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Winter 2012/13

Member

Partnering the Leagues of Friends since 1949.

The Gatwick Group Suppor ted by Gatwick Airpor t Ltd and Sof itel London Gatwick SAMM South East is an independent charity with links to other victim support organisations both at home and abroad. Registered Charity No. 1078466


How to find us at SAMM South East

If arriving by car, park in the NORTH Terminal SHORT TERM car park. Direct access to the Sofitel Hotel can be made from the 3rd floor. Keep your ticket and we will supply you with an exit pass.

The SAMM south east mobile phone number on the day is:

07951 728 178

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CAR PARK

CAR PARK

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DROP OFF AREA

SOFITEL HOTEL

WALK WAY

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TRANSIT – NORTH/SOUTH

The SAMM SE meeting room: Details will be displayed in reception of the Sofitel Hotel.

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CAR PARK LANE

If you arrive by rail or from the South Terminal, use the FREE Rapid Transfer to the North Terminal.

Ticket barrier

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Short stay

Where we meet NORTH TERMINAL FROM A23

PLEASE NOTE: CAR PARK 5 IS BEST CHOICE


Winter 2012/13 What a mixed up year we have had weather wise. It seemed to start off quite well and the forecasters were promising a scorching hot summer which was to make the water shortage even more of a problem. Most of the country had a hosepipe ban imposed but of course as soon as it was announced it started to rain and in some places has hardly stopped . We have had a few fairly decent spells but generally very mixed. Down here in the south east we’ve been spared the worst of it. Many of us have been looking at the television news coverage of the terrible floods which have affected much of the country. Further afield, and most recently in Spain, they have been suffering from horrendous forest fires so I suppose we shouldn’t grumble too much. Last year I mentioned that my mother had passed away while we were holidaying in Tenerife. So this year we decided to go back to the same place, again with our friends Trevor and Jackie, and give it another try. This time we were able to enjoy a relaxing holiday and thankfully without any disasters!

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conference room for our meetings and there is always tea, coffee and a good selection of sandwiches. All in all it’s very civilised.

SAMM South East has been running fairly smoothly again this year. The only significant change is that this year we joined the newly formed Victims Service Alliance. This is an independent collection of victim support organisations and charities who believe, that collectively, they will have a bigger voice and have more input when it comes to dealing with people like The Government, The NHS, Police and other large concerns. It’s all very new but I am confident that by working together on some of the bigger issues, that need urgently addressing, there is a lot that we can achieve. We have had a few new members this year and hopefully in some small way we have been of help. Others that we have not been in contact with for some time have been in touch. This is always nice as we often wonder how they are getting on and what they are doing. We still hold our monthly drop-in at the Sofitel Hotel North Terminal Gatwick Airport. The hotel provides us with a

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We meet on the last Sunday of each month (With the exception of December) from 12.30 until about 4.30pm. You are always welcome and it’s not all doom and gloom, we usually have laughter and interesting chats and discussions. If you’ve never been to one of our drop-ins give us a try sometime! It’s always helpful if we know you’re coming, but not essential. In the back of the Newsletter you will find the mobile phone number you can use on the day, should you get lost or need any help and remember if you’re coming by car Gatwick Airport Ltd supply us with parking vouchers so that you won’t have to pay as long as you use one of the short term car parks. Again if you give us a ring, we can advise you the best car parks to aim for. This year, like most charities, it’s been difficult to keep the funds topped up but although it has been an expensive year for us financially we are still in a healthy position. Even so if you are able to make a small donation to our funds it would be very much appreciated! Or perhaps you could download


Winter 2012/13 a lottery form from our new website, which I do hope you will all have a look at. It’s taken a lot of time and effort and considerable expense to get it up and running and it’s now about 80% complete but we do need your help to finish it firstly by sending me photographs of your loved ones for our in memory page. Please include names and dates. Next, pictures of your garden for the garden page and poems – yes - for the poems pages! You will see it also has direct links to other support charities and links on the acknowledgements page to organisations that have helped us practically or financially. Your comments, suggestions or additions are welcome! Please have a look at the website, we have put a lot of work into it. You will find it at www.sammuk.co.uk and from there you will be able to play or even download our Wind

Beneath My Wings CD. Have a go! As most of you will be aware earlier in the year my e-mail account was compromised and I lost all the data. Please note my new e-mail address is davidhowden8@yahoo.co.uk or david@ sammuk.co,uk and for those of you that haven’t already done so please send me a simple e-mail so that I can record your e-mail address for ease of contact. Finally, on behalf of the members of SAMM SE, I must thank all of you who regularly send us a donation. Without your support we couldn’t continue. We do need a few more of you to support us so if you can manage just four or five pounds a year it would be fantastic. Please give it some thought and Thank you in advance. David

A FUNDRAISING LOTTERY WHERE EVERYONE WINS I have just had a list of the new lottery players and after sending out over 300 applications with the green letter mailing I was more than a little disappointed with the number of people who responded – a handful. For just a £1 a week and a top prize of £25,000 the odds of scooping the top prize are far better than the national lotteries and more importantly all the profits come back to us. We do need a small income to continue to offer some help and support to the families and friends of Murder and Manslaughter victims and if the proceeds from your £1 Lottery ticket enabled us to give a little help to just one family I think you would agree - especially if you have suffered the devastating effects of Murder - that pound was well worth spending. We do rely on the generosity of those few very generous and loyal supporters and the Trustees who meet all their own expenses. We know things are tight but I can’t think of many better ways of spending a pound and at the same time having the chance of winning £25,000.

Phone David for a form – 020 8651 6449


How would you... ...explain God?

This was written by an 8,year old, Danny Dutton for a homework assignment. The assignment was to explain God’ "One of God's main jobs is making people. He makes them to replace the ones that die, so there will be enough people to take care of things on earth.  He doesn't make grown-ups, just babies. I think because they are smaller and easier to make. That way he doesn't have to take up his valuable time teaching them to talk and walk. He can just leave that to mothers and fathers. “God's second most important job is listening to prayers.  An awful lot of this goes on, since some people, like preachers and things, pray at times beside bedtime. God doesn't have time to listen to the radio or TV because of this. Because he hears everything, there must be a terrible lot of noise in his ears, unless he has thought of a way to turn it off' "God sees everything and hears everything and is everywhere, which keeps him pretty busy. So you shouldn't go wasting his time by going over your Mom and Dad's head asking him for something they said you couldn't have.

"His Dad (God) appreciated everything that he had done and all his hard work on earth so he told him he didn’t have to go out on the road anymore. He could stay in heaven, so he did, and now he helps his Dad out by listening to prayers and seeing things which are important for God to take care of and which ones he can  take care of himself  without having to bother God. Like a secretary. only more important. "You can pray anytime you want and they are sure to help you because they got it worked out so one of them is on duty all the  time. “You should always go to church on Sunday because it makes God happy, and if there's anybody you want to make happy, it's God. Don’t skip church doing something you think will be more fun like going to the beach.  This is wrong, and besides the sun doesn't come out at the beach until noon anyway”.

GOD? "Atheists are people who don't believe in God. I don't think there are any In my town. At least there aren't any who come to our church.

Jesus is God's Son He used to do all the hard work like walking on water and performing miracles and trying to teach the people who didn’t want to learn about God. They finally got tired of him preaching to them and they crucified him, but he was good and kind, like his Father and he told his Father that they didn't know what they were doing and to forgive them and God said O.K.

"If you don't believe in God, besides being an atheist, you will be very lonely, because your parents can't go everywhere with you, like to camp or to school but God can. It is good  to know he's around you when you’re scared in the dark or when you can't swim and you get thrown into real deep water by big kids." “But...you shouldn't just always think of what God can do for you. I figure God put me here and he can take me back anytime he pleases, and that’s why I believe in God."


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GATWICK AIRPORT Did you manage to see the very interesting Sky One programmes about the changes at Gatwick Airport? I think it was about the third one that featured. The Airport Chaplaincy and our friend Fr Jonathan Baldwin‌ Jonathan and Steve (Lt Col Steve Pallant - Free Church Chaplin) invariably pay us a visit on our last Sunday of the month meetings at Sofitel Hotel. They are always very supportive and interested in SAMM and also able to keep us up-to-date with all changes and the comings and goings at the Airport. We are always very pleased to see them and things wouldn’t be the same without their visits. Not forgetting that without the help and support of the Airport Chaplains I doubt we would still be meeting at Gatwick or even started our meetings at the Airport some twenty years or so ago. We owe them a lot - our thanks to you all.


A little bit of HOPE in the Homicide statistics 20010/11 About ten years ago 2002/3 the figures were alarmingly high with 1,047 Murders and Manslaughter Victims and 888 (2003/4) Attempted Murders. The latest figures are for 20010/11 Murders at 642 (4% up on the previous year) and Attempted Murders down 11% on the previous year at 525. Almost a 43%

reduction on the number ten years ago!

Comment... I think including the attempted murder rate is important, because often, it is only the skill of the Medics that helps to keep the murder rate going down. D.

I’ve had two bypass surgeries, a hip replacement’ new knees, and fought prostate cancer’. I’m half blind, can’t hear anything quieter than a jet engine; take 40 different medications that make me dizzy, winded, and subject to blackouts; have bouts with dementia; have www.sammuk.co.uk poor circulation; can’t remember if I’m 85 or 92; have lost all my friends’... ... but, thank God, I still have my drivers license!


ANGELS SINGING IN THE SKY

by Westley J.B. Odger (Written shortly before Westley’s tragic murder on 12th September, 2005)

When I hear the song that travels on the Breeze... It’s not at all easy, when your’re not at ease... But, fear not my fair darling for things are not always as they seem... But, if you allow me to to be your guide... Then we will travel the wayward sky... And, you will not be scared... or sometimes ask why? Because together we will fly... And, we both shall hear that music that travels forever on the skies... The Angels singing in the sky.

An Overview of knifecrimes.org KnifeCrimes.Org is an Online Knife, Gun & Gang related information Resource...Violence Reduction, fewer Victims by Changing Attitudes. 

We are a National Registered Charity No. 1126563 providing help and support to families and friends affected by Serious Violent Crime or Bereaved as a result of Murder or Manslaughter... KnifeCrimes.Org are really proud to announce, that this Summer our education programme will be channelled through Westley's Weapons Awareness and our new website www.Binit.Org Binit.Org is the new education programme by KnifeCrimes. Org which will be rolled out to Schools and Young Peoples' Organisations.  We ask all teachers, group leaders, parents, friends and family to ask the young people to design their own unique printable art work, using a positive view on how Knife, Gun and Violent Crime is affecting their lives, and that of their communities.

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Food for thought ... Lead me not into temptation (I can find the way myself). I finally got my head together, now my body is falling apart. A crocodile cannot stick out its tongue.

It’s not hard to meet expenses...they’re everywhere. The only difference between a rut and a grave is the depth. Old people shouldn’t eat health foods. They need all the preservatives they can get

If all is not lost, where is it? Cats have over one hundred vocal sounds. Dogs only have about 10. The first rule of holes: If you are in one, stop digging. It was all so different before every thing changed. It’s hard to make a comeback when you haven’t been anywhere. The only time the world beats a path to your door is if you’re in the bathroom. An unbreakable toy is useful for breaking other toys. A closed mouth gathers no feet.

“stewardesses” is the longest word typed with only the left hand and “lollipop” with your right. A “jiffy” is an actual unit of time for l/100th of a second. February 1865 is the only month in recorded history not to have a full moon. In the last 4,000 years, no new animals have been domesticated. Leonardo Da Vinci invented the scissors. Our eyes are always the same size from birth, but our nose and ears never stop growing. The sentence: “The quick brown fox jumps over The lazy dog” uses every letter of the alphabet. The words ‘racecar,’ ‘kayak and ‘level’ are palindromes. They read the same whether you read them left to right or right to left. There are two words in the English language that have all five vowels in order: “abstemious” and “facetious.”

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You've been watching too much of the Olympic Gymnastics again Mrs Huntins!


Husband and wife are sitting quietly in bed reading when the Wife looks over at him and asks the question.... WIFE: “What would you do if I died? Would you get married Again?” HUSBAND: “Definitely not!” WIFE: “Why not? Don’t you like being married?” HUSBAND: “Of course I do..” WIFE: “Then why wouldn’t you remarry? “

A tortoise joke

HUSBAND: “Okay, okay, I’d get married again.” WIFE: “You would?” (with a hurt look) HUSBAND: (makes audible groan) WIFE: “Would you live in our house?” HUSBAND: “Sure, it’s a great house..” WIFE: “Would you sleep with her in our bed?”

WIFE: “Would you give her my jewellery?”

3 tortoises, Geoff, Tom, and Chris go for a picnic ten miles from where they live. It takes them 10 days to get there. When they arrive they find they’ve forgotten the bottle opener. Geoff and Tom ask Chris to fetch it. Chris says ‘Get lost!” by the time I get back you will have eaten all the sandwiches. Geoff and Tom promise not to eat the sandwiches so Chris reluctantly agrees to go.

HUSBAND: “No, I’m sure she’d want her own”’

10 days pass and Chris has not returned...

WIFE: “Would you take her golfing with you?”

20 days pass and Chris still has not returned...

HUSBAND: “Yes, those are always good times.”

Geoff and Tom are starving but keep their promise to Chris not to eat the sandwiches.

HUSBAND: “Where else would we sleep?” WIFE: “Would you let her drive my car?” HUSBAND: “Probably, it is almost new.” WIFE: “Would you replace my pictures with hers?” HUSBAND: “That would seem like the proper thing to do.”

WIFE: “Would she use my clubs?” HUSBAND: “No, she’s left-handed.” WIFE: -- silence -HUSBAND: “Oh s**t.”

25 days pass and they say it, we’re gonna blinkin starve if we dont eat. They start to eat the sandwiches and Chris jumps from behind the rock and shouts. “I knew it you Cheats!!!! I’m not going now!


By Martin Beckford, Home Affairs Editor The Daily Telegraph: 24th Sept 2012 Weald Photo: Francesca Moore ©

Paying for their crimes... Helen Grant said inmates are “literally paying for their crimes” as money deducted from their wages has gone to providing counselling for those who suffered traumatic offences or providing security for pensioners’ homes. On the anniversary of the introduction of the Prisoners’ Earnings Act, she said she hoped it would raise up to £1million a year in future. Ms Grant, the Conservative MP for Maidstone and the Weald, added that increases in fines and the proportion given to victims would see £50m extra a year diverted from offenders to those affected by crime and anti-social behaviour, on top of the £66m already provided by Government. The cost of Penalty Notices for Disorder will rise by £10, to reach £60 or £90, while the Victim Surcharge will now increase to a maximum £120 from a flat rate of £15. Even those given conditional discharges or community sentences will have to contribute, for the first time. Ms Grant told The Daily Telegraph: “For too long, victims have felt overlooked by the ‘system’. Help has been given in an outdated, one-size-fits-all fashion. And hardworking taxpayers have been left to foot the vast majority of the multi-million pound support bill – which is simply scandalous. This must end.

A few Quotes... . . . this was the simple happiness of complete harmony with her surroundings, the happiness that asks for nothing, that just accepts, just breathes, just is. Countess Van Arnim (1866 -1941) English writer

We must walk in balance on the earth-a foot in spirit and a foot in the physical. Lynn Andrews, 20th-century American Writer and shaman

To become a happy person, have a clean soul, eyes that see romance in the commonplace, a child’s heart, and spiritual simplicity. Norman Vincent Peale (l898 -1993) American cleric and writer

Every man’s life is a fairy-tale written by Gods fingers. Hans Christian Andersen (I805 -1875) Danish writer


Infancy RATIONALE The doctrine of mens rea is based on the presumption that criminal liability should only be imposed on those who are capable of understanding the nature and foreseeing the consequences of their actions. Since it is generally assumed that children below a certain age lack this capacity, it follows that they should not be held responsible for acts which if committed by an adult would be criminal.

Children under 10 years of age There is an irrebuttabie presumption that a child under the age of 10 at the time of the alleged offence lacks the capacity to form the requisite mens rea (s 50 of the Children and Young Persons Act 1933).

Children between the ages of 10 and 14 years of age There was a presumption, where a child was between the ages of 10 and 14 at the time of the offence, that he or she was not capable of forming the mens rea for the crime in question (C (A Minor) v DPP (1995)). This presumption could be rebutted if the prosecution could prove not only the actus reus and mens rea, but also that the child acted with mischievous discretion. It would seem that ‘mischievous discretion’ meant that the child knew that what he or she was doing was seriously wrong (R v Gorrie (1919)). This doliincnpax presumption, as it was known, has now been abolished by s 34 of the Crime and Disorder Act 1998.

Children over 14 years of age Children over 14 incur criminal liability on proof of actusreus and mens rea in the same way as adults.

Your Homework The nature of a crime CRIME - ACTUS REUS + MENS REA + ABSENCE OF A VALID DEFENCE A crime is conduct which has been defined as such by statute or by common law. Generally, a person may not be convicted of a crime unless he has acted in a proscribed way (that is, the actus reus) with a defined state of mind (that is, the mens rea). The main exception to this are crimes of strict liability where no mens rea need be proved. The prosecution must prove the existence of the actus reus and mens rea beyond reasonable doubt. This is sometimes referred to as the Woolmington rule (Woolmington v DPP (1935)).

Another tortoise joke At a fancy dress ball one couple came with the woman on the man’s back. “What have you come as?” asked the hostess. “I’m a tortoise,” said the man. “A tortoise?” she asked. “Yes. My name is Tom, and this is Michelle.”


Supporting Victims of Road Crashes SCID was formed in 1985 by Wendy Moss as a result of a fatal road crash in which she lost her only son. A few months after SCID was formed Isobel Brydie’s two sons were involved in a crash: one son was killed and the other seriously injured. Isobel joined forces with Wendy and for many years they campaigned tirelessly for families and for the much needed changes to the Road Traffic Act. Isobel Brydie is now president of SCID and the good work continues to ensure the rights of victims of road crashes and their families. The University of Dundee, School of Law research report ‘Access in Europe by a bereaved family to information gathered during an investigation into a fatal road

collision’ was commissioned by SCID with support from Campaign for Freedom of Information in Scotland: This study has recommended the families of Scottish road death victims be given full access to investigation reports relating to the incident. At present there is no formal procedure to allow bereaved families access to police reports on fatal collisions at the end of an investigation or at the end of criminal proceedings. The study has recommended the creation of an independent body to carry out indepth safety investigations into all fatal road collisions alongside the police, similar to that which exists in Finland.

For more information go to www.scid.org.uk SCID is a self funding group

COLIN MURRAY PARKES WINS TIMES STERNBERG AWARD Colin Murray Parkes, has been awarded this year’s prestigious award. The honour, designed to recognise older individuals who make a significant contribution to public life, comes in acknowledgement of the great advances Colin has made in the field of grief support, both in the UK and abroad. He played a pivotal role in setting up the Charity Cruse and was a tremendous help to us in the mid nineties when we were establishing SAMM as a national charity and are proud and grateful to him for his help and support. Now almost 20yrs. later he is still working for the benefit of victims! We add our congratulations to Colin, along with the many others, on this well deserved award. David


NOW EVERYONE WINS A BIT Support us and win up to

£25,000 in our weekly lottery Dear Friends Many SAMM members find that helping others gives them a sense of purpose to their own lives. You too can help by taking part in our SAMM SE Weather Lottery – for just £1 per week! Good luck!

Registered with: Croydon Council License No.: 05/00323/LA Promotor: David Howden SN0022

Download a Lottery form directly from the SAMM website at

www.sammuk.co.uk or email David at : david@sammuk.co.uk

A fundraising lottery where everyone wins www.weatherfunds.co.uk


Poems ... Poems... ‘We must live through the dreary winter If we would value the spring; And the woods must be cold and silent Before the robins sing. The flowers must be buried in darkness Before they can bud and bloom, And the sweetest, warmest sunshine Comes after the storm and gloom. Anonymous

In the depths of winter I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer.

The passionate shepherd to his love Come live with me and be my Love, And we will all the pleasures prove That hills and valleys, dale and field, And all the craggy mountains yield.

Albert Camus, (1913 -1960) French writer and philosopher

There will we sit upon the rocks And see the shepherds feed their flocks, By shallow rivers, to whose falls Melodious birds sing madrigals.

She walks in beauty

There will I make thee beds of roses And a thousand fragrant posies, A cap of flowers, and a kirtle Embroider’d all with leaves of myrtle.

She walks in beauty, like the night Of cloudless climes and starry skies; And all that’s best of dark and bright Meet in her aspect and her eyes: Thus mellow’d to that tender light Which heaven to gaudy day denies. One shade the more, one ray the less, Had half impair’d the nameless grace Which waves in every raven tress, Or softly lightens o’er her face; Where thoughts serenely sweet express How pure, how dear their dwelling-place. And on that cheek, and o’er that brow, So soft, so calm, yet eloquent, The smiles that win, the tints that glow, But tell of days in goodness spent, A mind at peace with all below A heart whose love is innocent! George Gordon. Lord byron, (1788 -7824)

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A gown made of the finest wool, Which from our pretty lambs we pull, Fair line’d slippers for the cold, With buckles of the purest gold. A belt of straw and ivy buds With coral clasps and amber studs: And if these pleasures may thee move, Come live with me and be my Love. Thy silver dishes for thy meat As precious as the gods do eat, Shall on an ivory table be Prepared each day for thee and me. The shepherd swains shall dance and sing For thy delight each May-morning: If these delights thy mind may move, Then live with me and be my Love. Christopher Marlowe, (1564 - 1593)


“How do I love thee? Let me count the ways...”

Do not stand at my grave and weep

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways. I love thee to the depth and breadth and height My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight For the ends of Being and ideal Grace. I love thee to the level of everyday’s Most quiet need, by sun and candlelight. I love thee freely, as men strive for Right; I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise. I love thee with the passion put to use In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith. I love thee with a love I seemed to lose With my lost saints, - I love thee with the breath, Smiles, tears, of all my life! - and, if God choose, I shall but love thee better after death.

Do not stand at my grave and weep; I am not there. I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow. I am the diamond glints on snow I am the sunlight on ripened grain. I am the gentle autumn rain. When you awaken in the morning’s hush I am the swift uplifting rush Of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft stars that shine at night. Do not stand at my grave and cry; I am not there. I did not die.

Elizabeth Barrett Browning, (1806-1861)

Remember Remember me when I am gone away, Gone far away into the silent land; When you can no more hold me by the hand, Nor I half turn to go yet turning stay. Remember me when no more day by day You tell me of our future that you planned: Only remember me; you understand It will be late to counsel then or pray’ Yet if you should forget me for a while And afterwards remember, do not grieve: For if the darkness and corruption leave A vestige of the thoughts that once I had, Better by far you should forget and smile Than that you should remember and be sad’ Christina Rossetti, (1830 – 1894)

See the happy moron, He doesn’t give a dame, I wish I was a moron, My God perhaps I am! Eugenics Review july 1929

A Poem for the poppy abusers This land was built from blood and tears. The sacrifice of 2000 years.. The Romans came.. The Vikings too.. So why would we be afraid of you?. But mark my words.. and mark them well.. It was 1066 since we last fell.. When it comes to a fight.. We hate to lose So respect our dead.. Or leave.. You choose!!!.


Thanks for the Christmas cards

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Information on SAMM South East

SAMM South East

Charity Number 1078466

Trustees

Joan Martin, Dorothy Walkling, David Howden

Contact address

8 Foxearth Spur, Selsdon, Surrey CR2 8EP

Mobile

07951 728 178

SAMM answerphone

07506 236 189

Email address

david@sammuk.co.uk

Web site

www.sammuk.co.uk

Meeting venue

SAMM SE meets at the Sofitel Hotel, London Gatwick Airport, North Terminal (by courtesy of Sofitel London Gatwick) see map on inside front cover

Dates

Last Sunday in the month

What happens at our meetings? (drop-ins is a better description) SAMM meetings provide a time for sharing emotions, very informally. We share a common situation so we are free to express any emotions; anger, frustration, sadness, and even laughter. We usually start with a cup of tea or coffee and then just chat and share stories ‘with people who will understand a little of what you are saying’. Then more tea and some refreshments. People come to give and receive support in a safe and confidential atmosphere – not to judge.

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Can you find a place in your home, office, club or pub for this little collection box? If you think you can help please let us know and we will send you one or more! The box and postage etc cost us about £1 so anything you collect over that is worthwhile. It all helps. Please try – if we receive just £4 from each family a year it would pay for all our post and phone bills.

Perhaps you could ask a friend! If you urgently need to talk, try the help lines

Telephone SAMM on 0845 872 3440 or Victim Support on 0845 30 30 9000 Have you checked out our SAMM South East website yet? You will find it at:

www.sammuk.co.uk Can you help us by sending something of interest for the newsletter or the new website? If so, give David a ring or mail him at:

david@sammuk.co.uk he needs your help!

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