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February 13, 2018

Issue 16 Vol. 82

St. Thomas University’s Official Student Publication

FINDING

THE LOVE

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Troy Glover attends the Longhouse Elders Gathering, an event to discuss Indigenous traditions, the loss of language and the future of Indigenous cultures Wolastoqiyik Grand Chief Ron Tremblay shared perspectives on how life began, the creation of the world and the unity found in the symbol of a pipe as part of the Longhouse Elders Gathering at St. Thomas University. Approximately 80 people, including elders from across the province, attended the first day of the midwinter celebrations on Feb. 9 at the STU Conference Centre on Forest Hill. The celebration is part of the university’s efforts to incorporate Indigenous perspectives and knowledge into its curriculum and community, as per the Truth and Reconciliation Commission’s calls to action. “The importance of the ceremony is very crucial to our people. Knowing the teachings from the longhouse and the teachings of our culture traditionally,” said Tremblay.

The celebrations included the lighting of the sacred fire, introducing the longhouse, history of original Wabanaki systems, talking circles and elder workshops. Ceremonies were held morning and night, with people coming together to share meals and stories. Miigam’agan, STU’s elder-in-residence, said the fire is normally kept burning for 10 days in celebration. “It was more like what you’ll understand today as a greenhouse or co-living, it was to conserve as much as we can, and then to maintain life. That’s what the midwinter gathering was about,” she said. Miigam’agan said the longhouse is seen as the original political sphere where the day-to-day workings of people would be discussed. Miigam’agan wants to show young people how the longhouse was oper-

ated and how the ancestors lived. “It was our form of governance, it was our way of worship and it was how we were able to continually support our economic and social systems,” said Miigam’agan. “But it was more like, instead of separated, our longhouses were designed to conduct our support — that whole development of individual family and nation.” The talking circle on Feb. 10 involved grandmothers recounting stories of family, of times passed by, challenges they’ve struggled to overcome and their current emotions. The talking circle is also used to share wisdom and teach young people about their culture. A common topic among the grandmothers was the loss of language in the youth.

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Midwinter celebration continued from page 1 All who gathered patiently listened to each story as the air filled with feelings of understanding and nostalgia. Emotions ran deep with the occasional tear shed, but laughter still erupted within the circle from time to time. “When you invite ceremony and the sacred, you get a very clear direction where to go, because it’s for the betterment of all people and it’s the betterment of all creation when they come to some sort of consensus,” said Tremblay. Tremblay discussed the loss of Indigenous languages and cultures amongst the younger generations. He said he believes this gap in knowledge is because communities aren’t as solid as they used to be. “Now the young people who are in their 20s, 30s, and 40s, the majority of them have moved out of our communities,” Tremblay said.  “So we have to bridge that gap between the Western knowledge they have and bring it back to Wabanaki knowledge we have.”  Tremblay knows a lot of young people don’t know the language, but he said it ultimately leads to them also not know a lot about the ceremonies and governance due to the key role language plays. “This [celebration] would also promote to the young people and teach them that the huge part of who we are, or the main part of who we are, is rooted in our language.”

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Wolastoqiyik Grand Chief Ron Tremblay discussed the importance of teaching younger generations Wolastoqiyik culture. (Caitlin Dutt/AQ)

Money for campus groups Vice-president administration Matt LeBlanc reported $500 have been given to athletics for the upcoming volleyball championships STU is hosting Feb. 23-25. $450 has been given to Best Buddies and $500 to the St. Thomas University International Students’ Union for the annual multicultural fair. The Fredericton Young Greens had requested $50, which was discussed as a potential conflict, since STUSU is supposed to operate on principles of non-partisanship. The motion for that donation was called to a vote then tabled until the next meeting due to time constraints. Charitable assistance for STU alumnus STUSU has donated $575 in charitable assistance to a STU alumnus suffering stage 4 cancer in the lungs and liver. James Middleton, 37, went to STU, got married in 2015, had twin boys in 2016 and recently discovered a bad cough was something much worse. Middleton is a teacher at Sussex Regional High School. There is a Go Fund Me page set up in Middleton’s name with a goal of $25,000.

Approximately 80 people, including elders from across the province, attended the first day of the midwinter celebrations. (Caitlin Dutt/AQ)

Housing fair Vice-president education Brianna Workman has been working with two offcampus representatives to put together a housing fair on Feb. 20 from 11 a.m. to 2 p.m in James Dunn Hall. The fair will feature local landlords, as well as the office of the rentalsman, to talk about tenant rights. “We’re looking to bring all these folks to campus to both advertise their apartments so students have a convenient place to look at apartments for the first time right on campus, but also so they can be a bit more informed about renting,” said Workman. Revised application for NBSA director The application for a new director of the New Brunswick Student Alliance has been revised and relaunched on new job search platforms. The hiring committee hopes those platforms will make the position more visible to potential applicants. The deadline for the application is March 2. Workman said they hope to have the position filled by the end of the academic year. Collective bargaining negotiations The first meeting for the renegotiation of the collective bargaining negotiations between STUSU and its employees is scheduled for Feb. 14. Social media policy for STUSU members Social inclusion representative Rebecca Kingston announced she will be suggesting to STUSU’s governance committee that a social media policy be created for the members of council to follow while they hold an elected position. “I feel that we need to be aware of the diversity we represent, and I feel that we need to be aware of how the things that we do or say can alienate some of the people in our constituencies,” said Kingston.


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Have a Heart campaign calls for action on rights of Indigenous children Michael Pallotto

Fredericton MP Matt DeCourcey will be receiving over 60 Valentine’s Day cards this week from St. Thomas University students. These cards, however, will not be filled with your typical love notes. Rather, they’ll be calls to action. The cards are part of STU’s involvement in the national Have a Heart campaign coordinated across the country by the First Nations Child and Family Caring Society of Canada. The campaign is student and youth-led and seeks to raise awareness about social issues regarding Indigenous children through the writing and distribution of Valentine’s Day cards to Parliament Hill. A table was set up in James Dunn Hall from 1 p.m. to 3 p.m. on Feb. 6 for people to create their own cards or sign a premade card. Alexa Metallic, the STU Students’ Union Indigenous representative, organized the event. In an email she said the letters written by students focused on “[ensuring] First Nation children have access to health-care, school and the means necessary to grow up in a safe and

happy home.” Quality services for Indigenous children run low as schools on reserves receive about $4,000 less per student per year compared to provincially-funded schools. The reality of the reserves and long-standing attitudes of race discrimination are not the experience of white Canadians, leaving minority groups neglected. Fourth-year student Mandy Richard, who was also instrumental in STU’s Have a Heart event, told The Aquinian, “You don’t know what its like [on the reserves] if you haven’t lived there.” Metallic said the hard reality of that shows. She said “simply getting people interested” was the hardest part about organizing the event. “It’s really hard to engage with people when what we’re trying to promote doesn’t affect them at all.” The Have a Heart campaign seeks to overcome this lack of interest by raising awareness and sparking conversation in a sincere, but light-hearted way. Richard said it’s a “really creative way to the get the mes-

The Have a Heart campaign is a student and youth-led intiative that seeks to raise awareness about social issues Indigenous children face. (Caitlin Dutt/AQ)

sage out.” STUSU president Philippe Ferland described writing his Valentine’s Day card as an “artistic endeavour.” Richard thinks the less formal character of the campaign also gives it greater potential for success. “[The event is] not happening in a courtroom,” she said. “The message is coming right from the children.”

Ferland said the campaign brought together Indigenous and non-Indigenous students and offered an engaging environment for “non-Indigenous students to be introduced to these issues.” Still, much work needs to be done nationally and provincially to get Indigenous children the same quality services enjoyed by other children across the country.

Richard said even in a single day the Have a Heart campaign showed her that “a lot of students here are supportive of Indigenous needs,” so there’s reason to be hopeful and to expect better results in the future. So long, of course, as Cupid works his magic on Matt DeCourcey and friends.

STU alumnus qualifies for Jeopardy

Alexandre Silberman

Sean Thompson grew up watching Jeopardy. Now he’s just a phone call away from his dream of making it on the television show as a contestant. The St. Thomas University alumnus loved the “game aspect” of trivia shows growing up. After entering high school he became involved with Reach for the Top, the Canadian academic quiz competition, and was on several successful teams at Kennebecasis Valley

High School that won two provincial championships and finished top five in the country. “I got through middle and high school falling in love with trivia, and Jeopardy is sort of a natural extension of that,” Thompson said. He cites history, sports and older television as his strong subject areas. This isn’t Thompson’s first time qualifying. While at STU in 2010, he decided to take Jeopardy’s online contestant quiz for the first

STU alumni Sean Thompson (back left) is a phone call away from making it on Jeopardy. (Submitted)

time: a 50 question test with 15 seconds to answer each one. Thompson was then invited to audition for the college championships in Boston. “It was awesome in about every meaning of that term,” he said. “I was just in awe that I had gotten to that part in the process to get onto Jeopardy.” He never made the cut to appear on television, but kept on taking the quizzes as regularly as he could over the past decade, until receiving an email in October inviting him to an audition in Toronto. “It is a little bit of a lottery,” Thompson said. “They only have so many spots on the show, they only have so many spots for auditions.” After getting the notice, he flew out to Toronto where the auditions were held at the Royal York Hotel. Thompson and about 20 other people went to a main audition room where they wrote another 50 question test with only eight seconds to respond to each question. Thompson had experienced a Jeopardy audition before, but he was in for a surprise this time. Auditioners had just wrapped up answering some questions when the show’s star host slipped in unannounced. “As he slowly walked up to the front of the room, people got silent as they realized, ‘Holy cow, that’s Alex Trebek,’” Thompson said. Trebek doesn’t normally come to auditions, but he was in Toronto and and decided to

stop by to meet the hopeful contestants. Thompson had the opportunity to ask Trebek which game show other than Jeopardy was his favourite to work on. He replied it was To Tell the Truth because for the first time in his television career he could host while sitting down. The rest of the day included gameplay with buzzers and a personality interview which producers asked questions based around five facts. After around three hours, the participants were sent on their way with some Jeopardy giveaways. Of the 20 prospective contestants, probably about two of them will make it on the show. Thompson tries to keep up with the show as much as possible between his curling league and job as community service assistant at the Saint John Free Public Library, a position he credits, along with the quiz site Sporcle, for helping to sharpen his trivia skills. The path to Thompson’s dream of appearing on the show is simply a waiting game now. His name is on file until April 2018. He could receive a call from the producers anytime asking him to come to Los Angeles within a month to tape the show.

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Black History Month panel challenges ‘multicultural myth’

Alexandre Silberman

Pascale Divertius told the crowd at the Feb. 8 Black History Month panel that Canada’s perception as a racial “safe haven” is false. “Canada is very intentional in creating a multicultural myth and using it as a justification for why racism can’t possibly live here,” she said. The Haitian-born co-founder of Black Lives Matter Toronto was one of four speakers in the panel discussion in Kinsella Auditorium. Second-year student Husoni Raymond organized the event, after criticizing the university last year for doing little to celebrate Black History Month. The auditorium was packed with students, faculty and community members. The panel, moderated by communications and public policy professor Jamie Gillies, began with a discussion on how being black has impacted how the panelists have navigated their lives. Divertius, who was raised in the United States until age 11, described experiencing anger and awareness of racism from a young age. “In navigating my blackness and everything that comes with my blackness, it was either really sit in my anger ... or do something about it and try to find a way to make my anger transform into love,” she said. Alexa Joy Potashnik, the founder of Black Space Winnipeg, said she believes cities around the country are starting to yearn for authentic conversations about race and identity. “I think being black in this country really comes at a certain price,” she said. “And not just the richness and beauty of our blackness, but the struggle that is also associated with it.” Fourth-year STU student Will Leek shared his experience growing up

Four panelists discussed thier experience of being black in Canada on Feb. 8 in Kinsella Auditourium as part of Black History Month. (Caitlin Dutt/AQ) in Quispamsis, N.B., where he was one of four black students in a high school of over 1,000. He said he has been pulled over at least seven times while driving, way more than his white friends. Leek said the police once stopped him when he was walking down the street in his neighbourhood. The officer asked him where he lived. Leek said he lived around the corner, and the officer responded: “Hey, Mr. Basketball star, tell me your address.” “You don’t really feel accepted when you hear things like that coming from authority figures,” Leek said. Mary Louise McCarthy said she grew up

in Woodstock, N.B., “very angry” from the oppression she experienced, and left for Toronto as fast as she could. McCarthy, the former president of the N.B. Black Historical Society, said she was once at an airport and an older couple cut in front of her in line. When she asked the man why he had had gone in front of her, he said, “We’re seniors, we feel we should go in front of you, and you’re not even white.” Potashnik said people of colour have “become numb” to certain experiences because of the overwhelming amount of micro-aggressions and other forms of oppression faced regularly.

Mary Louise McCarthy, former president of the N.B. Black Historical Society, was one of the panelists. (Caitlin Dutt/AQ)

“The white people in Winnipeg, at least in the activism world, are very eager to be inclusive and about diversity and these trending words like allyship and safe space, inclusion ... are just very surface,” she said. “In some ways the more work that I do, the more I realize that pouring into a community is the best you can focus on.” Divertius emphasized she wanted audience members to leave remembering anti-black racism exists in every part of the country. The Black Lives Matter movement in Toronto was driven by the relative of a black man who had been killed at a traffic stop, yet received little attention from the public. “I think this says something about the way Canada really tries to swoop this under the rug, and keep these stories, very much hidden,” Divertius said. She said it’s important for the movement to focus on more than deaths when tackling systematic racism. “We may not know the name of a person in Fredericton that got killed, but what does the black livelihood look like here?” An audience member also used the microphone to share her own experience of being black in Fredericton. She described experiencing frequent racism in her workplace in the banking industry, from a co-worker grabbing her hair and asking if it was real, to being called the N-word. The incidents were so frequent she felt no choice but to leave her position, after complaints through human resources failed to help. Many questions came from the audience, ranging from how to navigate a mixed-race identity and advice for dismantling racism as a white ally. The centre of discussion for much of the panel was the concept of multiculturalism. Potashnik described it as “a pill that the government and media feed to Canadians.” “It’s a vicious cycle,” she said. “The folks who believe this country is multicultural and accepting are those who are maybe not necessarily paying attention to the real issues.”


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Cassidy Chisholm

At a school with no more than 2,000 students, professors of St. Thomas University are bound to rely on one another, and that sometimes means team-teaching courses. Philip Lee of STU’s journalism and communications department first met Great Books’ Alan Hall 10 years ago, when they were scheduled to teach an Aquinas course together. They began planning the course in August, so they decided to meet at Hall’s house, along with former professor Rick Myers, who would also be teaching the course. Although they knew some of the same people and had a connection through their alma maters, Hall’s first impression of Lee came from his style. “I [remember] Phil came and he was wearing these sunglasses that were really cool,” he said. That first experience led to years of team-teaching together which has benefitted them both greatly. “It was one of my first experiences team-teaching and … I know that I improved my teaching and it’s a completely different kind of experience in a sense that you’re collaborating and you’re also learning at the same time,” Lee said. Hall explained the reason he enjoys team-teaching is because it gives professors the opportunity to continue to learn, whether it’s from other professors or the students. “We don’t get into [teaching] because we want to be an expert … what draws us in, is that we love being in class, learning, reading, we just kind of get it and we love it,” he said. When asked about why team-teaching works for them, Hall said, “I think we like each other.” Lee said he admires how Hall teaches the students. “I think that we have similar tastes. The things that Alan thinks are beautiful, I tend to think are beautiful as well.” Team-teaching involves opening up classrooms to more than one perspective, but it also means you really get to know someone though those perspectives.

Philip Lee (left) and Alan Hall (right) enjoy teaching students together, but also learning from each other. (Cassidy Chisholm/AQ)

Pat Richard (left) and Don Dickson (right) have been working together since 2004 and they have become friends over the years. (Cassidy Chisholm/AQ)

“Most of the teaching I do now is team-teaching,” Hall said. “It’s wonderful, and there’s a lot of reasons for that. The personal one is that you end up in these friendships that develop over teaching which is kind of an amazing feeling.” Those friendships often lead to trust and a shared sense of purpose. “I don’t have any fear that he wants to

out-do me or show me up,” Hall said. “And there’s no fear of failure,” Lee said. “[Team-teaching] allows you to try some things that are outside your comfort zone. And I wouldn’t have been able to do that without knowing that I had some backup and support there.” Over the years, there have been students who have taken team-taught

courses with Hall and Lee, and Hall remembers his favourite memory of Lee was when he fought for a student who deserved a better grade. “Phil really went to bat for her. He was like, ‘We need to give her a better grade, because she worked so hard and she is going to be really good at this,’ and he was totally right, and it wouldn’t have been what I chose to do. That moment of generosity and this care about the students … I often think of that,” he said. Jamie Gillies, a communications and public policy professor at STU was hired by Patrick Malcolmson of the political science department in 2010. Now, the pair uses their different backgrounds to team-teach students varying perspectives on American government and politics. “Malcolmson said in jest during the first class, ‘I’m government, he’s politics,’ and in certain sense, based on our academic expertise, that’s correct,” Gillies said in an email. “So team-teaching … is great because students get two different ways of understanding the themes of the course with two different teaching styles and two different perspectives.” Both professors have a strong interest in politics, which is why they and their colleagues meet once a month at a restaurant to discuss current events. “The last two election cycles in the [United States] and Canada have made for some lively discussion,” Gillies said. He admits the group doesn’t always agree on everything. However, Malcolmson can attest to the idea that disagreements only create a better understanding between the professors. “Perhaps more than anything else, we agree that honorable

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06 Bromances continued from page 5 and intelligent people often disagree, because the issues, especially in politics, are complex,” Malcolmson said. Although they both have a passion for politics which may lead to some disagreements, there is something they’ll always agree on: football. “We do have a shared love of the NFL and Malcolmson has an encyclopedic knowledge of the New England Patriots, so we do tend to shift from politics to sports and back again in our discussions,” Gillies said. Journalism professor Don Dickson remembers the first time

he met Pat Richard, the resident tech guy for STU’s journalism program. Although they’ve been working together since 2006 in the basement of CBC teaching students the ins-and-outs of journalism, they first met in 1999 when Richard became a casual at CBC, where Dickson was a reporter. When asked about his first impression of Dickson, Richard said, “He was too damn tall.” However, a height difference didn’t stand in their way of becoming not only coworkers but friends as well. In 2004, the pair became a field team for CBC. “Once we started going out into the field together, that’s basically a social thing. You get to know people when you go on a road trip together,” said Richard. Two years later, they began working

in the basement of CBC teaching journalism students. “We had our planning session down at the [Lunar Rogue Pub],” said Richard. They still enjoy going to the pub together. Because of the heavy dependency on equipment in the journalism program, Richard was hired to help Dickson with the technical aspect. However, over the years he became more than just the tech guy. “Pat knew his stuff and he had lots of experience,” Dickson said. “And my first impression was how much he liked to work with the kids. He was always available. I was impressed by his willingness to pitch in.” Although they have different jobs, that doesn’t mean they’re opposed to learning new things. “I like the way [Don] likes to learn

things and that’s the whole thing about journalism,” Richard said. “Don’s my oldest student.” However, every relationship has its bumps in the road. “We still have our mild little disagreements in class, about particular shots or style of shooting or something like that,” Richard said. “But I think we both respect each other’s point of view and play off that well.” Richard and Dickson have been working closely together for 14 years and according to Dickson, it’s been fun and easy the whole time. “You get to know each other. You kind of cooperate and help each other and you have a few laughs, and you have lunch together, and coffee together,” he said. “And it’s nice to have that extra person just in case you’re going to be five minutes late,” said Richard.

Breaking hearts and arms The AQ’s Sarah Morin shares the story of her first ever date with a pro-life Christian boy — all in the name of free books and chocolate. I accidentally threatened to break my first date’s arm.  I didn’t actually end up breaking it. His heart, on the other hand, is another story.  I was shy and bookish and refused to enter into the high school dating scene, but I wanted a prom date. More importantly, I wanted the free book and box of gourmet chocolates I later got when he “prom-posed.” I am still willing to date anyone in exchange for gourmet chocolates and books. Prom dates, however, were like the latest iPhones — all the cool people had one. I wanted to be cool.  I still want to be cool.  We came from two different worlds. My friends and I were highachieving predominately gay art nerds. We spent our lunch hours doing homework and discussing social issues. My parents were adamantly liberal — the pro-choice, pro-assisted-suicide heathens his family probably abhorred. He came from a family of five children. His father was head of an anti-assisted-suicide group. They regularly attended church (my family never went to church). He even had a Biblical name. His name was James. He was a member of the God Squad, a legitimate high school group that protested abortion and went on prayer crawls. A prayer crawl is like a pub crawl, except it’s less pub-y. Actually, there are no pubs. There’s no alcohol. It’s just praying (and crawling?). The incentive is not alcohol. It’s Jesus. I am unclear on whether they actually crawl.  James asked me on a Valentine’s Day “thing” to the most romantic of places: Pizza Hut.  We’d played chess during our lunch break at school before, but this was our first outing (ouuu). A few nights before my first-ever date, I had a terrible nightmare. I dreamt I was married to him. It was one of those dreams you were sure was reality in the moment. We had eight children and lived in a house in the middle of nowhere.

Every wall in the house was painted white and I was staring at a blank Word document. I was a writer, but I couldn’t seem to write. He came up behind me, placed his hand on my shoulder, asked if I was having trouble writing and then said, “Don’t worry, you don’t need to be a good writer, you just need to be a good wife and homemaker.” I woke up screaming.  I spent the day before the date panicking.  “Oh my god, what if he offers to pay?” I asked my best friend.  That would officially confirm that it was a date. That we were dating. Ew. If he paid for my meal, we would be bonded for life. Basically married. My nightmare would come true and I would be a married homemaker with eight children in a house with white walls in the countryside and a non-feminist partner in a loveless marriage. I simply could not allow it. I was, and still am, an independent woman who can pay for her own meal — gourmet chocolates and a free book aside, however.  My best friend understood my future loveless-marriage-eight-children dilemma. “Just threaten to break his arms or something. He can’t pay if his arms are broken,” she said.  True enough. So the next day, his dad drove us into town for the occasion. I had the overwhelming urge to throw open the car door and tumble out as Christian rock music played from the speakers.  In fact, I was planning how to do just that when his dad told me to guess who his favourite saint was. I wasn’t aware people had favourite saints. I knew approximately two saints. Coincidentally, his favourite saint was Saint Thomas, which was almost enough incentive to turn me off of attending St. Thomas University. After arriving at the dingy Pizza Hut and conversing awkwardly for an hour, we went to the cash register to pay. He pulled out his wallet just as I pulled out mine. “Don’t worry, I’ll pay,” he said. But I was very worried about having eight children and being incapable of writing. I snapped my wallet closed, looked him dead in the eyes and said in my small, quiet, serious voice, “I’m going to have to break your arms.”

Sarah Morin didn’t want to be tied down, but she knew she needed a prom date. (Caitlin Dutt/AQ) He started back at me in utter terror. I felt a personal sense of pride at being perceived as tough. “It’s a joke,” I said. “I’m joking. My friend said if I let you pay, I’d have to break your arms.” He was still terrified.  “I’m not going to break your arms,” I said. He stammered something to the effect of, “That’s good ... Good, I’m glad.” And we still went to prom together two months later.  Four months later, I began ghosting him and questioning my sexuality. Like an iPhone, our relationship was short-lived. A year later, I found out he became a fervent anti-abortion activist. Naturally, I deleted my prom photos with him from my Facebook. Two years later, I unfriended him. We were two different people on separate paths whose lives happened to cross, briefly and regrettably.  I had pushed myself to be in a relationship I didn’t have interest in pursuing, simply so I could be like everyone else.  I didn’t break his arm, but I think I broke his heart. The point is, you shouldn’t rush to jump into a relationship at a young age, or at any age. You should only do it if free books and chocolate are involved. In that case, don’t be afraid to break a few arms.

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In this day and age of social media dating apps such as Tinder and Bumble, it’s hard to fathom meeting the love of your life the old-fashioned way. However, sometimes happy endings and picturesque relationships can start in the unlikeliest of places — say, a St. Thomas University introductory class. This was the case for two STU professors, Matthew Dinan and Vivien Zelazny. Dinan is a full-time professor in the Great Books department, which is where he met his now-wife, Zelazny, who is a part-time professor and campus minister. The pair met in the preliminary course of the Great Books department in their first year. Aquinas is equivalent to three first-year courses, which are based on discussion among students. “You spend a lot of time with this small group of other students and you really get to know them well,” Zelazny said. Dinan remembers his first impression of Zelazny, because they both had trouble speaking. “What I most remember about it was that I had no voice after the Harrington cheer off, and V was similarly hard to understand because she had a bite plane which kept her from being able to say, among other things, the ‘V’ sound — an ironic meeting for two people who like to talk as much as we do,” he said. “Even still, I thought she had the most interesting things to say about Plato’s Apology of Socrates.” That first meeting eventually turned into a friendship, but in first year, Zelazny was dating someone else. “We became friends and Matt had a very generous plan on his meal card, so I used to always mooch lunches off of him. We’d go and have lunches on his account.” Zelazny recounts the times the pair and their friends would have lunch courtesy of Dinan’s meal plan. So much so, he ran out of lunches on his meal plan by

March. But even at that point, Zelazny and Dinan remained good friends into their second year at the school. The couple were not officially dating until their second year and continued dating throughout the rest of their undergraduate degrees. “I have a lot of memories of saying stupid things in class in undergrad and then being taken to task for them by Viv afterwards,” Dinan said. “Looking back on it now, I’m so glad I had someone there to help me become less of a jerk.” It was in their fourth year at STU that Dinan realized that Zelazny was the one for him. “Well, we were understandably thinking about the future and I realized that I couldn’t seriously imagine a future without Viv,” he said. The pair graduated in 2006. The happy couple who met and fell in love right on campus were married in 2007 in the chapel on campus. The professors also decided to attend Baylor University in Texas for both of their graduate degrees. “By the time we finished our undergrad, we knew we wanted to be together so we both went to grad school in the States,” Zelazny said. “He studied political science and I studied English and then we lived in Massachusetts after that, from 2011 to 2014. He had a job as a professor at College of the Holy Cross and I did some part-time teaching and finished up my degree.” After completing her degree in Massachusetts, Zelazny and Dinan decided to move back to Fredericton in 2014 and begin teaching at St. Thomas. Although they were only 19 when they started dating, their love has remained the same. “I think that your 20s are a difficult and confusing time, so to make your way through that odyssey with someone

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Matthew Dinan and Vivien Zelazny with two of their three children. (Caitlin Dutt/AQ) you love and trust is a tremendous gift,” Dinan said. “Our relationship has sort of remained a constant as we have changed and grown together. So we’ve changed, but V has been home for me through all of it.” The happily married couple now have three daughters, aged seven, five and almost two. Zelazny said they plan on staying in Fredericton and teaching at STU for the foreseeable future.

“You never know what life is going to hold, but we love it here.” As for finding the love of your life during your time at university, Zelazny said, “Be open to the possibility and maybe it can happen for you.”

With files from Cassidy Chisholm

Emma: “I don’t like sauces, especially ketchup, and Brandon loves ketchup. He will douse ketchup on his fries and then sometimes pretend to put ketchup on mine.” Brandon: “It’s delicious, it’s tasty. You can add it to any meal. I mean, what’s not to love about ketchup?” Emma: “It’s overpowering, if I’m going to eat something I want Emma Rhodes & Brandon Nitz to eat that thing, not the sauce.”

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Nick Decarie & Desiree Carr

Andrew Flinn & Brianne Durant

Brianne: “So you know how most couples do like the, ‘Oh I love you more’? We don’t do that. We argue over who the cat loves more ... and it’s me.” Andrew: “I don’t think it’s you. He usually comes to me when I call him over.” Brianne: “No, but I feed him.” Andrew: “[We’ve] definitely done the thing where you go on either side of him and you go, ‘Come here,’ and he just lies there. He doesn’t move at all.”

Olivier Hebert & Elijah Matheson

Olivier: “I guess minute silly things like he always calls me a granola child. I do most of our grocery shopping, so I’ll buy organic peanut butter and he’ll be like, ‘What is this?’ and I’ll buy the adult cereal and he’ll be like, ‘Ew, gross. I want Lucky Charms.’”

Desiree: “I’ll try to pressure Nick into watching horror movies with me but he’s like so against it. He’s more into history, action...” Nick: “Comedy.” Desiree: “And I’m more into like horror, suspense, thrillers. I like the adrenaline.” Nick: “She likes the thrill.” AQ: “And why do you not like horror movies?” Nick: “I like to sleep at night.”


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William Cumming, Arts Editor - arts@theaq.net

Not so happily ever after: Fictional #relationshipgoals

Angela Bosse

Bad fictional couples. Ross and Rachel, Chuck and Blair, Danny and Sandy, Cathy and Heathcliff. Pretty much everybody can name a few they have a soft spot for but know deep down shouldn’t be together. But why in this age of promoting healthy #relationshipgoals on Instagram we still fall for characters, both fictional and in real life, who are just straight up bad? Kathleen McConnell, professor of English literature at St. Thomas University, says one example of a troublesome love affair we love to love is Beauty and the Beast. “The clear message there is: if you marry a beast he will turn into a handsome prince. And you wonder, how many girls fell for that and regretted it later?” Belle’s Stockholm syndrome aside, one of the troubling tropes we see in Beauty and the Beast and many other love stories is the idea one person in a relationship can “fix” or change the other. Blinded by love, they suffer abuse, whether emotional, mental or physical, in hope the other person will change if they can love them enough. And it’s no coincidence the one trying to change the other is often the female in the relationship. “As a culture we take great pleasure in watching women suffer,” McConnell says. “There’s something that we like about witnessing and maybe empathizing with, somebody suffering. And then seeing them come out to a happily ever after at the end. Whether or not that happily ever after is realistic doesn’t seem to matter.” The difficulty is, those unrealistic and unhealthy ideas about what love is are fed to us from a very young age. McConnell says because suffering is so engaging to watch, especially when it is rewarded with a happy ending, we start

to idealize and romanticize unhealthy relationship behaviors that lead to those dramatic, making-out-in-the-rain silver screen moments. If you’re a bird, I’m a bird, so I am going to not communicate my needs and desires and manipulate and abuse you instead. That’s love, right? McConnell pointed out the most tempestuous and fiery love stories are usually marketed to a youthful audience – think Riverdale, Gossip Girl, Twilight or anything by Nicholas Sparks. “And then we try to play it out in our real life and discover it’s not a good idea.” Yeah. Manipulating your controlling vampire boyfriend by threatening to kill yourself so he comes back to you doesn’t seem like a great idea to me. Whether it’s being raised on Disney’s plethora of unhealthy romantic relationships as children or sold on Gatsby’s creepy devotion to Daisy in our high school literature classes, our culture teaches us to enjoy stories of suffering and become complicit in the questionable behavior of our beloved characters. “What’s the difference between great love and stalking?” McConnell asked. Turns out a lot of it has to do with perspective. McConnell says historically the perspective has predominantly been a man putting a woman on a pedestal and making her out to be more than human, simultaneously idolizing and objectifying her. This idea traces back at least as far as the ancient Greek myth of Pygmalion, a sculptor, and Galatea, his stone creation he falls in love with.

“The problem when you have a lover who is treating the beloved as something more than human, they’re bound to be disappointed when the relationship actually really continues,” McConnell says. According to McConnell, we become complicit with unhealthy behaviors like obsession and objectification because of the way writers and media creators “lead us down the garden path,” with storytelling that gets us empathizing and investing in the characters. And so Gatsby’s green light and extravagant parties become romantic gestures rather than signs of unhealthy obsession. Unhealthy romantic behaviors are still glorified in the media today. Silver Linings Playbook may be a film that brings discussions of mental illness into the rom-com scene, but it still makes viewers support the mismatched paring of Tiffany and Pat, even though neither character is stable enough to be in a healthy relationship. As Peter Travers writes in his Rolling Stone review, “Only in Hollywood can mental illness be cured by moonstruck fantasy.”

If you’re a bird, I’m a bird, so I am going to not communicate my needs and desires and manipulate and abuse you instead. That’s love, right?

Compared to grandiose romantic gestures and passionate stormy affairs, healthy relationships tend to draw the short end of the stick, usually appearing in ironic comedies about middle-aged couples. Modern Family is a hilarious sitcom, but romance between characters is generally made slightly ridiculous, like Phil and Claire’s Valentine’s Day alteregos Clive and Juliana, who, despite trying to be super sexy for V-Day, end up into scrapes much more realistic, embarrassing and relatable. Think about a fire. If you don’t pay any attention to it the coals will grow cold and burn out. But if you pour on too much fuel the wood will burn up too quickly, glowing bright and hot for an instant before destroying everything. A good fire is one that throws heat, but isn’t out of control. It’s comfortable, but still requires constant work to maintain it. It’s not as exciting as a raging bonfire the size of a house, but at the end of the day, there’s no other place you’d rather set your feet up in front of to feel revitalized. A good relationship is like a moderate fire – it keeps you warm without burning your eyebrows off. While more questions are being asked about the values displayed in our media, culture is complicated, so we shouldn’t expect all representations of unhealthy couples to disappear overnight. Nor should we want them to, since there’s so much we can learn from these representations. McConnell say awareness is key, as well as a conscious effort not to reproduce fiction in our actions and writing. “It’s like going to the grocery store. Read the box, you want to know what’s in there.”


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I'm just here for the punchline

Louis Anthony Bryan

Always ask them if they’re having a good time. It gives you a chance to read them, and them a chance to size you up. It would be almost romantic if you weren’t about to spend the next five minutes making subtle allusions to America’s political climate and less subtle allusions to your sex life. No matter the case, ask them if

they’re having a good time and ride the cheers as you move the mic stand out of your way. Always move the stand. It’s your stage. In the last year of my bachelor’s, comedian Sabrina Jalees headed two shows during Welcome Week. Right before the end of her first set, she shoots a question to the crowd: ‘Who here is interested in comedy?’ My hand shoots up, I’m thinking along the lines of a workshop or a couple pointers: a layman’s introduction to standup comedy. Instead she gives me a five-minute set to open the next show and a couple opportunities to bow out with grace. I don’t. I opened my first set ever with: “‘My mom was super concerned cause she didn’t think I had enough to talk about. I told her, mom- I’m a black man living in Canada- I think I can fill five minutes.’” I found out the Wilser’s Room at the Capitol Complex does an amateur comedy night once a month. I’ve been doing stand-up regularly since January

2017. For my first set at Wilser’s, I open with the fact that Trinidad and Tobago has the largest deposit of asphalt in the world and it’s used as a tourist trap. In other words- our government thinks it’s something to proud of. I can’t say being a stand-up comedian was something I’ve always wanted to be. I have always wanted to entertain. I’ve wanted to be a guest on the Muppet Show, have a spot on Saturday Night Live. I’d rather present for the Oscars than win one. There’s just something about being up there and winning people over with something you wrote down on the back of a receipt so you didn’t forget it. I constantly find myself using stand-up to complain about things beyond my control, from J.K Rowling’s inability to let the Harry Potter franchise die to immigration and passive racism. It’s blissfully therapeutic, almost acting as a quasiactivism. There’s a couple ways to deal with an issue but I think every now again, we’ve earned the right to laugh at it before we get back out there to raise hell. It’s easy to say comedy is subjective, but I wouldn’t say that’s what I learned. What makes people laugh that’s what’s subjective. People respect and acknowledge a good joke. They see effort in

something that has a rhythm and structure. Saying someone doesn’t get your joke isn’t going to cut it. There’s a science to telling a joke and it’s up to comedian to respect that chemistry. Before getting up there, I think it’s important to know who your influences are. It’s so essential to build off other artists for inspiration. Putting on a comedy special right before a show is mandatory at this point. Watch them move, watch them play the crowd. In the beginning, your style is going to look like a lot of people’s style; but if someone says your comedy reminds them of someone that they love- how is that anything but a compliment? The idea is to constantly throw yourself out there, constantly bring new material, constantly rework what didn’t work before deeming it dead. If you bomb, the idea is to endure and keep pushing forward. Thank them for their time. Say that they’re wonderful. Always say that they’ve been wonderful. They just laughed at that joke you made about your penis; or someone else’s penis- I’d say that makes them wonderful. If they start cheering, do a little bow, they’ll lose their minds.

Big Mouth comes of age all over the place Review

Sarah Betts Let me just say this: Big Mouth is not for the faint-hearted, the queezy-stomached or the blushed-cheeks. It’s been on Netflix for several months now, so consider me a later bloomer, but it’s a show that is never going to not be relevant. Big Mouth is an animated comedy born from a supergroup of comedians, including Nick Kroll and Andrew Goldberg. I think it goes without saying it was inspired by their own experiences, and those of everyone else in the world. In short, it gives its audience a fun, sex-positive take on puberty and everything (and I mean EVERYTHING) that comes with it. In not-so-short, it has psychosomatic monsters convincing seventh graders to masturbate while dead jazz legends sing and cartoon penises play sports. No kidding. It really is quite familiar. It follows a group of middle schoolers experiencing puberty at different levels and paces. Boy Meets World? The Wonder Years? Are You There, God? It’s Me, Margaret? Haven’t we seen this before? Absolutely not. Nick (Kroll) and Andrew (John Mulaney) are best friends. Andrew is beginning to experience puberty at full force, and continues to be forced by his “hormone monster” Maury (Kroll, but with more grit and less filter). Maury visits him at the worst possible moments (i.e., slow dances) and gives voice to his most crude and salacious desires — especially the most lewd and  unwanted. Nick, on the other hand, has yet to start puberty and is confused why everyone around him is acting weird, especially when he catches a glimpse of Andrew’s moredeveloped member. Things get awkward really quick. The awesome thing about Big Mouth is that it’s not just a personification of the

ragingly-hormonal boys you sat next to in science class (I’m still haunted by the word organism). Take the names of the first five episodes for example: “Ejaculation,” “Everybody Bleeds,” “Am I Gay,” “Sleepover: A Harrowing Ordeal of Emotional Brutality” and “Girls Are Horny Too.” Need I say more? It’s an honest yet tender account of puberty in the most refreshing way. From finding pleasure in a pillow hole with organic lentil soup and first-period-on-white-shorts field trip woes to the confusion of sexuality and revolutionary introductions to porn, you’ll feel it in your soul. Though it might seem exaggerated to some, to many it will be laughable and oddly heartwarming as you say, “Oh my god, exactly,” every few minutes. It may all seem to be thrown off when you see unexplained cameos from the ghosts of folks like Freddie Mercury, Socrates, Antonin Scalia (on the drums!) and Nick’s good attic-dwelling-friend Duke Ellington, but stay with me here. Also, you’ll never look at Sylvester Stalone the same ever again. Perhaps the most refreshing thing about it is

the recognition that hey! Girls deal with more than just shedding uterine walls! Big Mouth stays grounded even in its most ridiculous moments (i.e., Jewish penises and the seduction of diarrhea-inducing hor dourves), acknowledging the differences and similarities boys and girls experiences during this magically terrible time. Thankfully, there’s also a hormone monstress, the curvaceous and sashaying Connie (Maya Rudolph). She coos and growls her way into Nick and Andrew’s friend Jessi’s life, saying all the things Jessi is too busy blushing or rolling her eyes to say. Particularly, when it comes time to her bat mitzvah, our girl Connie spits the truth. “You are a woman now and this is what women do. We suck up all the bullshit life dumps up on us and keep smiling through it all in our boxy-ass dresses.” #Preach And while it’s normal to see Jessi and her female pals comparing themselves to one another, Big Mouth gains more points by confirming boys do the exact same thing. But, my god, it is vulgar — in the best way, because it’s all so real.

This harrowing reality never could have been voiced by real 13-year-olds, but that’s the point. This show is for adults to look back on and laugh with a painful amount of nostalgia and grief, coming to understand how freaking normal the entire thing was. Mixed in there between all the solid dick jokes and uncomfortable adolescent coming-of-age moments is a sweetness that is just as delectable as it is honest. The show promotes a sex positivity that this current generation, while headed into full-on adulthood, can savour and pass on to the kids for generations to come who will go through the same things as Nick and Andrew and you and I. Adolescent sexual exploration is that freakish spot where childhood and adulthood slam head-on. They have wild grown-up desires yet they’re babies. In Big Mouth, there are enough obscene sex jokes to keep you laughing through the 10 episodes, but a poignancy to keep you watching, always starting with a brilliant and appropriate cover of Black Sabbath’s “Changes” by the late Charles Bradley. Even though you’ll be sad it goes by so quick, the first season is enough to leave you satisfied. (Get it?) The good news is a second one is set to drop this year. If you find yourself unsure if you can handle anymore, take it from Andrew’s mom: “Be afraid of things.” Just like you and I, the Big Mouth crew is a whole lot of scared and a whole lot of intrigued by provocative stuff. But whether you’re 12 or 25, everybody’s learning and everybody’s scared.


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Shannon Cornelius, Sports Editor - sports@theaq.net

Women's hockey takes out Mount A in hard-fought game Shannon Cornelius

The St. Thomas University women’s hockey team won a tough game against the Mount Allison University Mounties on Feb. 10 and honored its four graduating players: Stephanie Ford, Abby Clarke, Samantha Squires and Teah Anderson. The game started out strong as both teams fought back and forth trying to score. Both team’s goalies and defence played well to prevent scoring. Tommies’ Emily Oleksuk managed to sneak one past Mount A’s goalie 10 minutes in with an assist by Alex Woods. After another good fight the Tommies duo scored again, this time with the goal by Woods and the assist by Oleksuk with four minutes left in the period. The defence continued to play strong as Tommies’ goalie Clarke prevented the Mounties from scoring, leaving the score 2-0 after the first. The second period saw both teams continuing to fight hard. The Mounties were able to sneak

a goal past Clarke halfway through the period. The game began to get heated as a fight almost broke out after the Mounties almost scored. The Tommies were down two players due to penalties, but played well and held the Mounties to their one goal, leaving the score 2-1 after the second period. The third period started with a goal by Oleksuk just 30 seconds in. The period was back and forth for both teams. Tommies’ Lauren Legault went out with an injury 10 minutes in. The Tommies made good shots and were able to keep the Mounties from making any against them in the third period. The Mounties pulled their goalie with two minutes left in the game to try and score again. They were unsuccessful and the final score was 3-1 for the Tommies. Head coach Peter Murphy was happy about the win and impressed with the Mounties efforts. “They’ve been out of the playoffs for a while now and for them to come a play quality games and for them to go hard in games. It’s a testament to how badly they

T he ga me went back a nd for th for b o th tea m s a nd wa s a ver y go o d de fen sive ga me. (Sha n non Cor nel iu s/AQ) want to win and be in the playoffs,” said Murphy. “But at the same time I think we could be a little bit better. I was pleased for the

most part. We got the win and that was it, but we want to make sure we work to get into better habits. Third period was a good way to end it.”

Player Profile of the Week: Bridget Frazee

Sarah Morin

Bridget Frazee scored a three-point shot in the final seconds of the basketball game against Crandall University, winning the game for St. Thomas University on Feb. 3. “It made me feel really good. I was really proud of myself,” Frazee said. She said she couldn’t have done it without her teammates and coaches. “The shot that I took in the last few seconds was because my teammates saw me open, they got me open for that shot, so it definitely wasn’t just me who hit the game-winner,” Frazee said. Frazee is a second-year criminology and psychology major. She decided to come to STU after a family friend — a STU basketball alumni — convinced her. “Throughout high school she’s kind of been convincing me to come here and she told me about how fun it was and all the memories she made.” Now, Frazee is looking to make her own memories now as part of the STU basketball team She grew up in Sussex, N.B., a town she described as a basketball community, and has been playing since Grade One. “In Sussex, it’ a small community, so you play with the same people your whole way up through the years.” In Grade Four, she began playing competitive

Brid get Frazee’ s parents have b een b ig s upporters th roug hout her basketbal l career and have pushed her to b e the b est she can b e. ( Sarah Morin/AQ)

for Sussex mini basketball. She continued playing in middle school and high school as well. She said managing school and sports has been “one of the biggest challenges” in her life, so she sneaks in work periods between classes and on her way to games. “Every night after practice, me and my teammates come to [James Dunn Hall] to do homework,” Frazee said. Through basketball, she’s hoping to gain leadership skills to take into her future career with the RCMP. Frazee said her parents have been her biggest inspiration. “They have pushed me to be the best person I can be. My dad has pushed me to be the best athlete, because he’s coached me since I was young and my mom has been a big supporter,” Frazee said. Frazee wants to continue playing basketball later in life too. For now, she’s taking things slowly, although she’s aiming to win the Atlantic Collegiate Athletic Association title. “I just take it day-by-day. Obviously, a huge goals is to win the ACAA championships and then eventually go to nationals ... I look forward to improving every game.”


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Tommies volleyball wins in back-to-back games Billy Cole

The St. Thomas University volleyball teams were in action on Feb. 10 with a doubleheader. The girls played the first game against the Dalhousie University Agriculture Campus Rams. The girls played a strong game, sweeping the Rams in convincing fashion. St. Thomas took the first set 25-19. They followed up by taking the second set 25-20 and finished the game off with another 25-19. Fifth-year star Deidra Jones led the way for her squad, finishing the game with 10 kills, six of them being service aces. Veronique McGrath had 28 assists for the Tommies. The Tommies finished with at 0.333 hitting percentage and now sit at 14-5, good enough for fourth in the Atlantic Collegiate Athletic Association. Their next game is on Feb. 17 when the undefeated Mount Saint Vincent University Mystics are in town. The men’s team was up next to finish off

the doubleheader, taking on the Université Sainte-Anne Dragons, who were in search of their first win of the season. The Tommies struggled at first, as each set was close and hard fought. The Tommies took the first set 25-21. The second set started off weak, as the Tommies were clearly getting frustrated before picking up the slack. They finished the set off strong, taking it 25-20. The Tommies were given a scare in the third set, as the Dragons made a late push, getting to 22 before making a ball error, ultimately finishing the game. First-year Josh Dorey led the way for the Tommies with six kills and Ben Singer was behind with five kills. Singer also added two solo blocks to his stat line. The win made the Tommies 8-6, as they sit in second place in the ACAA. St. Thomas University is hosting the ACAA Volleyball Championships from Feb. 23-25.

The St. Thomas University women’s volleyball team is fourth and the men’s team is fifth in the Atlantic Collegiate Athletic Association rankings. (Shannon Cornelius/AQ)

Couples that compete together, stay together

Haley Stairs

Valentine’s Day week is upon us and many couples will be indulging in all things romantic. However, some athlete couples won’t even be in the same city. This is the case for basketball player Travis Valanne and track and field runner Kelly Brennan. They will be apart while Valanne plays against University of New Brunswick Saint John.

“Times like that, it’s kind of hard to deal with. But it’s kind of what you signed up for at the beginning, and we both understand that,” said Valanne. Brennan, a third-year criminology and human rights major, and Valanne, a third-year history major, have been dating for two years. They met at a house party and got to know each other

Shannon Morris and Katie Merritt spend about 65 hours a week together during rugby season. (Submitted)

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through mutual friends. Despite conflicting schedules, they balance it well. Brennan goes to every home game she can, and he streams her meets online when she’s away. Apart from that, they see each other any other time they can find. “We each have a two-hour gap, but we have a lot of homework, but we’ll just go … [and] do that together, so you’re still spending time together but you’re not neglecting other responsibilities,” said Brennan. They both know where the other is coming from, and that’s the key to making it work. “You just have to be relaxed, be patient, you have to understand that they’re just as busy as you are,” said Valanne. “They’re not always going to be around when you want them around.” Emily Donelle, a second-year sociology and history major, and Kristen Bulman, a thirdyear psychology and criminology major, have been on STU’s women’s rugby team as a couple for over a year. They became best friends on the team in 2016 and started dating after finals. “Because our relationship started with rugby … every season we play together, is —” said Bulman. “Is just normal,” Donelle

chimed in. For them, having the same understanding and not being competitive with each other on the field has made their relationship work. “We basically just live with the same mentality that you’re in a relationship outside [of] rugby,” said Bulman. Juggling school work and rugby can be difficult for them, but they find a way to support each other. “Having someone there for you at the end of the day is like, the best part about it,” said Bulman. “We know when we have to focus on homework, and then we can just have fun and do stuff for us,” said Donelle. They have shared special moments through being on the same team. After placing second in finals in 2017, Bulman bee-lined to celebrate with Donelle. “She was the first person I wanted to go see and go talk to after the game. It was really nice to have that person that I could go right to, like, I didn’t look at anyone else,” said Bulman. Shannon Morris, a fourth-year psychology major, and Katie Merritt, a third-year sociology major, have been a couple on STU’s women’s rugby team for two years. They started dating

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after the season ended in 2016 and live together. They estimate spending over 65 hours a week together during rugby season. “Honestly you could argue almost every waking minute,” said Merritt. It can stressful to spend so much time together, according to Morris. But it has helped them grow as a couple and forces them to communicate. Although their experience has been pretty positive, they still face challenges. “We’ve had to fight really hard to be almost not seen as a couple … we are having to like, create a divide [because] people automatically group us together,” said Merritt. Morris and Merritt have a pre-game ritual they do that helps calm Morris’ anxiety. “One thing that helps is before every game … we lock pinkies, and then kiss thumbs,” said Morris. “I loved rugby before I loved Shannon,” said Merritt. “I guess to be able to share that with someone … It’s just super cool.”

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