Issuu on Google+

RMR

The

Specializing In Diversity Since 1986


2

CHECK US OUT ONLINE!

www.thermr.com Follow us on Twitter @thermr_ & Like us on facebook!

Even more stories!

MSC Corner

Take A Look Inside:

Page 8

Page 6

Page 4

Multicultural Student Council Events March 1: Daryl Davis– A Real Conversation 7pm Plowden Auditorium

March 1:Deadline of Nomination for Celebration of Women Achievement Award

featURES culture

Look At Me Now!

Page 10

Page 9

Page 16

March 6: Achieving the Dream: A Real Conversation With African American Alumni Leaders 7pm Richardson Ballroom March 22: MSC Member Meeting 11am DIGS 221 March 28: 4th Annual Celebration of Women’s Achievement 5:30pm Richardson Ballroom

Poetic CORNER

Sound Off!

ALL students are welcome to be a part of the Multicultural Student Council!

Fashion History of The RMR

The Winthrop University Association of Black Journalists (WUABJ) is open to students of all races and majors who want to see fair coverage of minorities in the media. WUABJ is the ONLY NABJ chapter in South Carolina. Interested in being a part of NABJ? Email President Johnathan McFadden at mcfaddenj3@winthrop.edu! The Roddey-McMillan Record

The Roddey-McMillan Record, now dubbed The RMR, has been a significant voice of the minority population of the Winthrop community since its creation by Gail Harris in April 1986. Named for two prominent black women associated with the University, Dr. Cynthia P. Roddey and attorney Sheila McMillan, the newspaper has served a unique purpose since its establishment. Roddey was the first black graduate of Winthrop in 1967 and McMillan was the first black to serve on the Winthrop Board of Trustees. She is a 1973 Winthrop graduate. The RMR started out as the monthly minority newsletter, and has now evolved into the multicultural voice of the Winthrop community. The purpose of The RMR is to shine a light on the many diverse cultures at Winthrop. The RMR focuses on the issues, concerns and happenings of those who represent the multicultural community on campus. The RMR promotes awareness and understanding of issues concerning minorities with the betterment of the entire Winthrop community in mind.

Specializing In Diversity Since 1986

P. 2 • February 2012


3 By Chelsea Brown

I am very proud of the stories that the contributing writers and editors have shared.

The theme of this month’s Roddey-McMillan Record is love and social networks. I am an active Tweeter, I love updating my status on Facebook-but it seems the status of relationships are begining to make headline news on user’s Timelines and News Feed’s. I hope everyone had a great month of love--but let’s not forget that love should be shown ALL year. A special day or month isn’t needed to show someone how much you appreciate and love them. The contributing writers wanted to discuss love--but not the cliche’ stories. We wanted to dicuss the things

Chelsea Brown

Specializing In Diversity Since 1986

Editor-in-Chief Chelsea Brown

that doesn’t seem to get recognized on Valentine’s Day--from gay marriage to the fear of commitment in the college setting. We hope that you enjoy this issue...and remember, show your love all year. With the sudden death of singer Whitney Houston, it’s a sad reminder that tomorrow isn’t always promised. Make today the day that you tell someone how much they mean to you. Be fearless, be confident and most of all— bring about a positive change within yourself. Enjoy the issue!

Interested in the Roddey Mac? Join us for our meetings on Tuesday nights at 7 p.m. in the Student Publications Office (First Floor of the DiGiorgio Center) The Roddey-McMillan Record

n

w o r B a e s l e Ch

Editor-in-Chief

Specializing In Diversity Since 1986

Editors Katra Cunningham, Assistant Billie Jean Shaw, Life and Entertainment Adrianna Bradley, Culture Kimberly Branham, Page Layout Crystal Booker, Fashion/Style Rudy Jefferson, Photographer Erin Mitchell, Illustrator Attonette Huell, Web content/Assit.Layout Raven Gadsden, Poetry

Staff

Shaneequa Evans Shamira McCray Kendra Wicker Brittaney Major

Editorial Policy Winthrop University students publish The Roddey-McMillan Record monthly during the academic year for students, faculty, staff and alumni. A member of The Roddey-McMillan Record writes he staff editorial. Unsigned editorials reflect the opinions of the editorial staff. The opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of the administration, faculty, staff or students. Signed columns and cartoons and letters to the editor reflect the opinions of the authors and do not necessarily represent the views of the staff. Letters to the editor may be e-mailed to roddeymac@winthrop.edu and must include the author’s name, telephone number, e-mail address and major or profession. The editor reserves the right to edit letters.

P. 3 •February 2012


4 The Longest Yard

Participation, Exclusion, Reintegration: The African American experience in NFL’s early years ing for twenty-five, fifty bucks a By Aaron Fountain brunt of extraordinary cheap dissatisfaction among spectaseason. A lot of the early teams Special to the RMR shots by their opponents,” tors. In later years, the owners The NFL has an overwhelming number of African Americans. These players have a strong presence as running backs, wide receivers and defensive linemen. Some of us might have even attended school, or lived in the hometown of these players. They come from everywhere in the county and currently make up the majority of the NFL. Football historian Michael Oriard’s in “Brand NFL” states, African Americans constituted 68 percent of the NFL in 1992 (figures in 2012 are not yet released). Although African American make-up the majority of the NFL today, in 1920 this was not the case. In fact, from 1933 to 1946 the NFL employed no African American athletes. Unlike baseball’s color barrier, which existed from the offset of the game, the NFL had a few African American players during its early years. Robert W. Marshall, Fritz Pollard, Charles Follis and others, are key African American in the NFL’s early years. Kenny Washington and others reintegrated professional football after the uplift of the ban, signaling the start-off for African Americans presence in the modern day National Football League. The formation of the National Football League began in 1920. “The NFL started low budget,” said Andy Doyle, Associated Professor of History at Winthrop University. “Most of those players had full time jobs. They were play-

were sponsored by companies, and they were employees of the companies.” During these unstable years, the NFL had little support among the masses, because it lacked the same spirit that college football relished in. Elites hated the idea of grown men playing a boy’s game for pay, and they criticized the players for not having “real” jobs. In the late 1920s and early 1930s “Some of the teams had black players until 1933, when the NFL was getting better,” Doyle stated. “The owners realized that they could gain social respectability by being like baseball.” This meant becoming all white, which happen after a gentlemen’s agreement was implemented to ban African Americans from the NFL. “Outside the Lines”, a book by Charles K. Ross, an Associate Professor of History and Afro-American Studies at the University of Mississippi, examines the roles of African Americans in the NFL, before, during, and after the ban. Chicago Cardinals’ (now known as the Arizona Cardinals) running back Joe Lillard, and Pittsburgh Pirates’ (now known as the Pittsburgh Steelers) tackle Ray Kemp, were the last African Americans on the field before the restriction. Joe Lillard’s impact on the NFL during his brief two years was significant, but his team labeled his presence as troublesome. “Lillard and Kemp received unfair treatment on the field, as they were often the

The Roddey-McMillan Record

says Winthrop graduate Matthew Charles Cochran in his master’s thesis, “The Foundation for the National Football League 1933 to 1941”. “If they ever retaliated, they were looked down upon and considered selfish and undisciplined,” Cochran says. This horrendous double standard generated complications for Lillard and Kemp, making their relationships between their coaches and teammates unsuitable. After Lillard and Kemps’ departure, the NFL enforced an unwritten ban in 1933, which lasted for twelve seasons. African Americans vanished from the NFL. George Preston Marshall, owner of the Boston Redskins (now known as the Washington Redskins), lobbied vigorously for the exclusion of African Americans and influenced the franchise owners to recognize a gentlemen’s agreement. Marshall viewed African Americans playing for pay as

unethical, because millions of white men were unemployed and this would cause

dismissed accusations for their practice to exclude African Americans. The owners claimed African Americans did not have a high interest in the NFL and there was rarely any talent from them at the time. These claims were fictitious, as talent among African Americans stood prevalent in college football. Kenny Washington, Ozzie Simmons as well with others exhibited strenuous ability among college players. Although no black players played during the Depression and war years, the NFL did recruit immigrants and Native Americans on their teams. Regardless of the racial injustice against African Americans, the ban benefited the NFL, and their popularity and attendance grew rapidly. During the disappearance of blacks from the NFL, many former players created their own teams, which received little and sometimes, no coverage among white or black presses. Other players went out West to play in the Pacific Coast Professional Football League, a league established in 1940, and came to its complete demise in 1948. The ban was repealed in 1946, when the Los Angeles Rams signed former UCLA’s running back Kenny Washington, making him the first African American back in the NFL. The presence of the NFLs’ rival league, the AllAmerican Football Conference, led to the NFLs’ motivation to

Specializing In Diversity Since 1986

start signing African American players again. When the Rams signed Kenny Washington, he “was no longer in his prime because of age and injuries,” Ross noted, which caused him to have a brief career and little playing time, with only 23 rushing attempts in the 1946 season. Shortly after teams desegregated expeditiously, with the Washington Redskins being the last team in 1962 to integrate, only because of pressure from the federal government. Unlike baseball, one player did not break this significant color barrier. Kenny Washington did reintegrate the NFL, but the presence of African Americans on teams years ago, suppressed his significance. Baseball was the All-American sport, while professional football would not become popular by the masses until its appearance on television and merging with its rival league, the All-American Football Conference. The owners agreed with Marshall’s proposal only to save their league, and built legitimacy and popularity within their establishment. African Americans excluded from the NFL, took their skills to other leagues, in an attempt to make a living and formulate their identity. The story of African Americans in the National Football League is not just another sports integration narrative; it resembles the larger story of the African American struggle for a more egalitarian society in the twentieth century. Photo courtesy of Google

P. 4 • February 2012


5

From Blackface to BET The evolution of minority stereotypes in the media

By Danielle Mattocks Special to the RMR

From the maid to the businessman, blacks have always had a versatile portrayal through the media. Since the invention of radio and television, minority roles have existed in forms of entertainment, whether its purpose is negative and or positive. According to the Museum of Broadcast Communications, “Amos and Andy,” a popular comedy series from the 1920s through the 1950s, became the first sitcom to feature an allblack cast. Though it gained heavy media attention, it was evident that the sitcoms “fed” the stomachs of the African-American people by showing people that looked like themselves on prime-time television. Although it was the first sitcom to feature an all-black cast, it highlighted a majority of the negative stereotypes that Blacks were faced with, such as laziness, dishonesty, thievery, excessive religiousness and unintelligence. “Good Times,” “Chico & the Man,” “The Jeffersons,” “What’s Happening” and “That’s My Mama” were a few of the many African-American focused TV shows that became popular to the American audience. Yet, the only problem was that poverty was the theme of a majority of these TV shows. “Good Times,” a popular sitcom that featured an all-black cast focused on the Evans family living in the inner-city of Chicago, who learn and cope with the daily struggles of the typical

poverty-stricken AfricanAmerican family. In one episode, J.J., the oldest son, begins to participate in illegal gambling in order to “make ends meet,” yet when his mother discovers his double life, it ultimately begins to tear the Evans family apart: As the 80’s and 90’s progressed, American television began to welcome a more diverse and positive outlook on all minorities, which illustrated America’s tolerance of modern diversity. These shows included “Sister Sister,” “227,” “The Wayans Brothers,” and “Living Single.” These shows began to show African-Americans in a more positive light, from the wealthy Banks family in Bel-Air on “The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air”, to the African-American middle class lifestyle showed on “Moesha.” “The Cosby Show” was a groundbreaking television sitcom that showed a different side of the average AfricanAmerican family. The show focused on Claire Huxtable, a corporate attorney, and HeathCliffe Huxtable, a respectable obstetrician, whom together deal with everyday life obstacles while raising an ever-growing family in the upper-middle class area of Brooklyn, N.Y. The Cosby Show’s theme became a pivotal period of minority television. Producers deposited the Black roles that showed characters abandoning school to make ends meet and replaced them with characters whose main focus was entering college. Characters began to turn in

The Roddey-McMillan Record

their bottles and diapers from teenage pregnancies to return with academic progress reports from teachers applauding their hard work. Writers began to compose shows with the average nuclear family, rather than single motherhood. Today, it is evident that minority roles in the media have drastically changed since its launch in the mid-1900s. The George Lopez Show became the first American sitcom that featured a predominately Hispanic cast. Over the span of 2004-2011, more than eight television shows have launched that feature a predominately minority cast in a more positive light, such as My Wife And Kids, The Game, Reed Between the Lines, Muslims in America, Ugly Betty, House of Payne and For Better or Worse. It is clear that minority roles on American television have expanded, but several still argue that a lack of diversity is evident. So far, it is apparent that American broadcasting networks are taking the initiative to promote diversity on the in television. The BET (Black Entertainment Television) network, which launched in 1980, caters to minority audiences through

music videos, documentaries, films and television shows. Over the years, BET has gained three sister channels (BET Gospel, Centric and BET Hip-Hop). Reed Between the Lines, a recent BET television sitcom, focuses on a middleaged African-American couple who learn how to manage their careers, while at the same time maintaining a steady household and raising their three children. Productions that cast minorities gain less interest from white audiences, according to study launched by Indiana University‘s Andrew J. Weaver. “I think that’s in large part because of the way that films are marketed these days,” Weaver stated in an Indiana University news release. “You have whitewashing of the mainstreaming films, and the only time that you see minority casts are for films that are marketed very

Specializing In Diversity Since 1986

specifically towards minority audiences.”

Photos Courtesy of Google Images

P. 5 • February 2012


6

Look At Me Now

By Kendra Wicker Staff Writer

The RMR: What were your intentions for majoring in mass communications while at Winthrop and why? Woods: Honestly, I really did not know

what my intentions were when I decided to major in Mass Communications. Originally, I was a business major and in my second semester of my junior year, I switched to Mass Communication. To be truthful, my switch was based on the fact that I could not get past an economics class that I had taken twice. I wanted to graduate on time, so I decided to reevaluate my strengths. I decided that I enjoyed writing and should pursue a career in writing. However, when I started the journalism track, I quickly learned that I loved the art of advertising and sales. Making this change in my junior year was literally one of the best decisions I have ever made. That one decision has afforded me the opportunity to work in an industry in which I love and have been successful for 23 years.

The RMR: What was it like just starting off in the advertising business? Woods: When I started out in advertising two weeks after I graduated from Winthrop (my switch only delayed me

The Roddey-McMillan Record

The RMR: How did you feel becoming

the first African American outside sales representative for the Herald?

Woods: I was honored to have accomplished

this task back then, but I was surprised that in 1991 I was the “first”. At that time, I decided that I would pave the way for many more “firsts” after me by offering mentoring advice to anyone who would listen.

Photo Courtesy of Kim Woods

It has been proven that most students will switch majors at least once during their time at college. This was no exception when it came to former student Kim Young Woods. Woods, class of 1990, bravely decided that she no longer wanted to pursue business and instead wanted to obtain a degree in mass communications, in which she was then drawn into advertising. In 2003, Woods came back to Winthrop to obtain her master’s in education for counseling and development. Within just a matter of years, she has made a name for herself as the VP of advertisement for the Bradenton Herald. She spoke with RMR about how her decision to switch majors brought her to the creation of her “daily miracle.”

three months from graduating on time), I didn’t know what I was doing. All I knew was that I had been an advertising assistant for about six months, and based on what I saw from other advertising executives, I thought I could do the job. Well…..it wasn’t as easy as it looked. Working out in the sales field was somewhat scary and you had to portray a level of confidence, even if you didn’t have the confidence at that time. However, I immediately realized that one of the biggest skill sets in selling is building strong relationships. I had always done well with people, so I capitalized on working with advertisers to gain their trust, credibility, and respect. Just knowing how to treat people well goes a long way in any industry.

For me, my biggest first was becoming the first female African American of a mainstream newspaper in the state of South Carolina. In 1998, I moved over to The Herald’s sister weekly papers to become the general manager of those papers. In 2002, I became publisher of The Enquirer-Herald in York and The Clover Herald in Clover, S.C.

The RMR: How did your participation in the Robert McCormick fellowship program impact your life/career?

Woods: In 2003, I was selected as one of six minorities in the country to participate in the national Robert McCormick fellowship program, which was designed to provide minorities with additional training to help propel their careers to the next level. I spent four intense weeks at Northwestern University in Evanston, IL, crafting my skills as a media executive. We were told that the coursework was the equivalent of receiving a mini MBA. This fellowship allowed me to look at the media industry from all angles,

focusing our learning on budgeting, managing, leading, and projecting for the future. This fellowship was life-changing. A year after winning this fellowship, I received a promotion to work for another larger McClatchy paper, the News & Observer in Raleigh, NC.

The RMR: What inspires you to keep moving forward in the advertising business? Woods: Sheer hope inspires me to keep

moving forward in this industry. The newspaper business has been hit hard the past several years, but this change has caused our industry to be more creative in generating new advertising product solutions and become more strategic about how we effectively run our day-to-day business. I enjoy watching sales managers and account executives grow in their skill sets by being the best they can be. Also, I am a salesperson by nature, so I love having that instant gratification by seeing a paper produced every day, which I call the daily miracle.

The RMR: What advice could you give

other Winthrop students who may not know exactly which direction they want to take in their career field?

Woods: I would tell students to take their

time to find the best career field. Know yourself first. Spend time assessing your skill sets and pick a career direction that you will find joy and success. There is no need to major in something you think will bring you success and not joy, which was my original thought pattern in majoring in business. You can have both. Working is something you will do the rest of your life, so make sure you choose wisely when selecting your career path.

Specializing In Diversity Since 1986

CULTURAL EVENTS Feb. 24 7:30 p.m. “Music and the Holocaust”, Guest Artist Series, Brian Nedvintenor, Admission: Free Feb. 24 8:00 p.m. Overboard, an award winning, professional a cappella group from Boston who will entertain the Winthrop community with a form of music most Winthrop students has never heard, Admission: Free with Spring Pass, $5 w/Winthrop ID, $10 without Winthrop ID, Feb. 24 8:00 p.m. Fractured Sanctum, an original performance conceived by Norman Burt and Everett Johnson, A fractured Sanctum allows us to peer into the lives of a common family that was never truly common, admission: $8 w/Winthrop ID, $15 general public, Feb. 26 7:30 pm Ensemble Series, Winthrop Symphonic Band, Catharine Bushman, conductor, Winthrop Wind Symphony, Lorrie Crochet, conductor, admission: free, Photo Courtesy of Google

P. 6 • February 2012


7 Two of a kind The taboo topic of gay marriage causes controversy between love and the government

By Leslie Brown Special to the RMR Chocolates, roses, relationships and marriage are among the things being advertised and promoted heavily since it’s the month of love. However, these ads target heterosexual couples. In the American society, the topic of gay marriage is taboo because marriage is more common with a man and a woman. Because of this “social norm,” anti-gay marriage supporters are shunned by the strong gay marriage supporters and vice versa. According to CNN, on May 17, 2004, Massachusetts became the first state to legalize same-sex marriage. Since then, only five other states have legalized samesex marriage (Iowa, Vermont, New Hampshire, Connecticut, New York and Washington, D.C.). In November 2008, California passed Proposition 8, which eliminates the rights of samesex marriage – “only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California,” according to the Christian Science Monitor. However, on February 7 the federal appeals court declared California’s voter-approved ban on same-sex marriage unconstitutional. According to the New York Times, twenty-nine states now have constitutional amendments banning same-sex marriage. The controversial topic of samesex marriage has existed for decades. There are many lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) organizations in the United States and around the world that are trying to get more rights overall. The organization GLoBAL (Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender Ally League) creates a supportive

environment for gay, lesbian and bisexual students at Winthrop. GLoBAL president, Aaron “AJ” Sims wants equal rights for the LGBT community here in the United States and wants the LGBT community here and Winthrop to be true to themselves. “It’s something that I hope and want to strive for, but it’s going to come in time, no matter what,” Sims said. “I can only hope and be supportive of the people of my

organization and tell them, don’t worry about what people say, just keep on doing what you do and being yourself.” Discrimination against gay teens has heavily increased over the past few years, which has resulted in a skyrocket in suicide count. Roughly 20 percent of gay, lesbian and bisexual teens said they had attempted suicide, versus 4 percent of straight kids, according to a study conducted by Mark Hatzenbuehler, a Columbia University psychologist and researcher published in the Huffington Post.

The Roddey-McMillan Record

Sims realizes the hardships that the gay community faces every day and intends on making the gay community at Winthrop strong and confident. “The whole purpose of this club is to have some type of outlet for the gay community here at Winthrop,” he said. “We give them someone to hang out with, network with, and make sure they feel safe on campus and make them want them to stay here at Winthrop for the full term.” This topic will always cause uproars between religious groups and LGBT supporters. Religious groups use the argument that marriage should be between a man and woman and that traditions should not be changed. They also say that allowing same-sex couples to marry will undermine marriage itself. However, the LGBT community supporters say that it shouldn’t matter what orientation someone may be and that marriage is just an expression of love between human beings. “Everybody should have the right to marry; this is a free country,” said Keith Dingle, a sophomore digital information design major. Courtney Stokes, a freshman computer science major who is a member of GLoBAL, expresses her want for Americans who are anti gay marriage to become more open-minded. “People aren’t taking the time to learn about same-sex marriage – it’s just a big misunderstanding,” Stokes said. “This is why we have clubs like GLoBAL, to educate people about this and spread awareness. Just like with the drag show we had, we want to show that not all gay people are bad.”

SNEAK PEEK... into our By: Kimberly Edwards

Poetic Corner

What is Love?

Does love really have a definition? Can we live without? Love brightens people’s days. It isn’t just a word. It is a feeling. Something that that one is happy to receive. Love is just love. It can’t be defined. However, love is felt most when genuine. By: Morgan Royalty

What Lies Ahead

What lies ahead of us is a Short hike up a mountain Only to stop at the top To enjoy the view for a moment What lies ahead is a Short drive on a red dirt road Where we learn to overcome The bumps in our way What lies ahead is a Short stroll through a field of wildflowers Where all that seems to exist Is you holding my hand Right now our lives might seem like a Rough rollercoaster ride Taking us through hard times and Short joyous moments, but in the end It is the journey that counts the most So take in the beauty, Learn from our mistakes, and Realize when to slow down And enjoy our time together By: Melissa Ann Star

Photo Courtesy of Google

Specializing In Diversity Since 1986

Tomorrow’s Dreams

Abide beyond the day and summon tomorrows dreams Breathe in—breathe out Listen softly, gently, to whispers of the wind Free the tortured soul within the pen Open your dreams to the sound of serenity East of the river—west of the desert Build a fort within the forest just north of the knotty pines Abide beyond the day and summon tomorrow’s dreams

P. 7 • February 2012


8

FEATURE

Computer Love: Have Social Networks Gone Too Far?

By Will Latimer Special to the RMR

Status updates and tweets might be a huge factor in relationships of the digital age

Although relationships used to be between two people, in today’s society relationships can be shared with the world with the click of a button. Whether people post a relationship status or a simple status update, anyone that is connected to the Internet is able to see a certain amount of what is going on in a relationship. Facebook, Twitter and Myspace have changed relations to fit in with today’s digital age, according to an article on Psych Central’s website. Aside from seeing how couples interact with each other, people are able to see how each member of a relationship feels on certain issues and the things they do on a daily basis. Sophomore biology major Brian Carter said that social networks affect relationships. “Social networks open a kind of direct path into each person in the relationship’s mind to a certain degree,” he said. “People might forget that they’re in relationships and put things that they might not mean to put. Social networks tend to get people in trouble.” While the amount of information shared varies between couples based upon how much they are

comfortable with showing, some choose to be more open with their relationship than others. Facebook is among the leading Social Networking sites that offer couples a way to share their relationship with others,

regardless of what type it is. Facebook offers traditional relationship statuses such as “In a relationship.” “Single” and “Married,” but also offers other choices for users such as “It’s complicated” and “In an open relationship,” along with many other options. Freshman business administration major Takia Barnett believes that people don’t need to share everything about their relationships online. “Putting relationships on social networks is not necessary and that saying something has to be Facebook official is a joke,”

The Roddey-McMillan Record

Barnett said. The issue that may arise with sharing relationships on social networks is that that is intended to be between two (or more) people. On the social networking site, it is between everyone who uses that site. People can share pictures, status updates or anything someone else posts on a social networking site, often without having to have the consent of the person who originally posted it. Some people believe that social networking creates insecurity in relationships and can lead to cheating; after all, one of the purposes of Social Networking sites is to meet and connect with new people. “(Social networks) have so many private actions you can take to shield things from your partner,” Barnett said. Sophomore elementary education major Michelle Slaughter said social networks can break the trust between couples. She said was in a relationship affected by social networking and said her boyfriend at the time was able to use the site to hide

things from her. “Social networks can lead to cheating because they make things easy to hide and meeting new people easy as well,” Slaughter said. For couples that attend different colleges or are not able to see each other for any other reason, connecting through video calling networks, such as Skype or Oovoo, can be a way for them to keep in contact with each other, and to see each other when they would not be able to otherwise. Aside from the popular social Media sites (Facebook, Twitter etc.) there are numerous dating sites that people use to find potential partners. These sites range from sites that can include all groups of people such as matchmaker.com to sites that cater to a specific group of people based on lifestyle or race, such as blackpeoplemeet.com. The positives of social networks are usually able to be classified as negatives as well. With the ability to meet new people and share your thoughts comes the responsibility of maintaining good relationships with the

people that are close to you and not posting anything that you are not willing to back up in person. “Social networks definitely help create relationships, but they can absolutely destroy them,” Carter said.

top 15 most popular social Networking Sites www.ebizmba.com

1. Facebook 2. Twitter 3. LinkedIn 4. Myspace 5. Google Plus+ 6. DeviantArt 7. LiveJournal 8. Tagged 9. Orkut 10. CafeMom 11. Ning 12. Meetup 13. myLife 14. myYearbook 15. Badoo

Photos Courtesy of Google

Specializing In Diversity Since 1986

P. 8 • February 2012


9

Fashion What's Your "Social Status?"

By Crystal Booker Fashion Editor

You don’t pass by 1519 Central Avenue without stopping. Social Status, a trendsetter’s dream and a sneaker-head’s haven is one of Charlotte’s finest boutiques. With a second location in Pittsburgh, PA, Social Status is taking Carolina style to the next level. “Social Status is high-end street wear,” said sales representative Frank Lee. “We can appeal to more than one demographic with Social Status.” Lee first became familiar with the store when his friend and prominent stylist, Renaldo Nehemiah, suggested he check it out. Lee quickly shifted from intern to sales representative with the store. Chris Cooper, who works alongside Lee as a sales representative, has been familiar with the store since it was called the Flava Factory. After the store changed its name to Social Status, Cooper returned to the location inquiring about placing artwork in the

Charlotte’s hottest store has recieved appearances by some of hip hop’s most popular rappers boutique. He soon became a part of the Social Status family. “If you had seen the old store compared to this it’s very clean,” Cooper said. It’s a very forward boutique.” The store isn’t just clean its structure is also impeccable. From the footwear lacing the walls inside of crystalclear light boxes, to the neatly folded tees stacked to perfection, Social Status looks like you are stepping inside an A-lister’s closet. Social Status has received foot traffic from both Rick Ross and Wiz Khalifa. The store’s opening was cherry-topped with an appearance from Wale. With the CIAA tournament just around the corner, Lee says they’re in the works of getting an artist to come by the boutique to do a meet and greet with fans. Social Status carries brands including BBC, Tru Religion, The Hundreds, Play Cloths, 10 Deep, G-Star, Ralph Lauren and countless other labels. Cooper says each item is exclusive

The Roddey-McMillan Record

and that many pieces are rare finds in North and South Carolina. Social Status isn’t just cranking out the hottest trends, but they are creating their own in-house brand as well. While offering high quality crew neck sweaters, locally themed snapbacks and collaborating with Nike, Social Status is continuing to evolve from just a place to a shop into a lifestyle. As Cooper said, “Social Status isn’t just a store.” Charlotte Store Location: 1519 Central Avenue, Charlotte NC, 28205 Contact Social Status: Twitter: @thesocialstatus Website: http://www.socialstatuspgh.com

Photos courtesy of Crystal Booker

Specializing In Diversity Since 1986

P. 9 • February 2012


10 BJ’S PIcks By Billie Jean Shaw L&E Editor

R.I.P. Whitney Houston On Saturday, February 11th I was shocked to find out that we loss yet another legendary icon, Whitney Houston. According to TMZ, Houston was found in her Beverly Hilton Hotel bathtub, submerged under water. In a pure coincidence this was the same hotel where she had planned to attend the Clive Davis pre- Grammy party just hours later. After reading

the various reports and keeping my eyes glued to the BET special, I logged on to Twitter to see everyone else’s reaction and boy was I shocked! I saw tweets that honored Whitney but I saw even more tweets that bashed her. I did not know Whitney personally and I’m pretty sure the other people did not either, but when someone dies it is a sad time, celebrity or not. So many jokes were posted about Whitney’s drug use, blaming her cocaine addiction for her cause of death

Sound Off! Whitney Houston’s sudden death affects editor when it was clearly stated in various reports that Whitney may have suffered a heart attack. I just think that it is very unfortunate for people to go in so heavily with jokes when this is not a laughing matter. What about her young daughter she left behind and a mother who has to bury her daughter? People do not think of things like that, and I am just bothered by the different levels of disrespect that I read. Instead of highlighting Whitney’s faults, let’s praise the accomplishments she made

during her time with us! SO I’m giving a big “NEXT’ to the haters! Gone but not forgotten, we love you Whitney.

Photo courtesy of Billie Jean Shaw

For anyone that is looking for a new sound to add to their music collection, look no further than Winthrop’s very own Cameron Benton. Benton, 18-year-old freshman Chemistry major from Charleston, SC. said he has always loved music, but he didn’t official start rapping until the age of 15. Benton goes by the stage name Cam B. Benton and is pursuing more than just the typical education. Benton has a love for music and singing that he wants to share with the world. Benton listed Stevie Wonder, Alexander O’Neil and Earth, Wind and Fire as some of his inspirations to make music. He describes his sound as soulful, and hopes that his listeners take his music and decide for themselves what his music’s sound and meaning is.

One of the things that Benton prides himself on is his ability to sing and rap and he said his versatility separates him from

other musicians on campus. Benton made it clear that he is not trying to be another Drake because he believes that he’s more of a singer than a rapper. “I don’t have to use computers for quality of voice,” Benton said. Benton said that the music

The Roddey-McMillan Record

industry is missing meaning. “Artists are busy putting out music that they think people want to hear, but not what they think people should hear,” he said. Benton said that he provides music that he would want to hear – without any outside influences or control in the type of music that he puts out. Coming to Winthrop has allowed Benton to network and find a larger audience of people to distribute his music to. Before college, Benton was working out of his room with his laptop and a RockBand microphone. He said college has helped him with his growth in his career. “Since I’m away from home, I don’t have to worry about how my parents feel about my music and about them trying to persuade me to go into another career.” Benton is also a member

into our Poetic Corner

A Letter By Carrie DuPre

Dear Sister, hating our curly chestnut hair, we hid it under dusty, leather-laced hats, that hugged our heads in lieu of catching a ball. We spat sunflower seed shells into sun-dried clay while spinning twilight won. The sun sets over our misplaced dreams, while we spun and danced with Night, in prom dresses, allowing wings to sprout. You flew first, then I second, Out into unexplored spaces. Beautiful Rose By Shameka Marshall

Looking for a new sound? Winthrop student is ready for his voice to be heard By Will Latimer Special to the RMR

SNEAK PEEK...

of Trio and Skin Deep and usually works on his music during his free time. Freshman music major Curtis Hayes said Benton can connect with other students. “Cam’s sound is young and smooth…he speaks to people our age,” he said. “Everything he sings is sultry sounding, but when he’s rapping he’s a monster.” Benton is currently working on his first mix tape titled Love Story, which he hopes to release in either late February or early March.

Deep down I never thought I’d find A rare rose of this very kind Enlightened with its own style It stands out in a heavy crowd Filled with a heavenly scent Standing straight and never bent Its presence brings a joyful smile One that lasts for a while Brightly colored; can light up a room Always stays in full bloom Delicate but strong; what a wonderful combination It is god’s best creation I’m passionate bout this rose in question Because to find one like it is a true blessing A rose this sweet deserves a name So I named it after you, because you are one in the same Not Again By Rebecca Jacobs

Another wasted hour, wasted day Hating yourself for not listening to yourself tell yourself that you need to stop running yourself into the ground

Photo courtesy of Cameron Benton

Specializing In Diversity Since 1986

Get up, get a life, and move on.

P. 10 • February 2012


11 A Whole New World

Winthrop’s newest addition to residence halls causes excitement on campus By Gabrielle Franklin February 9th edition of The said. Although juniors and Special to the RMR Johnsonian. seniors are welcome to live in “Rising sophomores are eager to have priority selection for the reopening of Phelps Hall at Winthrop University. In 2010, Phelps residential hall closed for renovations. After two years of being closed, Phelps is scheduled to reopen its doors in fall of 2012.

This semester, Winthrop University’s Department of Residence Life has been getting students excited about Phelps’ Fall 2012 re-opening with promotions on their official Facebook and Twitter pages and advertising in The Johnsonian. The newest renovations in Phelps include Wi-Fi throughout the building, new bathrooms new showers, sinks located in the rooms, a computer lab that is available 24/7 to on campus students, a self-regulated visitation policy, and improved accessibility with a new elevator according to their ad in the

“Phelps has been a co-ed residence hall, at this time, the plan is to maintain it as a co-ed hall. The rooms are suite style. The entire building will have new plumbing and all of the rooms will have a sink in them. Most of the building has beautiful hardwood floors,” Winthrop University Department of Residence Life posted on their official Facebook page. The official Winthrop Residence Life social networks seem to be attracting people. Students who want to remain updated on the latest news on Phelps Hall and other Winthrop residential halls, can visit their official Facebook (Winthrop University Department of Residence Life) and Twitter (@WUResidenceLife) pages. Freshman mass communication major Tabitha Corley said she found out about Phelps reopening “from Facebook and people talking.” These features make the newly renovated residence unique. Winthrop’s Director of Residence Life Cynthia A. Cassens described Phelps Hall as having “more suitestyle combinations available for students.” Cassens also said that Phelps Hall would have more rooms for males when it reopens. “We’ll have about fifty more spaces for men and switch another floor in Richardson for females,” Cassens

The Roddey-McMillan Record

Phelps Hall, “freshmen and sophomores are required to live on campus,” Cassens said. “Sophomores get priority of (room selection) in Phelps and we will leave some spots for juniors and seniors that want to live there,” Cassens said. Freshmen Chandler Cox, Eboni Ford, Andrea Crossbrooke, Kayla McNeil, and Emma Elliott all live currently live in Margaret Nance unanimously agreed that they all wanted to live, or are considering living, in Phelps Hall next year because “It’s new!” They were also all excited about the bathrooms in Phelps as opposed to the bathrooms in Margaret Nance. “We’ll have our own bathroom!” they all said. They were also pretty relieved to hear that sophomores have priority selection in Phelps. “That’s what we like to hear,” Cox said. “I think we should (have priority), that’s only fair since we can’t get Courtyard,” said Elliott. The only fears about moving into Phelps Hall that the students had, however, were regarding the new appliances functioning properly. “If the new stuff doesn’t really work properly, we’re going to be the guinea pigs that have to try everything out,” said Elliott.

Sound Off! What Do You Think?

What can cause trust issues in a relationship? Compiled by Shamira McCray Staff Writer

Kenneth Caballero Junior Physical Education Major “Past experiences of being deceived in a past relationship may cause trust issues in a new relationship.”

Jasmine Jamison Sophomore Psychology Major “The environment that a person grew up in can cause trust issues. For instance, if their parents cheated on each other, they might have trust issues.”

Lorena Nuno Freshman Early Childhood Major “Trust issues can be caused from past relationships of being hurt, and can also come from family and the environment you were raised in.”

Specializing In Diversity Since 1986

Shaneequa Evans Junior Integrated Marketing Communication Major “Too much honesty at one time can cause trust issues. If you cheated in your past relationship and you tell your new partner, it will then create a wall of trust issues.” Photo courtesy of Winthrop University

P. 11 • February 2012


12 Guy Talk

Men’s views on standards and love in a relationship

By J. Donovan German Special to the RMR

With all due respect to women, guys have it hard. No matter how hard we try, we just can’t win. We can either be a “dog” or a “knight in shining armor”--but never in between. There’s no denying that women perceive the concept love differently than we do. It raises the question of how men think when it comes to relationships and what we actually look for in a our ideal woman. While most men can say that looks can come into play first, Emil Tokmakci, from Isle of Palms, S.C., feels that personality stands above everything. “Her character and the

Sound Off!

way she carries herself is very important,” he said. Austin Smith, a junior from Lexington, S.C., agrees, describing the ideal woman. “The ideal girl has to be someone you can take home to Mom,” he said. “She has to be able to respect you, [and vice versa]. She’s got to have her priorities in order, with a drive to do something with her life.” At this particular time in our lives, college students of both genders may have to juggle a job, schoolwork, and extracurricular activities. Adding a relationship into the mix can add even more stress.

Tokmakci thinks that women don’t intend to give their significant other a hard time, it’s just that their expectations are high. “It depends on the circumstance...[some girls may] expect their boyfriend to make a lot of money as soon as they graduate,” he said. “With us being in college, it’s a little too soon to be thinking about that. Their standards might be tough on us.” Very rarely do we have time to hold up a relationship, and if we do, meeting their loved one’s expectations can become very demanding. James Riley, a junior business administration major from Barnwell, S.C. feels that some

women’s standards may demand too much. He believes that women can get caught up in the materialistic side of a relationship. “They can be hard on us... but they have to realize that some of us are just in college, meaning that some men probably don’t have part time jobs. It’s fine to have wants, but you have to know your limits.” Everyone has their faults, so men deserve some of the blame also. The issue that men encounter is knowing what to do as men to do better in terms of a relationship. “We just have to be more committed and more willing to help,” Tomakci said.

CIAA 2012 LINEUP

ARE YOU READY FOR THE BEST PARTY WEEKEND IN CHARLOTTE?

Travis Porter Performing Live

“Be there whenever she needs something, and just be a gentleman.” According to Smith, honesty, commitment, and communication are the keys to a healthy relationship. “If you don’t have those qualities, along with expectations, you’re basically in a relationship for nothing.”

Photo Courtesy of Google

Compiled by Chelsea Brown Editor-in-chief

Tyga: Careless World Tour w/ Special Guest YG

Official Welcome to Charlotte Party Hosted by: Rick Ross Date: Thursday, March 1, 2012 Doors Open @ 9PM Ages: 21+ Date: Saturday, March 3, 2012 Door Opens @ 9PM Ages: 18+ Venue: Backstage 8801 East W. T. Harris Blvd Charlotte, NC Price: EVERYONE W/ COLLEGE ID Free until 9:30PM & Only $10 until 10 p.m. J.COLE, WALE, & VIP $30

Venue: Club 9 3 5 935 S. Summit Ave Charlotte, NC Price: Ladies Free Until 9:30PM Limited Advance Tickets $20

Date: Monday, February 27, 2012 Doors Open @ 7PM Event Starts @ 8PM Open to All Ages! Venue: The Fillmore Charlotte 1000 NC Music Factory Blvd. Charlotte, NC Price: $23 (+ Fees) for Tickets

More Concert/Party Dates and Times can be found on CharlotteHappenings.Com/Ez-Tixx.Com FUTURE AND EVEN MORE CELEBRITIES WILL BE PERFORMING FOR CIAA 2012!

The Roddey-McMillan Record

Information and Photos Courtesy Of EZ-Tixx.com, CharlotteHappenings.Com & LiveNation.com

Specializing In Diversity Since 1986

P. 12 • February 2012


13The Big Intimidation Factor By: Ciapha “Cee” Dennis Special to the RMR

Do outgoing and independent women intimidate men?

About a month ago, a friend and I were having a conversation about women and relationships. Eventually, we began to discuss and evaluate some of the best ways to approach a female, a conversation that we seem to keep falling back on. But this time while speaking on this subject, my friend said something different that I hadn’t heard him say before which really made me think. He said “Well to be honest... personally, I really don’t like approaching females, especially ones with strong personalities, because when I do then I feel like they already have the upper hand.” When he said this, I really began to wonder how many other guys really felt the same way he felt. I then began to question if there were any women who felt the same kind of intimidation when approaching men. Even though this topic is repetitive, it’s a topic that is definitely worth being discussed. Raishawn Crawford, sophomore psychology major from Charleston, S.C., could relate to this intimidation from a man’s point of view, but still feels that it’s a matter of how confident the guy is in himself. “I’m very approachable, fun, easy to get along with, and make friends easily,” he said. “I do feel that outgoing girls intimidate some guys. Some are afraid to approach them because they don’t have their own lives together,” Crawford said. He believes that approaching a woman starts with a man’s confidence. “The guys that are confident in the fact that they have their own

stuff together aren’t intimidated to approach these females.” If the old term “opposites attract” still stands to be true, it is assumed that the shy person would be more attracted to the more outgoing person and would want to approach them. It is also assumed that the reverse is true, that the outgoing person would be more tempted to want a shy person. Apparently, this isn’t the case. Some people feel that an outgoing personality only makes a person even more intimidated to approach someone as my friend stated. Though this intimidation of outgoing females may be relevant to some men, to others, the word “intimidation” doesn’t even ring a bell. Freshman Spencer Burgess from Columbia, S.C. doesn’t even recognize that word when it comes to females. Burgess, who has been in a relationship for two months, wasn’t intimidated when approaching his girlfriend. “I don’t know about other guys, but I personally am not intimidated to approach any female,” Burgess said. “I definitely consider my girlfriend outgoing, and upon approaching her for the first time, I wasn’t intimidated at all.” Interestingly enough though, what I came across to find out is that it isn’t so much the men who find themselves feeling intimidated by outgoing or independent females, it’s the females who have drawn this conclusion about men. A lot of single outgoing women seem to feel that their single status is due to more than just a mere decision to be single made by themselves. Some believe that the partial fault is to the guys who are just too afraid to approach them

The Roddey-McMillan Record

in fear that they don’t stand a chance against a strong minded, outgoing female. Sophomore dance major Lustra Miller from Spartanburg, S.C. believes that she can relate to this issue.

“I feel that guys are somewhat intimidated by my personality because one, I’m very outgoing and two, I’m not your average girl,” she said. “I’m somewhat aggressive and know what I want and that scares some guys because they’ve never had that type of girl.” Miller also added that she isn’t, by any stretch of the imagination, intimidated to approach an outgoing guy. “I’ve never been the type of girl to approach guys but it’s not because I’m intimidated by any means. If I saw a young man that had his life together and I was interested, I would show my interest,” she said. There is an obvious correlation between this intimidation of ap-

Sound Off!

proaching outgoing people and settling for what one can easily acquire. A person might simply settle for someone who isn’t as outgoing because the chances of being rejected or being overlooked by other tasks and activities are slim. Chelsea Brown, a sophomore mass communication from Columbia, S.C., Chelsea Brown admitted to her outgoing personality which is distributed throughout her various school activities and obligations on campus. She looked at the settling issue as more than just a fear of being rejected. “We are definitely settling nowadays because there’s a stigma in the African American community that there are no good black men,” she said. “When we find one whom we think is right but still has many negative tendencies, such as cheating, we still hold on.” Settling when it comes to relationships can either be a result of being intimidated by those you truly desire because of their outgoing personality or a result of simply accepting the flaws of someone because you fear you won’t find someone better. This is still a topic that can be discussed and argued from multiple positions and standpoints. But, if you’re the type who’s attracted to outgoing people, don’t let fear stop you. After all, most of them are just waiting for someone who will put in the time and effort to get to know and understand them. Prove to them that their personality doesn’t intimidate you...and go for it!

Specializing In Diversity Since 1986

QUICK OPINION: Financially Compatible

By: Demetri Williams Money is a cause of contention in many relationships, and when dating someone, people have expectations. Besides if the person is faithful, honest, caring and/or supportive, people consider the size of the person they date’s wallets. Most people date someone who is on the same financial level as them; others seek someone who is financially stable to reap his or her benefits. Particularly, people decide to date or marry someone who has or is working on a college degree, have something going for them and are financially stable. “Money does play a factor in a relationship, but it shouldn’t be the couple’s primary focus”, said sophomore health care management major Kristen Good. “I don’t think money matters, but at the same time I expect to be taken out on them every once in a while,” she said. Good believes that in college, people search for mates with promising futures. “Normally, college relationships are serious, so I do believe we tend to look for someone who we know has potential to provide a secure future which involves money,” she said. It seems that some feel that a man may feel inadequate if he dates a woman who makes more money. Also, most women are not going to want to be with a guy less accomplished, because it is simply not attractive and they may not want to be the “bread winner.” Since the 16th century, women were taught to be subservient to men and the man had to be the provider in the relationship. This standpoint seems to still exist, where the man wants to be able to provide and the woman is willing to let him do so. However, don’t turn down someone because they make less. There are more important things than his or her bank accounts. “People in a relationship do not always have to express who makes the most money,” she said. “It does not have to continuously be a competition between the two.” Money can build or tear down a relationship, but money can’t buy love or happiness. Do not build your relationship around money solely because a relationship requires so much more. It should be valued not placed with a value.

P. 13 • February 2012


14

Sound Off!

NO “CUFFIN’”

Tabitha Corley

Special to the RMR “We live in a generation of not being in love.” This is the quote rapper Drake said in his latest album Take Care about the current state of love in our generation. Music has been an avenue to express many feelings in most relationships. There are multiple songs that relate to any situation, good or bad. Whether someone is caught cheating red-handed, falls flat-out head over hills for someone, or gets to the point where someone feels like leaving the relationship, there’s a song that can relate to almost anyone’s love situation. However, as time evolved, the same songs we once loved in previous years that expressed monogamous relationships seem to hardly to exist in current music. It seems as if most music today is anti-relationship. Some metaphors used in the lyrics today even compare relationships to jail. For example, in the song “No Cuffin’” by rappers Young Tone and Travis Porter, they use the term “cuffin’” to say relationships are a way of tying someone down. Saying relationships should be viewed in a negative light equivalent to imprisonment is like saying couples today are jail mates instead of soul mates.

Has music changed the way that people view relationships?

Today we hear the term “cuffed up” to describe the status of most ‘relationships,’ for lack of a better word. We use this slang word in place of terms such as dating, talking and together to describe relationships. Something as pure and natural as relationships should not be described with a derogatory term. There is also considered a specific time to actually “cuff ” someone. To cuff someone means that two people are in an agreement to be intimate, or in some kind of relationship with each other. The term used to describe this time is “Cuffing Season.” This season tends to be during the cold months, just after summer ends. It is often around that time of year because it is cold, which makes for a great time to snuggle up and get cozy with someone. Spoken Reasons, a young comedian, also expresses his feeling towards it in a segment on YouTube called, “Cuffing Season.” He believes it is a “renting service that requires no genuine qualities, such as wife-material.” He says this season is not intended to last forever. Gabrielle Franklin, a freshman mass communication major, said this trend is an immature mentality to have about dating. “You should “cuff ” for a reason, not a season,” Franklin

The Roddey-McMillan Record

said. To add to the constant fear of commitment, some songs like “Mr. Wrong” by Mary J. Blige condone disrespectful behavior from partners. This song tells of a woman who is constantly being mistreated by her mate, but will not let go of him because she loves her Mr. Wrong. Men are starting to feel the burn of the music discussion, degrading relationships to “cuffing,” and encouraging cheating. The song “Boyfriend #2,” by R & B singer Pleasure P describes a man who does not want a relationship with a girl, but only wants to be exclusive with her because she already has a man. The girl feels that her man is not doing all the things she wants him to do, and that’s when her other “boyfriend” comes in. The song “Goin’ Steady,” by rapper Rocko, is about two individuals who are not together, but are constantly hooking up. He boasts throughout the song how he doesn’t like being in committed relationships and would rather just mess around with no strings attached. Wade Murray, a freshman mass communication major, feels like songs such as “Boyfriend #2” and “Goin’ Steady” tends to send out the wrong message to listeners. “…Especially with ‘Boyfriend #2,’ it makes it seem

like it’s okay to cheat…and it’s the way they do. Music has changed draok with guys to be considered matically. Music like “I Wanna number two,” Murray said. Be Your Man” by Zapp & “Since most music lovers tend to put their favorite artist Roger, “Butta Love” by Next, or “Lady” by D’Angelo that on a pedestal, they tend to describe wanting to be in a remock what’s said in their mulationship with a person does sic. This is a possible reason why our generation is the way not exist in mainstream like it once did. it is today.” It’s past time to rekindle It is no longer right for loves’ flame. LL Cool J’s 1987 women to always claim that hit “I Need Love,” explains it guys are unfaithful creatures, and only want women for one all, “But the other half needs affection and joy and the thing: sex. warmth that is created by a It seems that relationships girl and a boy. I need love”. are no longer longed for, but hooking up is the newest popular trend. Leslie Brown, a freshman mass communication major, believes that hooking up has taken the place of relationships. “It’s the norm for today’s young adult society, sadly,” Brown said. Today, it seems that there is a decreasing amount of music that portrays genuine monogamist Example Of “Cuffing Season” relationships. This is a possible reason why the younger generation views relationships Photo courtesy of Google Images

Specializing In Diversity Since 1986

P. 14 • February 2012


15 Trust Issues By Brittaney Major Staff Writer

The fundamentals of the “American Dream” are based on the idea that every family consists of two parents; a mom and a dad. However, for some Winthrop students, this dream was never a reality. Twenty-four million, or one out of three, children in America live in homes without a biological father, according to the U.S. Census Bureau. About 40 percent of the children who live in absentee father households haven’t seen their. Half of those children who don’t live with their fathers have never stepped foot in their father’s home. “A father is one of the two people who are supposed to love and care for you first. If the relationship between a son or daughter is never established,” freshman music major Curtis Hayes said. “The child could suffer from issues from that lack of love and communication,” Hayes said. Bobby Hunter, a freshman physical education major, said that fathers play an important role in the lives of their sons by

helping them find their Bobby Hunter, a freshman physical education major. had to learn many things, some as simple as using the restroom, on his own. “Most sons take the characteristics of their fathers, but when a father is not there, a son may struggle with learning how to act. It may be harder for a son to find themselves,” Hunter said. For girls, the relationships they did not have with their fathers resulted in an abundance of trust issues when it came to the opposite sex. Freshman business major MaKenzie Lytton’s father left her and her mother when she was just two years old. “When I’m having problems with a guy, I always think about: (my dad) cheated on my mom after 14 years of them being married, why would a guy stay faithful to me, especially if we’re only dating?” Lytton said. Although it was a hard adjustment, she learned how to cope. “It caused me to be a lot more defensive and guarded against every guy in my life,” Lytton said.

The Roddey-McMillan Record

Sound Off! Can an absentee father affect the child’s relationships later in life? When her mom found love a second time, Lytton found that the relationship she has with her stepfather was exactly what she needed from her biological father. “My now recent stepfather is very protective of me and makes sure that any guy I talk to is very respectful and treats me right,” she said.

With men, their mothers took the place of their dads easily when they were teaching their sons how to treat the women in their lives. “There is no better way to figure out what a woman wants than from Photo courtesy of Google

a woman. If he [a father] didn’t treat a lady well, there isn’t much he can teach you,” Hunter said. For freshman athletic training major Stephen Rembert, whose father was not around often as a child, he felt that all the advice he needed on relationships was within him. “Guys who grew up without a father didn’t really miss out on much. It is more important for them to worry about their individual pasts,” Rembert said. “If they had a bad experience with a female as a child, then that would have more of an impact on the future of their relationships than any advice a dad could give,” he said. Fathers are incredibly important in their daughters’ development and their self-esteem. According to Meg Meeker, a specialist in pediatric and adolescent relations, 76 percent of teen girls said their fathers had an influence on their future relationships. Daughters tend to view themselves as

Specializing In Diversity Since 1986

their fathers viewed them and expect to be treated as their fathers treated them. Sophomore mass communications major Ava Hart believes that the love she never found at home with her father forced her to search for it elsewhere. “I fell in love at a very young age and that relationship lasted about four years,” Hart said. “I never knew what love was because no one was there to teach me or give me a good example, so trust issues definitely played a big part in that relationship ending.” According to thefatherlessgeneration.com, fatherless women are said to have a 92 percent higher risk of divorce because of the negative example they had as a child. “It affected my lifestyle a lot because I have higher standards when it comes to what I look for in a guy because I saw what my mother went through and it causes me to be more careful,” Lytton said. Students found that the lack of love or attention from their fathers allowed others to take an influential role in to their lives.

P. 15 • February 2012


Deception of A Lie By Lori Garvin

Untruth uttered under the deceptive surface of suspicion: all detection seems unreal below its opaque cover. But then this bubble of errant breath rises— its forceful buoyancy an unforeseen incrimination— and bursts in air, forming a rippling target of accusation that grows. The landed lie lies withered in this sudden exposure, not suited to survive in sunlight. Prevaricating begins in course: a shabby shelter is impetuously assembled with feeble excuses to shield the falsehood from the raging, scathing light—but this covering is not enough. In mounting trepidation, it is thrust away hastily—a discrediting burden. It gains a wild momentum like a rolling boulder bent on flight, its destructive path aiming for the inevitable edge, tumbling toward the imminent cliff ahead until it hurtles off the ledge, and nothing more is left aground save for Truth.

Because…

By Courtney Hawkins Because people don’t change overnight, Because hearts will do what they like, Because feelings get in the way, Because we never do what we say, Because invincibility is a part of us, Because we give our all to gain your trust, Because we think with our hearts and not with our minds, Because we never thought the end would come this time, Because we’ve traveled down this road many times before, Because we thought the next time it wouldn’t happen anymore, Because we love too strong and care too much,

FREE YOUR MIND with...

Poems contributed by Winthrop’s very own

Because we long for that day and yearn for that touch, Because we believe that “I’m sorry” will solve everything, Because we’re too blind to see that “I’m sorry” induces more pain, Because we get caught up in trying to make do, Because we never saw the day that we would lose you.

Gemini

By Bianca Gamble A piece of me came alive, when i met my gemini tucked inside a room for days at a time, baring souls, connecting with each other my gemini brought the hope out of me that i had thought had become extinct to talk to someone about my hopes, dreams , and aspirations blew my mind but nothing compared to that feeling of liveliness when i met my gemini Days in that room turned into nights, light-hearted laughter turned into soft-spoken words that never happened when the sun came up even that other side of him i felt connected to dark, angry, sad words i don’t cares at the end of the day i would never forget you, because you were my gemini Being a hopeless romantic still i am a pessimistic realist and i can feel the shift in atmosphere No matter the connection the want the drive no one can ever hold on to a gemini.

The Roddey-McMillan Record

I Want A Love... By Christen “Cricket” Boyce See... I want a love A real love like Mary J A love that gives me butterflies when i see his face A love that supplicates my hug and kiss whenever I see him See... I want a love An honest love A love that will never lie, but will always keep it real A love that will tell me when I’m wrong A love that will stay genuine with me, even if he has to make me cry See... I want a love An unbreakable love like Alicia Keys A love that won’t be broken by rumors or misunderstandings A love that will be determined to stay together through trials, hardships, and disagreements A love that will stay together even when we’re miles apart See... I want a love An upbuilding love A love that will not only accept my dreams and goals, but with his dreams and goals, we can help and build each other to reach our dreams and goals together See... I want a love A sexy love like Ne-yo A love that will sweep me off my feet make my toes curl, and make me weak

Photos Courtesy of Google Images

A love that won’t take my freaky tendencies for granted, but will love me for me first A love that will make love to me passionately A love that will understand the meaning of sex and use it the way God intended it to be See... I want a love A strong love A love that is strong enough to handle me and my baggage A resistant love that will take in and love my kids as his own See... I want a love An understanding love A love that will understand that I am an emotional woman who cries and has feelings A love that won’t bring me down because he sees tears in my eyes, but a love that will cry with me, hold , and let me know that everything is going to be alright A love who will look past my little physical flaws and love me for me

So I know that one day... I will find my love...

Specializing In Diversity Since 1986

By: Catherine Davies

Howdy my Californian Buffalo in cowboy boots, I wrote you a little letter, Scrawled on the corner of a paper bag, I wrapped it in plenty of packaging tape, But I guess the UPS van must have lost it.

I sent with it an oak wooden spoon, So we can splinter through the earth together, And then celebrate with a Newcastle, No, wait, you’re a Jack & Coke sorta fella’ I’ll meet you in Notre Dame, sitting on a mahogany pew, ‘Cause love is my religion, and my religion is you. Your little waiting Russet Chestnut.

See... I want a love A God-fearing love A love that will keep God first A love that knows we’re not perfect, but will do everything in his might to be more like God A love that will build his family on a Godly foundation I want a love... Oh God I want a love... See... God said in his word: “He who finds a wife, findeth a good one...”

232 Broomstick Avenue, San Diego, CA.

Compiled by: Raven Gadsen Special to the RMR

Visit r.com m ther re! o m for P. 16 • February 2012


The RMR - Febuary 2012