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It is fitting that right after Pesach, the Holiday of Freedom, is completed, we recognize and remember the atrocities of the Holocaust. As Jews, today more than ever, we are far from feeling free from Anti- Semitism. Acknowledging Yom HaShoah and and subsequently Yom Hazikaron, enables us, our families, and the next generation to continue the promise to Never Forget all the holy, innocent souls that have perished. It has been 73 years since the Allies liberated the camps, 73 years since the horror of bodies piled high, 73 years since the gas chambers filled with men, women and children. Today, there are less than 100,000 Holocaust survivors still alive, and close to 5,000 are living in Florida alone. Like we said over Pesach in the Hagaddah so recently, it’s not enough to just remember, we must relive the experiences as if they are happening today, similar to how our parents, grandparents, and great-grandparents lived it. We have to remember what it was like to properly ensure it will never happen again. We must remember how the Nazis tried to strip us of our humanity. And when we hear about the horrible things they did, we have to remember that each person who was humiliated is not just a piece of history. Each person who survived and each person who perished is a person who had a full life until the Nazis took them, put numbers on their arms, and took away their individuality and humanity. And now, 73 years later, we need to remember the Six Million who were murdered and the others who survived, and we need to give them their humanity back. We need to

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Japan Activates First Marine Unit in Over 70 Years

Japan recently activated their marine unit for the first time since World War II. The country is seeking to train for the possibility of a Chinese attack on Japanese islands along the edge of the East China Sea. A ceremony was held on the island of Kyushu last week, in which 1,500 members of the Amphibious Rapid Deployment Brigade (ARDB) wore camouflage and conducted a 20-minute mock exercise. The public training showed how Japan might recapture a remote island from invaders. “Given the increasingly difficult defense and security situation surrounding Japan, defense of our islands has become a critical mandate,” said Tomohiro Yamamoto, vice defense minister. The reinstatement of a marine brigade is very controversial, as Japan renounced the right to wage war in its post-World War II constitution. The brigade is the latest in Japan’s growing marine force which includes helicopter carriers, amphibious ships, Osprey tilt-rotor troop carriers and amphibious assault vehicles. The arsenal is meant to deter China from pushing further into the Western Pacific, however, China spent more than three times as much as Japan in defense last year.    

Turkey, Russia, and Iran Discuss Syria High-level talks were held between the leaders of Russia, Iran, and Turkey this week focused on ending the Syrian war. The three presidents — Recep Tayyip Erdogan of Turkey, Iran’s Hassan Rouhani, and Russia’s Vladimir Putin — gathered in the Turkish capital, Ankara, where they pledged to cooperate on reconstruction and aid. Noticeably missing was President Donald Trump, whose absence highlights how alienated the United States has become from certain international conflicts.

All three leaders pledged to cooperate on reconstruction and aid in Syria after the conflict has subsided. They also promised to protect Syria’s “territorial integrity,” although their countries will maintain a military presence in the country. The leaders also called on the international community to help support the war-torn country. As of last week, President Trump had instructed military officials to prepare for a withdrawal from Syria. There has been no official timetable for the move, but the president has said that U.S. troops will continue to train local forces that are protecting the areas that have been freed from the Islamic State. If a withdrawal is implemented, the power vacuum would be left in parts of Syria, which may accelerate the already rapid scramble for control of the country. Iran and Russia may also both become empowered should American forces leave. Since the conflict in Syria started over seven years ago, nearly 500,000 Syrians have been killed and more than 11 million have been displaced.

Former S Korean Pres Found Guilty

A South Korean court found former President Park Geun-hye guilty on multiple counts of abuse of power, bribery and coercion and sentenced her to 24 years in prison last week. Park’s conviction brings to close a corruption scandal which gripped South Korea, upending the country’s politics and implicating some of the country’s most powerful figures. “The president abused the power which was given to her by the citizens,” the judge said, adding a tough sentence was needed to send a firm message to the country’s future leaders. Prosecutors had asked for Park to receive a 30 year sentence. Park, 66, was found guilty of 16 of the 18 charges she faced, related to a massive influence-peddling case that removed her from office last year. She was also fined $17 million. The former president was not in the Seoul Central District Court to hear the verdict. Park and her lawyers refused to participate after the court decided to live broadcast the judgment, the first time this

has happened in South Korea, after a law was passed last year to enable it. Park lawyer’s are expected to appeal her sentence. Outside the court, hundreds of supporters of Park had gathered to watch the verdict on a large screen, waving Korean and US flags and calling for the former president’s release. Older, conservative South Koreans, who remembered the dictatorship of Park’s father fondly as a period of strength for the country, were her electoral base and a common sight throughout the impeachment process. Park was South Korea’s first female president and the daughter of former dictator Park Chung-hee. She was arrested in March 2017 shortly after she was stripped of her office by the country’s Constitutional Court, which upheld a parliamentary vote to impeach her. That vote came after millions of South Koreans took to the streets over a period of several months to demand Park’s ouster, after revelations of the alleged massive influence wielded by her adviser and confidant, Choi Soon-sil. In February, Choi was sentenced to 20 years in jail  on 18 charges including abuse of power, coercion, fraud and bribe, and fined $16.6 million. Also implicated in the scandal was Samsung chief Lee Jae-yong. The 49-year-old billionaire was found guilty of bribery and other corruption charges last year and sentenced to five years in prison, but in February a higher court reduced his sentence and suspended it for four years.  

Hungary Reelects Prime Minister

Hungarian Prime Minister Viktor Orban claimed victory Sunday night in the country’s parliamentary election after campaigning on an anti-immigration platform. With 92% of the vote counted, the coalition led by Orban’s ruling party, Fidesz, was projected to win 133 seats out of the 199 seats in Parliament, according to the country’s National Election Office. Orban is the country’s longest-serving leader since the fall of communism in 1989; this will be his fourth term. His party was originally a liberal party which has been transformed to a more right-wing party. The Fidesz-led coalition is in the lead with 48% of the votes. Second place is dominated by the right-wing opposition party, Jobbik. The National Election Office said they currently hold 19.2% of the votes. The party’s waning popularity has prompted the president of the party, Gabor Vona, to resign.

Orban first claimed victory in an address to Fidesz supporters in Budapest. Orban is against the European Commission, the executive arm of the European Union. He has accused the EU of meddling in Hungarian affairs, specifically for trying to impose a quota system that would force Hungary to settle refugees. He is extremely anti-immigration in all forms, and has even had billboards erected across the country to that effect. Ironically, Hungary has the third-lowest level of immigration of the EU’s 28 countries.

Police Foil Plot for Berlin Marathon

This Sunday, Berlin hosted a half-marathon that was luckily carried out without incident thanks to alert authorities. Six people were detained in connection with what police and prosecutors allege was a plan to carry out an attack at the marathon. “There were isolated indications that those arrested, aged between 18 and 21 years, were participating in the preparation of a crime in connection with this event,” prosecutors and police noted in a joint statement. The main suspect was associated with Anis Amri, a Tunisian who killed 12 people and injured dozens more when he drove a truck into a Christmas market in Berlin in December 2016, according to German media. One of the apartments raided in connection with this plot had been searched after the market attack. Die Welt newspaper reported that the main suspect, who was not identified, had prepared two knives to use in the attack. The newspaper also wrote that trained dogs discovered explosives in the basement of on of the raided homes. The main suspect had been under 24/7 surveillance for the last two weeks. Although the raid happened prior to the race, the marathon was heavily policed by an estimated 630 police officers. Erick Kiptanui of Kenya won the race; he clocked in at a sensational course record of 58:42 in the Berlin Half Marathon, the fastest time in the world this year.

Runaway Train in India Hundreds of passengers aboard an India train in the western state of Gujarat had a terrifying experience on Saturday when the train they were riding on went rumbling down a downward track for miles, detached from the engine.

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Videos have been popping on social media showing the train plowing through stations as onlookers and passengers screamed helplessly. Eyewitnesses say that the train rolled with speed for several miles before being brought to an emergency stop by railway staff. Railway workers were only able to stop the train by putting wooden wedges on the tracks.

Initial reports say that the mishap was due to staff negligence. Apparently rail staff forgot to apply the skid-brakes as workers were attaching a new engine to the passenger carriages which allowed the carriages to roll for seven miles. Luckily, personnel noticed immediately and, as the train started rolling away, the control room was able to contact the next two stations to ensure that they were cleared. Railway staff were eventually able to halt the train once it lost velocity as it approached an upward slope. At that point, personnel placed the wedges to bring the train to a complete stop. It is unclear the exact number of passengers were aboard at the time of the incident. Some estimates are claiming up to 1,000 but others are saying that many passenger departed prior to the incident. Despite the panic and chaos, thankfully there were no injuries reported. The East Coast Railway suspended a total of seven railway employees involved, and the investigation by senior officials into the incident continues. Additionally, Indian Railways promised to provide a month-long safety drive to train and educate staff in response to the incident. The Indian Railways system is one of the oldest railways systems in the world. Over the years there has been many safety concerns. Around 30,000 Indians died in railway accidents in 2015, according

to the latest available official data. Last year, Indian Prime Minister Narendra Modi’s government designated  more than $134 billion (8.5 trillion rupees) to upgrade the country’s railways, with $20 billion set aside just to improve safety. 

Chemical Weapons Attack in Syria

A deadly and vicious chemical weapons attack took place in Syria last Saturday. The Syrian-American Medical Society said that more than 500 people were brought to medical centers in Douma, a city near the capital Damascus, with symptoms “indicative of exposure to a chemical agent.” Those symptoms included breathing difficulties, bluish skin, foaming at the mouth, corneal burns and “the emission of chlorine-like odor.” As the area has been blocked off, it is hard to come up with the number of people that have died due to the exposure to the chemical weapons. Estimates being reported by local media is somewhere between 42 and 60 people who have died already, while rescue workers are still trying to gain access to basements where hundreds of families hid to protect themselves from bombings. French representatives at the UN Security Council said poison gas was used on purpose for its ability to seep down into basements where people may have been taking shelter. The U.S., France, and the UK have led international condemnation of the vicious attack, with the Syrian government and its Russian backers denying any responsibility. President Donald Trump promised a “forceful” response to the chemical attack and said that he was considering “a lot of military options.” President Trump

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Kremlin Not Behind Election Hack?

The Russian government may not have been behind the alleged Russian hacking that was attempted to influence the 2016 presidential election. According to a senior Trump administration official, a hack on an Arizona election database during the 2016 U.S. presidential campaign was carried out by suspected criminal actors and not the Russian government. The announcement came following a report on CBS News’ “60 Minutes” segment citing an internal government document stating that Russian hackers successfully infiltrated computer systems associated with at least four U.S. states, including Arizona, leading up to the 2016 election. Documents from the Department of Homeland Security specified that hackers supposedly working for the Kremlin breached systems in Illinois, a county database in Arizona, a Tennessee state website, and an information technology vendor in Florida. However, the cyber-attack on Arizona was not executed by the Russian government, the official said. Russia was accused of hacking by U.S. intelligence agencies last year. Moscow was also blamed for spreading false information and propaganda to disrupt the presidential election and to try to ensure that Donald Trump beat Hillary Clinton. Trump has repeatedly said that there was no collusion between his campaign and Russia, and Moscow has denied interfering with the election in any way.

Deadly Terror Plot Foiled by IDF

A potential missile attack by the Islamic Jihad terrorist group was thwarted in Gaza by Israeli security forces this past week. The ringleader, Amin Sadi Mohammad Jumaa, was arraigned in Beersheba District Court for conspiring to use missiles to attack Israeli naval forces and planning to kidnap IDF soldiers. The plans were only the latest move by the Gaza-based terror group. A terror tunnel they had dug under the border was discovered and destroyed last October, and the group was responsible for firing mortars from Gaza into Israel last November and December. The Shin Bet security agency revealed the terrorist plot during the planned sixweek Gaza protest that is being called the “Great March of Return.” The protest has involved thousands of Palestinians gathering at the border fences between Israel and the Gaza Strip, while some have attempted to break through. Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu noted that the naval plot “proves the true intentions of the terrorist organizations in Gaza, which are trying to disguise their murderous intentions by provocative actions against the security fence. Their sole purpose is to provide a cover under which terrorists can carry out attacks against Israel.” The plan, which Jumaa confessed to, was to use a Gazan fishing boat as a decoy vessel that would travel beyond the allowed nautical range and then have a second boat fire a Cornet ship-to-ship rocket at the Israeli forces that would intervene. Palestinians then planned on boarding the boat from a third vessel and capturing any remaining soldiers. Islamic Jihad, with Jumaa’s help, had been gathering intelligence about the navy off the Gaza coast to prepare for the attack, the Shin Bet said. This was not Jumaa’s first involvement in terrorist-related activity. Six years ago he helped Hamas smuggle 300 kilograms of explosives by boat from Egypt to Gaza. Four years ago he was paid $6,000 to help smuggle 150 barrels of fiberglass through a tunnel that ran from Egypt to Gaza. Three years ago he used a tunnel to smuggle four Kalash-

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nikov rifles and a pistol into Gaza. Prosecutors are seeking a life sentence for Jumaa for his involvement in terrorist activity and for transferring information to the enemy.

Saudi Crown Prince Recognizes Israel

Saudi Crown Prince Mohammed bin Salman made waves in the Arab world last week when he told journalist Jeffrey Goldberg that Israel has a right to exist and that he hopes to have a healthy and productive diplomatic relationship with the Jewish State. When the royal was asked if he believes “the Jewish people have a right to a nation-state in at least part of their ancestral homeland,” he replied, “I believe that each people, anywhere, has a right to live in their peaceful nation. I believe the Palestinians and the Israelis have the right to have their own land.” The Crown Prince did say that a peace agreement with the Palestinians is still a

requirement if formal relations were to be established between Saudi Arabia and Israel. “We have to have a peace agreement to assure the stability for everyone and to have normal relations,” he said. Taking a radically different stance than his predecessors, bin Salman said that he has “religious concerns about the fate of the holy mosque in Jerusalem and about the rights of the Palestinian people. This is what we have. We don’t have any objection against any other people.” When asked about anti-Semitism in his country he said that “our country doesn’t have a problem with Jews.... Our prophet, his neighbors were Jewish. You will find a lot of Jews in Saudi Arabia coming from America, coming from Europe. There are no problems between Christian and Muslims and Jews. We have problems like you would find anywhere in the world, among some people. But the normal sort of problems.” Israel has never had any official relationship with Saudi Arabia. Recently, Israel has hinted to having a secret agreement with the Kingdom, as both countries are concerned with an increasingly aggressive Iran. Saudi officials have denied any relationship with the Jewish State. However, in the past few years, Saudi and Israeli officials have met on many occasions, and last month, Saudi Arabia allowed Air India to use Saudi airspace to travel to Israel. When discussing Iran, bin Salman said that Ayatollah Ali Khamenei, the supreme leader of the Islamic Republic,

“makes Hitler look good. Hitler didn’t do what the supreme leader is trying to do. Hitler tried to conquer Europe. This is bad,” he added. “But the supreme leader is trying to conquer the world. He believes he owns the world. They are both evil guys. He is the Hitler of the Middle East. In the 1920s and 1930s, no one saw Hitler as a danger. Only a few people. Until it happened. We don’t want to see what happened in Europe happen in the Middle East. We want to stop this through political moves, economic moves, intelligence moves. We want to avoid war.”

Journalist Shot at Gaza Border during Protests

A Palestinian journalist was killed while he was covering the mass protests that were taking place at the Gaza-Israel border last week. The Israeli army has repeatedly said that Yasser Murtaja was not targeted on purpose and that his death was completely accidental. He was shot while filming the mass border protests in a thick cover of black smoke which came from the tires that the protestors were burning.

“For weeks we have been warning against coming close to the fence and calling on Gaza’s residents not to obey the orders of the terror group Hamas and refrain from terror activities and other violent acts against Israel,” the IDF said. “Despite this, since last Friday, the IDF has been dealing with tens of thousands of people approaching the fence, all instigated by Hamas. In response, IDF forces are acting under clear orders designed for these circumstances. The IDF does not deliberately target journalists. The circumstances in which the journalist was supposedly hit by IDF fire are not known and they are being investigated,” the army said. Defense Minister Avigdor Lieberman said that he doesn’t “know who is or isn’t a photographer. Anyone who operates drones above IDF soldiers needs to understand he’s putting himself in danger.” Murtaja was known to use drone cameras to take his photographs. Lieberman added: “We’ve seen dozens of cases where Hamas terrorists used ambulances, dressed up as Red Crescent personnel, and disguised themselves as journalists. We won’t take any chances.” Assessments of the IDF’s actions found that everyone that was hit by IDF gunfire has been engaged in violence. “Hamas sent children out ahead [toward the fence], cynically using them,” said IDF spokesman Ronen Manelis. He went on to specify that eight explosive devices and numerous petrol bombs were thrown and that the IDF faced several attempts “to cut through the fence.” “There were

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Israeli military spokesman Lt. Col. Jonathan Conricus said on Friday that Hamas organizers were trying to use protesters as a diversion to “open up the fence and then to insert terrorists into Israel.” Convicts said snipers were used “sparingly” and only against those that posed a “significant threat.” Corbyn has released statements of hate against Israel for a long time. He has repeatedly been accused of not doing enough to remove anti-Semitism from within his party, and just spent time at a Passover event organized by Ewdas, a group that has in the past tweeted that “Israel is itself a steaming pile of sewage which needs to be properly disposed of.” Before Pesach, the leadership of Britain’s biggest Jewish groups organized an unprecedented demonstration outside the UK Parliament, accusing Corbyn of turning a blind eye to a resurgence of anti-Semitism in British politics, particularly within his own party. He long been associated with Paul Eisen, a Holocaust denier; has defended Reverend Stephen Sizer, who shared materials online linking Jews to the 9/11 attack; and has welcomed Sheikh Raed Salah, who has accused Jews of murdering Christian children to use their blood in rituals, to Parliament. He has also referred to Hamas and Hezbollah as “friends” though  he later said he regretted using such language. The IDF has been clear that strong force was only used when Israeli lives were in danger. “Rioters have attempted to damage and cross the security fence under the cover of smoke from their burning tires. They also attempted to carry out terror attacks and hurl explosive devices and firebombs,” the IDF said. “Our forces prevented breaches” of the fence.

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Israeli pilots spent the predawn hours on Monday carrying out a missile strike on an air base in central Syria. Fourteen people were reportedly killed in the attack which was protested by Russia because Israel did not inform Moscow of their plans ahead of time. Dmitry Peskov, spokesman for President Vladimir Putin, told reporters that the Kremlin was very upset about the bombing because Russian military advisors could have been present at the base, which he described as “a cause for concern for us.” America was given notice of the bombing before it took place. “This is a very dangerous development. I hope at least that the U.S. military and those of the countries participating in the coalition led by the United States understand that,” Russian Foreign Minister Sergey Lavrov told a press conference. Israel has yet to release any statements concerning the attack, which came two days after Syria carried out a chemical weapons attack in the town of Douma. The target of the Israeli airstrike was the Tiyas air base, which Israel had previously attacked when the IDF said it was home to an Iranian drone program. Israel has repeatedly expressed its red lines when it comes to Syria. It will not allow the transfer of high-powered weapons to Hezbollah; it will not allow any breach of Israeli sovereignty; and it will work to prevent Iran from entrenching itself in Syria. Russian military officials said that the strike was carried out by two F-15 fighter jets. The jets fired eight missiles at the base, five of which were intercepted. A conflicting report out of Lebanon said that four Israeli warplanes violated their airspace, though two of them may have only been acting as escorts. No Russians were injured, and Israeli news outlets said that four Iranians were killed in the strike.

Corbyn made his request in response to the recent escalating events along the Gazan border. Corbyn made no mention of the Hamas terror organization and the attempts of violent Palestinians to enter Israel when he called out the Israeli Defense Forces for their “illegal and inhumane” actions. “The UK government must support the UN Secretary-General’s call for an independent international inquiry into the killing of protesters in Gaza and review the sale of arms that could be used in violation of international law,” Corbyn said in his statement, which he also posted on Facebook. Corbyn continued to place the blame solely on Israel while calling the tens of thousands of Palestinian protesters who burned tires, threw firebombs and rocks, and tried to breach the border fence “peaceful protestors.”

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Community Coffee for a Cause at Katz Yeshiva High School Two years ago, Katz Yeshiva High School students Yakirah Rosen, Chaya Kenigsberg, and Sara Deichmann, along with the Chesed Director Mrs. Lysee Stein, created the chesed/community service club. The club’s intention was to help students meet their community service requirements while participating in meaningful chesed activities. Throughout the past two years, the club has organized various chesed projects including Mishloach Manot for JAFCO, baking cookies for firefighters, and taking students to nursing homes. However, all of these activities were self-funded and as the number of members and chesed activities increased,

club leaders were forced to find ways to raise the funds necessary in continuing their important chesed. “Coffee for a Cause” began as a solution to this dilemma. Every morning during breakfast the chesed committee

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sells coffee and various breakfast foods such as bagels, Cinnaholic cinnamon buns, and donuts. The profit gained from these sales is then used to fund numerous chesed projects that KYHS students wish to participate in. Sara Deichman, one of the leaders of the club, explains, “The goal of the chesed club is to help both the student performing the action and the recipient of the chesed. Thankfully, we found a perfect balance through Coffee for a Cause. The duality of the stand gives students fuel in the morning as they donate to worthy causes.” When the club heard that the daughter of a KYHS alumni and grandaughter of a teacher at Katz Hillel Day School had fallen into a coma, they felt compelled to take initiative. The members of the committee chose to donate all of the proceeds raised, to the family of the ten year old girl, Esther Leiba Henya. They have been highly successful, raising over $700 in a short time-span. Besides raising money for the family of Esther, the chesed committee has been publizing this need, encouraging students to daven and say tehillim for Esther’s recovery. Moreover, another benefit of “Coffee for a Cause” is that every morning three student volunteers have the opportunity to dedicate their breakfast time to serve as the baristas at the coffee stand. Yarden Rindsberg (21’) exclaims, “Coffee for a cause run by KYHS student body is a great way to raise money for charity while giving students, like myself, a chance to start off their morning performing chesed.”   Running “Coffee for a Cause” is a complex operation with over 70 volunteers. While a few students take leadership, there are over 70 students involved. When items need to be purchased, students volunteer to wake up early so they can get them to

school before breakfast starts. Students appreciate that they do not have to leave campus to get their daily morning coffee. Not only is the coffee significantly cheaper than the alternative store-bought drink, students feel good knowing that their money spent on coffee is not only benefiting themselves, but is also improving the lives of others. Shmuel Gross (19’) is thrilled that his money spent on coffee is going to a great cause stating, “I am happy that I can buy my coffee right at my school from “Coffee for a Cause”. Not only do I get to enjoy my coffee, I also know that the proceeds from my purchase are going to a worthy cause and that I am making a difference by giving Tzedakah, just by buying my morning coffee.” Furthermore, running the coffee stand allows for students to implement entrepreneurial skills. Yakirah Rosen explains, “Using the skills gained from the business elective in school such as how to make spreadsheets, financial pro formas, profit and loss statements, how to determine the consumer demographic, marketing, and how to sell a product for maximum profit with minimum costs, “Coffee for a Cause” is successfully operated as a non-profit business. We record our inventory, revenue, costs of goods sold, profit, and payroll (paid in community service hours) and project our monthly earnings and losses based on our numbers from past months.” To conclude, KYHS’ student run “Coffee for a Cause” coffee stand is an amazing way to raise money for charity and provide chesed hours, while serving delicious drinks and creating an educational experience. KYHS is extremely proud of the chesed committee for their inspiring chesed and is looking forward to seeing their incredible endeavors grow in the future.

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Yeshiva University to Feature “Giving Day: Celebrating the Heroes of Tomorrow” on April 25th YU Benefactors Commit $10 Million in Honor of President Berman’s Inaugural Year, Challenge Community to Raise Additional $3 Million in 24 Hours March 29, 2018, New York, NY— Yeshiva University will celebrate its 2018 Giving Day April 25-26, with students, alumni and friends joining together to support the YU of tomorrow. Donations made during the 24-hour period will help fund the University’s

undergraduate, graduate, and high school communities, as well as scholarships, student life and various other programs. The Giving Day campaign theme is “YU Hero” and will highlight the heroic character of Yeshiva University’s students and how YU helps nurture and cultivate those qualities. “Whether they’re advancing Torah scholarship, conducting groundbreaking research or fighting for social justice,

Yeshiva University students, faculty and alumni make up a powerful and heroic movement—rooted in Jewish values and committed to building a better world,” said Alyssa Herman, YU’s vice president for institutional advancement. Utilizing an online crowdfunding initiative, YU aims to raise $3 million from at least 3,000 donors. Every contribution made during the 24 hour period will have an even greater impact—all gifts will be


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matched, thanks to the generosity of several benefactors. In addition, donors have already pledged gifts totaling more than $10 million in honor of Rabbi Dr. Ari Berman’s inaugural year. “This fund reflects our commitment and support for Rabbi Dr. Berman as he leads Yeshiva University into the next chapter in its great history,” said Mark Wilf, member of YU’s Board of Trustees. “Giving Day is an exciting opportunity for the entire community to come together, celebrate all we have achieved and ensure that our future remains strong,” said Elliot Gibber, chair of YU’s Institutional Advancement Committee. “After all, we can’t be super without your support.” Giving Day begins at noon on April 25 and will include live events on campus for students and an interactive social media component, promoting alumni and community engagement using the dedicated hashtag #YUHero. The day will also feature a variety of fun challenges, offering supporters the opportunity to get involved and maximize their giving. To learn more about YU’s Giving Day or to make a contribution, please visit or call 212-960-0898. Founded in 1886, Yeshiva University brings together the ancient traditions of Jewish law and life and the heritage of Western civilization. More than 6,400 undergraduate and graduate students study at YU’s four New York City campuses: the Wilf Campus, Israel Henry Beren Campus, Brookdale Center, and Jack and Pearl Resnick Campus. YU’s three undergraduate schools – Yeshiva College, Stern College for Women, and Sy Syms School of Business – offer a unique dual program comprised of Jewish studies and liberal arts courses. Its graduate and affiliate schools include Albert Einstein College of Medicine, Benjamin N. Cardozo School of Law, Wurzweiler School of Social Work, Ferkauf Graduate School of Psychology, Azrieli Graduate School of Jewish Education and Administration, Bernard Revel Graduate School of Jewish Studies, The Mordecai D. and Monique C. Katz School of Graduate and Professional Studies, and Rabbi Isaac Elchanan Theological Seminary. YU is ranked among the nation’s leading academic institutions. ### Visit the YU Web site at


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History Repeats Itself!

Dirshu Holds Seder Nezikin Siyum in Vienna in Same Hall As First Siyum HaShas By Chaim Gold

It took almost nine decades for the sweet sounds of Torah to be heard again in the Sofiensaal Auditorium in Vienna, yet, during the first week of Nissan, Klal Yisroel witnessed a profound manifestation of ‘Netzach Yisroel lo yishaker.’ A siyum on the Daf Hayomi Seder Nezikin was held on 2 Nissan in the exact same hall in Vienna where the historic first Daf HaYomi Siyum was held. The Torah observant community, led by its foremost Rabbonim, came out in droves to participate in the historic event. The Sofiensaal Auditorium has seen a lot over the past 90 years. After the first Daf HaYomi Siyum, the hall saw the Nazi takeover of Austria, hosting Nazi rallies and events. Now, it has again merited to host an event that not only represented the grandeur and simcha of the completion of seder Nezikin, the last major seder before the upcoming World Siyum-a celebration of past learning, but also a kabbalah al l’habaah, an enthusiastic undertaking by a large cross-section of the Vienna community to undertake daily learning in Dirshu’s Daf HaYomi B’Halacha program. Vienna’s Rabbanim Encourage The Learning of Daily Halacha In advance of the event, a rare letter was released by seven of Vienna’s prominent Rabbonim calling on all of the members of the community to join the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha program. The letter was signed by HaRav Avrohom Yehuda Schwartz, shlita, HaRav Alexander Asher Margolius, shlita, HaRav Moshe Eliezer Weiss, shlita, HaRav Avrohom Hotoveli, shlita, HaRav Yosef Pressburger, shlita, and the Chief Rabbis, HaRav Aryeh Folger, shlita, and HaRav Chaim Eisenberg, shlita. The siyum began with the entrance of the Rabbonim together with the Nasi of Dirshu, Rav Dovid Hofstedter, who came to Vienna especially to participate in the historic event. The event was opened by HaRav Binyomin Eckstein, shlita, Belzer Dayan of

London and Chairman of Dirshu Europe. The siyum on Seder Nezikin was made by Rav Dovid Bidel, a Rosh Kollel in Vienna and Daf HaYomi Maggid Shiur. The Kaddish was recited by Rav Dovid Yehuda Hirsch. Seder Kodshim was begun by Maggid Shiur, Rav Yitzchok Binyomin Neuman. The Necessity for Mesiras Nefesh A highlight of the event was the drasha of Rav Dovid Hofstedter, Nasi of Dirshu, who stressed Dirshu’s message of ol Torah, and achdus through accountable limud haTorah. In a Pesach related message he said, “Chazal tell us that the Bnei Yisroel had no mitzvos and needed the blood of Pesach and Milah to merit redemption from Egypt. Don’t Chazal tell us that Bnei Yisroel had other merits, such as the fact that they didn’t change their clothing, language and names?” Rav Dovid answered that, “Yes, they maintained their Jewish clothing and even spoke a Jewish language, etc. but they were simultaneously completely immersed and absorbed in the culture of Egypt, the norms of behavior, the norms of entertainment. They had a veneer of the Jewish religion, the outer trappings of Jewish observance. Superficially they heeded the Jewish religion, but their essence, their inner core was completely Egyptian. What ‘energized them,’ were the things that ‘excited’ their fellow Egyptians. “Thus, the only way to extricate themselves from the culture of Mitzrayim was with mesiras nefesh, with blood - blood of milah and blood of Pesach. “Our generation has so many zechusim! Look at the beautiful edifices of Torah that we have built on the ashes of the Holocaust. Nevertheless, our generation is similar to the generation of Mitzrayim in the sense that we too have been inundated with the host culture. The only way that we can extricate ourselves from the superficiality of today’s culture is with mesiras nefesh!

Dirshu delegation witnessing the Torah rejuvenation in Berlin

“When it comes to Torah learning we must dedicate ourselves to learning with true accountability.” HaRav Zishe Horowitz: A Picture is Worth a Thousand Words HaRav Zishe Horowitz, shlita, Rav of the Kehillas Hachassidim of Elad, was the guest speaker at the event. Rav Horowitz said, “Our children must see us learning Torah and especially learning practical halacha. When a child sees his father learning halacha, he too will be spurred to learn halacha and gain the resultant yiras shomayim.” Heartfelt zemiros and grammen were sung by Reb Yisroel Adler. It was deeply moving to see the entire assemblage spontaneously burst out in song and dance as the Sofiensaal Auditorium again experienced true simchas haTorah after an almost nine decade hiatus. The entire frum community of Vienna, was deeply moved and indeed, new shiurim in Daf HaYomi B’Halacha sprang up in numerous shuls in the aftermath of the event. Returning to Roots in Budapest: Baalei Teshuva Take Monthly Daf HaYomi B’Halacha Tests The next stop was the city of Budapest, Hungary, where a fascinating Torah revolution is transpiring under the auspices of Rav Dovid Kelety. Rav Dovid, a Hungarian born Jew, learned in Eretz Yisroel and then returned to Hungary where he established a kiruv organization that reaches Jews in Budapest. The Dirshu delegation came to Budapest and Rav Hofstedter gave a shiur. At the seudas mitzvah that followed, Rav Hofstedter delivered divrei chizuk and interactively engaged the tzibbur of motivated young people who had left everything behind in order to dedicate their lives to Yiddishkeit. “I cannot tell you what an impact Dirshu’s visit had on the young dedicated Yidden from Budapest. They truly felt part of the Torah world, and renewed their motivation to dedicating their lives to live in accordance with the Torah and halacha, and most importantly to learn Torah with mesiras nefesh. Hashem promised us that ‘Torah would not be forgotten from your children. Dirshu is in-

Partial view of the crowd at the Siyum event on Seder Nezikin at the Sofiensaal Auditorium in Vienna

strumental in helping fulfill that promise in Budapest,” Rav Kelety explained. Dirshu Opens in Berlin The next day brought the Dirshu delegation to Berlin, the capital of Germany. Berlin features more than one kollel and the Dirshu delegation’s first stop was Beis Medrash Beis Tzion, a shul that had survived Kristallnacht and today houses the Adas Bnei Yisroel Kehilla as well as a kollel. Upon entering the beis medrash, the delegation saw a large sign heralding the opening of a Dirshu branch in Berlin. In honor of the establishment of a new Daf HaYomi B’Halacha shiur in Berlin, a beautiful seudas mitzvah was held. Leading the Berlin Kehillah in this endeavor was Rav Moshe Halpern and Rav Yitzchak Eherenberg, Chief Rabbi of Berlin. A Personal Message from HaGaon HaRav Berel Povarsky, Shlita One of the most moving moments at the Berlin event was the special message from HaGaon HaRav Berel Povarsky, shlita, Rosh Yeshivas Ponovezh, who went out of his way to record a video in honor of the event. Rav Moshe Halpern, who is presiding over the Dirshu program in Berlin and has been instrumental in facilitating a Torah revolution in the German capital, is a close talmid of Rav Berel. In his message to the kehillah, Rav Berel lovingly said, “Rav Moshe, my talmid is like a son to me! It follows that you Yidden in Berlin are all my grandchildren!” The symbolism in Berlin was a fitting backdrop. The fact that Dirshu, the largest organization facilitating limud haTorah in the world, established a branch just around the corner from where Hitler’s Reichtstag was once located, was not lost on anyone. Possibly the most gratifying result of the visit to Berlin was the fact that the morning after the event, immediately after the community davened Shacharis, everyone gathered around the table for the beginning of what will certainly be the first of many Daf HaYomi B’Halacha shuirim in Berlin, Germany. Seventy years after the churban, the Nazis are in the dust heap of history and Yidden are learning and taking Dirshu tests on Daf HaYomi in Berlin, Vienna and Budapest.

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Torah Academy of Boca Raton’s Early Childhood Center Enjoys Matzah Making with Fathers Torah Academy of Boca Raton’s Early Childhood Center had a blast making matzos with their fathers. Each father/child team had their own ingredients and rolled

out their own matzos within 18 minutes. They had a special matzah box to take home with them. A wonderful time was had by all!

Torah Academy of Boca Raton Celebrates their 19th Annual Journal Dinner Over 400 packed into the ballroom of Congregation B’nai Torah to pay tribute to our most deserving honorees and support Torah Academy of Boca Raton. The room was richly appointed with dozens of bouquets of beautifully arranged fresh flowers, gorgeous centerpieces, an art show featuring student work, and an elegant musical motif in the room. The food was delectable, and the program was engaging. The real stars of the evening, however, were our honorees, Mr. & Mrs. Joel and Yael Roth and Mr. & Mrs. Dan and Sue Kaskel. Each honoree was featured on a short video presentation that truly captured the essence of the special recognition they so rightfully deserve. Mazel Tov to them all! A special memorial tribute to our

dear friend Mr. Richard Siemens  of blessed memory was also presented to his wife Mrs. Carole Siemens and the entire Siemens family.  A special thanks to Mrs. Michal Marcus and all the volunteers for their creativity and many, many hours of preparation and dedication to making our dinner second to none. Much thanks to Dr. Jorie Lyons  who  spent dozens of painstaking hours compiling, editing and proofreading our journal and managing the journal campaign. In all, this meaningful evening captured the mission of our Yeshiva - to promote a lifelong commitment and passion to live an inspired life of Torah values and menschlichkeit.


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Thousands to Celebrate Israel@70 at Free Community Event in Mizner Park on April 18 Amid a sea of blue and white flags, banners and attire, on April 18, 2018 thousands of local residents of all ages will once again come together in solidarity and spirit for Israel at the Mizner Park Amphitheater. The full vibrant diversity of Jewish South Palm Beach County and more will be on hand to celebrate Israel’s 70th Birthday at this year’s “Israel Fest.” Free of charge, the community-wide festivities will start at 6:00 pm with children’s activities and a fair to showcase an array of Jewish community resources. Kosher food and drinks will be available for purchase, including falafel, chicken, hot dogs and hamburgers from Pita and Go, ice cream from the Good Humor truck and cinnamon buns and coffee from Cinnaholic Boca. The program onstage, including a concert by the international Jewish Fusion band, The Shuk, will start at 7:15 pm with a Yom HaZikaron (Israel Memorial Day) ceremony before the Yom HaAtzmaut (Israel Independence Day) festivities start at sundown. Called “one of the leading international music groups” and a “high-energy, cross-genre band that has performed in over 30 countries,” by the Jerusalem Post, The Shuk blends elements of jazz, rock, ethnic and progressive music with their Jewish traditional and klezmer roots. The vibrant young performers, who hail from both Israel and the U.S., have trained extensively in both countries and perform around the world. The commemoration will also feature greetings from Lior Haiat, Consul General of Israel to Florida and Puerto Rico, along with community leaders in support of Israel. Students from local congregational and day schools will parade to the stage and lead the American and Israeli national anthems. “We are thrilled to invite the whole community to come together for this extraordinary 70th anniversary celebra-

tion,” said Judi Schuman, who is serving as Honorary Chair of the event with her husband, Allan. “Bring your friends, your neighbors, your colleagues to be part of the exceptional experience of fun, music, delicious food and profound love of the Jewish homeland.” “For a few hours, we’ll be transported to the sights, sounds and tastes of Israel,” said Debra Halperin, who is chairing Israel Fest with her husband, Larry. “Thousands from all across our community who support our homeland have gathered for our Federation’s powerful Israel celebrations in previous years, and this 70th anniversary celebration promises the same. South Palm Beach County will once again demonstrate that we are united in recognizing the vital importance of the ties between Israel and the United States, and in celebrating how much Israel has achieved in such a short period of time.” Hands-on, Israel-themed activities for the whole family will start at 6:00 pm in the PJ Library® Fun Zone. “PJ Library looks forward to once again bringing families from across our Jewish community for great fun and learning,” said Joanna Drowos, who co-chairs PJ Library in South Palm Beach County. “They’ll enjoy visiting a Kibbutz Petting Zoo, climbing the Masada Rock Wall, Building the “Kotel” with bricks and Velcro; and crafts including making Israeli flags. Of course, families will be able to sign up for PJ Library’s high quality free monthly books and music.” “Israel Fest is a time to remember and rejoice in the miracle of this pioneering country. With the greatest pride, we’ll pay tribute to Israel’s phenomenal, rapid transformation – amid wars and terror - into today’s creative, dynamic, culturally vibrant democracy at the cutting edge of technology, research and entrepreneurship,” said Matthew C. Levin, President & CEO of the Jewish Federation of South Palm Beach County. “Don’t miss this opportu-

Israel Fest at Mizner Park will include a Jewish community showcase

PJ Fun Zone Kibbutz Petting Zoo

nity to join as a community to observe this incredible moment together.” Israel Fest is presented by the Federation, with its Judi & Allan Schuman Center for Israel Engagement and Deborah & Larry D. Silver Center for Jewish Engagement. The event will take place rain or shine under the big amphitheater tent. Limited seating will be available; blankets are suggested for the lawn. Complimentary self-parking will be available, with early arrival recommended. Squire Patton Boggs is the generous Israel Fest Presenting Sponsor. Corporate Sponsors include Boca Raton Regional Hospital, BNY Wealth Management, Hotwire Communications and Polen Capital. The event’s media sponsors are ESPN

The Shuk - Photo Credit Tommy Harpaz

Thousands will celebrate at Israel Fest

West Palm, WLRN Public Media and The Florida Jewish Home. Corporate Partners are Silverstein HR; Lesser, Lesser, Landy & Smith ; Morgan Stanley/The Popper Group; and WLRN.  The PJ Fun Zone is generously sponsored by Smiles by Dr. W & Dr. R Quality Orthodontics and Florida Blue.

Scheck Hillel Band Students Earn `Superior´ Ratings in State Solo & Ensemble Scheck Hillel Community School students Joi Alon and Jayme Podgorowiez received Superior ratings for their performances in the 2018 State Solo and Ensemble March 20 at the John I. Leonard Community High School in Greenacres, Florida. Superior is the highest rating possible. This is the first time that Scheck Hillel students have earned this honor at the State level - a singular achievement for the Band, led by Matt Villa, and a new milestone for our Jordan Alexander Ressler Arts Program. Joi played the saxophone and was judged by Dr. Jonathan Helton, Professor of Saxophone at the School of Music of

the University of Florida. Jayme’s clarinet solo was judged by Dr. Lynn Musco, Stetson University Professor of Clarinet, Coordinator of Woodwind Studies and Chair of Students for the School of Music. “We are incredibly proud of Joi, Jayme and Band director Matt Villa,” said Dr. Ezra Levy, Scheck Hillel’s Head of School. “Seeing their talent and dedication earn recognition from such distinguished musicians reinforces the tremendous value of Scheck Hillel’s commitment to arts education through our Jordan Alexander Arts Program.” Joi and Jayme participated in the 2017 District 20 Solo and Ensemble adjudica-

Jayme Podgorowiez (Grade 11) and Joi Alon (Grade 10)

tion, hosted by Scheck Hillel in November, when their performances qualified them to advance to the State level. At the District event, the following Scheck Hillel students earned a Superior (highest rating) for their solo performances: Daniel Bloom, Alexandra Fincheltub , Eitan Garzon, Zachary Lemmer, Jeremy Nichols and Jonathan Nichols. The success continued with the following students who each earned an Excellent (second-highest rating): Jonathan Abbo, Michael Berenstein, Raquel Dimitri, Eli Gelb, Emily Rodman, Joshua Schmutter, Elliot Shiro and Danielle Waijman.

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Remembering Israel’s Fallen Every year on Israel’s Memorial Day, a siren is twice sounded to call the nation to attention. Israelis of all stripes, from all walks of life and from a surprising variety of ethnicities, religions, and political affiliations, stand silently as one and remember their countrymen who paid the ultimate price to ensure the independence and security of Israel. Because of the unfortunate frequency of wars and major military operations, many use the opportunity to remember a fallen soldier they knew personally – whether it be a spouse, child, parent, friend, or someone more distantly related. To Israelis, the notion of remembering is a personal one and not at all abstract. However, to friends of Israel in the United States and elsewhere abroad, while the day is solemnly observed and respected, there is little in the way of a personal connection between them and those who the day is meant to commemorate. They yearn to stand side by side in remembering with the Israelis, who, while thousands of miles away, are close to them in their hearts. Yet, they have not felt the

pain of sudden loss and bereavement and cannot imagine the feeling of picking up the phone or opening the door for an army official to hear the worst news imaginable. How can they stand side by side with Israelis in solidarity and feel a personal connection to the tragically long list of Israel’s fallen defenders? Ironically, as many search for a personal way to connect to Memorial Day, there are thousands of fallen soldiers who have left behind few, if any, family members and friends to keep their memory alive. From the Holocaust survivor who came to Israel to fight for independence and ended up buried in a mass grave, nameless and forgotten, to the loving husband who was killed decades ago, and whose wife has also long since passed, with nobody left who can light a candle to commemorate him – there are far too many heartbreaking stories like these. These are two burning issues which Yashar LaChayal has brought together in order to simultaneously address both, as we approach Israel’s 70th Memorial Day. “Remember Israel’s Fallen” is a proj-

ect which will match each participant with one of the 23,550 men and women who fell in Israel’s defense, ensuring that not a single one is forgotten. As the siren wails in Israel, candles will be lit and prayers said not only there, but overseas as well, in a campaign of unity and remembrance. Every participant will be emailed a certificate with the unique name of one of Israel’s fallen, and it will be his or her privilege to remember that soldier on Memorial Day. In order to join this meaningful campaign, we request a symbolic $18 donation that will go towards our “Bereaved Family Fund” which provides various forms of support to financially disadvantaged family members of fallen soldiers. In the past, we have sponsored grocery store credit, household appliances, furniture, and other types of assistance for bereaved families. With your help, we can we can provide them with even more

support. The best we can do for those who gave their all for Israel is to perpetuate their memories, and to take care of those they left behind. On Israel’s 70th Memorial Day, join us in doing our part for those who gave so much for us and for the State of Israel. For more info: (213) 221-4982

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YTCTE Hosts “Grandparents Day” for ECE Students On Friday, March 9  the ECE hosted its very first Grandparents Day. Over 100 proud  grandparents  participated, and the excitement in the air was palpable. The entire ECE, together, with the attending  grandparents  sang Shabbos songs, listened to a Dvar Torah and made challah together. Children, whose  grandpar-

ents were unable to come, enjoyed an extra special Shabbos party while the grandparents  toured the ECE and ate lunch with their grandchildren. In addition, the grandparents received a commemorative photo of their special  day  taken by Mr. Carlos Chattah.  YTCTE would like to thank our tal-

ented parent volunteers Mrs. Esti Epstein, Ms. Esty Kopel and Mrs. Abby Fox, who along with our dedicated ECE and Admission staff put together such a beautiful event. A special thank you as well to Rabbi Roth, Mr. Akrish and their crew for all their efforts in ensuring a smooth day.  We are so proud of all our ECE stu-

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Training The Next Generation Of Orthodox Jewish Mental Health Professionals By: N. Aaron Troodler The issue of mental health in the Orthodox Jewish community is fraught with emotions and complexities and often remains on the periphery. However, the reality is that mental health issues are indeed prevalent within the Orthodox community, just as they are common in other communities. It is against that backdrop that Rabbi Pesach Lerner established the YIEP (Yeshiva Initiatives Educational Programs – and developed a program that trains members of the Orthodox community seeking to enter the mental health field. Through a partnership with Bellevue University that began in 2004, YIEP offers undergraduate and graduate programs, including a specialized Master of Science in Clinical Counseling (MSCC). The Bellevue University MSCC is accredited by the Council for Accreditation of Counseling and Related Educational Programs (CACREP), which is the gold standard in the counseling field, and the YIEP cohort is the only mental health program geared for Orthodox students with CACREP’s endorsement. YIEP launched the MSCC program in October 2014 and will graduate its second cohort in May 2018, with three more cohorts in process. The next session is scheduled to begin in mid-August 2018 and then January 2019. The Bellevue University/YIEP Master of Science in Clinical Counseling program is unique because the students are all Orthodox Jews who receive specialized training and engage in specific coursework that prepares them to address mental health issues in the Orthodox community, as well as to serve in the broader Jewishand non-Jewish community. Modeled after national licensing standards, the MSCC prepares students for the national licensing exam to become a professional mental health counselor. It is a 60 credit-hour online graduate degree program, which includes a practicum and internship component that enables students to gain valuable experience in the field while being guided by a licensed professional. The MSCC coursework centers on the theoretical and applied principles of psychological counseling and trains stu-

dents to ultimately engage in the assessment and treatment of individuals, couples, and families. Students are introduced to critical topics such as assessing and diagnosing mental health issues, psychotherapy, rehabilitation counseling, substance abuse, and prevention services. The MSCC is a regionally accredited graduate degree with an option for students to pursue licensure in their home state. While the courses offered by the Bellevue University/YIEP MSCC program are online and there is a four-day on-site seminar in Brooklyn, NY where students meet their instructors and classmates, the practicum and internship can be done wherever the student resides. It is also noteworthy that degrees from yeshivas are accepted as fulfillment of the undergraduate degree requirement and tuition is lower than New York area programs because it is based on Nebraska rates, which is home to Bellevue University. Professor Esther Lustig, LCSW-R, an instructor, professional advisor, and mentor of the YIEP MSCC program, spoke about its distinctive nature. “This is an important and valuable educational program that is transformative for the students and the community alike,” she said. Professor Lustig described a course she developed exclusively for the YIEP MSCC entitled “Orthodox Judaic Theoretical Perspectives.” “The unique piece to the YIEP program is that we have a very specific course that allows students to grapple with some of the major mental health issues that exist in the Orthodox community,” she said. “Nothing is off the table; everything is discussed, even the most difficult issues. These are issues that need to be faced and practitioners who want to work in the Orthodox community need to understand them.” One of the hallmarks of the YIEP MSCC is the internship requirement, with which Professor Lustig assists with placement and administration. “There is a strong experiential component to this program; it’s not just reading books,” she said. “We have students interning at so many interesting places because our program is recognized and we have a good

reputation.” Professor Lustig acknowledged the intensive nature of the program, which she considers one of the best in the country. “There are many facets to this program and it gives students a really good foundation to start helping people,” she said. “We want to make sure they get the best education possible within the framework they’re comfortable with.” Past and current students also spoke enthusiastically about the program. “I am extremely impressed with how professional and helpful the program’s faculty members have been,” said one student. “They’re extremely accommodating and responsive, and look to be as helpful as possible. Although the coursework is intense, I am finding the course to be extremely interesting and hands-on.” “I greatly appreciate the ‘sevivah’ (the environment), learning these concepts together with others who not only are frum Jews, but real B’nei Torah,” said another student. “There are many advantages to getting a Master’s degree in this manner, as I can study and complete assignments during times I can carve out that are most convenient. In addition, the instructors, who are knowledgeable and committed to explaining the material, encourage the students to reach out to them with inquiries.” “The program is sensitive to the needs of the students and the class calendar fully accommodates the Yomim Tovim schedule,” added another student. “I owe Rabbi Lerner a debt of gratitude for his commitment and his concern that the program runs smoothly.” “The YIEP/Bellevue program is educational, professional and respectful, and it’s a culturally sensitive program that doesn’t compromise a quality education,” noted another student. Dr. Barb Daubenspeck, Ph.D., Program Director and instructor of the Bellevue University MSCC program, explained how the university’s Clinical Counseling faculty worked with Rabbi Lerner to establish a cohort that meets the unique needs of the Orthodox community in numerous ways, including structuring the schedules for the cohort around reli-

gious holidays and being mindful of the need to facilitate the completion of the program with the students’ already busy schedule. “Course materials are continually reviewed to ensure that even as students are challenged to view things from a new perspective, their cultural values are respected,” she said. “Students complete their coursework moving course by course through the program in step together,” added Dr. Daubenspeck. “In this way the students are able to build supportive relationships with one another and are also able to connect with the Bellevue University faculty.” Rabbi Lerner noted that the YIEP MSCC “is probably the most Torah-sensitive program of this nature around.” “Our students receive a serious education,” he said. “As all our students are from the Orthodox community, some of whom even participate in the online coursework from Israel, there are no scheduling issues relating to Shabbos or Yom Tov. In addition, the YIEP and Bellevue University provide significant support for our students and play an integral role in helping them secure internships where they get practical experience that helps prepare them for a meaningful career in the mental health field.” Rabbi Lerner remarked that the YIEP attracts all types of Orthodox Jews, including Yeshivish, Chasidish and Modern Orthodox, and that classes are for both males and females, but is very sensitive to the guidelines of Tznius and Halacha. He added that many YIEP students were sent to the program by their Roshei HaYeshivos and community Rebbes, with the hope that they will return to their community to work there as professionals. “The intersection of Torah values, Jewish ideals, and comprehensive academic training by top professionals and instructors makes the YIEP Master of Science in Clinical Counseling program a unique educational opportunity for Orthodox Jews who want to give back to their community through the provision of quality mental health services,” added Rabbi Lerner. For more information about the program, contact Rabbi Lerner at

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Around the Community Teach Florida Applauds $2 million in Security Funding for At Risk Nonpublic Schools in the 2018-19 Budget (Hollywood, FL) - Teach Florida applauds Governor Rick Scott and the Florida Legislature for approving funding of $2 million to harden security in at risk nonpublic schools, including Jewish schools, as part of the state’s 2018-19 budget. The threefold increase in state security funding will insure that nonpublic school children at risk have a safe and secure education. Teach Florida played a pivotal role in championing this year and last’s security funding through the legislative process. The movement of parents, schools and

community leaders also successfully advocated for a new source of funding for Gardiner and tax credit scholarships that will help an additional 8,000 students attend the nonpublic school of their choice. “We applaud the state of Florida for making security a priority for public and nonpublic school students,” said Dr. Allan Jacob, chair of Teach Florida. “Special acknowledgement goes to the elected officials who championed this cause: Representative Randy Fine, Speaker Richard Corcoran, Representative Manny Diaz,

Senate President Joe Negron and Senators Bill Galvano, Wilton Simpson and Lauren Book. Governor Rick Scott’s leadership

has been invaluable in making schools at risk of terrorism safe and secure.” First time ever funding for nonpublic school security was approved at $654,000 in the 2017-18 state budget. The funds are allocated to harden school security including fences, cameras, shatter proof windows, key card entry systems and crisis communication systems. “With a 57% increase in anti-Semitic incidents and the proliferation of gun violence, as we just witnessed in Parkland, this funding will provide much needed upgrades to Jewish and nonpublic schools at risk,” said Mimi Jankovits, Executive Director of Teach Florida. “We appreciate our state’s pro-active position to address this issue and also for supporting its innovative scholarship programs with strong funding mechanisms, including the newly approved revenue source for tax credit scholarships.” In a March 21 visit with Teach Florida at Orlando Torah Academy, Governor Scott highlighted the $2 million as an investment in the security of all students. “Every student deserves to learn in a safe environment and we will continue to do all we can to keep our students safe.” “Our students need to be doing math drills not lock down drills,” said Rabbi Avraham Wachsman, Dean of Orlando Torah Academy. “This funding will help our schools and schools across the state with fencing, cameras and many other security improvements.” The school security bill’s sponsor, Representative Randy Fine, joined the Orlando school visit along with Representatives Mike Miller and Bobby Olszewski. Along with the students, they witnessed Governor Scott sign HB 545 that prohibits state agencies and local governments from contracting with companies boycotting Israel. Teach Florida is a movement of Jewish schools, parents and community advocating for safe, strong and affordable nonpublic schools. It is a member of the Teach Advocacy Network, a nonpartisan organization advocating for equitable funding in nonpublic schools. Since launching in 2016, Teach Florida successfully spearheaded first-time security funding to Florida’s nonpublic schools, including Jewish day schools, and advocated for increases in tax credit scholarships. This school year alone, 2900 Jewish students are attending day schools on $20 million of tax credit and special needs scholarships. The Teach Advocacy Network is a project of the Orthodox Union and operates in Florida, New York, New Jersey, Pennsylvania, Maryland and California. For more information, visit: or contact teachflorida@, (954) 406-6336.


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Lubavitch Educational Center Students Raise $50K Tomorrows leaders, today’s  inspiration! Students break record, community inspired, and hundreds helped.  This has become the narrative of the Lubavitch Educational Center in Miami.  Some would say old story, the truly remarkable part of this  is, for these children, helping others NEVER gets old, nor stale! After last year’s huge success of donating the ‘largest Kosher Food Bank school donation’ South Florida has ever seen,   and  raising over $34,000 to help families in need prepare for Pesach - LEC students  were at it  yet again. Everybody likes breaking their own record, that was clearly the challenge! Can they donate more food? Could they raise even more money? “YES we can!” they chanted and yes they did!  A herculean effort to with  classes bringing in over a hundred complete boxes filled with food items and well over last years 10,000 Food items raised.   Honorable mention to Rabbi Shmuly Reinetz 4th grade and Rabbi Aron Rabin 2nd grade for bringing in the most of any other class. As a reward they will head to the food bank to stock the shelves. But here comes the clincher, with $34,000 raised last year could the boys and girls of LEC raise more money?  Under the leadership of Mrs. Allona Pinhas and Mrs. Nechama Tauber, who were assist-

ed by their co-teachers, the students took charge of putting together a Chinese Auction—one for boys and one for girls. After the growing fund stalled at $32,000, the students were anxious that they may not reach last year’s total.  Would this be be the first year that we didn’t break the previous year’s record?  It was a great concern, as a large part of the student body was away for  5 days in Crown Heights to participate in the annual  Tzivos Hashem Chidon.  We wished them success, but were anxious that we may not reach our goal.    Once they returned to Miami, the effort continued in full force, with the stu-

dents unwavering determination to reach their goal! It was not long before thousands of more dollars began pouring in, and soon thereafter last year’s record was easily broken.  The final outcome?  A total of $50,597 was raised!!   Principals  Mrs. Shevi Sossonko and Mrs. Chaya Sara Dalfin began the daunting task of distributing this enormous sum of money to the community members who needed it most.

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  It was a beautiful example of hard work, determination and  Ahavas Yisroel.  Without our students, staff, parents and the community—all of whom worked extremely hard and donated generously— the goal of helping others for the Pesach holiday was realized. A special thank-you goes to each and every one of them. Miami student’s inspire again, it might sound old to you…. But to these guys – they are just getting started!

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Anshei Emuna Congregation Hosts Rabbi Steven Weil Anshei Emuna Congregation of Delray Beach was very pleased to host Rabbi Steven Weil and Rebbetzin Yael Weil on Shabbat February 16 and 17 for their fourth visit in as many years. As the Senior Managing Director of the Orthodox Union (OU), Rabbi Weil travels throughout the Jewish world, visiting OU shuls as an Ambassador and a highly sought after Scholar-in-Residence.  He says “one of his favorite places to come (especially departing New Jersey in the winter) is the Delray Beach Jewish community”. He heaped praise upon Rabbi Jack and Miriam Engel for their leadership and spoke about the importance of the OU partnering with Anshei Emuna in the broad approach in outreach to the entire Jewish community.  Over 500 people came out to hear him throughout the weekend which included a gourmet Friday night dinner, a sermon Shabbat morning and a Melave Malka on Motzei Shabbat at where he melded his passion for torah and Eretz Yisroel by speaking about  “The Event That Changed Jewish Destiny: An Analysis of the 6-Day War and its Aftermath”. Rebbetzin Yael gave an insightful discourse on Megillat Esther following the Shabbat morning

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Extending the Lessons of Lag B’omer into a Year Long Initiative Rifki Orzech


ixty years after the destruction of the Second Temple, the 24,000 students of the legendary Rabbi Akiva, perished during a terrible plague. Then, the tide turned—on the 33rd day of the Omer, Lag B’omer, they ceased dying. As children, we learned that the students suffered this horrible consequence because of their lack of mutual respect. A narrative taught to impart a solid lesson on unity, brotherly love and communal responsibilities. In order to heal a shared tragedy, we needed to acknowledge and engage with the other more than ever. Judaism can never be something learned from books, Judaism is lived and shared. You can’t make the world a better place while sitting in an ivory tower. You can however, “Make the world a better place, together”. And that is precisely the motto of the One Jewish People Project—an ambitious initiative

to encourage dialogue and unity between disparate Jewish groups through acts of kindness and altruism. The initiative models the living and sharing of a dynamic Judaism through projects that proclaim—“we will take responsibility for our actions and for each other”. The Project is one of those big ideas that will ensure the spirit of Lag B’omer is advanced in new ways that can go viral in the best ways possible. At the forefront of taking communal responsibility throughout the year, you’ll find Yad Ezra V’Shulamit, an organization in Israel that provides everything from food baskets and daily hot meals for children, to helping the youngsters with their homework, as well as offering them afternoon activities so they have a normal childhood. They also help

the parents find work, starting off with assisting in writing resumes and learning how to interview —whatever they can do to help Israelis in desperate poverty get back on their feet. No Jewish Israeli is turned away. Not only do they consistently assume responsibility for our nations’ emotional

and physical needs, on a deeper level they empower families to succeed; to rediscover identities and individuality that can be suppressed during hard times. Impoverished families face internal conflict every day. However, when understood that Yad Ezra V’Shulamit has their back—they can stand straighter, they can achieve. The lessons of Lag B’omer are about keeping people alive, spreading education, helping others and most of all- taking pride in who we are. You can extend those lessons throughout the year by supporting the people who support our people. This year as you celebrate by the bonfire, singing and enjoying the barbecuing, take a moment to remember how far we’ve come and that the long list we have yet to complete can be done —together.

Helping The Elderly and Holocaust Survivors Among Us


n many instances in Israel, elderly people, especially those who live on their own a long distance away from their children or loved ones, do not receive the help that they need and deserve. One of United Hatzalah’s community outreach programs known as the Ten Kavod project aims to counteract this trend. The project is an initiative of the organization that helps elderly people, among whom are many holocaust survivors, monitor and maintain their health as they continue to age. The project which started with three volunteers just 6 years ago, now boasts some 580 medically trained volunteers from across the country, Jews and non-Jews alike.   As part of the project, the volunteers visit at least one, but often times quite a few elderly people, at least once a week and provide them with a free in-house medical checkup and some much needed social companionship. In an effort to catch medical problems before they become threatening, the volunteers check the vitals of the elderly person or persons whom they are visiting, and should they

find something abnormal, the volunteer phones the person’s family doctor and reports the information. “Our volunteers are dedicated to helping others, specifically the elderly, and they often create real bonds of friendship with the elderly people whom they visit,” said the project coordinator Shmuel Rosengarten. “The program participant often looks forward to these visits as being the highlight of their week,” he added.   Moshe Abdelhak is one such volunteer in Tevaria. He lives with his family and is himself, post-retirement. “There is always work to be done,” said Abdelhak. “I do this simply so that I can help others and it is making an impact on both the life of the person I visit as well as on my own.” In addition to his Ten Kavod volunteering, Abdelhak is a volunteer EMT. “Each week I visit three senior citizens in my own neighborhood, each of whom is in a fragile state. I check up on them, make sure that all of their medications are in order and that they understand what they have been given, and offer my help with anything else that needs to be done. It is

very gratifying to me knowing that every week I get the opportunity to help some of the people who built this country,” Abdelhak concluded. Another Ten Kavod volunteer is Michal Kaneh. When Kaneh heard about United Hatzalah’s Ten Kavod program, she signed up right away. Kaneh visits Meir, an older Israeli who was born and raised in Europe. When Meir was only 10-years-old, World War 2 broke out and his family members were taken to a concentration camp. Meir however, fled on foot. He managed to evade the Nazis and their accomplices and miraculously survived the war. Later, he made his way to Israel, married, and began life anew.   Decades later, Meir is suffering from a number of health problems. His wife suffers from dementia and the couple requires constant monitoring. Kaneh visits Meir every week. The visits last at least an hour, sometimes two. Kaneh checks Meir’s vital signs and monitors his conditions, making sure to detect health problems before they escalate. Sometimes, during these visits, Meir even discusses

his past. One time, Meir’s treasured recording of his Holocaust survivor testimony got damaged and wouldn’t play. This recording included testimonies of his escape and precious stories about his family members. Kaneh knew how critical these memories are to Meir, and reached out to Yad Vashem. She succeeded in getting a duplicate made from their records and promptly had it delivered to Meir to ease his mind. “These people have gone through so much our volunteers feel that it is there duty to help them now that they have a need for it,” said Founder and President of United Hatzalah Eli Beer. “We train our volunteers to offer these services in a way that provides these elderly people with all the dignity that they deserve. The volunteers help them keep track of their medications and check-ups, give them a social outlet and help prevent many medical emergencies from happening by maintaining a level of preventative medical intervention prior to an emergency occurring. This  is the least we can do for the venerated elders of our communities.”

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Torah Thought

Parshas Shemini By Rabbi Berel Wein


ow are we to view and deal with the unavoidable tragedies that occur to all of us in our lifetimes? No one really escapes unscathed and untroubled from life in this world. The nature of human beings is that we are all mortal and therefore sadness and tragedy are always waiting for us in the wings. As such, the story of the death of the two elder sons of Aaron as recorded for us in this week’s Torah reading has personal relevance to all of us. In fact, all of Torah deals with our current lives and circumstances, even if perhaps it is not visible to our limited eyes and minds. But this startling narrative of tragedy

incense offering that had the power to arrest plague and save lives also had the ability to be lethal if used incorrectly and without G-dly command and instruction. The deeper, transcendent and overriding message of understanding the heavenly system of justice in the world, both on an individual and national basis, certainly escapes our understanding and thinking. What can certainly be learned from the words of the Torah is the reaction of Aaron to this shocking tragedy. The Torah records for us that Aaron remained silent. Jewish tradition holds that this type of reaction to tragedy is a correct and worthy one.

Truth be told, there is really nothing that can be said to explain the judgments of Heaven.

and death striking the great family of Aaron and Moshe suddenly and without warning, marring the great day of anticipated celebration at the dedication of the holy Mishkan/Tabernacle, strikes us as being particularly poignant and depressing. This is especially true because the tragic events were so unexpected and, to a great extent, remained inexplicable at least in ordinary human terms and understanding. There is an obvious lesson that the

I have written often about the value of silence as exemplified in Jewish life and tradition. But here in the face of tragedy and unequaled personal pain, silence is perhaps the only reaction for human beings. Truth be told, there is really nothing that can be said to explain the judgments of Heaven. This is one of the reasons that in visiting the house of a mourner one should not speak unless and until the mourner has spoken. People should avoid saying things that are banal and

trite for they bring little comfort and consolation to those who are bereaved. The entire book of Iyov teaches us the futility of railing against Heaven or of attempting to explain rationally what is essentially irrational and beyond the scope of our understanding. It is interesting to note that throughout the world hospitals contain signs that ask for silence. This is

not only for the comfort of the patients but is also a reminder that there is really nothing significant to say. Sympathy comes from the heart and not from the tongue. The greatest comfort one can bring to another human being many times is merely one’s own presence without having to express any words. Shabbat shalom.


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Psychology Today

Going the extra mile!

Kindness Begins At Home Dr. Yaakov Siegel




o you treat yourself as well as you treat your friends and family? There is a new area of research in psychology called “self-compassion” that focuses on the importance of being kind to your self. Too often, people are supportive and understanding of others while quietly demeaning and berating themselves. Some of us have a running list of our own failures and shortcomings; we tend to hold ourselves accountable for the slightest infractions. New research suggests that it would be healthier if we would just give ourselves a break. Dr. Kristin Neff is a professor at the University of Texas at Austin who found that the amount of self-compassion we have for ourselves directly relates to our levels of anxiety and depression. Her research shows that those who are nice to themselves tend to be happier and more optimistic. This is a novel idea; the prevailing popular notion, as evidenced in the myriad self-help books, is mostly concerned with what we are doing wrong and tells us that we need to change. Dr. Neff says that most people live with the erroneous belief that if they were more accepting and kind toward their self, if they practiced “taking it easy,” it would inevitably lead to over-indulgence and character ruination. Surprisingly, she found that self-compassion has the opposite effect. According to Dr. Neff, people who are hard on themselves achieve less and are less happy while those who treat themselves with kindness generally lead more productive lives. “Many people believe self-criticism is what keeps them in line,” Dr. Neff said, “Most people have gotten it wrong because our culture says being hard on yourself is the way to be.” According to Dr. Neff, self-compassion increases our motivation for self-care. She says, “the reason you don’t let your children eat five big tubs of ice cream is because you care about them. With self-compassion, if you care about yourself, you do what’s healthy for you rather than what’s harmful to you.”

I do not recall the name of the professor from my first graduate-level Family Psychotherapy course, but I have vivid memories of this big-bellied Hispanic Psychologist imparting practical life advice and helpful clinical direction. Many of the things that he taught have aged well over the years. One was this: “when working with couples or families, there will be multiple opinions and many sides to each issue. Remember,” he said, “you are not a judge.” That was really helpful and great advice. It is so true, we are not the judge. Not the judge of our children, not the judge of our neighbors and not the judge of our selves. In rare cases, a person needs to be judged and when that is the case, we call them to beis din, where judges are employed. Outside of the courtroom, there is no place for judgment. A doctor is there to heal, a teacher to teach, a parent to love and educate. Only a judge is asked to pass judgment It is important for us to refrain from judging ourselves. It is in our best interest to act responsibly and to do what is right so that we continue to grow. All the while acting with compassion and accepting ourselves without prejudice. Dr. Neff warns against misusing her construct of self-compassion as an excuse to become “too self-interested, too self-absorbed.” She reminds us that self-compassion is about taking the perspective of “kindness toward ourselves.” It does not mean that it is all about me all of the time; rather, it is a reminder that imperfections are expected and that they are ok. Kindness begins at home.

Dr. Siegel is a licensed psychologist in private practice. He has held positions in Federal and State institutions providing clinical services and psychological assessment.  He also served as clinical coordinator at an addiction center where he supervised and trained staff.   Dr. Siegel can be reached at 732-8061513 or drsiegel@siegelpsychological. com

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Late one night a mugger wearing a ski mask jumped into the path of a well-dressed man and stuck a gun in his ribs. “Give me your money,” he demanded. Indignant, the affluent man replied, “You can’t do this – I’m a U.S. congressman!” “In that case,” replied the robber, “give me my money!”

Taxing Comments • “Taxation with representation ain’t so hot either.” -Gerald Barzan

• “People who complain about taxes can be divided into two classes: men and women.” -Unknown

• “The income tax has made more liars out of the American people than golf has.” -Will Rogers

• “More than ever before, Americans are suffering from back problems: back taxes, back rent, back auto payments.” -Robert Orben

• “The difference between death and taxes is death doesn’t get worse every time Congress meets.” -Winston Churchill • “If you are truly serious about preparing your child for the future, don’t teach him to subtract—teach him to deduct.” -Fran Lebowitz • “[On filing for tax returns:] This is too difficult for a mathematician. It takes a philosopher.” -Albert Einstein • “In this world nothing is certain but death and taxes.” -Benjamin Franklin

• “Isn’t it appropriate that the month of the tax begins with April Fool’s Day and ends with cries of ‘May Day’?” -Rob Knauerhase • “We’ll try to cooperate fully with the IRS, because, as citizens, we feel a strong patriotic duty not to go to jail.” -Dave Barry • “How is a mugger different from the Internal Revenue Service? Both take your money, but the mugger doesn’t make you fill out forms.” -Jacob Sullum

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Taxing Trivia 1. What is IRS an acronym for? a. Invisible Rattle Snakes

2. Which of the following states has no income tax?

golf courses around the country – on planes which are flying spas. It’s very hard for them, and hopefully the federal income tax helps us line their pockets well enough to reward them for all of their hard work.

a. Delaware

b. It’s Really Stealing

b. Florida

c. I Remain Solvent... barely

c. Utah d. California (ha, ha, ha)

d. It Really Stinks

f. Intentional Raiding Society g. Incredibly Rude and Smug h. Internal Revenue Service….and all of the above…ding! ding! ding!

a. To pay politicians who sacrifice so much for the greater good. Whereas most Americans travel in luxury, they are forced to travel in big, black Suburbans, driven by scary looking security guards. They are also forced to travel – to various

4. D 5. A- The sale of illegal drugs is taxable in North Carolina. Of course, the drug dealers wouldn’t report the income if it meant that they would be busted for the sale. So the way it is set up is that the dealer would go to the authorities — anonymously, of course — and pay a tax based on the weight and the type of drugs he was holding. He would be given a tax stamp, not

 Answers

3. Federal income tax was first established for which purpose?

b. To fund bridge and tunnel projects c. To fund the Civil War d. To fund World War I 4. The FBI employs 36,000 people. How many people are employed by the IRS?

d. 114,000 5. If someone sells illegal drugs in North Carolina is he obligated to pay tax on it? a. a. Yes b. b. No 6. Approximately how many words is the U.S. Tax Code? a. 300,000 b. 700,000 c. 1.2 million d. 4 million

a. 12,000 b. 56,000

1. H 2. B- The other states with no income tax are Alaska, Nevada, South Dakota, Texas and Washington (state, not D.C. obviously, which has that whole “taxation without representation” shtick that they cry about all day). 3. C- In 1862, in order to support the Civil War effort, Congress enacted the nation’s first income tax law. Good job, Confederates, way to go!

e. Very Bad Agency (Perhaps that doesn’t make sense...I just did my taxes, nothing makes sense right now)

c. 73,000

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unlike the tax stickers on cigarette packs. The dealer could then place the stamp on the drugs he is selling. Needless to say, the drug dealers – for some odd reason – don’t comply. (Come to think of it, the lawmaker who thought of this plan may have been one of their clients.) 6. D- Maybe as a punishment every politician in Washington should have to read all 4 million words.


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Yom Hashoah

Holocaust Memorial: Risk, Regret & the Johan van Hulst Story Johan van Hulst and his allies rescued 600 Jewish children. For the rest of his life his main regret was not saving more. Dr. Yvette Alt Miller n 1943, Johan van Hulst, who recently died at the age of 107, was the newly-appointed principal of a teachers training college in Amsterdam. With two young children at home during the war, it would have been easy for him to turn a blind eye to the Nazi occupation of his city and not interfere with their policies. But Mr. van Hulst wasn’t that type of man. An avid chess player, after his regular city chess club banned Jewish members, he’d helped organize secret chess tournaments and meetings where Jews and Christians played. A committed educator,


to concentration camps, primarily Auschwitz and Sobibor, where the vast majority were murdered. By the end of the war, only 5,200 had survived. Of those 107,000 Jews who were deported to death camps, almost all passed through the theatre at 24 Plantage Middenlaan. In that makeshift prison, the Nazis separated Jewish children from their parents, setting up a macabre nursery section in which Jewish babies and children were held until they were deported and murdered. This children’s area had a garden, which was separated from its neighbor’s garden by only a low hedge. The garden

the Dutch resistance to help smuggle the children to safety outside of Amsterdam. Resistance workers would take the children to safe houses, carrying them either in laundry baskets or bicycling away with the children, pretending they were their own kids. In the summer of 1943, the entire rescue operation almost came to a halt when a Ministry of Education official came to inspect the training college and spotted children hiding. The inspector asked Johan van Hulst whether the children were Jewish. There was a long silence. Finally, Mr. van Hulst replied, “You don’t really

suspicion and all the children would be doomed. “Now try to imagine 80, 90, perhaps 70 or 100 children standing there, and you have to decide which children to take with you… That was the most difficult day of my life. You realize that you cannot possibly take all the children with you. You know for a fact that the children you leave behind are going to die. I took 12 with me. Later on I asked myself: ‘Why not 13?’” Following the closure of the makeshift prison and the deportation of the Jewish workers who had helped him smuggle children to safety, Johan van Hulst contin-

he worked hard to keep open his Protestant teachers training college even when it fell foul of Nazi ideology and lost its government funding. When he realized that Nazis were deporting and killing Dutch Jews, he refused to stand idly by. Instead, Mr. van Hulst created a huge underground network, smuggling Jewish children to safety. Ultimately, Mr. van Hulst and his allies managed to rescue 600 Jewish children and babies. For the rest of his life, he said his main regret was not saving more. In 1941, soon after occupying Amsterdam, German authorities requisitioned the Hollandsche Schouwburg, a historic old theatre on the imposing boulevard Plantage Middenlaan. There, they began imprisoning the country’s Jews. About 25,000 to 30,000 Jews in the Netherlands managed to go into hiding, with approximately two thirds surviving the war. 107,000 Dutch Jews were deported

located on the other side of the hedge belonged to Johan van Hulst’s teacher training college. Soon, Mr. van Hulst had concocted an audacious plan. Workers would surreptitiously pass Jewish babies and children over the hedge, to safety in the college. Mr. van Hulst cultivated a network of helpers. On the side of the prison, five Jewish prisoners, Walter Suskind, Betty Ouderk, Harry and Sienei Cohen, and Henriette Piemantal, were tasked with looking after the children. Within the teacher’s training college, most staff and some students were aware of these rescue activities. The college’s elderly janitor, a hero named Mr. van Wijngaarden, was particularly involved, helping rescue and house the Jewish children. Once the children were in the college, Mr. van Hulst dedicated rooms to house them, then got in touch with members of

expect me to answer that, do you?” Instead of alerting authorities, the inspector only warned him, “In God’s name, be careful,” and left the operation intact. In late September 1943, word came that the children’s wing at the prison was to be cleared out; all remaining babies and children would be deported. The Jewish prisoner in charge of these children, Virrie Cohen, contacted Johan van Hulst to make one more plea for help. “The crèche is crowded,” Mr. van Hulst later recalled her saying. “Please come and take a few children with you and put them up in the college for the moment, and maybe they will be picked up today.” What happened next was to haunt Johan van Hulst the rest of his life. There were scores of children imprisoned in the theatre, all facing certain death. Mr. van Hulst realized that if he took too many with him, he would arouse

ued to work with the Dutch resistance. At the close of the war, he was forced to go into hiding when the Nazis issued a warrant for his arrest. After the war, Mr. van Hulst entered politics, serving as a Dutch senator for 25 years and as a member of the European Parliament from 1961 to 1968. The school he ran and where he sheltered Jewish children is now the Netherland’s National Holocaust Museum. In 1972, Johan van Hulst was awarded the title “Righteous Among the Nations” by Israel’s Yad Vashem. In 2015, Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu thanked Mr. van Hulst for his heroism and humanity. “We say, those who save one life save a Universe,” Netanyahu explained. “You saved hundreds of universes. I want to thank you in the name of the Jewish people, but also in the name of humanity.”

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A Sit-Down Q&A with Yeshiva University on the #GivingDay2018 #YUHero Campaign Dina Tzur, Senior Editor of The Florida Jewish Home


he Florida Jewish Home (FJH) was privileged with a unique opportunity to speak with Yeshiva University’s Alyssa Herman, who talk to us about of YU’s upcoming “Charidy Day: A Day of Giving 2018” a crowdfunding campaign where every donated dollar will be matched, ensuring YU’s tenured excellence in community engagement, education, research & innovation. The FJH: We’re very eager to hear about YU’s Day of Giving, a 24-hour online crowdfunding campaign. What’s its mission? Yeshiva University’s second annual Giving Day will take place on April 25th - 26th and will join students, alumni, parents and supporters to help support the YU of  tomorrow.  Our goal is to encourage past, present and new donors to help fund the University’s undergraduate, graduate and high school communities, as well as scholarships, student life activities and many other critical programs. This year, every school and program in the University is participating in the campaign, which will give donors the opportunity to donate directly to the schools and programs which are most meaningful to them.   The FJH: So beyond the $10 million dollars already raised from major donors, dollars given on this giving day will be matched? Yes.  A group of dedicated Yeshiva University benefactors have committed $10 million in honor of President Berman’s inaugural year.  They have in turn challenged the community to raise an additional $3 million in a 24-hour period on

the Day of Giving. The FJH: What’s the theme of the day, of the campaign? The theme of the campaign is “YU Hero” and will highlight the heroic character of Yeshiva University students. This theme allows us to explore and visually showcase the “superpowers” of the YU community by focusing on all the accolades, achievements, and inspirational stories that have emerged from the everyday heroes of YU. Our students, faculty and alumni comprise a powerful and heroic movement, rooted in Jewish values and committed to building a better world.   The FJH: Who are some of the “heroes” of YU? Our students, faculty and alumni are all YU heroes by virtue of their hard work, their commitment to Jewish values, and their drive to build a better world. Our campaign is designed to help students and all participants identify and acknowledge their own YU heroes by featuring online challenges, social media messaging and student engagement challenges. This will help showcase YU heroes’ accomplishments, spread the word about the campaign, and encourage everyone to participate and celebrate YU.   The FJH: I see that community engagement is of utmost importance to YU -- what are some examples of these practices? There are countless rabbis, educators and community leaders in North America who received training at YU. These

leaders are enmeshed in synagogues, day schools, community centers and beyond. YU also gives back to the community through many dynamic programs, including; the Kathryn O. Greenberg Immigration Justice Clinic at the Benjamin N. Cardozo School of Law; and the Care Cafes, an initiative from the Wurzweiler School of Social Work that offers free, traveling, psycho-educational community resources to support individuals and families seeking help and information around issues of concern. The FJH: Do Alumni play a role in YU’s future? We are immensely proud of our accomplished alumni who give back to YU not only by supporting us and our pro-

grams, but most importantly, by sending their children back to YU. Our alumni network is second to none in the leadership roles our alumni play both within the Jewish community and professionally across all industries.  Our alumni serve as ambassadors at large for Yeshiva University helping recruit students, support fellow alumni, and serve as university leaders to help drive our institution forward in excellence.    The FJH: We wish you much success with the campaign, thank you for the time. Your tax-deductible donation is welcome & greatly appreciated. Giving Day begins April 25th, and donations can be made at


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Health & F tness

Spring Training Get Your Body Back Into Healthy Shape By Aliza Beer MS, RD


esach is behind us, and now is the perfect time to get back into healthy eating and exercising. The spring and summer months are optimal times of the year to lose extra pounds and increase physical strength. There are a number of reasons why this time of year is more conducive to weight loss and increased levels of activity. The weather will warm up, (eventually!) and the days are getting longer. This, in turn, will lead more people to start walking and biking after work or school. Warm weather directly affects water consumption. The more water you drink, the more full you will feel and therefore you will consume a little less food. The spring and summer seasons also brings with it a plethora of delicious fruits and veggies to snack on. The beautiful weather and sunshine helps many with their emotional health, as they feel less depressed and are not seeking comfort foods like mac ‘n’ cheese. Many people suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder in the colder months and try to eat their way out of the depression. Whether or not you gained weight over the winter or Pesach, now is the best time to get back into healthy eating habits. • Eat Less Red Meat: We had more than our fill of lamb and roasts over Pesach. Red meat is higher in fat and calories than chicken. Try to keep your red meat consumption to no more than two servings a week and choose lean meats. Always cut or trim off any visible fats. • Eat More Fiber: Fiber expands in your stomach and makes you feel full. It also slows the rise of your blood sugar and helps keep your bowel movements regular. Every meal should include some kind of fiber, either from vegetables or whole grains. Some high fiber

veggies are Brussels sprouts, artichokes and broccoli. Roast them in the oven with a little olive oil or Pam and season with your favorite seasonings like salt and pepper and throw in some fresh garlic for extra flavor. • Avoid White Flour: This is one of the fundamental basics for good health. Banish white flour from your life. White flour converts into sugar quickly and will spike your blood sugar, which in turn spikes your insulin level. Only eat high fiber, whole grain, or whole wheat breads/crackers/cereals. Some examples are Fiber One or All Bran cereals, steel cut oatmeal, Ezekiel bread or Dave’s Killer bread, Wasa crackers, or

should consist mostly of fruits. Everyone should eat an apple a day. They are extremely rich in antioxidants, flavonoids, and dietary fiber. Berries are also super healthy, being high in antioxidants and fiber, and blueberries and strawberries contain compounds that help widen the arteries. • Drink Water: Don’t touch soda or juice! They are pure sugar and a complete waste of calories. Everyone should be drinking 8 cups of water a day. If you don’t love water, then try seltzer or flavored seltzer. You can flavor your water by buying a special cup with a “cage” in it for frozen fruit. This can be purchased in Bed, Bath, and Beyond or on Amazon.

Helpful hint: drink a full glass of water right before each meal and you will lose weight.

GG Bran Crispbread crackers. • Avoid Sugar: Sugar is the poison in the American diet. By eliminating sugar, you will also eliminate most baked goods that contain tremendously unhealthy fats as well. If you must have a treat like a cookie or biscotti, bake it with applesauce, stevia or agave and use whole wheat flour, oats or almond flour. Add blueberries or a little bit of dark chocolate shavings. • Fill Up on Fruit: We will now have a variety of vitamin-packed, high fiber fruits to choose from. Your snacks

Put in your favorite frozen fruit like strawberries or mango and fill the bottle with water. The frozen fruit will naturally flavor your water. Helpful hint: drink a full glass of water right before each meal and you will lose weight. The water acts like an appetite suppressant and you will eat less at each meal. • Portion Control: Over yom tov we get accustomed to eating larger portions. It’s OK to cut back now and eat a little less. Our dinner plate is called a portion plate, and half of the plate should consist of vegetables, a quarter

of it the protein, and a quarter of it the whole grain carb. If you cannot fit all of your food onto one plate, then you are taking too much food. Diet tip: eat until you are satisfied, not until you feel full. Once you are no longer hungry, walk away – you are done! • Get Moving: Exercise will burn off those unwanted calories, strengthen your heart and bones, and release endorphins that will elevate your mood and general feeling of wellbeing. There is no downside to it. Not everyone is cut out for boot camps or spinning classes. Just do something every day, whether it’s walking, biking, or swimming. Participate is some kind of cardio for at least 30 minutes a day. This is the perfect time of the year to change your life by addressing your diet and exercise habits. Starting to eat healthier now will have a lasting impact on your mind and body in the longterm. By transitioning into the warmer weathered seasons, your body is poised to move more, drink more water, and eat healthier. However, in order to succeed, you must start with a plan to take advantage of this time of year. Be persistent and focused. Some days will be better than others, and that’s OK. Life is not perfect. Implement my suggestions, but don’t view this as a diet, only as a way of life. A gitten zimmer!

Aliza Beer is a registered dietician with a master’s degree in nutrition. She has a private practice in Cedarhurst, NY. Patients’ success has been featured on the Dr. Oz show. Aliza can be reached at alizabeer@

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Dating Dialogue

What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

Dear Navidaters,

My mother raised me and my siblings, from an early age, to be very practical when it came to marriage, career, and finances. She married very young, was never able to pursue a career, and she and our father always struggled somewhat financially. So from early on, the message was that we get our master’s in whatever field we choose and then, at age 22 or so, would begin to date and worry about marriage.

Even though my friends came from homes with totally different messages, I respected my mother’s opinion and had every intention of following her advice and not even date until I had a degree in hand. After Israel, my friends were busy with shadchanim and dating and I was on a totally different page and I was O.K. with that. My mother’s advice made sense to me. I’m in law school and, despite my lack of any effort, I met a guy in class. It really came from left field. We just happened to have sat next to each other in class, and coming from the most innocent of places, we began to chat and get to know one another. We found we really had a lot in common and had a tremendous chemistry together. After class, we would sometimes go out for a cup of coffee or just take a walk together. We both have several more years of school ahead of us and I really don’t know what to do. I know that if I mention him to my parents, they will go ballistic! This was not the plan! But I really am developing very strong feelings for him, and I know the feelings are mutual. He wants to start “officially” dating and I’m afraid to rock the boat. I always assured my parents that I agreed with their sentiments and I don’t want to disappoint them. On the other hand, I have friends who are already complaining to me about their dating and how difficult it is to be set up with someone wonderful. How should I handle this?

Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions.

Our intention is not to offer any definitive

conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.



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The Panel The Rebbetzin Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, M.S. espectful communication is the way to go. Make sure to acknowledge the practical aspect of your parents’ experience and approach as well as the high cost of your law school education. We can safely assume that you took out student loans to pay for school as your parents don’t have means. This means that you are already in debt. Tell your parents that you appreciate the training they gave you in life skills and being prepared to support oneself. You need to mean it. Show them that you value the fact that you had to earn your pocket money and get summer jobs. Need has made you stronger, more inde-


pendent, and motivated. Statistics show that people who earned money when they were kids earn more later in life. Nonetheless, share with them that opportunities do come your way and you want to start dating someone you met at school. Reassure them that this doesn’t mean you are disregarding their approach. Show them that you are practical and are not committing to marriage while still in school, and demonstrate that you understand debt, budgeting family finances, and what costs are involved in raising a Jewish family. You will not rush into something but you want to explore your relationship with this young man and see where it goes. Hashem is the ultimate shadchan and you will see if this relationship with a fellow student is one of His matches.

Your parents will worry that you will marry the first guy you date. Their concerns about your debt are valid, and they are nervous about you going forward with someone who cannot support you yet. Be frank yet be sensitive to their fears. Bring him home and have them meet him informally so that they can see his positive qualities. Take it slow. Be transparent and understanding. And see what develops. The present is not necessarily the future. Most people need to get their feet wet and do not marry the first person they date. Learn communication skills as you go and see what happens as you respectfully keep your parents in the loop about what is going on inside your head and heart.

The Mother Sarah Schwartz Schreiber, P.A. ours is another example of “Mommy plans, G-d laughs!” There are many single women out there – with degrees and impressive salaries – who would trade places with you in a heartbeat. Specifically, they would swap their diplomas for a compatible, fulfilling relationship. If common sense does not conv ince you, consider these facts. There is a large cohort of professionals – I’m talking doctors, accountants, social workers, teachers, and nurses – who are dating and waiting. When they will marm ry, time will tell. There is an equally high number of couples who are finishing college or professional school while enjoying the benefits of a happy marriage. Almost all will graduate. Remember, school years are proscribed and finite. The dating period (AKA, The Parsha) is nebulous, lasting from several

Rules are meant to be broken.

months to who-knows-when. While I can’t predict whether you’ll marry your surprise suitor, I encourage you to give this young man serious consideration. About your mother going ballistic? Trust me when I tell you that, in spite of her “Not-Before-Age-22” caveat, she may privately doubt the wisdom of her logic. Even if she initially balks when you tell her about your “college friend,” I’m sure she’ll give you her blessing if you explain your sincere, carefully considered intentions. Sometimes it takes a shadchan; other times, by the grace of Hashgacha, your bashert may land gently on your doorstep.


The Shadchan Michelle Mond an plans and G-d laughs.” Isn’t it true? Do not miss the opportunity to go out with Mr. Classmate. If your relationship flourishes toward engagement, start by figuring out a financial plan for the first few years until employment. Once you have a solid plan, speak to your parents and disclose your relationship and communicate your plan so that they appreciate your level-headed approach. Don’t fear a negative reaction from your parents. Realize that rules are placed by your parents as safeguards, to instill a mindset and guide your actions to protect you


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from entering into a relationship in which there is no foreseeable plan for financial stability. However, rules are meant to be broken, and when situations such as these arise, your parents will likely be open to considering your individual situation. Indeed, you are both in respected graduate programs and on a path towards financial stability, G-d willing. You might have to tighten your belts for the first few years, but given your career plans, this financial struggle will be short-

lived. Hatzlacha!

The Single Tova Wein hat an unexpected and exciting occurrence. I think you are quite lucky to have met someone worth getting to know in such a natural and easy way. More people


should be so lucky! I think it would be a big mistake not to pursue this potential relationship. My guess is that despite your parents’ general rules, they are open minded enough to understand that life happens and we can’t plan every detail of our lives. Maybe their fear is that you’ll drop out of school or not be able to support yourselves, should this relationship turn into the real deal. I think you need to discuss this with them and assure them that you have no intentions of giving up your schooling and ultimate career and that you’ve given some thought to how you would manage,

It is important to develop your own voice and be able to express it.

should this lead to marriage. Show them that you are mature and have thought this thing through. After a few well- intentioned questions, no doubt your parents will be thrilled for you and encourage you to move forward.

Pulling It All Together The Navidaters Dating and Relationship Coaches and Therapists


h i s r e l at ion s h ip ought to be given a real shot. You have to take it out of the dark and bring it into the light of day, which entails letting your parents know you’ve met someone wonderful. Chemistry, shared interests and strong feelings are hard to walk away from. If you don’t pursue it, you will always be left wondering, Was he the one that got away? Your mother and father raised you with a very admirable message and work ethic. Before you enter marriage, be able to support yourself. Your parents understand how difficult financial strain can be on a marriage and family. And they are right. They love you and they want to shield you from the hardship they experienced and continue to experience. And look at you…they raised you well. Here you are in law school, having absorbed their values and having had every intention of going with the program. You’ve met a wonderful guy. We truly have no control over when the right one

comes into our lives… for better or for worse. What I am sensing from your email is that you are scared to speak to your parents. Maybe you are scared to disappoint them; maybe you are scared of making the wrong decision yourself. I don’t know. And I also don’t know what will happen with this relationship. What I do think is of utmost importance is that you develop the confidence as a young woman to speak directly with your parents about what is going on and what it is that you want. You’re an adult now, soon to be a lawyer. Whatever happens, it is important to develop your own voice and be able to express it, even when you are very afraid of deeply disappointing someone or making them “go ballistic.” So, have you thought about what it is that you want? You have op-

tions. I don’t know where you stand hashkafically, but I know many couples that met in graduate school and either dated until they graduated and got engaged after graduation. Then got married after one or both had jobs. Then, there are those couples that meet in graduate school and for their own reasons decide to get married in grad school. They create a financial plan, living within a strict budget and making it work. For now, put the bigger picture on the backburner, and focus on one task: talking to your parents. Here is a potential script for the conversation with your parents: There’s something important I need to speak with you about. A while back, I met someone in law school. I never planned for this to happen. What I planned was to date after law school, once I was settled financially, in line with the way you have raised me, for which I have the utmost respect. He and I have been spending time together, and we have feelings for one another. I’ve decided that I have to explore the possibility of a real relationship with him. I hope we can

talk about this and approach this as a team. I’m open to discussion and hearing your concerns, and I hope that you’ll be open to what I’m experiencing. Good luck with the conversation! If your parents truly do “go ballistic,” hopefully once they calm down they will be able to hear you. And if they are very tough and unrelenting types with a “my way or the highway” approach, then you will have to decide at what point you are going to give yourself permission to do what you know is right in your own heart. Sincerely, Jennifer Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW are licensed psychotherapists and dating and relationship coaches working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. To set up a consultation or to ask questions, please call 516.224.7779. Press 1 for Esther, 2 for Jennifer. Visit for more information. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email You can follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram for dating and relationship advice.



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Notable Quotes “Say What?!”

If this were the shoe on the other foot – if this were Hillary Clinton being investigated and they went into her lawyer’s office – the ACLU would be on every television station in America jumping up and down. The deafening silence of the ACLU and civil libertarians about the intrusion into the lawyer-client confidentiality is really appalling. The Jewish Home | OCTOBER 29, 2015


I am an observer; I investigate nothing. All I do is look and write what I see and what I hear, and my job — which has nothing to do with truth — is to take what I see and what I hear and write that in a way that readers can come as close as possible — as close as I came — to the experience of doing this. I want to be able to turn what I see into something that a reader says, “Oh, I see that too.” - Fire and Fury author Michael Wolff speaking to the student publication of his alma mater Vassar College and defending his work on President Donald Trump’s administration

Scientists have invented sensors that you can mount onto your teeth to track your diet from inside your mouth. Or, you could just eat less. – Conan O’Brien

– Alan Dershowitz on Fox News following the raid of the home and offices of President Trump’s personal attorney Michael Cohen and the potential “intrusion into lawyerclient confidentiality”

No leader in history has recognized Jerusalem as the capital of the Jews and Israel. [Trump] has already created a great tikkun (reparation) for the Christians through his unprecedented relationship with Jerusalem. Trump is the representative of Edom that will perform that final historic reparation for his entire nation by building the Temple. - Rabbi Yosef Berger, who is the rabbi in charge of Dovid Hamelech’s kever on Mount Zion, in a recent interview with Breaking Israel News

It sounds illogical that the Third Jewish Temple will be built by non-Jews, but rabbinic sources state explicitly that this is what they must do to fix the historic wrongs that were committed. - Ibid.


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To me it’s creepy when I look at something and all of a sudden it’s chasing me all the way across the web. I don’t like that. - Apple CEO Tim Cook talking about online ads and discussing Facebook’s business model in an interview on MSNBC

We could make a ton of money if we monetized our customers, if our customers were our product. We’ve elected not to do that … We’re not going to traffic in your personal life. Privacy to us is a human right, a civil liberty. - Ibid

You know, I find that argument, that if you’re not paying that somehow we can’t care about you, to be extremely glib. The reality here is that if you want to build a service that helps connect everyone in the world, then there are a lot of people who can’t afford to pay and therefore, as with a lot of media, having an advertising-supported model is the only rational model that can support building this service to reach people… But if you want to build a service which is not just serving rich people, then you need to have something that people can afford. - Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg responding to Cook in a Vox interview

Hey Netanyahu! You are an occupier. And it is as an occupier that you are on those lands. At the same time, you are a terrorist. - Turkish President Recep Tayyip Erdogan during a speech on April 1

The most moral army in the world will not be lectured to on morality from someone who for years has been bombing civilians indiscriminately. Apparently this is how they mark April 1 in Ankara. - Prime Minister Netanyahu’s tweet in response to Erdogan

You take my record of accomplishment, you compare it to any governor in modern history, and I think you will see that we have done more. - Gov. Andrew Cuomo in an interview with NY1

I think it’s important that we don’t all get Stockholm Syndrome and let the companies that work hard to charge you more convince you that they actually care more about you. Because that sounds ridiculous to me. - Ibid

It’s not a political statement and I didn’t do this because someone dared me to do it. Just don’t like Facebook. Gives me the willies. Sorry. – SpaceX and Tesla CEO Elon Musk’s tweet after deleting the Facebook pages for both of his companies

This is yet another political move by the Trump administration to implement its white supremacist agenda and to drag our nation back to the false “white paradise” of the 1950s. - Statement by the Council on American-Islamic Relations (CAIR) about the Commerce Department’s decision to ask people in the 2020 Census if they are American citizens – a question which has been on numerous previous censuses

If you want to have an arms race we can do that, but I’ll win. - President Trump to Vladimir Putin during a recent phone conversation, according to an NBC News report



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I believe the Palestinians and the Israelis have the right to have their own land. But we have to have a peace agreement to assure the stability for everyone and to have normal relations. - Saudi Arabian Crown Prince Mohammed bin Salman in a recent interview with The Atlantic, in an apparent shift in policy towards Israel

We have religious concerns about the fate of the holy mosque in Jerusalem and about the rights of the Palestinian people. This is what we have. We don’t have any objection against any other people.

An 80-year-old man in Arizona is on trial for robbing a bank. Apparently, he slipped the teller a note that said, “Do you know why I came in here?” – Jimmy Fallon


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No excuses: there is never a reason to carry a knife. Anyone who does will be caught, and they will feel the full force of the law. - London’s Mayor Sadiq Khan tweeting about London’s new policy of not allowing people to carry knives because of a dramatic increase in knife attacks in the city

I tried to do it in a way that didn’t overtly involve me. - Bill Clinton in an interview with Israel’s Channel 10, confessing that he intervened in the 1996 Israeli elections to try to help Shimon Peres defeat Benjamin Netanyahu

[Netanyahu] wanted me to know that he knew I wasn’t for him and he beat us anyway… And he was being very “Bibi.” … I wasn’t so much angry as just bemused by the brashness with which he played his hand. But that’s who he is. He did a very good job of it. – Ibid., recalling Prime Minister Netanyahu’s first visit to the White House after winning the 1996 election


I worked almost continuously to clean until the holiday came clean and I did not have time to think about the extra task that I had this year. During the holiday, my rabbi came to me and asked me why I did not come to sell chametz this year. Then I remembered that I had actually forgotten to sell the chametz. - A grocery storeowner in Yerushalayim recalling to Kol Berama how he forgot to sell his chametz before Pesach because of the absence of his brother, who had been responsible for the sale for many years

We took out the chametz and completely burned it. I was left with a loss of NIS 50,000 but Jewish law is Jewish law. - Ibid.

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Political Crossfire

Trump is Threatening to Repeat Obama's Mistakes By Marc A. Thiessen


uring the 2016 campaign, Donald Trump excoriated President Barack Obama for “the way he got out of Iraq,” which Trump said “was the founding of” the Islamic State. As president, Trump reiterated during a meeting with Iraq’s prime minister that “we should never ever have left. A vacuum was created.” Trump was right. Obama’s withdrawal did create a vacuum the Islamic State quickly filled. So why is Trump now threatening to repeat Obama’s mistakes by withdrawing U.S. forces from Syria? The president recently announced that U.S. troops will be “coming out of Syria ... very soon” because “we were very successful against ISIS” and it is time to “let the other people take care of it now.” That is exactly the rationale Obama used when he pulled U.S. forces out of Iraq. The terrorists had been driven from their strongholds, and, according to then-CIA Director John Brennan, they had just “700-or-so adherents left.” So Obama decided, with the Islamic State apparently defeated, that it was time for the United States to come out and let Iraqis “take responsibility for their country.” But when Obama took the boot off of the terrorists’ necks, it allowed the Islamic State to regroup and reconstitute itself. Trump corrected this catastrophic mistake when he took the gloves off our military and drove the Islamic

State from its physical caliphate. He deserves credit for this achievement. But the Islamic State is not defeated; it has simply reverted into an insurgency and remains a terrorist network with global reach. And it is not the only terrorist threat in Syria. Al-Qaeda also has an army there waiting in the wings to replace the Islamic State. According to the Institute for the Study of War and the American Enterprise Institute’s Critical Threats Project, “Al Qaeda ... is

its strongholds by working with Kurdish proxies despised by Turkey. If the United States leaves, Turkey will go after our Kurdish allies, leaving the Islamic State free to regroup and reconstitute – just as it did after Obama’s disastrous withdrawal from Iraq. That’s not all. A U.S. withdrawal would create an Obama-style vacuum that would be filled by Iran, Hezbollah, Russia, and the Assad regime. Iran and Syrian President Bashar

If Trump pulls out of Syria now, he will leave behind a haven for al-Qaeda.

more dangerous than ISIS” because although they share “the same aims as ISIS, including the intention of attacking and destroying the West,” al-Qaeda is less focused on developing a physical caliphate and more on “insinuating itself inside Sunni insurgencies by harnessing popular grievances ... while continuing to build capabilities that could be turned against the West.” If Trump pulls out of Syria now, he will leave behind a haven for al-Qaeda. And his withdrawal could also precipitate the comeback of the Islamic State. The Trump administration drove the Islamic State from

al-Assad would escalate their brutal campaign of atrocities in Syria – including crossing Trump’s red line on the use of poison gas – which would radicalize the Sunni population, driving them into the waiting arms of al-Qaeda. This could also create a new refugee crisis, with hundreds of thousands of Syrians fleeing to the West. An Obama-style withdrawal from Syria could also free Iran to establish a massive military presence in southwestern Syria, which could spark a catastrophic war with Israel. Israel recently shot down an Iranian drone that had infiltrated its airspace

from Syria and accused Iran of building sites in Syria to produce precision-guided missiles. Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu said that Israel “will not allow a regime hell-bent on the annihilation of the Jewish state ... to entrench itself militarily in Syria,” and warned that if Iran tried to do so, Israel would act “not only against Iranian proxies that are attacking us, but against Iran itself.” If our goal is to protect Israel and constrain Iran, withdrawal from Syria would do the opposite. What should Trump be doing in Syria? He should maintain a U.S. presence to secure our military’s gains, protect our Kurdish allies, keep the Islamic State down and prevent al-Qaeda from capitalizing on the Islamic State’s demise. He should prevent Iran from entrenching itself in Syria, expanding its military presence and threatening Israel. And in the longer run, he should be working to separate the Sunni population from al-Qaeda by cultivating Sunni partners in Syria who are allied with the United States against the Salafi-jihadist cause, as well as the growing Iranian-Russian-Assad-Hezbollah alliance. The temptation to declare victory in Syria and withdraw is understandable. But before he does so, Trump should ask himself: What would Obama do? Then he should do the opposite. (c) 2018, Washington Post Writers Group


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