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How exciting, you’re engaged! Congratulations from all the team at The Wedding Guide and welcome to this latest edition which is packed with lots of advice, articles, fabulous recommended suppliers, real wedding features and pages of pretty things to inspire you! The guide is designed to help you find everything you need to plan your dream wedding. Our recommended suppliers will assist you every step of the way, making sure your special day is one you’ll cherish forever. Don’t forget to check out our handy Wedding Fayre Diary which you’ll find on pages 95-97 – great for planning your weekends around! We have undergone a makeover since our last edition and we hope you love the new look and layout as much as we do. Happy planning!

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Jayne Cook, Editor & Publisher

The Wedding Guide Autumn/Winter 2011 Published and distributed by Weddings by Jayne, Highfields, 31 The Settlement, Ockbrook, Derbyshire DE72 3RJ Email: Web: Design & Production: Neil Rees for Sunrise Design for Publishing Front cover image: Crash Taylor © 2011 Bridal Media Limited. No material including images, text and design work, contained in The Wedding Guide may be reproduced in whole or in part without the written consent of Bridal Media Limited.


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In this edition A-Z of Wedding Suppliers


Arranging the ceremony Civil or Church


Helping with your arrangements Attendants’ Duties Cars and Carriages Finishing Touches Flowers Hen and Stag Parties Photography Timetable Videography Rings

45 74 64 78 88 66 48 72 83

His The Groom


Hers The Dress Health and Beauty Fashion Pages

12 26 22

The Reception Choosing the Venue Music and Entertainment Venue Decoration Wedding Fayre Diary Real Weddings

42 86 60 95-97 68, 70, 76






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BAR SERVICES The Free Bar Company (See page 55) 222 Station Road, Melbourne, Derbyshire DE73 1DQ Tel: 07876 771157


Emily Jane Bridal wear 3 The Orchard, Belper, Derbyshire DE56 1DF 01773 822798. Jackie Thompson Couture 7 Burlington Close, Breaston, Derbyshire DE72 3UB Tel: 01332 874969

Chess Hair and Beauty (See Page 27) 144 Wollaton Road, Beeston, Nottingham NG9 2PE Tel: 0115 925 7500

John and Sonia Butterworth Bridal Designers 87 Inkerman Road, Selston Nottinghamshire NG16 6BN Tel: 01773 781257

Forever Living Products (See Page 30) Nottingham Tel: 01773 769692

Jonquil Oddhouse Farm, Colston Bassett Lane Nottinghamshire, NG12 3GB Tel: 0845 1309497

Gorgeous Nouveau Aesthetics (See Page 29) 22 Borough Street, Castle Donington Derby DE74 2LA Tel: 0845 6809879 Lucime Mobile Make Up Artist (See Page 31) Tel: 07870 126452 The Beauty and Tanning Lounge (See Page 27) 94, Derby Road, Long Eaton Nottingham NG10 4LB Tel: 01159 723333


Kay Hobson Bridal Design 77, The Fleet, Belper, Derbyshire DE56 1NW Tel No: 01773 828268 Pat Dodds Occasion Wear 9 Main Street, Scarcliffe, Chesterfield, Derbyshire S44 6SZ Tel No: 01246 823334

BRIDAL WEAR Alisa The Wedding Specialist 10 Station Road, Ilkeston, Derbyshire, DE7 5LD 01159 324031

Angela Vickers Hand Made Bridal Designs Studio 1, 69-73 Lower Parliament Street Nottingham, NG1 3BB 01159 415616

Alisa The Wedding Specialist 27 Green Lane, Derby DE1 1RS 01332 204731

Baroque Couture (See Page 17) 34 Station Street Draycott, Derby DE72 3QB Tel: 01332 873320

Alison Evans Bridalwear 37, New Street, Church Gresley, Swadlincote DE11 9PS 01283 214553

Couture Bridal Designs Ltd Studios 8+ 9 Fashion Design Studios 69-73 Lower Parliament Street Nottingham NG1 3BB Tel: 01159 414179

All Things Bride and Beautiful 3 Station Road Ollerton Village Nottingham NG22 9BW Tel: 01623 825800 THE WEDDING GUIDE 5

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Angela Vickers Hand Made Bridal Designs Studio 1, 69-73 Lower Parliament Street Nottingham, NG1 3BB Tel: 01159 415616 Barbara’s Bridal Wear 31 George Street, Riddings Derbyshire DE55 4BH Tel: 01773 541012 Big and Beautiful Bridal Wear 217 Derby Road Chelleston, Derby DE73 5SE Tel: 01332 7001 Blush Bridalwear (See Page 19) 3 Market Street Castle Donington, Derbyshire DE74 2JB Tel: 07725 868835 Bridal Elegance (See Page 15) 7 – 9 Market Street, Spilsby Lincs PE23 5JT Bridal Suite (Nottingham) 71 Boundary Road West Bridgeford Nottingham NG2 7DB Tel: 01159 143905 Brides and Gowns 26 The Strand Derby DE1 1HZ Tel: 01332 267000 Brides of Silk 15 Robert Street Scunthorpe, Lincs DN15 6LU Tel: 01724 868688 Couture Bridal Designs Ltd Studios 8+ 9 Fashion Design Studios 69-73 Lower Parliament Street Nottingham NG1 3BB Tel: 01159 414179


Couture of Lilies 20-24 Outram Street Sutton – in - Ashfield Nottingham NG17 4FS Tel No: 01623 550990 Designs By Marlaine 82, High Street, Alfreton Derbyshire, DE55 7BE Tel: 01773 830787 Emily Jane Bridalwear 3 The Orchard, Belper Derbyshire ,DE56 1DF Tel: 01773 822798 Emma Secret 402 Buthall Road, Nottingham NG8 5DS Eternally Yours Bridalwear 64 Baldertongate, Newark NG24 1UN Tel: 01636 640057 Fabulous Wedding Boutique (See Page 15) 29 Chapelside Chapel Street, Spondon, Derby DE21 7JQ Tel: 07967 231369 Tel: 07725 674557 Gaynor Andrews Bridal Boutique 170 Yarborough Road, Grimsby, Lincs DN34 4DN Tel: 01472 351413 Gracie Bleu Bridal Shop 22 Matlock Green, Matlock Derbyshire, DE4 3BT Tel: 01629 580011 Honey Cole Bridal 1 Market Place Abbots Bromley, Staffordshire WS15 3BS Tel: 01283 841947 House of Capulet 54 Babington Lane, Derby DE1 2SX Tel: 01332 208111 James 31 Pelham Street, Nottingham NG1 2EA Tel: 0115 947 2540

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Javeille Brides Unit 11 Glade Business Centre Gala Way, Nottingham NG5 9RW Tel: 07851 305514

Temptations By Design 10 Compton Street, Ashbourne Derbyshire, DE6 1DA Tel: 01335 344900

Lisa Bridal Boutique Unit 3, Regent Arcade, Grimsby DN31 1JP Tel: 01472 242122

The Dressing Room (See Page 17) 36 Station Road Draycott Derby DE72 3QB Tel: 01332 873320

Lori G Bridal Studio 125 Blenheim Drive, Allestree Derby DE22 2LF Tel: 01332 550573 Love Me Again Bridal Boutique Bakewell Arts Centre, Rutland Mill, Coombs Road, Bakewell, Derbyshire Tel: 07738 568800 Mimi Toko 1 Tamworth Street, Duffield Belper, Derbyshire DE56 4ER Tel: 01332 842332 Pearl Boutique SU251, Level 2, East Mall, Westfield, Derby DE1 2PQ Tel No: 01332 36999 Pretty Panache Bridalwear 11 West Parade, Lincoln LN1 1NL Tel: 01522 845049 Proposals Bridal Room 16 Abbeygate Grimsby NE Lincs DN31 1JY Tel: 01472 346644 Serendipity Bridalwear 536 Burton Road, Littleover Derby DE23 6FN Tel: 01332 362822 Stately Brides 10 Hayfield Close, Belper, Derbyshire DE56 1FA Tel: 01773 826126 Suzannes Bridal Collection 38 Oswald Road, Scunthorpe Tel: 01724 330068

The Wedding House 16 Brighton Road, Alvaston Derby, DE24 8SY Tel: 01332 75836 The White Room 85a King Street Southwell Nottingham NG25 0EH Tel: 01636 813967 Tying The Knot Bridalwear 138 Forest Road, Annesley Woodhouse Notts, NG17 9HH Tel: 01623 753198

CAKES Delicious Designs (See Page 81) 41 Maidwell Clsoe Belper Derbyshrie DE56 1TE Tel: 01773 826993 Tel: 0773 9010317

CARS Cloud Nine Classic Weddings (See Page 75) 32 Corbiere Avenue, Watnall, Nottingham NG16 1JR Tel: 01159 384704 Romance Wedding Cars (See page 75) 28, Main Street, Papplewick, Notts NG15 8FD Tel: 01158 406560 or 07792 684610


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CEREMONY VENUES Cathedral Quarter Hotel (See Page 41) 16 St. Marys Gate Derby DE1 3JR Tel: 01332 546080 Clumber Park Hotel and Spa (See Page 43) Cumber Park, Nr Worksop Nottingham S80 3PA Tel: 01623 835333

CHAIR COVERS Fabulous Chair Covers (See Page 61) 29 Chapelside Chapel Street, Spondon Derby DE21 7JQ Tel: 07967 231369 Tel: 07725 674557

DECORATION Donington Manor Hotel (See Page 41) High Street, Castle Donington Derbyshire DE74 2PP Tel: 01332 810253 Hallmark Hotel Midland Road, Derby, DE1 2SQ Tel: 01332 299992 Lace Market Hotel (See Page 41) 29-31 High Pavement Nottingham NG1 1HE Tel: 01158 523232 Lion Hotel (See Page 41) Bridge Street Belper, Derbyshire DE56 1AX Tel: 01773 724033 Ruddington Grange (See Page 1) Wilford Road, Ruddington NG11 6NB Tel: 0115 9214139 Tel: 0115 9405165 The Carriage Hall (See Page 39) Station Road, Plumtree Nottingham NG12 5NA Tel: 01159 375300 The University of Nottingham (See Inside Front Cover) Sales Office, East Midlands Conference Centre, Nottingham, NG7 2RJ Tel: 0115 846 8000


Derby Weddings 14 Melbourne Business Court, Pride Park, Derby DE24 8LZ Tel:01159 729944 Fabulous Chair Covers (See Page 61) 29 Chapelside Chapel Street, Spondon Derby DE21 7JQ Tel: 07967 231369 Tel: 07725 674557 Marlows Events 3 Lawrence Ave Colwick, Nottingham NG4 2GS Tel: 01159 877210

DISCOS Dr DJ Promotions (See Page 87) 11 Nottingham Road, Alfreton, Derbyshire DE55 4HQ Tel: 07941 568810 Party House Discos Waddington, Lincs LN5 9NQ Tel: 07939 719318

EXHIBITIONS AND WEDDING FAYRES Exhibition Diary (See Page 95) Stanley Exhibitions (See Page 93) White Media Wedding Fayres (See Page 94)

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FLORIST Floral Media Florist (See Page 78) Norwell Road, Caunton Nottinghamshire NG23 6AQ Tel: 01636 636283 Tel: 07734 793688

HEN AND STAG PARTIES Bistro Live Music Restaurant 2 Barker Gate, Lace Market, Nottingham NG1 1JS Tel: 0115 9473666

HONEYMOONS/HOLIDAYS GIFTS REGISTRY/WEDDING GIFTS Bennetts Wedding List 8 Irongate, Derby DE1 3AL Tel: 01332 344261

Travelounge (See Page 88) 9 Derby Road, Borrowash Derbyshire De72 3JW Tel: 01332 677000

HAIRDRESSERS HOTEL ACCOMMODATION Chess Hair and Beauty (See Page 27) 144 Wollaton Road, Beeston, Nottingham NG9 2PE Tel: 0115 925 7500 Francesco Group (See Page 29) 32 Victoria Street, Derby DE1 1ES Tel: 01332 340532 Steve Boultons Hair Salon (See Page 31) 80 Wilson Road, Hanford, Stoke on Trent, Staffs Tel: 01782 644476

HEALTH AND BEAUTY Cathy Faughey Fitness (See Page 29) 89 Zulu Road, Basford, Nottingham NG7 7DR Tel: 07816 584229 Clumber Park Hotel and Spa (See Page 89) Cumber Park, Nr Worksop, Nottingham S80 3PA Tel: 01623 835333 Forever Living Products (See Page 30) Nottingham Tel: 01773 769692 The Beauty and Tanning Lounge (See Page 27) 94, Derby Road, Long Eaton Nottingham NG10 4LB Tel: 01159 723333

Cathedral Quarter Hotel (See Page 41) 16 St. Marys Gate, Derby DE1 3JR Tel: 01332 546080 Clumber Park Hotel and Spa (See Page 43) Cumber Park, Nr Worksop, Nottingham S80 3PA Tel: 01623 835333 Donington Manor Hotel (See Page 41) High Street, Castle Donington Derbyshire, DE74 2PP Tel: 01332 810253 Lace Market Hotel (See Page 41) 29-31 High Pavement Nottingham NG1 1HE Tel: 01158 523232 Lion Hotel (See Page 41) Bridge Street, Belper, Derbyshire DE56 1AX Tel: 01773 724033

ICE CREAM TRICYCLE Truly Scrumptious Gelato (See Page 63) Clowne, Chesterfield S43 4NU Tel: 07761 115153 or 01246 819822


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JEWELLERY Stuart Thexton Jewelley (See Pages 84 & 85) 19-21 Exchange Arcade Nottingham NG1 2DD Tel: 01159 881821

MENSWEAR Formal Affair (See Page 35) 67, Maid Marion Way, Nottingham NG1 6AJ Tel No: 01159 598254 Formal Affair (See Page 35) 37, Holywell Street, Chesterfield, Derbyshire S41 7SH Tel No: 01246 559511

MUSIC & ENTERTAINMENT Matt Johnson PO Box 210, Deeside CH5 9DJ Tel: 01244 535803 Paul Herron Music Derby Tel:07818 447161

PERSONAL TRAINING/WEIGHT LOSS Cathy Faughey Fitness (See Page 29) 89 Zulu Road, Basford, Nottingham NG7 7DR Tel: 07816 584229

PHOTOGRAPHERS Cheryl’s Photography (See Page 63) Coddington, Newark NG24 2TF Tel: 01636 672955 David Golding Photography 3 Ladycroft Ave, Buxton Derbyshire SK17 7AQ Tel: 07581 779930 10 T H E W E D D I N G G U I D E

Emma Cleveley Photography (See Page 67) 79 Belper Road, Derby DE1 3EF Tel :07762 326491 Leading Imagery Photography (See Page 67) 173 High Street, Claycross, Derbyshire S45 9DZ Tel: 01246 250014 Mirror Imaging Photography (See Page 73) Nottinghamshire Tel no: 07968 159465 Saffron Moon Photography Unit C, 69-73 Lower Parliament Street, Nottingham NG1 3BB Tel 0115 988 1816 Simon Miller Photography (See Page 67) 3 High Main Drive, Bestwood Nottingham NG6 8YU Tel: 07986 408024

RECEPTION VENUES Cathedral Quarter Hotel (See Page 41) 16 St. Marys Gate, Derby DE1 3JR Tel: 01332 546080 Clumber Park Hotel and Spa (See Page 43) Cumber Park, Nr Worksop Nottingham S80 3PA Tel: 01623 835333 Donington Manor Hotel (See Page 41) High Street Castle Donington Derbyshire DE74 2PP Tel: 01332 810253 Lace Market Hotel (See Page 41) 29-31 High Pavement Nottingham NG1 1HE Tel: 01158 523232

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Lion Hotel (See Page 43) Bridge Street Belper Derbyshire DE56 1AX Tel: 01773 724033 Nottinghamshire Golf and Country Club (See Page 41) Stagglethorpe Nottingham NG12 3HB Tel: 01159 333344 Ruddington Grange (See Page 1) Wilford Road Ruddington NG11 6NB Tel: 0115 9214139 The Carriage Hall (See Page 39) Station Road Plumtree Nottingham NG12 5NA Tel: 01159 375300

VIDEOGRAPHER Light Films (See Page 73) 76 Station Road Chelleston Derby Tel: 01332 348963

WEBSITES The Wedding Guide Tel: 01332 544369 07515 350313

WEDDINGS ABROAD Travelounge (See Page 88) 9 Derby Road, Borrowash Derbyshire De72 3JW Tel: 01332 677000

WEDDING PLANNERS The University of Nottingham (See Inside Front Cover) Sales Office, East Midlands Conference Centre, Nottingham NG7 2RJ Tel: 0115 846 8000

SHOES Pure & Precious Bridal Shoes (See Page 25) 20 Midland Road, Thrapston, Northants NN14 4JR Tel: 01832 735181

Benessamy Wedding Planners (See Page 59) Nottingham NG5 4JR Tel: 07787 422451 Major Domo Events (See Page 59) Newark Nottinghamshire NG34 3GE Tel: 07985 443673

STATIONERY Occasion Ali Wedding Stationery Castle Donington DE74 2QU Tel: 07739 310805 T H E W E D D I N G G U I D E 11

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The Dress Once the initial excitement of your engagement is over, one of the first things you will probably picture when dreaming of your big day is your wedding dress. Your dress is one of the most important wedding items that you will purchase and on the day all eyes will be on you and your gown. Make sure you take enough time to choose one that really suits you and gives you that perfect shape so you look and feel wonderful on your special day. Looking

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Remember that you will be standing, walking and dancing throughout the day and evening so your dress should not only look fabulous but should also feel comfortable. With so many choices for your dress, it can be an overwhelming task but remember that shopping for the dress of your dreams should be fun, easy and painless! Before you start, think about what type of dress you are looking for. Wedding dresses are made in several different silhouettes such as the ball gown, empire line, fishtail and ballerina style to name a few. It is important that you know which type of gown will flatter your figure the best. Look at your body shape and be honest with yourself. Consider the features you want to show off and those you want to hide. Here is a rundown of the different wedding dress silhouettes available. 12 T H E W E D D I N G G U I D E

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Avoid halter-necks if you are pear shaped as it really will make your bottom look bigger!


Ball Gowns – One of the most traditional shapes of wedding dress which gives the princess look. The ball gown has a fitted waist with a full, puffed out and layered skirt. This style of dress is best suited to slim brides as it adds curves. For those with a pear shape look, the skirt does wonders to flatter the waist line. It is not ideal for petite women as the fullness of the skirt can be overwhelming to the small frame. A-lines – Usually have a fitted bodice with a skirt that flares gently from the waist to form an "A" shape. They are a terrific choice for someone who would like to hide lower body flaws, but avoid adding too much fussy detailing to your skirt as this will make you look bottom heavy. For those with a slim torso and tiny waist, choose a bodice with detailing on the bust to give more of an even proportion. Ballerina Wedding Dress – The full skirt of the Ballerina dress will give a bride with slim hips and a full bust that fairytale, romantic look. Avoid this style if you are petite as you may look like you are disappearing into this style of dress. The full skirt also makes wide hips appear much bigger. Asymmetrical Wedding Dress – A particularly striking and unusual looking style, the asymmetric design can show off beautiful and toned shoulders to their best and gives that extra help in obtaining that ‘nipped in waist’ look. The asymmetrical dress will divert attention from bigger bottoms to your upper body and if the wearer is on the curvy side the full skirt will balance their shape. To help hide those fuller hips this style of dress can be a godsend. This asymmetric strap design will distract from square shoulders and give them that softer look.

Dress styles left to right: Asymmetrical, Ballgown, Mermaid/Fishtail, and Sheath

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Dress styles clockwise from far left: A Line, Ballerina, Empress, Halter Neck, and Column

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Sheath Dresses – This style suits those who are slim, have narrow hips and a balanced figure. This gown will not hide any flaws so if you think your thighs or bottom are too big, this is not the dress for you. Whilst there are some stunning dresses available in this style, you don't want to risk being uncomfortable or self conscious on your wedding day so choose wisely. Empire Waist Gowns – This style of dress is usually straighter than the A-lines without being too figure hugging. The waistline starts just underneath the bust with a seam which falls away to the floor, giving the wearer that ultimate romantic poise. For those with smaller breasts this gown works wonders while the long ‘A’ line gives the more petite bride the appearance of added height. Another advantage of this style of dress is it helps to conceal wide hips. Empire waist gowns are usually made of light, flowing fabric. They are also excellent for pregnant brides, because they provide extra room in the waist, making them a comfortable choice. 14 T H E W E D D I N G G U I D E

Column Wedding Dress – This sleek modern line is very straight and seamed on the waistline. It can be quite figure-hugging and would suit the slim and/or taller bride. It can also be suited to the petite bride because of the unbroken line. Because of the streamlined appearance this style of dress can also be worn well by pregnant brides. This style of dress should be avoided if you have fuller hips as they will be emphasised more. Mermaid Line or Fishtail Gowns – this style is figure hugging, shaping the waist and hips before nipping in at the knees. The mermaid or fishtail comes from the material at the back of the dress that begins at the top of your thighs before flaring out and opening up into the fan shape once it reaches the floor. This dress gives the ultimate sexy look and accentuates a curvaceous, all in-proportion figure. This dress is not suited to a protruding stomach or big hips. Halter Neck Wedding Dress – Athletic shapes can look great in halter-necks and will give added height to the petite shape. If you are curvy with a big bust this style of dress will make you look top heavy and can emphasise your hips. Avoid halternecks if you are pear shaped as it really will make your bottom look bigger. ♥

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Couture? What is

Do you want to be stylish yet different on your wedding day? Then why not visit a Couture Bridal Dress Designer who will design a gown exclusively for you. The possibilities are endless and whatever your fashion taste and personal style, a Couture wedding dress will enable you to choose a design that will match your taste and personality.

A Couture wedding dress will be made from the finest fabrics, sewn with great craftsmanship and with extreme attention to detail. The first step in the Couture process will be to book an appointment for an initial consultation. This will allow you to share your dreams with the designer. Bring to the consultation all your ideas — photographs, magazines, or simply a verbal description of what you envision. Together you will explore various options, including necklines, skirt shapes and fabrics. The designer will then work their magic, translating your ideas into a rough sketch. Once the sketch has been approved and your measurements taken, the proper work begins. The sketch becomes the pattern for the calico toile garment which is made out of a rough cotton fabric. The toile can be cut and pinned allowing all the fitting problems to be ironed out and your personal blueprint emerges. The work done at this stage reaps many benefits later on, reducing the number of alterations done on the actual fabric. Once work on the fabric begins you can expect a number of fittings as the garment evolves. You 16 T H E W E D D I N G G U I D E

Attention to detail with a couture dress

will be asked at this point to wear your bridal lingerie to ensure the fit is just right. Beautiful linings make sure it feels as good as it looks. And all the little details which make it uniquely yours – embroidery or beading, are gradually added. Remember, when you come to the hem fitting you will need to wear the shoes that you will be wearing on the day. It is also a good idea to take along your tiara and jewellery so you get to see the complete look. Following your final fitting, your truly unique gown will be pressed for collection – this is the last step in the wonderful Couture process before you wow your guests, leaving everyone spellbound on your special day! ♥

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Whether you have two or twenty bridesmaids, their look is an important part of the day and choosing the right dresses will help you all to feel fabulous and ooze confidence.

Know your style It may seem obvious, but you should always find your dress before you even start thinking about your bridesmaids. Once you know the style of your dress and the theme of your wedding, it is much easier to start getting ideas of how you want your bridesmaids to look and be confident that their look will fit in on the day.

Know your crowd Ask yourself this: Are my bridesmaids similar to each other? What would they be most comfortable in? You must also consider size, age, shape, style and their colouring. You want to flatter your bridesmaids and keep them happy on the day. It is important to not give them free reign but to let them know that they do have some input into what they will be wearing. If you have young bridesmaids make sure that they will be comfortable in what you have chosen for them as a wedding can be a tiring day for the little ones.

Fabulous fabric Another important aspect of the bridesmaids’ dresses is choosing the right sort of fabric for the time of year. If you are having a summer wedding, try and opt for dresses made from lighter fabrics such as silk georgette or crepe. If your wedding is taking place in the winter, bridesmaids can experiment with layering and fabrics such as satin, organza and taffeta.

Accessorise! Don’t leave the accessories as an after thought, as these will either make or break the look. Make sure you have enough time to get the right style of headdress, shoes, earrings, necklaces etc to suit each bridesmaid. ♥ T H E W E D D I N G G U I D E 19

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There are many different wedding traditions that have been kept alive over the years with the belief that they will bring a lifetime of happiness and good luck to the couple.

The well known rhyme is familiar to brides around the world and it is widely assumed that it originates from the Victorians. It is commonly known that ‘something old’ refers to family and friends of the couple staying close during the marriage. This is usually signified by a garter given to the bride from her mother or close friend who is happily married. The ‘something new’ is usually a garment bought for the bride that signifies the new future for the couple. ‘Something borrowed’ is usually lent to the bride by her family, which is returned the next day to ensure the bride has good luck. Blue is considered to bring consistency to the relationship and it is also thought to represent fidelity.

Garters The tradition of wedding garters is believed to be one of the oldest. It is believed that keeping a piece of the dress would bring luck, however this would mean cutting the dress. So, the solution was to make an extra piece that would be worn around the 20 T H E W E D D I N G G U I D E

leg. Another Old English tradition of ‘flinging the stocking’ is believed to originate from when the wedding guests would sneak into the bridal chamber and throw the discarded stockings at the couple.

The Dress We have all heard that it is deemed unlucky for the groom to see the bride in her dress before the wedding, but did you realise that some believe that it is also unlucky to wear your full outfit before the big day? Interestingly, some brides leave one stitch undone until they dress on the day.

The Bouquet Traditionally, the bride throws her bouquet backwards over her head and whoever catches it is the next to get married. Similarly, in some countries the groom removes the bride’s garter and throws it to the single males. Again the one who catches it is the next to marry. ♥

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Brides Be inspired with our Bridal Fashion pages. From simple sophistication to richly embellished silhouettes, these gowns give an elegant and feminine look. Gowns by Impression Bridal


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Stunning Shoes and Luxurious Lingerie Choosing your wedding shoes There are several things you'll need to take into consideration before you buy your wedding shoes. Of course you want your shoes to be really special but one of the most important things is comfort as you’ll be on your feet for the majority of the day. There are lots of different styles of wedding shoes to choose from. From white trainers to beautiful designer Jimmy Choo shoes but before you say “I Do” to a pair of wedding shoes, take note of the following tips: • Don't sacrifice comfort for style. You will be on your feet from the moment you get dressed until your last dance – it will be a long day. • Your feet are at their largest at the end of the day. This is a good time to shop for shoes to ensure a good fit. • Choose a heel height that you are used to wearing. • Take your shoes to your wedding dress fitting so your hemline will be just the right length. • Break your shoes in by wearing them around the house before the wedding. • To make sure your shoes aren’t too slippery, gently rub the soles with a piece of sandpaper to help provide traction. • Just in case, don’t forget to put plasters in your wedding emergency kit!

• Consider the colour of your dress and choose your underwear to compliment this. • If you have a simple, fitted dress don’t choose fussy lingerie with lots of detail. • If you lose or gain weight, then the chances are this will affect your bra size, so do get measured regularly. • If your dress is backless or strapless, there is a great selection of bras now with multi-way options or designs suited to these styles. • You will want to feel glamorous and sexy on your wedding day but if your style of dress won’t allow suspenders and frilly briefs, then line up some glamorous, sexy lingerie for the wedding night! • Once you have lined up your wedding day lingerie, why not invest in some cheeky lingerie pieces for your honeymoon to surprise him!

Lingerie Your lingerie choice should, as with your shoes, be comfortable but it should also work perfectly with your dress choice. Choose something that will flatter your figure and complete your look. Top tips when choosing your lingerie: • Get yourself properly fitted to make sure you are wearing the correct bra size.


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4 months to go Find a skincare regime you can do at home – Four months before is a great time to start to clear up any skin problems and begin a new beauty routine. This would be a great time to seek advice from beauty experts to see which products suit you best.

3 months to go Choose a reputable hairdresser – If you are considering changing the colour of your hair, now is the time to do it. This gives you the chance to either get used to the colour and if you don’t like it you have time to go back to your previous colour. This is also the time to start deciding on styles. With so many to choose from choosing the right style is crucial. A top tip would be to go to the hairdresser wearing a top similar to the style of your dress (you can do this simply by manipulating a top you already have or buying one to chop and change). This will help you visualise your hair as it will be when you are wearing your dress. You may already have a good idea of how you want your hair to look, but remember how it will look on your photos too, as this will be something you will look at forever.

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Find a beautician – This is also the best time to book a course of facials. Facials will help to deep cleanse your skin and give you that little bit of extra confidence. This is also a great time to test your fake tan and trial your makeup. A test run tan will enable you to see how the tan develops and if you are happy with the colour. You can also adapt your makeup to suit your newly tanned skin tone. It is a good idea to take a camera along and take pictures of your desired look so that it can be exactly recreated on the day.

1 month to go Now that everything is booked, start to relax – Get plenty of sleep on the weeks leading up to your wedding as well as cutting down on alcohol and drinking plenty of water. This will give you an extra boost on the day and ensure that your skin is beautiful and glowing. ♥

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As the wedding day approaches, every bride wants to look her best and feel fabulous when she makes her grand entrance. Just a few changes to your daily routine will help you reach your goal. If you want to have fun at the same time why not consider booking you and your bridesmaids into a bridal boot camp for a few weeks running up to the wedding – that will definitely keep you on track! Don’t forget to consult with your GP if this is your first exercise regime for a while.

Top tips for getting fit: Detox We all know the body doesn’t like toxins. Try to cut down on alcohol, caffeine and processed food that may be causing water retention and excess fat storage. Start eating more raw fruit and vegetables and begin the day with hot water and lemon to flush out those toxins.

Tone those arms Most wedding dress styles will show off your arms so a few toning exercises a week will banish any in-securities you may have. You could incorporate some press-ups into your week and why not try lifting two books of equal weight as dumbbells whenever you have a spare five minutes. This will also help strengthen your upper body and give you a fantastic shape.

Get walking Walking is a great way to burn those extra calories you may have consumed during the day. You can incorporate walking into your daily routine, for example, if you can walk rather than take the bus or car, do it! This will help you retain a more active lifestyle and make you feel better for it. Try to get walking around three times a week for fifteen minutes to start with and build up from there.

... and relax! When you get tired your body starts to shut down and craves high calorie foods such as sugar and sweets. Try to avoid this by getting plenty of sleep and relaxing in a lovely lavender scented bath before bed. ♥

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DazzlingSmiles You may have the beautiful dress and the expensive jewellery but the best thing you can wear on your wedding day is your smile. We would all like to have perfect teeth or at least a beautiful smile especially on your big day. Unfortunately, many of us are cursed with broken, crooked or discoloured teeth. However, with recent developments in cosmetic dentistry, even the most unattractive of smiles can be given a complete makeover. Your wedding photographs should show your happiness for a lifetime and as you start planning your wedding it might be just the right time to consider cosmetic dentistry. From a few ďŹ llings to a full smile makeover, the possibilities are endless. A great Cosmetic Dentist will be able to offer you a variety of treatments that will suit your needs. ♼

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All that glitters Depending on your hairstyle and choice of wedding dress, a tiara or hair accessory can turn you into a sophisticated bride or a fairytale princess.

Tiaras or bridal hair accessories can complete your whole wedding look, whether you are after a pearl and diamond vintage look, a stunning oral headpiece for maximum impact or a simple, elegant headband, the options are endless. The type of headpiece that you choose will depend on your personal style and budget. You may wish to go for a unique handmade piece which can be designed to match your wedding

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dress. Or you could browse the readily available pieces in bridal shops or online where you will be totally spoiled for choice! Remember however that you will need to try the pieces on to make sure the one you choose really suits you, will compliment the hairstyle that you have chosen and works well with a veil if you are wearing one. With all the options available, traditionally shaped wire or metal tiaras, decorative hair combs or slides, fascinators and encrusted headbands, you really will be able to add that extra sparkle and glamour on your special day. ♼

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Mums want to look fabulous too! As the mother of the bride or bridegroom, you have a long and exciting day ahead of you. Whilst the bride is the centre of attention, the role of the Mums is very important too and all eyes will be on you as well – just look at the press coverage Kate Middleton’s Mum got!

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But what better excuse is there for buying a fabulous new outfit? Before you start looking for your outfit, take some time to discuss with the bride suitable colour schemes. You are part of the bridal party and it can be nice for the photographs if you all tone in with the general colour theme of the day. The choice of styles for mothers is very varied you may decide on the subtle sophistication of a smart tailored suit or the sheer elegance of a soft flowing dress. Hats, shoes and handbags should all be chosen to complement your outfit, and work in harmony with it, along with any jewellery you choose to wear. There are a wide range of boutique shops which specialise in dressing the mother of the bride so it is well worth visiting them as they will provide invaluable help and advice. ♥

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Top tips for a gorgeous groom It is very important that the outfit chosen by the groom echoes the style or colours of the bridal party. Once the bride has decided on her colour theme, it is time for the groom to decide on his attire. There are lots of different possibilities when it comes to choosing your formalwear, from tailored lounge suits to a traditional morning suit, the classic Prince Edward or the timeless frock coat. Whatever style you decide on, make sure you feel comfortable in it. The traditional morning suit is a formal jacket with long tails in black, navy, grey or brown, teamed with pin striped trousers in the same or complimentary colours. A traditional cravat can look most effective, although some men prefer a traditional formal tie to complete the look. A modern day suit can look sharp and sophisticated and is ideal for a register office wedding or for those grooms who prefer a more informal option. Lightweight summer lounge suits, worn 34 T H E W E D D I N G G U I D E

with an open neck shirt, offer a comfortable choice for overseas weddings in hot climates. For a modern classic, consider the Prince Edward, a three quarter length jacket with contemporary styling and available in a wider range of colours than the morning suit. ♥

Top tips when it comes to choosing your formal wear: • Specialist companies offer good advice: listen to what they say • Take time to visit them in person • Start to rule in or out certain suit styles, find what you feel comfortable in • Book as early as possible to avoid disappointment, aim for at least three months before the wedding • For those finishing touches, wear a double cuff sleeve with cufflinks and ensure your shoes are shiny.

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Location! Location! Religious Church of England There is a lot more flexibility than previously for those couples who wish to have a religious ceremony. You can choose any church outside your parish that either you, your parents, or your grandparents have a connection with. Instead of going to the Superintendent Registrar before the ceremony, banns (a notice of the proposed marriage) can be read in the parish church of both of the partners or in the church where it has been agreed the marriage can take place. Banns must be read on three Sundays before the ceremony.

Roman Catholic Arrangements for a wedding in a Catholic Church are always made through the priest in the parish in which you are living. Three months notice must be given to the priest. Both you and your groom must be free to marry, and one of you must have been baptised a Catholic in order to marry in a Catholic church. You will also need to visit your local superintendent registrar at your local council office to give notice of your intention to marry, and obtain your

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Jewish weddings fulfil both a religious and civil purpose, but you will still need two applications - one for your local register office and one for the religious authority under which the ceremony will take place. Marriages can take place in any synagogue, private house or other place as long as you and your partner are Jewish and the ceremony is held under the auspices of a synagogue. The marriage must be registered by the Secretary of the husband’s synagogue.

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been registered, you can still have a religious ceremony, but you will also need to have a separate civil ceremony for the marriage to be valid under United Kingdom Law. If the building is registered, an authorised person must be present at the ceremony to register the marriage. They will give you a marriage certificate on receipt of the fee. If there is no authorised person, the attendance of a Registrar is necessary and this should be arranged with the Superintendent Registrar.

Civil Register Office In order to marry in a register office, both you and your partner must give notice in person to the superintendent registrar at your local council office. They will then issue you with a certificate of common notice. You will need this certificate to make a booking with the register office to get the date you want. Weddings can be booked no more than 12 months in advance.

Approved Premises Civil ceremonies can take place at any venue that has been approved for the purpose. The venue must be regularly open to the public, and open-air premises will usually need a permanently built structure in order to be approved. Visit to search for an approved premise in the area you wish to marry. You will need to give notice of your intention to marry to your local superintendent registrar, and contact the local register office

closest to the venue you have chosen to book a registrar to conduct the ceremony.

Overseas Overseas Weddings Weddings abroad are recognised as legal as long as they do not contravene UK laws. You should contact the country's embassy or consulate for advice to make sure you have the right documents and find out when you will need to provide them. A number of countries require a minimum residency period of between one and seven days before you are free to marry there. It can often be easier to have a civil ceremony in the UK followed by a blessing abroad due to the complications sometimes involved in marrying in a different country.

Legal Advice • You and your partner must both be at least 16 years of age. (In England and Wales, if either of you is under 18 you will need to have permission from your parents or guardian). • You must both be eligible to marry. • You must not be closely related. • The marriage must take place in legally approved premises. • The marriage must take place in front of an authorised person. • The ceremony must take place between 8am and 6pm. • Two witnesses must be present.

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Civil Ceremonies It is now possible to get married in any Register Office or Approved Premises in England or Wales. Any marriage taking place anywhere other than the Church of England, requires both of you to attend personally at the district register office where you live. If you live in separate districts, you must attend the office of each district. This is called 'giving notice of intention to marry'.

Giving notice of intention to marry: • You must both have lived a minimum of 7 days in a Registration district in England or Wales immediately before giving notice at that office. • You can give the notice a maximum of 12 months in advance of your marriage date. • Both of you must attend to give a notice and this should be done by making an appointment to attend at the same time. • Recent legislation has abolished the Superintendent Registrars Licence which had previously allowed a marriage to take place three days after signing a notice, so make sure you enquire in good time.

Documents you will need: • A current valid passport (or where appropriate, a Home Office Travel Document, a standard acknowledgment letter, or a National Identity Card). • If you cannot provide this then a birth certificate and another document with your full name such as a cheque book, cheque guarantee card, utility bill or driving licence and a document to confirm your current address such as utility bill or driving licence. • For people who have been married or entered into a civil partnership before; decree absolute, death certificate or dissolution of civil partnership. • For people who have legally changed their name; documentary evidence in the form of a deed poll or declaration. • All documents should be certified or sealed photocopies are not acceptable. 38 T H E W E D D I N G G U I D E

Civil Marriages can take place in Approved Premises licenced by the appropriate local authority. It is therefore possible to have your marriage ceremony and wedding reception in the same building, many of which are available on any day of the week, including Sundays and Bank Holidays. There are now thousands of Approved Premises in England and Wales. The conditions of the premises licence are regulated by local authorities and it is necessary for Registrars to be in attendance at the venue for the ceremony. There will be two registration staff present at your wedding, one to conduct the ceremony and one to register the event in the marriage register. You should discuss the form and content of your ceremony with the Register Office, as you can choose to personalise your ceremony with the addition of your choice of readings, or your own vows. Immediately before the wedding, The Registrar has a legal requirement to see you both privately (and individually if you prefer) to confirm the details to be entered into the marriage register. Remember to ask The Registrar about taking photographs and videos during the ceremony itself, and don't leave this detail until the actual day. ♥

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How your day should flow The Ceremony

The Reception

• The ceremony should start with the processional (entrance of the bride), the introduction, the marriage and optional readings. This is followed by the signing of the register, and the service ends with the recessional (exit of the couple). • At a religious ceremony, the introduction would be followed by a hymn, and prayers and a blessing would follow the marriage. • If your ceremony includes any hymns or songs it is usual to provide an order-of-service so that your guests can join in with the singing. • While the order of the ceremony is similar for both religious and civil ceremonies, you need to remember that no religious references are allowed at a civil ceremony. Check the words and lyrics of your chosen readings and music carefully, before submitting them to your registrar for their approval.

• On arrival, ushers should show guests where to park before directing them into the venue. • Friends and family should be welcomed, either with a traditional receiving line or by circulating the room. • It is normal to serve canapés while friends and family are gathered for the formal photographs. • Photographs are followed by the Wedding Breakfast. Speeches are increasingly taking place before the meal, allowing nervous speakers to get them out of the way and leaving them free to enjoy the meal. • After-dinner speeches are usually followed by the cutting of the cake, which can then be served with the coffee and mints. • The evening reception usually begins with your first dance. • It is traditional for guests to stay until the bride and groom leave.

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Choosing your reception venue

You may already have a dream wedding location in mind or you may be starting with a blank page. Either way, choosing your wedding venue is one of the ďŹ rst and most important decisions you will make.

When you have decided on a Church or Civil There are likely to be two parts to your wedding Ceremony there are certain factors to consider. to organise, the wedding ceremony and the Firstly, the venue must wedding reception. look and feel right to You may have your Properly planned, your you. You may have a heart set on a reception will become one particular style of venue traditional Church of the most joyous parties in mind for example, a ceremony which is still you will ever host Castle, a Manor House or a favourite choice for somewhere dramatic or chic. The choices are couples. If this is the case then the reception endless and where you choose will help you to should be planned around the Church location. dictate the style and theme of your wedding. You will need to consider ease of transport for The venue must be able to accommodate the your guests from the ceremony to the reception number of guests you are inviting so you should venue. The second option is a civil wedding have a good idea of numbers before you start where your ceremony and reception will be held looking around. at a licensed venue. 42 T H E W E D D I N G G U I D E

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Speech! For those who have to make a speech on the big day (traditionally the Father of the Bride, The Best Man and The Groom), it can be a very worrying time. Will people laugh in the right places? Will I be able to get my words out? Will everyone enjoy it? If you don’t take things too seriously and speak from the heart you will be on the right track. Here are a few basic hints and tips to help you on your way... • Remember that your audience understands that the speeches are a big deal, they are warmed to the happiness of the occasion and are on your side. • Try and keep your speech short, if you go on for too long you are likely to lose people. • If you don’t feel confident memorising the speech, you could use prompt cards. Try to look around the room and engage with people rather than just looking down at the cards. • Consider the range of people in your audience as you don’t want to offend Auntie Mary! Keep it light and funny without being rude, crude or sarcastic. • Try and use a funny memory as your opening line to get a laugh – this will help relax you into the rest of the speech and grabs the attention of the guests. • Remember the correct wedding speech etiquette and don’t forget to thank the right people for all their help. • Finally, don’t panic. If the worst happens and you forget the words just start speaking from the heart and your audience will be applauding for more!

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Your ‘attendants’ Chief Bridesmaid/Maid of Honour When considering who to choose to be your Chief Bridesmaid remember that you will need somebody you can rely on, who will be your rock and a shoulder to cry on in times of stress but also someone you trust to be completely honest and a good organiser (for hen night purposes!). Whether you choose your sister or a close friend, their role will start long before the wedding day and some of the duties involve: • Helping the Bride choose her dress. • Organise the hen party. • Organise an Emergency Kit for on the day (nail file, safety pins, needle & thread etc). • Attend the wedding rehearsal. • Help the Bride dress on the day and arrange the veil and train before the Bride heads off down the aisle. • Take the bouquet from the Bride during the service. • Be available for anything the Bride might need you for!

What about the Best Man? It is always an honour to be asked to be a Best Man and the role can vary depending on how much help the Groom needs. There are however certain traditional duties that should fall to the Best Man and they are: • Organise the stag party (but make sure nothing terrible happens to the Groom!) • Attend the wedding rehearsal. • Travel with the Groom to the ceremony, keep him calm and make sure he’s on time. • Take very good care of the wedding rings until they are required by the vicar/registrar. • Escort the Chief Bridesmaid down the aisle after the wedding ceremony. • The Big One – The Best Man’s Speech!


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12 months before:

Don’t panic! There may be a huge amount to do in the run up to your big day, but our handy checklist is designed to help you through the next twelve months.

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Choose a wedding date Decide on a budget Make a list of guests and decide on numbers Book your Church/Ceremony location Book your reception venue/caterers Send out “Save The Date” cards Choose your Bridesmaids, Ushers and Best Man Start looking for The Dress! Choose and book your photographer Choose and book your videographer Take out insurance cover Start thinking about the Honeymoon Confirm bookings in writing

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Choose bridesmaids’ dresses Choose the music, hymns and readings for the ceremony Order wedding stationery Book entertainment Choose and order your wedding cake Make an appointment with your chosen florist Select a Toastmaster

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Give Notice of Marriage Purchase or hire menswear Order venue decoration/chair covers Select your wedding rings Book a make-up artist/hairdresser and arrange a trial

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q Send out your wedding invitations q Check your passport expiry date q Check if you will need visas or vaccinations for your honeymoon destination q Choose attendants’ gifts q Buy shoes, lingerie and accessories q Choose a Gift List q Order favours q Start thinking about a seating plan q Book your wedding night accommodation q Attend initial fitting for your wedding dress q Make arrangements for Hen and Stag parties q Arrange fittings for the menswear q Buy a going away outfit and honeymoon clothes q Organise a rehearsal and let relevant people know

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Arrange a final fitting of your wedding dress Call guests who have not responded to your invitation Buy a wedding gift for each other Arrange for a final fitting for your bridesmaids, ushers and best man and arrange when to collect the outfits q Confirm timings with the venue and all relevant suppliers q Finalise the seating plan q Enjoy your hen and stag parties!

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q Make a note of wedding gifts as they arrive q Confirm the date and time of the rehearsal to the relevant people q Arrange to change your name if appropriate q Speak to all your suppliers to confirm details

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Who pays? Talking about the budget won’t be the most romantic conversation you’re going to have when it comes to planning your big day, but overspending isn’t very romantic either. One of the first things you need to do when you start planning your dream wedding is decide who’s paying for what. The most important thing to consider is to plan the type of wedding you can realistically afford. It is not ideal to start married life in debt. Remember, it is how you spend your money that counts, not how much you have to spend.

Traditionally, the father of the bride handled the majority of the expenses, with the groom chipping in for ceremony fees and a suitably fabulous, surprise honeymoon. But, times are changing. Many contemporary couples choose to pay for the bulk of their wedding themselves, or even to split the costs three ways – between them and both sets of parents. The question for who pays for what really comes down to who is willing and able.

A traditional breakdown of the expenses:

The Bride

The Groom

• Wedding gift for groom • Wedding ring for groom • Bridesmaids’ dresses • Gifts for Attendants • Hen Party

• Wedding gift for bride • Bride's rings • Banns, Wedding Licence and Marriage Certificate • Gifts for Best Man and Ushers • Bridal bouquet, buttonholes and corsages • Formalwear • Fees for officiating personnel

The Groom’s Family

The Bride's Family

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• Entire reception • Wedding gift for newlyweds • Bride's wedding outfit • Invitations and announcements • Photographs • Venue fees • Flowers • Wedding cars

Honeymoon Stag Party Wedding clothes Travelling expenses/hotel bills Wedding gift for newlyweds Shipment of wedding gifts to new home

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Civil Partnerships Following the Civil Partnership Act of 2004, same sex couples can now make a formal, legally recognised commitment to each other by entering into a Civil Partnership.

Civil partners will have equal treatment in a wide range of legal matters like married couples, including: • • • • • • • •

Tax, including inheritance tax Employment benefits Most state and occupational pension benefits; Income related benefits, tax credits and child support Duty to provide reasonable maintenance for your civil partner and any children of the family Ability to apply for parental responsibility for your civil partner’s child Protection from domestic violence Recognition for immigration and nationality purposes

In a similar way to traditional marriages, a couple must give notice of a proposed civil partnership to the local register office, even if they intend to register elsewhere. They can only do this once they have lived in the area for at least seven days. Each of them must give this notice in person. The notice must include where the couple wish the civil partnership registration to take place. Once notices have been given, the register office must keep information relating to the notices on public display for 15 days. This should be in both the area in which the registration is to take place and in the area in which both partners live. The registration cannot proceed until the 15-day waiting period has passed for each of the notices. This is to allow any person to make an objection in a similar way to a marriage. Once the 15-day waiting period has expired, if there are no objections to the registration of the civil partnership and no legal reasons why it

cannot go ahead, the register office must provide the couple with a legal document called a civil partnership schedule. The couple will need this in order to register a civil partnership. A civil partnership must be registered within 12 months of the first notice being recorded. If registration is not done within this time limit, they cannot register without starting the process again. Two people are regarded as having registered a civil partnership once each of them has signed the schedule or licence in front of two witnesses and the civil partnership registrar. The witnesses and registrar must also sign the document. A Civil Partnership Ceremony is similar to a traditional civil wedding, with opportunities for music and readings that are secular in nature. ♥ For further info visit T H E W E D D I N G G U I D E 53

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Changing your name Although some brides in today's modern world choose not to change their last name, the practice of adding a hyphen followed by your husband’s surname is becoming popular. Whether you decide to adopt your husband’s surname or not, to avoid problems at a later date, you should make your decision about formally changing your name as quickly as possible. This checklist should help you with all the different areas where you may need to change your name but please remember that a copy of your marriage certificate may be required. • Social Security • Bank Accounts rth • Credit Cards It’s wo ing • Dr/Dental Record practis new • Car Registration your writing re in • Passport signatu ! • Driving License e advanc • Insurance Policies • Credit Rating • Employment Records • Memberships & Subscriptions

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questions should I be asking?


Use our handy checklist to keep track of all the questions you should be asking your wedding suppliers.

Photographer q Do you use digital cameras or shoot on ďŹ lm? q What style of photography do you specialise

in? How many pictures will you take? Will you visit the venue before the day? How long will you stay for? Should I pay for meals and travel expenses? Who will edit the photographs? Will you retain the copyright of the images? Is someone available to take your place if you are ill? q When will I receive my photographs? q How can my family and friends view and order photographs? q q q q q q q

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Cake maker

q Is the venue available on the date I want? q Do you have a room that is big/small enough

q Do you have any testimonials I can see? q Can I choose from a selection of fillings? q Is it possible to sample the different cake

to accommodate my guests comfortably? q What is the distance from q

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my ceremony venue? Key #2 Will other weddings be stion r e u Q you taking place on the Does include same day as mine? e quot added Do you provide inany es and house catering? g char AT? Is accommodation V available for guests? Will it be offered at a discounted rate? Am I able to have a marquee/fireworks/live band/ candles? Can I choose my own supplier of these services or do you have your own preferred suppliers? If I want, can I have a late bar?

fillings available? q Can I have a cake made up of different

flavoured layers? q Will you come to the venue to assemble the

cake on the day? q Does the price include a cake stand? q When does the balance need to be paid?

Florist q Are you the recommended florist of my

venue/any other venues? q How many weddings will you be doing on the

same day as mine? q Will the florist I have consulted be the person

who actually does the flowers on the day?

Caterer q Can I choose items from different menus

and packages? q Do you have any testimonials I can see? q Do you offer a menu tasting service? Will I

have to pay for it? q What does your service include? Do I need to

source my own waiting staff? q Do you provide alcohol or could I find it

cheaper myself elsewhere?

q What seasonal flowers

could you recommend Que Key for the time of year I st Can ion #3 am getting married you se in? ada rvices r pt b q Is there a my ed to s e maximum distance bud u get it you will travel to ? arrange the flowers in the venue? q Do you charge for any breakages? q How long do you need to set up?

q If I provide my own wine, how much will you

charge me for corkage?

Entertainment q Does the DJ have a versatile playlist? q Will they be able to play requests on the night

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or do these need to be submitted beforehand? Does the band play recorded music while they are having a break? Can the band provide a demo CD? Do you need to be included in our numbers for the caterer? Will you need a room to get changed in? How long will you need to get set up? Will you visit the venue beforehand?

Dress shop q Is there a fee to try on dresses and do I need

to make an appointment? q Will there be other girls trying on dresses at

the same time? q How long can I have an appointment for? q Is there a maximum number of dresses I

can try on? How many people can I bring with me? How much do alterations cost? How many fittings will I need to have? What do I need to bring with me, e.g. shoes, lingerie, veil etc. q Will I need to collect my dress when it is ready, or can I have it delivered? ♥ q q q q

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Making life easier with a

Wedding Co-ordinator The average bride spends 250 hours planning her dream wedding, the equivalent of six weeks full time work, trying to put together the most magical and memorable day of her life. There is real skill involved in turning that fantasy into reality and an experienced wedding co-ordinator will be able to help you realise your dreams, whether on a small or grand scale, traditional or contemporary, in a city or countryside setting. A wedding co-ordinator can save you valuable time searching for the right venue or supplier. They can reduce stress, save you money and help provide professional event co-ordination on the day. Some of the key elements of what a wedding co-ordinator can do for you are: • Help you set a realistic budget and stick to it! • Help you find a venue and secure the booking; • Deal with the suppliers including the florist, caterers, photographers, entertainment etc.; • Develop a schedule and work plan and ensure you keep track of progress; • Send out invitations for you and collate the replies; • Advise on wedding etiquette and help diffuse stressful situations, such as dealing with seating plans without offending relatives; • Deal with the hire of any outfits and ensure they are returned on time; • Advise on any new trends, suggesting creative ways to make your wedding unique; • Manage the invoices from suppliers and advise you of the final costs; • Negotiate preferential rates with suppliers; • Keep you fully informed throughout the whole process; • Supervise the wedding day to ensure everything runs to the timetable and manage the bridal party and ushers, reminding them of their responsibilities. 58 T H E W E D D I N G G U I D E

Save valuable time and minimise stress with a Wedding Co-ordinator

An increasingly popular choice for those brides who have planned their own wedding day is to hire an 'on-the-day' co-ordinator who can take care of the day behind the scenes. They can help with common concerns such as: • What happens on the big day? • Do I have to keep my mobile phone close by in case of an emergency? • What do I do if there are any late minute emergencies, such as the florist hasn't turned up or the venue has been dressed incorrectly? An 'on-the-day' co-ordinator can solve any problems quickly and quietly to ensure everything runs smoothly in exactly the way you want, leaving you free to enjoy your special day. ♥

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When you visit a potential wedding venue there may be certain aspects that you absolutely love and some that you don’t love quite so much! If you are concerned about the decor then there is no need to worry, there are companies that can provide you with services that can transform a typical function room into a breathtaking vision that you and your guests will never forget. If you are after a dreamy, romantic atmosphere why not go for swags of tulle, clusters of white balloons and twinkling fairy lights. You can create a sophisticated, timeless look by using the same items but add in sumptuous floral arrangements and candles. Whatever look you want to create, there will be someone who can create it for you. But be mindful of the canvas you are working with. If your venue is a historic building then you don’t want to cover beautiful plush walls with 12 ft banners. So don’t fight against what you have to work with but consider your surroundings carefully and work with them.

Places you may wish to decorate: • Doorways, entrances and exits (including the driveway leading to the venue) • Walls and windows • The ceiling (particularly in a marquee) • Lighting on the dance floor • Fireplaces • Door handles and staircases • The Top Table • Guests’ tables & chairs Be careful not to clutter the venue with too much decoration though, less is usually more! A good venue decorator will help and guide you make the right choices to create a stunning look so that when your guests arrive, they think WOW. ♥ 60 T H E W E D D I N G G U I D E

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Sitting Pretty On Your Wedding Day Chair covers are a fabulous way to transform a room from drab to dreamy and create a welcoming ambience for guests. These days, chair covers are becoming ever more popular and are now seen as a wedding day must-have. Covers are usually provided by independent venue dressers or specialist chair cover companies or the ceremony/reception venue. It is an idea to choose a company who is familiar with the venue, as this will ensure that they are aware of the style and shape of the chairs. Most chair cover companies will arrive in good time to help dress the venue and usually arrange with the hotel to pick them up the next day – one little less worry. Some companies do offer chair covers online, however theses will be delivered to your home and it will be your responsibility to dress the chairs on the day. As you won’t be doing this yourself it will be up to the venue staff to dress the chairs. However, venues may charge extra for this service, so it is advisable to hire instead of buy. ♼

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For something completely different why not try... ...stunning Ice sculptures, a yummy chocolate fountain, a candy buffet or, for a romantic touch, release white doves? For an alternative to flowers as table centrepieces, why not consider an ice sculpture? Ice sculptures, crystal clear and hand carved, which may include engraved names and dates, are a fantastic and unique way to introduce a real wow at any wedding. Or why not include a chocolate fountain at your reception? Your guests are sure to enjoy the indulgence offered as an extra treat. Speak to suppliers about the type of chocolate they use - is it pure Belgian chocolate or is it mixed with oil? Can it be supplied in different colours or flavours? What items for dipping are included? Why not wow your guests with the latest trend in candy buffets or pick ‘n’ mix display stands. Packed full of delicious sweeties, they not only add fun and colour to the wedding reception but are a wonderful way to take people back to their childhood days and are a fantastic talking point. A gorgeous spread of candy will be set up at the reception where guests can browse and indulge their sweet tooths. The sweets will be displayed in elegant glass jars and can be used as part of the dessert or set out as a "make your own" party favour table with decorative bags that guests can take home with them. For that extra romantic touch, what better way is there to celebrate your love than releasing white doves? The dove has long been a symbol of Freedom, Love, and Peace, and is viewed worldwide as a messenger of serenity. ♥

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Why not try a vibrant red and blooming rose theme to set everyone’s heart uttering, creating a truly romantic look? Ideal for a Winter wedding.

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Red Heart Balloon £1.99

Red Metallic Hearts £1.99

Rose Petals £19.99

Country Market Alpine Laevnder Soap £2.99

Opposite page: Red Disposable Cameras £2.99 Bright Red Freeze Dry Petals £24.99 Personalised French Red Wine with Gift Box £14.99

Products compliment a range available from

Red Rose Scented Tea Light £4.99 for 8 pack

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forever to last

Choosing the right wedding photographer can seem daunting. There are a few key things to look out for that will help you make the right choice. You need to feel personally comfortable with your wedding photographer – they’ll be capturing your emotions and working closely with your family and friends on your special day. Some wedding photographers favour a traditional approach with others offering more contemporary images. Some photographers will be able to provide you with a combination of styles. Make sure you see examples of their relevant work to get a good feel whether they are the right choice for you. It’s important that you understand exactly what you’ll be getting from your photographer. Although many now offer straight-forward packages do not be afraid to clarify exactly what your photographer will do on the day itself and provide you with after the event. Do check you know what’s included in the price and what will cost extra. It’s worth arranging your photographer early in your planning as good photographers often get booked well in advance. To form an idea of the types of photographs you want captured take a look at as many examples as you can. Discuss this with your photographer and any friends who have recently got married. Often friends or relatives who are keen amateurs offer their services for free. Whilst it may be tempting to take them up for reasons of politeness or economy, you do not want to take risks with your precious photographs! If you want to guarantee high quality wedding photographs then you’re probably best to leave the task to the professionals. To avoid causing offence to Uncle Bob, maybe you could offer him the important role of capturing candid images of the guests through the day? ♥ 66 T H E W E D D I N G G U I D E

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Louise & Jonathan Photography by Emma Cleveley

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Louise and Jonathan worked across the road from each other for about 7 years before we got together! Jay runs a pub and restaurant with his family and I teach at a school. We’d always liked each other and eventually, when the time was right our mutual friend Trish gave Jay my number and told him to call. He did and we fell in love very quickly. The Proposal was very thoughtful and romantic. Jay took me to the place where we’d had our first real date, at Old John in Bradgate Park on Valentines Day. He proposed on one knee with my beautiful engagement ring after reading the words in my card but hiding the ‘Fiancée’ bit! He’d also arranged for a family friend to bring champagne on a silver tray with a huge red rose. Up until our wedding day, it was the happiest day of our lives. On a beautiful clear day they were married at Staunton Harold Hall, we didn’t want a religious ceremony but still felt it important to be traditional. It had lots of character and felt really individual. The room also looked out onto the grounds and lake. We wanted only our closest friends and family to witness our intimate ceremony and the room was just the right size for us all.

The reception was also held at Staunton Harold Hall downstairs in the library. The owners don’t normally let couples use the library but it was a deal breaker for us and we’re so glad we chose it. The views from the huge windows across the lake are beautiful and the room looked even more impressive than we could have imagined. Louise Dress: Brides of Market Harborough Bridesmaids Dresses: Beaubelles of Borrowash Flowers: Fleurs en Fleaur, Loughborough Cake: Family Friend Invitations: Karen Husssey Designs Photographer: Emma Cleveley Transport: Stonehurst Farm Honeymoon: Maldives A note from Louise: Try lots of dresses on as once you’ve found the one, you won’t want to bother with any others. And trust your instincts – you will know! Search high and low for the right florist and photographer. If something is very important to you, stick to your guns. It’s your one and only wedding day and others should respect your choices. ♥ T H E W E D D I N G G U I D E 69

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Anna & Chris Photography by Cheryl’s Photography

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Anna and Chris meet at work. Chris proposed in a Thai restaurant and they had 2 years to plan their dream wedding. The theme for the day was butterflies and purple. On the day it was very cloudy but the sun shone for the reception and photographs. The ceremony and reception was held at Woodborough Hall in Nottinghamshire, they chose the venue as they could hold the ceremony and reception together and the rooms are beautiful with spectacular gardens. Anna Dress: Here and Now Bridal at Doncaster Bridesmaids: Emma’s Secret Nottingham Formal wear: TM Lewin Flowers: Vaas Nottingham Hair: Stacy at Evoke Photographer: Cheryl’s Photography Rings: Excel Nottingham ♥ T H E W E D D I N G G U I D E 71

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Capture the laughter Wedding videos and DVD productions are an excellent way of capturing your special day. Many couples will rank wedding videography much lower on their lists than other wedding day essentials - however, failing to find the cash to fund one may be a decision you regret later.

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the finished video will look like and how many copies you will receive. Make sure you see some of their finished videos and the videographer understands what you want and doesn’t get too bogged down talking about the technology! So if you want to make sure the sights and sounds of your wedding day are captured in a way you'll want to watch over and over again, get a professional to do the job - just like you did with the dress, the photographer, the flowers... ♥

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Your carriage awaits

Wedding cars have been getting brides to the church in style for years. It’s one aspect that usually stays true to tradition, with brides opting for vintage or classical cars such as a Rolls Royce, Daimler, Bentley or Limousine for transport. However, for the more adventurous bride there are other alternatives that are sure to make an impression as you pull up to the church. Other options include: Horse drawn carriage, VW Vans, Mustangs, Lamborghinis and even Beetles or Minis.

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The Car It is important to book your transport about 6 months ahead and visit car companies that are local so that they are familiar with the route and have a good idea of traffic conditions. Cars usually have white ribbons running along the front but these can be changed to match the theme of the day if you wish. The price usually includes a complementary bottle of champagne; however there may be extras, such as requested music, for an extra charge. You also need to know how many cars you will need: Which car will take you, which car will take the bridesmaids. As the bridesmaids usually arrive before the bride it is advisable to have separate cars that leave at different times.

The Carriage If you really want to go for the Wow factor on your wedding day, then a horse drawn carriage is for you. The carriages themselves can range from the classic Landau to fairytale replicas. Again, it is very important to visit the carriage company well in advance so you can view the carriages and decide what you want for the day. You must remember that the horses will have to stand still for long periods of time and traffic on the road can prove stressful for them so choose a reputable company that has good experience with horses. Finally, don’t forget that horses move much slower than cars, so make sure you leave enough time to get to the church and that the roads are suitable for the ride. ♥

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Lyndsey and Peter met over the Internet and hit it off straight away. They had a blind date in a pub in Moseley and clicked – the rest is history as they say, “our knees touched and that was it!!” The proposal was organised by Peter on a trip to Barcelona. On the first night Peter surprised Lyndsey and took her to a restaurant, which was fantastic, on the way home they walked past the Fountain Magica, a very romantic part of Barcelona and Peter proposed to Lyndsey on a balcony in front of the most amazing water fountain display. Lyndsey was very shocked and didn’t answer for a few minutes! But eventually she said yes... On a very cold and snowy December Lyndsey and Peter travelled up to Buxton in a blizzard. They were married at 2pm at the Buxton Palace Hotel. The ceremony and the reception were held at the Hotel.

Lyndsey Dress: McCall by Maggie Sottero Bridesmaids: Debut by Debenhams Menswear: Moss Bros Flowers: Green Pavillion, Buxton Cake: Ruths Cakes, Buxton Invitations: Peter Wardleworth Photographer: David Golding Weddings Honeymoon: Scotland for Mini-Moon and Canada for Honeymoon in July Note from Lyndsey: Relax and enjoy the experience as it goes extremely fast and before you know it the day is over! Things went wrong for us and due to the snow some of our family couldn’t make the wedding. But we made sure that despite the problems we enjoyed the day and didn’t let the problems upset us. ♥ T H E W E D D I N G G U I D E 77

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Blooming marvellous! An artistic florist will be able to suggest a range of stunning designs for your wedding bouquet and floral arrangements that complement your dress, the theme of your wedding and the ceremony venue. Make sure you are prepared for your consultation. Try to take with you samples of the fabric that will make up your dress, and colour swatches for your gown, the bridesmaids’ dresses and groom's formalwear, as the florist will need this information to help them prepare ideas of beautiful arrangements for you. The traditional colours for a bridal bouquet are ivory and white, but don't be afraid to add a hint of colour for that element of understated sophis-

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tication. The groom's buttonhole should be worn on his left lapel, and should echo the bride's bouquet. This is to celebrate the tradition of a Knight wearing his Lady's colours to display his love. The ushers and groomsmen should wear a slightly different flower on their lapel, but it should also feature in the main bouquet. Bridesmaids’ flowers will also differ from your bouquet, but should still coordinate with the general floral theme, as should corsages for the mothers and buttonholes for the fathers. Flowers could be selected for personal reasons, or because of what they traditionally represent, i.e. Lilies represent majesty, roses symbolise love, freesias symbolise purity, and baby's breath represents innocence. Silk flowers are becoming more popular too, enabling you to choose exquisite imitators that will last a lifetime. Buying flowers in season can save you money, so pick flowers according to the time of year and be ecofriendly too! ♥

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If you want your day to have some fun and personality, why not go for a themed wedding? Your theme can be as elaborate or as subtle as you wish but having a theme, even just a colour theme, can help you focus as you plan your wedding day. There are some fabulous wedding theme ideas out there but you should choose something that will reflect your personalities. It’s something you should choose very early on in your planning as everything else will revolve around the theme. You could create a mood board which will help you focus on the colours and styles that you like. Do this by going through wedding magazines and cutting out anything that you think looks pretty and you would like for your wedding day. The end result will help you visualise how your wedding day will look. Here are some ideas for wedding themes. Even if none of them grab you, at least you will know what you don’t want! Vintage – Pretty china, bird cages and bunting can give a romantic feel to your day. Medieval – A sumptuous banquet in a castle and scroll-style invitations, this has the makings of a wedding to remember! Winter Wonderland – A winter wedding can have a dramatic feel with twinkling fairy lights, a velvet-cloaked bride, and white flowers tied with red ribbon. To go all the way, why not hire a snow machine! 1920s – Book an Art Decostyle venue, a jazz band and serve cocktails to help recreate the fun-loving spirit of the 1920s. ♥ T H E W E D D I N G G U I D E 79

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Yummy Scrummy Cakes Wedding cakes have been a staple of a traditional British wedding since the Tudors’ first creation measuring a whopping 30” x 16”. However it wasn’t until the Victorian era that tiers where first introduced that mirror the cakes we recognise today. It is thought that a London baker took inspiration from the aptly named St Bride’s Church spire to design Queen Victoria’s wedding cake. This started a trend among the Royals who where then challenged to make bigger and better cakes every time.


Nowadays your wedding cake can be any style, shape, flavour and colour you want


Traditionally, fruit cake is preferred for weddings. However nowadays wedding cakes can be any style, shape, flavour and colour you want; from lemon, vanilla sponge, chocolate, fruit or carrot cake, designs and styles can be unique and add a little extra Wow factor to the day. Some brides are even opting for hundreds of cupcakes, meringues, profiteroles in a stack or even going against all tradition and choosing a chocolate fountain. You should visit a cake designer at least 6 months before your wedding so you are aware of the choices on offer and you can gain an idea of how you want your cake to look. Most cake designers will require some details such as the number of guests, the colour of the bride’s and bridesmaids’ dresses and the colour of the flowers. On the day the cake will be delivered and set up by the confectioner, but do check if this service is included in the price. The cake’s first cut should be made by the bride and groom as this signifies their shared future together. Some couples tend to save the top tier of a rich fruit cake until the christening of their first child. Whatever you decide to go for, choosing the cake will be lots of fun! ♥ 80 T H E W E D D I N G G U I D E

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Announce your wedding in style Your stationery can be the first indication of the theme of your wedding

Your wedding stationery will give your guests the first hint of the style and colour theme of your wedding. You may be looking for something quite simple and contemporary, elegant and romantic or elaborate and bold – whatever you decide to go for, you won’t be disappointed with the choice available. So what items are you likely to need? Save the Date Cards – to make sure all your family and friends keep their diary free on the chosen day. Invitations – Remember that you will only need one per family but it’s always wise to order a few extra just in case. Reply Cards – these can be included with your invitations to encourage a prompt response from your guests. Order of Service – Usually you would give one to each guest at a church wedding but when thinking of numbers consider friends coming to watch who may not be invited to the day time. Table Plan/Place Cards/Menus – can all be designed to match the colour and theme of your wedding and add that bit of luxury and formality to the event. ♥ T H E W E D D I N G G U I D E 81

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Your Wedding GiftWish List! What a great opportunity to create a wish list of all your most favourite things! What shall you ask for? Well the gifts you choose will depend on what stage of your life you are at. If you are a young couple just setting up home together for the first time you will need all the basics: china, pots and pans, bed linen, towels and glassware etc. For couples getting married in their thirties it is more likely that you own a home or have lived together, so you probably already have most of the basic household items. If this is the case you may wish to consider asking for more luxurious items like garden furniture, or state-of-the-art kitchen equipment. You could suggest a group of friends or relatives club together to buy the more expensive gifts between them.

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Gift List Top Tips • Create your gift list at least three months before the wedding day to take account of order and delivery lead times. • You should allow at least a month to compile your list, and it’s unlikely that you will choose all your items in one session. • Cater for all budgets when choosing items for your list. You don’t want anyone to feel pressured into buying a gift they cannot afford. • Include a wide variety of gifts so your guests have plenty to choose from. • Try and think ahead – you may not be interested in a fancy dinner service now but it could come in useful later on. • If you choose to compile a list at a large department store, make sure you sign up as early as possible. • Keep a note of all the people who bought you a gift and what they bought you – this will help with your Thank You notes. • Consider taking out wedding insurance to cover all your gifts.

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The Circle of Love Your wedding ring is a public symbol of your everlasting love and commitment to each other, yet many couples will leave buying them until the very last minute. Start thinking about your wedding rings as soon as you start your planning as there are a few points to consider. Remember, they will be worn for the rest of your lives together.

Choosing the style, metal and colour Your style of wedding ring should reflect your own personal style; it should also compliment your engagement ring and can also be chosen to match your groom's ring if you wish. Wedding rings come in a variety of metals, colours and styles. When choosing rings it’s best to go for a colour or style you’re not likely to get bored with, so it’s best not to follow high fashion. Consider your personality and your engagement ring style – if your engagement ring is classic, vintage, unusual or even bespoke, then your wedding ring will probably need to match. The Ancient Egyptian belief is that a circular ring was a sign of undying, never ending love, a love without a beginning or an end. Whatever you and your groom choose, it’s nice to have rings that match in some way, either in their metal or pattern.

Make sure it fits!

If you are buying your wedding rings from a jewellers then they will measure your fingers instore to size the rings. If you choose to buy your rings online, many companies will now send out a ring measurer before you place your order so you can be sure to order the correct size. When measuring, it’s worth remembering that your fingers will swell up in the heat, shrink in the cold and get bigger as the day goes on. Most jewellers recommend measuring in the afternoon when you are warm for a snug fit and then re-measuring again in the morning when you are cool to ensure the ring size is perfect. Achieving the correct fit is vital, as nothing else you own will compete with the number of hours you will wear your wedding ring. ♥

Choosing your rings It’s best to decide on a design at least two to three months before the big day, although you will need to allow longer for a bespoke design. This should give you plenty of time for choosing, measuring, sizing and resizing if need be. Agree on your budget and then spend some time looking at what is available. Specialist wedding ring makers allow you to design your own rings and have them made – the ultimate in wearing your own individual style. A specialist ring designer and maker will be able to translate your style requirements into a unique wedding ring or rings just for you. An alternative could be personalising your rings with an engraving of the date of your wedding or a personal message. Images courtesy of

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Popular DJs, bands and singers get booked well in advance


When you start considering what type of music and entertainment you would like at your wedding, you will realise that the choice is endless. Should you go for a DJ, a live singer, a band or a combination – whatever you decide make sure they are going to hit the right note to ensure you have the party of a lifetime. Arranging your wedding music really should be high priority as popular DJs, bands and singers get booked up well in advance. Ideally you should hear the DJ, singer or band before you book them to make sure they will create the right atmosphere for you and your guests. Your DJ or band should discuss with you what type of music you would like for your first dance and a good DJ or bandleader will gather all the guests together to make it a very special time. Close-up magic can provide the perfect ice breaker for a wedding reception. A good magician will mingle with your guests performing a range of miracles in front of their eyes. They will move from group to group engaging guests with their magic and leave them with something shared to talk about, even if they have just met. Fireworks are becoming an increasingly popular and spectacular finale to the day's events. When deciding whether you wish to pursue this unique spectacle, there are some basic rules to follow. The venue must of course be of a suitable size, and the owner will need to give their permission. The larger the display, the larger the display area required, and a site visit with the company is essential. Finally, do inform your photographer/ videographer in advance about the display so they can be prepared to capture the spectacle. If they require any specialist knowledge on the filming of fireworks, the firework company should be able to assist. ♥

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Hen & Stag Checklist It is becoming increasingly popular for the last night of freedom to last a weekend, or even longer so make sure you discuss with the chief bridesmaid or best man what type of party you really want. • Draw up list of people to invite. • Select a town/venue that's easily accessible to everyone. • Decide on what kind of event you think would be best for the people involved. • Set the itinerary and make inquiries and provisional bookings.

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Wedding Fayre Diary Image courtesy of

Sunday 14th August 2011 Langley Priory Hall Langley Priory, Diseworth, Derbyshire, DE74 2QQ Time: 11am - 4pm % Sue White - 01246 541906 Sunday 21st August 2011 Winding Wheel Wedding Fayre 13 Holywell Street Chesterfield Derbyshire S41 7SA Time: 11am - 4pm % Pat Shaw - 01246 556898

Sunday 18th September 2011 New Bath Hotel Wedding Fayre New Bath Road Matlock Bath Derbyshire DE4 3PX Time: 11am - 4pm % Rebecca - 01629 583454 Sunday 18th September 2011 The 3 Counties Wedding Fayre Hilton Hotel, Junction 24, M1, East Midlands Airport, Nottingham Time: 11am - 4pm % Julia Stanley - 01332 875880

Sunday 28th August 2011 Pride Park Stadium Pride Park Stadium Derby DE24 8XL Time: 11am- 4pm % Sue White - 01246 541906

Sunday 18th September 2011 The Britannia Stadium Wedding Show Stanley Mathews Way, Stoke on Trent, Staffordshire ST4 4EG Time: 11am - 4pm % Steve - 01782 740526

Sunday 18th September 2011 Holme Pierrepont Hall Wedding Fair Holme Pierrepont, Nottingham NG12 2LD Time: 11am - 4pm % Sarah - 01332 813973

Sunday 18th September 2011 The Derbyshire Hotel Wedding Fayre Carter Lane East, South Normanton Derby, DE55 2EH Time: 11am - 4pm % Anne - 07968 495110 T H E W E D D I N G G U I D E 95

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Sunday 18th September 2011 The Towers Wedding Fayre Bantony Ave Mansfiled Notts Time: 11am - 4pm % Penelope Jane Beniston - 07794 179523

Sunday 2nd October 2011 Thrumpton Hall Thrumpton, Nottinghamshire, NG11 0AX Time: 11am - 4pm % Sue White - 01246 541906

Sunday 25th September 2011 Derby Conference Centre Wedding Fayre London Road Derby DE24 8UX Time: 11am - 4pm % Steve - 01773 8814882011

Sunday 2nd October 2011 WPN Wedding Show at Mickleover Court Hotel Menzies Mickleover Court Etwall Road Mickleover, Derby DE3 0XX Time: 11am - 4pm % Steve - 01773 881488

Sunday 25th September 2011 Elsham Hall Wedding Fayre Elsham Hall Gardens and Country Club Brigg N E Lincs DN20 0QZ Time: 11am - 4pm % Elaine - 01652 688955 Sunday 25th September 2011 Nottingham Golf & Country Club The Nottinghamshire Golf & Country Club Stragglethorpe Nottingham NG12 3HB Time: 11am -4 pm % Charlotte - 01159 333344 Sunday 25th September 2011 Rolls Royce Wedding Fayre Gate One, Watnall Road, Hucknall, Nottingham, NG15 6EU Time: 11am - 4pm % 07985 727444 0r 01623 751907 Sunday 25th September 2011 The Nottingham Wedding Show North Circus Street, Nottingham NG1 5AA Time: 11am - 4pm % Julia Stanley - 01332 875880 Sunday 2nd October 2011 Donington Manor Wedding Fayre Castle Donington, Derby, DE74 2PP Time: 12 noon - 4pm % Ellie Loukes - 01332 815198 Sunday 2nd October 2011 Richard Herrod L Centre Wedding Fayre Civic Centre, Foxhill Road, Carlton, Nottingham, NG5 6LU Time: 11am - 4pm % Create Your Day - 07985 727444

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Sunday 2nd October 2011 Vale Park Wedding Fayre Home of Port Vale FC Hamil Road Burslem Stoke on Trent ST6 1AW Time: 11am-4pm % Evoke Events – 0871 5262702 Sunday 9th October 2011 Hilton Hotel Nottingham Milton Street, Next to Victoria Centre Nottingham, NG1 3PZ Time: 10.30am - 3.30pm % Penny - 01623 751721 Sunday 9th October 2011 Kedleston Hall Wedding Fayre Near Quarndon, Derby, DE22 5JH Time: 11am - 4pm % Anne - 07968 495110 Sunday 9th October 2011 Branston Golf Club Wedding Fayre Branston, Burton on Trent, Staffordshire, DE14 3DP Time: 12 – 4pm % Joanne -0151 2279179 Sunday 9th October 2011 Uttoxeter Racecourse Wedding fayre Wood Lane Uttoxeter Staffordshire ST14 8BD Time: 11am - 4pm % Steve - 01782 74052 Wednesday 12th October 2011 Wedding Showcase Open Evening At The Village Hotel, Chilwell, Nottingham NG9 6DL Time: 7pm - 10pm % Julia Stanley - 01332 875880

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Sunday 16th October 2011 Clumber Park Hotel and Spa Blyth Road, Clumber Park, Nottinghamshire S80 3PA Time: 10.30am - 3.30pm % Sarah - 01623 835333 Sunday 23rd October 2011 Horsley Lodge Wedding fayre Horsley, Derbyshire DE21 5BL % Steve – 01773 881488 Sunday 23rd October 2011 Derby Wedding Show at the Assembly Rooms Assembly Rooms, Market Place, Derby, DE1 3AH Time: 11am - 4pm % Julia Stanley - 01332 875880 Sunday 23rd October 2011 Festival Hall Wedding Fayre Hodgkinson Road Kirby-in-Ashfield Nottingham NG17 7DJ Time: 10am - 4pm % Create Your Day- 07985 727444/01623 751907 Sunday 23rd October 2011 Ashover Parish Hall Wedding Fayre Milken Lane, Ashover, Chesterfield S45 0BA Time – 11am – 3pm % Andy 01246 250014 Sunday 30th October 2011 Colwick Hall Wedding Fayre Colwick Hall Hotel, Colwick Park, Racecourse Road, Nottingham, NG2 4BH Time: 11am - 4pm % Jayne - 07515 350313 0r 01332 544369 Sunday 6th November 2011 Norwood Park Southwell, Nottinghamshire, NG25 0PF Time: 11am - 4pm % Sue White - 01246 541906 Sunday 6th November 2011 Holiday Inn Derby Riverlights Wedding Fayre Morledge, City Centre, Derby, DE1 2AY Time: 11am - 4pm % Anne - 07968 495110 Sunday 13th November 2011 Bestwood Lodge Arnold, Notts, NG5 8NE Time: 11am - 4pm % Sue White - 01246541906

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The Wedding Guide (Notts, Derby, Lincs & Staffs Edition) Autumn/Winter 2011  
The Wedding Guide (Notts, Derby, Lincs & Staffs Edition) Autumn/Winter 2011  

The Wedding Guide (Nottinghamshire, Derbyshire, Lincolnshire and Staffordshire Edition) Autumn/Winter 2011