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One dad’s advice? ‘Don’t be stupid’ By David Dinell "No excuses." That's what Craig Barton's father, W. Frank Barton, told his son years ago. "I know a lot of parents who are always making excuses for their kids," Craig said. "My dad would never do that. You knew when you were out of line." Craig considers himself lucky to have had such a caring father and mentor. To mark Father's Day, June 19, several men are sharing some advice they got from their dads — and advice they have passed on to their sons and other young men. Experts can pull out statistics showing the clinical value of fathers to sons and society at large, but these men don't need statistics. They carry their dads’ words of
wisdom in their heads and in their heart. For Craig, it was about being set straight. "More than anything else, he was about teaching me how to live a life," he said. "That...was a tremendous advantage." Craig has shared some of his dad’s advice with students in the Sigma Alpha Epsilon fraternity at Wichita State, where Craig was once a member. "We spent a lot of time talking about life skills," he said. His father died in 2000, but his wisdom lives on through his son. Rusty Johnson, 58, also got valuable advice from his dad, well-known Wichita car salesman Dave Johnson. That's a good thing; he and wife, Theresa, have eight sons and four daughters.
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Native Kansas’ flowers
Photo by Rob Howes
A rocky, weedy triangle of land at the Midwest Historical & Genealogical Society, 1203 N. Main, was transformed to a vibrant display of native grasses (Bluestem, Indiangrass, Switchgrass) and wildflowers by Vince Marshall, an active MHGS member and a horticulturist. He planted 14 varieties of wildflowers.
Son’s phone call saved Mom
By Debbi Elmore It started with a phone call. An out-of-state son was reaching out to the Mental Health Association of South Central Kansas for help for his 79-year-old mother. He told the professionals at MHA that his sister was her caregiver. Everything was fine when his sister wasn’t drinking, but she became physically abusive when she was. His mother was afraid to tell anyone because she depended on her daughter to buy her food and pick up her medications. “We got a restraining order against the daughter and set the mom up with Meals on Wheels, Roving Pantry (a grocery shopping service), medication
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management and a coded emergency response system so she could alert authorities if the situation deteriorated again,” said Mary Beth Steiner, senior director of health and home services for MHA. “She feels like we gave her her life back.” Steiner says 78,000 people are over the age of 60 in Sedgwick County alone, and many are victims of abuse – physical, mental and financial. It’s estimated that only six percent of elder abuse cases are reported. The problem is further complicated because many seniors are homebound so others are unaware there may be issues. “We know a lot don’t realize it’s abuse. Family problems stay in the
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family,” she said. Steiner also told about an older man who entrusted his debit card to a neighbor to pick up items he needed, then discovered later the neighbor was also withdrawing cash in small sums at a time so it didn’t alert the bank or the card owner. Financial abuse of elders is so rampant that retired CEOs Tom Church of Catholic Care Center and Ray Vernon of Wesley Towers joined with LeadingAge Kansas in Topeka to successfully lobby for legislation making it illegal to steal from older people. LeadingAge is an association of more than 150 nonprofit aging serSee Abuse, page 8
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