September 19-October 9, 2015 Vol.15 No.18
American Fork gets new four-way stop By Linda Petersen
A new four-way stop has been installed at 900 East 700 North in American Fork. The change is in response to a 2013 study by Horrocks Engineers that found that while the intersection did not warrant a traffic light, it needed a four-way stop. That study included a review of the intersection’s traffic patterns, including traffic counts and its crash history. Three of the previous six years had five or more accidents that might have been avoided by the installation of a four-way stop, according to data supplied by the American Fork Police Department. While the study found that, at that time, a traffic signal was not warranted, it did recommend that a four-way stop be installed. The study found that after stopping at the intersection, drivers had limited visibility, that there had been a high number of accidents at the intersection (five or more in 12 months), that each of the intersecting streets had about the same volume of traffic and that there was a high volume
of vehicles—more than 200 per hour each from the north and south, and more than 300 each per hour from the east and west in an eight-hour period. Public Works Director Dale Goodman said the four-way intersection became operational Sept. 8. “In 2103, Horrocks Engineers did a comprehensive traffic plan update,” he said. “This was just one of the many, many things they suggested and we’ve been working to get to them all.” The city recently installed curb, gutter and sidewalk along 900 East and along some of 700 North, Goodman said. “We felt like now was a good time to do the intersection with all the work we were doing there,” he said. The City Council formally approved the four-way stop on Sept. 8. In addition to the curb, gutter and sidewalk, the city also widened the west side of 900 East to provide additional parking for the American Fork Amphitheater, which has its home in Quail Cove Park.
One-Year Anniversary of Darrien Hunt Death By Matthew Gary Milam
Susan Hunt, mother of Darrien Hunt, who lost his life in a police confrontation one year ago, recently, simultaneously, fired her family attorney, Robert Sykes, and rejected a $900,000 civil settlement with the City of Saratoga Springs over the death of her son. She claims that the city is just trying to give her money to shut her up. She says, “I hope there will be a legacy instead of a hush order.” Susan Hunt is also saddened that Saratoga Springs residents continue to support the findings by Utah County Attorney Jeffrey Buhman, that the officers were legally justified in the shooting of Darrien Hunt. “I feel sadly that the majority of (Saratoga Springs residents) would prefer that I just shut up and go away,” she says. In January, the Hunt family filed a $2 million civil rights lawsuit against Saratoga Springs and the two officers who shot Hunt. The lawsuit calls the officers’
use of deadly force unlawful and excessive. Former Hunt family attorney, Robert Sykes, felt that the family should accept the city’s settlement offer, but was subsequently requested by the Hunt family to turn over his files to replacement attorney, Paul Lydolph. “Susan Hunt wanted to go a different route,” Sykes said, “I don’t really know what happened.” During the past year, Susan Hunt has had her own legal problems, pleading not guilty to misdemeanors that charge her with interfering with an arresting officer, driving on a denied license, and failing to disperse. Hunt’s attorney, Ron Yengich, has submitted a diversion agreement to Saratoga Springs justice court. If signed by Judge Carolyn Howard, the case will eventually be put on hold for an agreed amount of time until it is eventually dismissed, contingent on good behavior.
Lambert Park stays open to motorized vehicles By Linda Petersen
Motorized vehicles will continue to be allowed in Alpine’s Lambert Park—for now. Over the last several months, city officials have received numerous complaints about issues in the 255-acre multi-use park. The park has roads designated for motorized vehicles, but riders are not staying on those roads and are not obeying posted speed limits, neighbors say. Neighbors and city staff had reported that some riders were damaging the terrain, particularly when the ground is muddy, as well as speeding and riding outside designated trails. People had also removed rocks and bars from some of the trails. At a June 23 public hearing, the City Council received input from residents on the possibility of banning motorized vehicles in the park. “The problem is there are two different kinds of users—walkers and joggers who don’t want the rocks in the trail and bikers who do,” City councilmember Will Jones said. At the public hearing, input was mixed. “I don’t want to see anyone die,” Jeff Day, who lives on Eastview Drive, told the City Council and said he was in favor of restricting motorized vehicles in the park. Originally Lambert Park was closed to motorized vehicles except for vehicles performing trail maintenance, emergency vehicles, and motorized wheelchairs on ADA accessible trails. In 2006, the city opened up some of the trails to motorized vehicles. “People who recently moved to that area should have known that motorized vehicles were used up there,” 20-year resident, Robert Shelley said. “It’s not a park where you go to picnic and relax.” He said he loved it when his grandkids came and he could take them up there on a motorcycle ride. He would be very opposed to restricting motorized vehicles in Lambert Park. “It shouldn’t be exclusively for mountain biking,” he said. “There’s no conflict with mountain bikers, because they have their own trails.” Ron Recently, the Hunt family and their supporters gathered to commemorate the late Darrien Hunt. They released balloons into the sky, played his favorite music, and retraced his final steps. Cindy Moss, aunt to Darrien Hunt, says, “It’s hurtful, very hurtful to us as a family that people would think (Darrien would) hurt
Mika, who lives on Sunbrook Circle which borders the park, said he has “a front row view of the drama.” “People ask why they should let a few speeders ruin it for everyone else,” he said, “but 90 percent of the vehicles are speeding. So it isn’t just a few people who are ruining it for many. “ Ron Wilson said he would hate to see Lambert Park changed. “The opportunity to ride there with your children is one I don’t want to lose,” he said. Mayor Don Watkins told those in attendance that the he and the City Council have been discussing closing the park to motorized vehicles for years. After the public hearing, the City Council voted to continue to allow motorized vehicles in the park for a trial period of six months, with the following conditions: “1. Speed limits and access will be strictly enforced by dedicating a police officer to Lambert Park. Staff will return with a recommendation at the next meeting with possible time for enforcement and will include penalties, which will be enhanced and defined. 2. Road closures for routes deemed unnecessary such as the south end of the poppy loop. 3. Seasonal closures (rain and snow) subject to the judgment of city staff. 4. Signage to specify motorized vs. non-motorized trails. 5. Continual assessment of compliance will drive the decision in January regarding future use and take into account the following: a. citation counts b. public input c. condition of the park 6. The city will evaluate the cost and feasibility of park cameras on trails, access and signage, to enforce signage vandalism.” The council also approved $12,000 to help with law enforcement in the park. On July 28 the council approved a park usage plan which incorporated the sections given by the council in their June 23 motion. The City Council plans to revisit the issue in January.
anyone.” According to KSL.com, the shooting has also been the subject of an investigation initiated earlier this year by the U.S. Attorney’s Office and the FBI. That investigation is still underway according to a spokeswoman from the U.S. Attorney’s Office.
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Miss Lehi walks to help prevent suicide
Lehi Fire Department Promotions By Linda Petersen
By Linda Petersen
Suicide prevention is an issue that is dear to the heart of Miss Lehi Caitlin Thomas. That’s why she chose it for her platform and now she’s walking to raise awareness of the problem. Thomas will participate, along with family, friends and supporters, in the Walk for Hope in Provo on Saturday, Sept. 26. “We had a family member attempt suicide a year ago,” Thomas said. “It had a pretty big impact on our family. It opened our eyes and changed how we viewed suicide. It felt like something dark and dismal that would come into our family,” she has stated. On Sept. 26, Thomas and others will walk two miles in remembrance of those they’ve lost and in honor of suicide prevention. She will walk with a team of about 40 family members, friends and two Lehi City Council members. (The council committed to sending two of its members, but had not determined who that would be by press time.) No family is immune. There are individuals in every family that may be struggling with this, Thomas said. Utah had the ninth highest suicide rate in
2013, according to the American Association of Suicidology. The free suicide awareness and prevention walk, which is being sponsored by Walk4Hope, will be held at Timpview Elementary, 449 North 500 West. Registration is at 8 a.m. and there will be a short presentation. Organizers hope that the walk will raise awareness about the problem and educate the public about what they can do to help prevent it. “Our family member is doing great now. They’re getting ready to go to college and are leading a full, happy life,” Thomas said. Thomas, along with her first attendant Jacki Thacker, also participated in a candlelight vigil in Lehi’s Wines Park on Sept. 10, National Suicide Awareness and Prevention Day. Caption: Miss Lehi Caitlin Thomas and First Attendant Jacki Thacker joined forces at a candlelight vigil on National Suicide Awareness and Prevention Day.
Newly promoted Lehi Fire Department officers were recently recognized in a badge pinning ceremony on Aug. 17. A swearing in for two new firefighters took place on Aug. 20. Photos courtesy of Lehi Fire Department. Captions: Lehi fire badge pinning The newly promoted fire department members with Chief Jeremy Craft. From left, Battalion Chief Tim Robinson, Battalion Chief Kim Beck, Chief Jeremy Craft, Captain Jeff Smith, Captain Shad Hatfield Lehi fire badge pinning 1 Jeff Smith getting his badge pinned by his wife, Cassandra Smith. Jeff was promoted from engineer to captain. He is captain over station 82 B Platoon. Lehi fire badge pinning 2 Tim Robinson getting his badge pinned by his wife, Katie Robinson. Tim was promoted from captain to battalion chief. He is now battalion chief for both crews on C Platoons. Lehi fire badge pinning 3 Shad Hatfield is getting his badge pinned by his wife, Whitney Hatfield. Shad was promoted from engineer to captain. He is now captain over Station 82 A Platoon. Lehi fire badge pinning 4
Kim Beck getting his badge pinned by his wife, Rebecca Beck. Kim was promoted from Captain to Battalion Chief. He is now Battalion Chief for both crews on A platoon Lehi fire swearing in Chief Jeremy Craft swears in Tanner Ricks (left) and Aaron Fuller (right). Lehi fire badge pinning 6 Aaron Fuller getting is badge pinned by his wife, Katie Fuller. Aaron is now a fulltime firefighter/paramedic on B-Shift at Station 81. Lehi fire badge pinning7 Tanner Ricks getting his badge pinned by his wife, Teresa Ricks. Tanner is now a fulltime firefighter/paramedic on C-Shift at station 82. Lehi fire badge pinning 8 From left, Fire Marshal Kerry Evans. Captain Shad Hatfield, Battalion Chief Kim Beck, Paramedic Tanner Ricks, Fire Chief Jeremy Craft, Paramedic Aaron Fuller, Captain Ricky Evans, Captain Robert Stanley, Captain Jeff Smith and Captain Randy Harding
Saratoga Springs: Meet the Business Spotlight: The Ranches Golf Club Candidates By Kimberly Bennett
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Saratoga Springs Business Alliance and Talon’s Cove Golf Course are sponsoring a Meet the Candidates Night for those running for City Council. It will be held at Talon’s Cove Golf Course Reception Center. Mark your calendars for October 21, from 7pm to 9pm. All are invited. This is a great opportunity for residents to meet the candidates face-to-face and ask them questions. Those running this
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election cycle are Shellie Baertsch(I), Rebecca Call(I), Ronald Edwards, Doug Graham, Bud Poduska(I), Chris Porter, and Hayden Williamson. There are three openings for 4-year terms. This is the only opportunity to date for interested voters to get to know their potential representatives in a planned setting. The election will be Tuesday, November 3, 2015.
Neglect and the Brain By Kimberly Bennett
There are lots of ugly things in this world. Few are uglier than child abuse. It’s a cruel statistic that has caused pain and heartache through countless generations. But there is a more covert form of child abuse out there, one that doesn’t involve bruises and broken arms, but can be just as damaging. It’s called neglect. Neglect occurs when caretakers fail to provide necessary care. This can be physically, medically, educationally, emotionally/psychologically, or any combination thereof. Neglect can lead to heartrending consequences, including death. But even those who survive neglect don’t come out unscathed, as studies suggest that neglect has a profound effect on brain development. Children who suffer from neglect are shown to have abnormalities in the whole matter of the brain. The limbic and cortical systems, the systems that control thinking and feeling and higher reasoning skills, are underdeveloped. This means that a child’s ability to connect, empathize, problem solve, and make good decisions are all compromised. There is good news. A study done by researchers at the Boston Children’s Hospital showed that, if addressed early, damage to brain development could be reversed. When the children from neglectful environments were placed in more nurturing situations, there were structural alterations in areas of the brain. Many children who have suffered from neglect end up in foster care and other organizations inside the children’s welfare system. Fostering a child who was damaged because of neglect can be a difficult process, but a loving, stable, safe environment really makes all the difference. And, with time, the damage can be undone. Neglect is a hurtful and damaging form of abuse. If you suspect abuse or neglect of a child, please inform local child protective services. A reasonable suspicion is enough to file a report. In many states, it’s the law. And to those who open up their hearts and homes to help those children, we appreciate all you do. Working together, we can make sure that no child is neglected, left behind, or forgotten.
The crisp feeling of the new morning is still in the air when I step out of my car and walk towards The Ranches Golf Club. I’ve never been to a golf course before. I’m not a golfer. Nor was I going to be one that day, since I was wearing flip flops, capris, and the wrong kind of blouse. They require golf attire. Soft cleats, shorts, and a collared shirt. But looking out over the rolling green of the golf course, I could understand the appeal of the sport. I met with Tele Wightman, the head golf professional at The Ranches, who explains to me that the golf course there has a unique structure, known as a links layout. There are no trees, just rolling hills. This makes the game more challenging because there’s a lot more wind and very few flat surfaces. “It’s a very fun game,” Wightman tells me. “…It’s just nice to get out on a nice landscaped area and walk around. It’s nice. You can just play with your friends. It’s very addicting for those who play regularly.” He goes on to say that the ability
to see an improvement in your game is partially why it’s so addicting. The Ranches is a public golf course, meaning that you don’t need to be a club member to play there. Rates vary depending on day and time, but right now, when it’s not peak season, they offer an Off Season Temperature Special. “Half of yesterday’s high temperature is today’s 18 green fee including golf cart.” The Ranches is home to many leagues, and junior players (16 and under) are encouraged to come play for free every Monday. Wightman recommends the game to juniors because it’s not only competitive, there’s integrity to the game. Keeping score, keeping the golf course nice, monitoring and fixing ball marks. There’s a lot of honesty involved. If you’re interested in learning to golf, The Ranches is as great place to start. “We’re very friendly over here,” says Wightman. “And really, we welcome all types of skill level golfers. Don’t be afraid to come down.”
Local Author Publishes First Novel By Kimberly Bennett
Anyone who has ever tried to put pen to paper can vouch for the fact that writing a novel is a long, sometimes grueling process. But for those who persevere, it’s well worth it. Just ask Chad Parker, whose first book, Sterling Bridge, comes out this year. A book that has been 16 years in the making. Parker was a sophomore at BYU when he started writing his first story. He had taken it to the English department to see if someone might help him turn it into a screenplay, when he was recommended to a professor in another department, Don Norton. Norton had been researching an ancestor named Sterling Harris. And for two years he’d been searching for someone to tell Sterling’s story. When he saw Parker’s work, it seemed like the perfect fit. That was back in 1999. Though Parker was reasonably excited to be asked to write a book, it wasn’t an easy process. Because it was a historical account, finding information and reconciling facts from different perspectives proved difficult. He dropped the project for a while, but when he returned to BYU, working at the Harold B. Lee Library, he once again began his research. Such unfettered access to the library resources helped considerably. “I think some life experience gave me a better idea of maybe what went on,” Parker says, talking about the progress he was finally able to make. That progress finally resulted in Sterling Bridge. Seen through the eyes of a teenager, Ster-
ling Bridge tells the story of 1920’s Tooele High School football coach, Sterling Harris. Harris finds himself in a community divided between the old and the new. The descendants of Mormon pioneers on one side of the town, the largely Catholic, International Smelting Community on the other. History and religion kept the two sides apart. But Sterling, an outsider himself, didn’t like living in a community so divided. “He had no tolerance for disrespect of biased words,” Parker says, speaking of Sterling. He goes on to say that Sterling had a strong understanding of football and different cultures and he sought to bring the town together. Sterling’s determination paid off for Tooele, and it seems to be a lesson Parker has learned himself. “The one thing that always comes to my mind about writing is perseverance,” says Parker. “What you’re interested in in life, perseverance. Just don’t give up. “ Sterling Bridge will be released on November 10th, and is available for preorder from Amazon and Barnes and Noble.
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How to Choose a Candidate By Jan Brown Memmott
Elections are just over a month away. There are no major national races, but local ones are often more important to our daily lives, so voting for the right candidate is critical. Here are five suggestions to help find the candidate who will represent you and your best interests.
Startup Companies Be Aware of Section 83b election By Kory Farrer
There are many startup companies in this area - often called the silicon slopes. Utah county is home to many companies that started with a few great ideas and have bloomed to worldwide success. The founding members of such companies make millions as they take their companies public, or get bought by bigger companies that already are public. Of course it is always after the fact that they ask what they can do to keep more of the tax money on the gains from the sale of their company. Many are not aware of the 83 b election.When you are first hired as a founding member in a startup company, you have something very important you can do in the first 30 days to save hundreds of thousands of dollars down the road when/if you sell your original shares. Often, a startup will give you founding shares as an enticement to work for a startup - for example, 5,000,000 shares of stock with a par value of $0.0001 per share - two years later to be sold for $1.00 per share. By not making the 83 b election, as these shares vest, the fair market value of the shares vesting is included in the employee’s W-2 income. In our example, if half the shares vests in the first year, and the fair market value of the shares are $0.25, the employee’s W-2 form will show additional income of 2,500,000 x $0.25 or $650,000, (and taxes due - at the maximum 39.6% or tax of $257,400) as the employee’s basis in the stock. The next year, when the rest of the stock vests - let’s say at $0.50 per share, an additional income of $1,250,000, ($0.50 x the remaining
2,500,000 shares - taxes due of $495,000 @ 39.6%) is added to the employee’s basis in the stock. The employee then sells his 5,000,000 shares in the company buyout at $1.00 per share, for a total of $5 million dollars. His capital gain, subject to the 20% capital gains tax on only the first year’s vesting, is $1,850,000, (2,5000,000 - 650,000 already paid) or taxes of $370,000 @ 20%. The gain (ordinary income, not capital gains) on the other half, since it had not been held for a minimum of 1 year, is $495,000 (1,250,000 x 39.6%). Total tax paid on the transaction: Year 1 - $257,000 (even though no money has been realized from the stock), Year 2 - $1,360,000 or 2 year total tax of $1,617,000. The 83b election allows a founding stock owner to lock in the fair market value within 30 days of the time the rights are granted (not when vested), start the holding period, ignore vesting for taxes, and set the basis at the beginning when the value is low. The employee is taxed on $500 (5,000,000 x .0001 par/fair market value) the first year (at top rates would be a max of $298). Then, when the stock is sold, the 1 year capital gain holding period is satisfied, therefore, the entire gain is capital gain instead of ordinary income, taxes due - $999,900 - a savings of over $600,000 in taxes just by timely making the election. Consult an experienced professional before electing Section 83 b. Kory Farrer, EA Owner of Farrer and Associates, LLC - Saratoga Springs, UT
1) Decide what you are looking for in a candidate. Choose a few issues and personal leadership qualities that are most important to you, then educate yourself to see which candidates share your outlook on these specific issues. For example, are you more interested in having a city rec center built or in keeping your property taxes low? This is a major issue in the Saratoga Springs City Council race, and voters would be wise to know where candidates stand. Leadership qualities vary as much as individual personalities. Sometimes a person is a great leader, but a poor communicator, and sometimes the opposite is true. Decide how much these and other interpersonal skills matter to you as a voter. As you get to know those running, you may decide to eliminate some based on their stance on issues or leadership skills. 2) Research the candidates. If you want to know who is running for city council, go to your city’s website. All cities have a list of candidates, and most have short bios of the individuals, as well. You will find links to email addresses, Facebook pages, and websites for the candidates there. For incumbents, look at their vot-
ing record on important issues. Did they do what they promised in the past? Did they vote the way you would have? What specific conclusions can you draw about the candidates’ stand on issues? 3) Learn about each person’s leadership abilities. What is his or her background and experience? How prepared is this person for the position? Observe each campaign. Is the candidate readily available to communicate with you? Does he or she answer emails or Facebook posts? Are they willing to debate opponents or speak to those who may oppose them? How do they get along with both friends and opponents? 4) Learn how others view the candidates. Our own opinion is most important, of course, but learning what others think is a valid way to help us research the candidates. Personal endorsements, campaign contributions, even your friends’ opinions, can make a difference. Be careful giving too much weight to an opinion poll- they can be biased. 5) Sort it all out. Ask yourself these questions as you make your final choice: Which candidate’s view on the issues do you agree with the most? Who ran the fairest campaign? Which candidate demonstrated the most knowledge on the issues? Which candidate has the leadership qualities you are looking for? Is the choice clear? Good job! Now go vote.
Not Just a Tantrum By Kimberly Bennett
Toddlers are going to throw tantrums. Who can blame them? When you’re that age, everything is a big deal, because everything is new. Sometimes that’s just going to happen, and that’s okay. So let’s get that out of the way right now. Children will have fits, and that’s normal...except for when it’s not. It enters the problems-that-needto-be-addressed-now area when tantrums become what psychiatrists have deemed “high-intensity disruptive behavior.” Now, I’m sure that anyone who has been around a child would call some of those fits very intense. And ear-splitting. What makes a tantrum not just a tantrum, but high-intensity? Disruptive behavior is considered high-intensity and is considered a conduct disorder when it meets the following criteria: aggression towards other people, extreme deceitfulness, including theft, serious destruction of property, extremely defiant behavior, and serious social problems with their peer group. When these symptoms are present, it is recommended that the parent or guardian seek psychiatric help for their child. That can sound a little extreme. A psychiatrist for a three-year-old? But researchers have found that high-intensity disruption as a preschooler leads to behavioral problems later in school and life. And there is a good chance they are having serious issues in the here and now. More than half of children diagnosed with high-intensity disruptive
disorder also suffered from pre-school depression. And issues will continue to haunt children as they grow older. Adapting to the demands of growing up becomes too much. Anti-social behaviors and conduct disorders disrupt their ability to function in schools and make friends. Keeping a job or even a relationship becomes extremely difficult. Approximately one in twenty children will have high-intensity disruptive behavior. These behaviors are indicators of future problems that you can address and solve right now. If you feel your child is suffering under these symptoms, please contact your pediatrician. Even when it seems overwhelming, just remember: getting help now makes all the difference.
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Social Media’s Effect on Mental Health
Local Girl a Published Author
By Matthew Gary Milam
By Jan Brown Memmott
Saratoga Springs is home to a writing prodigy. Emilee King penned her first novel while she was still a student at Westlake High. She missed several months of school her junior year recovering from surgery and needed to do something with her time, when her English teacher issued the NaNoWriMo challenge to her class. November is National Novel-Writing Month. She had the month of November to write a 50,000 word novel. “I took the challenge,” says Emilee, “and it changed my life.” She self-published this first thriller on Createspace, “Surviving on a Whisper” in October 2013. King just finished her freshman year at BYU, where she plans to graduate in Psychology and minor in Writing and Rhetoric. She is delaying her sopho-
more year for a semester, because she needs another leg surgery. She also just completed her second book, “Surviving Through the Night” which is a sequel to “Whisper.” They are both available through Amazon.com. She plans to make the series a trilogy, and will begin work on the third novel soon. In an exclusive interview, Emilee revealed that besides writing, she loves solitaire, Netflix, Pinterest, and Sprite. She collects sticky notes and pens. She fell in love with reading through Stephenie Meyer’s books. She also enjoys J.K. Rowling, Rick Riordan, Chris Stewart, and Katherine Hannigan. She aspires to be atop the New York Times Bestseller list someday. Good luck to Emilee King in her future writing endeavors, surgeries, education, and happiness. We wish her the best.
It’s been more than 40 years since email was born. Since then, technology has advanced exponentially, and along with it, the new and modern ways in which we connect and socialize with each other. Wonderful advantages have been handed to us by these technology innovators, such as the ability to call a child’s cell phone when they have become separated from us in a mall or at an amusement park, for example. Or the ability to use Facebook as another method to locate a missing child. This aspect of modern communication, for example, has no doubt alleviated a great amount of worry and anxiety from our lives in the name of safety. But what of social media otherwise? Is it good for us? Is it helping or hindering our mental well-being? It is said that 1 in 4 people are using social networking sites such as Facebook and Twitter. Images of groups of teenagers standing outside high schools and at bus stops, staring at and transfixed by their cell phones, are showing up on social media itself with comments and concerns over this new reality. With this in mind, it might be wise to ask ourselves a few interesting questions: When was the last time you heard someone say something like? -- “Hey, I’ll be right back. I’m just going to pop over to Emily’s house to see if she wants to go to the store,” or “Honey, I’ll be right back. I’m heading off to the post office to mail this letter to Uncle Jim.” Probably not very often. For better or worse, our society has changed. And the question persists, and will keep persisting—is this all good for us? A study from 2012 (Reported by Medical News Today) suggested that “Facebook use may feed anxiety and increase a person’s feeling of inadequacy.” More recently, social psychiatrist Ethan Cross of the University of Michigan found that Facebook may even make us miserable. “On the surface, Facebook provides an
TOTAL LIFE EXCELLENCE: 7 Ways to Improve Your Child’s Self-Confidence By Paula Fellingham
Confident children are usually happy children. They can more easily see the needs of others instead of focusing primarily on themselves. Confidence breeds unselfishness and unselfishness breeds kind actions. Children who are kind are well-liked, and being well-liked creates more confidence. As parents, we can help our children be more self-confident in these 7 ways: 1. Teach children that you love them. Family members need to show one another that the basis of their relationship is unconditional love, with no strings attached. We need to look in our children’s, our parents’, our brothers’ and sisters’ eyes and say, “I love you.” Often. Children need to know that love for them does not depend on whether they win the game, get high grades or even if they behave well. This doesn’t mean that we don’t discipline our children when they misbehave, but it does mean that we should teach our children that we love them, no matter what. 2. Teach children of their value and potential. Parents should spend time together discussing each child - his or her individual strengths and weaknesses. They should have a plan for their children from early in their marriage, and a master plan for their family. From the time children are very young, parents should share with their sons
and daughters a vision of what they can be - like this: “Michael, you are seven years old now. Look how big you’ve grown! Look at your strong arms - wow! And look at your long legs! And you’re such a kind boy! Mama wants you to know how happy it makes her that you choose the right so often. Michael, do you know that someday you’ll be really tall like Dad? And you’ll drive a car, and go to work each day... Honey, do you know that you can be anything you want to be when you grow up? You can be a schoolteacher, or sell houses, or be a doctor....anything you want! But do you know what? The most important thing is to be kind and loving - just like your Dad. Someday you can be a dad - just like your Daddy! But no matter how big you get - I’ll always love you!” Talks like these boost children’s self-esteem, and they teach. On the other hand, unkind name-calling, sarcasm, criticism and put-downs kill self-esteem. 3. Teach children they are appreciated. Praise and appreciation are like sunshine for growing things; they’re needed every day. If we don’t express appreciation for the good things our children do, they’ll misbehave to get our attention in negative ways. By showing love and appreciation we PREVENT problems in their childhood and, later, unhappiness when they become adults. However, the appreciation we give our children needs to be
invaluable resource for fulfilling the basic human need for social connection,” says Kross. “But rather than enhance well-being, we found that Facebook use predicts the opposite result—it undermines it.” Medicalnewstoday.com reports that Facebook’s mission is as follows: “Facebook’s mission is to give people the power to share and make the world more open and connected. People use Facebook to stay connected with friends and family, to discover what’s going on in the world, and to share and express what matters to them.” Although this statement seems very positive and optimistic, what’s interesting is the report by MNT that indicates that people who are more anxious and socially insecure are more likely to use Facebook. A survey on social media use (Anxiety UK, 2012) found that 53% of participants said that social media sites had changed their behavior, while 51% of these said the change had been negative. The researchers stated, “Many people using social networking sites make comparisons with others, which can lead to negative emotions. Those who said their lives had been worsened by using social media also reported feeling less confident when they compared their achievements against friends.” With all the advantages social media provides, it might be wise to consider the possible negative effect it can have on the mental health of us and our children. It might be wise to take a small vacation from social media—including emailing—for maybe a day or even a week, and challenge our children to do the same. Research seems to point to the possibility that frequent use of social media can affect our mental health; taking a refreshing break from social media, and finding out for ourselves, might be an eye-opening experience that can help us change our course if need be. when they obey. That’s one of the reasons why we need to teach them obedience and respect, then require no less. As they obey family rules, they’ll see how it contributes to the peace and joy in the home.
merited and sincere. 4. Teach children how to excel in something they enjoy. This doesn’t mean that the child needs to be a prodigy; just being a little above-average in something helps a child’s feelings of self-worth. Once children do well at one thing, they learn what it feels like to master a skill. They like this feeling and usually want to repeat it in other endeavors. People who are successful in one area tend to be successful in many others. 5. Teach children to obey. The principle of obedience is fundamental to good self-esteem. Our children simply feel better about themselves when they obey. We should make it easy for them. This requires that we set do-able rules, with their participation, and that we teach this law by our example. Children know when they’re misbehaving, and they’ll feel better about themselves
6. Teach children to contribute at home. Household responsibilities successfully completed, participation in the creation of family rules, and an older child contributing to the family’s financial well-being - these all help our sons and daughters feel valuable and good about themselves. Children need to believe that they’re important parts of the whole. They can easily see Dad and Mom’s contributions and they want to help. Make it easy for them by assigning them age-appropriate responsibilities, then shower them with praise and appreciation when they’ve done their best. 7. Teach children to serve others gladly. Teach children that through their acts of unselfish service, lives are improved. Take them with you each time you serve they’ll see and feel how lives are blessed through service. Teach children that service increases their capacity to love because we love those we serve. Give them many, many opportunities to serve. Those served return the child’s love. And when a child is serving others with no thought of reward, he is living in harmony with what he knows in his heart is right. And that always increases a child’s feelings of self-worth. Paula Fellingham: pfellingham@gmail. com - 866. GO WOMEN (469.6636). Visit www.WomensInformationNetwork.com and www.UtahValleyWomen.com
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Come on out for Cedar Hills’ Lehi Pioneers Dedicate Hillbilly Day Volleyball Match to Fallen Softball Coach By Linda Petersen
The Cedar Hills Youth Council is planning a knee-slappin,’ toe-tappin’, good time for its first Hillbilly Day fundraiser. (Last year’s event was snowed out.) Hillbilly Day will be held Saturday, Sept. 26 from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. at Cedar Hills’ Heritage Park, 4425 W. Cedar Hills Drive. There will be all kinds of activities for the whole family including a bluegrass band, hay rides and carriage rides. Youth council members are hoping some of Cedar Hills’ best bakers will come out and participate in their pie contest. (There
will be prizes for the winners.) Everyone will be able to buy a slice of pie for $1. In addition, there will be a bunch of old-fashioned games like tug of war and horseshoes. Admission to Hillbilly Day is $10 per family. All proceeds will go to the Youth Council’s Santa’s Workshop and other service projects. For more information, email Nicole Allen at email@example.com or call her at 801-785-9668, ext. 302.
Fitness, a Trait You Can Share By Kimberly Bennett
They say that couples become more similar with age. Whether they mean dressing alike, or adopting personality quirks, it’s hard to say. But studies do show that certain behaviors can rub off on spouses, and it turns out it’s a good thing. Researchers led primarily by professionals from John Hopkins University, (though other institutions were involved,) recently presented at a meeting of the American Heart Association. One of the topics they discussed related to married couples and their exercise habits. The research for this study began back in the 1980’s and spanned several years. Over 3,000 spouse pairs were involved. The US Department of Health and Human services recommends that adults get 150 minutes of moderate aerobic exercise or 75 minutes of vigorous exercise a week. The study showed that during the first interview, 33% of wives, and 40% of husbands met these requirements. When the researchers checked back years later, it was discovered that those who had spouses that met the Health Depart-
ment’s requirements were more likely to be exercising more than they had been six years earlier. How much more likely? Wives were 40% more likely to be exercising if their husbands had been working out. And men were an impressive 70% more likely to join their wives in exercising. The good habits of one spouse had a strong influence on the habits of the other. However, the door swings both ways. Couples that stopped exercising unwittingly encouraged spouses to do the same. Still, persuading loved ones for better, rather than worse, is possible. As it turns out, influencing your spouse to make healthier choices isn’t limited to exercise. It can also include diet, losing weight, and ceasing dangerous behaviors like smoking. So, if you want a healthier spouse, the best way is to become a bit healthier yourself. It takes a little effort, but neither of you will regret it. And that’s a great similarity to share.
By Dean Memmott
The Lehi Pioneers dedicated their Sept. 3 volleyball match to the memory of a Pioneer assistant softball coach who had died the night before. Playing before a home crowd that Thursday night, the Pioneers defeated the Alta Hawks by scores of 25-16, 25-23, 25-16. In dedicating the match to the memory of assistant softball coach, Carla Grow, the Pioneers took up a collection to help pay for her funeral costs. One of Alta’s coaching staff members donated to the collection after the match. It opened with a Marta Ellsworth tip-dropping the ball into an Alta hole. Lehi took a 2-0, but soon an Alex Betz kill tied the game at two. Amber Lamborn and Rylin Roberts took charge in guiding Lehi out to an 9-2 lead. A Kacey Blackner kill opened a comeback for Alta. The Hawks flapped back within 15-9 through hits from Brook Vanderheide and Lexi Walbeck. Blocks and hits by Mikayla Upham, Faith Crabb, Roberts, and Ellsworth, gave Lehi the momentum to pull away. With the Pioneers winning 25-16, Alta looked as though it would be too demoralized to play well in Game 2. However, after an Ellsworth block sent Lehi stroking out to a 5-1 lead, the Hawks battled back. Betz, Vanderheide, and Walbeck guided the Hawks in tying the game four times. Alta finally pulled ahead 23-22, giving the impression that the Hawks would force a fourth game. However, they missed a serve, and soon a Crabb kill gave Lehi a 25-23 win. Lehi took a 5-1 lead in the second game, but Alta battled back to tie the game at five. Once the Hawks pulled ahead 6-5, the game was a seesaw fight until the two
teams battled to a 10-10 draw. An Ellsworth kill put Lehi ahead 11-10. Roberts, Ellsworth, and Upham guided the Pioneers in preventing Blackner, Betz, and Walbeck from stirring up another Hawk comeback. The Hawks couldn’t get any closer to Lehi than six points. Lehi playerJamie Ingersoll said, “We had good serving to make sure Alta couldn’t get into a groove. Alta’s Nos. 8 [Vanderheide] and 21 [Walbeck] were quite scrappy competitors. We had to do a lot of work to keep them from doing much damage to us.”
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