THE STRIPPER Susan Bremer O’Neill If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like to be an exotic dancer, Susan Bremer O’Neill can tell you. Just shy of her 35th birthday, Susan began stripping on weekends and eventually left her job as a laser technician to dance for a living. Her memoir “From Sex Appeal to Self Appeal: One woman’s journey to recover her body, her sexuality, her self” chronicles her experiences and eventual enlightenment to a healthy sense of sexuality and self love. Susan’s first step toward self love actually happened two years prior to taking up dancing when she sobered up. “I’d been a very high-functioning substance abuser from about the age of 14, although you couldn’t tell to look at me. I presented a pretty package; and on paper I looked good, having graduated with high honors from high school and technical school. From the outside it appeared that my life worked, but inside I was chaotic, fearful, and in a lot of pain.
Once I became a sober woman at 33, feelings, thoughts and the frustration of living a life that wasn’t making me happy emerged. “ After complaining to her male hairstylist, he suggested Susan try stripping. She ended up doing just that, working mainly at clubs where she went topless with a bikini bottom. Susan was usually the oldest dancer, which in some ways made her feel superior and in other ways inferior. “One of the great things I learned is that there is not one specific body type that customers (men or women) preferred… I learned, from talking with thousands of men, that we’re more concerned with how we look to them, than they are.” READ THE FULL INTERVIEW HERE
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