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Recap: After a few years of working in specialed and a stint in a corporate position, I found myself unemployed. Our young kollel family was up to the next stage of our journey. IT’S FUNNY. The only thing I remember clearly about the last day of work was the thought I had as I walked into the elevator, leaving the building for the final time. The questions circled around my head: Why didn’t this work out? What in the world am I going to do? Suddenly, I had one of those lightbulb moments, and in place of the overwhelming worry, I knew what I would do. I would create a solution so that people like me could succeed both at work and at home. I imagined a professional daycare that followed a work schedule, created to support working parents. I had no idea how or when, and it had never been something that I thought I would do. But in that moment of sheer frustration at not being able to make it all work, I felt the drive to prevent others from feeling the same way I did. I knew I wasn’t alone in this predicament, with so many young parents feeling like they

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needed to choose between work and raising their families. I decided there must be a better way. Until I figured out how to create the solution, though, I was ready for a break. At first, I relished the simple joys of preparing supper, taking my kids to the park and having time to get dressed in the morning without racing against the clock. It was fun for a few days, and maybe even a few weeks…and then, very quickly, it was boring. I was frustrated and quickly got over the dream of being a stay-athome mom. I knew that I needed a place for my creative and intellectual side to exist, yet another full-time job was not something I was looking to get back to. I decided to take it easy, possibly take on some flexible, parttime work and have a more realistic schedule as a mother. Which meant that it was time to start considering work options for my husband. We had no idea what kind of jobs

to look for, but I did know how to write a resume, so I got to work. At first, I was at a total loss. I couldn’t think of much more to write after the heading. My husband was a dedicated learner, excellent chavrusa, patient teacher… and? Once I realized that it was more about presentation, just like getting dressed up for an interview, I focused on showcasing personal qualities, strengths and skills as a match for a specific position. After a few responses and interviews, I realized how powerful writing a resume to match a specific position can be. I learned a valuable rule for job searches: Don’t expect people to guess how you can help them; tell them exactly what you can do for them. After much research, networking and hard work, my husband found a job he was well-suited for. I found myself dabbling in a few part-time side jobs, including running an informal playgroup that included my youngest child, doing sales for a local tech company, writing resumes for people I knew and eventually, finding a flexible position in special-ed. With my options open and having experienced more than one field, I started to spend time thinking about what I wanted to do for work longterm. I also realized that there was a lot more to choosing a job than just

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