Helping Children Control their Feelings Children are genetically very ego-centric. They are therefore known to throw tantrums at the drop of a hat. However, it is important to manage such feelings as what you are as a kid has at least some influence on your adulthood. Especially when kids are told to behave in a particular manner in a school or at home, they get highly irritated and burst into anger. As parents, you have a special responsibility to help your child manage his or her emotions. Here we provide you with a few ways that can make your child a better human being as he or she grows up.
1. Talk to them about their feelings – While talking to them, make sure you tell them what is right and what is wrong. Talk to them about the repercussions of bad and good thoughts and behavior. However, don’t get into a tiff while talking to your child. This is where most parents go wrong. You need to talk to your child as a friend, as a mate and then see how they respond to your conversations.
2. Tell them to develop the art of introspection - When you see your child reflecting upon their deeds and thoughts, that’s when you win the battle. Introspection allows one to think and analyze a situation to finally take the right decision. You can ask your kids to think over all the things and feelings they experienced during the day. This is a good exercise and your kids can embrace a new morning each day.
3. Give them motivating books, songs or video - When children find things in books, videos or songs that they can relate to themselves, then that’s the time when they actually reflect on their behavior. For example, when a child hurts another kid and feels bad about it inside, the video that shows a similar action can act as an answer to the former kid. This applies to all other means of gaining knowledge such as online videos, simple short story books, and kids’ newspapers and so on.
4. Never fight in front of children – If you yourself are experiencing anger outbursts, that too in front of your kid, you can’t expect your child to be the nicest of all. Hence, it is uber essential that you maintain peace at home. Sometimes you may think that it’s a private issue, but it is not and you don’t know what might hit hard on your kid’s heart. So choose your words carefully. It’s a known fact that children tend to emulate their parents.
5. Ask your kids to cool down – Scientists have suggested that as and when a child feels agitated, he or she can be asked to count up to 10 to suppress the anger. This is a proven technique and you can ask your kids to practice it too.