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Life is an important and essential part of our existence as it is a portrayal of our past, present, and future. The idea of existence depends on being alive, being able to move, to say, and to make. It's a sequence that entails an approach of consciousness and mindfulness. Being able to see and feel clearly without any distraction. For when life seizes to be, the alternative, death, is unwanted. These lives we cherish so much, the feeling and experiencing, all are facing an unprecedented end. We rushed helter-skelter to enforce measures that will ensure our survival. As days turned into weeks and months, the growing frustrations towards these measures have led to a change in our survival instincts. From surviving being a personal responsibility to safeguard and protect one's self to it being a matter of economical well being. We need to live our lives even as the pandemic goes on. Despite knowing the risks involved, we still have to push on to ensure that bills are paid. However, we should be alert and careful thus this issue's theme: Careful living. Careful living as we adapt to the new reality of COVID 19 because life will always go on but our tomorrow depends on our today. Being vigilant isn't only limited to post-COVID 19 but also our other basic life necessities and liberties that are given to us by the constitution. These civil liberties are to be held dear to us so that no one has the right to take them away. Always looking out and ensuring no one viciously takes them away is the responsibility of every single person who is alive, as that's part of our existence. In the end, if you decide to keep silent then you are as good as dead.
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Burning bush effect Author: Winnie Sind (Content Director at The Kapshon Magazine)
Writing, the best thing that has ever happened to me. Author: Raudha Mohammed. (Excutive at Global Youth Projects)
Fitter, healthier, happier? Author: Hamphrey Memba (Physiotherapist â&#x20AC;&#x201C; AgaKhan Hospital)
Journey of my marriage Author: Amne Abdulrazak (Relationship and marriage coach)
Being Nimah N'zanikassim Zani Author: Nimah Nâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;zaniKassim Zani (President and Founder of The Hijabi Mentorship Program)
Be the change Author: Salim Mohammed Kea (Student; Technical University of Mombasa)
â&#x20AC;&#x153; Poverty only slows the process of success but doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t necessarily limit ones chances!â&#x20AC;? â&#x20AC;&#x153;The Climbing Wolfâ&#x20AC;?, a distinct description of Alex Ayub in his quest to bring along the right mindset, attitude, knowledge and unmatched drive in seeing a more educated, empowered, enlightened and outgoing youth in Kenya. Born and raised in Isiolo County, one of the northern pastoralist counties in Kenya, Alex shares his ambitions and experiences as the National Youth Programs Coordinator at Kenya Red Cross Society; a humanitarian relief and volunteer-based organization that has so far lend a hand in disaster management. He expounds on the diversiďŹ ed approach of the organization exertions in and with the community using assorted approaches made with regards to the challenges experienced by the community hence its flexibility. In representation of both youth and the community interests, through creation of a sense of responsibility and a safe space for the youth in catering for meaningful participation, Mr. Ayub believes in policy formation that represent the interests of the youth in the community. To realise this, similar efforts have been placed in his interaction with like-minded member countries, organizations and youth at large in sharing the grievances faced by the youth in advocacy areas, road safety, youth governance and leadership programmes
Iworldwide - through coaching and exchange programmes which has seen over 30 youth go overseas for exchange learning and acquiring important skills and knowledge to help improve their communities â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;well-being. By and large his efforts has also been witnessed in alliances with relevant bodies i.e. the Kenyan government, and like-minded organizations so far being observed in the various counties in Kenya, most especially the North Eastern and speciďŹ cally in Mandera where the youth have been empowered through
advancement of vocational skills through youth empowerment programmes, anti-violent extremism and radicalization, creativity and innovation i.e. Swahili pot hub in Mombasa, sexual reproductive health and drug and substance abuse through rehabilitation centers most especially in the coastal areas like Lamu with the largest rehabilitation center in Central and East Africa. As a rule, Alex deems in the power of multiple literacies in understanding and shaping the youth that we are today. On this, and alluding to the power of the mind with reference to the creation story on the diverse potential of any human being he says: â&#x20AC;&#x153;We the youth still have the energy and time hence innate potential but then this can only be attained through the integration of the various core elements with regards to their roles in the society i.e. the family, the school, the community/ religious institution and the youth themselves in bringing up the dream youth of a society.â&#x20AC;? Despite this, the challenge still exists among these core elements in their integration, hence censure when failure is denoted from the youth, many are cases when the government falls to this. Despite 57 years of independence, he is saddened with the difďŹ culty, most especially among the youth in understanding their social nature and civic responsibilities hence the importance of social cohesion and cultural values from the elite and senior citizens in the country.
What are the sustainability measures for the youth volunteers in KRCS? “The future of volunteerism is already within the Society.” he says, of course there exist a difference between the youth and volunteerism but then we aspire to ensure that these segment of volunteers are able to achieve their objectives through youth development program in catering for the needs of the youth - skills in career development and capacity building. “We also retain as much as we can in our different ﬁelds; I am a product of volunteerism ,” he adds, “futuristically, we also bring potential partners in utilization of these amazing skills with other bodies i.e. the government through the National Youth Council and the CAS, Md. Nadia Ahmed (Ministry of ICT, Innovation and Youth Affairs) and the Ofﬁce Of The President in realization on the improvement of SMEs, Air Bus Foundation and development partners in order to build, absorb and retain the amazing skills that the youth possess. All these have been made possible through the Kenya Red Cross Society’s leadership. We really appreciate the work and the space the Secretary General, Dr. Asha Mohammed has given youth. Youth are able to be youth in the Kenya Red Cross space, under close guidance, mentorship and resource allocations.
But then what more can we give? This is open to the youth via our social media platforms through complaints and feedback mechanisms. Despite all these, Alex still believes in the non-existence of equal opportunities among the youth in the Kenya; nepotism, favouritism and poverty makes it hard for youth to access opportunities equally. Not with standing this, he believes that everybody has it in themselves the innate ability. Factors such as poverty only slows the process of success but doesn’t necessarily limit the chances of success or ones destiny, everyone has his own equal share of opportunities. However, this can only be improved through sound leadership and a genuine, proper foundation of the society from the basic learning environments. With the struggles from his humble background, skills obtained from vast project implementation most especially on youth governance, worldwide exchange programs and interaction obtained from implementation with like-minded youth from Norway, Finland, Colombia, Italy, Denmark, Canada,Uganda, Togo, South Africa and Colombia, Alex opines that in order to make a change in one’s own society, one should strive to leave the world a better place than they found it . The Burning Bush Effect it is, in pulling ones interest and attraction in realizing the true potential of the youth in Kenya. Author:
â&#x20AC;&#x153;We the youth still have the energy and time hence innate potential in achieving our goalsâ&#x20AC;?
WRITING, THE BEST THING THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO ME. What is writing to you? Writing to me is like an ally; a loyal one if I may say. It has become my lifestyle, my way of expression. It’s like a therapy to me whenever I feel down, a manual to guide me whenever I feel stuck at some point in life. It’s connected me to the outside world so much so that I can easily transform what I feel to words that can be read. I can count on writing when no one is there. You see, sometimes life brings us down, making us feel frustrated. And at that time, we need someone to converse with, to relieve our hurting. What if the person targeted is not around? Many would opt to avoid the situation by watching a movie or keeping themselves busy in any way possible. Some even consider crying to be the best therapy yet to me, that’s not usually my way. If I have no one to talk to, then when I just pick up a pen. Write, I become okay.
Writing has helped me understand who truly I am. You know, before I started writing, I did not know my strength. Honestly, I had no clue that I could write but look at me now, I can without much of a stretch compose words and they become meaningful. I used to procrastinate writing because grammar and I did not get along. However, I realized that the more I write, the more I see my errors, and thus repeating the same mistakes has reduced. Decision making sometimes can be so challenging more so when you are in a dilemma you don’t know which one is best. Ever since I came to the world of writing then choosing a wise decision has become easy for me. I do this by writing the advantages and disadvantages of each decision and take the one with the highest advantages which usually saves my day. Writing has made me became a better version of myself because the only competitor I have in my life is me so every day I strive to become a better person from yesterday. Whenever I achieve anything I usually note it down and when I re-read those achievements I challenge myself to do more and hence making me a better version of myself. Writing has also made me hopeful and patient as success doesn’t come easy, but it is sweet. It taught me that to be an effective writer then you got to be discipline; able to write every day, a reader, an observer, and most important of all get out of your comfort zone. That’s why I am happy that writing has become a part of me as it is the best thing that has ever happen in my life.
Raudha Mohamed. Excutive at Global Youth Projects
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Fitter, healthier, happier?
ifestyle includes day to day behaviors and functions of individuals in job, activities, fun and diet. Lifestyle as an important factor of health is more interested by researchers. According to WHO, 60% of related factors to individual health and quality of life are correlated to lifestyle. Millions of people follow an unhealthy lifestyle. Hence, they encounter illness, disability and even death. Problems like metabolic diseases, joint and skeletal problems, cardio-vascular diseases, hypertension, overweight, violence and so on, can be caused by an unhealthy lifestyle.
The relationship of lifestyle and health should be highly considered. Today, wide changes have occurred in life of all people. Malnutrition, unhealthy diet, smoking, alcohol consuming, drug abuse, stressâ&#x20AC;Ś, are the presentations of unhealthy life style used as dominant form of lifestyle, therefore, lifestyle has a signiďŹ cant influence on physical and mental health of human being.
What constitutes physical health? Below are ways that each key area of physical health can be addressed through lifestyle choices:
Physical activity: Most healthy children and adults should be active on a daily basis. This should be a mix of both leisurely physical activity and structured exercise. Examples of leisurely physical activity include hiking, biking, and walking. Examples of more structured forms of exercise include strength training, running, and sports.
Nutrition and diet: A well - balanced diet should contain carbohydrates, proteins, fats, vitamins, and minerals. Restricting speciﬁc nutrients should only be done under the supervision of a licensed health professional. Fluid, ideally in the form of clean water, should be regularly consumed. Meals and snacks should be consumed throughout the day, and portion sizes should be sensible
Alcohol and drugs: Substances that alter mood or other bodily processes should be limited or avoided. Those with addictive tendencies or other health risks should consider complete abstinence from these substances.
Medical self - care: Basic items, such as bandages, lozenges, and over - the- counter pain- relieving medications, should be easily accessible from home. Long - term coughing, fevers, or other ailments should be addressed through primary care. Emergency treatment should be sought when signs and symptoms are signiﬁcant or life - threatening.
Rest and sleep: While regular activity is essential for physical health, allowing the body to rest is just as important. Spending time relaxing or taking short naps can help rejuvenate the body. Sleep should take place in a quiet, dark environment and should last approximately 7 - 9 hours. Consistent sleep that is much shorter or longer than this duration, or is low quality, may need to be addressed by a health professional.
A person who is ﬁt is capable of living life to its fullest extent. Physical and mental ﬁtness play very important roles in our lives and people who are both, physically and mentally ﬁt are less prone to medical conditions as well. Physical activity or exercise can improve your health and reduce the risk of developing several diseases like type 2 diabetes, cancer and cardiovascular disease. Physical activity and exercise can have immediate and long-term health beneﬁts. Most importantly, regular activity can improve your quality of life. A minimum of 30 minutes a day can allow you to enjoy these beneﬁts.
Hamphrey Memba Physiotherapist, AgaKhan Hospital-Mombasa.
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JOURNEY OF MY MARRIAGE If we were sitting down over coffee talking about relationships, I'd share these things I'm learning on my marriage journey with you. I'm no expert though. Sometimes I feel unqualiﬁed to even write about marriage but God keeps reminding me that marriage is something that requires constant cultivating and that mistakes are part of growth. We've crammed a lot of life into our short time as a married couple – a baby, job loss, illness, polygamy, daily joys, and trials. So many blessings and major life changes, all rolled into ﬁve short years. I spent some time reflecting and wanted to share these four major lessons from our marriage journey
Marriage is a haven. You see I've always felt safe with Ahmed, but I found a new level of this when my sister passed away. For a while, I kept my grief and pain to myself. But there was such relief when I ﬁnally (literally) broke down, let him in, and was honest about how I was doing. Since I tend toward extremes, I've found that I need to make sure I'm going to God ﬁrst and not putting unrealistic expectations on my husband. I'm also learning that treating our marriage as a refuge means speaking the truth in love – not getting so comfortable that we treat each other with less care than we would give other relationships. "Let's not strive to be the Holy Spirit in someone else's life. Speak the truth in love and stand back." – Dale Partridge
Marriage brings things into the light. It is not a bandaid to ﬁx past issues. Each person brings their own set of baggage into a marriage. Marriage is how you deal with the issues that come up as you learn what it means to be with your spouse. I don't know about you, but over our ﬁve years of marriage, I've realized I have a lot more baggage than I thought! There is so much beauty in being incomplete when we learn to take our problems to God instead of projecting it on our spouse. It becomes this amazing opportunity for growth and intimacy with your spouse – as you walk this path toward wholeness and holiness together! The marriage journey doesn't just bring out the not-so-good stuff only. It also brings out new sides of you and your spouse that you've not experienced before. Getting to see Ahmed as a father, walking with him as he discovers passions and gifts he didn't know he had, having the opportunity to be a part of his journey, watching him step up to lead our family, caring for my family when my father died – those are true gifts!
Marriage is a blessing, not a burden. As the newness of your new marriage journey wears off, it's easy to start looking at a wife's role as a burden rather than a blessing from God. All of a sudden there are new responsibilities and another human around that may or may not get on your nerves sometimes. No matter how you divide up the daily household chores, there is also more on the to-do list – especially once you start adding little ones into the mix! God has been teaching me a lot about what living an entrusted life means – especially when it comes to my people. My husband is a gift from God that I have the joy of living my life with, even during the hard days. I have written more about this here and here if you'd like to read more of my journey! I don't think anyone starts off thinking that their spouse is a burden or they probably wouldn't have gotten married in the ﬁrst place! But it is a trap that the enemy sets in his attempts to separate us from each other and God. Just being aware of this trap has changed my perspective so much! When my sister was suddenly diagnosed with meningitis and then gone in just two weeks I think I woke up to the reality that we aren't promised tomorrow. We are only given today – I just don't have time to view my husband as anything other than the blessing that he is!
Marriage is reﬁning. Oh my goodness! Marriage and motherhood are two of the most reﬁning relationships I've ever experienced. Learning how to truly be one with my husband is something that will probably take a lifetime. We are still learning how to communicate well, ﬁght fairly, and to love unconditionally. This marriage journey needs a lot of work, a willingness to learn, a humble heart, and forgiveness. But most of all, it requires a ﬁrm foundation. If my love for my husband was founded in my capacity to love, at some point it would run out. If my foundation is in my husband instead of Allah, going through the ﬁre would destroy me instead of reﬁning me.
Reflecting on these last years, I am so grateful for Allah who carries us. A God who loves us. A God who wants to reﬁne us as individuals and as a couple. And I am so thankful for my husband, who has stood beside me and walked with me on this marriage journey, encouraged me, held me, and loved me through the most difﬁcult times of my life.
Amne Abdulrazak Relationship and Family Life coach
16 Being Nimah N'zaniKassim Zani My drive? Brought up in Kwale County. Famously known as Ms. President 002 for taking part in the 2019 Ms. President Reality TV show in KTN. My professional background is in Communication and Social Sector Development. I am a Youth Leader and a Public Policy Enthusiast. I am very passionate about using the power of communication and information to create a transformative social change. I advocate for peace and sustainable development.
Who is Nimah N'zaniKassim Zani? Career:
She is the founder and President of The Hijabi Mentorship Program (THMP), an organization is committed to promoting peace and development by eradicating social, economic, and political inequalities in marginalized communities. Her lifelong objective is to empower the youth not only as learners, but also as educators, advocates, and leaders.
N'zani is an energetic young lady. She is active, resourceful, freedom-loving, and adventurous. "I love trying out new things; out of the norm. I ďŹ nd daily life boring. I internalize a lot, so I may tend to ask a lot of questions. My reserved manner could somewhat give the impression that I am detached, but this is because I am very skeptical and critical about my actions. Either way, I crave movement and action."
What improvements or changes would you like to see in Kenya?
I aspire for a Kenya where young people will have equal access to resources and opportunities: A Kenya that allows a meaningful youth engagement in activities relevant to their lives. This will enable us to strengthen and activate the capacity of the youth to satisfy their own needs, solve their problems, and be accountable for their actions.
What do you love to do during your free time?
To relax. My work is hectic, so I truly value every little time I get. I enjoy peace. Deep down, I dream of living in a secluded place but with all the beneďŹ ts of civilization. On my good days, my idea of having fun is traveling, swimming, reading, photography, and good music.
Explain about the Hijabi mentorship program and when did you become president of the Hijabi Mentorship program? At THMP, we address the historical oppressive treatment of diverse people and not just Muslims as the name may sound, but everyone! In line with our objectives, our different projects are addressing the gaps in achieving sustainable livelihoods, by enabling young people to access information and resources about peace, economic development, and societal resilience to shocks. We address Sexual Reproductive Health Rights, Gender-based Violence, Countering Violent Extremism, and Creating Economic Empowerment amongst the marginalized communities in Kwale County.
What triggered you to come up with the Hijabi mentorship program, whom did you approach with the idea, any support from family and friends?
Poverty is widespread in my community, unemployment is high and the county is underdeveloped in terms of infrastructure outside of the tourist areas. Education is also lagging behind the rest of the country and girls, in particular, drop out of school at a young age, often due to arranged marriages, violent extremism especially in Kisauni, Mombasa. The tourism industry brings other challenges for young people such as child sex tourism, alcohol, and drugs. This is what led me to start THMP, I wanted to provide a solution to social and economic inequalities. Yes, my family and friends have been very supportive. They have played such a big role in the growth of the organization.
18 My successes? Mandela Washington Fellowship for Young African Leaders (2019) - a flagship program of the U.S Government's Young African Leaders Initiative (YALI) 2019 Changemakerxchange Summit Gender Justiceâ&#x20AC;&#x201C; Addis Ababa Ethiopia Acumen Fellowship 2020- An intensive leadership development program aimed at building a pipeline of leaders who understand what it takes to create lasting change. Political Leadership and Governance Program 2020- a leadership program aimed at nurturing and promoting value-driven leadership for democratic governance in a democratic society. BintiUongozini Program 2020- a program aimed at supporting young female leaders in leadership and Politics. 2020 Zuri Award Nominee- Education Category 2019 Top 100 Influential Muslims in Kenya
Nimah NzaniKassim Zani
(President and Founder of The Hijabi Mentorship Program)
BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEEâ&#x20AC;Ś How would you call the child you conceive from either your father or uncle or any other relative? How do you endure the pain of keeping it to yourself in fear of justice? How do you dare pay a glance to them as they come your way? We, the society, ought to wake up and be the change. We are Africans, yes. But should we remain in the dark when we can access to light? No. It's high time to condemn all acts of violence in our societies. Time has come where human rights are to be championed and even have awareness created for society to understand. How dare you stop reading a story with the caption "A FATHER CAUGHT RAPING HIS DAUGHTER"? We will pay attention to get more information about the story, won't we? What next after realizing the evilness?
20 My problem is yours too. My success is our success. Teamwork is key in the eradication of any evil. We can succeed as "we" and not "I". Imagine a nation that laughs at one another and one that laughs with each other. Which will prosper? Being in a diverse society, we don't care but we need to have a change in mentality. I do pray for maturity in members of my community. But what maturity am I talking about while we have several people above my age? Some older than my parents. Growing old isn't a guarantee that you are mature enough to handle a situation for a solution. We need people mature enough to read a story or watch the news and follow up to get what was not shown either by omission or bias placement. We need to be literate in media things. We need to ﬁnd more and focus on helping the victims gain their justice and not just read and condemn the atrocities in our comfort zones. This is the dream I have to prove maturity. As for gender-based violence. For a long while, the perpetrator has been considered to be a man but have you asked yourself of cases where men are violated? Speak up to ensure justice is attained to both. Why is the case of a girl sexually molested by her relative solved at home? And there you are claiming to know about your rights. What of those of your neighbour? Can't you champion for their rights too? Here we are blaming society and forget that we are the very society. Have you ever asked yourself who will if you don't do it? Don't wait for others, start acting ﬁrst. Act now for a permanent change. This pandemic has brought us a change; that men too can cook, both men and women can work from home. Kids miss the "uncle" who comes in their dad's absentia. No ﬁght but unity and family bond elevation. Let's not take COVID-19 as a chance to violate a child's rights from a child to a house girl or from a student to a "wife material". Let's support their dreams to the fullest. Together we shall overcome GBV and Covid-19.
Salim Mohammed Kea Student, The Technical University Of Mombasa.
Toll free 1195 – Justice for survivors of violence(National Association of Adults Survivors of child Abuse) NAASCAvisit http://www.naasca.org/Groups-Services/KENYA.pdf