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5 Editor’s Letter Adventures and successes as brand new dog parents

Woman of Substance

6 Kim King is the Queen She definitely cares about people and her community. You can bank on it.

Feature Stories

8 A Woman’s Touch Custom Builders of Oklahoma, L.L.C. has three women builders as part of its four-person building staff.

10 Circle of Friendship It’s more than quilting. It’s a social meeting, a therapy session and a lunch.

14 Everything’s Coming Up Roses Silk has compiled a list of tips from some area experts. Happy planting!

16 Sport It From rubies to pearls, find the jewelry that will sparkle this spring.

20 Cha Time A fusion-style restaurant, combining Asian-style noodles and steak

22 The Good Stuff Homemade recipes for our favorite cookies and candy bars.

24 Food for Thought Why gardening ranks among the most popular hobbies in the country.

26 World of Wine


31 Covered in Silk Photos from fundraisers and social events in and around Norman

Hot Reads

Shevaun Williams was not properly credited for her work in the last issue of Silk. Shevaun Williams shot the cover photo and all photos of Kathryn Selmon and her family.



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editor’s note Dearest Silk readers,

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 Cathy Hanselman Advertising Executive 366-3563

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Sara Ann Kaplan Writer

Patricia Harvey Writer

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My husband and I recently became new parents. OK, just doggie parents, but still – it’s a big responsibility. We’re new to the job with neither of us having experience in dog raising. This is his first dog and my second, although our family dog came into our family when I was in elementary school. I’m sure I wasn’t too much help. Mentally, we prepared ourselves for the terrors we thought puppies would wreak on our house and our lives. We were ready to part with household items lost to a chewing puppy. We stocked up on carpet cleaner. What we weren’t ready for is the surprise that we got the best dog in the world. Jake made puppy raising a breeze. For the last several months, we have been through lots of bones and hours of training. We’ve had our share of funny photos and puppy cuddle. Jake fits into our home perfectly. I knew he would from the moment I walked him into the grass at the Norman Animal Welfare Pet Adoption Center. Yup, Jake’s our little rescue puppy. We took him in at eight weeks old when he was in need of a home. At first, my husband, Jared, was nervous about getting a shelter puppy. He was worried that he wouldn’t train as well or learn as quickly. It was all in vain. Like I said, he’s the best dog in the world. As more puppies fill the shelters and rescues this spring, I encourage you to think adoption first when looking for a new family members for your home. As a volunteer with a rescue, I know that the animals available are very friendly, sweet and yearning for a home. To give you a head start, I thought I would provide you with information of some of the rescues in the area:


Saundra Morris Advertising Director

Terry Connor Publisher

Adoption fees: $85 for cats and $95 for dogs, includes vaccinations, spay/neuter and medical tests

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on the cover Kim King, First State Bank, Noble, OK. King is this issue’s “Woman of Substance”. Photo by Masterpiece Studio, Norman OK.

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Hands Helping Paws, Inc. Can be found on Facebook under Hands Helping Paws, Inc. P.O. Box 1024 Norman, OK 73070 Adoption fees- kittens $80 and adult cats $65 and includes spay-neuter

Norman Animal Welfare 3428 Jenkins Norman, OK 73069 Open from 9 a.m. to 5:45 p.m. Mondays through Fridays 292-9736

Second Chance Animal Sanctuary 4500 24th Ave. NW Open from 11 a.m. to 6 p.m. Tuesdays through Fridays 11 a.m. to 5 p.m. – Saturdays 321-1915

Adoption fee is $60 and includes the spay/ neuter operation, vaccinations, microchipping, city pet licenses and other medical testing.

Adoption fees: $90 for all animals, includes spay/neuter, vaccinations and microchipping

Sincerely, Aaron Wright Gray


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im King definitely cares about people and her community. You can bank on it. King, CEO of First State Bank in Noble, says her parents, combined with her faith, are the inspiration that motivates her. “Our family ethic is to actively seek ways to support the community because we understand what the community has done for us,” she said. But King doesn’t just talk the talk. She walks the walk. Having been involved with caring for children in the foster care system, King says one of her great blessings is the privilege of adopting her two children, Malichi (11) and Leigha (7). Never having married, King says her kids were born in her heart. Her heart extends to the community as well. King believes there are two kinds of family: “Regular family and our family of heart.” She feels the ties to her community are so strong that she considers it to be part if her family of heart. “To give love back to kids and to the community is a small thing to do,” King said. But she does it in a big way.

King Queen is the

of Noble By Jo c e ly n Pe d e rse n Ph oto by Ky le Ph illip s

To give love back to kids and to the community is a small thing to do. But she does it in a big way.



King served on the board of the Noble Senior Citizen’s Village and as a trustee of the Pioneer Library System during its expansion. “Kim King is a person of unquestionable character and integrity,” said Robin Parker, who served on the library board with King. “Like her father, Ken, she loves and cares about Noble—both the place and the people.” Currently, King sits on the Noble Alumni Association board and is a director of the Oklahoma Banker’s Association, where, with a humble heart, she says she’s “learned so much from other bankers on the board.” Her involvement with the community doesn’t end there. She teaches a toddler class at church and has volunteered at, and the bank is now a sponsor of, Homework Help-

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ers, a free tutoring service held at the Noble Public Library for school-aged kids, where King is the only business person who volunteers. She administers the Kenneth L. King Reading Project, which is a program that raises money throughout the year to provide a book to every first grader in Noble, Wanette and Byars schools. King’s mother, Betty King, was the first woman to receive a Ph.D. in Remedial Reading at OU. Her mother’s love of books has inspired Kim King to follow in the footsteps of Dolly Parton, who founded the “Imagination Library” in Tennessee where, according to King, every newborn baby leaving the hospital in Pigeon Forge receives a new book. “We have to do that here,” King says. “Whatever you dream you can be, through reading, you can be.” Dreaming of helping others is put into practice at the bank, too. First State Bank offers a food pantry providing staples to those in need. On Fridays, employees who want to wear jeans donate $10 to do so. Through this venue, funds have been donated to breast cancer research, the Kenneth L. King Reading Project and the Little River Zoo, to name a few. The bank also sponsors a community Thanksgiving dinner where employees donate their time to serve an average of 150 people who might otherwise eat alone. At Christmas, there is a tree in the lobby with tags listing names, needs and wishes of folks who can use a little help. Every year from Thanksgiving until approximately Jan. 15, the bank returns to its employees (in the form of a bonus check) 20 percent of every dollar spent locally because King believes that circular economics serves everyone in the community. Additionally, the bank supports the local burn closet for folks who need to replenish clothing and furnishings after a fire. “There’s always more that can be done,” King said. She believes doing small things can mean a lot. When a bank customer passes away, all the employees sign a sympathy card to send to the family. “Part of the responsibility as a bank, and a person who is very blessed, is to show the love of Christ to other people,” she said. “Even if they don’t share the same beliefs, they’ll know the bank’s caring ethic.” Terrie Thatcher, second grade teacher at Hubbard Elementary and director of Homework Helpers at the Noble Public Library has known King for many years. “Kim does an enormous amount of community work,” Thatcher said. “She doesn’t toot her own horn, she does everything behind the scenes. We may never know everything she does. She’s just a remarkable lady.”

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Norman Architecture and Design: Adding

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touch By A a ro n Wr i gh t Gray S i l k e d i to r

P h oto s by J e r ry Lai zure

Custom Builders of Oklahoma, L.L.C. has a model home in the Hallbrooke housing edition in northeast Norman.


e say we build the house like we would want to live in it,” Tara Williams, interior designer with Custom Builders of Oklahoma, L.L.C., said while showing Silk one of the builders’ show homes in Hallbrooke, a housing edition in northeast Norman. The four-bedroom home, at 2101 Hallbrooke Dr., has a media room, an outdoor kitchen, a stone fireplace inside, a two-bay garage, a wine cellar, a 10-foot closet in the master bedroom and custom cabinetry. The show house also has an audio system connecting the house and a vacuum-system that runs throughout the house, making for easier cleaning days. The house is listed for $469,900. “A lot of the features you see in this house are pretty much standard for us,” said Linda Moline, another interior designer



Main living area, with gas fireplace

with Custom Builders of Oklahoma. “There’s no wasted space.” The company is in the process of starting their seventh home in Hallbrooke. Custom Builders of Oklahoma, L.L.C. was started in 2003 and has three women builders as part of its four-person building staff. One of these builders, Rhonda Trower, said that the company prides itself on working directly with the customer. The team is on-site, putting their stamp of approval on the building process. She said each house they build also has a blog site, updating future owners on the building process. Trower said the company mainly builds in Norman, but has done work in Mustang and south Oklahoma City. Trower came into the company with an accounting history, saying building had always been a dream.

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▲ Rhonda Trower, builder, and Linda Moline and Tara Williams, decorators, are all part of the team that created the model home.

▼ The four-bedroom model home has a wine cellar and guest bathroom near the entry. Also in the picture is the bottom of an indoor balcony from the upstairs media room.

“It was always just a passion of mine,” she said. She said having a team of women helping her build shows, especially for the men who view the home. “You can tell women have built this house,” she joked. Trower said she compares homebuilding to motherhood when working with new home builders. “We tell everyone ‘Your house will start taking on its own personality,’” Moline said.



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Norman quilters create circle of friendship It’s more than quilting. It’s a social meeting, a therapy session and a lunch. 10


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fter coming in from the cold, a dozen women move easily around the back room of Patchwork Place, a local quilting store. As they settle into their work, the warm atmosphere lends itself to the many tasks at hand. For the next three or four hours, the group called “The Strippers” will focus on individual quilting projects, some of which have been years in the making; and they’ll chat about any subject tossed into the ring. “Quilters’ circles are a safe place to be, talk and confide,” said Anne Watkins, an original “Stripper” and quilting instructor. As one quilt shop owner put it, “When women quilt together, they aren’t just sewing squares; they’re stitching together a community.” “Quilting connects women with one another,” said Watkins. “We’ve been through in vitro fertilization, adoption, marriage, kids, death, divorce and one Ph.D.” Feeding what some might call an addiction, quilters often have five or more projects going at the same time. Some prefer machine quilting, which goes quickly. Others, like Henrietta Cross and Mary Johnson, have been working a very old pattern called Grandmother’s Flower Garden for over fifteen years – every stitch by hand. Made of thousands of tiny hexagons, “It’s like a parquetry puzzle,” Johnson said.

How important are these monthly gatherings to the women who come bearing sewing machines and fabric? The Strippers have only canceled one meeting in their two year history. Their parent group, Shady Ladies of the Evening, have cancelled only once in twenty-six years, and that was due to this year’s snow, said Watkins. “Some people even made it the night a tornado hit two years ago.” During Hurricane Katrina, Joann Polgar and her husband evacuated their home near the Gulf Coast and went north to Norman, where their daughter and son-in-law live. They never moved back to the storm-ravaged area. It wasn’t easy at first, Polgar said. “I was lonely and needed friends.” A quilter for eleven years, she knew what to do. “When a quilter moves to a new town or takes a vacation, the first place they go is a quilt shop,” she said. Her first stop, Patchwork Place, is where she met Anne Gaines, a quilting instructor at the time. Polgar joined the Norman Area Quilters’ Guild, a group of over 100 members, and then branched out to small groups, clusters of ten or twelve women who quilt together in homes or churches. Before long she was in and out of friends’ houses. “I thought I’d died and gone to heaven,” she said. Anne Geiger devotes much of her time to charitable quilting. Diagnosed


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with Multiple Sclerosis, she gave up the practice of law and then her teaching position at University of Oklahoma. After her husband passed away in 1995, Geiger decided she would not succumb to depression. “Quilting has given me a reason to live,” she said. “When I’m tired, my legs don’t work, I can cut things out. It’s a way to get out of myself and into other people,” she said. Her quilting group at St. Mark’s Church won the Knights of Columbus International Patriots Award for contributing fifty quilts to the Norman Veteran’s Center. For many quilters, the knowledge that their labors are benefiting teen parents, children diagnosed with cancer, or child victims of sexual and physical abuse, makes the work that much more rewarding. “Quilters are the most generous people in the whole world,” said Watkins. Sometimes they even make things for one another: a quilted purse, placemats, or a wall hanging, such as the one Watkins made for Wilma DeBerry. The quilt depicts the sinking of DeBerry’s sailboat. In each square the craft is closer to its demise. Watkins waited a couple of months before giving it to her friend. “I wanted it to be funny,” she said. Three times a year, the group sets off for quilting retreats. Packing sewing machines, snacks, and projects, they say goodbye to TV, phones and husbands. “We’ll quilt eight, ten, fifteen hours a day,” Watkins said. “Some women stay up all night.” “The goal is to get all your stuff into the car and arrive with everything needed,” said Juliet Butler. “If you happen to forget something,” said DeAnn Morgan, “you have all these people who’ll give it to you.” Every table in the back room has a power-strip, but Deanna Barringer would rather stay “unplugged.” Running the machine,” she said, “it’s too hard to hear the gossip.” Some of the chit-chat includes show and tell. “We love to see what other people are making,” said Watkins, “It inspires us.” According to Judy Butts, they can be a jealous group. “If one person gets a new tool, we all have to get one.” Some of the women in the back room seem to have a laid back attitude. Others,



Front to rear… Henrietta Cross, Anne Watkins, DeAnn Morgan

Carol Haynes

Wilma DeBerry

like Butler, pursue perfection. She’s made about one hundred quilts, she said, many of them miniatures. But the one on the table, filled with impeccable stitching, is the only one she’ll ever quilt by hand. “I used to think nobody had as much fun as we did,” said Watkins. An encounter with another group of fun-loving quilters changed her mind. As it turns out, the names and faces were different, but deep down in their very fiber, they were cut from the same cloth. Contact the Norman Area Quilters’ Guild at www.normanareaquiltersquild. org. For quilting classes and more, visit Patchwork Place, 900 24th Ave. #6, or call 405-321-4569.

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Pictured above is the University of Oklahoma’s Rose Sharp Rose Garden, which blooms brightly along Regents Walk, west of Evans Hall and the Neustadt Wing of Bizzell Memorial Library. The garden honors Mrs. Sharp, OU’s First Lady during the tenure of her husband, Paul F. Sharp, as OU’s ninth president from 1971 to 1978.  The outside ring consists of white “Iceberg” roses and the arbors have red “Dortmund” roses.  The center bed is “Queen Elizabeth” roses and the remaining four beds of roses contain Tropicana(orange), Opening Night(red), Graham Thomas(yellow) and Just Joey(peach).

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s spring begins to creep into Cleveland County, many people start thinking about their gardens. For those interested in roses, with their lingering sweet fragrance and showy blooms, Silk has compiled a list of tips from some area experts. Happy planting! Planting Tracey Payton, horticulture educator at the Cleveland County Extension Office, said March is a good time to plant bare root or dormant roses. If planting container roses, she said, anytime the soil is good and the last frost has passed will be an appropriate time to plant. Soil The best soil for planting is soil with a pH factor of 6.0 to 7.0, according to Allen King, director of



landscape and grounds at the University of Oklahoma. Payton recommended planting a little above the soil grade and adding a couple of inches of mulch. “Most roses are going to call for a well-drained soil,” Payton said. She said that type is hard to find in Central Oklahoma, but suggested that gardeners add compost or fertilizer on top of soil after planting. “Anything you can do to add organic matter to the soil will help,” she said. Care Tammi Lessor, the greenhouse manager for Goldsby’s Marcum’s Nursery, suggested pruning roses in mid-March, before flowering begins. Payton said that Oklahoma roses are prone to Blackspot and they need to be sprayed with fungicide about every two weeks. Lessor said roses need six to eight hours of sun a day. “Deadheading is an important practice for roses, especially the continuous blooming varieties. Removing the spent blooms conserves the energy the plant would normally use for seed produc-

tion, encourages repeat flowering and removes potential disease harboring sites,” King said. He noted that deadheading needs to occur after a bloom has lost all its petals. King said roses are heavy feeders and need to be fertilized three times a year with a fertilizer such as a 5-10-5. “Roses should be pruned back and thinned out each year to one-third of their actual size, leaving only five to seven canes,” King said. Once pruned, he said, the rose should resemble a “V” or vase shape. Variety suggestions Both Payton and Lessor said Knock Out roses do well in Oklahoma. “They aren’t a very showy rose,” Lessor said. She said they bloom in the spring through the fall and are very popular in this area. Payton said they are also less prone to Blackspot. King suggested an “Encore” variety. “This is the perfect rose for the beginning gardener since it is relatively disease free, blooms from spring until frost and adopts well to most soil varieties,” he said.


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Sport it!

From rubies to turquiose to pearls, Silk is determined to help readers find the jewelry that will help them sparkle this spring. Showing a variety of looks and prices from three local shops are Silk readers and childhood friends Elisabeth Waltman and Susan Grossman. P h oto s by J e r ry Lai zur e

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Susan sports a brilliant Brighton watch from In Your Dreams, $75.

Susan sparkles in this Bellari necklace from Brockhaus Jewelry, $4,000.



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Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art… It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival. ~C.S. Lewis Elisabeth is wearing Cherry Red Pearls from Brockhaus Jewelry, $165 for necklace and $100 for bracelet. Susan is wearing multi-colored coin pearls with 14k gold accents from Mitchell’s Jewelry. Pearl necklace is $400, pearl earrings are $100 and pearl bracelet is $265.

Above - Susan shows off turquoise necklace with silver handcrafted cross and charm from Love Tokens from Mitchell’s Jewelry. Cost is $475. Left - Elisabeth is all smiles in this fun-loving Brighton collection from In Your Dreams. Bracelet $68, earrings $43 and necklace $68. Below - Elisabeth is happy to wear this stunning Bellari bracelet from Brockhaus Jewelry, $10,890.


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Silk would like to thank Elisabeth Walkman, Susan Grossman, Brockhaus Jewelry, 2107 W. Main St.; In Your Dreams, 2109 W. Main St., Mitchell’s Jewelry, 218 E. Main St. and the Cleveland County Family YMCA, 1350 Lexington Ave. for their assistance during the photo shoot.

Elisabeth displays a citrine pendant necklace from the William Schraft collection at Mitchell’s Jewelry, $3,100.

Susan sports a blue topaz ring from the William Schraft collection from Mitchell’s Jewelry, $800.



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Cha Time fuses East and West By A aron Wr ig h t G r ay

The Grand Steak CHA TIME meal is one of the featured dishes at Cha Time and includes steak, shrimp, fried rice, soup and veggies.


pening in the summer of 2010, Cha Time Noodle Steakhouse in Norman is a fusion-style restaurant, with minimalist decor, combining Asian-style noodles and steak. Bert Lim, owner, has been in the restaurant business for seven years and wanted to bring a new type of restaurant to the Norman area. “We like to promote upscale- mixing East and West with steak and noodles,” he said. “There’s not many restaurants around that have that fusion feel.” Cha Time, he said, is inspired from the phrase tea time. Cha, Lim noted, means tea is some Asian countries. The menu at Cha Time has influences from Lim’s extensive travel history. As a child, he lived in Taiwan, Thailand, Malaysia, Singapore and all over the U.S. The menu offers everything from steak dishes to fried rice. Lim said he also brews his own house vodka with green tea, creating a mild, slightly sweet vodka taste. The restaurant offers 20 different styles of tea mixed drinks, unusual concoctions which combine teas and liquor. “It’s still new to the market,” Lim said.

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One of the most popular of these drinks is the Yellow Pataya Tea, which Lim described as the restaurant’s version of the L.I.T. “It’s a top seller by far, 100 percent, two thumbs up,” he said. The drink is a green tea mixed with vodka and whiskey. Cost is $9. One of their featured dishes is the Grand Steak CHA TIME, which includes a steak (either a choice KC strip or ribeye), specialty steak sauce, garlic shrimp, asparagus, side of salad, pineapple fried rice and soup of the day. Cost for this dish is $24.95.

Cha Time offers a private dining room that will hold two to four people. The room can be reserved for $30. They also offer vegan-friendly dishes. Cha Time is open from 11 a.m. to 10 p.m. on Tuesdays and Wednesdays, 11 a.m. to 1:30 a.m. on Thursdays and Fridays, noon to 1:30 a.m. on Saturdays and from 11 a.m. to 10 p.m. on Sundays. The restaurant is closed on Mondays. Cha Time is located at 2627 Classen Boulevard.


Cha Time offers unusual concoctions which combine teas and liquor. Featured above is the Thai tea, a whiskey based Thai iced tea; the Voodoo Tea, a rum-based sweet tea with orange flavor; the Pataya Tea, a vodka and whiskey based green tea drink and the Green-tea-ni, a vodka based green tea with melon flavor. 20


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After school snacking was perfected when an Oreo was disassembled and generously dunked in a glass of milk.


rowing up, I didn’t discriminate when a junk food craving nagged. After school snacking was perfected when an Oreo — single or double stuffed, though I shamelessly admit bending for a double dose of cream — was disassembled and generously dunked in a glass of milk. Or better yet, crushed in vanilla ice cream for a semi-homemade cookies and cream blend. And then there were Twix, practically three desserts in one with its crumbly cookie base, gooey caramel center and chocolate glaze wrapped in a golden wrapper. They were a Halloween treasure for me.

But over the years, as my tastes have matured, a once perfect concoction of cream and chocolate now seems tasteless ... fake and just as plastic as its shiny, blue packaging. I suddenly also found myself disappointed, even after one bite of a Twix. And then I stumbled upon the recipe below for a homemade Oreo and later a homemade mimic of the caramel and chocolate candy. The homemade Oreo version strikes a fresh taste on the slightly sweet, almost salty, cookie and creamy center blend. I dare say, it’s better than the original, and I have countless homemade version devotees who agree. And the homemade spin on the Twix has literally made knees buckle on first taste. What follows are homemade versions of classic American junk food, sans any icky, pre-packaged preservatives.

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Homemade Oreos

Homemade Twix Bars

A note about the sugar, the recipe below is for a sweet chocolate cookie. Oreos, however, are on the slightly salty side to compliment the sugary filling. If you want your cookie to mimic the original, you can take out a half-cup of the sugar (or compromise with a happy medium of 1 1/3 cups, as I usually do).

For the shortbread: 1/4 cup sugar 1/4 teaspoon salt

Adapted from Smitten Kitchen

Makes 25 to 30 sandwich cookies For the chocolate wafers: 1 1/4 cups all-purpose flour 1/2 cup unsweetened Dutch process cocoa 1 teaspoon baking soda 1/4 teaspoon baking powder 1/4 teaspoon salt 1 to 1 1/2 cups sugar [see recipe note] 1/2 cup plus 2 tablespoons (1 1/4 sticks) room-temperature, unsalted butter 1 large egg For the filling: 1/4 cup (1/2 stick) room-temperature, unsalted butter 1/4 cup vegetable shortening 2 cups sifted confectioners’ sugar 2 teaspoons vanilla extract Set two racks in the middle of the oven. Preheat to 375°F. In a food processor, or bowl of an electric mixer, thoroughly mix the flour, cocoa, baking soda and powder, salt, and sugar. While pulsing, or on low speed, add the butter, and then the egg. Continue processing or mixing until dough comes together in a mass.

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2 cups cake flour 5 1/2 o  unces (1 stick plus 3 tablespoons) unsalted butter, softened

Make the Shortbread: Preheat the oven to 350°F. Spray a 9x13-inch baking pan with pan spray and line with parchment paper. Spray the parchment. In a large bowl, cream the butter and sugar until fluffy. Gradually add the flour and salt and allow the dough to come together. The dough will be crumbly but should hold together when you squeeze it. Press the dough evenly into the bottom of the baking pan. Place in the oven and bake for 12 minutes. Rotate the pan from front to back and bake for another 10 minutes, until the shortbread is a deep golden brown. Remove from the oven and allow to cool on a rack to room temperature. For the caramel: 2 cups sugar 1/2 cup water 1 cup heavy cream 1 teaspoon vanilla

3/4 cup Corn syrup 1 teaspoon fresh lemon juice 1 cup sweetened condensed milk 1/4 teaspoon salt plus more for sprinkling over the caramel layer

Make the Caramel: Combine the sugar, golden syrup, water and lemon juice in a large saucepan. Place the pot on medium-high heat and bring to a boil. Do not stir from this point on. Keep an eye on the pan. The mixture will be very bubbly.

Take rounded teaspoons of batter and place on a parchment paper-lined baking sheet approximately two inches apart. With moistened hands, slightly flatten the dough. Bake for 7 minutes, rotating once for even baking. Set baking sheets on a rack to cool.

When the sugar syrup starts to turn golden brown, insert a candy thermometer to check the temperature. When it reaches 300°F, remove the pan from the heat and let it sit for 1 minute or until the bubbles subside. Carefully whisk in the heavy cream. Stir until smooth, then whisk in the condensed milk. Add the salt and vanilla. Whisk until smooth.

To make the cream, place butter and shortening in a mixing bowl, and at low speed, gradually beat in the sugar and vanilla. Turn the mixer on high and beat for 2 to 3 minutes until filling is light and fluffy.

Return the pan to the heat and stir constantly over medium heat until the caramel reaches 240°F. Remove from the heat and pour over the shortbread. While the caramel is warm, sprinkle the surface with Maldon salt.

To assemble the cookies, in a pastry bag with a 1/2 inch, round tip (or a Ziplock bag with the tip cut-off ), pipe teaspoon-size blobs of cream into the center of one cookie. Place another cookie, equal in size to the first, on top of the cream. Lightly press, to work the filling evenly to the outsides of the cookie. Continue this process until all the cookies have been sandwiched with cream.

Allow the caramel to set for two hours.

Dunk in a large glass of milk. Or lick out the cream before eating the cookie.

For the chocolate glaze: 6 oz bittersweet chocolate, finely chopped or bittersweet chocolate chips 2 tablespoons butter Make the glaze: Melt the chocolate and butter over a bain marie or in the microwave. If using the microwave, melt it slowly at 30-second intervals. Stir well after each interval. Once completely melted, pour over the caramel. Using a spatula, smooth the chocolate in a nice, even layer. Place in the refrigerator to set. Cut into desired shape and size. Serve.


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As I write this article, there’s still snow lingering on the ground. Maybe because of this I am day-dreaming about spring and planning our garden in my head. There is something almost magical about growing your own food. Starting from seed or tiny seedling and nurturing it for months into a meal is very rewarding. The ability to provide months of nutrition for your family with very little money and some hard work is almost a primal satisfaction. The cultivation of food is largely what sets humans apart from other animals. As my husband will confirm, I do NOT have a green thumb. Fortunately, he does and allows me to play along in the dirt. Somehow, he even taught our puppy how to dig up potatoes last year without putting teeth marks in them!

That’s the great thing about gardening and why it consistently ranks among the most popular hobbies in the country. Almost anyone can enjoy gardening, from young children to the elderly to the family pet who gets to spend time outside with you. In addition to providing the freshest and most nutritious food possible, gardening has other benefits: it’s great exercise and has been shown to reduce stress. A garden can also be a fabulous project to work on with your children. Getting your kids outdoors and away from the video games, TV, and computer will not only improve their physical health but they might even learn something. Once you start harvesting the fruits of your labor, having the kids help you in the kitchen can also be a blast! Another

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bonus is children are more likely to try (and enjoy) vegetables that they had a hand in growing. I’ve recently witnessed young children eating radishes straight from the ground. I only recently started liking radishes in the past five years; this was one childhood food hang-up that took a long time to overcome. Now is the time to start planning your garden. If you have space, start some seeds indoors to get a head start. Take advantage of the sunny winter days to start working on preparing your beds. If you’re starting a new bed in your yard, now is a great time to smother that sod with cardboard or several layers of wet newspaper. Add a layer of mulch: anything from grass clippings to shredded leaves to weed-free hay or straw will do. You can plant seedlings directly through these layers in the spring. A visit to the farmers’ market in May will not only offer bountiful choices of a seedlings, but you can also get expert advice from the farmers themselves. Make sure to chose plants you will actually like to eat. Tomatoes and squash plants can

be prolific, but be prepared to eat them almost everyday in July or explore some preservation methods. Canning produce is a great way to preserve food, but freezing is often easier and less work. Just note that some crops will freeze better after being lightly blanched. Consult the vast amount of information on the internet for the best preservation methods for your garden’s bounty.


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ood and wine are really “made for each other.” Perhaps not from the dawn of civilization, but assurdly not long after, the juice of grapes and other fruits became the medium to wash the food down. Fermentation was discovered as the means to preserve the juice in a palatable form. Finding what wines taste best with what foods has been going on as long as wine has been produced, the “pairing” of foods and wines. Taste is essentially an individual sensation – every person has a different perception of anything that they taste than any other person. It may be similar to what another person or persons perceive, but how sweet or sour and the pleasantness of the taste will be different from others. Discovering which wines bring out flavors or contrast pleasantly with the foods that we eat is the great adventure of trying different wines. The old saying “red wine with red meat, white wine with fish or white meat” is a rough and ready expression that red wines have more flavor to “stand up” to the stronger flavor of red meats. White wines tend to have lighter flavors and will not overpower the more subtle flavors of fish, chicken and pork.

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Area book clubs Norman Library: Lit Lovers First Tuesday of month at 6 p.m.

Wednesday Book Club Second Wednesday of month at 4 p.m.

Page Turners Second Thursday of month at 7 p.m.

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ooks are like ice cream: There’s a flavor for everyone. Some readers go for the passionate kisses and sacrificial heroic characters in romances, other prefer stories a little more out of the world with science fiction. For patrons of the Pioneer Library System, the whodunit seems to be the big pull. Readers in Cleveland County gravitate toward mystery, with writers Janet Evanovich, Stieg Larsson and Mary Higgins Clark making their mark on the top 10 list of books checked out from the Pioneer Library System in the past year. Judy Day, manager of the adult services department of the Norman Public

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Library, said that books are especially popular when all three of the aforementioned genres combine. “Even within the romance and mystery genre, the paranormal is really hot,” she said. For Norman readers, James Patterson’s books are popular reads, Day said. When it comes to nonfiction, food is the sensation, with diet and cooking books coming in as most read. Craft books on home improvement, knitting and such also are frequently checked out. Celebrity biographies are also popular, Day said, citing George W. Bush, President Barack Obama and Carol Burnett as those that pull in readers.

Noble Library: Monthly Book Club Second Thursday at 1 p.m.

Moore Library: On the Same Page Third Monday at 5:30 p.m.

Moore Reads Last Thursday at 6:30 p.m. Moore will also be starting a Business Book Club in March. Call 793-5100 for more information.


The Pioneer Library System listed the following novels as the most checked out books within the past year: Sizzling Sixteen by Janet Evanovich Caught by Harlan Coben

The Shadow of Your Smile by Mary Higgins Clark

The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo by Stieg Larsson

Savor the Moment by Nora Roberts

Shattered by Karen Robards

Nowhere to Run by C.J. Box

House Rules by Jodi Picoult

Dead in the Family by Charlaine Harris

Hannah’s List by Debbie Macomber

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Tibetan monks from the Gaden Shartse Monastery will be in Norman March 20 through April 3 — The monks will present a free slide show “The Inside Story: Images of Tibetan Monastic Life” at 7 p.m. March 22 in Meachum Auditorium on the University of Oklahoma campus. — Chenrezig (Buddha of Compassion) Meditation Workshop will be offered March 25 and 26 at Norman Unitarian Universalist Fellowship. The workshop is limited to 40 participants and pre-registration is required. The cost of is $95. — “A Journey to the Roof of the World: Sacred Dance and Chants of Tibet” will be presented at 3 p.m. Sunday, March 27 in the OU Sharp Concert Hall. — From March 29-April 2 the monks will create the sand mandala of compassion. This event will take place at St. Stephens United Methodist Church in Norman and the team of monks may be

observed in the process as they continue the ancient ritual of building the sacred sand painting. — A series of public lectures will also take place during this week at St. Stephens at 7 p.m. March 29, March 30, March 31 and April 1. Suggested donation for each lecture is $15.00. Medieval Fair of Norman is the state’s largest weekend event and the third largest event in Oklahoma, and was selected by Events Media Network as one of the top 100 events in the nation. In its 35th year, this year’s fair will take place at Reaves Park April 1-3. Browse through the medieval village of over 200 art and craft booths offering unique and handcrafted wares. The free Norman Garden Festival will be held, rain or shine, on Saturday, April 9 from 8 a.m.-3 p.m. at the Cleveland County Fairgrounds in Norman. This new gardening event will consist of educational speakers on a variety of

garden related topics, a seed swap, and Master Gardeners on hand to answer questions. In addition, local horticultural related vendors and growers will be featured, along with the Cleveland County Master Gardener Demonstration and Teaching Garden. Indoor and outdoor booth space is still available, please call (405) 321- 4774 or e-mail tracey.payton@ if interested in being involved. Delights and Desserts Kaleidoscope Grief Support presents “Delights and Desserts,” an evening with  renowned artist Mike Wimmer, a reading and music provided by Brad Price with desserts provided by local bakeries and cafes. The event will take place at 7 p.m. April 11 at The Santa Fe Depot, 200 S. Jones Ave. Tickets are $30 available by calling 306-0052. All proceeds will help Kaleidoscope continue to provide free grief services to children who are grieving the death of a loved one.

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The Music of Andrew Lloyd Webber comes to Sharp Hall at the University of Oklahoma April 14-17. The all-student cast will perform favorites from Webber’s work. Tickets are $25 for adults and $15 for students. The Festival of the Spirituals will be at 6 p.m. April 17 at the First Baptist Church in Norman. The event is put on by Cimarron Opera. Over 100 bands, 12 stages, 1 day A sound for every ear – from euphoric indie pop to classic folk rock. The free Norman Music Festival takes place April 28-30 in three historic blocks of downtown Norman. Annual May Fair Arts Festival will be April 29 in Andrews Park. More than 100 artists and craftsmen from across the nation will be showing their work. Entertainment will also be available. Land Run Ride The final stop for the 89er Wagon Train Association’s Annual Land Run Ride is at the 89er Day Wagon Train Roundup. Festivities included a chance to see the wagons and hear the stories of their trail rides while enjoying the barbecue feed.  A parade and bluegrass music from five bands rounds out the day. This year’s event will take place April 30. Cleveland County Habitat for Humanity Women’s Build Update: The wall raising took place Feb. 26. That marked the first day volunteers began coming to the build site. Throughout March and April, volunteers will be on the build site, at 2430 Weatherford Drive, on Fridays and Saturdays working on the home. The goal is to have the house finished by the second week of June. The greatest need is funding to finish project. As of mid-February, a little more than half of the funds needed had been raised, said Tracy Curtis with Cleveland County Habitat for Humanity. To get involved with this project, visit or e-mail



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