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COMMENTARY

Scientists prove – Being generous really makes us happier!

Giving Proof By Gretchen Reynolds New York Times, September 14, 2017

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he adage says it’s better to give than to receive. But is it really? The scientific evidence that generosity is good for us has been scant, even as the benefits of selfishness are obvious. Recently, however, a neurological study published in Nature Communications found there may be some biological truth to the maxim after all. The study showed that generosity changed the activity in people’s brains in ways that increase feelings of happiness, even if the generous act is small or only imagined. Scientists at the University of Zurich and elsewhere began by recruiting 50 men and women and asking them to complete questionnaires about their current mood. They then were given 25 Swiss francs (about $25) once a week for the next month. Half of the 50 were asked to spend this on themselves. The other half were instructed to choose a new recipient each week on whom to spend the money. In other words,

In effect, the pledge to be generous primed people to be more giving.

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recently watched the four-part CNN Special entitled “1968” about this pivotal year in American history.

Think about the many things that happened that year, 50 years ago. Perhaps you lived at that time and can remember what went on or perhaps you read about it as history. What do you recall from that year?

Afterward, the researchers again asked participants about their mood, especially happiness, and compared the results with the responses on the initial survey. Those who agreed to give away money reported feeling significantly happier than those who planned to spend it on themselves. They also made more generous choices during the fM.R.I. testing, agreeing to more scenarios that came at a personal cost. And their brains worked differently, too. When the study subjects who had pledged to spend money made generous picks, the fM.R.I. scans showed greater activity in a portion of the brain, the temporo-parietal junction, associated with altruism. And that portion of their brains was also showing greater functional connectivity, communicating more readily with another part of the brain, the ventral striatum, known as the brain’s reward center.

Was it the rising racial tensions in this country? Was it the civil rights marches led by the Reverend Martin Luther King, Jr.? Was it the assassination of Dr. King in Memphis? Was it the many riots that broke out in American cities? Was it the brutal tactics sometimes used by the police to break up peaceful demonstrations?

In effect, the pledge to be generous primed people to be more giving. There are pro-

Was it the multi-day takeover of five Columbia University buildings by students? Was it the unrest that was happening on many college campuses? Was it the bitter Presidential political campaign with President Johnson deciding not to seek the Democratic nomination? Was it the riots and fights that took place outside and inside the Democratic Convention in Chicago?

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half the volunteers agreed to be selfish and the other half to be generous. At the beginning of the study, participants slid into an fM.R.I.* machine with a computer screen that flashed hypothetical scenarios involving monetary gifts to a loved one at a personal cost. The fM.R.I. recorded their brain activity as volunteers decided how they would react to each situation.

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Was it the assassination of Senator Robert F. Kennedy, Jr. after winning the California Democratic Primary? Was it the slow funeral train taking Sen. Kennedy’s body from New York to Virginia for burial? Was it the growing War in Vietnam with more and more casualties every week? Was it the growing anti-war protests? Was it the attempts at negotiations in Paris to end the Vietnam War?

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Was it the close Presidential election with three different candidates – Richard Nixon, Hubert Humphrey and George Wallace – all winning various states’ electoral college votes? Was it the feeling that America was coming apart at the seams? Was it ALL OF THE ABOVE? If you chose ALL OF THE ABOVE, you would be right. The year 1968 was a year filled with much anxiety and concern for the future of America and of the world. However, do you also remember, at the end of the year, the amazing flight of Apollo 8? It was during this flight that humans, for the first time, left the earth and went into orbit around the moon. It was the first time that earth was seen rising over the horizon (of the moon). In a year of social strife, campus unrest, and a difficult war in Vietnam, three men (and through them, all mankind) ventured into unknown territory. The astronauts – Frank Borman, Jim Lovell, and William Anders – held a live broadcast from lunar orbit, in which they showed pictures of the earth and moon as seen from their spacecraft. Said Lovell, "The vast loneliness is awe-inspiring, and it makes you realize just what you have back there on Earth." They ended that broadcast from space taking turns reading from the book of Genesis: “In the beginning, God created the heaven and the earth … and God said: Let there be light, and there was light … and God saw that it was good … ” and they continued: “and from the crew of Apollo 8, we close with good night … and God bless all of you, all of you on this good Earth.” Continued on page 6

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1968 Continued from page 2

This photograph changed how we saw our planet. The environmental movement grew and an awareness of our fragile ecology here on “spaceship earth” became more wide spread. In 1970, Earth Day was created. Eventually, Congress passed the National Environmental Policy Act and the Clean Air Act, from which came the Environmental Protection Agency (EPA). The catalytic converter was installed in vehicles to help eliminate toxic emissions. The Endangered Species Act was formed, the Clean Water Act was signed, and DDT was banned. As Bill Anders said, "We went to the Moon, but we discovered Earth."

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The year 1968, that contained so much difficulty, ended with a message of hope. Let us today meet all the current difficulties in our society, in our world and in our personal lives with the hope that we see to make our way to a peaceful co-existence (shalom) with each other and wholeness (sheleymut) within ourselves.

Giving Proof Continued from page 2

bably evolutionary undercurrents to this process, says Thorsten Kahnt, who was a postdoctoral fellow at the University of Zurich and co-author of the study and is now an assistant professor of neurology at Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine in Chicago. Our early ancestors might not have been so eager to share food and labor with one another, he suggests, if those actions didn’t entail some reward — including the potent, if abstract, reward of happiness.

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In the month following the fM.R.I. study, researchers provided the promised cash to each volunteer and checked in about its dispersal. For the most part, the volunteers

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who had agreed to give the money away did. Though the experiment lasted only a short time and involved only simulated gains and losses, Kahnt says that “it does show a mechanistic linkage in the brain between doing something nice for some­ one and feeling better about yourself.” Note: Your generosity is the essence of a double mitzvah. You will be happier and you will improve the lives of those in need through our Jewish Community. Please continue to support the vital work of the Jewish Federation and Jewish Family and Children’s Service. We wish you a very happy summer! *fMRI = functional Magnetic Resonance Imaging

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Merrill Pollinger Scholarship Awarded to Two Outstanding Students at Beth Am Shalom

scholarship for excellence was created in 1994 by Lois Pollinger in memory of her husband, Merrill Pollinger who passed away in 1992. Merrill was a manufacturer's rep, selling books to school libraries, college book stores and public libraries. He was a member of the then Temple Beth Am of Lakewood for about 30 years. He had been Financial Secretary, Religious School Chair, Social Action Chair, and a member of the Board. Each student received a $500 scholarship from donations to the Scholarship Fund. One of the recipients, Ilana Lavene, attends Marine Academy of Technology & Environmental Science of Ocean County. She participates in many activities in the New Egypt High School. She also fundraises for the Ocean County Oceanaires. She is a great role model to BAS students, as well as her younger sibling. She is very knowledgeable in Hebrew language, prayers & Bible stories. Ilana assists in leading BAS children's choir at every practice and at services. The other recipient, Sarah Eisenstein, is an 8th grader at Lake Riviera Middle School. She has been on High Honor Roll for twelve consecutive marking periods. She is a member of the National Junior Honor Society. Sarah is an outstanding student in academics and extremely committed to helping her class at all times. She reads Hebrew well and is an integral part of our BAS Youth Group.

Lois Pollinger (on left) and award recipient Sarah Eisenstein

Lois Pollinger (on left) and award recipient Ilana Lavene

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Sunday, June 24 - Movie - In Our Hands: The Battle for Jerusalem (Story of 1967); 3:00 PM at Living Faith Bible Church, 1595 Route 88 & Larsen Street, Brick (across from Ocean Medical Center) July 21-22 - Erev Tisha B’Av and Tisha B’Av; Shabbat Minchah at 7:00 PM, Light Supper (no charge, RSVP required) at 7:30 PM, Study/Discussion at 8:20 PM, Service and Reading of Eichah/Lamentations at 9:05 PM; Sunday Minchah Service at 7:00 PM

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The Jewish Federation of Ocean County protects and enhances the well-being of Jews in Ocean County and throughout the world through caring for those in need (chesed), building and deepening connections to Judaism, Jewish life and community (chinuch) and building strong ties within the local Jewish community and between our community, Israel, and Jewish communities throughout the world (K’lal Yisrael).

Through your support of the Annual Campaign, Sponsorships, Friend of JFCS and Special Funds you provide our community the ability to continue transforming lives and delivering hope and dignity to those throughout Ocean County, in Israel and around the globe.

Thanks to your caring and generosity, the Jewish Federation of Ocean County and Jewish Family and Children’s Service are able to: • Purchase a new Mini-bus to transport our frail seniors to programs, lunch programs and local outings. • Provide over 50,000 hours of home care to our aging Holocaust Survivors. • Offer group counseling for bereavement and caregivers, counseling for individuals, and case management for clients and their families. • Provide Community programming, including: the annual Purim Carnival, annual Jewish Film Festival, The Place to Be, and partner with the Central Jersey Shalom Clubs. • Work with faith-based groups, government and law enforcement in addressing interfaith and human right issues, including anti-Semitism.

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What’s Nu? Community Calendar

AED Donated to Temple Beth Or in Memory of Nicole Trott

These events are open to all, but it is a good idea to RSVP. Some may require reservations. For additional synagogue contact information, see page 26.

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Tisha B’Av this year is observed on Saturday night-Sunday, July 21-22. Contact a local congregation for details of services and programs. Also, see below under July 21 and 22.

icole’s Heart Foundation was happy to donate an Automatic External Defibrillator (AED) to Temple Beth Or in Brick in honor of our daughter, Nicole Trott, who died suddenly of an undiagnosed congenital heart defect. We hope it never has to be used, but it is there if the need arises for the congregation or the many activities that the Temple supports.

Sunday, June 24 • Open House; 10:00 AM – 12:00 Noon; for adults and children with face painting, arts and crafts and more; meet Rabbi David Amar; Congregation Ahavat Olam, 106 Windeler Road, Howell; see page 17 for details; 732-719-3500 • Movie - In Our Hands: The Battle for Jerusalem (Story of 1967); 3:00 PM; Living Faith Bible Church, 1595 Route 88 & Larsen Street, Brick (across from Ocean Medical Center); cosponsored with Temple Beth Or, Brick; kosher refreshments following; no charge; 732-458-4700

Nicole’s Heart was formed in memory of Nicole, an 18-year-old athlete who suffered sudden cardiac arrest. The Foundation, along with the generous donation of time by Alpert, Zales and Castro Pediatric Cardiology Group, provide free cardiac screening in high schools in the Middlesex/ Monmouth county area. Led by Dr. Mitchell Alpert, President of Temple Beth Or, over 800 local student-athletes have been screened for any underlying heart conditions not normally detectable.

Friday, July 6 • Tot Shabbat and Musical Shabbat Under the Stars; 7:00 PM and 7:30 PM respectively; Congregation Ahavat Olam, 106 Windeler Road, Howell; 732-719-3500

Rabbi Robert Rubin of Temple Beth Or (on left), along with Pat and Dave Trott, parents of Nicole Trott, stand next to the donated AED

an AED is just a small token of our great appreciation for all that Dr. Alpert and his entire staff have done to support Nicole’s Heart and our mission. We are glad to support Temple Beth Or and its good works.

Our other mission is to educate people in life saving techniques, so if a cardiac emergency exists people can respond quickly to prevent future tragedies. Providing

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Saturday, July 21 • Erev Tisha B’Av and Tisha B’Av; Shabbat Minchah at 7:00 PM, Light Supper (no charge, RSVP required) at 7:30 PM, Study/Discussion at 8:20 PM, Service and Reading of Eichah/Lamentations at 9:05 PM; Temple Beth Or, 200 Van Zile Road, Brick; 732-458-4700 • Tisha B’Av; Service at 9:15 PM; Congregation Ahavat Olam, 106 Windeler Road, Howell; 732-719-3500

Friday, July 27 • Shabbat Dinner for residents of Four Seasons South Knolls; Chabad Jewish Center of Jackson; RSVP required; email Musi at musi@chabadofjackson.com or call 732-523-5112

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Sunday, July 15 • Comedy Concert with Sarge; 7:30 PM; $35 or $50; Jewish Community Center of Long Beach Island, 2411 Long Beach Boulevard, Spray Beach; 609-492-4090 or sargejcc@gmail.com

Sunday, July 22 • Tisha B’Av; Service at 9:00 AM; possible showing of a movie on a related theme; Congregation Ahavat Olam, 106 Windeler Road, Howell; 732-719-3500 • Tisha B’Av; Minchah Service at 7:00 PM; Temple Beth Or, 200 Van Zile Road, Brick; 732-458-4700

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Israel Wins the 2018 Eurovision Song Contest

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srael's Netta Barzilai won the Eurovision Song Contest 2018 on May 12 in Lisbon, Portugal, with a song entitled “Toy” which was written and produced by Doron Medalia and Stav Beger. The song proclaims that “I am not your toy.” Barzilai, 25, studied music in high school and at Israel's Rimon School of Music. Her performance also involved special dance moves. It was the fourth time that Israel has won. Since the winning nation hosts the following year’s contest, Eurovision 2019 will be held in Israel. After winning, she said, "Thank you for choosing me. Thank you for choosing different. Thank you for choosing daring. I love you, keep that going. Do good to others, be good to yourselves,” she said with a smile. "That's about it, let's party!"

Israel-related Play Wins Big at Tony Awards

Federation is "Helping Lives Bloom"

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n May 7, thirty women came together for a beautiful lunch and a tour of the gardens at the extraordinary Calgo Gardens in Howell under the auspices of the Women’s Division of the Jewish Federation of Ocean County. The goal of this successful event was to raise funds in support of our Federation priority of bringing together isolated seniors in our community for a beautiful few hours of lunch, friendship and conversation. As attendees at Calgo enjoyed the afternoon, each knew that her gift was helping to provide a similar experience for others to enjoy precious and important socializing hours. Each understood that they were making a difference for seniors who face challenges of frailty and limited mobility. Some made a gift in memory and in honor of their parents who they could envision around our Federation tables. They truly fulfilled the mitzvah of “Honor thy Father and thy Mother.” Thanks go to our chairs, Randi Rosovsky and Barbara Schulman, for their dedication

PROGRAM. YOUR GENEROSITY WILL HELP TO REDUCE THE WAITING LIST FOR PARTICIPATION.

Your donation dollars at work: Senior adults enjoying lunch and socializing at the JFCS Office thanks to the generosity of our community

and care. Thank you, thank you to Penny and Mark Estomin, owners of Calgo Gardens, for their generosity of time and resources, and to all those at Calgo who shared their expertise. This was a special garden party for the body and soul. YOU CAN STILL HELP MAKE LIVES BLOOM! EVERY DOLLAR OF YOUR GIFT, AT WHATEVER AMOUNT, WILL BE USED FOR OUR SENIOR LUNCH

Each lunch gathering costs the Federation a minimum of $250 for food, transportation and staffing. We extend our appreciation to the following donors who have underwritten a senior luncheon: Jane and Howard Butensky Bobbie Cohen and Frank O’Leary Penny and Mark Estomin Ellyn and Dennis Lyons Let’s grow this list as we grow spring flowers. Consider a one-time gift or a yearly donation for this special project. As a community we are one caring family. Contact the Jewish Federation at 732363-0530 to discuss your donation. Checks can be mailed to JFOC, 1235A Route 70, Lakewood, NJ 08701.

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“The Band’s Visit,” an Israel-related play, was nominated for eleven Tony Awards and won ten of them on Sunday, June 10. The awards won were for Best Musical, Best Actor in a Musical (Tony Shalhoub), Best Actress in a Musical (Katrina Lenk), Best Featured Actor in a Musical (Ari’el Stachel), Best Direction of a Musical (David Cromer), Best Book of a Musical (Itamar Moses), Best Original Score (David Yazbek), Best Orchestrations (Jamshied Sharifi), Best Lighting Design in a Musical (Tyler Micoleau), and Best Sound Design in a Musical (Kai Harada). It was also nominated for Best Scenic Design in a Musical (Scott Pask). “The Band’s Visit” is a musical depicting the story of an Egyptian police band that arrives in Israel to play a concert. However, after taking the wrong bus, they find themselves in a small Israeli village. Overnight, both sides discover that bonds of love, music and life can bridge two different cultures. The musical is based on the 2007 movie of the same name.

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Say No to Hate … Say Yes to LOVE THY NEIGHBOR By Drew Staffenberg, Executive Director Jewish Federation of Ocean County

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OPEN HOUSE JOIN US FRIDAY AUGUST 3, 2018 - 6:15 PM

Friday 6:15 pm Shmooze over some wine and cheese as you tour our beautiful synagogue Friday 7:00 pm Shabbat services featuring our Junior Youth Choir, the B*Nai R*uach led by Cantor Unger. Services are conducted by our beloved leader of twenty years, Rabbi Gold. Followed by a delicious Oneg filled with sweets and treats and games for the kids!

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n Memorial Day Weekend, more than 40 houses of worship participated in the "Love Thy Neighbor" campaign, a joint effort of the Ocean County Prosecutor's Office and faith leaders from across Ocean County to address the growing issue of anti-Semitism and hate-filled graffiti throughout the region. In leading this charge, Ocean County Prosecutor Joseph D. Coronato said, “It is time for all of us to Love Our Neighbor. It is time to take a stand against hate. This is about basic humanity. We have got to get the message across for people to take a moment and learn about and respect each other as human beings. We can't let ourselves lose our humanity." In accepting the Love Thy Neighbor challenge, clergy from churches, synagogues and mosques delivered messages calling upon all Ocean County residents to stand up against hatred, racism and anti-Semitism and to encourage everyone to promote a county of tolerance and love…not hate. Coronato and leaders of several religious faiths produced a 10-minute message that was delivered Memorial Day Weekend at more than 30 houses of worship urging residents to spread peace and tolerance instead of hate. Comments from around the County included:

As a Reform Congregation we welcome all to our temple family. We provide a safe house of worship and nurturing place to meet all of your spiritual, educational, and social needs. Whether you are a student studying for Bar/Bat Mitzvah or an adult searching for spiritual and individual identity... Beginning with Torah for Tots through our Adult Education series... Beth Am Shalom is your home away from home!

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Chief Glenn Miller of the Ocean County Prosecutor’s Office – “On behalf of the Prosecutor and the entire office, we thank all of you for your assistance with this event. It was a tremendous success and helped get the word out on accepting each other despite our differences.” Reverend Shawn Hyland – “The Jersey Shore was saturated with the message to love our neighbors of all ethnic, racial and religious backgrounds. It would not have been possible without the endorsement of the Ocean County Prosecutor’s Office and other law enforcement agencies. I believe this was a very significant initial effort towards a much longer campaign of love among all residents. I greatly appreciate the clergy and congregations who were able to participate.”

Chananya Begun, Orthodox Producer at YTI (Young Talent Initiatives) – “Just wanted to let you know, I got no less than 15 phone calls from members of the Jewish Community concerning "Love Your Neighbor." All very appreciative of what is being done, all hoping that a positive impact was made. One person who works for a large company with allJewish employees told me that the video was going around the office and creating a lot of positive buzz. In general, this video seems to have made a wonderful impression.” Deacon Ted Foley of Toms River Episcopal Church & Greater Toms River Clergy – “This note is just to let you know that "Love Your Neighbor" was celebrated at Christ Episcopal Church, Toms River and Holy Spirit Episcopal Church, Tuckerton. ... I was the preacher at our church and people were truly surprised about what is going on. I was also able to ask them to prepare themselves for those moments that inevitably come up when people you love say things that are awful. ... Let's continue marching on.” Special thanks to Bishop David O'Connell. It was reported that congregants were given a "special hand-out" as they walked through the door from the Bishop who also produced a video message to the Catholic church! As a follow-up to the “Love Thy Neighbor” campaign several positive steps were taken, including meetings with the Jackson police chief and discussion with some area private schools. Say No to Hate is the responsibility of everyone. We all need to: - combat prejudice and to stop those who, because of hate or ignorance, would hurt or violate anyone’s dignity. - be aware of our own prejudices and seek to gain understanding of those who we perceive as being different from ourselves. - speak out against all forms of prejudice and discrimination. - reach out to support those who are targets of hate. - promote respect for all people. We all need to commit to a community which LOVES THY NEIGHBOR.


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"Proclaim LIBERTY Throughout all the Land unto all the Inhabitants Thereof"

Jerusalem - Liberty Bell Park

Philadelphia – Liberty Bell Center

ounded in 1976 to celebrate the USA's bicentennial and covering nine acres, it is the most popular park in the city. It includes sports facilities, a picnic area, a 1,000seat amphitheater, a music corner and areas for exhibitions, folk dancing and performances.

he Liberty Bell is an iconic symbol of American independence, located in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. Once placed in the steeple of the Pennsylvania State House (now renamed Independence Hall), the bell today is located in the Liberty Bell Center in Independence National Historical Park.

The Jerusalem Foundation created Liberty Bell Garden to pay tribute to the ties between the people of Israel and the U.S. in 1976, the American bicentennial year. The park was planned as an extension to the Bloomfield Garden across the street, but in contrast to that garden's tranquility, Liberty Bell Garden is a center for recreational activities. Ulrik Plessner designed the seven-acre park around a linear, north-south pedestrian walk parallel to King David Street from Jabotinski to Remez Streets, with a replica of Philadelphia's Liberty Bell at its center.

The bell was commissioned in 1752 by the Pennsylvania Provincial Assembly from the London firm of Lester and Pack (known subsequently as the Whitechapel Bell Foundry), and was cast with the lettering "Proclaim LIBERTY Throughout all the Land unto all the Inhabitants Thereof," a Biblical reference from the Book of Leviticus (25:10). The bell first cracked when rung after its arrival in Philadelphia, and was twice recast by local workers John Pass and John Stow, whose last names appear on the bell. In its early years, the bell was used to summon lawmakers to legislative sessions and to alert citizens about public meetings and proclamations.

The park features flower gardens, plazas, sitting corners, playgrounds, a basketball court and an amphitheater, many of which have been developed since the park's 1978 dedication. The park hosts theater, film, music, dance and art events and features the Train Puppet Theater. In 1999, the Jerusalem Foundation undertook a $2 million renovation project of the heavily used park and rededicated it as the Koret Liberty Bell Park.

Although no immediate announcement was made of the Second Continental Congress's vote for independence (and so the bell could not have rung on July 4, 1776), related to that vote bells were rung on July 8 to mark the reading of the Declaration of Independence. While there is no contemporary account of the Liberty Bell ringing, most historians believe it was one of the bells rung. After American independence was secured, the bell fell into relative obscurity until, in the 1830s, the bell was adopted as a symbol by abolitionist societies, who dubbed it the "Liberty Bell."

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HOW DOES THE WORLD BENEFIT

Israeli society, culture, and values make valuable contrib

This is just a small sample of how Israel touches our lives everyday.

3D-PRINTED HUMAN TISSUE

Nano Dimension’s DragonFly 3D printer. It’s the stuff of science fiction: technology that can print a human organ. Israel’s Nano Dimension, a manufacturer of 3D printers, is collaborating with Israeli biotechnology firm Accellta of Haifa to mix human stem cells into its 3D inkjet printer ink. When expelled through the more than 1,000 tiny nozzles of a Nano Dimension DragonFly 3D printer, the ink can form into human tissue. While the technology is still at the proof-ofconcept stage – and going from simple tissue to a full organ is a daunting and uncharted process – the possibilities for saving lives by “printing” a new liver or lung are staggering.

An Israeli aid worker is leading a team of 200 Israeli Jewish, Arab and Christian volunteers to pass critical humanitarian supplies to Syrian NGOs. The dangerous cross-border missions by Il4Syrians provide food, medicines, medical equipment, sanitation kits, seeds, and even training to thousands of starving Syrians. The stealth missions began in 2011 despite the fact that Syria is an enemy nation in the midst of a brutal war. The consequences of exposure for the Israeli volunteers taking part are unthinkable.

A TIRE THAT CAN’T GO FLAT

SoftWheel’s Enduro could change the tire industry dramatically. SoftWheel, the Israeli company that literally reinvented the wheel by replacing the traditional spoke-and-rim hub with an innovative automatic suspension system, is entering the automotive sector with its Enduro wheel, aiming to bring the same radical improvements to automobiles that it has already brought to wheelchairs and bicycles. Because Enduro’s rigid tire is not filled with air, it can never go flat. “The best way to revolutionize the world is to revolutionize transportation,” SoftWheel CEO Daniel Barel said upon introducing the concept last March. “No more flat tires, 20% more energy efficiency, better maneuverability, higher safety, lighter – better in every way.”

Advanced micro-power radar technology, 3D image reconstruction algorithms and signal processing techniques developed by the Israeli military are all built inside Camero’s handheld security cameras that enable search-and-rescue workers to find stationary and moving objects concealed from view. Camero’s Xaver systems can generate 3D images of objects behind solid barriers made of cement, plaster, bricks, concrete and wood.

GAUZE STOPS BLEEDING IN SECONDS A new gauze that stops bleeding in minutes Core Scientific Creations’ WoundClot gauze, made of from plant cells, absorbs 2,500% of its own weight in fluids and stops hemorrhaging within minutes. WoundClot gauze forms a gel membrane with the blood’s own clotting factors. The product, which naturally dissolves within 24 hours and is already used by European hospitals and American and Israeli first responders, fills a large need in situations when compression is not effective or even counterproductive as in the case of stab wounds and certain other kinds of trauma.

THE ISRAEL DAIRY BOARD

Dairy cows on a family farm. The Israel Dairy Board is founded, helping to cement Israel’s growing lead in the dairy industry. Today, Israel’s dairy industry produces the highest milk yield per cow worldwide, and acts a model of achievement for dairy farmers everywhere.


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T FROM ISRAEL’S EXISTENCE?

butions in scholarship, science, technology, and business.

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In the grip of a severe drought, California is relying on Israeli expertise and inventions to make the most of each drop. Israeli pioneers in water technology, including drip irrigation experts Netafim and desalination giant IDE, organizations such as the Israel-California Green-Tech Partnership and Israel NewTech, and even academic institutions like Ben-Gurion University, are all helping California to implement vital smart water management that will keep the state wet.

WATER TO THE DESERT

The Negev is characterized by a remarkable landscape feature known as “limans,” which are mainly to be found adjacent to roads and railway tracks. These earthen constructions collect floodwater by damming a gully or streambed. The dam slows the flow of the accumulated runoff water, causing it to permeate the soil and thus allow small groves of trees to flourish in areas with meager rainfall. Also, the National Water Carrier is completed, bringing water from Israel’s north to the parched south. The development is a major step forward in enabling Israel to turn the Negev Desert into the center of crop produc tion in Israel.

A NOBEL PRIZE, IRON DOME, AID TO JAPAN

An Iron Dome Missile Defense battery set up near Ashdod fires an intercepting missile on July 14, 2014. A test of the revolutionary Iron Dome missile defense system intercepts a short-range rocket for the first time in history. Originally ridiculed as impossible, Iron Dome saved countless Israeli lives endangered by missiles fired from Gaza in the summers of 2012 and 2014, achieving an intercept success rate of 90 percent. In 2017, Israelis voted Iron Dome the country’s most innovative invention.

NaNose, developed at the TechnionIsrael Institute of Technology, can detect early lung, stomach and possibly other types of cancer just from analyzing breath. When commercialized, this nanotechnology innovation, developed by Israeli-Arab scientist Hossam Haick, could set a new standard as a non-invasive, easy-to-use, low-cost rapid predictive diagnostic tool – potentially saving lives by finding cancer in its first stages.

IceCure Medical’s revolutionary device has been changing the way doctors worldwide remove benign breast lumps and small malignant breast tumors by engulfing them with ice rather than removing them surgically. The ultrasound-guided IceSense3 cryoablation procedure needs only local anesthetic and takes less than 10 minutes in an outpatient setting. The patient can get up and leave afterward with no need for recovery period or post-care.

ISRAEL RANKS IN TOP 10 MOST POWERFUL INNOVATIVE NATIONS • U.S. News and World Report ranks Israel the eighth most powerful nation in the world. Bloomberg News names the Jewish state the 10th most innovative worldwide, edging out the United States. • Israel’s population in 2018 stands at 8.84 million. The average life expectancy in Israel is the fifth highest worldwide, at 80.7 years for men, and 84.2 years for women. In addition, the country comes in 11th in overall happiness. • In the high-tech industry, there are now 8,000 active high-tech companies operating in Israel, according to Israel Venture Capital Research Center. The center also reported there are 1,487 life science companies, 505 cyber security companies, 356 Israel accelerators and incubators, and 365 active foreign R&D centers.

Jerusalem-based startup OrCam has developed a unique wearable technology device that can read text, describe objects, and turn the world into speech for people with vision impairment. The company's MyEye camera can be mounted on eyeglasses, providing unprecedented independence to people who are blind or visually challenged.

• The first direct proof of the existence of dark matter in the universe is revealed by Tel Aviv University astrophysicist Rennan Barkana based on radio signals emanating from outer space. • Israeli trauma experts fly to Houston to train educators and counselors in resilience following Hurricane Harvey and to Florida after a mass school shooting in Parkland. The Israel Trauma Coalition also is leading trainings in Mexico and in Las Vegas for communities affected by an earthquake and a mass shooting, respectively, in late 2017.


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"Imagine all the people living life in peace" “You may say I'm a dreamer But I'm not the only one I hope someday you'll join us And the world will be as one.� John Lennon


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Jewish War Veteran Hosted by New Jersey Governor

World War II veteran, 99-year old, Sidney Walton is on a very special mission – he wants to visit all of the State Capitols and meet the State Governors. On his 100th birthday, he plans to visit the White House and meet the President. Jewish War Veteran Department of New Jersey State Commander Al Adler made arrangements for Mr. Walton and his family to meet Governor Phil Murphy and First Lady Tammy Murphy. They spent several special moments with the Governor in the Governor's office.

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JWV Post #178 Decorates Graves with Beth Am Shalom

Before Memorial Day, local members and supporters of the Jewish War Veterans Post #178 and members of the Beth Am Shalom Youth Group decorated many graves of veterans buried in Beth Olam Cemetery in Lakewood. JWV also did this at several other area cemeteries.

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Mourning Jerusalem: A Brief History of the First and Second Holy Temples (Beit Hamikdash) By Sarah Rochel Hewitt Jewish Treats by NJOP

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ews all over the world observe the fast of Tisha B’Av (Ninth Day of the Jewish month of Av – this year being observed on Saturday night-Sunday, July 21-22, which is the Tenth of Av, since the Ninth of Av is on a Shabbat). It is on this day that the Jewish people mourn the destruction of both the First and Second Temples. The First Temple was destroyed 2,604 years ago and the Second Temple 1,948 years ago. It is therefore not easy to understand what exactly it is that the Jewish people mourn. Here is a brief history of Jerusalem and the First and Second Temples. King David captured Jerusalem from the Jebusites and established it as his capital (c. 1040 BCE). He desired to build a sanctuary in which the Divine Spirit could dwell. However, God told David “You have been involved in war. The Temple is to be a site of peace, so your son, King Solomon, who will be anointed after you, will merit to build the Temple” (II Samuel 7). “Solomon’s Temple” stood for 410 years. It served as the center of Jewish life, and Jewish pilgrims from all over ascended to

Jerusalem three times a year. Pirkei Avot/ Ethics of the Fathers (5:5) states that ten miracles occurred in the Temple – for instance, the fire of the altar was never extinguished by rain. Unfortunately, during the rule of Solomon's son Reheboam, the united kingdom dissolved. The northern ten tribes formed one kingdom and the southern tribes (Judah and Benjamin) another. Strife between the two kingdoms, and their worship of idolatry, led to foreign conquest. First the Assyrians conquered the northern kingdom (719 BCE) and then the Babylonians under King Nebuchadnezzar (586 BCE) conquered Jerusalem, destroying the First Temple and sending most of the Jews into Babylonian exile. The destruction of the First Temple was a massive trauma for the Jewish people, for the nation was now bereft of its spiritual epicenter. The Babylonian Exile that followed the destruction of the First Temple lasted for 70 years. Under the leadership of Ezra and Nechemia, however, the Jews began to return to the land of Israel and to Jerusalem. Many chose not to return, but those who did rebuilt the Temple, although on a far more modest scale than the First Temple.

While the Jews had returned to the land, they were no longer independent and were ruled by a succession of empires including the Persians, Greeks, etc. There was a brief period of independence after the

It is on this day that the Jewish people mourn the destruction of both the First and Second Temples. overthrow of the Syrian-Greeks (c. 165 BCE – the Chanukah story), but independence was short-lived. By 64 BCE, Judea (Israel) was under the dominion of Rome. Around 37 BCE, the Romans appointed Herod as the ruler of Judea. While he was a murderous tyrant and not very religious, Herod was also a great builder. It was his grand redesign of the Temple that is the most famous image of the Second Temple.

which still stands in Rome today, depicts the pillaging of the Temple and its sacred vessels, including the Menorah. Some years after the destruction of the Temple, Rabbi Akiva and several other rabbis saw the Temple lying in ruins. The Talmud (Makkot 24b) relates that when they beheld the destruction, his companions cried, but Rabbi Akiva laughed. When asked to explain his behavior, Rabbi Akiva said: “Because when I see this fulfillment of the prophecy of complete destruction and desolation (Micah 3:12), I know that the prophecy of the redemption (Zechariah 8:4) will also be fulfilled.” (The prophecies of redemption and destruction are linked in Isaiah 8:2.) (For other “Jewish Treats: Juicy Bits of Judaism, Daily” and many other Jewish resources visit www.jewishtreats.org and www.njop.org.)

Roman oppression, however, led to a general uprising. During the suppression of the Judean Revolt, the Temple, which had stood for 420 years, was destroyed by Titus in 70 CE. The famous Arch of Titus,

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ROSALIE'S REEL REVIEW Editor’s note: Philip Milton Roth, American novelist born in Newark, New Jersey, passed away on May 22, 2018.

By Rosalie Donadio

Goodbye Columbus 1969 Language: English Available at Amazon Netflix and the Ocean County Library

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n remembrance of Philip Roth who, although his books did not translate that well into film, managed to turn the Jewish literary/cultural establishment upside down (to the absolute glee of those coming of age in the fifties/early sixties). Time has taken a toll on this film; it just doesn't hold up by today's standards. Note: Consider reading the collection of short stories of the same title by Philip Roth. It was Roth's earliest published work, and I still consider it his best. The plot is of a seemingly typical summer romance between the rich girl/poor boy. However, the story is touching while at

the same time remains a page-turner since Roth is such a good writer. Although set in a more contemporary era, Goodbye Columbus shares two rather eerie similarities with The Great Gatsby: both are summer romances that end late August, early September. And as an underlying theme they riff on an observation made by Daisy in Gatsby that "Rich Girls don't marry poor boys." (And yet over fifty years ago, that was neither that unusual nor improbable.) A young Jewish man meets a young Jewish woman and experience instant attraction, however find that their worlds are very different. She is the arch typical Jewish American Princess, very emotionally involved

with her parents' world (the world they have created for her), while he is much less dependent on his family. They begin an affair, which brings these differences to the surface. Neil Klugman (Richard Benjamin) works in the public library and lives in New York with his Jewish aunt rather than in Arizona with his parents. Collegegirl Brenda Patimkin (Ali McGraw) very much lives with her well-to-do Jewish family. As the relationship becomes more serious, Brenda's mother is increasingly and overtly hostile to Neil.

book than it does onscreen lessening the impact of the “message.” In the end the movie seems to be a vehicle through which we learn more about how Philip Roth sees (and rails against) his own place in New York’s Jewish culture than we do about the human emotions of the two young lovers and their rather clichéd families. Still, the wedding banquet is pretty funny and the 60’s fashions are fun to watch (once again).

The Plot thickens: stuck without a place to live for the remainder of the summer, Neil is invited by Brenda to move into her family’s home at the height of planning for her brother’s upcoming wedding; Brenda's mother goes ballistic (the “over the top” Jewish family wedding scene is priceless). Jack Klugman is captivating as Brenda's hard-driving father, who works all day at his plumbing fixtures business and has changed the least from his original lowerclass persona. The ending, in which Brenda, when push comes to shove, isn't ready to cut the ties with her family (especially Daddy), comes across better in the Roth

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Located in the heart of the Catskill Mountains, north of New York City, these resorts enabled the children of immigrants to perfect their swing or their backhand, master the latest dance steps and otherwise indulge in summer’s manifold pleasures — all within the company of their own kind.

Some hotels were brand new; others, having fallen out of favor — and fashion — with their gentile patrons, were purchased by Jewish owners and marketed to American Jewish prospects. Where Vanderbilts, Goulds and Astors once danced, you now see “Jewish youths and maidens gyrating to jazz,” gushed the Grossmans,

Postcard for Kiamesha Fairmount Hotel in the Catskills. (Boston Public Library)

Playing Mah-Jongg in the Catskills. (Museum of Jewish Heritage)

the new proprietors of the Pavilion Hotel of Saratoga Springs in 1927, in a revealing instance of ethnic swaggering. “The dining hall that rang to the tune of ‘Yankee Doodle’ will resound now to the ‘Hatikvo’ [the Israeli national anthem]. Dark eyes flashing with Oriental fire will gaze from the porch of that aristocratic hotel.” It’s against this background that Maurice Samuel, arguably one of the most versatile and gifted belle-lettrists of the modern era and an equally avid Hebraist and Yiddishist, took pen in hand to comment on American Jewry’s newfound fascination with the gyrations of the good life. Taking the form of a prose poem that he titled “Al Harei Catskill” (“In the Catskill Mountains”), Samuel’s rueful observations seem to derive much of their style and all their sensibility from the traditional kinah, or lamentation, said on Tisha B’Av, that midsummer fast day that commemorates the destruction of the First and Second Temples. The poem, which was published in the high-minded Menorah Journal of 1925 but, sadly, all but forgotten today, uses the spectacle of American Jews happily at play as an occasion for stocktaking. Personalizing the story of growing acculturation and deracination, it begins by contrasting a traditional Eastern European figure, a greatgrandfather, with his descendants. The great-grandfather, writes Samuel, never heard of the Catskills or, for that matter, of Paris or even London. He “knew only of two worlds–Golus [exile] and Zion.” Continued on page 24


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JEWISH FAMILY AND changing lives...

Embarking on Your College Journey By Deborah Sason, Guest Writer

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ollege is an exciting time for any young adult. You are exposed to a variety of new experiences, new opportunities and new ideas. It is an important part of shaping not only your future career, but also who you are as a person. Many students, while excited and motivated, can feel intimidated by the plethora of opportunities, all at their fingertips. For the very first time, you are in charge of your own schedule, and keeping track of your personal, professional and academic goals. At the start of your college journey, you may feel overwhelmed and unsure of how to approach the situation. However, with a few guiding principles, you can keep your goals in focus and attainable. They will also help you narrow down on what’s important to you, targeting how you want to grow and where you want to be in your future. Keep the tips below in mind to help guide your experience and allow you to focus on what will help you achieve your goals. One of the most important activities you can do on campus is to be a part of a community of students. Most colleges have dozens of local groups and initiatives in which students can get involved. They can be more academic focused, like a language learning club, or general interest and hobbies, like outdoor hiking or a dance troupe.

courses. You never know what extracurricular classes could be useful to you in the future. For example, Steve Jobs, the founder of Apple, took a calligraphy course, just by chance. Years later, he was able to bring the skills he learned in the course to Mac computers, accounting for the beautiful typography of personal computers. Jobs said, “Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.” Be sure to do your research, meet with advisors and professors and speak to other students that can help mentor you. By building a community on campus and having a balanced class schedule, you are sure to succeed in attaining your professional and personal goals during your years in college. Remember to be effective and strategic in managing your schedule, carving time out for social, networking and community-building activities, in addition to the academic workload. As you embark on your college journey, get excited to grow your skills and begin to form your identity.

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There are many benefits to getting involved, especially early on in your college experience. Benefits include making new friends, learning or growing a skill and avoiding feeling lonely. These kinds of activities can provide formative experiences to shaping your identity – your interests, your personal connections and your feeling of a sense of belonging in a certain group. Another tip to help you on your college journey deals with how to approach your class load. While the big picture should be your long-term career goals, you should also take the opportunity to explore other areas of interest. Class schedules should be a mix of career-focused and exploratory

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CHILDREN'S SERVICE

...making a difference

Thursday Morning Senior Discussion Group of the Jewish Family and Children’s Service went to Point Pleasant on June 14

Susan Zektzer celebrated her birthday at the Wednesday, June 6th Senior Discussion Group of the Jewish Family and Children’s Service in Lakewood.

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CONSERVATIVE CONGREGATION AHAVAT OLAM 106 Windeler Road Howell, NJ 07731 Rabbi Cantor David Amar Rabbi Emeritus Michael Klein 732-719-3500 email: office@cao-nj.org www.cao-nj.org CONGREGATION B'NAI ISRAEL 1488 Old Freehold Road Toms River, NJ 08753 Hazzan Steven Walvick 732-349-1244 Email: info@cbitr.org www.cbitr.org TEMPLE BETH OR 200 Van Zile Road Brick, NJ 08724 Rabbi Robert B. Rubin Rabbi Emeritus Dr. Robert E. Fierstien 732-458-4700 Email: templebethorbrick@gmail.com www.templebethorbrick.org

CONGREGATION SONS OF ISRAEL 4 Ridge Avenue Lakewood, NJ 08701 Rabbi Baruch Ber Yoffe 732-363-9034

REFORM BETH AM SHALOM 1235 State Highway 70 Lakewood, NJ 08701 Rabbi Stephen D. Gold Cantor Arlyne Unger 732-363-2800 Email: office@bethamshalom.org www.bethamshalom.org CONGREGATION SHA'AREY HA-YAM 333 N. Main Street (Route 9) Manahawkin, NJ 08050 Rabbi Joshua Goldstein Helen Cocuzza, President 609-978-8653 Email: rabjogo@aol.com www.reformjewishcommunity.org

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SHABBAT AND HOLIDAY CANDLE LIGHTING IN LAKEWOOD Friday, June 22

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Friday, June 29

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Friday, July 6

8:10 PM

Friday, July 13

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Friday, July 20

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His offspring, however, live everywhere. Citizens of the West, each of them lays claim to a particular vision: One family member believes in France; another in science; a third in the Vilna Gaon [an 18thcentury Jewish sage]; and a fourth, a proud resident of the United States, believes in just about everything. And here in Catskill, what do Jews believe? In Kosher certainly; in Shabbos, less. (But somewhat, for they smoke in secret then.) In Rosh Hashonoh and in Yom Kippur, In charity and in America, But most of all in Pinochle and Poker, In dancing and in jazz, in risque stories And everything that’s smart and up to date. “If this is our patrimony, what will become of us?” Samuel wonders as he contemplates an American Jewry more at home on the golf links than with Torah, more conversant with the latest fads than with its Old World heritage. What will become of us?

Blessed are You, Adonai our God, Sovereign of the universe, who hallows us with mitzvot, commanding us to kindle the light of Shabbat.

Summer or winter, these questions are still with us.

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The Jewish Federation of Ocean County and Hadassah present

Engaging Israel: Jewish Values and the Israeli-Palestinian Conflict A Shalom Hartman Curriculum Lecture & Study Series Introductory Session - Tuesday, July 31 10-11 am

Through video lectures, text study, and lively group discussion, we are pleased to bring the world-renowned curriculum of the Shalom Hartman Institute into the Ocean County community this summer and into the fall.

THE STUDY SERIES WILL BE LED BY ELLYN LYONS*

iEngage: Jewish Values and the Israeli-Palestinian Conflict explores one of the most divisive issues affecting the Jewish people today: the Israeli-Palestinian conflict. Through the study of Jewish narratives about Israel and the unpacking of the complexity in Jewish tradition, participants are invited to explore the ideas and values that animate different attitudes toward the conflict and how these values shape their own political understandings.  Though a shared political platform may not be attainable, this course strives to achieve a shared respect for our differences. Together we will engage in a new values-based discourse about Israel, including topics such as: Living with Difference, the Israel We Imagine, Jewish Narratives of Peace, Attitudes Towards the Land, Justice, Self-Preservation, Compromise, and the Idea of Jewish Exceptionalism. Each session includes text study and discussion along with video lecture and interviews with leading Hartman scholars.

JOIN ELLYN LYONS FOR AN INTRODUCTARY SAMPLE TO THE FOUR-PART SERIES: Tuesday, July 31 – 10 AM -11AM Location: Jewish Federation Offices 1235 A Route 70, Lakewood RSVP TO BETH JOSEPHS – beth@ocjf.org, 732 -363-0530

*Ellyn Lyons is a Past President of the Hadassah Southern NJ Region and of the Jewish Federation of Ocean County. She is also a past national officer of Hadassah. Ellyn has been trained by the Shalom Hartman Institute as an iEngage facilitator.

SEND A TRIBUTE CARD TO FULFILL THE MITZVAH OF TZEDAKAH Call the Jewish Federation office and we will send a beautiful tribute card on your behalf. Cards are available for a minimum donation of $18.00. Simcha, Get Well, Loss of a loved one, Happy 70th Birthday Israel, or any other Life Cycle event. Call Beth @ 732-363-0530 or email beth@ocjf.org

TRIBUTES In Memory of:

Jean Gold, mother of Rabbi Steven Gold by Arlene Grasso Ivan Green, brother of Cantor Daniel Green by Dennis and Ellyn Lyons Ivan Green, brother of Cantor Daniel Green by the Jewish Federation of Ocean County Board, Shelly Newman – President, Drew Staffenberg – Executive Director Ivan Green, brother of Cantor Daniel Green by Beth and Larry Josephs Ivan Green, brother of Cantor Daniel Green by Fran & Paul Katz, Suzi & Sal Bernardo & Family Helina Sininsky by Anise Singer Helina Sininsky by Dennis and Shelly Newman

In Memory of:

Elsa Abrahmovic by Anise Singer Elsa Abrahmovic by Dennis and Shelly Newman

In Honor of:

Dr. William and Barbara Schulman’s new grandson Noah Alexander Schulman by Dennis and Ellyn Lyons Donald and Judy Love’s daughter Susan’s engagement to David by Anise Singer


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