutrients or are you loading your body down at night with empty calorie foods? A diet high in carbohydrates not only will be missing these critical raw materials for healthy brain function, but the rebound effect on the brain at night as a result of the sugar load can cause you to awaken in the middle of the night, and find it difficult to return to sleep. Many can’t sleep because of pain. Obviously remedying these problems is a must. Have you ever tried acupuncture or other non-medication approaches? Acupuncture works by reducing pain, inflammation, swelling and muscle spasms. It is quite effective in resolving those pain issues keeping you awake at night. The adrenal glands, which are part of the stress response in the body, can be instrumental in the quality of your sleep. Today, because of the unusual degree of prolonged stress response, the average person has sub-optimal adrenal function. This also can be associated with the nocturnal awakening, as well as the inability to “shut down the mind” at night. Some people can’t fall asleep due to restless leg syndrome or leg cramps that awaken them at night. These are very aggravating conditions for those who suffer with them. Both of those are caused by nutritional deficiencies that when addressed not only resolve the condition, but generally results in deeper quality of sleep than the person was experiencing on the best of nights! Insomnia is a very treatable condition. When you address the underlying causative problem (not just manage it medically) you will find a greater sense of well being and other health challenges will begin to unexpectedly resolve as well! Happy sleeping! Dr. Holly Carling is a Doctor of Oriental Medicine, Licensed Acupuncturist, Doctor of Naturopathy, Clinical Nutritionist and Master Herbologist with over 34 years of experience. Dr. Carling is currently accepting new patients and offers natural health care services and whole food nutritional supplements in her Coeur d’ Alene clinic. Visit Dr. Carling’s website at www.vitalhealthandfitness. com to learn more about Dr. Carling, view a list of upcoming health classes and read other informative articles. Dr. Carling can be reached at 208-765-1994 and would be happy to answer any questions regarding this topic.

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Q: What Does Dow 15,000 Mean to You? A: This month, the Dow Jones Industrial Average closed above 15,000 for the first time. What does Dow 15,000 mean to you, as an individual investor? If you own stocks, it’s obviously good news that prices have risen so dramatically. Nonetheless, sooner or later, the markets will change course. When this happens, what should you do? First, don’t panic — corrections of 10 percent or more are a normal part of the market cycle. Also, keep investing. If you head to the investment sidelines, you could miss out on opportunities when the market recovers. Next, review your portfolio to make sure it still fits your needs and risk tolerance. Finally, keep looking for ways to diversify. Diversification can’t guarantee a profit or protect against a loss, but it can help reduce the impact of the volatility that occurs when the market is changing directions. The Dow at 15,000 is a notable event. But today’s highs can be quickly forgotten when the market falls — so be prepared for that day. Call Scarlet at 208.667.8284

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Thursday, June 20th, provides a great opportunity to meet one of our own CONNECT members and local Tri-Athlete, Alex Litz, at Coeur d’Alene Gallery, downtown CdA from 5pm to 8 p.m. Alex will be selling raffle tickets for a really cool bike, with proceeds to benefit St. Vincent de Paul’s Warming Center. Thank you Alex and Good Luck! Here is the CONNECT ‘hit’ list for two very worthy benefits in July. Saturday, July 20th, is the 5th Annual St. Vincent de Paul STEAK-FRY. The food, fun, and festivities will be held at the Kootenai County Fairgrounds. Award winning ‘Pit-Masters’, Jeff Selle and Jay Bremner will be doing their magic on the steaks. Yumm! Headlining the evening’s entertainment is Kelly Hughes, with Colby Acuff and Justin Sherfey opening the show. Admission is $25 in advance and $30 at the door. All proceeds go to the St. Vincent DePaul North Idaho’s Family Emergency Programs. Come out and join in the fun at this great community event. Yahoo! Friday, July 26th, is the 1st Annual ‘Spay-ghetti and No-Balls’ fundraiser for Animal Allies of Idaho. This is a new non-profit organization and their mission is simple and effective: ‘Animal Allies of Idaho (AAID) was established in January 2013 to AAID our community and its animals by sustaining a healthy pet population. AAID is establishing a low cost spay/neuter clinic in Coeur d’Alene and raising awareness throughout Northern Idaho that pet sterilization benefits both people and pets.’ Cost is $ 25, and it will be held at The Pizza Factory in Coeur d’Alene. Stay tuned for more information on AAID and this sure to be fun ‘fun’draiser! Can we say ‘Bow-WOW’!

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速 of速Dallas Tidbits County Tidbits of CDA Alzheimer's disease by: Susan Ashley MD Alzheimer's disease (AD) is one of the most feared diseases that can occur, because with the progressive loss of memory, we lose who we once were. 1 in 8 older Americans have AD, and 200,000 have early onset AD. Nearly half of those over age 85 have AD. Diabetes increases the risk of AD, as does insulin resistance and anything that causes chronic inflammation. AD and other types of dementia can be detected early using a quantitative EEG analysis, called an Evoke brain scan. PET scans can also detect plaque build-up consistent with AD, and MRI can detect changes in the hippocampus, the area most affected by Alzheimer's. Having an Apo-E4 gene increases your risk of AD. What can be done to treat this disease and slow the progression? There are many studies showing the effectiveness of a type of oil that fuels the brain and allows for better cognition and memory. Using a combination of MCT oil (medium chain triglyceride) and coconut oil, improvements can be made, even in more severe cases. Use MCT/coconut oil in a 1:1 ratio. Start with 1 tsp with food 2-3 times per day with meals, and increase by 1 tsp with meals every few days to a total of 4-9 tablespoons per day as tolerated. The limiting side effects are diarrhea and nausea, so start slow. For more information on this natural and successful treatment, go to: coconutketones.com. There are many supplements that can improve brain function which I commonly use in my patients. Bio-identical hormones help brain function, estrogen for women and testosterone for men, and indeed, lower the risk of dementia by 30%. Anything that decreases inflammation will lower your risk. Specific supplements needed to fuel the brain include CoQ10, fish oil with high DHA, anti-oxidants such as astaxanthin, and flavonoids such as quercetin, rutin, and luteolin. I also advise taking lithium orotate 5-20mg before bed, as it helps to protect the neuronal connections and preserve brain function, and phosphatidylserene. Vinpocetine helps increase oxygen to the brain, and acetyl-L-carnitine helps to provide more energy for the brain. Avoid eating inflammatory foods, such as fast food, trans fat, omega 6 oils, MSG and fluoride. For more information read Dr Russell Blaylock's book "Excitotoxins: The Taste that Kills". Eat blueberries or pomegrantes daily to decrease your risk of AD and improve memory function because of the high anti-oxidants! An innovative technique just beginning to be used is something called brain wave entrainment and trans-cranial stimulation. Basically, you're trying to stimulate the brain's electrical pathways thru mild electrical stimulation, or the use of flashes and lights and pulses of tones to affect your brain wave patterns and improve performance and memory. Don't accept memory loss as a normal part of aging. It doesn't have to be, and you can do something about it, starting today!

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by Samantha Weaver • It was architect Frank Lloyd Wright who made the following sage observation: "A doctor can bury his mistakes, but an architect can only advise his clients to plant vines." • If you take the free toiletries when you stay in a hotel, you're not alone; fully 92 percent of travelers do so. • In a traditional wedding in Fiji, the groom is expected to present the bride's father with a tooth from a whale, and the bride gets tattooed before the ceremony. • You might be surprised to learn that lightning isn't confined to thunderstorms; the phenomenon can also occur in hurricanes, forest fires, volcanic eruptions and even serious snowstorms. • What's in a name? A great deal, it turns out, if you're talking about housing prices. Those who study such things say that a house on a "boulevard" is valued at over one-third more than the same house that has "street" in its address. • Before the 1976 film "Star Wars" was released, the studio, Twentieth Century Fox, conducted some marketing research on the movie. The results? It was concluded that robots would turn off most viewers, and that under no circumstances should the word "war" be used in the title. Obviously, filmmaker George Lucas ignored the advice. • Idi Amin may be best remembered as Uganda's corrupt and violent dictator during most of the 1970s, but from 1951 to 1960, he was that country's heavyweight boxing champion. • The literal translation of "karate" from the Japanese is "empty hand." Thought for the Day: "There are two ways of constructing a software design; one way is to make it so simple that there are obviously no deficiencies, and the other way is to make it so complicated that there are no obvious deficiencies. The first method is far more difficult." -- C.A.R. Hoare (c) 2013 King Features Synd., Inc.


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Dear Auntie M.,

by Freddy Groves

Military Sexual Assault

Last year, 26,000 service members were sexually assaulted while serving in the U.S. military. That's a sentence that ought to make any decent person feel sick. There's even a handy acronym for it now: MST, for Military Sexual Trauma. Worse, of the estimated 26,000 victims, only 3,400 reported the incidents. That speaks volumes about what kind of help the victims expected to get from the military -- retaliation. MST was all over the news recently when some of those responsible for preventing sexual assault at military bases were arrested FOR sexual assault. The Defense Secretary was appalled, as he should be, and ordered all 25,000 people in assault prevention roles to be re-certified by July 1. Heads are rolling. If you were a victim of sexual assault while you served in the military and never reported it, I hope you do now. If you didn't get help, take advantage of the assistance and treatment that's available. You CAN recover. From the Department of Veterans Affairs' website section on sexual assault, here are some of the emotional responses to sexual assault: feelings of numbness; trouble with attention, concentration and memory; relationship problems; trouble sleeping; and problems with alcohol and drugs. Untreated, it can lead to diagnoses of PTSD, anxiety disorders, depression, and drug and alcohol abuse. In addition, even if you're not eligible for VA care, you can receive treatment for military sexual assault. Every VA facility has a coordinator to help direct you to the right services and programs. Whether you're a veteran or on active duty, if you were a victim of military sexual assault, get treatment. You can be whole again. Your care and treatment, especially now, are most likely to be top-notch. And for those who doubt the pervasiveness of sexual assault in the military, rent the documentary "The Invisible War" from Netflix. Freddy Groves regrets that he cannot personally answer reader questions, but will incorporate them into his column whenever possible. Send email to columnreply2@gmail.com. (c) 2013 King Features Synd., Inc.

My boyfriend is gambling more and more and lately taking all my money. I'm behind on my bills and the rent. My ex-husband is threatening to take the kids cause they are always hungry and I'm about to be homeless. I love this guy and I don’t want to lose him. He can’t find a job and says he’s going to hit it big if I believe in him. I’m getting really nervous and don’t know what to do. Anxious in Athol Dear Anxious, RUN, do not walk, away from this guy as fast as you can. Are you really allowing him to take food and a home from your children? It is time to get real and set some priorities for yourself and your family. You deserve it and you are worth it. I would guess that this situation has been building for some time. While he has you feeding him money he will not leave. What I will bet on (no pun intended) is that he will become more abusive to you and your children- if he hasn't already. He has a serious problem and he has made you a party to it. He cannot make himself wrong so he will make you wrong – hence the ‘if only you believe in him he will make it big.” Please! Every loss confirms (to him) that you don’t ‘believe in him.’ How is his addiction your fault? Have you heard of co-dependency and enabling? I strongly suggest you get some help from a counselor or social worker ASAP. My heart tells me he has mentally and emotionally beat you down till you have little or no self-confidence left. If you are truly unable to leave him then perhaps having your ex take the kids is a good idea. Why should they suffer for your actions? Parents teach their children by their actions and behaviors as well as their words. What are your choices teaching your children? Please find the strength to teach them a better way to love and be loved, for only by learning how to love ourselves do we get the love we crave, need and deserve. In every moment we get to choose how our life will be. What will you choose now? In faith, Auntie M. Serious questions welcomed.

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