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by Eddie P. Millhollon, LPC

Counselor's corner

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acing the holidays when someone who has been such an important part of past holidays is gone is perhaps one of the greatest challenges loved ones who remain will ever endure. So many family rituals that surround the holidays can’t help but awaken past memories shared with the missing loved one. In preparing this article, I asked my sister, who lost her daughter Aimee in a tragic accident over thirteen years ago, how this painful loss changed how she has faced holidays in subsequent years. She said she felt she could not be at home that first Christmas and spent it away at our brother’s home in Arizona. At that time, she said the pain was so great she couldn’t imagine how she would face future holidays. To this day, she hasn’t been able to continue many of the rituals she did when Aimee was alive. However, she said she has established new traditions and stays busy focusing on others, making her remaining family feel special. All this, she says, helps to keep her mind off the pain that still lingers during the holidays. Thankfully, she has found that time is a great healer. How we make it through the holidays after losing a loved one is going to be different for everyone, but I think there are important things to be learned from my sister’s experience. First, it is important that the emotional needs of those grieving a loss be honored. Friends and family may think they know what is best for those experiencing grief at this time, but remember that people grieve in different ways and, as a result, have different emotional needs during this process. Listen to the expression of those

Honoring the Emotional Needs of Those Facing the Holidays After the Passing of a Loved One

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