’06 and Adri Ryberg ’06, two accomplished Thacher riders, rode the colors of the Korean and United States flags as a friend of Margaret’s and Jack’s, Sangkee Lee, spoke of the extensive work and impact that the Appenzeller family had on the people of Korea. Thacher’s Chamber Singers sang the traditional spiritual tune, “I Want to be Ready,” and faculty emeritus Bob Miller recited Psalm 121, a most fitting passage for this setting and occasion.
abode in the deepest recess of the partner’s domain; each resolved himself and herself by the circle that surrounded them: that circle which was known to them and all who knew them Michael Mulligan called Margaret the most as unbounded and “saintly a person [he has] ever known.” He enthusiastic love spoke of her outstanding character, astound- for each other, for ingly selfless life, loyal devotion to her family, their family, for and of how hard it is to imagine Jack without their friends, for Margaret at his side. He then focused on the yin this School. and yang symbol depicted on the Korean flag “that so poignantly expresses the beauty of Jack “Truly, to know and Margaret’s relationship…the opposites that Jack and Margacomplement each other exactly—and represent ret together was the fullness of life together: active and passive; not to know op- Jack attributes their long, happy marriage to, among other things, “kissing light and dark; summer and winter; male and posing halves but, Margaret daily, so she knows she’s been kissed” female. Huston Smith—the famed Berkeley rather, balancing partners. Jack—the gas pedal—in his frank, of a woman whose example and grace seem Professor of World Religions wrote: outright, ‘I know what I know and, by the virtually unmatchable.” But though the halves are in tension, they way, I am happy to share that with you’ and are not opposed; they complement and balMargaret, with the complementary brake— The service continued with many of the same ‘Now, Jack…’—always of- ingredients as the one in Jackson Hole, along fered with calm, reassurance, with the addition of “Amazing Grace” sung but unmistakable, and not to in Korean by alumni of the Pai Chai School in be tampered with, strength. Seoul, accompanied by the keyboard and metal saw. As guests filed out of the Outdoor Chapel, “Margaret’s departure chal- the Huyler granddaughters gave wildflowers to lenges all of us to remember ladies to stick in their hair or hat and packets that which is real and true and of wildflowers to the gentlemen to spread on good about Margaret cannot a walk, both as a tip of the hat to Margaret’s be diminished by her physical grace in the wilderness. All were invited to departure. Indeed, as the flag’s the Margaret Huyler Courtyard at the library symbol suggests, Jack and for lunch and to share favorite memories of Margaret inevitably have sent her life. As was often repeated in those repart of themselves with the membrances and appears on the brass plaque other: their love transcendent, on that lichen-covered boulder in Wyoming, traveling in uplifted flight; Margaret was “Grace Personified.” e M a r g a r e t ’s example of patience and grace lifting each day by The Huyler Family poses in the Sespe for their Christmas photo in our simply the mid-1950s recalling it. ance each other. Each invades the other’s “It is here where the tension of hemisphere and takes up the abode in the the symbol of complementing deepest recess of the partner’s domain. And opposites is resolved: We are in the end, both find themselves resolved by one by virtue of our common the circle that surrounded them, the Tao in understanding that Margaret its eternal wholeness. In the context of that brought such a healing light to wholeness, the opposites appear as no more this world—expressed by her than phases in an endless cycling process, abiding love for family, a deep for each turns incessantly into its opposite, compassion for those who sufexchanging places with it….It bends back fered, her profound example of upon itself to come, full circle, to the realChristian devotion and charity. ization that all is one and all is well. We know all is well by virtue of “How magnificent and rich a symbol, and our very presence here today: how perfect an emblem of Jack and Margaret’s A reunion of friends and famastounding relationship: Each balanced and ily from across this country, complemented the other, each took up the joined together in celebration Margaret’s grave marker near Jackson Hole, Wyoming Fall 2005 / Winter 2006 11