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COMFORT ZONE

In her new book, Cozy, Isabel Gillies asks pointed questions to uncover the essence of a peaceful moment.

The author in a cozy sweater

Identity. The truth of who you are. Knowing yourself is at the epicenter of coziness. What makes you tick? What is your jam? Point of view? What roads have you traveled? How do you learn? Who do you love? Funnily enough, some people find coziness in things that once made them sad. I asked someone I met at a dinner party what she found cozy. While twirling spaghetti, she confided that she had a lonely childhood, and was often left by herself in a nursery. She recalled there had been a grate over a heater in the room where she sat and read. She pantomimed how she hooked her little fingers into the shining brass cover. The habit of holding on to the warmed metal was a self-soothing habit, she suspected, but now that she’s a happily married mother of two with loads of friends, any time she has the opportunity, she’ll hold her hand up to the grate of a heater. I suspect the warmth plays a part here, but perhaps there is a reckoning with her past as well. The light that came into your window as a child—be it warm, cool, bright, hardly there, or blazing—could shape elements of what you can tap into later in life. But in order for that to happen, you must first notice the light. Coziness is in the particular. It’s a good start to know that you like color, for example. But what kind of color and where? Do you like wearing a certain shade of green? Do you like to have green notebooks to write in? Would you pick a green blanket over a red one? Do you use a green pen? Would you paint a room green? Recognizing yourself is a lifetime project. In learning how to be cozy, you are responsible for what happens to you, learning from it, then connecting it to your innermost self. From the book Cozy by Isabel Gillies. Copyright © 2019 by Isabel Gillies.

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