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needs and do what you can to help meet them. If they feel they would rather spend some time alone, honor that. If they feel they need to get away this holiday season, offer to go with them or help them plan the trip. All the while, of course, make sure they are taking care of themselves physically and mentally. Sometimes professional help may be needed from a physician or mental health professional. It is unrealistic to expect that, after what may be considered a sufficient period of time, everything will eventually return to normal. In reality, the world will never be the same with the absence of a loved one. That doesn’t mean that future holidays will always be sad; they won’t. They will, however, be different. There may be a desire to discontinue old holiday traditions for a while because they seem inseparably linked to the memory of one who is gone. Remember, adjustments in established traditions may be a necessary part of adapting to a loss. These changes may be temporary or they may be long-lasting, as they have been with my sister. Lastly, I would like to remind readers that there is a purpose to grief. It is a healing process. It may seem like things will never get better, but in time they will. Those experiencing grief during the holidays likely feel like they are a stranger in a strange land. What helps most during these times is a gentle, understanding, assuring, and guiding presence to help them navigate through unfamiliar territory. Eddie P. Millhollon, LPC is the Director of Clinical Services for The Center for Families, a non-profit agency that provides counseling on a sliding fee scale to anyone seeking assistance.

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