C2 • THE SILHOUETTE
THURSDAY, MARCH 31, 2011
SEX and the STEEL CITY
Two steps forward, one step back Anal sex can be a pleasurable experience for both him and her
Although anal sex may not be well-suited to everyone, you may just find that turning the other cheek can be a memorable decision. MARYANN ASHLEY SHEC MEDIA
Has your sex life been missing something lately? Are you getting use to the regular routine? Feel the need to mix it up? Have you ever thought about venturing even further down south? That’s right! I’m talking about anal sex! Right now you might be thinking, “How risqué of you! What a terribly taboo topic to mention!” Well, did you know that in a 2009 survey a reported 51 per cent of men and 43 per cent of women between the ages of 25 and 44 who identify themselves as heterosexual admittedly engaged in anal sex? This particular form of sexual intercourse is becoming increasingly popular, so you should get to know a thing or two about it. Look no further: Anal sex is for both men and women. Ladies, there are more beneficial reasons for having anal besides the fact that it won’t get you pregnant. Anal sex does not have to be a painful experience. Think about it this way, anal orgasms have been described as a full body experience, with completely different – and sometimes more powerful – sensations than clitoral and/or vaginal orgasms. Men will also experience orgasms like they never have before if they’re willing to be a bit adventurous. Yes gentlemen, it’s super tight, and yes it’s probably everything you’ve ever dreamed of, but you don’t always have to be the one performing the anal sex. In fact, you might just love it if you get a little anal action yourself. Did you know that the male equivalent of the g-spot, the prostate, is located just within your anus? Anal orgasms for men have been described as “explosive!” If you want to try anal sex, there needs to be a conversation. Surprises can be fun but this one could get you punched in the face, so talk to your partner to make sure they’re comfortable with the idea before feeling around down there. If you discover that both of you are into it then start off slowly. Good anal sex is something that has to be worked up to. That means start off with one finger and eventually work your way up to larger
sized items, whether it’s a sex toy or a penis. The big thing to remember here is: LUBE LUBE LUBE. Seriously. The anus doesn’t self-lubricate so you need to make sure that the area is nice and relaxed and lubricated before you try poking around. You should also 100 per cent use a condom, because along with the joys of anal sex comes some significant health risks. To begin with, the tissue lining the anus is delicate and thin and rips very easily. This makes one very susceptible to the transmission of STIs. So again, wear a condom and use lots of lube. Before having anal maybe take a shower together to ensure that the area is sufficiently clean, but be careful with soap use because it is an irritant. With anal, sometimes mess is inevitable … another good reason to wear a condom. If you’re fingering someone’s anus make sure that you wash your hand before you stick it anywhere else, that’s how bacteria and diseases spread. Some other more serious health risks include: hemorrhoids, anal prolapse, leakage, anorectal pain and ulcers and fissures. Don’t let this completely freak you out about the idea of anal, because it can be fantastic, you just have to know what you’re doing beforehand, such as: what are some good anal sex positions? Well, because the rectum and colon curve, some of the best positions are when the receiver is in a 90 degree angle, whether that’s done lying down on the bed or being bent over the side of a coach. Penetration should initially be slow and gentle so one’s natural curves can be properly felt for. Having someone share their butt with you is a huge honour, so don’t ruin the experience by not taking the time to appreciate it. Anal opens up a whole new door in relationships – pun maybe slightly intended. Trust is key, if you trust the person you’re with then you know your body will be safe with them and your sex will probably be better for it. You’re young, don’t be afraid to explore your sexuality; your partner may thank you in the end.
Word of the Week Pooper Scooper Definition: A type of person who collects human feces for erotic pleasure. Used in a sentence: I am a closet pooper scooper.
JOY SANTIAGO / MULTIMEDIA EDITOR