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One Year Later A few tips from a recent bride with the benefit of hindsight By Lauren Bavis Photos courtesy of Matt Sprauge Photography

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don't know how anyone can say the first year of marriage is difficult if they've spent the year prior planning a wedding. Don't get me wrong, wedding planning was fun—when it wasn't stressful, exhausting and infuriating. But a year after writing notes to dozens of people thanking them for being a part of the "best day of our lives," I can safely say that I love being married. I didn't love everything that led up to getting married. If you feel the same way, here are four things I wish I had known a year ago while planning my own wedding that would have saved a lot of frustration. Everyone will offer to help. Let them. No matter where they live, how busy they are, their level of experience or their relationship to you, everyone who finds out that you're planning a wedding will offer to help. It's overwhelming, but so is planning a wedding. If there are folks in your life who care enough to offer to

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help, consider taking them up on it. I wish I had written a list of simple but necessary wedding planning tasks I could have delegated to anyone who asked to help. Can I help? Sure! You can gather the addresses of all of our friends from college and send them to me in a spreadsheet by the last day of the month. Can I help? Absolutely! How's your penmanship? It would be a big help if you could pre-address these thank you note envelopes. Can I help? Thank you! Here's $50. Will you go to the post office and buy a roll of stamps? Not everyone, you will soon find, really wanted to help. They were just being polite. That's why you also set deadlines for these tasks. Ask for addresses three months before you need to send your save-the-dates. Can you be free from noon to 1 p.m. next Thursday to come over and address envelopes? It will soon become apparent who you can count on and who you should tell you

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appreciate the offer, but the only thing you need from them is an on-time RSVP. Also, don't strain your relationships with burdensome requests. It isn't fair to ask your closest friends and family to stay up late the night before the wedding putting together favors no one actually wants. Pinterest doesn't make perfect Pinterest might be the best and worst thing to happen to weddings since the invention of the “Electric Slide.” People have been cutting and pasting photos from magazines into wedding scrapbooks forever. But Pinterest is an infinite space for you to set your expectations too high. “Show me your Pinterest board,“ our baker said, extending her arm for my phone and grimacing like I was about to set her hand on fire. She didn't want to know our budget, or what flavors we prefer (which is the only thing that matters about a cake). She wanted to know what kind of frosting-covered ledge she would need to coax me down

2018 South-Central Indiana Wedding Guide by The Herald-Times  

Wedding ideas and inspiration from Bloomington, Indiana

2018 South-Central Indiana Wedding Guide by The Herald-Times  

Wedding ideas and inspiration from Bloomington, Indiana

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