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Table of Contents Editor’s Note . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 The buzz about antioxidants . . . . . . . . . . . . . .7 A Weigh of Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .9 Tailgating . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .10, 11 The many faces of breast cancer . . . . . .16, 17 Where to get help . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .18 Images Woven In Silk . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .19 Scarves . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .20, 21 Ask A Man . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .24 Covered In Silk . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .25-30

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Antioxidants A Weigh of Life



Letter from the Editor Every morning when I pull out of my driveway I take a look back at my house. It’s a modest brick home that sits in a quiet neighborhood where the only exciting thing that happens is the occasional dog escaping from its perfectly manicured yard. During that last glance before I drive off to the office I look at the rose bush that sits in my front yard. I’d like to take credit for the vitality of the roses but I can’t. The roses came with the house. The former owner is the green thumb that planted the bush and made sure it had the nutrients it needs to stay alive all these years. Right now the red blooms invade your mind with their beauty. So red. So fragrant. I swear if I could bottle up that smell and sell it to a perfume counter I’d put Calvin Klein out of business. One morning I decided to clip a few roses and take them to the office with me. Why should I enjoy nature’s beauty only when I’m pulling in and out of my driveway? Thinking that my desk was in desperate need of some sprucing, I went into the garage and got my shears. From there I went into the house to get a vase. I was on a mission. Admiring the beauty of the roses, I totally was oblivious to the fact there were thorns waiting to bite my fingers. When that first thorn reached out and grabbed me, it was a reminder to me that life is beautiful but sometimes we are surprised by the pain we encounter. After I had a few moments to think about my morning quest for the perfect rose I was reminded of how life imitates nature. For years, all forms of cancer have been an uninvited dinner guest in many homes. Showing up, scaring the dickens out of those diagnosed. Recently I was asked why is the issue of breast cancer heard about more than prostate cancer or colon cancer. That was an answer I didn’t have. The only thing I could think of was, as women, we take care of our families and our homes and we do it with style, class and determination. So when it comes to fighting breast cancer we stand together as one. We stand strong. And we fight hard for our families, our homes and for our lives. When I left for work that morning, the morning I had a vase and two roses in my car, I still turned back to look at the rose bush. Even though I had been reminded that life can be painful, I still admired the beautiful petals. Sincerely, Shana Adkisson, Editor


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It shouts at you from the colorful packaging: “With powerful antioxidants!” With the vague promise of health and well-being, you itch to pick it up and put it in your grocery cart. But wait — what exactly are antioxidants? With so many products now touting antioxidants, many people understand that they’re good for you, but most still don’t know exactly what they are. According to the American Dietetic Association, antioxidants can help prevent certain kinds of disease as well as prevent the signs of aging. During the process in which our bodies use oxygen, some oxygen particles are created that can be harmful to the body, damaging cells and possibly leading to chronic disease. The particles, called free radicals, can be naturally created or caused by external forces such as pollution. Antioxidants, however, bind to the free radicals, reducing their power for destruction. Keri Hale, community dietitian with Norman Regional Health System, gave a more easily understood example to explain antioxidants. If you cut an apple, she said, oxygen will turn the apple brown in a short amount of time. However, if

you dip an apple in orange juice right after you cut it, the Vitamin C (an antioxidant) will prevent the apple from browning, Hale said. There are many different antioxidants and they can be found a in a variety of fruits, vegetables and healthy fats. Some examples include: Beta carotene that can be found in carrots, sweet potatoes, apricots, broccoli and spinach. Lycopene is found in tomatoes, watermelon and grapefruit. Vitamin C is available in citrus fruits, spinach and broccoli. Vitamin E can be found in foods with healthy fats such as nuts, avocados and canola oil. The difference between antioxidants and other nutrients, Hale said, is that these are necessary vitamins “that our body doesn’t make. It’s dependent on us eating them.” Hale agreed that most people don’t understand what antioxidants are, but she said it’s a smart marketing ploy anyway. “I don’t think most people understand at all what that means, they just think, ‘Oh, antioxidants’” and think the product will be good for them. Hale said people need to understand that the best way to ingest antioxidants is in foods where it occurs naturally. However, if you don’t consume those foods regularly, supplements or food that’s had antioxidants added to it will be better than nothing. An easy way to include antioxidants in your diet is to make sure you’re eating lots of colors, Hale said. “The deeper the color, the brighter the color, is where a lot of those nutrients are stored,” she said.

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On a recent flight, I was seated beside a couple who conversed in fits and starts. Though they did not once appear to be frustrated with one another or irritated in any way shape or form, when they talked, they spurted. She repeated herself a lot and he began to respond to her original statement in the middle of her restatement and for literally moments on end the two would talk simultaneously like the cacophony of birds playing chase in the trees. The moments following such abrasion were swollen in pregnant silence. Then another fit would be born, and the crippled exchange would jolt along again like a stick shift in the hands of a virgin driver, the abruptness of which never ceased to startle me. And though it was none of my business or concern, I ached for them and their limp.

Perhaps the discordant spattering of words pained me so because I find real talk to be intoxicating. I believe conversing is an art. And it’s almost as beautiful to witness as it is to be involved in. Think “Driving Miss Daisy” or “Twelve Angry Men”. Spaceships and bloodbaths sell movies but quintessentially through the years nothing sells quite like words and the actors who deliver them. Conversation has at its core the exchange of thoughts, ideas, concepts, feelings….but real talk is more than that. It moves beyond what is said into the subtle delicacy of how it’s said and when it is said. Real talk is timing and spacing personified. And it can take your breath away when it’s done well. Unfortunately, artful conversations are rare. For example, I have a friend whom I adore, but I can’t talk to on the phone. We have no timing. Were we to dance our toes would be bruised. We know each other well, yet try as we may we have no modus operandi. So when she calls, we exchange information and we hang up And I always feel the need to gargle. I love her but we have conversational arrhythmia. And it’s painful. At least for one of us.


In an awkward kind of way, I felt imprisoned by the uncomfortable nature of this verbal gait. I kept wanting them to find a pace, to feel a flow. I was a voyeur (a voyeur with little choice in the matter, but a voyeur still). And yet I could not let their dissonance go. It grated on my mind like the sand in the heel of my right shoe.

And it’s breathtaking to observe. Conversation is no different. Unfortunately, it’s almost as extinct. I ache for ramblers and non-listeners and jagged interrupters, in the same way I ache for point guards who can’t decide when to pass or where to cut. I wish for them clarity of thought, a booming drumbeat in their head and a partner who can be their foil. Yet I often wonder if I am aching for pains they do not have. Perhaps those who speak offbeat are like the tone deaf, happy to sing along at the top of their lungs because it all sounds like heaven to them.

Talk is cheap. Conversation: Priceless

On the other hand, I have friends with whom I can exchange words and ideas like a Wimbledon volley. We seem to possess an innate sense of when the other is finished and it is our turn. There is a cadence and a pitch pipe and the melody is clear. It’s as mindless as spoon to mouth. We don’t have to try; there is no conscientious shifting of gears. We just go.

Good conversation is the glue of long, lusty marriages and the lifeblood of thriving companies and nations. Real talk can heal a wound. It can tear down a wall. It can find a way out when there is none. It can re-start a heart.

In the sport of basketball nothing is more beautiful or more essential to purposeful offense than the perfect execution of the ‘give and go’. The ball goes there, then the passer cuts here and a rhythm is born. It’s a deadly offense, impossible to defend.

But you won’t find it on every street corner or in every row on American Airlines. It is an art, an art to be treasured and enjoyed. And for those who can feel its poetic ebb and flow, there is little finer.

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The art of tailgating By Peggy Laizure In the early 90s, former police chief Dan Cary and his wife, Bernetta, wanted to tailgate at the University of Oklahoma football game. They called a couple of friends, packed some food and erected a canopy. This fall, they and many other friends will set up four canopies and the “Fifth Quarter” will be open. Although the Carys did not attend OU, they have three daughters and a niece they helped raise who are all Sooners. Tailgating for the Carys first started on Lincoln Street behind O’Connells, “maybe the Louisville game,” Dan Cary said. “Someone had UPS deliver fresh lobster and we cooked it on the grass in front of the day care center,” Cary said. “The people from Louisville were really impressed.” The Carys, their daughters and a group of friends from Ada tailgate not only “football games but basketball, softball and everything.” “My wife and daughter cook a lot of stuff Friday night before the games,” Dan said. “We put up the canopies as soon as it is legal to get the spot you like. There is a tremendous amount of canopies between Asp and Jenkins. We have moved to different groups and different locations, and sometimes different groups merge together. Everybody brings different food Photos Provided items. We bring in a charcoaler, satellite and TV, generator, table and chairs.” “Everybody is really courteous,” Bernetta said. “We have never had any issues. Sometimes we will have people stay there because they don’t have a ticket because we have the satellite and they will watch TV. We’re just like one big family.

You try to get there and get your spot because you get acquainted with your neighbors. “We tailgated with the softball women last year,” Bernetta said. “Talk about tailgaters. We will do a little more next year. They have lots of games.” The Carys travel to some away football games, especially OU-Texas. “We’re anxious to see the new stadium in Arlington,” she said. “It’s fun.” Bernetta and her daughter, Danna, begin “power cooking” Friday evening. Danna makes the pizza bread. “We make the brownie sheet cake momma made but now it has coffee in it,” Bernetta said. “A lot of people come around and grab those.” They make homemade salsa and “food you just pick up and eat,” Bernetta said. “Finger food.” They cook all kinds of barbecue. “The Ada group comes in 7 a.m. Saturday with brauts and all kinds of stuff on the grill,” Bernetta said. Chicken, after the game, depending on game time. With the traffic, you want to hang out for a while anyway.” “We make twice baked potatoes, baby back ribs, burgers, hot dogs, about everything you can think of that’s bad for you but really good,” Bernetta said. She makes the potatoes at home and lays them on the grill game day to melt the cheese. All the desserts also are made at home. One daughter, Brittney Stone, graduated this spring and will attend law school. However, she enrolled in a class this fall so she “could have one more football tailgate season,” she said.

Left: Steve Wright grills up some meat and vegetables as he and some friends tailgate on the east side of the OU stadium. Right: Sooner fans tailgate on the east side of the OU stadium before the start of a Sooners' game. Photos by Kevin Ellis


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The many faces By Abigail Hess

Each year countless Oklahomans are affected by breast cancer. Whether you’re a family member, a friend or a survivor yourself, chances are your life has been touched by this disease as well. And beyond the screenings and the treatments is a difficult, emotional struggle — one that impacts loved ones of those diagnosed almost as much as survivors themselves. To learn more about the psychological side of breast cancer, Silk talked to survivors and their families about their personal battles and what coping strategies helped them stay positive.

“Everyone said to go ahead and tell the kids, so I did… but I tried to always talk to them about it in a positive way.” But no matter how a person learns of their loved one’s diagnosis, the news is hard to take… and the subsequent fight to overcome the cancer can be even harder. When Jack Willis, former Norman resident and OU professor, learned he was part of the 1 percent of men who have breast cancer, he was shocked to say the least. But the struggle to follow was even more trying, especially for wife Becky Willis. “When they said cancer, to me that was like a death sentence,” she says. Hearing of her husband’s illness was not the worst of it, though. Following his mastectomy it was decided that Jack would receive chemotherapy, and news of this treatment plan caused Becky understandable concern. “What worried me most about Jack was the chemo, and then to have to watch him go through it was so hard,” she says. “The medicine made him really emotional. It’s hard for a wife to watch her husband cry.” For relief from the stress of Jack’s illness, Becky kept herself busy. She worked parttime so she could attend all of Jack’s treatments and Anne Austin, left, is pictured with her husband Jim Austin, daughter Megan Guynes, son-in-law Jarad Guynes, she assumed the household chores Jack was son Matt Austin and her daughter-in-law Lindsey Austin. Photo Provided accustomed to doing When Anne Austin was diagnosed with stage II breast cancer when in better health. in 2003 she knew it was a fight she would win. “Jack and I used to split “It’s weird, but I don’t remember being afraid. I just thought everything 50-50, and ‘I’m not going to die from this’… it was my gut reaction.” when he got sick I Although she felt no fear for her own well-being, she wordid it all.” ried about how to tell her children. Khanghahi “That was the worst part. I just didn’t know what to say to also stays them.” busy to Just two months ago Mary Khanghahi learned what it was like to be on the receiving end of that conversation. Diagnosed June 18, Khanghahi’s mother Zahra Khalili was hesitant to speak about her breast cancer. “When she called to tell me, she just kept saying ‘it’s not good.’ It was really difficult for her to say the word ‘cancer.’” Eventually Khalili opened up to her daughter, and Khanghahi is now actively involved in her mother’s recovery. Austin also Zahra Khalili, Mary Khanghahi, Michelle Khalili, Ali Khalili, Mansoor Khalili chose to be honest with her children about her diagnosis. Photo Provided


of breast cancer keep hers and her mother’s minds off cancer. “From morning till night we keep busy. We go to dinners, movies, whatever we can to keep her occupied and keep her from dwelling on it.” Though the process has been difficult for Khanghahi and her family, they try constantly to look on the bright side and not let Khalili’s diagnosis become the center of attention. “At first we were shocked and just broke down… our minds immediately went to the worst scenario. My dad was in denial and very upset about it, but once we knew it was real and it was happening we stopped. We realized getting upset wouldn’t help anything, and we learned to hope for the best.” Khanghahi cites her extensive family as her sounding board and source of comfort during her mother’s battle with breast cancer, while Jack and Becky Willis say they were each other’s best support groups. “For six months of chemotherapy it was just the two of us in our own world,” Becky says. Austin says her friends and husband, Jim, helped her get through the toughest times. “Jim is a rock, so I could talk to him. When I’d start worrying about having a mastectomy, he’d make a joke about how I’d always wanted a boob job. He could handle what I was going through.” Austin says letters and words of support from friends were vital

Jack and Becky Willis Photo by Abigail Hess in keeping her spirits up. “My girlfriends were invaluable. So many sent me notes and I’ve saved all of them. They were just incredible letters.” Whether you’re currently battling breast cancer or love someone who is, there are many outlets for the emotional uncertainties associated with this kind of trauma. Austin kept her spirits high by never allowing herself to fear death. “I didn’t want to go through it, but I didn’t feel sorry for myself either.” She says. Khanghahi handles the stress by surrounding herself with her close-knit family. “We focus on how lucky we are, and we don’t spend time thinking, ‘why me?’ My family firmly believes in the power of a positive attitude.” Jack and Becky learned to appreciate the simple things to get them through Jack’s treatment process. “During the chemo when I’d still be going to work, I’d focus on getting well more than anything.” Jack says. Becky agrees. “We learned that health is more important than work or money. It gave us a new perspective.”


Where to get help If you or your loved one is battling breast cancer and would like to participate in a support group, there are many to choose from in the Norman/Oklahoma City areas. Below is a list of groups recommended to Silk by the Susan G. Komen Foundation (and a few we found for the internet-savvy reader). • Norman Regional Hospital Breast Cancer Support Group Begins Sept. 1 and meets 7 to 8:30 p.m. For more information, call 307-3174 • Midwest Regional Hospital Breast Care Center Monday’s Friends Meets the second Monday of the month For more information, call 610-8872 • OU Health Science Center SOS-Support Our Survivors Meets the third Thursday of the month For more information, call 271-8001 x48592 • Saint Anthony Hospital Love Cancer Institute Breast Cancer Wellness Support Group Meets 5 to 6 p.m. the fourth Thursday of the month For more information, call 231-3002 • University of Oklahoma Breast Friends For more information, call 271-4514 • National Breast Cancer Foundation Inc. Breast Cancer Support Visit them online at • Breast Cancer Support and Community Visit them online at

By Abigail Hess


The Susan G. Komen Foundation is paving the way for breast cancer research and awareness. Below are some fast facts to familiarize you with the organization whose vision is a world without breast cancer. • Established in 1982, Nancy Brinker started the foundation in honor of her sister, Susan G. Komen. Komen lost her battle with breast cancer in 1978 at the age of 36. • Executive director of the central Oklahoma affiliate Lorna Palmer says, “Our organization is looking for the cure, but we’re also going to take care of survivors and their families until that day comes.” • The Susan G. Komen Foundation offers college scholarships for students who have lost a parent to breast cancer. • Last year alone, the organization’s central Oklahoma affiliate gave $653,000 in local grants to increase awareness and offer breast cancer screenings for underprivileged men and women. • Central Oklahoma’s SGK also raised $250,000 for breast cancer research. • The Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure began in Dallas in 1983, and is now the largest 5K series in the world. • Every year, 1 million people participate nationally in the Race for the Cure. • Oklahoma City’s Race for the Cure is scheduled for Oct. 10 and is open to the public. Palmer said the event is intended to “help remember those who lost their battles and celebrate those who are still here.” • To sign up for the Race for the Cure or to make a donation, visit Susan G. Komen’s central Oklahoma Web site at or call 526-RACE.


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All wrapped up By Julianna Parker Jones

Scarves have made a big splash in the world of accessories this year.And they’re the perfect fall accessory, because they easily add a touch of warmth to a breezy outfit. Scarves are fun and versatile, but it can be a little daunting trying to figure out how to wear them. They can be worn as headbands and belts, but here we’ll show ways to wear neck scarves. Remember, though, that these are just suggestions. The possibilities are limited only by your imagination (and the amount of moxie with which you wear them).

The Slipknot This is a pretty basic scarf style that works well on cold days with a coat or jacket. Simply fold a rectangle scarf in half and hang it behind your neck with the fold on one side in front and the ends hanging down the other. Then open the fold so it’s like a loop and feed the ends through. Pull as tight or loose as you like.

The Loose Tie This one’s almost so simple you wouldn’t have thought about it. It works great with just about any fabric and style of scarf. Drape the scarf over your neck then tie it just above your bra cups like the first step to making a bow. Then arrange the ends of the scarf so they’re on top of each other, not side by side.

The Wrap Around This style works great with long, skinny scarves. It jazzes up an outfit similar to a bold necklace, but with a lot more bang. To achieve this look, simply wrap the scarf around your neck once, leaving both ends to hang down your front. You can make the loop tighter around your neck with delicate scarves or looser for bulkier fabrics.

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The Bandana Wrap This works best with large, square scarves and is basically a variation of the Wrap Around. Fold the square in half. Grab the folded corners and wrap them around the back of your neck and pull them down in front. With smaller square scarves, fold in half and tie the folded ends behind your neck without pulling the ends to the front.

The Draped Shawl This one adds a touch of sophistication to your wardrobe. It also has an added bonus of doing what no other scarf style does: It keeps your shoulders and arms warm. To achieve this style, drape an oblong scarf across your back and pull one side around your front to tuck on your shoulder. Pull the other side over that shoulder and drape over the other shoulder. Pull, fold and gather as desired.

The Tied Wrap This style of wearing a scarf works best with silk scarves or those with more texture to the fabric. Any shape will do, as long as it’s not too long. For square scarves, fold them in half before attempting this style. To wear, start off like the Wrap Around style, but instead of leaving the ends loose in the front, tie them beneath the loop.

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Ask A Man By Michael Kinney

Question: My husband spends hours preparing for his tailgate party. I thought that tailgating was just a couple of frosty drinks in a cooler. Why is tailgating so important?

Answer: According to “A tailgate party is a social gathering held in parking lots before and often after an event. The event might be a concert, football game, baseball game or other attraction. Participants use open tailgates for impromptu seating and access to ice chests, food, folding chairs and other tailgate party necessities. A tailgate party is a way for people with similar interests to socialize and celebrate the event they’re attending. The tailgate party might be localized in a certain area of the parking lot where people spontaneously gather around vehicles that are tailgating. At other events, the tailgate party virtually encompasses the entire parking lot.” Now, that is a clean description. It encompasses almost everything positive about tailgating. But if you ask any man walking around the parking lot of any Oklahoma home football game, you will get the explanation but in far less words. It would probably go something like this. “Tailgating is the greatest invention since football itself.” That is how important tailgating has become to athletic events. In fact, I know many men, and a few women, who will show up at 6 a.m. for an afternoon game and never actually enter the stadium. Their entire day is spent outside with the fellow tailgating society. No matter the weather. Prime example, last season’s Big 12 Championship game took place on one of the coldest nights of the year at Arrowhead Stadium in Kansas City, Mo. It was so frigid, the players wore long thermals and had their faces covered with masks.

But outside the stadium, tailgaters could be seen hovering around their portable televisions and radios enjoying themselves even as the temperature dipped below freezing. Some sported T-shirt and shorts like a badge of honor. This may seem foreign and you are having a hard time wrapping your brain around the attraction to tailgating. That is understandable. Tailgating is not just a social gathering. It’s not just a party. Not only is it a competition of the highest order, it’s a community with its own hierarchy and rules. First, you want to be known as the top tailgater in town. It’s like being king of the community without a crown. As your legend spreads, fans and other tailgaters will make a point to come by your spread every weekend to see what type of amenities you bring to the table, such as HDTV, big screen plasma televisions with surround sound, a barbecue pit that can roast 10 pigs at once, leather recliners for 20 or more friends, etc. Others will seek advice on how to improve their own party. It’s an important position in the tailgating clan. If you are unable to be King of the Tailgaters, the next best thing is be known for a unique element that no other person will have in the parking lot. Maybe it’s best tasting smoked ribs, gumbo directly from New Orleans or a portable Direct-TV satellite that picks up games featuring The Philadelphia Passion, a lingerie football team. There are too many other layers that make up the tailgating sandwich to get into in just one column. As of now, you really only need to know one thing to enjoy the experience of tailgating. Since its inception, tailgating has matured from just a gathering of like-minded fans to an art form. For those who plan to enter this world for the first time, if you want to be welcomed into the tribe, you had better treat it with respect or risk being treated like an outcast on “Survivor.”

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(Back Row) Jandi Bieler, Cristina Filippo, Stephanie Steward, Tina Wilson, Robi Craig, Kristi Eselin, LeAnne Pence, (Front Row) Sarah Hyden, Jennifer Cathey

Matt Clouse, Joey Wishnuck, Anna Brannon, Brad Swickey, Taylor McDaniel, Steve McDaniel.

Jenni Rowland, Toby Rowland, Linda Wilson, Sherri Bryant, Jeff Bryant, Casey Vinyard, Brian Vinyard, Leslie LaReau, Tyler Lareau.


Covered In Silk Lift Group Photos by Cami Morris

Rita Akin, Jon Davenport, Margaret Leslie, Debbie Taylor, Rhonda Watson, Richard Kozlowski, Sharon Crawford

Rae Suart, Delta Ware, Melva Debridge, Etoil Tullius, Kay Turnquist, Jean Parker, Eloise Adams

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Silk - A Magazine for Women  

The September- October issue of Silk - A Magazine for Women.