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Living Your Best Life Dr. Nina’s How To Live Your Best Life People come and go in your life, but the right ones will always stay. With time, people can grow apart, perhaps due to geography, other priorities or relationships, physical or mental health conditions, conflict, or learning someone’s true colors. They are part of your story, and as we grow older we learn that our lives have many chapters, complete with new characters and adventures that we enjoy in the moment. Learn to accept this and move on.

You can’t please everyone. People are different, or unique—their lives, faiths, beliefs, values, relationships, thoughts, choices, personalities, emotions, skin color, size, and physical appearance, the list goes on. And when your uniqueness differs from theirs, it bothers them and some choose to criticize or say hurtful things to boost their ego or fill in gaps in their self-esteem. If what you are doing is not harmful, continue doing what makes you happy and what pleases you. After all, as Dr. Seuss states, “Those who matter don’t mind, and those who do mind don’t matter.”

Put aside your pride. It is said that of the deadly

sins—lust, envy, anger, greed, gluttony, sloth—that pride is the deadliest of all, and the root or beginning of all evil. Less dramatically, having a healthy dose of pride is important to healthy self-respect and self-esteem. However, too much can lead to unreasonable behaviors or actions—or the manifestation of the other sins. Often pride is rooted from (unrealistic) fear of embarrassment or shame, and results in the breakdown of relationships or that special bond. When appropriate, don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself, acknowledge you don’t know everything or that you are wrong, and even say you are sorry.

Somebody’s story or feed is just a highlight reel of their best or photoshopped pictures or life event. There’s always going to be something better than what you have. And if that’s what you focus on, it robs you of the ability to enjoy what you have in your life.

Cherish important relationships. To cherish is

to protect and care for someone lovingly or hold something dear—to nurture. And there are many ways to do this: spend time with family and friends; express gratitude towards them; tell them how you feel (e.g., “I love you”) and that they matter (humans have an innate desire to receive and give love); practice forgiveness; perform thoughtful acts for them (even simple ones such as a card, letter, email, or text with good wishes are powerful); and surround yourself with memories such as pictures of your loved one or other mementos.

Don’t let complaining become a habit. It’s

annoying and no one really cares what you’re saying when all you do is complain. Often, complaining is a way of relieving stress, results from frustration and an inability to solve the problem, it’s how you grew up, is part of your family culture/ dynamic, it’s attention-seeking, or is a manifestation of depressive symptoms. And it negatively impacts our mind and body.

Practice empathy. Defined as “the ability to understand and share the feelings of another,” empathy helps build trust while reducing stress and tension. Despite individual differences in empathy between individuals, it can be developed. Make an active effort to listen, connect with someone’s feelings, acknowledge their pain, and show them love.

You don’t have to attend every argument you’re invited to. While not always easy to decline

Nina Radcliff, M.D.,

Don’t compare yourself to others. Someone else’s story is not your story.

Often called upon by media to speak to medical health topics impacting our lives today, Dr. Nina is passionate about sharing truths for healthy, balanced living as well as wide preventative measures.

the invitation, most are not our fights to fight. And they are a waste of time and energy—which can never be recovered— and can even ruin relationships, which may be difficult or impossible to mend. Negativity is not productive and it sets fertile grounds for the sprouting of anger, resentment, and, in some instances, bitterness. Like a weed, they crowd out or annihilate positivity.

And as Theodore Roosevelt stated: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” This is particularly true today where social media has created a new term: “FOMO”—fear of missing out.

is a practicing physician and a Board Certified Anesthesiologist.

This article is for general information only and should not be used for the diagnosis or treatment of medical conditions and cannot substitute for the advice from your medical professional. Dr. Nina has used all reasonable care in compiling the current information but it may not apply to you and your symptoms.  Always consult a doctor or other health care professional for diagnosis and treatment of medical conditions.

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