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anhood is a personal passage. It is the road traversed by boys who become men through various acts, rites, or anything in between that encompasses the essence of pure masculinity. To many, becoming a man begets an unrivaled ego and an air of respect whose sex compel them to do more work than their feminine counterparts— protecting the family, fixing the broken pipelines, killing off pests, carrying the heavy equipments, and providing the money needed for their families’ daily expenses. Men are bestowed by this preconceived notion that they should be apt to cross out the things in the list imposed. But what if it all went reverse? Discovering Manhood in Soapy Bubbles is a creative nonfiction written by Nate Martins for The New York Times last September 2017. The reader-submitted essay covers a personal journey of him and his discovery of manhood in one of the most unlikely yet lovely source—his wife. The essay starts off with Martins recalling about his youth wherein he would always stare at wonder and confusion on why his family’s female members would always wash the dishes whereas men sit back in idleness. In turn, those very accounts, would then propel Martins into veering off the type of man he was to become. He decided to be different than those men whom he shares the same blood. Cohabitation with his then-girlfriend meant a risky decision-making: owning up the household chores. Everything was fine up until the point where Martins’ true masculinity exuded untapped machismo he was withholding through the years of watching her partner do all the chores. After a necessary yet unwanted episode of their relationship, Martins discovered that masculinity is not measured by the kind of things a man does, but the type of person he truly is towards his partner. It was not about the things he should be doing but rather his being loving, caring, trusting and understanding toward his partner through the harshest winds life hurls at them. And who was responsible for this awakening? None other than his girlfriend. The prevalence of masculinity—or at the

extreme, machismo—all throughout the course of history can be linked to a Jungian concept called the ‘animus’ which is half of the anthropomorphic archetypes embedded in the universal unconscious of humankind. Carl Jung postulates that people of both genders posses the animus— the inner masculine personality that transcends the human psych. However, men exhibit it more than women. In the essay, Martins decided that he would be a “different kind of man” due to sheer machismo he witnessed when he was young that led to the ill-perceived image of his father and the eventual divorce of his parents. It can be hinted that Martins tried to repress his animus to keep the relationship smooth-sailing from all the fragilities his inner macho brings. He kept on doing this until his unconscious regurgitated all the masculinity he has repressed in the previous years. He became anxious over the fact that his girlfriend was doing “manly” labors than him; his anxiety made him feel as if he were only half the man his partner expects of him like a boy with a refusal for the realities of manhood. Jung’s explanation of the universal unconscious and animus culminate, stressing the truth that nobody can hide from their truest selves. Man is man because of cumulative experiences encased by and in history. Virility is unavoidable as it has engraved itself in the universal unconscious of the masculine sex What this implies to society is that personality and identity are interwoven with the fibers of people like us throughout history. It is a predicament bestowed upon us. The persistence of machismo is a byproduct of the animus of every man who has come and go, and the same goes for marianismo and the anima in which both at are the extremes of the spectrum of masculinity and femininity.Through this, this should be moderated not overused in everyday life. Martins unfolds one of life’s most precious lessons through the use of word choice. He displayed in his essay that being a man does not always mean doing all the things by oneself, sometimes being a man means opening himself to others aside from his soapy bubble. joust

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