THE NATION, SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 17, 2012
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Ladies don’t feel secure when they are with me; what could be the problem?
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ISTER Adeola good morning, my name is Damilola my problem is that I noticed ladies do not feel secure when they are with me, please what could be the problem. Dear Damillola, if you follow the tips below, they may help you solve your problem: •Be yourself and act natural. No one likes a fake, so just be yourself. People will admire that you aren’t afraid of what others think. Don’t be different on purpose though; this will just make you seem weird. •Sincerely praise others. Don’t use flattery, but genuinely give credit where credit is due. •Avoid making fun of others. Avoid insulting other people unless you’re just messing around. Don’t say anything hurtful. Be really careful with this. The longer you’ve known a person, the more you can mess around with him or her. •Make fun of yourself. You know yourself better than pretty much anyone else, so it’s easiest to make jokes about you. Everyone likes someone who’s humble. •Confidence is important. Try sticking to your principles
and don’t say the opposite a few moments later. That just makes you look like you are desperately trying to find something smart to say (Think about what you are going to say). •Think about what you are going to say before saying it. Consider what people’s reactions will probably be, and decide if what you are about to say is worth being spoken. •Minimize others’ mistakes Do not correct other people, unless their mistake will end up making things worse for them or someone else. Also, downplay it if others point it out. •Be inclusive. Don’t use an inside joke unless everyone present knows it. Also, don’t refer to something about which a person in the conversation doesn’t know without explaining it to him or her. •Be bold! Don’t be afraid to make a fool of yourself! Being open is important in making people relax.[[Image:Free Silly Sisters Making Faces Creative. •Have GOOD hygiene. •Remember the types of things the people who you are around like, then you can talk about things you all like, and everyone will be laughing with you and smiling soon!
My cousin has crush on a guy and she doesn’t know how to let him know H
i, I have a cousin who is 18 and has crush on a guy. She needs me to advise her on how to get this guy and how to know if the guy has a crush on her. She’s 18 too. Hi. Are you sure you’re not the same person acting as your cousin? Whatever the case, be careful when making it known to a guy that you like him. Most guys, rather than take it as a compliment that a woman finds them attractive, laugh with friend behind her back and take it that she’s free or cheap. If you’re both 18, and the guy is around that age, it may not be productive giving such a young guy the come-on lights. Older guys are able to handle flirting and ‘toasting’ well. Since you asked for it, I will give you a few tips to show a guy you like him but be warned that you can’t flirt with someone unless they’re flirting
back with you: 1 Smile happily while talking to him or waving out to him. And giggle now and then coyly at his jokes. 2 Stare deeply like you want him while talking to him. And glance at him now and then when he’s not close, but look away when he looks at you. It’s all about making him curious. 3 Whisper in his ear like you have a secret to tell him
when both of you are alone in a crowded place. Just make sure your lips accidentally touch his ears. 4 Lean on him with an excuse while talking to him by adjusting your heel, or losing your balance, or while walking through a crowd. 5 Flick your hair to the other side slowly with one hand while talking to him. Guys are suckers for this
My girl is three years older; she wants marriage when I’m not yet ready
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’m in a relationship with a lady who is three years my senior and a graduate while I am an apprentice; I’m 27 years by age. I love her so much I call her Obioma, (my happiness). Right now we are having problems because she
wants to get married by next year while I am thinking of getting married in 3 years’ time. What do you think I should do to keep this lady because I don’t want to lose her. Please help. - Tony from Owerri.
Ladies run away from me because of my big penis I’m James; please ma there is this problem that I’m facing concerning sex partner. Whenever I had a friendship with a girl of my mate it doesn’t last because if I’m to have sex with her she complains of my dick that is too big for to handle it. Please help me to hook up
move. 6 Act cute when you talk to him. Keep your finger on your lip while thinking, or blush now and then. 7 Compliment him and speak highly about anything he does. He’ll love spending time with you. And make sure you ask for his help now and then, he’ll feel more manly around you.
with any lady or woman you know that she is seeking for my type co’z my female mates are running from me because of my big penis. You can reach me on 07088……. From Kaduna State. Dear James, I want to believe that at God’s own
time, you will meet the woman who will accept you for whom you are and how God created you. It is for my character to link people up based their natural endowments or lack of it. Be patient, your own woman with the right size will come. Don’t be promiscuous till then. AIDS is real.
•Mr. & Mrs Akinrinade at their wedding ceremony in Lagos last week.
Dear Tony, I understand the reasons you may not want to marry now and I understand why she wants it today if possible. She’s at that age when relatives, friends and all those who are close to her would expect that she should be settled in marriage. After all, she’s through with university education and she’s ripe for marriage at 30. As for you, you’re still learning a vocation and may not be financially ready for the demands of marriage. If you’re a man of dignity, you will think twice before depending of your wife for sustenance. Both of you are at a crossroad. Since you love her so much and wouldn’t want to lose her, you may meet midway. Asking her to wait for the next three years will be too much but if she has a job and really desirous of marriage now she can loan you some money for a low key marriage. Go and pay her dowry if that will make her happy. However, she might want more than just her dowry being paid. She might want to move in as your wife and become properly married. That is where you may have problems if you don’t have a house of your own. If she can also loan you some tidy amount for a small apartment, you may go ahead and marry properly. Mind you, make it clear from the beginning that if you demand any assistance for her now, it is because you don’t want to lose her. She shouldn’t try to become a boss over you and she should take you as you are. Let her know that you wouldn’t want her to complain if you’re not able to act as a man until you finish your vocation. Preach to her the virtues of patience in such a situation. If however she cannot provide for the things she’s asking you to do now, let her know you love her, but you cannot give what you don’t have.
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Each time I try to make love to my girl I ejaculate within 30 seconds of sex
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y name is Adebayo, and I am a graduate, my problem is each time I try to make love to my girl I ejaculate within 30 seconds, even before entering her and
after that, I cannot have an erection again. Please help me. Dear Adebayo, see your personal doctor. He will know what to do. That’s all I can say now. Best wishes.
From you to me •Deo, I’m a reader of your page Heart in The Nation. It’s been a good write-up. Keep it up pls. Feyi from Abuja. •Good morning Adeola Agoro. I’m Mr. Williams and I have a problem and that is I AM IN LUV WITH YOU and I mean it.08097397725. •I like the way you answer questions. 08176390374. P.S: Thanks to those who like this page and my style of writing. Mr. Williams and the others who ‘love me’, thank you too, but please note that I’m happily married.
Lost Contacts Please link me up with former Miss Funmilayo Onasanya, a native of Ikorodu who worked with the defunct National Bank of Nigeria around 1990. She was then living at Federal Low-Cost Housing Estate, Akinyele B/Stop, Ipaja. I am Mrs. Anike Adedotun Of No 6 Adisa Lane, Sango with telephone number: 08022590052. I would appreciate if you publish my request.