Sex, Single and Saved

SAVEDSex, Single and

I walked into a wall of temptation and landed hard in the throes of hell as I felt surely God would never forgive me.

SSex is often seen as the big sin in the Christian’s life. As a wise Pastor once told me “sex is not the main thing but if there is no sex, it becomes the main thing.

As a single girl before I truly started following Jesus Christ, sex was always “there”. If I wanted it, it was there and I had no thoughts of guilt or shame about it. After all, wasn’t everybody doing the same thing?

Working in an environment where having a hot, chiselled body was the goal, made life challenging. How did I balance my sexuality around others while denying this physical craving? I didn’t. I walked into a wall of temptation and landed hard in the throes of hell as I felt surely God would never forgive me. The cycle was vicious. Sin, guilt, pray, repeat!

It came down to remembering God’s Word during a rare lucid moment that nothing can separate me from God’s love (Romans 8:38) and I felt surely this also meant my desires, my falling, my guilt, could not separate me from God. That reminder was followed up with Hannah-like praying for God to remove all sexual desire from me! I prayed “Abba, please remove every feeling, every desire, every lust-filled thought from me. Let every man be like paint on a wall having no effect on me sexually. Kill every ounce of feeling in my loins, Lord!”

I know that’s pretty intense. My friends laughed at me. They offered to pray for God to reverse my prayer and worried that when I met Mr All Right, I would lose out because I would be dead in the flesh. So I prayed again “Lord, could you just re-open the well when my Mr All Right comes please?”

Make no mistake, our heavenly God and perfect parent knows that the enemy will come against you using your weaknesses and He desires for us to bring these longings and feelings of guilt and shame to Him. Every action. Every thought. Every time. Today, I am married to Mr All Right and my Pastor WAS right “sex is not the main thing but when there is no sex, it becomes the main thing” except this time I can have all the main thing I want with someone I have sanctified permission to have it with. WAITING ON GOD WAS MORE THAN WORTH IT!

I pray the same for your life. p

By Denise Hunt-Mikesell Motivational speaker, life and fitness coach.