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Dear Readers, and love for one another, the mass donations of time and money, and the hours upon hours of volunteering are just a few examples of how unified our community has been at this special time. Just as the message of Sukkot is to unify us and accept one another, that same message resounded with Hurricane Irma relief, where differences fell by the wayside and no matter the diversity; many organizations collaborated for the greater good of the community. And that is a community I’m glad to call my home. 

The holiday of Sukkot -- where we all sit together under the same ‘roof’ -- is infused with a special energy to help us work on the character trait of unity.  The Arbat ha’Minim, the Four Specimens, symbolize unity and represent the numerous facets of the Jewish nation, as it’s  composed of four varying species that rely on one another  -- and can only be wholesome when they’re together. On  the 7 days of Sukkot, we gather the Lulav, Etrog, Hadassim and Aravot, bind them, and wave them in all directions. The Lulav is only kosher if the four species are bound together, but if one of the species is missing, the entire Lulav is invalid, the bracha cannot be recited, and the mitzvah cannot be completed. The lesson is obvious: we should look at the diversity of the Jewish people with an eyeglass of unity --  that we are one cohesive unit -- and not focus on the few differences that may separate us. 

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The Week In News

AfD Wins Big in Germany

Angela Merkel has been re-elected for a fourth term as Germany’s chancellor. Her conservative CDU/CSU had its worst results in almost 70 years, however, she was still able to hold on and maintain a majority in the German parliament. The nationalist, right-wing, anti-Islam AfD party made historic surges and came out with its first seat. The AfD has not only entered the German parliament for the first time, but it’s also succeeded in being strongest of the

smaller German parties, making them the third-biggest party in the incoming legislature. Having failed to enter the Bundestag in the last election, the party is now likely to have nearly 100 seats in parliament. It’s the first time since the Second World War that a party professing such xenophobic, anti-immigrant and anti-Islamic views has been voted into the Bundestag. Undoubtedly the AfD was able to garner support from Germans who are angry with the influx of asylum-seekers. They have bashed those who they say order them to be quiet under the banner of “political correctness.” Some members have espoused the values of the extreme right, and one of its co-leaders, Alexander Gauland said publically that Germany should be proud of its past and the achievements of its soldiers in two world wars. Many Germans were shocked at AfD’s strength in the elections and gathered to protest the results. They congregated outside of the AfD’s headquarters in Berlin with signs that blared, “Refugees are welcome.” Protests were also held in other cities, including Cologne and Frankfurt. When she was addressing her supporters after the results were announced, Merkel said she had hoped for a “better result.” The election saw the Christian Democrat (CDU) and the Christian Social Union (CSU) come away with their worst results since 1949, when Germany held elections for the first time after World War II. Merkel added that she would take

into account the “concerns, worries and anxieties” of voters of the Alternative for Germany (AfD) in order to win them back.

N Korea & U.S. Continue to Clash The foreign minister of North Korea has warned that the country may test a powerful nuclear weapon over the Pacific Ocean in response to President Donald Trump’s threats of military action. Ri Yong Ho spoke with reporters in New York after Kim Jong Un made an unprecedented televised statement following Trump’s U.N. speech last week. President Trump threatened to “totally destroy” North Korea in a speech to the UN General Assembly which he followed up with a tweet saying that Kim Jong Un was “obviously a madman” who would be “tested like never before.” Kim then appeared on North Korean television and said that President Trump would “pay dearly” for the threats and that Kim will now “consider with seriousness exercising of a corresponding, highest level of hardline countermeasure in history.” “I am now thinking hard about what response he could have expected when he allowed such eccentric words to trip off his tongue,” Kim threatened. “I will surely and definitely tame the mentally deranged U.S. dotard with fire.” Hours after the television statement, Ri Yong Ho said that Pyongyang could launch a nuclear weapon test. “This could probably mean the strongest hydrogen bomb test over the Pacific Ocean. Regarding which measures to take, I don’t really know since it is what Kim Jong Un does,” said Ri. The White House has expanded the “peaceful pressure” it is placing on North Korea by adding more sanctions on the country and those with whom they do business. The executive order enhances Treasury Department authorities to target individuals who provide goods, services or technology to North Korea. China, which is the supplier of most of North Korea’s imports, was hit hardest by the new set of sanctions. Even so, Treasury Secretary Steve Mnuchin was clear that “this action is directed at everyone” and that the steps are “in no way specifically directed at China.”

Gabbai Killed in Mexican Quake A gabbai in Mexico was tragically killed in the powerful earthquake that rocked Mexico last week. ZAKA, the emergency response organization, found the body of R’ Jaime Achequenze Ashke-

nazy, z”l, in a collapsed office building. R’ Ashkenazy was the gabbi and community assistant at Maguen David, an Orthodox shul in Mexico City. He was also the owner of a textile business located in the city center. R’ Ashkenazy had just come back from distributing money to the poor for Rosh Hashana before he was crushed during the quake. Although an Argentine native and citizen, R’ Azkenazy lived in Mexico for 40 years. He had endured the similarly destructive earthquake in 1985, which resulted in thousands of lives lost and left his business in ruins. However, with help from the community, he was able to reestablish it. The volunteers worked through Rosh Hashana to locate R’ Ashkenazy’s body under the instructions of Mexico’s chief rabbi, Rabbi Shlomo Tawil. Mati Goldstein, who is the International Rescue Unit Chief Officer for ZAKA, said that “immediately after the Sabbath went out in Mexico (early morning Israel time), we received an update from our team in Mexico that they had recovered the body of the missing Jewish man. The ZAKA team, which was on the scene at the time the earthquake struck, will remain until we receive an update that there are no more missing people.” R’ Ashkenazy had seven daughters and one son, all of whom are married with children. His son-in-law is the chief rabbi of Mexico, Rabbi Shlomo Tawil, and his son is a rabbi and instructor at Yeshiva Ateret Yosef elementary school. The earthquake took over 300 lives. Hundreds of bodies and survivors have been pulled from the 38 buildings that collapsed during the quake. The IDF’s Home Front Command sent a 71-member team to assist with the rescue efforts. IsraAID and iAid also sent delegations to help with the search and rescue. In the past two weeks, Mexico has been hit with three massive earthquakes, the largest of which measured 8.1 on the Richter scale.

Saudi Arabia Schools Teach Hate & Violence In Saudi Arabia, anti-Semitism is a subject taught in elementary school. Human Rights Watch found during a recent review of Saudi Arabian textbooks that children are formally taught that the “Day of Resurrection” will not come until Muslims kill Jews. The organization also revealed hateful and disparaging references to Christians, Shi’ites and Sufism. “As early as first grade, students in Saudi schools are being taught hatred toward all those perceived to be of a different faith or school of thought. The lessons in hate are reinforced each following year,” Sarah Leah Whitson, Middle East director for Human Rights Watch, said in a press release

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last week. Forty-five Saudi textbooks and student workbooks produced by the Education Ministry for the primary, middle and secondary education levels were reviewed as part of the study. The curriculum is based on tawhid, or monotheism. The textbooks discuss that one of the indicators of the coming of the “Day of Resurrection” is the killing of Jews. The passage, from a quote attributed to Muhammad reads, “The hour will not come until Muslims will fight the Jews and Muslims will kill the Jews. The Jew will hide under the rock and tree, and the rock or tree will say, ‘O Muslim, servant of Allah, this Jew is behind me, kill him.’” Not all Muslims share this belief. Moderate Palestinian Islamic thinker Mohammed S. Dajani Daoudi described the hadith as a “fabrication” and condemned Saudi Arabia for teaching it. “The prophet couldn’t have said that and it contradicts the text of the Koran. The prophet said anything attributed to me not in harmony with the Koran is not true. This can’t be true because it totally contradicts the text of the Koran. Teaching this to children is incitement and anti-Semitic. Saudi Arabia and any other Arab countries teaching such nonsense should stop and this should be eliminated from the educational systems.” Following the September 11, 2001 attacks, in which 15 of the 19 terrorists were Saudi citizens, Saudi officials promised educational reforms. However, according to this recent study, it seems that the curric-

ulum was not changed. “Saudi Arabia’s officials should stop denigrating other people’s personal beliefs,” Human Rights Watch concluded. “After years of reform promises there is apparently still little room for tolerance in the country’s schools.”

Three Killed by Terrorist In Israel, the nation mourned for three Israelis who were killed by a Palestinian terrorist in Har Adar on Tuesday. Border policeman Solomon Gavriyah, 20, civilian security guards Youssef Ottman, 25, from Abu Ghosh, and Or Arish, 25, a resident of Har Adar, were laid to rest in separate funerals. Gavriyah was buried in his central Israel hometown of Beer Yaakov in an emotional ceremony that saw several family members collapse from grief. In Jerusalem, Arish was buried in the city’s Givat Shaul Cemetery. In the nearby Arab Israeli town of Abu Ghosh, hundreds attended the funeral for Ottman. The burial was held in both English and Arabic and was attended

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you,” she said through tears, before breaking down. “He put himself in front of the terrorist. He stopped him, even as his own life was taken,” Public Security Minister Gilad Erdan said. “You came to this land as an immigrant. You became one of its defenders.” Erdan says that “the acts of heroism” displayed by Gavriyah, as well as Ottman and Arish “allow those in Har Adar, and all of us in Israel to live in peace and security.” “Islamic extremists are trying to drive us out of our home through rockets on our borders and through stabbing and shooting attacks in our cities and towns,” the minister said in pointed remarks. “Efforts to reach compromise are important but whenever we have Palestinians who want to kill


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innocent Israelis and the Palestinian Authority supports them, we will stand strong and we won’t give in. The terrorists will not get anything.” “Solomon, I promise that we will not give up and give in, for your sake. We will continue to build our national home, we will continue to build our country, because it is our home,” Erdan concluded before a 21-gun salute closed the ceremony, echoing off the high-rise buildings surrounding the small cemetery. In Abu Ghosh, Culture and Sports Minister Miri Regev praised Ottman for protecting lives in the face of “cowardly” terrorism. “Two men went to work this morning. One for life, one to save lives, and one of death, who went to take life away,” she said, referring to Ottman’s killer, Nimer Muhammad Jamal, as someone whose name “should be blotted out.” “We have no patience for people who take part in cowardly terror attacks,” she added, noting that Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu declared the house of the attacker would be demolished. “They must choose: Terror or making a livelihood,” Regev said of the Palestinians. The early morning attack also killed 25-year-old security guard and Har Adar native Or Arish. According to Channel 2, Arish was not scheduled to work on Tuesday morning, but requested the shift because he was saving up money to attend university. Just after 7 a.m. on Tuesday 37-yearold Nimr Mahmoud Ahmed Jamal had approached the gates of Har Adar. When officers who were opening the back gates of the community to Palestinian laborers approached him for acting suspiciously, he withdrew a pistol from his shirt and began to fire. Ottman, Gavriyah and Arish were killed in the attack. Another man, the settlement’s security coordinator, suffered serious gunshot wounds to his stomach and chest. His injuries after surgery were downgraded to light-to-moderate. The terrorist was killed by officers. Jamal had a valid work permit. He was a father of four. His wife had fled to Jordan a few weeks ago, citing domestic violence and leaving him with their children. Hamas praised the terrorist and called for others to commit similar acts of terror. Israeli forces arrested Jamal’s brothers after the attack. Netanyahu had said he will be razing his family’s home and rescinding work permits for his relatives.

Bahrain Connects with Israel Israel and the Gulf kingdom of Bahrain are bonding over their mutual hostility toward Iran. Bahrain has been slowly dropping its hostility levels towards the Jewish State for some time and may be announcing the establishment of official relations in the next year, according to Middle East experts. Bahrain, which has a Shiite majority

population, has accused Iran of setting up aggressive terrorist cells inside their kingdom. A Bahrain official has been telling press outlets in the Middle East that establishing ties with Israel would not be problematic because “unlike Iran, Israel does not pose a threat to Bahrain.” The government has recently ordered mosques to stop giving sermons that are critical of Israel. Rabbi Marvin Hier, dean and founder of the Simon Wiesenthal Center in Los Angeles, and Rabbi Abraham Cooper, the Associate Director of the Wiesenthal Center, met with the Bahraini king in the capital city of Manama last February. The king personally invited Hier to his palace and Hier said that “the king made a clear statement: ‘It’s illogical for the Arab world to boycott Israel. We must find a better way.’” Bahraini Prince Nasser bin Hamad al Khalifa even attended a large event for the Wiesenthal Center last week, after which he visited the pro-Israel Museum of Tolerance. Bahrain is a group of islands in the Persian Gulf. The country of 1.4 million people has no official relationship with Israel, however, Israeli businessmen and tourists have been visiting the island nation more frequently over the past few years. In 2010, a Bahraini princess was given life-saving treatment in an Israeli hospital.

Intel in Israel Releases “Best Processor Ever”

A new desktop computer processor has been unveiled in Haifa by a development team for Intel Corp. The new processors are faster and stronger than the previous generations put out by the computer giant. The new family of 8th Gen Intel Core processors was built for content creators, gamers, and anyone in need of high performance standards, said Intel. The chips include the Intel Core i7-8700K, which is being called the “best gaming processor ever” by the U.S.-based computer firm. The new chips are able to provide 25 percent more frames per second than the previous generation of Intel Core processors. According the company, they are more “accurate, faster, powerful and compatible than earlier versions, allowing for high quality of graphics creation and consumption.” Intel has been operating out of Israel since 1974. The company has a production

center in Kiryat Gat and four development centers in Haifa, Yakum, Jerusalem and Petah Tikva. The development center in Haifa is the company’s largest such site outside of the United States. Over 10,000 Israelis are employed by Intel.

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Remember the days when you were allowed one free checked bag on domestic flights? Well, those days are mostly gone and they won’t likely return since airlines have reaped major earnings from checked bag fees. According to data from the U.S. Department of Transportation, U.S. airlines earned a record $1.2 billion in checked bag fees and $737.5 million in reservation change fees during the second quarter of this year. This is the fifth consecutive quarter that bag fee profits have surpassed $1 billion. Just recently, the Government Accountability Office (GAO) announced that airfare has decreased since airlines began charging separately for perks likes checking bags and priority boarding. However, when customers choose to opt for those add-ons, the price of their ticket usually exceeds the difference. “As a result, customers who paid for checked bags paid more on average for the combined airfare and bag fee than when the airfare and bag fee were bundled together,” the report states. “Conversely, passengers who did not check bags paid less overall.” Bill Nelson, Florida senator, who initially demanded the GAO report, called the fees “outrageous.” “At this rate, passengers are going to have to start showing up with a suitcase full of clothes and a suitcase full of money just to get on the plane,” Nelson said. “It’s high time the airlines rein in these outrageous fees.” Earlier this year, the Bureau of Transportation Statistics reported that in the first quarter of this year the average cost of a domestic airline ticket was $352, which is the lowest average price during the first three months of the year since data collection began in 1995.

Hurricane Maria Slams Puerto Rico

The island of Puerto Rica has sent out an S.O.S. in the wake of Hurricane Maria. In parts of northern Puerto Rican, floodwaters reached more than 10 feet. Some of the towns affected were still reeling from Hurricane Irma when Maria hit. For example, in Loiza, a north coastal town, 90% of homes (about 3,000) were destroyed by Hurricane Maria just days after Irma. There are communities totally isolated after bridges and highways collapsed. In Rio Grande, officials are still trying to assess the number of families trapped in their homes. Mayor of the southern city of Juana Diaz Ramon Hernandez Torres said with tears in his eyes, “It’s a total disaster.” No part of the island of Puerto Rico was spared in Wednesday’s storm. Many areas were left with no way of communicating due to power outages, lack of cellphone service, and no internet connection. Local mayors and officials were unable to reach central government to call out for help. By Saturday, mayors and representatives from more than 50 municipalities across Puerto Rico were able to meet with government officials at the emergency operations command center to discuss rescue plans. Many of the mayors learned about the meeting through media reports over satellite radio. The meeting focused on providing all communities with the basic necessities: drinking water, prescription drugs, gasoline, oxygen tanks and satellite phones. Gov. Ricardo Rosselló announced that officials are in the process of centralizing medical care and shelters for the elderly. He said he will be distributing 250 satellite phones to mayors across the region to facilitate communication. He urged the mayors to develop a “buddy system” with other local officials to maintain contact. The hurricane brought 160 mph winds to the island, knocking out power on the entire isle. Officials are estimating that it will take three weeks for the power to be restored in hospitals and six months for the rest of the island. While most of the main roadways were still waterlogged, men, women, and children all across the island were stranded without food to purchase or medical treatment. Drinking water was in short supply. “There is horror in the streets,” San Juan Mayor Carmen Yulín Cruz told The Washington Post. “People are actually be-

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coming prisoners in their own homes.” “Whenever I walk through San Juan,” Cruz said, she sees the “sheer pain in people’s eyes... They’re kind of glazed, not because of what has happened but because of the difficulty of what will come,” she said. “I know we’re not going to get to everybody in time... Two days ago I said I was concerned about that. Now I know we won’t get to everybody in time.” The official death toll in Puerto Rico from Hurricane Maria has risen to 10. One person died when he was struck in the head by a panel. Another died in an accident with an excavating machine. Three died in landslides, two in flooding in Toa Baja, and two police officers in Aguada drowned when the Culebrinas River overflowed. One person in Arecibo died after being swept away by rising water. Officials believe there are likely many other casualties that have yet to be confirmed.

Trump vs. the NFL President Donald Trump has been sparring with a new foe and they’re big,

brawny and really good with a ball: the NFL. It began with Trump’s disapproving comments regarding players who choose not to stand when the national anthem is recited by the opening of games. On Sunday, Trump tweeted, “If NFL fans refuse to go to games until players stop disrespecting our Flag & Country, you will see change take place fast. Fire or suspend!” The Twitter storm came after Trump rescinded a White House invitation for NBA champion Stephen Curry. The president uninvited the popular two-time MVP for the Golden State Warriors, saying he would not be welcome at the White House for the commemorative visit traditionally made by championship teams. “Going to the White House is considered a great honor for a championship team. Stephen Curry is hesitating, therefore invitation is withdrawn!” he tweeted early Saturday. The sparring continued when Trump tweeted later on, “If a player wants the privilege of making millions of dollars in the NFL, or other leagues, he or she should not be allowed to disrespect our Great American Flag (or Country) and should stand for the National Anthem. If

not, YOU’RE FIRED. Find something else to do!” Throughout Sunday’s 14 games, many teams, players, and owners took a stance by either boycotting the anthem, kneeling, or locking arms. Once again they had Trump’s attention. Shortly after many games aired Trump tweeted, “Great solidarity for our National Anthem and for our Country. Standing with locked arms is good, kneeling is not acceptable. Bad ratings!” Many athletes came out in protest of the president’s tweets and comments. LeBron James, currently one of the most famous athletes in the major leagues, also released a video Saturday, saying Mr. Trump has tried to divide the country. “He’s now using sports as the platform to try to divide us,” James said. “We all know how much sports brings us together. ... It’s not something I can be quiet about.” Kneeling in protest was originally introduced by -San Francisco quarterback Colin Kaepernick who knelt in protest of police treatment of blacks and social injustice. People in the community are comparing his antics to the moves made by

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Martin Luther King, Jr. Kaepernick’s kneeling prompted others to protest and many were accusing Trump of racism since the trend began with an African-American player. However, while boarding Air Force One on Sunday Trump said, “I’ve never said anything about race. This has nothing to do with race or anything else. This has to do with respect for our country and respect for our flag.” Additionally, the NFL game operations manual, which describes policy – not rules – for the NFL, states, “The National Anthem must be played prior to every NFL game, and all players must be on the sideline for the National Anthem. During the National Anthem, players on the field and bench area should stand at attention, face the flag, hold helmets in their left hand and refrain from talking... “It should be pointed out to players and coaches that we continue to be judged by the public in this area of respect for the flag and our country. Failure to be on the field by the start of the National Anthem may result in discipline, such as fines, suspensions, and/or the forfeiture of draft choice(s) for violations of the above, including first offences.” In other words, kneel whenever you want – but not during our national anthem.

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Most kids at age nine like to ride their bikes, go swimming and play baseball. But not Sophia Spencer. She loves bugs. But, like, really loves them. In fact, she wrote a paper on them. Spencer, who lives in Canada, was one of two authors of a paper published earlier this month in the Annals of the Entomological Society of America. She and Morgan Jackson, an entomologist who works at the University of Guelph Insect Collection in Ontario, wrote about the importance of social media for making science more accessible to the public. It all started about a year ago, when Spencer’s mother wrote to the Entomological Society of Canada asking if there was anyone there who might encourage her then 8-year-old daughter’s interest in insects. Sophia would be taunted by classmates because of her love of bugs and her mother was concerned her passion would soon wane because of the bullying. She asked if an entomologist would be able to speak with Sophia “for even five minutes.” Soon, the hashtag #BugR4girls was buzzing as the Society tried to crowdsource for Sophia. Jackson was amazed at the responses and decided to publish a paper describing how social media platforms like Twitter can draw attention to entomology. He asked Spencer to be a co-author. In the paper, nine-year-old Sophia writes: “My favorite bugs are snails, slugs, and caterpillars, but my favorite one of all is grasshoppers. Last year in the fall I had a best bug friend and his name was Hoppers. When I first found Hoppers, I was kind of scared because that was the first time I held a grasshopper. When I grabbed him, he peed on me, and I thought he had bit me and that was my blood, so I flinged him and he landed somewhere on the stairs, but I found him and I was still a little bit scared, but I realized the he still liked me, like that was just a way to see if I was going to hurt him! I’d find him on the porch, or on the roof of my bug cage, or the side and it’d be really funny. And then I’d give him a little drop of water, which was really cool. I really like being a bug expert, but a lot of kids at school, they’re killing grasshoppers, especially the big kids at my old school… “If somebody said bugs weren’t for girls, I would be really mad at them… I think anything can be for anybody, including bugs.” Now that Sophia is an esteemed writ-

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Community Katz Hillel Jewish Day School Assists Florida Keys With Relief Efforts The Aventura Crime Prevention Unit arrived at Katz Hillel Day School of Boca Raton (KHDS) just prior to erev Rosh Hashanah on September 19, 2017, to load boxes of desperately needed items for the victims of Hurricane Irma in the Florida Keys. The relief effort, coordinated by the KHDS PTA, Katz Yeshiva High School and Chabad, collected over 300 boxes of items including linens, toiletries, clothing, shoes, toys, books, strollers and much more. Boxes which literally filled the school’s storage room from floor to ceiling are now on their way to families in need. The Aventura Crime Prevention Unit is transporting these items to areas that are accessible only to law enforcement and local officials due to the devastation. “When they have nothing, something is great,” said Ernie Long, Crime Prevention Coordinator for the City of Aventura, who, along with two other Crime Prevention Volunteers, helped load the large trailer. Also assisting were KHDS students and PTA President Sharona Kay. “This collection began after Hurricane Harvey and was intended to provide aid to those victims in Houston,” explained Mrs. Kay. “Unfortunately, with Hurricane Irma following so closely, we

KHDS Students loading the trucks

were unable to get the trucks out of Florida,” she added. In conjunction with Chabad of Houston, Naples and the Keys, the decision was made to keep the donations local. Additionally, funds collected were sent to the Houston Relief Effort along with letters of support written by students to the hurricane victims. Liora Adler, PTA Board member and coordinator of the collection effort noted, “It was amazing to see the community come together—donating, sorting and packing items. Volunteers, parents, grandparents and students worked around the clock.” Rabbi Adam Englander, Head of School, assigned shifts for the Middle School students to pack and sort items. “Events of the last month have brought

Ernie Long, City of Aventura CP Coordinator, Amanda Nevadomski & Jessica Garcia, CP Volunteers, and Sharona Kay, PTA President.

uncertainty, pain and a sense of vulnerability. But they have also brought hope, generosity and highlighted the goodness and caring nature of people” he expressed. “With the High Holy Days upon us, it is the perfect time to reflect and give thanks to Hashem that we are part of a school community that truly lives the values that make this world a better place,” he added.

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Uncle Moishy Launches “Welcome” Album, a Fresh New Sound for the New Year Uncle Moishy announced the release of “Welcome”, a fresh new CD with a fresh new sound, now available for purchase in-store, online at, iTunes and Google Play. Get your copy in time for the Chagim! “The music on ‘Welcome’ is an original, new direction for Uncle Moishy and appeals to kids and families alike” said Mendy Hershkowitz at Sonic Duo, the new producer of Uncle Moishy’s trademark music. “As he Uncle Moishy continues to grow together with his core audi-

ence of Jewish children.” New Sound, New Year With the release of ‘Welcome’, Uncle Moishy has created an innovative new sound unlike any previous CD release. Jewish families all over will enjoy the catchy tunes and messages found in this new soundtrack. “Welcome” offers a playlist of upbeat songs that resonate with kids of all ages, as well as parents and families on a whole. ‘Welcome” will enable Uncle Moishy to grow with Jewish children through every stage of childhood,

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From New York to Miami: Hurricane Irma Brings About an Outpouring of Chesed As you all know, the state of Florida witnessed one of the most powerful hurricanes to ever touch down in the US. You may also know, that in the zechus of all the tefillos that were launched to shamayim, the North Miami Beach community was largely spared from the full force of the storm. Our homes were not destroyed, and all are safe. What many people don’t know is the extent of damage and expenses that the community has suffered as a result. Many have not been able to go back to work. Others have minor expenses that require immediate attention. Many of these minor expenses are beneath the large hurricane deductibles on most insurance plans and are left to the homeowner. Our community is one where many people live paycheck to paycheck and simply cannot get back on their feet after the expenses they just faced. This is all with Yomim Tovim quickly approaching and much of the food people had already bought and prepared in freezers has already been lost.  Then pure chesed, achdus – unity and loving kindness step in. Quality Frozen Foods of NY, Best Value of Miami, with a great deal of as-

sistance of Benji Silverstein, Avi Wakszul and Dovi Katz of North Miami Beach helped organize a massive relief effort for kosher food to be sent to over 350 families in North Miami Beach, Miami Beach and surrounding areas whose homes and possessions were devastated during Hurricane Irma. In one short day (Friday morning till right before Shabbos) Matis Sofer of Quality Frozen Foods and Benji Silverstein, of Prince Distributors/Kedem, communicated  and contacted a host of vendors located in the tri-state area, and all throughout the day of which most if not all willingly agreed to donate goods from Quality’s warehouse stock at no charge to Quality. Both Matis and Benji worked the phone lines till minutes prior to Shabbos. As Shabbos was fast approaching, Quality had put together 22 pallets of all kinds of fresh and delicious kosher food. The challenge didn’t stop there as the truck arranged to pick up the order never showed up. Yet another hurdle that seemed like a nuisance but was really a blessing in disguise -- Hashgacha Pratis (divine intervention) at its finest. Once again, the phone lines were get-

ting worked on Motzei Shabbos as we didn’t stop until a truck was arranged to pick up the pallets for timely deliver prior to Yom tov. And the Hashgacha Pratis continues. The truck was now delayed for a few more hours. During those hours, Moishe Weiser from New York, volunteered to add a palate of frozen fish. This palate was only able to be added due to the truck being delayed. When Moishe came by to deliver the palate for the truck, he suggested to call an amazing organization Chasdei Lev, who ended up sending an entire additional trailer filled with crucial items like more fish, chicken, meat, which was all delivered in North Miami Beach in time for the community to utilize before Rosh Hashana.  The achdus and brotherhood that this project brought together is unfathomable and the overwhelming unity was unprecedented on all ends of the spectrum. On one end, the NMB community,  including shuls, organizations and rabbonim all got together to show the unity and sense of urgent need for the greater community. And on the other end, vendors and distributors of all sorts and kinds joined together and put aside all differences and

competition to utilize their capabilities and strengths to aid the North Miami beach and Miami Beach Communities with food, necessities and Yom Tov delicacies.  Kosher vendors ranging from every Jewish stripe and sector came together and participated in this amazing arrange-

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ment. Mi’kiamcha Yisrael, who are like the children of Hashem to do such a thing. Some of the many brands that participated in this effort include**: Prince Distributors (Kedem), Empire Chicken, Bodek, Unger’s, Chopsie’s, Maccabee, J&J/Mehadrin, Meal Mart, Jack’s Gourmet, Snack Delite, Noam Gourmet, Smackin’ Good, Marzipan Bakery, Ostreicher Cookies, Ferencz Farfel, Dagim, Green’s Bakery, Reisman’s Bakery, Osem, Kitov/ Matammim, Amnon’s Pizza, Mechel’s/Fine Frozen, Say Cheese, Herr’s Chips, Dyna Sea, Golden Flow, Haolam Cheese, Smart Beat, California Gourmet , Leiber’s, Oppenheimer, Zoglo, Raskins, Manischewitz, Yitzy’s, Katz’s, Duet, A&B Fish, and Pomegranate Su-

permarket gave 2 pallets full of good food. Prepared Food was organized after the initial truckload left on Sunday through some extensive efforts of big balei chasadim in the metropolitan NY who were able to pull of sending an additional truck down the very next day in order to arrive an hour prior to distribution. This food ended up being very essential as power was still not restored in most of NMB as of Monday afternoon just 2 short days prior to Yom Tov. It was an AMAZING effort by all to step up and help fallen Jews in need at a very crucial time.  A local fund approved by the NMB Rabonim was also created to help families fulfil their needs erev Yom Tov. Many people lost wages, and had extra expenses

incurred while preparing for the hurricane. This fund has had an overwhelming successful response and has been so helpful to over 100+ families. Unbeknown to many, there is a large amount of families in NMB who need assistance with minimal damages to make their homes livable again. A target goal of $500,000 was set to raise money to help the community with these expenses. With new hurricane deductibles now in effect, most people can’t make claims for repairs, but have serious enough damages they can’t afford to repair. The Rabbonim will be personally oversee the distribution of funds and ensure that the funds will help families be more relaxed and B’Simcha in the upcomming Yomim Tovim and get the storm past them.

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Urgent Message for Holocaust Survivors and their Families This is an urgent message for Holocaust survivors, their widows, children, family and friends. Last week was a significant day for all Jewish people but especially those Holocaust survivors, their widow(ers), children, grandchildren and friends who once owned property in the City of Warsaw, Poland. On August 22, 2017, Warsaw closed nearly fifty pre-existing property claims that had been made right after the War by Holocaust survivors (i.e. people that lived and rebuilt their lives) because neither they nor their heirs knew of the Warsaw proceedings, or thought they had insufficient information and didn’t know what to do. They didn’t come forward and now those properties belong to the City of Warsaw. In other words, survivors and their heirs ceded their often million-dollar properties to the City of Warsaw for perpetuity, the very perpetrator that wrongly took the properties after the War in violation of international law. There are potentially hundreds or thousands more property claims still open and which can be claimed by survivors and heirs. BUT THESE CLAIMS ARE ALSO RUNNING OUT OF TIME. In the coming months. these claims will likely be permanently extinguished. Before the War, there were 350,000

Jews living in Warsaw and many owned homes and companies, after the War many started the claims process, but soon left to start new lives abroad. Yet in the 25 years since the fall of communism very few of these properties have been restituted. For the most part, Poland has never returned these properties to their rightful owners or their families, but there may be an opportunity now. Therefore, if you know anyone who had any connection to Warsaw who simply thinks their family might have owned property before the War, we urge them to contact us today, even if they unsuccessfully tried to claim their property in the past. Time is running out act now before these properties, our Polish heritage, are also ceded to Poland without recourse. We also urge you to contact us immediately if you know of: Claims for properties, factories or companies elsewhere in Poland, but particularly in major cities like lodz, lublin, and krakow. Claims for properties, factories or companies in other Eastern European countries, including Romania, Hungary, Czech Republic, Slovakia, etc. Claims for art or other valuables taken during the War or by the communists. Survivors or children of survivors who may not have already received their full entitlement from, but



not limited to, Germany or Poland. It has been 72 years since the end of the Holocaust and more than 25 years since the end of communism in Eastern Europe yet the process of restituting property to its rightful owners and their heirs remains, at best, largely incomplete. We understand that memories may have faded. We understand that your records may be incomplete or that you may have no records at all. And we know that many survivors rarely spoke about what happened. Those are hurdles that we can work to overcome. They should not deter you from contacting us immediately. The time to reclaim your family’s European legacy is now. This office and our associates around the world are dedicated to trying to help individual survivors and their heirs identify and recover properties, companies, factories and art wrongly taken from their families. We feel that we must try to do anything in our power to help bring a measure of justice to the victims of the Holocaust, their heirs, and on behalf of the Jewish people. We know that this work is urgent and important and to accomplish it we have built a legal network specializing in assisting Holocaust survivors and their heirs. In doing so, we have become experts in restitution – pursuing claims for survivors and their families across East-

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Attention Teens: JFS Seeks Applicants For Tara Program Ruth & Norman Rales Jewish Family Services (JFS) is now accepting applications for their TARA (Teens Against Relationship Abuse) program. The objective of the program is for teens to educate, refer, and intervene with other teens when they recognize abusive behaviors and to increase bystander intervention when abuse occurs. JFS is currently seeking eligible candidates to join the program which will begin in October (Domestic Violence Awareness Month). To be eligible, students must be entering grades 9-12. Both male and female students are welcome to apply. Only 15 candidates will be selected to join our program. At the conclusion of the program, participants will receive a certificate of completion and community

service hours. Requirement and time commitment includes the following: Attend a 3 hour training class which will be given in October (time and date to be determined based on candidates availability). Attend group meetings 3 times per year. Each meeting will be 2 hours. Topics taught will include: healthy versus unhealthy relationships, signs of dating abuse, peer and bystander intervention and help for the abuser. For more information and/or to obtain an application contact: Aliza Schulman, LCSW at (561) 852-3379 or AlizaS@ Aliza Schulman is the Coordinator of the JFS Domestic Abuse Education & Action Program and has been working in the field for over 20 years. Re-

quirement and time commitment Includes the following: Attend a 3 hour training class which will be given in October (time and date to be determined based on candidates availability). Attend group meetings 3 times per year. Each meeting will be 2 hours. Topics taught will include: healthy versus unhealthy relationships, signs of dating abuse, peer and bystander intervention and help for the abuser. For more information and/or to obtain an application contact: Aliza Schulman, LCSW at (561) 852-3379 or AlizaS@ Aliza Schulman is the Coordinator of the Domestic Abuse Prevention and Education Program and has been working in the field for over 20 years.



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Holocaust Survivors Rock Berlin’s Brandenburg Gate with ‘Song of Hope’ Two aging Holocaust survivors joined forces with a younger Israeli singer to perform songs of hope at Berlin’s Brandenburg Gate on Wednesday at a time when Germany is seeing a rise in anti-Semitism. Saul Dreier, a drummer aged 92, and Reuven “Ruby” Sosnowicz, an 89-year-old accordionist, backed up Gad Elbaz at a site once used by Adolf Hitler for anti-Semitic speeches. “I don’t want to cry. If I can be 92 and be here after what I went through - there are no words,” Dreier told Reuters at the end of a long and emotional day. “This is a miracle. I lost 30 people in my family,” he told a crowd of around 80 people before the performance Dreier said recent news of neo-Nazi marches in the United States and Germany made him sick and brought back memories of the horrors of the Nazi regime that killed 6 million Jews. “It’s very frightening. Young people have to make sure it never happens again.” The men, who both live in Florida, formed their “Holocaust Survivors Band”

in 2014 and went on to play in front of packed audiences from Warsaw and Las Vegas to Washington, D.C. Elbaz said the event in Berlin was meant to make sure younger people remained vigilant about the dangers of anti-Semitism. “This is about reviving history and showing our generation how important it is not to forget where we came from, what we’ve been through, and that it should never happen again,” he said. Organizers plan to release a music video filmed during the performance of one of the songs, “Let the Light Shine On”. Shani Ramer, 48, who was born in Israel but grew up and lives in Berlin, said the concert reminded her of family members who perished. “It touched my heart,” she said. She welcomed the concert’s message of hope. “It’s saying we are still here. No one will kill us now.” Abida Ali, a Muslim tourist visiting Germany from Pakistan, joined other bystanders dancing to the upbeat music.

Now, a description and accounts of the emotion-filled Dancing that partook in front of the infamous Brandenburg Gate, courtesy of COLlive and Gad Elbaz. The Brandenburg Gate in Berlin, once used as a symbol for the Nazi party, was the unlikely site of a music video shoot about the endurance of the Jewish people. 78 years after surviving the atrocities of the Holocaust, members of the Holocaust Survivors Band joined Jewish superstar singer Gad Elbaz in a historic performance at Berlin’s famed gate. Saul Dreier, a drummer aged 92, and Reuwen “Ruby” Sosnowicz, an 89-year-old accordionist, backed up Elbaz at the site once used by Adolf Hitler for anti-Semitic speeches. The music video is being directed by New York filmmaker Daniel Finkelman, who was assisted by the Head Shliach of Berlin, Rabbi Yehuda Teichtel, to accomplish this historic feat. “Hundreds gathered to witness the Kiddush Hashem,” Finkelman told COLlive, about the crowd that gathered to take in the

unlikely spectacle. “There was a German lady in the audience that heads an organization fighting Anti-Semitism - she was so emotional about it all, and told me that her father was a Nazi, and she vowed to do everything in her power that this should not be repeated. She couldn’t believe we actually did this smack in the middle of Berlin.” The song, “Let the Light Shine On,” is about “spreading light in the darkest places,” Finkelman said. It was written by composer Cecelia Margules and is being co-produced by Aharon and David Orian.  “To perform in Berlin with the Holocaust Survivor Band was surrealistic yet powerful,” Elbaz told COLlive. “I was extremely touched by the solidarity displayed by the local Jewish community headed by Chabad, as always,” he said. Printed with permission from COLlive.


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Scheck Hillel Community School, Students and Staff Celebrating Rosh Hashana

Hillel Volunteers donating their goods and services to those in need before Rosh Hashana

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Hadar High School for Girls: A New Year, A New Facility & New Opportunities Hadar High School for Girls has had an incredible start to the new school year. With 21 fantastic students in 9th and 10th grade, the school year has begun with a lot of excitement. Our new facility housed by Boca Raton Synagogue has allowed us to take our academic program to the next level with more course levels and options as well as a variety of clubs and committees that round out a rigorous but supportive school environment. We have had a number of amazing extra-curricular programs that have included an informative yet fun student orientation, our annual “Schochaton”, and a Pre-Rosh Hashana kumzits. Most recently, we had our “Time for Te-

shuva” program during Aseres Yemei Teshuva which was headlined by Rabbi Yaakov Gibber who shared inspirational words that are sure to help prepare us for Yom Kippur. We are looking forward to “Pizza in the Hut” on Sukkos where we will be privileged to host our students in our sukka. Never a dull moment here at Hadar! Keep an eye out for our Open House information taking place on Sunday, November 19th. For more information about Hadar High School for Girls, please visit us at or call 561-922-5880.

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OU Advocates for Senate Introduction of FEMA Relief Bill to Aid Disaster-Damaged Synagogues, Other Houses of Worship The Union of Orthodox Jewish Congregations of America – the nation’s largest Orthodox Jewish umbrella organization welcomes the introduction of the “Federal Disaster Assistance Nonprofit Fairness Act” (S. 1823) by Sens. Roy Blunt (R-Mo.), James Lankford (R-Okla.), Ted Cruz (R-Texas) and John Cornyn (R-Texas). The bill will end the Federal Emergency Management Agency’s (FEMA) unfair treatment of synagogues, churches and other houses of worship damaged in natural disasters. The legislation, spearheaded by the

Orthodox Union Advocacy Center, will provide relief to houses of worship damaged in Hurricanes Harvey and Irma and ensure that aid is made available in the event of future natural disasters. Any funds granted to houses of worship would be allocated in accordance with FEMA’s standard policies and procedures for other nonprofits. The Senate bill parallels similar bipartisan legislation (H.R. 2405) introduced in the House of Representatives by Reps. Chris Smith (R-N.J.), Peter King (R-N.Y.), Grace Meng (D-N.Y.) and Trent

Franks (R-Ariz.). The damage inflicted by Hurricanes Harvey and Irma have again highlighted FEMA’s discriminatory policy under which houses of worship are not eligible for the same assistance as disaster-damaged libraries, zoos, museums and community centers. Earlier this month, the effort received a boost from President Trump, who tweeted: “Churches in Texas should be entitled to reimbursement from FEMA Relief Funds for helping victims of Hurricane Harvey (just like others).” OU Executive Director for Public Pol-

icy Nathan Diament stated: “This legislation will ensure fair treatment for synagogues, churches, mosques and other houses of worship that suffer damage in natural disasters. This policy change is long overdue.” OU President Mark (Moishe) Bane stated: “The Orthodox Union is very grateful to Senators Blunt, Lankford, Cruz and Cornyn for their leadership on this issue. It is time to end FEMA’s discriminatory practices toward houses of worship damaged in natural disasters.”

United Hatzalah & IRC Help Locate Missing People Throughout Jewish Communities in the Florida Keys

After four days of intensive work in the hard-hit Florida Keys, the commanding officer of the Israel Rescue Coalition (IRC) and United Hatzalah rescue teams announced that the team had helped to locate all missing people from the Jewish communities in the areas that were hit hardest by Hurricane Irma. “Following intensive efforts in Georgia, Naples and the Florida Keys, I am happy to announce that

we have helped to locate and identify all of the members of the Jewish communities in those areas, who had lost contact with their loved ones or had been reported missing following the storm. Thankfully they are all doing well and are in good health,” said Shlomi Anavi the commanding officer of the rescue mission. Anavi further reported that since Wednesday the team had located, iden-

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tified and treated some 35 people in the Florida Keys alone. “Over the past few days, we have located 35 members of the Jewish community who live in the Florida Keys whose relatives had reached out to us and reported them missing or had lost contact with them. Once people heard that we were operating in the region family and community members began to contact us directly or via social media outlets and asked for our help in locating these people.” In addition to locating missing persons, the team provided medical treatment for numerous injured people whom they found on the keys during their house to house searches. “We rescued one family who was trapped for a number of days in their house after all of the entrances and exits from the structure were sealed as a result of being damaged in the storm. We also aided the police and other rescue teams in handing out food and other aid to local residents who were not able to evacuate, many of whom had gone without clean water or food supplies for four days.” The team, which consisted of 10 people in total, has been operating in Georgia and Florida since last Sunday. “We have demonstrated that a small but highly trained group of rescue and medical responders from Israel can help and make a difference, not only in third world coun-

tries but even in countries as advanced and developed as the United States. The speed of our reaction time in arriving at areas of operation that we determined needed our help the most, caused us to be the first to arrive in many instances where people needed our help. Among these people were elderly, infirm, military veterans, sick and injured people, and many people who had no way of communicating with their loved ones due to the amount of destruction and the complete collapse of the electrical and communication grids,” Anavi added. “As our team heads back to Israel, we know that we return holding our heads high having completed a job well done.”

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Israeli Team Assists, Partakes in Rescue Operations throughout Florida Keys On September 12th, 2017, the Israel Rescue Coalition and United Hatzalah first response teams divided up into two groups with one headed to Key West, and the other headed to Naples. In Naples, the team walked into pandemonium. Houses were completely destroyed and people were without food, water and electricity. The team was warned by local officials that there were groups of looters who had no hesitation to shoot at first responders. Luckily, the group did not encounter any of these groups. They worked with community centers that were taking in displaced people who had stayed in the city during the hurricane but were forced to evacuate their homes due to a lack of power, water and food. They joined cleanup efforts and helped feed some 500 people at a local Chabad house after clearing the damage that the house had sustained during the hurricane. In one location, Psychotrauma responders helped calm a man who had been stuck in an elevator for some time while emergency crews worked to extricate him. In the Florida Keys, the situation was far more dire. Key West and many of the surrounding Keys had been without water or electricity since Saturday, and in spite of an evacuation order for the area, many people had decided to find shelter in the safety of their own homes. The highway leading to the Keys had flooded and there was no way in or out for many people who were trapped there.

“One such person, a military veteran named John, lives by himself in the city of Marathon in the central Keys,” said Tamar Citron, a veteran Search and Rescue volunteer from Israel who is part of the IRC and United Hatzalah team. “John suffers from a respiratory condition that requires him to receive oxygen on a regular basis. Once the hurricane hit, he like all the residents who were still on the Islands were unable to leave. He took shelter from the storm in his bathroom and has spent the last four days without water, electricity or telephone reception. When we got to him he barely had any drinking water or food left.” “You are the first people to come down here and offer aid,” John told the group of rescuers. “We provided him with water, food and a lot of positivity. We notified local authority and EMS teams that he was here and made sure that they followed up to properly care for him. Unfortunately, John is not alone and there are many people stuck on the Keys right now without access to food, water, electricity or a method of communication. Yesterday we were able to help dozens of people in a similar situation. On Wednesday, our entire team is heading down to the Keys to help rescue more of these people.” Another man by the name of John Conrad was visiting the Keys when the hurricane struck. “I’m from Tennessee, and I’ve been trying to make my way back to Fort Lauder-

dale since Saturday. I got caught in the hurricane and we had no food or water and no transportation. I decided I was going to make my way back to the mainland somehow, but then you guys came and picked me up. You brought me about a hundred miles today, and that is something I will never forget.”    The team brought aid, medical assistance and much needed water and food to residents of the Keys yesterday. They conducted house to house searches for people who stayed be and were stranded by Hurricane Irma. EMT first responder Gavy Friedson who is also a member of the IRC and United Hatzalah team spoke about the plan for the team’s continued efforts. “We are going back to the Keys again this morning and will be

there all day. The entire area is without water, power, food, plumbing or cell service and most of the homes are severely damaged. It has been reported that more than a quarter of all the homes in the Keys have been destroyed and are unlivable. We are on the way to assist with search & rescue ops such as door-to-door searches for missing people or families and unfortunately, there is a long list of missing people. Additionally, we will be bringing food and water to distribute to those who choose to stay. Currently, the only way to communicate is via satellite phone and thankfully our team has some but the residents don’t. We will help as many people as we can and continue to do so for the length of our mission here.”


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Yeshiva Toras Chaim Toras Emes Talmidim Help the Community Face Hurricane Irma While the South Florida community worked feverishly to prepare for the arrival of Hurricane Irma, the Bochurim of the Bais Medrash Zichron Ezra and Dr. Abe Chames High School of Yeshiva Toras Chaim Toras Emes were no different. Despite their intense schedule of learning, the bochurim made time to go around the community on Erev Shabbos to help anyone who needed assistance. Whether it was boarding up windows, helping move items out of yards, or securing lawn furniture and homes, their assistance proved to be invaluable to so many time-pressed community members. Their enthusiasm was inspiring and encouraging as South Florida braced for the monster storm yet to come.

va briefly lost power, and yet, the talmidim kept learning, knowing full-well that the zechus haTorah would protect them, and indeed the entire community. In fact, HaRav Shmuel Kamintzky shlita, told multiple people, that the Yeshiva will protect the community and they need not fear.

Once the storm winds began to howl and the rain beat down, the Kol HaTorah in the Bais Medrash rang loud and strong. The Bais Medrash bochurim continued to learn all sedarim, as their electricity remarkably remained on, despite numerous power outages in the neighborhood. It was only after the storm ended, that the Yeshi-

Mere days before Yom Tov, when the local rabbanim organized a massive food distribution for the community, again the bochurim were called upon to work through the night assisting in the packing and organizing of all the food donations. The organizers were impressed with their willingness to help, despite the late hours,

After the storm winds subsided, the YTCTE talmidim once again stepped up to the plate helping community members fix broken fences to secure exposed pools. With Rosh Hashana fast approaching, many were concerned of the safety hazard inherent in an unsecured fence and were grateful for the assistance of the talmidim who volunteered to make sure our community would remain safe.

and they credit the bochurim for playing an integral role in the success of this largescale operation.

Hakadosh Baruch Hu, that we were largely spared from potentially greater devastation.

As clearly demonstrated over these past few weeks, Yeshiva Toras Chaim Toras Emes constantly emphasizes to its students the importance of chessed and assisting the community. The South Florida community in turn, is most-thankful for their help as we all give thanks to

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Torah Thought Remembering Hashem When the Crisis Passes Rabbi Efrem Goldberg

The sitting and waiting was becoming unbearable. A week of preparations, warnings, and constantly tracking a shifting cone can leave you exhausted even before the hurricane begins.  It is easy to stay calm and confident until the many wonderful, well-intentioned people and organizations around the world let you know they are holding Tehillim rallies for your survival. The checklist of preparations before a hurricane is intense  – buy water, batteries, gas, flashlights, take in outdoor furniture, put up shutters or plywood, fill bathtubs, and more.  Yet, with all the preparations, we are powerless from actually influencing the storm.  The meteorologists and media can talk about and analyze the storm, but they cannot direct it.  Nobody can—

not scientists, not the Army or Air Force, not even great kabbalists. The key to the

nity turned to Him. When the shutters were hung and the supplies purchased, we gathered in the Shul for a heartfelt plea to the Ribono Shel Olam that the monster category 5 storm that was heading our way and threatened our very lives be redirected and downgraded and spare not only us, but all. Mi yichyeh u’mi yamus…mi ba’mayim, who will live and who will die… who by water?  While our tehillim rally took place two weeks before we would recite these profound words in U’nesaneh Tokef, they were poignantly on our minds and in our hearts that night.  The intensity of tefillah in the countdown to

“Just then, a parking spot opens up right in front of the building in which he is having his meeting. He sees the spot, looks back up to the Heavens and says, ‘never mind God, I found one.’ ”

strength and trajectory of hurricane Irma belonged exclusively to the Almighty and nobody else. And that is why our commu-

a catastrophic hurricane surpassed even ne’ilah in its intent and sincerity. As Sunday progressed and the winds and rain picked up in Boca Raton, we closely followed the movement of Irma and its impact on our neighboring communities. We watched Miami get hit hard from the storm surge and heard of the power outages as the storm made its way north towards us.  When it finally arrived, the rain went sideways and the wind howled. Trees landed on houses and cars, windows smashed and broke; for many, the electricity is still out.  The Shul parking lot flooded and a massive tree crashed into our gate.  But most importantly, nobody from our community was hurt, all are ok, and the devastation and destruction that threatened us never materialized. We recognize that not all who davened they be spared were answered in the affirmative as much as we were.  We continue to pray for their well-being, their safety, and that recovery efforts go smoothly.  Nevertheless, there is something incredibly special as a community in palpably feeling that our tefillos were answered and that Hashem said YES to our heartfelt pleas. Modim anachnu lach…al nisecha she’bechol yom imanu, we are forever grateful to You Hashem, for Your miracles that are with us each and every day. A man is late for an interview and he’s been driving around the block for 20 minutes trying to find a parking spot.  Running out of time and in great desperation, he looks to the heavens and says “God, if you help me find a parking spot right now, I’ll never speak lashon hara again, I will always make it to shul on time and I will give generously to tzedaka.”  Just then, a

parking spot opens up right in front of the building in which he is having his meeting. He sees the spot, looks back up to the Heavens and says, “never mind God, I found one.” We bang on the  bima to say tehillim when there is an emergency or a terribly ill individual.  We send an email notice and sign people up to complete sefer Tehillim in times of great need.  But do we equally rush to gather and sign up to say Tehillim as an expression of gratitude when everything turns out ok?  Or, like the man, do we say, never mind Hashem, ignore the promises we made at the Tehillim rally—as it turns out, the hurricane wasn’t that bad after all. Throughout the storm, I kept watching a large tree as the wind whipped through its leaves and its branches and made it bend until it seemed at times like it reached a ninety degree angle.  I was sure it was going to snap.  At one point, I heard a loud crack and knew a tree had snapped.  I looked outside at my tree but it was still stubbornly standing tall.  It was the tree next to it that broke in half and fell to the ground landing with a loud thud.  I wondered why one tree endured and the other couldn’t withstand the wind, and then I remembered what the rabbis taught us. ‫– לעולם יהא אדם רך כקנה ואל יהא קשה כארז‬ A person should always be soft like a reed, and not stiff like a cedar (Ta’anis 20a).   A reed is soft and flexible and, therefore, when it confronts winds and the elements, it endures.  A cedar is stiff and rigid; as a result, even an unimpressive wind can knock it over.  When hardship comes, when we face challenges, we need to go with the flow, put our trust in Hashem and adapt to what He throws our way.  When we are rigid, we tighten up with fear, angst and a lack of trust, and it becomes easy to be knocked right over. When surveying the downed trees, one cannot help but notice a second difference.  The trees that stayed up, like the palms, are not only flexible and bendable, but they have deep roots that hold their foundation steady.  The trees that have very shallow roots, however, like the ficus, tip right over, as there is no foundation to hold them strong. To weather the storms life throws our way, we must never forget how deep our roots go.  We have an incredibly strong foundation that can hold us up against any wind, as long as we remember where we come from and tap into the tradition of not only praying to Hashem in times of need, but thanking Him in times of goodness and joy. May our cries of ya’ancha Hashem b’yom tzara, answer us Hashem on our day of crisis, always be followed by a feeling of tov l’hodos laShem, it is good to thank Hashem. Rabbi Goldberg is the Senior Rabbi of Boca Raton Synagogue.

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Torah Thought

Yom Kippur

Going the extra mile!

By Rabbi Berel Wein


he sublime holiness of the day of Yom Kippur is ushered in by the declaration of the annulment of vows in the Kol Nidrei service. Obviously we do not want to appear before the Heavenly court with outstanding unfulfilled commitments. But attempting to discharge one’s committed, seriously undertaken commitments by cancelling those obligations unilaterally seems, at first glance, to be a slippery way of escaping one’s responsibilities.

of Yom Kippur is a touch of Heaven here on earth. What a gift this holy day is to us! The reversal of time makes us all clean and fresh again. The body may feel its years and infirmities but the soul is refreshed and revitalized. Before holidays and special occasions we polish the silver items that we possess so that they gleam with their original luster; Yom Kippur polishes our souls, removing the tarnish that dimmed it over the year. Since the body is not serviced on

The day of Yom Kippur is a touch of Heaven here on earth.

Why are we so confident that Heaven will agree to this and truly wipe that slate clean for us? The Torah itself appears to be quite strict and exacting in matters of vows and commitments. “All that you verbally commit to shall you fulfill” is apparently the governing principle of the Torah in these matters. Yet we are sure that Heaven will accept our nullification of vows as being valid, both legally and morally. I believe that the reason for this becoming acceptable and even somewhat noble lies in the majestic concept of Yom Kippur itself. Forgiveness is a Heavenly trait. Human beings may forgive slights and insults and not act vengefully but within themselves the hurt and the grudge remains. Such is our human nature, the instinct of self-preservation that is part of us from our first breath to our last. But on Yom Kippur we ask Heaven to truly forgive us and to reverse time, so to speak, so that our sins and hurtful behavior appear never to have really occurred. Heaven does not bear grudges. And the day

Yom Kippur, the soul, for this one day of the year, takes precedence and Heaven restores the soul to its original state of being and with its connection to its Creator. The soul needs no physical nourishment or exterior garments of show. It longs for the tranquility of the day and for the dialogue it conducts with its Creator through the soaring prayers of Yom Kippur. And because of the magical reversal of time that Yom Kippur endows us with, we are able to relive the experience of the service of the High Priest in the Temple service of Yom Kippur. The past, present and future all merge seamlessly on Yom Kippur because our souls are eternal without barriers of time to distract us. So our inner selves are able to experience what to our physical selves is an unseen and remote occurrence. This ethereal quality of Yom Kippur should be treasured and appreciated by us on this, the holiest day of the year.     Gmar chatima tova. Shabbat shalom.





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Psychology Today

The Little Tzaddikle Dr. Yaakov Siegel

A mother was concerned about her son who was wild, defiant and irresponsible – she insisted he was “just bad.” She had tried everything with him; following the expert advice from self-help books, trying to scold the mischief away, and threatening him with reward and punishment. But the 6-year-old seemed immune to it all; no matter how hard she tried, he just wouldn’t toe the line. By the time she called for treatment, the mother was beyond frustrated. “I don’t think I will ever see nachas from these children,” she lamented, “I put so much into them and each one seems to be determined to undo all my efforts. They don’t listen; don’t seem to be good at all.” Rena said that she noticed that, with this particular child, whatever she told

him, he seemed to believe. She wanted to take something on, so decided that for that one day, she was going to try to speak more positive. On the first day, she told her son that he was good, praised all his efforts and kept on repeating “you are my tzaddik,” and “I am proud of you, my little tzaddik.” The mother was amazed at the result. Her son actually behaved much better that day. But the real shocker came the next day when she overheard her boy telling his younger sister “I will help you…because I am a tzaddik!” She couldn’t believe her ears - not only had her messaging worked to get her son to change his behavior – but his whole self-image was transformed. She had taught her child how to encourage himself!

She couldn’t contain her excitement at the next appointment “It really worked, he started acting like a tzaddik,” she said, “do all 6-year-olds believe what you tell them?” The truth is that kids generally believe what you tell them about themselves. Children certainly do and even teenagers internalize the messages they receive. Most of the time this trick also works with adults. The way we picture ourselves shapes who we are and what we are to become. This psychological process was recently on vivid display when working with a young man who had concluded that he was a “bad Jew” (Does such a thing even exist?!) Naturally, many other aspects of his life were starting to slip – he was no longer careful about who he chose to associate with and ignored the standards of dress, speech, and behavior that he had seen in his parent’s home. He wasn’t making very smart decisions anymore. We spoke and I learned that although this young man was guilty of serious transgressions, he had never purposefully violated Shabbos outright, rather had flirted with the idea and ignored many of the rules and norms. Yet, he saw himself as hopelessly lost. I informed him of the good

news – although he had made mistakes he was not beyond the pale. What happened next came as a complete surprise. “If that is the case,” he said, “then maybe I will reconsider. Maybe there is room still in my life.” For this young man, knowing that he was not as bad off as he had imagined, changed the whole game. Like the 6-year-old, we tend to believe what we are told about ourselves. These are messages we hear from others and some that we come up with on our own. Sometimes there is a Mommy to reminds her son that he is a “little tzaddikel” or daughter she is a “tzaddeikes.” Other times we have to listen to try to hear it wherever we can. Or just tell it to ourselves.

Dr. Siegel is a licensed psychologist in private practice. He has held positions in Federal and State institutions providing clinical services and psychological assessment.  He also served as clinical coordinator at an addiction center where he supervised and trained staff.   Dr. Siegel can be reached at 732-8061513 or drsiegel@siegelpsychological. com


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You gotta be kidding Jacob, a good yekkie, was planning a trip to Israel for Sukkos. He spoke to his travel agent in advance and requested a window seat. On the day of the trip, he arrived at the airport and was assigned an aisle seat. After a long and frustrating flight to Israel, he called his travel agent to vent. “I can’t believe you

put me in an aisle seat when I insisted that I wanted a window seat,” he complained. The travel agent answered with his own question, “Why didn’t you ask the person who was sitting in the window seat near you if they wanted to switch?” “I would have,” replied Jacob, “except that the seat was empty.”

A Blessing for Good Luck… May this year bring you the luck of Joan Ginther of Las Vegas (age 70): $5.4 million: Amount Joan Ginther won in the Texas lotto in 1993 $2 million: Amount Joan Ginther won in the Texas lotto scratch-off game “Holiday Millionaire” in 2006 $3 million: Amount Joan Ginther won in the Texas lotto scratch-off

game “Millions and Millions” in 2008. $10 million: Amount Joan Ginther won in the Texas lotto scratch-off game “$140,000,000 Extreme Payout” in July 2010. 1 in 18 septillion (not a billion, trillion, quadrillion, quintillion or sextillion): Odds of the same person winning 4 different lottos. So all you hoping this will happen to you, keep on dreaming!

…And Good Business Skills May this year bring you the business skills of Steven Ortiz of California: When he was 17-years-old, in 2008, Steven Ortiz started out with an old cellphone and bartered his way to a 2000 Porsche Boxster over a

Riddle me this? Four Fruit Two

In the supermarket, the aisles are num-

period of two years and less than 15 trades. Here’s how he did it: Cellphone → iPod touch → dirt bike → Macbook Pro → Toyota 4Runner → Custom Golf Cart → high-end dirt bike → street bike → 1975 Ford Bronco → 2000 Porsche Boxster

bered from one to six from the entrance. Dishwashing liquid is next to bottles and it is not the first item you see when you come into the store. You will see the meat aisle before the bread aisle. Tins are two aisles before bottles and

B. C. D.


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meat is four aisles after fruit. A. What is the last aisle (aisle six)? B. In which aisle can bottles be found? C. What is in the first aisle? D. In which aisle can tins be found?

Answers: The aisle order is: 1) Fruit; 2) Tins; 3) Dishwashing liquid; 4) Bottles; 5) Meat; 6) Bread A. Bread


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Good Excuse These are school excuse notes (including original spelling) from all over the country

 My son is under a doctor’s care and should not take P.E. Today. Please execute him. 

 Please excuse Casey from school. It was Take Your Daughter to work day. I don’t have a job, so I made her stay home and do housework.

Please excuse Lisa for being absent. She

was sick and I had her shot.

 Sorry I was late for school miss, I squirted the toothpaste too much and

 Dear School: Please ekscuse John being absent on Jan. 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, and also 33.

spent all morning getting it back in the tube.  My son was off school today because I told him to clean his room. It was very messy and took him all day.

 Please excuse Roland from P.E. For a few days. Yesterday he fell out of

 I was late for school because all the clocks in the house

a tree and misplaced his hip.  Megan could not come to school today because she has been bothered by very close veins. 

Chris will not be in school cus he has

stopped at once, and I was unable to tell the time.  I was late for class because the bell rang before I got here!!

an acre in his side. 

 Ralph was absent yesterday because of a sour throat.  Please excuse Jennifer for missing school yesterday. We forgot to get the Sunday paper off the porch and when we found it Monday we thought it was Sunday.

late today, I was just early for tomorrow.  I didn’t come to school yesterday because I was feeling like I was going to be sick, but thankfully I wasn’t.  Al was not in school yesterday because he was didn’t feel like going.

Answer to Riddle: Peter

 Please excuse Ray Friday from school. He has very loose vowels.

Teacher, contrary to what you think, I wasn’t

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Forgotten Her es

Major Moshe Levy’s Heroism in the Yom Kippur War By Avi Heiligman

Meeting with Yitzhak Rabin. Notice Levy’s missing right hand


n the many wars and battlefield engagements that Israel has fought they were the least prepared and expectant of the attack on Yom Kippur 1973. Syrian tanks were rolling through the Golan Heights and Egyptian armor had breached the Bar Lev Line in the Sinai in less than two hours. Israeli nuclear missiles were armed in the ensuing panic. American planes soon resupplied Israelis who were low on just about every type of material needed to fight the war. Eventually the IDF was able to push back on both fronts and negotiate a ceasefire on their terms. During the bitter battles, the IDF took severe casualties, and many soldiers were decorated for their heroics on the battlefield. Moshe Levy was one of these men who despite all the odds saved the lives of his fellow soldiers. Levy (sometimes spelled Levi) was 28-years-old with a wife and two young children when the war broke out. Levy was in a mechanized unit and had been in a car accident a few weeks prior and was nursing a broken kneecap when his unit was called to reserve duty before the war. With his leg still in a cast he was exempt from duty but he wanted to be with his unit when they were sent to the southern front. He told his wife, “They don’t need to call me. I’m still going.” When Levy arrived at the front on October 8, he found his unit deployed east of the Suez Canal at a place called

Al Qantarah El Sharqiyya. Levy was given an armored vehicle personnel carrier called a half-track and sent to locate Egyptian commandos. A week later, on October 15, the IDF commander received a call to rescue soldiers trapped in an ambush. However, when Levy’s unit came on the scene they found out that the 20 or so Egyptian soldiers that were attacking the Israelis actually numbered in the hundreds. “They had 120 tanks to our 98 soldiers,” Levy said. Even though they had walked into the trap themselves, they weren’t going to leave anyone behind and Levy’s unit started to prepare for the Egyptian attack. The commander told them that they, with a few other small units in the area, were the only thing between them and Tel Aviv. A frum soldier, the only one in Levy’s unit, started saying Tehillim and the non-frum soldiers not knowing any better replied, “Amen.” Sadly, that soldier was killed in the upcoming attack but he inspired other soldiers towards teshuva (it was closer to Hoshana Rabbah at this point in the war than to Yom Kippur). When the Egyptians came towards the Israeli position they waited until the IDF vehicles were bunched together to begin firing rockets and missiles that had been buried in the sand. It was that first barrage that did the most damage. Many of the IDF vehicles were hit, and Levy saw a rocket heading straight for

Recovering from his injuries

his half-track. Suddenly, he felt a boom and the next thing he knew he had lost an arm. The soldiers under him were more in a panic seeing him injured than Levy was about his own plight. He said to the men in his vehicle, “One missile went above us and one missile didn’t reach our vehicle. In about a minute another missile will fire directly at us. We must jump outside the vehicle.” He recalled, “As I jumped, my soldiers jumped after me, except for four. A minute later, the four who stayed in the vehicle were killed by a missile.” Looking around and seeing the devastation Levy felt that he had no choice but to attack the Egyptian post. The situation looked hopeless so he went armed with an Uzi and a couple of grenades to protect the remaining men in his unit. As he approached the enemy’s machine gun nest on a hill they were so amazed to see a one-armed soldier coming alone that they failed to notice that he was pulling the pin of a grenade with his teeth. Levy threw the grenade ten meters away from the post and killed several enemy soldiers and destroyed the position. In the blast he was hit by shrapnel from his own grenade in the face and chest. With the thought of “if I stay here I am dead,” Levy managed to crawl back to his own lines. A short time later, IDF paratroopers arrived on the scene to stabilize the front and were evacuating the severely wound-

ed first. Levy refused to be sent back to the rear until all of the other wounded soldiers were removed from the battlefield. When he was finally looked at by a doctor, the physician stared in disbelief at Levy. It took two months for Levy to recover from his injuries, and he still wanted to be sent back to his unit. Finally, one doctor agreed on the condition that Levy was accompanied by a doctor to his unit. The State of Israel won the war but they lost the most service members in their history. Over 2,500 were killed in the line of duty, and Israel swallowed the bitter message to make sweeping changes in intelligence and defense networks. Moshe Levy retired as a major from the IDF and is the president of anti-terrorist technology company. Levy was awarded the Medal of Valor for his actions during the war and is still alive today. He has spoken several times about his experiences and even about his encounter with the Lubavitcher Rebbe who gave him spiritual advice when he needed it the most. Moshe Levy’s story is unique in that not only was he a war hero but he took the lessons to heart for the rest of his life. Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions for future columns and can be reached at

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Health & F tness

Intermittent Fasting: Pros and Cons By Aliza Beer MS, RD


om Kippur is a day of atonement and mandatory fasting. One of the many benefits is that some of us are lower on the scale the next morning. Most often that number bounces back up with a normal day of eating. There are those in the nutrition community that believe intermittent fasting to be helpful to weight loss and general health. “Intermittent fasting” is a term used to describe ways you can manipulate your eating patterns. It involves not eating for specific periods of time, with the intent to lose weight and improve health. Intermittent fasting can include anything from multiday fasts to skipping meals a few times a week. Many people consider it appealing because it allows them unlimited calories on non-fasting days. What exactly is intermittent fasting? There are a number of different versions, the most popular being the 5:2 diet. This is where the person eats between 500-600 calories a day for two non-consecutive days in the week. For the other five days of the week, there are no restrictions. Another version is the 16/8, where one can only eat during an eight-hour period every day, and one must keep this set period, i.e. 11 am- 7 pm, consistent every day. The other 16 hours one can drink zero calorie beverages only. Another version is to fast for 24 hours once or twice a week. There have been studies done that show possible health benefits to intermittent fasting, in addition to weight loss. These claims include improving the body’s sensitivity to insulin, lowering inflammation, improving the digestive system, and reducing body fat. Much of the research is only showing short-term benefits, and more studies are needed to confirm these claims. Many of the studies published on fasting were small, short in duration, or conducted on animals. Further research is required in humans to see if these benefits are directly caused by fasting. As with any change to your diet, you should consider the risk factors. You

should also consult your doctor prior to beginning any new diet program. If you are diabetic or hypoglycemic, fasting could be dangerous. People with cardiac issues should not voluntarily fast, as it can affect their cardiac function. Age will also play a role in how well your body deals with fasting. Older adults may function better with an overall decrease in calories than total fasting or severe restriction for extended periods of time. Potential side effects for anyone who fasts include fatigue, dizziness, low energy, and trouble concentrating. Increasing hunger may lead some to binge on non-fasting days, which could lead to weight gain as well as blood sugar control issues. This pattern may exacerbate binge-eating tendencies for those struggling with disordered eating. Intermittent fasting has the potential to lower your metabolism by propelling your body into starvation mode, which can cause muscle to be broken down for energy instead of fat. If you are considering intermittent fasting as a weight loss tool or for possible health benefits, discuss it with your doctor first since they are the most familiar with your health history and follow their recommendations. Though some studies do show that intermittent fasting results in short-term benefits such as weight loss, there are few long-term studies. It is still unclear what this type of periodic eating does to eating behaviors, body composition, metabolic rate, and overall health in the long run. It also hasn’t been confirmed that intermittent fasting will result in a greater and/or more sustainable weight loss compared to a regular daily calorie restricted diet. Wishing all of my readers a gmar chasima tova and an easy fast. Aliza Beer is a registered dietician with a master’s degree in nutrition. She has a private practice in Cedarhurst, NY. Patients’ success has been featured on the Dr. Oz show. Aliza can be reached at alizabeer@



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Torah Thought

Sukkot By Rabbi Berel Wein


upervising my somewhat willing helpers in the sukkah, while hanging our decorative memorabilia collected from our extensive travels all over the world, I quietly reflected to myself about the nature of this beautiful and happy holiday. Here in Israel the weather is not that much of a factor and only rarely does it play a role in our observance of the commandment of dwelling in a sukkah for a week. The sun usually shines here and the weather is still quite warm. So, like many other aspects of Jewish life, the Torah apparently meant for the holiday of Sukkot to be spent and enjoyed in the Holy Land with the special climate and ambience that exists there. However, the holiday has been celebrated by Jews for most of our history in less than ideal weather and social conditions. I remember the snow on the roof of the sukkah on bitterly cold days in Chicago and later in Monsey. I also recall the oppressive heat and humidity of Miami Beach where all of our guests were issued towels in order to be able to mop the sweat off of their faces during the meal. Since the holiday itself represents the ability to live outside of the physical comforts and habitats

of ordinary life and to exist in a special spiritual “house of G-dly clouds” Jews overcame all physical impediments in order to properly celebrate and commemorate this glorious and beautiful holiday. This idea of Sukkot – of being able to live in the physical and spiritual worlds at one and the same time – truly encompasses the entire

home after our “real” world ends. On Sukkot our real and ordinary world is sublimated to this great “other world.” Dwelling in the sukkah engenders within us the feeling of already participating in the sweetness of “the world to come.” If we deal with the sukkah as a purely physical project then we will always experience difficulties and

Dwelling in the sukkah engenders within us the feeling of already participating in the sweetness of “the world to come.”

viewpoint of the Torah regarding human life and behavior. Most of the year we emphasize the fact that we live in a physical and rational world and conduct our lives accordingly. But even then there is a portion of us that recognizes that we are living in a spiritual and eternal world as well and that our actions influence that unseen and intangible existence. On the holiday of Sukkot we actually attempt to live, at least for seven days, in this unseen world, the world that will be our true and eternal

perhaps even discomfort. However, if we truly visualize it as being a house of “clouds of glory” then all of the travail and discomfort of not living in our home with our accustomed conveniences will somehow diminish and even disappear. As I contemplated our sukkah decorations from all over the world I thought to myself that this is perhaps, in a small way, a representation of the universality of the holiday. Among the other artifacts hanging in our sukkah is a sheep from New

Zealand, a boomerang from Australia, an Asian dancer from Thailand, a flag from Croatia, decorated eggs from the Czech Republic, Navajo pottery from Utah and Colorado, Zulu dancers from South Africa, a wooden elephant from Botswana, a cowbell from Switzerland and a pinwheel from Canada. We also have a flag from Wales, an Eiffel tower from Paris, a doll from Russia, replicas of Henry VIII from London and of Shakespeare from Stratford-upon-Avon, Indian corn from Illinois, a sombrero from Mexico, a hat from Vietnam, a lamp from Morocco, a trinket from Japan and a few other assorted odds and ends from different parts of the globe that we have been fortunate enough to visit. All of these objects, together with our guests, will enhance our celebration of the holiday of Sukkot here in Jerusalem. Additionally, as is the case every year, I know that there will be many thousands of non-Jews who will also make a pilgrimage to Jerusalem. The words of the prophets of Israel regarding Jerusalem and the holiday of Sukkot come to life in front of our very eyes. What a privilege it is to live here now and rejoice in G-d’s festival and goodness. Chag samech.

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By Jamie Geller

Scrumptious Sukkos Starters


MATZO BALL DIPPERS Spinach, pastrami and brisket stuffed matzo balls are an amazing trio. They can be served in soup or made even better when crisped and served up with matching dipping sauces.

Ingredients ● 4 eggs ● 2 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil, plus more for shaping and browning ● 2 (4.5-ounce) boxes Lipton Matzo Ball Mix ● Kosher salt ● Freshly cracked black pepper ● 2 packed tablespoons thawed frozen spinach (squeeze out excess liquid) ● 2 slices pastrami, minced ● 2 slices cooked brisket, small dice ● Dips: spicy mustard, BBQ sauce, chili sauce

Preparation Place eggs, olive oil, and 2 pouches of matzo ball mix in a large mixing bowl. Add a generous pinch salt and pepper. Blend with a spatula. Divide batter evenly between three bowls. Mix spinach into the first bowl of matzo ball batter. Mix pastrami into the sec-

ond bowl of matzo ball batter. The third bowl is the classic batter with no mix-ins. Refrigerate all three batters for 10 minutes. With wet or lightly oiled hands form spinach and pastrami batters into 1-inch sized balls. Flatten a small portion (about 2 to 3 teaspoons) of classic matzo ball batter into the palm of your hand. Place 1 piece of diced brisket in the center. Fold over the batter to encase brisket. Form into a round 1-inch sized ball. Repeat with remaining batter. Drop matzo balls into boiling broth or heavily salted boiling water, allowing room for matzo balls to double in size. You may have to do this in batches depending on the size of your pot. Reduce heat and simmer for 15 minutes, turning matzo balls occasionally. Remove matzo balls to a paper towel-lined plate and gently blot with paper towels to remove excess moisture. Heat a large sauté pan, lightly coated with extra virgin olive oil, over medium heat. Brown matzo balls until golden and crisp on all sides, about 3 to 5 minutes. Transfer to a paper towel-lined plate. Serve Matzo Ball Dippers warm with spicy mustard, chili and BBQ sauces.

Jamie Geller is the only best-selling cookbook author who wants to get you out of the kitchen – not because she doesn’t love food – but because she has tons to do. As “The Bride Who Knew Nothing” Jamie found her niche specializing in fast, fresh, family recipes. Now the “Queen of Kosher” (CBS) and the “Jewish Rachael Ray” (New York Times), she’s the creative force behind and “JOY of KOSHER with Jamie Geller” magazine. Jamie and her hubby live in Israel with their six busy kids who give her plenty of reasons to get out of the kitchen – quickly. Check out her new book, “Joy of Kosher: Fast, Fresh Family Recipes.”



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STUFFED PEPPERS Stuff with either white or brown rice or couscous, quinoa, barley, bulgur, orzo, or even broken (slightly undercooked) spaghetti. This is a really versatile, grab what you got for bulk, stuffing.

Ingredients Peppers ● 4 large peppers ● 4 cups boiling water ● 1 tablespoon canola oil Filling ● 1 lb. ground beef ● 1 medium onion, coarsely chopped ● 1 tablespoon kosher salt ● 1 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper ● 2 cups cooked rice ● ¼ cup chopped fresh dill ● Pinch ground nutmeg ● 1 (28 oz.) can chopped tomatoes, undrained ● Cucumber and Red Onion Salad ● 1 cucumber, unpeeled, rinsed, and sliced ● 1 red onion, halved lengthwise and thinly sliced ● ¼ cup Basic Vinaigrette

Preparation Preheat oven to 350°F. To prepare peppers: Cut off tops of peppers. Reach in with your fingers or a large spoon and gently remove the seeds and ribs, making sure to leave peppers whole so they can be stuffed. Set aside the pepper tops. Place the whole peppers in a 9-inch square baking pan and pour boiling water in them. Set aside. Finely chop pepper tops. In a medium sauté pan, heat oil over medium-high heat. Crumble the ground beef into the pan. Mix in the onions and pepper tops. Season with salt and pepper. Mix well and cook for 5 minutes. Stir in cooked rice, dill, and nutmeg; mix well. Drain peppers and stuff them with beef mixture. Return peppers to the baking pan. Pour tomatoes over and around peppers and bake for 20 minutes. Arrange peppers and tomatoes on a serving platter and serve with Cucumber and Red Onion Salad. To prepare Cucumber and Red Onion Salad: In a salad bowl, mix cucumber and red onion with ¼ cup basic vinaigrette. Toss and serve.

ASIAN VEGETABLE STUFFED FLOUNDER You can use this same filling for chicken, chicken breast cutlets, dark meat chicken cutlets, salmon fillets, sole fillets, flounder fillets, sandwich steaks or beef cutlets.

Ingredients ● 2 tablespoons toasted sesame oil ● 1 tablespoon rice vinegar ● 2 tablespoons soy sauce ● 2 tablespoons olive oil ● 2 cups julienne vegetables: multi-color bell peppers, carrots and celery ● 5 thinly sliced cutlets or fillets, about 1 pound ● 5 teaspoons mixed black and white sesame seeds

Preparation Preheat oven to 350°F. Lightly grease a baking dish, large enough to hold all of the rolls without touching, with cooking spray. In a medium bowl whisk together sesame oil, vinegar, soy sauce and olive oil. Add julienne vegetables to the bowl and toss to coat well. Let vegetables marinate for 15 to 30 minutes. Evenly distribute the vegetables amongst the cutlets. Roll up the cutlets like you would a jelly roll. Place seam side down in prepared baking dish. Pour remaining marinade over the rolls. Sprinkle each roll with 1 teaspoon of mixed sesame seeds. Bake at 350°F for 20 minutes or until fillets are cooked through and no longer pink inside. Reprinted from Joy of Kosher Magazine.

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A Symbolic Sukkos More than Just Metaphors


By Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky


t was a scene out of a fantasy. I’ll call him Moishe. He had a real cynical streak and hardly a good word to say about anyone. To Moishe, everybody was a bum, an am haaretz, a frummie or a tutzach. I don’t think there was anyone with whom he ever felt hashkafically or socially compatible. Everyone was put down either because he was too frum or not frum enough. But there he was with all four of them, as if they were his nearest and dearest buddies. I knew how he spoke about them during the rest of the year, but for some reason today was different. He was not only treating them as equals, he was holding them close as if they were inseparable. The most prominent of the four was clearly as pious as pious could be. They called him Ezzie. He was always learning and davening, and I don’t think he ever said no to anyone who needed a favor. What was really strange was that the others were not

nearly as holy. The second guy was called Robbie. Rob was bereft of any spirituality: He’d never done a mitzvah nor picked up a sefer in his life. And when it came to doing a chessed, he was nowhere to be found. Yet somehow, the cantankerous and often snide Moishe was embracing him like a friend. The other two fellows also seemed out of place. One was called Lou. Lou was like the maskil of old. He loved to learn, yet when it came to good deeds there was much to be desired; he wouldn’t lift a finger for another person. I don’t know if he ever davened or even kept kosher. And believe it or not, next to Lou, hugging him tight, was the fourth guy, who was the exact opposite. All day long he was coming and going to hospitals and whatnot, Hatzolah and Mekimi. But open a sefer? Never! And there was good old Moishe, singing and swaying with them as if they would never part. I couldn’t

imagine what was going on until I snapped out of my daydream and the four men lost their human personae and morphed back into their Midrashic reality: the esrog, the lulav, the hadassim and the aravos, with their particular tastes and smells or lack thereof, each representing a different type of Jew and his performance of mitzvos and Torah learning. I needn’t elaborate on the symbolism of Lou the lulav, Rob the aravah, Ezzie the esrog tzaddik, or Harry the hadas. It’s funny how we like to take Chazal literally when it’s convenient, and how in theory we would bind these Jews together and hug them dearly if they were actual fruit. In Yiddishkeit we often emphasize the beauty of symbolism, but when it comes to reality we often get mired in the murkiness of the mundane, which can cloud our actual idealism. We invite the seven ushpizin into our sukkah and always seem to have

a place for them. But if there were hardly any room and it was hot and crowded, would you really invite a 2,000-year-old relative to your table? A story is told about Rav Isser Zalman Meltzer. He was once sitting with some students when one of them suddenly looked out the window and announced that one of Israel’s leading gedolim (I heard it was the Chazon Ish) was walking towards the house. Rav Isser Zalman quickly prepared his modest apartment to greet the honored guest. The table was covered with a freshly laundered tablecloth and adorned with a bowl of fruit. The rav also changed into his Shabbos attire to show his respect for the distinguished visitor. When someone knocked on the door Rav Isser Zalman rushed to open it. But instead of an esteemed gadol, it was a simple Jew who needed a letter of approbation in order to raise funds. From a distance he had looked like the



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gaon, but the student had made a mistake. To the surprise of his wife, and even more so to the visitor himself, Rav Isser Zalman ushered the poor man into his dining room. He proceeded to seat him at the head of the table, converse with him, feed him, and give him the respect he would have afforded a revered guest. After discussing the man’s needs, he wrote a letter filled with complimentary descriptions regarding the man and his situation. Reb Isser Zalman later commented, “Who among us can really assess a person’s value? Perhaps this is the way one must treat every Jew. I was happy to channel my enthusiastic expectations of the gadol’s visit toward this simple Jew.” Our challenge is to turn idealism into reality. Indeed, I’ll never forget how the idea of the all-encompassing sukkah of protection became a reality. It was erev Sukkos 1985. I was making the trip with my family to New York from Pittsburgh, where we were living at the time. The drive across the Pennsylvania Turnpike takes about six hours, plus another two hours to get to Woodmere. Somewhere near Philadelphia you pick up the New Jersey Turnpike to the Goethals and Verrazano Bridges, and then proceed to the Belt Parkway. It’s not a terrible ride, but that erev Sukkos it was different. We were being chased. It felt as if the Egyptians were breathing down our backs. The minute we changed our eastward trek from Pennsylvania and headed northbound we saw it coming in our rearview mirror: Hurricane Gloria. The hurricane was at Cape May, NJ, and heading north. We were still ahead of it, but it was gaining. Any slowdown and we would be caught in its eye. The rain was pelting, the winds were gusting and we knew there was a possibility we might face its wrath. But we made it. It hit only an hour or two after we finally arrived in Woodmere. Somehow, despite the trees falling, debris flying and cars floating, my father’s sukkah remained standing, protecting us like a real sukkas shlomecha. There is so much symbolism to Sukkos, such as the aforementioned

Midrash about the four minim representing the four types of Jews (Vayikra Rabbah 30:12). It all seems wonderful on paper when your fifth grader brings home a dvar Torah to read at the table. But here’s a story of someone who took its message to

crets known only to (if you’ll excuse my Carlebachian expression) the deepest of the deep and the purest of the pure. So I moved the lulav and esrog to my left side and held them in a way that I thought the general wouldn’t

“You’ve got a lulav and an esrog – why are you hiding them?! You should walk proudly as if you’re holding a bayonet and a grenade!”

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to you as a general!” Indeed, he was right. Chazal do compare the lulav and esrog to symbolic arms waved in proud victory after the defeat of a vicious enemy. If only I had really lived the symbolism. If only we believed that the lulav and esrog are our weapons, that the sukkah will protect us as in days of yore, and that our Avos come to visit. If only we believed that all Jews must unite and be embraced, despite their differences. Then maybe, just maybe, Hashem will allow us to sit in the great sukkah made from the skin of the livyasan. Reprinted with permission from AMI Magazine where this article originally appeared.

heart, even if he himself was less than observant. When I first moved back to Woodmere in the mid-1980s there were hardly any observant Jews in the immediate area. By the time my boys were old enough to take a lulav and esrog to shul a few families had moved in, but most of my neighbors would not have known what they were. And though I never wore a tallis over my coat as if I was living in Yerushalayim, it is almost impossible to carry a lulav and esrog incognito. One of my neighbors was General Lee Dicker. I had stopped to schmooze with him a few times when passing by his house on Shabbos. I thought he was Jewish, but I never said anything if I saw him getting into his car on that holy day. He claimed to be a onestar general in the Korean War, and I wasn’t sure if the “Good Shabbos” he usually extended to me was something he had learned from the streets or from his own Jewish home. Well, one day I was running late to shul and had my two boys with me. They were only six or seven at the time, and encumbered with their own arba minim, they were having difficulty keeping up with me. The general was sitting outside, with a cigar and The New York Times, if I remember correctly. I figured I’d get a “What’s that your holding?” or the like, which would require me to explain a commandment whose symbolism, in my opinion, is difficult for those of us in a non-agrarian society to understand on a simple level, let alone their se-

notice. Then came the booming voice: “You’ve got a lulav and an esrog – why are you hiding them?! You should walk proudly as if you’re holding a bayonet and a grenade! I remember the rabbi in Eitz Chaim Yeshiva in Boro Park telling us that! And now I’m telling it

Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky is Rosh Yeshiva of South Shore, the author of the Parsha Parables Series and weekly columnist in Yated Neeman and AMI Magazine.

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Yes, a Diabetic Can Enjoy Yom Tov By Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN


om tov is a cherished time to spend with family and loved ones. Unfortunately, it is also a time when people tend to eat more high-fat, high-calorie foods than they normally do. Every day can be a challenge when suffering from diabetes, however yomim tovim tend to be even more difficult. If you have diabetes and eat too much of the wrong foods over yom tov, your blood glucose level might rise higher than the target range. Avoiding seudos may not be an option, but some careful thought and planning can go a long way to help you manage your blood glucose and still have a good time. Remember yom tov does not have to disrupt your diabetes control. With a little preparation, you’ll be ready to face yom tov head-on and still enjoy it. Let’s start from the very beginning. The first meal of yom tov usually starts very late. By the time the men come home from shul and everybody moves to the sukkah, the meal is much later than from what you are probably used to eating. The yom tov day meals are also at a tricky time. Skipping breakfast is a common phenomenon on Shabbos and yom tov in anticipation of the big lunch meal. However, for a diabetic, skipping breakfast and jumping straight to a large lunch can cause irregularities in glucose control. Plan in advance for how you will handle making changes if your meal does not line up with your regular meal

schedule. I suggest pre-gaming before the night meals and eating a regular breakfast. Start your day with a healthy breakfast to help manage your weight and blood glucose levels. Include whole grains, fruit, low-fat dairy, and protein such as eggs or peanut butter. Additionally, if skipping your regular meal in order to eat together with everyone else and you normally take insulina hormone that helps the body use glucose for energy. The beta cells of the pancreas make insulin. When the body cannot make enough insulin, it is taken by injection or through use of an insulin pump. injections or a pill that lowers blood glucoseThe food you eat gets digested and broken down into a sugar your body’s cells can use. This is glucose, one of the simplest forms of sugar.X, you may need to have a snack at your normal mealtime to prevent a low blood glucosethe main sugar found in the blood and the body’s main source of energy. Also called blood sugar. reaction. Aside from meal planning, overeating on yom tov is inevitable. The best way to compensate for eating a little more than usual is to be active. Plan physical activity into your day. Having an hour of physical activity will make you feel energized and burn off calories you will be feasting on later. You can take a walk in the afternoon after the meals, briskly walk to shul, or play sports with the kids in the afternoons to help burn off the unwanted calories.

WHAT SHOULD A DIABETIC EAT OVER YOM TOV? Eating over yom tov should be no different from the way you eat every day. Hosting meals puts you at an advantage because you can prepare your meals according to your usual diet. If joining a meal as a guest, bring your own food if necessary or ask your host to prepare food appropriate for your diet. Most foods can be lightened up. Kindly ask your host to recreate a traditional recipe to fit into your eating plan while still preserving the goodness that makes it so delicious. That kugel with fried onions is just as tasty, or even better, with roasted caramelized onions instead. If unable to make changes to the meal, be sure to choose the food you put on your plate wisely. Choose vegetables and fruits that have a variety of colors. These foods are high in fiber and help keep your blood glucose under control. Include nonstarchy vegetables such as spinach, carrots, broccoli, lettuce, and cauliflower into your meals. Eat whole grains such as whole wheat pasta, brown rice, and whole grain bread. Choose a variety of protein foods. Include fish, lean meat, chicken, turkey, beans and lentils, peas, and soy products. Avoid the foods high in fat and obviously high in sugar. Most dishes prepared with white flour can be replaced with whole wheat.

COULD A DIABETIC DRINK ON YOM TOV? AND IF SO, WHEN? Aside from big meals, yom tov tends to go hand in hand with alcohol. Drink only when blood-glucose levels are under control. Drink alcohol with a snack or meal. Test your blood glucose to help you determine the effects of the drink. Remember, yom tov is about spending time with loved ones and remembering the sacred day. Focus on the fun, not the feast. Spend more time in conversation and enjoying the special days than worrying about what’s on your plate. I wish you and your families a chag kasher v’sameach!

Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN, is a Master’s level Registered Dietitian and Certified Dietitian-Nutritionist. She graduated CUNY Brooklyn College receiving a Bachelor’s in Science and Master’s degree in Nutrition and Food Sciences. Her Dietetic Internship was completed under Brooklyn College primarily in Ditmas Park Care Center and Boro Park Center where she developed clinical and education skills to treat patients with comprehensive nutrition care. She is currently a dietitian at Boro Park Center and a private nutrition consultant. She can be reached at Cindy


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How to Evaluate a Business A Guide for Buyers and Sellers By Chaim Homnick


or every Silicon Valley tech startup like WhatsApp that is sold for $19 billion (with only $10 million in sales revenue that year!), there are a thousand small businesses sold for $190,000 or even $19,000. Evaluating a business or a company is complicated, and oftentimes buyers and sellers find themselves hopelessly deadlocked over wildly disparate evaluations. Some sellers are too sentimental and overvalue their business based upon personal attachment while others aggressively project the company’s potential and stubbornly hold out for a sale price that is unrealistic based upon current revenue. Whether someone is looking to sell their family restaurant, a thriving ecommerce website, or a side-gig jewelry store that they run out of their living room, the principles are similar, albeit often misapplied by each side. These same principles are important when seeking an outside investment for a lesser amount of equity as well. This column is by no means authoritative and every case is unique, but the goal is to provide a rough outline of the process and some examples to help both buyers and sellers determine how to value a business so the negotiations start in the same ballpark and a deal is more likely to be made.

THE BASICS Evaluating a business sounds like it should be a simple process with some standard, universally-accepted calculations. However, even if you brought in several unbiased experts to evaluate a business, chances are they will also end up with different results as there are a plethora of variables and subjective factors involved in the process of ascertaining the value of a company. As a starting point, there are two major ways to calculate the price of a small business. One is the company’s ability to generate sales, cash flow and/or profits. The second method is to value the company based on its assets. The method utilized will depend on the size of the company, its risk profile, the industry it is in, and a slew of other particulars. Most basic asset evaluation formulas go something like this: 1. Add up the value of all the assets such as cash, stock, facility and equipment and receivables. 2. Add up liabilities, such as any bank debts, company debts and payments due. 3. Subtract the liabilities from the

assets to get the net asset value. The three steps above determine the asset value of a company which is most relevant for companies that are at risk of going out of business, that have more significant assets than sales, or that must be sold quickly. The purpose of calculating the assets helps establish a baseline value for what the company is worth on paper and protects a buyer or investor by evaluating it at its current asset worth if the company were dissolved. The next stage is where the majority of issues and discrepancies in perspective arise. Businesses with strong sales or profits or upside will have their values determined by more complex metrics including potential ROI (return on investment), positive cash flow, multiples based on EBIT (Earnings Before Interest and Taxes), and more.

CAPITALIZED FUTURE EARNINGS This is one of the most common vehicles for calculating a business’s value. It involves working out the net profits of the previous two or three years, comparing it to other businesses in the industry (or other investment opportunities), determining the investor’s desired ROI (the higher the risk, the higher the requisite return), and then determining a purchase price that is projected to earn the investor their desired return. This is similar to the approach many investors take in all their investments from real estate to stocks to hard money loans. Weigh the risk, establish the desired ROI, and invest accordingly.

EARNINGS MULTIPLES Every potential seller of a business or business owner seeking an investment loves the idea of multiples. In fact, many businesses do sell for anywhere between 2 a 6 times the company’s earnings. This is where the issues arise. A buyer might want to pay 2X earnings and start seeing a return relatively quickly while a seller wants to cash out and receive 4X or 5X or 6X earnings even if it isn’t realistic. However, using a multiple on earnings depends on the exact type of business, the predictability of sales from year to year, and many other factors. Generally, the standard industry multiplier is the starting point and is then adjusted based on the specifics of the business. Businesses that make millions can have high multiples while oftentimes smaller businesses with less revenue and less upside will have smaller multiples.

Consider the following examples. A local clothing store that steadily makes $75,000 per year will likely have a relatively low multiple because of the limited upside and the fact that an investor doesn’t want to spend years earning back their initial investment; a local clothing store has limited upside because it isn’t suddenly going to earn millions. Meanwhile, a company with rapid growth and diversified accounts (thus less risk) may command a far greater multiple, especially if it has a high ceiling on the growth it can achieve.

POTENTIAL VS. RISK Silicon Valley is littered with the ghosts of failed startups and the venture capitalists who poured millions into them hoping for the next Uber., Guvera, and Beepi are just a few examples of companies that were pre-revenue or overvalued based on upside yet raised over $100 million in funding before ultimately closing up shop. A pre-revenue business or a cash flow positive business with risky upside or a company that has a large chunk of their business coming from one account has a high risk profile. The major venture capitalists are willing to throw money at these companies in the hopes of finding the next Snapchat, but for an average investor or buyer, a small business with a lot of associated risk is going to have its value downgraded accordingly. Meanwhile, a stable business with steady and diversified revenue streams can be easier to project but it may also lack the high-risk/high-reward profile that some investors seek. Know what your business is and understand how it is going to appear to a potential buyer or investor.

FINANCIAL RECORD-KEEPING While it sounds obvious, professional record-keeping is crucial! If your company lacks clean financials and money flies in and out of accounts without proper oversight and accounting practices, it will make selling your business difficult. Telling a potential buyer or investor that your business made “around $50,000 plus two yeshiva tuitions and one wedding” doesn’t inspire confidence in the reliability of your balance sheet. Many people view their small business as a personal ATM and the IRS as an unfortunate nuisance. That may seem like a smart, easy way to operate your business, but it makes selling the business or taking on an investment far more difficult. So know your numbers and have sound financials!

OPERATOR FEE Consider Dan, a hardworking pizza shop owner. His store does well and he takes home $100,000 a year in salary. To Dan, his business earns $100,000 per year. To an investor, Dan’s pizza store earns far less. An investor or buyer realizes that it costs (hypothetically) $65,000 annually to hire an operator to take on Dan’s role in running the pizza store. Dan viewed his salary and extras as the business’s net profits when in reality the business truly nets $35,000 each year after accounting for the industry-standard salary. Thus many small businesses are not nearly as profitable as their owners believe and this is a critical factor in determining the value of the company.

INTANGIBLES There are other factors that may be relevant to the business’s evaluation or add intangible value to the company. A company may have any of the following that can add value to the business: patents, proprietary technology or products, unique licensing deals, big-box retailer accounts, other partnerships or deals.


ltimately, business evaluations are in the eyes of the beholder. Sellers want the deal to fund their next stage in life while buyers want to haggle the best possible price for their new acquisition. The same thing is true of businesses looking for a cash infusion via a partial investment. Either way, the above information should help both sides come to the table with a better understanding of the mechanisms behind evaluating a business. Then it is up to them: Deal or no deal?

Chaim Homnick grew up in South Florida and now resides in Inwood, New York with his wife and 3 daughters. He is the College Advisor at Mesivta Ateres Yaakov of Lawrence and also teaches 5 periods of Honors/AP English Literature. Chaim is the owner of Five Towns Tutoring ( He scored in the 99th percentile on the SAT and the LSAT and tutors both extensively. He has a Masters Degree in Educational Leadership and Administration and an MBA. He was the founder of Machane Miami and now owns a day camp in the Five Towns in New York. For questions, comments, or previous articles, he can be reached directly at chomnick@gmail. com.

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Kosher Creatures By Jon Kranz


amburgers can be kosher but ham cannot. Butter can be kosher but butterflies cannot. Jelly and fish can be kosher but jellyfish cannot. Jewfish are kosher but so are hogfish, which is very confusing. Even more confusing is the fact that there are many Jewish lawyers but lawyer fish (a freshwater cod) is not kosher. Jewish mothers love to badger their children while they sit there and stew, but guess what is not kosher? Badger stew. Thus, the name alone does not tell you if a particular creature is or is not kosher. If you want to understand which critters are kosher, you obviously have to start with the Torah. It tells us that kosher land animals are those that have split hooves and chew their cud. “Chewing your cud” means to chew for a second time parts of food regurgitated from the stomach. (Yes, this sounds more like a David Blaine magic trick.) Some scholars have pointed out, however, that split hooves and chewing cud have deeper significance. They note that a cow’s split hooves symbolize a person’s ability to split their selfish desires from their selfless pursuits, whereas chewing cud symbolizes self-examination and reflection. These are important spiritual concepts but a novice may not appreciate the deeper meaning. So, if you’re out on a first date, do not mention that, spiritually speaking, you have split hooves and chew your cud. Trust me, it will not be taken the right way, and your date, like your spiritual hooves, will split.

The Torah also tells us that certain land animals, no matter what, are not kosher, including the pig. Nowadays, however, there exists a kosher fake bacon product called “facon” which apparently is a decent facsimile of the real thing. But think about how incredibly insulting it must be to pigs when they see kosher Jews eating facon. It’s like hearing someone decline your engagement proposal and then watching them get married to your doppelganger. Don’t

cards does not necessarily mean a short Shabbat sermon. A musician with the last name Springsteen is not necessarily Jewish and neither is a woman named Whoopi with the last name of Goldberg. Unlike land animals and fish, the Torah does not provide an express litmus test for kosher birds. Instead, it lists non-kosher birds including twenty different species. Based on this list, rabbinic authorities have deduced some telltale signs for iden-

But if Jews do not want to eat dove, it’s no big deal. As they say: no harm, no “fowl.”

pigs suffer enough humiliation when they hear people exchange insults like “you eat like a pig,” “you’re as messy as a pig” and “this place is a pigsty”? The Torah also tells us that sea creatures are kosher if they have fins and scales. According to some rabbinic authorities, any fish that has scales also has fins and therefore (barring special circumstances) if a fish has scales, it should be considered kosher. (see, e.g., Talmud, Niddah, 51b) The same type of deductive reasoning, however, does not apply to other aspects of Jewish life. A schlemiel is not necessarily a schlimazel. A rabbi with only a few index

tifying kosher birds. Kosher birds include certain species of chicken, duck, geese, turkey and, believe it or not, dove. Of course, I’ve never seen anyone make dove schnitzel. (I’ve also never seen anyone make a cholent popsicle, but a man can dream!) Speaking of dove schnitzel, I’m guessing that most doves would gladly dive into a deep-fryer just to escape nerdy magicians and their cheesy dove-up-the-sleeve magic tricks. But if Jews do not want to eat dove, it’s no big deal. As they say: no harm, no “fowl.” Some scholars agree that certain species of pigeon are kosher. Notwithstanding, if you are strolling

through your local park, you are unlikely to see a group of chassidim roasting pigeons in the park. Non-kosher birds include, among others, pelicans, ostriches and vultures. This is just one reason your mother never treated your illness with vulture noodle soup. Generally speaking, rodents, reptiles, amphibians and insects are not kosher. So if you eat kosher, do not eat lizard latkes. Come to think of it, even if you do not eat kosher, do not eat lizard latkes. The same goes for cobra kugel, roach rugelach or hamster herring. The Torah, however, actually states that certain winged insects are kosher including red, yellow, white and spotted gray locusts. (Darn it! I hear that blue, green and orange polka-dotted locusts are the most delicious.) Notwithstanding, many rabbinic scholars agree that locusts should not be consumed. For obvious reasons, you also should avoid locust-flavored breath mints. Bottom line: Some creatures are kosher and some are not and there is way more to keeping kosher than just identifying permitted animals. So, if you are unsure whether a particular animal is kosher, seek rabbinic guidance before consumption, unless you are eating a (kosher certified) animal cracker. Jon Kranz is an attorney living in Englewood, New Jersey. Send any comments, questions or insults to jkranz285@



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Dating Dialogue

What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

I’m engaged to Mendy and we plan on getting married after the yom tovim. Mendy is a perfectionist. I used to think I was also, but nothing compared to hm. When he walks out of his house, everything about him is so perfect he could be on the cover of a fashion magazine. He is also a perfectionist about his entire life. He’s very structured about his day and what he needs to accomplish every hour and, it seems, even every minute. I am also very organized and never start off my day without a list of what I need to do. And I can’t even remember the last time I got into bed at night that everything on my list wasn’t successfully crossed off. Though Mendy and I are on the same page in many aspects of our lives, I think what drew both of us to each other is this need for order and planning. I have a mother who is anything but… and Mendy’s mother is also not the most organized person in the world. But now that we’re engaged, I’m seeing a downside to Mendy’s need for perfection. I guess I sort of sensed it when we were dating, but not the way I’m seeing it now. He is very, very anxious. Almost to the point where he seems obsessive about what he – and now what I – need to accomplish. For instance, I have more free time on my hands than he does. He gave me a list of real estate brokers to contact last week in order to check out apartments for us. He gave me the list on Monday, and on Tuesday he was already asking me about how many brokers I spoke to, how many apartments I saw, what were the pros and cons to each one, and though I felt I was on top of the situation and ran around and saw quite a few potential places to rent, he couldn’t stop asking me why I never got around to meeting up with one of the brokers on his list that I hadn’t had time for. I thought I had done a great job and was waiting for Mendy to tell me so and, instead, he made me feel as though I slacked off and wasn’t taking “apartment hunting” seriously enough. He wasn’t mean to me, and he isn’t mean. It’s just that he seems to get so frustrated and maybe even a little frightened, when things don’t play out exactly the way he expects them to. I’m seeing that he worries tremendously about the big things and the little things equally. Even though I would think that most details surrounding a wedding is usually handled by the kallah and her family,

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he needs to know everything, from the color of the flowers to the tablecloths. I don’t understand why he cares and why he is so invested in these details. The worst part is that he’s starting to have an opinion and share it regarding how I look. Maybe he always had on opinion and never said anything, but now he seems comfortable enough to share his opinions. Not to sound conceited, but I believe I always look and dress appropriately and well. Recently, we were meeting up with an old friend of his and his wife for dinner and Mendy actually told me which dress to wear and that I should wear my hair down rather than in a ponytail, which I often do. He didn’t say it in a mean or bossy way, but in a matter-of-fact, “I think you would look great if…” sort of way. But still … I’m really starting to resent his micromanaging every little detail of his life and mine. He thinks he can leave nothing to chance. He never acts disrespectful, but I see that his need for perfection takes over and he gets frustrated if everything around him isn’t just so. Aside from this craziness, Mendy is a really nice, kind, loving, smart, successful guy. But I’m wondering whether I’m about to walk into a life that is totally insane! Is this a great, big red flag being waved in front of me that I should take more seriously?

The Panel The Rebbetzin Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, M.S. here are several red flags here, not just one. And you are wise to have noticed the perfectionism, control, insecurity, unrealistic expectations, anxiety and frustrations Mendy is exhibiting. Together, these are probably indicators of some mental health issues. In addition, ask yourself: Will these qualities be good for me? Will he be an emotionally supportive spouse? Will he be respectful of me and my person? Obviously, the answer is no. Get out and get help to process the breakup. You seem perceptive and mature. Aim to acquire the skills to notice and clarity qualities in a potential mate early on. But do not confuse my suggestion of getting help with a critique of you. Move on and thank G-d you saw these things early on and did not fall into marriage with an emotionally unstable and potentially abusive person.


The Mother Sarah Schwartz Schreiber, P.A.


old the wedding! Imagine a linear scale, a

ruler of sorts. At one end you have the word “tidy”; a little bit down the scale, “organized”; still further, you read, “perfectionist.” At the far end of this ruler: “obsessive-compulsive disorder.” Mental illness is a continuum. We all have our personality quirks, our meshugaasim. Some women can’t leave the house if there’s a dish in the sink; others can’t leave the house without checking the lock twenty times. How can you tell if Mendy’s perfectionism is veering towards the diagnosable (in psychological terms, DSM V)? It has to do with his ability to function both personally and socially. If I read between the lines, Mendy’s once-admirable organizational skills are beginning to trespass through your comfort zone. Maybe it’s the anxiety over getting married; maybe the dark side of his personality surfaces as he gets more comfortable with you. Whatever the triggers, any trace of an obsessive-compulsive character (i.e., Mendy’s micro-management) necessitates a visit to a mental health professional. To clarify: do not consider marriage to Mendy unless he acknowledges he’s become a “control freak”; do not commit to him unless he undertakes therapy that will give him the tools to function as a more balanced, even-keeled husband who will love you, respect you, and give you your space.

Another Shadchan Tzipporah Feldman any people go with the obvious when it comes to putting two people together for a date. He’s serious and studious, let’s find a serious, studious young woman. He loves to stay home all the time, let’s look for another homebody. He’s super-organized and meticulous about every detail of his life, let’s make sure she is the same. My feeling is that many people do better when there is a balance, so that any extreme can be tempered. And when two people find a middle ground, the serious guy sees what it’s like to actually laugh a little and lighten up, the homebody discovers that it’s nice to spend a day at the park, and the uptight, organized person learns that maybe life will go on if everything isn’t necessarily checked off their lists. Seems like you and Mendy were suggested for one another because you had so much in common. But too much of a good thing is usually not a good thing. My guess is that during your dating, you both admired and encouraged one another’s behavior. But now that you’re dealing with real life issues, you’re seeing that it’s become extreme. If you were still at the dating stage, I might suggest you walk away, because it’s a lot for anyone to man-


Is that the role you want to take on for the rest of your life? The obedient wife who doesn’t speak up for herself? age. But it sounds like the hall is booked and the flowers are chosen. Not only that, but you mentioned quite a few wonderful qualities he brings to the table. This doesn’t mean that you still can’t break off the engagement, but before doing something so drastic and final, maybe take on some new behaviors of your own and see how that shakes up the dynamic between the two of you. Don’t go along with his demands and see whether he can handle that. His reactions will be very telling. If he is able to hear a new idea and respect a new approach to handling responsibilities, you have what to work with. If not – you may have to call it quits.

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his shidduch is getting messy. When “organized” shifts into


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“micro-managing,” you have to ask yourself whether this is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. I understand why he was so attractive to you early on. Being brought up by a mother who didn’t have it together can leave some scars, and the Mendys of the world certainly seem appealing straight out of the gate. But now, it seems, his needs are escalating. What I’m wondering is whether you ever say “no” to him and, if you

do, how that works out. For instance, when he suggested which dress you should wear to dinner, could you have said, “That’s an interesting idea, but I decided to wear the blue dress instead,” and show up in the blue dress with your hair in a ponytail? Could he handle that? Can he deal with Plan A falling flat and being O.K. with Plan B? That’s what you need to identify. Since you mention that he is generally a good guy, maybe he just

Pulling It All Together The Navidaters Dating and Relationship Coaches and Therapists


endy is exhibiting some unsavory behaviors that are making you very u n c o m f o r t a b l e , and for good reason. You have great intuition! Let’s get you and Mendy into a therapist’s office to discuss his new behaviors together. I don’t like some of the things he has been saying to you; in particular telling you how to wear your hair and nitpicking about the real estate brokers. He is showing signs that he is not easy to please and perhaps potentially controlling. I understand the time-sensitive nature of your email, as your wedding is around the corner, but you have no choice but to pump the brakes and take as much time as you need in therapy to figure this out – either as a couple or by yourself. You can suggest going for some premarital counseling to work out some issues with an objective party and learn about healthy communication and compromise. I personally think couples therapy is the route for you at this point in time. Yes, Mendy potentially needs professional help, however, being that you are marry-

ing Mendy, you need information…now. You don’t have the luxury of Mendy simply beginning therapy now on his own. You cannot speak to Mendy’s therapist unless Mendy gives permission, which he may or may not do. We cannot take any chances. Now, is this pre-wedding jitters or is this how Mendy behaves when he is stressed? Or, even worse, is this how Mendy behaves when he begins to feel comfortable? You need some insight into Mendy’s behavior. If you haven’t done so already, you must express your concerns to Mendy. The way Mendy reacts to your concerns about his behaviors will be very telling. Look out for the following (if done in therapy, the therapist will be on the lookout for both of your behaviors and will reflect them back to the both of you and help you have a conversation about it): His facial expression and body language. Does he stay engaged with you, keeping eye contact? Is

needs to be challenged and understand that it’s O.K. to not get what he wants. This could be a very helpful and healthy way for him to grow into a more successful individual – in terms of life skills. That’s what husband and wives often do for one another. Help each other soften and grow. But now is the time to explore whether or not he is even open for growth. Before the wedding. So get to it – the clock is ticking!

he leaning in toward you? Does he have a look of concern on his face, sadness or remorse for the way he has made you feel? That’s what we want to see. Or, does he turn away from you and disengage? Does he become quiet as a mouse, not participating in the conversation? Does he get in your face? His words. Does he express an awareness of his issue (anxiety, OCD, pre-wedding jitters, etc.?) Does he apologize? Or does he lack insight into his actions? Does he downplay? Does he externalize and blame you? Does he deny what he has been doing and make you feel like you’re crazy for even having these thoughts? If he has any of these negative reactions, that would be a serious red flag. I would suggest you stare at that red flag. It’s waving. It’s there. Even if it tells you it isn’t. It will be waving the day you get married. You don’t mention anything about your reactions to Mendy’s new behavior. What did you say when Mendy suggested you wear your hair down? How did you respond when Mendy was frustrated that you didn’t see more brokers? If you’ve been quiet, you need to look at that. Is that the role you want to take on for the rest of your life? The obedient wife who doesn’t speak up for herself? If

Too much of a good thing is usually not a good thing.

you’ve been quiet and haven’t told him how this makes you feel, now is the time. These dynamics form very early on in relationships, and once formed they are difficult to break. We don’t want Mendy to be the nitpicking, controlling husband and we certainly don’t want you to be the obedient, back-bending wife making excuses for her husband’s bad behavior (“He’s really a nice guy.” “He had a rough day.” “He’s just stressed.” “I know he doesn’t mean it.”). Everyone takes a risk when they get married. None of us know the future or the changes our spouse will make along the way. However, when the decision to marry itself is what feels risky, yes, indeed, that is a red flag. Make sure you are happy; validated, cared for, thought of, admired and respected…with your hair down and with your hair in a ponytail. All the best, Jennifer Mann, LCSW Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW are licensed, clinical psychotherapists and dating and relationship coaches working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. To set up an appointment, please call 516.224.7779. Press 1 for Esther, 2 for Jennifer. To learn more about their services, please visit If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email thenavidaters@ You can follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram for dating and relationship advice.

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Political Crossfire

U.S. Must Think Outside the Box on North Korea By David Ignatius


he Trump administration often talks about North Korea policy as if it’s an on-off switch. President Trump thundered Tuesday that the U.S. will “totally destroy” North Korea to defend itself and its allies. But Defense Secretary James Mattis blandly insisted the next day that it’s “still a diplomatically led effort.” Somewhere in this maze of public statements – including Thursday’s announcement of new economic sanctions on North Korea – there’s a nuanced American policy. But the seeming binary options are weirdly reminiscent of the nuclear standoff of the Cold War, when the only choices seemed to be a conflict with massive loss of life – or surrender to the adversary’s demands. To escape this straitjacket, strategists in the 1970s and ‘80s began to devise new conventional and nuclear weapons, and ultimately, missile defenses. A similar creative re-examination is needed now. We can always hope that the Trump administration’s strategy will work: Maybe Trump’s threat to Pyongyang of “fire and fury” will convince China to halt oil deliveries; perhaps the North Koreans will enter negotiations; maybe an interim peace agreement will stabilize the situation so “final status” talks begin about eventual de-nuclearization of the Korean Peninsula and withdrawal of American troops. That’s the best outcome, certainly. But to be prudent, U.S. officials

and their allies should assume it won’t work. They need to be planning other options, with a coldblooded rationality that is the opposite of schoolboy taunts about “Rocket Man.” U.S. officials need, first, to decide how serious a threat North Korea truly poses to America. If major cities are at risk, and Kim Jong Un’s

pressure” against “an unprecedented, grave and imminent threat from North Korea.” Suppose you take a less drastic view of Kim and conclude that the real target of his antics is China. He clearly fears Beijing’s influence: He brutally murdered his uncle and half-brother, both of whom were said to be close to China. His missile and

This is a nightmare scenario, but if you believe Kim is truly a nightmare leader, then you must think about the unthinkable.

erratic behavior can’t be deterred, then perhaps the U.S. should indeed be planning to de-nuclearize North Korea by force. If the U.S. adopted this maximalist strategy, it would begin a buildup of forces that, by most estimates, would take at least two months. Japan and South Korea would begin intensive civil-defense programs to protect their populations and minimize civilian casualties. This is a nightmare scenario, but if you believe Kim is truly a nightmare leader, then you must think about the unthinkable. Japanese Prime Minister Shinzo Abe seems to be doing just that. His op-ed in The New York Times Monday was more polite than Trump’s bombast, but no less firm. He urged “concerted

nuclear tests defy Trump, but even more the repeated warnings he has received, and ignored, from President Xi Jinping. If we see Kim as a regional threat, rather than a global one, then perhaps the right response is an intelligence strategy that begins with the reality of his split with China – and takes off from there. Back in 2003, China suspended oil deliveries for several days (blaming the problem on a supposed pipeline malfunction) and North Korea quickly began negotiations. In the deniable realm of intelligence operations, it’s always possible that a pipeline could “malfunction” again, or that other crippling difficulties could arise for Pyongyang and its mercurial leader. Suppose, instead, that the U.S. and

its allies decide that North Korea isn’t worth the risks of either military or covert action. What then? To be cynically honest, we must recognize that sometimes it’s less costly to bribe an adversary than to go to war. What blandishments would get Kim to agree to halt his testing program? Is there a “freeze” option, as suggested by Robert Einhorn of the Brookings Institution, that would stop escalation, prevent proliferation and stabilize the situation – but leave de-nuclearization for the distant future? Finally, are there defensive measures that can sharply reduce the North Korean threat? For the past decade military planners have been touting a “boost-phase” intercept, which could destroy North Korean missiles in the first several minutes after launch. The Pentagon has started a new program to build a lightweight, powerful laser carried on big, high-altitude drones that could loiter outside North Korean airspace. The lasers won’t be ready until 2023, at the earliest. But how about a simpler version that would shoot fast interceptor missiles from existing drones? Some Pentagon planners say such a system could be deployed soon. President Kennedy famously solved the Cuban missile crisis in 1962 by thinking outside the box. Similar creative thinking is badly needed now on North Korea. (c) 2017, Washington Post Writers Group



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Notable Quotes “Say What?!”

No, I wouldn’t rule it out - Hillary Clinton, who relentlessly mocked candidate Donald Trump when he refused to state during a debate whether he would accept the result of the 2016 elections, when asked on NPR last week whether she would consider challenging the legitimacy of the 2016 elections once more information about “Russian interference” comes out

I think no one, including me, is saying we will contest the election. - Ibid., the next day, after, perhaps, realizing the irony of her prior comments

Hopefully he hasn’t ordered the killing of people and journalists and the like.

- Ibid., in an interview with Charlie Rose, talking about President Trump and comparing him to Putin

Apple CEO Tim Cook is claiming that the $1,000 iPhone X is a good value. Cook said, “It’s the last phone you’ll ever need for the next eight months.” - Conan O’Brien

There’s no question that raising minimum wage is a faster way to get people more money very quickly. I think … the result of that, will be that quite quickly, the prices in restaurants who … are supported and basically run by people who [make] minimum wage will raise their prices. It’s not without cost that we [raise wages]. That’s all I’m saying.

He was under pressure from Rudy Giuliani. - Hillary Clinton’s new theory, disclosed in her interview with Charlie Rose, as to why then-FBI Director James Comey reopened the investigation into her emails several days before the election

We had leaders who wanted to give people a safe space to loot and to burn. Now in Missouri if you loot the only safe space you’re going to have is in a jail cell. If you’re going to riot we’re going to cuff you. Violence and vandalism is not protest. It is a crime. - Missouri Gov. Eric Greitens warning demonstrators in St. Louis not to riot and vandalize following a judge’s decision on Friday to acquit a former police officer for the killing of a black man

- Celebrity chef Mario Batali at a conference, talking about the push to raise minimum wage for restaurant workers


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We had a bunch of big football matchups yesterday. You had the Eagles against the Giants, you had the Patriots play against the Texans, and you had the president against everyone. – Jimmy Fallon

This is our democracy. We did not vote for you or for any politician. We don’t owe you nothing. This is what democracy looks like. - What approximately 40 protestors who identified themselves as “undocumented youth” chanted at House Minority Leader Nancy Pelosi (D-CA) at a town hall in which they demanded quicker actions on “amnesty”

Just stop it! Just stop it now! Just stop it now! Just stop it now! Stop it! - Ms. Pelosi attempting to respond to the protestors, before abruptly leaving the town hall meeting

I was talking to a president of an African country yesterday and he actually cited Rocket Man back to me… Look, this is a way of getting people to talk about him but every other international community now is referring to him as Rocket Man. - UN Ambassador Nikki Haley when asked on ABC about President Trump referring to Kim Jung Un as “Rocket Man”

President Trump is using his 2020 campaign fund to pay his legal fees, which experts say is “wrong but not illegal.” Coincidentally, “Wrong But Not Illegal” is also Trump’s 2020 campaign slogan.

[Shorting] America has been a loser’s game. I predict to you it will continue to be a loser’s game. - Warren Buffett at a Forbes magazine party last week, predicting that the Dow will hit 1 million points within 100 years

I’m cleaning out the White House. We’re going to sanitize the White House. We’re not going to take what is happening in this country. Haven’t you taken enough? - Rep. Maxime Waters (D-CA) while eulogizing Dick Gregory at his funeral

The answer is yes. - Sen. Bernie Sanders’ response when asked last week whether he would “consider voting to reduce U.S. aid to Israel or U.S. arms sales to the Israeli military,” in an interview with The Interceptor

I waited until the national anthem ended, I took off my shirt, threw my Bills hat on the ground, walked out. - Erich Nikischer, who was a stadium worker for the Buffalo Bills for 30 years, telling WGRZ-TV that he quit right after he saw Bills players kneeling during the anthem as a form of protest

– Conan O’Brien


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I arrived at a self-diagnosis: I was suffering from Trump Hypertensive Unexplained Disorder, or THUD. For almost five decades, I had been the picture of health, but eight months into Trump’s presidency, I was suddenly ailing. Trump is the only variable, I told my doctor. A teacher in South Carolina has been suspended after she gave her 5th grade class a homework assignment asking them to justify the KKK’s treatment of African-Americans. Also suspended — the kid who got an A. – Seth Myers

I will stand here in the well of the Congress, and I will call for the impeachment of the president of the United States of America. - Rep. Al Green (D-TX) calling for President Trump’s impeachment over his comments that NFL players should show respect for the national anthem and not kneel while it is being played

How can one person be on the wrong side of everything in history? - Trevor Noah, on “The Daily Show” positing that President Trump is wrong about everything in the world. Period.

– Dana Milbank, Washington Post, in a column titled, “Trump is Killing Me, Really,” in which he talks about suddenly having all sorts of medical ailments that he never had in the past

I know THUD is a real condition because I have a scientifically valid sample to prove it. I told my editor about my new medical state, and he reported that he, too, has been newly warned by his doctor that his blood pressure has become borderline, and things could go either way. - Ibid

Last night Kim Jong Un released a rare statement attacking President Trump and referred to him as a dotard. Then Trump said, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words I don’t know will never hurt me.” - Jimmy Fallon

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