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“”Changing Individual Lives For A Changed Generation”
New Cause For Divorce
“Big Sexy” Featured Book
Jazz Hot Spot
04 Vonn‟s Jazz
05 Book Review
06 What Teens Want To Know
07 Just A Little Funny
08 Wess Morgan
10 The Last Call
14 DATV 15“Funerals” A Church Burden 16 9 Tips To Safety 21 Bell Noir 22 Who You Calling The “N” Word? 25 Serving Up Soul 27 Church Leadership 32 Online Dating 34 Return Of The Ghost
The Sound 2011
What happens when purity becomes like voodoo or a thing of the past? Sex is no longer a sacred entity. Sex outside of marriage has become a requirement for relationships by many men. How do we stay afloat in this competitive world while maintaining our holiness? Donâ€™t fret, the answer to this question is revealed through a concept called â€œsanctified hoochinomics.â€?
We have the ability to turn our setbacks into comebacks. Through the word of God we have the power to conquer those things that stand in the way or hinder us from getting to our destiny. In order to do this we must understand where we are and where God wants us to be. After her failed marriage, author Melissa Ishman finds herself engulfed in despair and with no clear idea of her life's direction. Instead of losing hope, Ishman decides not to allow the rest of her life to be consumed by anger and bitterness. But the road to peace isn't easy. Ishman must overcome suicidal thoughts, rejection, pain, jealousy, and depression. In her struggle she discovers that she must find a purpose for her life. As she goes through the overwhelming task of gathering the fragments of her life, Ishman learns who she is in God's eyes. By surrendering to God's will, He puts the broken pieces together, one piece at a time. Ishman's remarkable story of courage will help you face your own personal heartbreak. Follow her inspiring journey from anger, hurt, and despair to peace, joy, and happiness! Get ready to be blessed!
How Do I know When I‟m Really Ready To Have Sex? The decision to have sex is a big one. It is a road of no return. Once you lose your virginity you can‟t get it back. In the United States nearly 46% of teenagers between the ages of 15-19 have had sex at least once. With sex comes responsibility. There is the emotional responsibility of pressure from other boys wanting to have sex with you. You have to face being talked about by your peers because your personal business is being displayed. Dealing with feelings of rejection if he decides to not want to be with you anymore or if he decides he wants to be with someone else. There is a physical responsibility. Of the 1809 million new cases of STD‟s each year, 48% occur among the ages of 15-24 years old. Are you willing to take the precaution of using a condom? Are you educated on sexually transmitted diseases? Are you prepared to deal with the issues that go along with STD‟s if you were to contract one? There is the responsibility of becoming pregnant. Each year nearly 750,000 women between the ages of 15-19 become pregnant. Pregnancy and raising a child is a lot mentally, physically, and financially. Just the pregnancy in itself causes changes in your body structure, hormones and emotions. You have ongoing doctor visits; pain in your back and feet. You have to deal with sickness (vomiting), drowsiness and headaches. When the baby comes you have to stay up all hours of the night until they get their days and nights straight. You have to sterilize bottles, feed them and change diapers too. As they get older you will have to help them with homework and teach them right from wrong. No more getting up and leaving when you want to hang out with your friends. You have to find babysitters, pack bags, and make time to spend with them. Financial responsibility goes along with having a child too. When they get sick you have to take them to a doctor and buy medicine for them. You will have to take time off from work until they are well. They‟ll need school supplies, clothes and college tuition. The list goes on. So the question is, are you ready to have sex?
Daddy, how was I born? A little boy went to his father and asked Daddy, how was I born? The father answered, well, son, I guess one day you will need to find out anyway! Youâ€&#x;re Mom and I first got together in a chat room on Yahoo. Then I set up a date via e-mail with your Mom and we met at a cyber-cafe. We sneaked into a secluded room and Google each other. There your mother agreed to a download from my hard drive. When I was ready to upload, we discovered that neither one of us had used a firewall, and since it was too late to hit the delete button, nine months later a little Pop-Up appeared that said: Youâ€&#x;ve got Male!
Wess Morgan hit his first joint at the age of eleven. He fell in love with drugs and by the time he was age fourteen he was addicted to cocaine. A problem child in school and a lifestyle of drugs and sex, Wess found himself in and out of jail and rehab centers. Eventually he got saved and turned his life over to Christ. In a time of trouble, no matter what he did right he continually found himself dealing with the repercussions of his former lifestyle. Feeling down and out about his current situations, his mother told him that worship is a sacrifice. That you have to make a choice to worship God. Your healing is in your worship. Now he is rocking the nation with his hit song â€œI Choose To Worshipâ€? which was birthed out of his struggle. You can listen to Wess Morgan on www.youtube.com.
The social networking site Facebook, which connects old friends and allows users to make new ones online, is being blamed for an increasing number of marital breakdowns. Statistics show that 50% of marriages end up in divorce. Law firms have concluded that 20% of divorces have been said that Facebook is the root cause. I beg to differ. The Bible tells us that we are drawn away by our own listings'. It has to be conceived in the heart first. Divorce has always been around. Facebook among other internet sights are just a “new” vehicle to be used to do what is already conceived in a person‟s heart. For example; recovering addicts enter into a program for 30 days or more to be detoxed from drugs. They go through counseling, group sessions and are given a 12 step program with a sponsor. Once released they go to daily group meetings. They even have their own personal social events. They are surrounded by Anti-drug methods to keep them drug free. But Narcotics Anonymous states in their book themselves that 90% of the people that go through the program will relapse. How can a program that is that intense not have lower percentile rates? Why is it that one out of five factory workers end up in divorce? Why do dancers and choreographers have the top divorce rate(43.05%)? Why do Non-Denominational churches have the highest divorce rate in the Christian arena(34%)? I‟ll tell you why, it‟s because of what‟s in the heart. We need to guard our heart. Satan is like a roaring lion seeking whom he can devour, by any means necessary.
What is taking place in this particular scripture is the tribulation. It is a time of excessive trouble and affliction. During this time the gospel will be preached. Once the gospel has been preached judgment will com. If I were to title this message it would have two titles. The first title would be the introduction to the message. The second title would be the summary. The first title would be “The Last Call” and the second title would be “Your Running Out of Time”. Now in the book of Genesis the 6th chapter the Bible says that the people on the earth were wicked and they were so wicked that their hearts were continually evil. God said I will not strive with these people forever. God gave the people 120 years to turn from their sinful ways or he was going to destroy man and every creature that lived in it. As time went on the people became filled with violence and were corrupt and had corrupted the earth. But there was a prophet by the name of Noah who had found grace in the sight of God. One day God told Noah to build an ark for in seven days it was going to rain.
Any time God is getting ready to do something he will send a prophet or somebody by to forewarn you that judgment is coming. After seven days God made it rain for forty days and forty nights. All of man and every creature was destroyed save Noah his family and every creature that was in the ark. God gave these people a final warning, a final notice, a “last call” that death was coming, but they ran out of time. Now death does not always have to be a physical death. There is a natural death and a spiritual death. It could be the death of a relationship. Someone could come to you and say to you that you need to stop treating your wife like that and spend more time at home, because if you don‟t someone will. Or girl you better get yourself together because he‟s not going to put up with that much longer before he leaves you. It could be the death of your finances. Somebody could come to you and say you better stop blowing your money like that and put some back for a rainy day. That job ain‟t always going to be promised to you. Hard times may come and you need something to fall back on. For those of you who feel like you‟re too old that and it doesn‟t apply to you or you‟re too young and you do not have to deal with that yet, age is not a determining factor. The Bible says children honor thy mother and father for your days may be long upon the earth. It does not have to be a biological parent. It could be a spiritual parent, a pastor or someone who is in an authoritative position. Not honoring them or listening to wise council can be detrimental to your personal or spiritual development. Now it could be a spiritual death. You could refuse to be submissive to the move or flow of the Holy Spirit. You walk around functioning but emotionally there‟s no life in you. You‟re just going through the motions. Because of that the glory has departed. You have lost your joy, peace and happiness. There is no growth and you have become stagnant. It is so subtle that you won‟t even know it. We try to blame it on other things, people and even God why things are not flourishing. But the truth of the matter is that we were in rebellion against the things of God and the glory departed. The Bible says let him that serve me, follow me. So it is possible to serve God or do work in the ministry but not follow God. We work in the ministry but our lifestyle is no different. Every time the church doors are opened we are there. But the entire time service is going on there walking around in the hallway. There outside smoking cigarettes. There at the corner store. Every once and a while they pop their head in just to see what‟s going on. Musicians are good at it. They play their instrument. Just as soon as praise and worship and the offering is over. The pastor is ready to preach their out the door. You don‟t see them again until altar call.
When the pastor gets into his preaching and calls for a song, the ushers got to run out and find them. A few minutes later here they come running to their post. So he says let them that serve me follow me. After so long God will not accept certain things from you because you‟re too old and you know better. It‟s like a two year old baby who gets mad because he doesn‟t get his way. He falls out on the floor and starts kicking and screaming. For a little while you‟ll deal with it because they have to learn. but when they turn five and they do it you get the belt because they‟re too old and your not going to accept that from them. Then when they‟re five and they go into the kitchen and make a mess, you put up with it a little because they need to be taught. But when they‟re ten and they make a mess you‟re calling them back in the kitchen because they too old and they know better. That‟s how God is. When you‟re a babe in Christ he‟ll allow you to stumble and fall. But as you mature there are certain things he won‟t accept because you know better. He‟ll forewarn you. If you continue in your rebellion he‟ll say have it your way and he‟ll take his hands off of you. Then the glory departs. Like I said it can be so subtle that we don‟t even realize it. It happened to Samson. He got caught up with a girl name Delilah. One day Delilah told Samson that the Philistines were upon him. Samson said I will go out and deal with them the way I have done before. The Bible says that Samson didn‟t even realize the Lord had departed from him. Samson went out and the Philistines captured him, poked his eyes out, tied him up and grind in the prison house. Poking out his eyes is symbolic of his light going out. He has no vision. Where there is no vision the people perish. Now because you have no light, no manifested presence of God, you‟re bound up trying to work to make stuff happen when it once just flowed. So the scripture says that an angel will come and preach the gospel, and then judgment will come. What is the judgment? It says that the books will be open. It will be the books of God‟s judgment which is the word of God, a book with the deeds of every man and the book of life. We will be judge on how we lived our lives, our actions and the motives behind them. Why do you do ministry? Is it for the money or to get the glory, or is it to serve God and win souls for Christ? What is your purpose for coming to church? Is it to be accounted for? To come hurry up and get out of here so we can mark it off of our things to do list. Is it to seek God‟s face, to be built up and to get direction for our life? Why do you have the rules that you have and the traditions? Is it to control the people and bind them up, or is it to have structure and order? Is it biblically based? Does it line up with the word of God? Whoever‟s name is not written in the book of life will be cast into the lake of fire. So yes there is a last and final call and 120 years may seem like a long time span. But you can get caught up and loose track of time. Before you know it your time has run out. But the good news is this, that God so love d the world that he gave his only begotten son that whosoever believeth in him will not perish but have ever lasting life.
DATV is a nonprofit organization that allows Dayton and the surrounding areas to create and express their ideas through media. DATV provides training, equipment and facilities to make local television programs. One of the popular programs is Circle of Spirit. Circle of Spirit is a membership program for local area churches to promote their ministry. For $250 you receive your own custom page on the DATV community bulletin board. The page includes your church/pastors name, church logo, service times, address, phone, website, program air dates and times. The membership also includes,2 individual VIP memberships to DATV, your church website listed on DATVâ€&#x;s website as a link. You can contact DATV at: 280 Leo St. Dayton, Ohio 45404 1-937-223-5311
No one goes through this life without sickness or death. Death is not a pleasantry for anyone. It is a nightmare for those who are without life insurance. But lack of life insurance is a factor that burdens the church on a regular basis. Some churches have a fund to help people without insurance. Even with the fund, if the church encounters too many deaths the money gets depleted quickly. This leaves the pastor requesting the congregation to donate to furnish the cost. Churches are now starting to offer classes to educate there congregation of the importance of life insurance and the best policy to choose. Trends In Life Insurance Owners did a survey and approximately 30% of Americans do not have life insurance. Some reasons why people donâ€&#x;t have life insurance is that they believe that â€œGod will provideâ€? for the needs of his people. As true as that may be it is not a license to negate Christian responsibility, accountability or charge. A wise steward prepares himself, to the best of his ability, for things to come. Another reason would to relieve financial burden for family members. A simple church funeral cost approximately $10,000. With people living paycheck to paycheck and the decline in jobs being able to afford insurance becomes an issue. But life insurance is cheap. A simple life insurance policy can be purchased for $50.00 or less. Term life policy is perfect to pay out a simple lump sum which could pay off all your bills. Call an insurance agency for information and take the burden off of the ones you love.
In this day and age crime is everywhere. Women and children have to be more careful than ever. Here are 9 tips to help you keep safe:
1. The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do! 2. Learned this from a tourist guide. If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you.... Chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION! 3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy.. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON'T DO THIS!) The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR , LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, Repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed
into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR , LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, Repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it . As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location. 5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage: A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars. C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side... If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.) 6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)
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7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; and even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, Preferably in a zig -zag pattern! 8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked 'for help' into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim. 9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird.. The police told her 'Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door..â€ž The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, 'We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.â€ž He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby.. He said they have not verified it, but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night.
10. Water scam! If you wake up in the middle of the night to hear all your taps outside running or what you think is a burst pipe, DO NOT GO OUT TO INVESTIGATE! These people turn on all your outside taps full ball so that you will go out to investigate and then attack. Stay alert, keep safe, and look out for your neighbors!
If you read John 12:1-11 Mark 14:3-9 you will read a story of a woman who came to Jesus and anointed his head and feet and wiped them with her hair. Here is a woman who the Bible calls a sinner. Who may have not considered what people were going to say or think about her. But through an unselfish act of worship came to Jesus with an alabaster box. She broke the box and anointed Jesusâ€&#x; head. The Pharisees begin to speak against her with resentment saying, that the ointment was costly and could be used for other things. But the deed had such an impact on Jesus that he said wherever the Gospel is read so would the story of her costly service be told. Just like the woman and the alabaster box there are many that have made costly sacrifices, like Martin Luther King Jr. who fought and died for nonviolence and peace, Malcolm X who fought and died for afro American unity and human rights. Rosa Parks who refused to give up her seat which resulted in a boycott that lead to desegregation of busing. Harriett Tubman who escaped from slavery and used the Underground Railroad to free other slaves and there are many many more whose stories are told throughout time. So I propose a question to you, what is the message you will send to a generation that you will not see? How will you impact a people? I appeal to you today to break the box and let the anointing that God has placed in you permeate the people, families and communities that you live in that through faith they will be saved and go in peace.
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Jonathan E. McCoy a 10 year old boy who is becoming a renowned youth speaker with the inspiration to that of Les Brown and Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. He presented his speech titled “A New Petition” about the „N‟ word at his church in Baltimore, MD. Four months ago when he wrote this speech, he had no idea the controversy it would spawn. This is how his speech reads: Negro, African American, Noir, Nero, Mahogany, Ebony, Nubian, Black. All of these words have the same meaning. Negro is a Spanish noun and descendant of the word „niger‟ meaning -„black‟. Though somewhere in history it was translated “the „n‟ word” by those who refer to us as economically, politically or socially disenfranchised instead of the kings and queens, princes and princesses we really are. We are descendants of the Continent of Africa. Countries like Niger and Nigeria hold our rich heritage. Unfortunately this misinterpretation of our heritage is perpetuated among our own race. Rather than obliterate this disrespectful term we have adapted it as a cultural phrase. You‟ve heard it, “What‟s up my „n‟ word?” or maybe you‟ve said it; “Get outta ma face „n‟ word!” So why as a people do we use it
in our everyday language to communicate to or about ourselves? Let me dispel the myth. As a people we are neither economically, politically, nor socially disenfranchised. Fifty-six years after the Emancipation Proclamation there was an emergence of Blacks who capitalized on their God-given talent. Embodied with the character of self-dedication they were inspired to start this movement. It was termed the New Negro Movement to be exact. If that name doesn‟t ring a bell then you might be more familiar with the Harlem Renaissance. A band of writers, artists, musicians, poets, and inventors came together for a new beginning. This explains Renaissance, which means reborn. People like Jasbo Brown; the name synonymous with the introduction of jazz, Duke Ellington, a jazz musician, Marcus Garvey, a Civil Rights Activist and Langston Hughes, Poet Laureate. So who you calling the „N‟ word? We have held some of the most coveted offices, positions and jobs in the history of this nation and Affirmative Action had nothing to do with it. According to the definition, an „N‟ word will never be a lawyer, a doctor or a teacher, yet many of us thrive in these industries. Neither can they hold such esteemed offices as Chairman of the Federal Communications Commission like Michael Powell, Joint Chiefs of Staff like his father, Colin Powell, Secretary of State, like Condoleezza Rice and Commander-in-Chief of the United States of America like President Barack Obama.
Oprah Winfrey would never have the success she‟s experienced, or the distinction of being one of the richest women in America if she had allowed a termination from her job to economically disenfranchise her. Instead her presence is requested in the most elite social and political domains. So I‟m sending a message to everyone who knowingly or ignorantly uses that term to describe our people. Rather you‟re a gangsta rapper who uses it to communicate with your boys, or someone who looks down on those of us who haven‟t got a college education; whatever the case its time to discontinue use of the word. It is implausible that 40 years after Dr. Martin Luther King‟s assassination that we still use a word that holds no worth in our lives, our families or our future. So I‟m petitioning you to join me in deleting the „N‟ word from our vocabulary as a people, as a nation, and the world. I‟d like to add a stanza to James Weldon Johnson‟s “Lift Every Voice” Lift every voice and cry Till the „N‟ word has died Let us cry out and proclaim our dignity Although we may be free, gloom still hangs over we Who use the word that made our fathers sigh Sing a song that doesn‟t dishonor the mothers who bore us. Sing a song absent of negative words in the chorus It‟s now 2009, leave the „N‟ word behind Choose words that speak, purpose and not defeat My name is Jonathan Emile McCoy and I approve this message. By Jonathan Emile McCoy
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I have read many books. In the books that I have read, the authors talk about people not wanting to be submissive to leadership or authority. Not to say there aren‟t any, but I have yet read a book that deals with leadership or authority being out of order. Leadership plays a very important part in the church. Based on whether leadership accepts or rejects a person sets the precedence on how the congregation will receive you. In this day and age, I have seen leadership mistreating people and abusing their authority more than ever before. The sad part about that is those with a voice don‟t want to stand up for righteousness. They know the things that they see are wrong but they fear loosing their position. They fear if they speak out against it they won‟t be allowed to preach, they won‟t be allowed to teach, or be over a specific ministry. Those who do speak out are left being isolated from the church body. Once isolated they are left with the decision to stay or to leave and take up membership with another church. The truth is that this type of behavior is prevalent in every church so one must
seek God‟s guidance in the matter. For those who are in this situation remember that they may hold the keys to the church but not the keys to the kingdom. The very thing that they are trying to keep out may be the very thing that keeps them from getting in. In the book of Malachi, Malachi addresses the priest and the sin that they were in. The priest had departed out of the way, they caused many to stumble at the law and they were partial in the law. What Malachi was saying is that the people stopped following God‟s way and the way their ancestors walked that came before them. They were allowing the people to offer lame, blind, and sick animals as a sacrifice unto to God. Malachi expressed to the priest that they wouldn‟t give these offerings to your governors because they wouldn‟t accept them. In the priest accepting these types of offerings, they made the people believe that God was accepting their offerings but He was not. This action caused the people to stumble at the law. The priest had contradicted the intentions of the covenant which was to glorify God and the good of the souls of men. Instead they used it to feed themselves and make themselves great. By corrupting the covenant they forfeited the life and peace that God promised them.
The priest also became respecters of persons. They were allowing people who were more beneficial to them get away with sin while those who they did not like they were harsh with. I need to stop here and break this down to you on how it relates today. Pastors are allowing the people in the body to put them on a pedestal; instead of saying â€œnoâ€? to all that elevates them positionally and monetarily. Pastors and leadership are allowing those who are the biggest tithers, those who hold prestige in the community, those who have seniority in the church, sing the best, play an instrument, etc. get away with sin. They are placing them head over ministries that they were not called to nor have an anointing for. They have not sought Godâ€&#x;s guidance. They have their own agenda. While those who do not fit into those categories are being treated cruel, malignant, and indifferent. A great deal of mischief is done to the souls that should have been helped. By these actions they are being taught to disobey the word of God. Many have turned away from the faith and the body of Christ is dying because of this favoritism. They have become a thief to the unsaved souls.
Malachi tells the priest that because of their actions judgment has come. First their blessings were cursed. They lost their comfort, the life and peace that God had given them. Secondly they had lost their credit. The people began to look upon them with no respect or reverence. Thirdly their seed would be corrupted. That which they used to tithe or bring forth an offering would be cursed. The animals that they sacrificed would be like dung and they would be discarded to the dung heap like it. Their sin had become a reproach to the people. A pastor is supposed to be the shepherd that watches over his sheep. But I have found out that there are sheep, although members of a church, whom have no covering. Whether it is intimidation, jealousy, fear, or any other reason the pastor is indifferent toward that member. The pastor doesnâ€&#x;t function or operate in a pastoral capacity. This action can have a tendency to cause those members to be reluctant to do ministry in the church because they feel as if they donâ€&#x;t have the backing of the pastor. They are left vulnerable for attack. This action leaves the member sitting in the pews unused or some leave the church with their tail between their legs never to return. A better way would be to open your heart and receive from one another that we all may grow into
the knowledge of the truth. Do not be confused. A person can be under the anointing and come down off of the platform in the flesh. But if we have been regenerated and are adopted into the same family why are we fighting ourselves? By Melissa M. Ishman
Since the web has become one of the worldâ€&#x;s main lines of communication, it is necessary to address the subject of internet dating. A vast number of people from all over the world connect and build relationships through the internet. Most of the stories you hear are â€œsuccess storiesâ€?. The reasoning behind that is that many people who have had bad experiences are too ashamed to discuss them openly. This is not to say it is impossible to find love online but to bring exposure to the dangers that are out there. The thing about internet communication is that anybody can be whoever they want to be or who you want them to be. Seventy-five percent of all the young people between the ages of 12-17 in the United States are on the internet. A lot of child predators use the internet as a means of accessing and molesting children, teenagers, and to abuse women. A recent study found that one out of five children online is approached by a sexual predator who may try to set up a face-to-face meeting. They describe themselves as another child or teenager looking for a date or somebody that just wants to be friends. They are lured in through conversations or games your child may be interested in. The initial
conversation may be innocent. Over time they build up a since of trust and then a relationship is developed. From that point communication may turn in to sexual topics, pictures of pornography, violence, or explicit language. This behavior may escalate into harassment or what is called cyber stalking by way of e-mails or text messaging. Whether you are male or female youâ€&#x;re vulnerable to these predators.
It started when she went to church and gave her life to Christ. All that knew her saw the change and thought it was right. She finally released her ghost, the cigarettes were no more. For Christ had given her the strength for there was much in store.
But soon she started slacking off and didnâ€&#x;t attend as much. That was the door that let me in her heart I had to touch. She now has left the church for good I celebrate with a toast. She now is smoking four packs a day for I returned her ghost.
For many years through sweat and tears his life consists of drugs. And all he had to show for friends were simple common thugs. Then one day with the T.V. on he fell on bended knees. He asked God to take the drugs and said it with a please!!!
He joined a church and was sincere in trying to make new friends. The brothers were just too busy for him, it seemed it never end. Then one day he received a call an old friend wanted to chat. He thought of all the men in church and said “enough of that”! He‟s now back heavily on drugs I say this to the host. The brothers in the church didn‟t care and I returned his ghost.
Her mother warned her, time and time again, the relationship was bad But she was blinded by the love or so she thought she had. It was hard to hide the many black eyes that he had made. Her mother thought that he would put her daughter in her grave. Finally a sister from some church encouraged her to come. She then rededicated her life and knew the battle was won. She packed her bags and moved away, she figured that was it. Being single for the longest time she dropped her guard real quick. She left the man and got another and he was worst of all. He played the roll of â€œChristian man,â€? this was the true downfall.
Now this one beats her night and day, it hurts her mother the most. Another man the same game plan for I returned her ghost. Many times we see this happen in churches from coast to coast. They come to Christ and start a new life, Oh what joy they had.
Then they became discouraged from all lifeâ€&#x;s sinful fads. So the message I have to say to you is be careful what you say or do. For this person might be you, and Iâ€&#x;ll return your ghost. By Larry Nelson & Melissa Ishman
I take thee to be my wife/husband to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; and to promise to be faithful to you until death do us part. Sounds beautiful! Countless time, energy and money is spent to create a glorious wedding day. Invitations had to be ordered and mailed out. Trips were made back and forth to the seamstress to be sure that the bride and her attendant‟s gowns were properly fitted and perfectly match the women‟s dress. The man‟s tuxedos must be crisply pressed; their shoes shined to perfection. Make-up must be flawless. Men‟s hairlines tightly trimmed. The cake and decorations are neatly displayed and we must not forget the near perfect song for the wedding march. All of these things and more help to create a beautiful wedding day. In the hustle and bustle of planning the wedding, and all the preparations for one day‟s activities that are over in a matter of minutes, there seems to be a key factor that may not have
been considered, and that‟s the statement, “From this day forward.” Very few educate themselves on the ins and outs of relationships. Very few learn how to deal with finances in a marriage situation. Very few take the time to learn how to complement one another sexually. When problems occur very few do what it takes to try and turn it around. It‟s much easier to leave than cleave. When considering marriage, focus on from this day forward.
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