mistake. No one should ever buy anything without checking the hechsher and verifying if the item is milchig, fleishig or pareve. As Torah Yidden, we are responsible to make sure that everything we eat is up to our personal kashrus standards. Furthermore, there is a world of difference between making a suggestion to food companies to color code their items and suggesting that our rabbanim make a takanah to mandate that idea. Be responsible. Read the label. Teach your kids to do the same. End of story. And if you really want our kashrus authorities to start dictating packaging ideas, how about we ask them to print candy wrappers that can be opened on Shabbos without tearing any letters? Sandy Eller
WE ARE ONE I thank you for your wonderful publication that I enjoy reading every week. I think it is a great forum to raise an important issue so that there be more awareness within the Monsey community. This yom tov, I took my children to a park near their Bubby and Zeidy’s house. The park was filled with beautiful chassidish children. My children and I were the only Litvish people on site, but that didn’t trouble me. Until a few boys approached my son. The most outspoken of them asked, ”Where are your peyos?” My son reached behind his ears innocently and showed them to the boy, who responded, ”Those are not peyos. You are not a Jew.” This was followed by, “You don’t speak Yiddish? You are not a Jew.” My son explained that we are Litvish, not chassidish, to which the boy responded, “Chassidish is mehr heilig,” and then they asked my son if he had read the Haggadah, and proceeded to let him know which of the four sons they thought him to be... My heart felt like chains were placed around it and it weighed so heavily in my chest. When we walked home from the park my children were notably upset as well. They asked, “Why do chassidim think that we are not Yidden?” I stopped them in their tracks. I said: Do not generalize all of chassidim by one uneducated boy — do not do the same thing that boy did. Do not spread hate in Klal Yisroel. This was one boy, a child, who did not know better. I explained to my children that we love all Yidden and that Moshiach is not here because of sinaas chinam. I want to publicize this incident not because I was so shaken and taken aback — though, believe me, I was — but rather because I think awareness needs to be raised. I was born and raised in Monsey. Yes, while there are many chassidim in Monsey, there are also many Litvaks. I teach my children to love all Yidden, and when they say, “Look, there is someone chassidish,” I
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say, “Yes, they are also Yidden; a Jew does not look only one way.” I implore of you... Teach your children love and respect for Klal Yisroel, though not everyone looks the same. I understand wanting your children to take pride in their Yiddishkeit; I feel the same way, but not by pushing down any other sects of Yiddishkeit. I explain that different is not inferior. We accomplish nothing if one hand patches the other hand of the same body that is Klal Yisroel. Please teach your children ahavas Yisroel and respect for other people. After all, there is One Torah and we are One Nation following the ways of One Hashem. Please, please, infuse your children with love and respect for others. In this way, may we all merit the coming of Moshiach from the achdus of all of Hashem’s children coming together. Sincerely, A Mother Yearning for Moshiach
RE: CAN WE MAKE THIS WORK? (Inbox, Issue 192) Dear Local Mother, It’s so wonderful that you tried so hard to gift your child’s educator. I’m sorry that you felt so frustrated on Purim with all the nosh-crazy kids and a screaming newborn. I hope next Purim will be easier for you. I really sense your frustration. I was bothered by the tone of your letter, though. It sounded to me like you had an agenda and the educator wasn’t cooperating. I was wondering if what bothered you was that you couldn’t gift the educator, or that the educator wasn’t being gifted, in which case you could have sent a check by mail or had your child deliver it before or after Purim. Eductors are mature adults. They know when they live out of a neighborhood and don’t expect anybody to get a headache because they need to deliver mishloach manos. It might have been that you weren’t able to think it through rationally because of all the noise in the car. I write this as a fellow mother who’s been there and learned not to deliver mishloach manos on Purim. A Fellow Mother
UPDATES AND MORE (Re: Excursions Supplement, Issue 195) EDITOR’S NOTE: A number of readers have reached out to us with either updates or comments in regard to specific destinations included in our Excursions booklet. Please see below for updates, and feel free to contact our team with any further comments or suggestions.
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