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Wedding season is upon us and brides are looking for the most popular and unique trends to incorporate into their own weddings. When preparing for the big day, keep these tips and trends in mind, courtesy of Chelsi Nabours with Events by Chelsi.
Brides these days are looking to be more simple, sleek and elegant. “I see a lot of simple necklines, like strapless or sweetheart, with vintage-looking accents such as pleating, lace, bows or flowers, and crystal broach details,” says Chelsi.
“Darker bridesmaid dresses such as black, navy, deep purple and dark red are becoming more popular,” says Chelsi. There’s a running joke that brides always tell their bridesmaids: “You can totally wear it again!” And 99% of the time, the dress ends up in the back of a closet. According to Chelsi, dark dresses are much more likely to be worn again, possibly at a cocktail party or even a Mardi Gras ball.
Finger foods and buffets are taking the place of sit-down, plated dinners at most receptions. “The bride and groom want their guests to eat well, and eat quickly, so the celebration can start,” says Chelsi. One of the newest trends is gourmet foods served by carts or trucks. Brides are now opting for these carts during cocktail hour or even food trucks for late night snacks. Whether it is waffles, donuts, tacos or sliders, this trend turns an average celebration into more of a club-type atmosphere. Whatever you choose, the best wedding ideas will be the ones that reflect your style and personality. For more information on wedding tips and trends, contact Chelsi Nabours with Events by Chelsi at (337) 802-3734.
Brides base their color choices off of their bridesmaid dresses. “If the bride chose a dark color, an alternative light color is usually chosen to brighten things up,” says Chelsi. “For example, ivory can be added to black or aqua can be added to navy.”
Flowers and floral arrangements are still a staple in weddings today. Roses are always a top pick but can be a little pricey. Chelsi suggests choosing a cheaper alternative such as a mixed bouquet that compliments the bridesmaid dress color. The bride can choose an eye-popping display without paying top dollar. “My favorite was a wedding with bouquets and centerpieces made of parrot tulips and hydrangeas. It was gorgeous!”
When planning a reception, couples are focusing more on entertaining and celebrating with their guests. DJ’s with turntables are gaining popularity when planning receptions. They are able to create a unique mix of music personalized for the newlyweds and their guests, guaranteeing a night full of dancing. Photobooths are also gaining in popularity, as they are able to make receptions fun, unique and most of all, memorable. February 2011
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Tying the Financial Knot Mortgage payments, credit scores and debt calculation may not be the most romantic topic for pre-marital conversations, but financial experts agree that it’s essential conversation for the foundation of a strong marriage. Disagreements over money are a leading cause of divorce in the United States, with many expert sources naming it the number one reason couples do not stay together. “This is why your financial compatibility is an issue that should be addressed well in advance of the wedding date,” says Gail Brame, Vice President with Cameron State Bank. “When couples talk about marriage, they typically only consider the emotional aspects of it, but the truth is, when you decide to make that commitment, there are some very practical financial concerns that should be addressed.” You certainly don’t have to be wealthy to have a conversation about financial logistics in your upcoming marriage, stresses Brame. “Whether you’re a pauper or a prince, there are still several topics to tackle.” Couples need to openly and honestly discuss the most obvious questions: “How much money do you make?” for example, to the less-obvious, such as, “What is your credit score?” or “How much debt do you have?” It’s also important to seriously consider your partner’s spending habits, according to Brame. “Before couples get married, they usually have an idea of how their partner spends money. In a dating relationship, it may not seem like such a big deal. It’s easy to blow it off as carefree spending or penny-pinching,” she says. “But when you get married, spending habits become a serous issue. If one person saves like a miser and the other person spends like a millionaire, that can create some significant problems in a marriage. Recognizing these potential land mines of financial incompatibility ahead of time can provide a more stable environment for the marriage to grow. These aren’t the types of issues that are going to go away if they aren’t resolved.” Too often, couples jump into marriage and when it comes to finances, they choose to “wing it,” determining their disposable income on a pay-as-you-go basis. This can definitely create friction, especially in the first few months of marital bliss, which often is more 4
stressful than blissful, says Brame. It’s best to make decisions before the dotted line has been signed on the marriage certificate. These decisions, such as whether or not to have joint or separate checking accounts, how much to save or who will be responsible for paying which bills, can always be revisited and arrangement modified later. However, if no decisions have been made initially, it can make for unexpected– and unnecessary– confrontations in the early days of a marriage.” Typically, the couples who have the least financial disagreements in their marriages are those who understand each others’ spending habits, saving habits, financial philosophies, earnings and debts before they get married,” says Brame. “When you don’t have that understanding, it’s easy to be caught off-guard when financial bombshells hit, especially if the couple has opposing philosophies about spending and saving.” Thrive Bride Guide
And Brame says there are more selfish reasons to be worried about a partner’s financial situation: Once you are married, your financial records are often combined as well, and one spouse’s immaculate credit score can sometimes be threatened by the other’s poor one.” “Discussing your individual financial situation is very personal, so some couples choose not to go there,” says Brame. “But a marriage is built on intimacy, trust and honesty. What better way to express that than to trust your future husband or wife with your most personal financial information? Doing so before – rather than after vows are said – may mean the difference between years of wedded bliss and a quick trip to divorce court.” by Kristy Armand
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When Cupid Strikes Five years ago John Niles was in the check-out line at Albertson’s when he picked up something that wasn’t on his grocery list – a divorcee named JoAnn. She was bringing dinner to her son, an employee at the store, when she decided to pick up a few items for the house. The man in front of her in line was “a handsome fella,” but she didn’t think much of it, even when he lingered around the lane as she purchased her items. “When I was finished up with my groceries, he said ‘Hi, JoAnn.’ I said hello, but had no idea who he was until he told me – homeroom, LaGrange, 1974. Once he said his name, I remembered him. I didn’t recognize him because when we were kids he had glasses and a full head of curly hair,” JoAnn said. In high school both of them were shy; although they remembered each other, they’d barely spoken before. JoAnn told him she’d been divorced for two years and was currently working at a local retirement home. He said he’d never married, but was engaged. After their brief catching-up session they didn’t speak for a few months. In the meantime, however, John’s engagement broke-up and he decided to look for his old high school classmate to see if she wanted to get together. There was just one problem: He couldn’t remember where she worked. When he finally found her, it turned out to be worth it. She accepted his offer for a date and things moved quickly – they were married six months later. “God has been good,” JoAnn says. “John is the love of my life. He is my soul mate. He makes my heart grow. I never knew life could be this good, and he says the same thing.” Although the Albertson’s grocery line proved to be more fundamental than the homeroom class they shared in 1974, high school played a much more significant role in the romance of Katie and Josh Harrington. They met 14 years ago, when they were both freshmen at Barbe. “The second-to-last day of school we were in the cafeteria before school started. He asked me if I wanted to go for a walk (and) as we walked toward our first-hour classes he said, ‘So I heard you like me.’ I replied, ‘I heard you like me too.’ He said, ‘So, you wanna date?’ And the rest, as they say, is history.” Maintaining a high-school romance into the real world is challenging for many couples– as people mature, the dynamics of their relationship changes. But Katie and Josh, now parents of two daughters, feel that their six-year marriage will continue and strengthen into a lifelong partnership. “The greatest reward of being married to my high school sweetheart is that we have literally grown up together and our history with each other is so rich. We can still laugh and cut up with each other over the silliest things, like we are two teenagers,” Katie says. “That rich history can also be a challenge, however. We have had to grow up together over the years and as
you grow, a lot of times you change who you are as a person. This can be a challenge to adapt to when you have known someone for so long. Still, there is a lot of comfort in knowing that I am married to my best friend and that he knows me better than I know myself most days.” Research by sociologists at the University of Chicago indicates that school and work are the most common places that married couples meet, accounting for as many as 20 percent of married couples in America. Not surprisingly, parties and bars were ideal JoAnn and John Niles grounds for one-month flings, providing environments for up to 25 percent of these shortlived romances, but they are also responsible for 8 to 10 percent of modern married couples getting together. According to the research, 11 percent of married American couples met at church, while less than one percent met by personal ads or dating services. There was no research on how many married couples have met in Albertson’s check-out lines, but Katie and Josh Harrington JoAnn insists she’s been “checking John out ever since.”
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Possibly the biggest decision you will face in preparing for your big day is finding the perfect dress. The process of shopping for a wedding dress can be a great adventure, but it can also be stressful and overwhelming--particularly because a bride-to-be often starts shopping for her gown before many other details are determined. The important thing do is to relax, and remember that there are as many different kinds of dresses out there as there are different kinds of brides. You should start shopping for your gown at least nine months before your wedding in order to give yourself enough time to have the gown ordered and have alterations made. To start off the process of choosing the perfect gown you should plan ahead. Take a few minutes to think about what you want. It will be helpful to know what your budget is, any details that are essential, and an idea of
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how traditional you want your dress to be. Also, keep in mind that on your wedding day, you’ll want to look great, but you’ll also want to be comfortable- it will be hard to dance and laugh if you’re constantly pulling your dress up or have boning poking into your ribs. Consider which type of wedding dress is most appropriate for your day –short or long, strapless or straps. Look for a wedding dress with removable sleeves or straps to give you the widest range of options. Think about your body type and what kinds of dresses generally look good on you. Take a look at what you regularly wear that makes you feel confident and beautiful, and then look for a wedding dress with similar lines. If money is an issue, remember that the most expensive kind of dress is not necessarily the best kind. Many brides find a bridesmaids dress in white or off-white that works perfectly, and is hundreds of dollars cheaper. There are thousands of dresses to be had at sample sales, thrift stores, and ebay. Consider taking pictures from magazines to a friend who sews or seamstress and getting a price quote. If you choose to make your own dress, don’t delay. The sooner you finish it, the sooner you’ll be able to attend to the many other details of your wedding. Most of all, remember this is your wedding day. Wear whatever makes you comfortable and feels like you. And have fun shopping for your wedding dress. It should be an once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.
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Water - If your wedding is held in the warm months, plan on enough cold beverages for your guests, and keep them available throughout the day. Chilled bottle water or pitchers of iced water is a simple but thoughtful drink. The wedding party will also appreciate a handy cold beverage if they are being photographed outside. Umbrellas - Have a few umbrellas available. In the event of rain or hot sunshine, your older guests, babies, and those that sunburn easily will appreciate having one. This thoughtful touch will be remembered because guests will know you cared about their comfort. Chairs– For health reasons, some people cannot stand for any length of time. Have a few chairs or benches available. Shade - Your musicians will need shade. Shoes - what kind of shoes do you plan on wearing
for your wedding? Flip flops, flat or low heels, wedge type, and ballerina slippers allow you to walk smoothly. Three-inch heels will have you tripping down the aisle.
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Wedding Party Checklist Planning a wedding is exciting, and probably something you’ve looked forward to your whole life. But if you are not careful the process can also become overwhelming. What you hoped would be the wedding of your dreams can turn into a chaotic nightmare quicker than you can say, “I do.” According to Beth Dawdy, owner/ manager of Treasure of Marilyn’s, it takes organization and teamwork to prevent this from happening. “We’ve found that the key is to make sure everyone involved understands their responsibilities at the beginning of the process. A well-thought-out division of labor can definitely prevent confusion and problems along the way, and allow everyone to enjoy what the big event itself.” Dawdy says who does what is strictly a matter of preference in many cases, but there are some traditional roles that many people still follow. “Just keep in mind that this is your wedding and you can decide who is responsible for whatever details you want.” She provides the following “checklist” of duties typically handled by the primary members of the wedding party:
• Discuss your budget with parents and fiancé. • Book your coordinator, caterer, DJ, florist, photographer, videographer, wedding cake baker, and other wedding industry professional you need. • Help compile guest list. • Choose your wedding gown, hair style and accessories. • Address invitations. • Purchase groom’s wedding ring and have it engraved. • Purchase wedding gift for groom. • Pack for honeymoon and obtain all necessary travel documents for honeymoon (i.e. passport, birth certificate, visa).
• Choose all wedding attire and accessories for the male bridal party members. • Help compile guest list. • Rent or purchase wedding attire. • Plan and pay for honeymoon. • Assist as needed with planning of ceremony and reception. • Pay for the bridal bouquet and all corsages and boutonnières for wedding party. • Obtain all necessary travel documents for honeymoon (i.e. passport, birth certificate, visa). Thrive Bride Guide
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Plan rehearsal dinner and send out invitations. Scout out hotels for out-of-town guests. Bring marriage license to ceremony site. Make payments to officiate and musicians. Purchase bride’s engagement and wedding rings and arrange engraving. • Purchase wedding gift for bride.
Bride and Groom
• Decide on your budget. Consult with your parents, if they are paying for or contributing to the wedding. • Decide on and set the style, theme, date, time, and the place of ceremony and reception. Make the reservations and deposits. • Meet with your wedding officiate and participate in any premarital counseling required. • Order your Save-the-Date cards, wedding invitations, and thank you notes. • Choose your attendants and their attire. • Purchase gifts to honor your Bridesmaids, Groomsmen, and children in the wedding party (flower girl and ring bearer). • Acknowledge all bridal shower and wedding gifts you receive with a handwritten personalized thank-you note from both of you. • Obtain your marriage license and any needed blood tests.
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Mother of the Bride
• Assist bride in the selection of wedding gown and accessories, and other details of ceremony and reception. • Help prepare guest list. • Help record gifts received. • Select a dress that will complement the color scheme of the wedding. • Assist in details of ceremony and reception (i.e. caterer, DJ, photographer, etc.). • Arrive dressed before the bride and the bridal party. • Serve as official hostess at the wedding and reception.
Father of the Bride
• Pay for majority of cost of wedding and reception. • Purchase or rent wedding attire that matches that of the groom and other male wedding attendants. • Ride with the bride to the ceremony. • Co-host the reception.
Mother of the Groom
• Assist in compiling guest list. • Purchase a dress that is complementary in color and style to the mother of the bride’s dress. • Plan the rehearsal dinner.
Maid (Matron) of Honor
• Assists bride in choosing a bridal gown as well as in choosing attendants’ gowns and jewelry. • Purchase gown and accessories that she will be wearing. • Plan and host bridal shower and bachelorette party. • Records gifts received at showers. • Helps the bride assemble and decorate wedding favors. • Helps bride and bride’s family decorate the reception hall, if necessary. • Arrive early to assist the bride in dressing. • Organize bridesmaids and their gowns.
• Plan and host the bachelor party. • Rent or purchase wedding attire that is the same as the groom’s. • Arrange for transportation to ceremony for self and groom. • Arrange for transportation of the couple as well as self to the reception. • Arrive with the groom in advance of ceremony. • Supervise groomsmen and ushers.
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• Purchase or rent wedding attire. • Pay for and host the rehearsal dinner. • Propose the first toast at the rehearsal dinner. • Pay for all beverages at the wedding reception.
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Tips for Second Marriages Weddings the second time around can be joyous and celebratory, or quiet, intimate gatherings. It all depends on the situation and mood that the bride and groom wish to have on their special day. If you’re planning a second wedding, here are some tips to keep in mind: If children from a previous marriage are involved, they should be the first to know of wedding plans. Talk with them, answer their questions and involve them as much as possible in planning.
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Wedding Planning Calendar Guideline: There’s so much to do before a wedding, it can be difficult to prioritize. Here are some suggestions to help you know what details you should take care of at what time, leading up to the big day:
Twelve or more months before the wedding • • • •
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Because of the long list of details to consider, people to please and schedules to accommodate, planning the honeymoon can often be more fun than planning the wedding. After all, who doesn’t love a vacation? For a fun and memorable trip, here are a few tips: Pack Smart. Make a master list of the things you’ll need to pack. Refer to it as you pack, and then again as you pack for the return trip. It’ll help you avoid leaving your items in the hotel room.
Passports. If you’re planning to go overseas, apply for passports now. It can take several months, in some cases, for processing.
Pass the word. When making hotel and flight reservations, mention that it’s for your honeymoon. They may upgrade or tell you about unadvertised packages. Talk to the Locals. The hotel or resort concierge, fellow passengers, waitstaff – any of them can help you find the best deals, local flavor and fun events to check out.
Go with the Flow. If something does go wrong, don’t stress. Sometimes the most memorable events happen because plans went awry.
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