Will the Ceremony Encompass a Specific Religion or a Mix of Religions? traditionally, weddings have a religious undertone. Even if religion is not significant to the marrying couple, you should resolve this matter with parents before the wedding plans are cemented. Religious protocol, if pertinent, can be established by working with an officiate of the relevant religions. If the religious figure you contact is insistent on controlling your wedding in a manner incongruous with your wishes, you may want to approach another. All priests (rabbis, ministers) are not the same, nor do they conduct marriage ceremonies in the exact same manner. Find an officiant that complements you and your spiritual needs. Any Special Family Traditions? Are there any family traditions that you can include in your ceremony to give it that special touch? Ask members of your family—better to find out before rather than after. Or even better yet, create a family tradition! Is the Bride Changing Her Name? It is the bride’s prerogative whether to change her name to the groom’s family name or not, and she should not be pressured by either family. If the bride is changing her name, get all the necessary forms together (insurance, driver’s license, bank accounts, social security, passport, credit cards) so that everything can be changed as soon as possible after the ceremony. Is Anyone Feeling Overburdened with Wedding Preparations? Ask to be certain no one is feeling overwhelmed or burned-out by wedding preparations. You may want to take time out together, maybe a weekend away, when wedding discussions and decisions become overwhelming. How Will You Resolve Conflicts Regarding the Wedding? When planning for your wedding, open and honest communication is crucial. Listen to each other’s needs and concerns while you plan for your big day. You are probably already very busy with your work, home and other obligations without the difficulties of planning a wedding. If you come to an impasse in planning, realize that you can get advice from a mutual friend, wedding planner, or someone who has traveled this road before.
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