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Dear Readers, kah also invokes another similar type of emotion within me. It’s a feeling of warmth that is formed when families and friends get together, our happiness is so much more because our night is shared with them.

Dear Reader, Growing up, I looked forward to Chanukah for weeks and I couldn’t wait for those eight days and nights. Now that I’m an adult, I look forward to Chanukah because it is a special time. But I also see it as a time of balance, excitement and happiness for my children, which makes it even more special to me. When I was younger, I was immersed in the spirit and joy of Chanukah, and I thought the whole house was transformed once those candles were lit and the parties began. I am sure every household is the same. We all get caught up in the excitement, each in our own way. There’s a certain pride in driving down the street at night and seeing the windows in dozens of homes emblazoned with the glowing lights of the menorah. I love driving down streets that are not primarily Jewish and seeing the flickering glow in the lone Jewish home on that road.  We may be few, but our strong candles can shine brighter than all the neon lights that garishly light up the streets during this time. Chanu-

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My children started their Chanukah preparations and projects already, and are so excited to decorate the walls and windows with all their beautiful crafts. Speaking about Chanukah pictures, make sure to take part in our Chanukah Around Town giveaway. We want to see how our TFJH readers celebrate Chanukah. Send us photos with your family and friends celebrating Chanukah and you will be entered into a raffle to win a Chanukah gift card. As Chanukah quickly approaches I look forward to spending it with my family and friends, and of course a couple jelly donuts will be the icing on the cake.

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peached. New presidential elections will take place 60 days after their ruling.

Sharia Law Reigns in German City S. Korean President Impeached

The president of South Korea has finally been impeached after months of scandal and protest. Tens of thousands of anti-government protesters took to the streets of Seoul to celebrate the end of President Park Geun-hye’s term in office. For now, Park’s position is suspended while the country’s high court decides what to do with the parliamentary vote of impeachments. Among other accusations, Ms. Park is accused of letting her close friend profit from her connections with the presidency. In the meantime, Prime Minister Hwang has become the acting president. The day after the impeachment, Hwang addressed the nation of South Korea. He sought to calm nerves and reassure the people of his country as to their economic and security status. “So far, financial and foreign exchange markets have been relatively stable and there are no signs of unusual movements by the North [Koreans], but all public servants should bear vigilance in mind,” Hwang cautioned. The vote to impeach Park was passed with a count of 234 to 56. The overwhelming numbers mean that members of her own Saenuri party voted against Park. Park’s friend, Choi Soon-sil, to whom Park is accused of giving special favors, faces charges of coercion and abuse of power. Allegedly, when Park became president in 2013, Choi used her influence over Park to pressure big corporations to donate funds to foundations under her control and then siphoned off money for her own personal use. Prosecutors have accused Park of playing a “considerable” role in the alleged corruption. The Constitutional Court has 180 days to decide on the impeachment. If they do uphold the vote, it will be the first time a sitting Korean president has been im-

In the western German city of Wuppertal, Muslim men often walk the streets, wearing orange vests with the words “Sharia Police.” The seven men were charged with wearing uniforms of a political nature at public rallies. But recently, a German court ruled that the vigilante patrol of Islamists enforcing Sharia law on the streets of the German city did not break German law, and that its members were simply exercising their right to free speech. The law was originally instituted to prevent neo-Nazi groups from parading in public. The November 21 ruling declared that the vests were technically not uniforms and did not pose a threat or intimidation. The court ruled that prosecuting the seven Salafi Islamists would infringe on their freedom of expression. Though it may be appealed, the decision authorizes the “Sharia Police” to continue enforcing Islamic law in German cities, encouraging them in their bid to replace German law with Islamic Sharia. Salafism is a virulently anti-Western ideology that openly seeks to replace Western democracy with an Islamic government based on Sharia law. It has long been feared that the Salafists have made major encroachments into the German legal system. But German courts increasingly defer to Islamic law because either the plaintiffs or the defendants are Muslim, writes Soeren Kern for the New York-based Gatestone Institute. Specifically, though German law states that “a legal standard of another State shall not be applied where its application results in an outcome that is manifestly incompatible with the essential principles of German law,” German courts often do precisely that. For instance, in July 2012, a court in the city of Hamm ordered an Iranian man who immigrated to Germany to pay his estranged wife €213,000 ($225,000) as part of a divorce settlement, based on their Sharia marriage agreement. Kern cites some ten other similar rulings. It is also noted that while polygamy is illegal under German law, the phenome-

non is commonplace among Muslims in all major German cities. “In Berlin, for example, it is estimated that fully onethird of the Muslim men living in the Neukölln district of the city have two or more wives,” Kern writes. The country’s largest newspaper, Bild, expressed its outrage after the Wupperal ruling that the country was “capitulating to Islamic law.” It stated, “Even if we still refuse to believe it, parts of Germany are ruled by Islamic law! Polygamy, child marriages, Sharia judges — for far too long the German rule of law has not been enforced. Many politicians dreamed of multiculturalism... This is a question of law and order. If the rule of law fails to establish its authority and demand respect for itself, then it can immediately declare its bankruptcy.”

Terror at Soccer Stadium in Istanbul Saturday was a tragic day in Turkey after a double bombing killed 38 people and wounded dozens of others. The twin blasts went off near a soccer stadium on Saturday evening. Authorities believe that the blast that killed 30 police officers was intentionally aimed at police. Seven civilians and an unidentified person were killed as well. As of Monday, 136 people remained hospitalized after the attack, including 14 critically.

The first and larger explosion went off at about 7:30 p.m. after the home team Besiktas beat visitor Bursaspor 2-1 in the Turkish Super League. Erdogan said that it is obvious that the timing of the attack was intended to maximize the loss of life. Witnesses claim to have heard gunfire following the explosions. The bomb originated from a passing vehicle and was detonated at the stadium exit in an area where police special forces were located. It appears to be that a riot police bus parked there was the intended target. The second explosive went off just moments later when a driver was stopped by authorities in nearby Macka Park and then triggered the explosives in another suicide attack. Forensic experts in white uniforms searched tirelessly through the night for clues. They scouring the surrounding area of the stadium and the park. Authorities have determined that about 300-400 kilograms of explosives were used in the attack. Istanbul has been subjected to terror by the Islamic State group and Kurdish militants recently. A state of emergency was issued following a failed July 15 coup attempt. Turkey is a partner in the U.S.led coalition against the Islamic State and its armed forces are active in neighboring Syria and Iraq. The U.S. Consulate General in Istanbul urged its citizens to avoid the area in Istanbul, which is also home to a Ritz Carlton hotel. Turkey’s radio and television board issued a temporary coverage ban citing national security concerns. It said “to avoid broadcasts that can result in public fear, panic or chaos, or that will serve the aims of terrorist organizations.”

Millions of Toys Confiscated in Venezuela Turkey’s Interior Minister Suleyman Soylu told reporters that 13 individuals were arrested in connection with the “terrorist attack.” No terrorist group claimed responsibility for the killings but two officials said that fingers are being directed at Kurdish militants. Prime Minister Binali Yildirim declared Sunday a day of mourning and ordered flags to be raised at half-staff across the country and at Turkey’s foreign missions. “We have once again witnessed tonight in Istanbul the ugly face of terror which tramples on every value and decency,” Turkish President Recep Tayyip Erdogan said.

I guess it’s because of Chanukah, but for some reason during the month of December, toys sales increase exponentially worldwide. But not this year in Venezuela. Many Venezuelans are calling President Nicolás Maduro “El Grinch” after officials confiscated nearly 4 million toys from a toy distributor, accusing the company of price-gouging during the end-ofthe-year season. The toys were confiscated from Krei-


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The Week In News sel-Venezuela, the largest toy distribution company in the country. Consumer Protection Agency head William Contreras defended the move saying that the company doesn’t “care about our children… they say w’’re stealing the toys from this company, but,” he accused, “the company committed fraud against our country.” the government has announced that the 3.821 million toys will be made available to families in the country’s poorest neighborhoods at below-market prices. At least two people have been detained in the investigation. The government said that some of the toys were purchased by Kriesel over 8 years ago and were being kept in storage so they could be sold at a much higher profit margin at the end of the year. In some instancesm the profit margins were 25,000% higher than usual. Under the socialist government in Venezuela, toys are a regulated item that must be sold at government approved prices.  The consumer protection agency has asked the government to restrict Kreisel executives from leaving the country during the investigation.

for being a member of the group in 2014. “This strike really hurt us and caused us much pain, but it will not break us,” el-Sissi vowed at a state funeral for the victims. “G-d willing, we will win this war.” He added, “As long as we are together as one, we will definitely win, because we are people of goodness, not evil, and people of building, not destruction.” For many decades, Christians in Egypt have complained of not receiving enough protection from the Egyptian government. They have continued to be outspoken about anti-Christian discrimination even under the rule of el-Sissi.

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Suicide Bomb Kills 24 in Cairo

President Abdel-Fattah el-Sissi of Egypt has confirmed that the explosion that killed 24 Christians in a Cairo chapel was set off by a suicide bomber. The bomb was one of the deadliest attacks to ever target Egypt’s Coptic minority. 22 of the victims were women. The Copts make up about 10 percent of the country’s population. The group strongly supported the military overthrow of elected Islamist President Mohamed Morsi. Since the coup, Islamic militants have committed dozens of attacks, mainly focusing on security targets. The suicide bomber in the most recent attack, which also injured 49 people, was 22-year-old Mahmoud Shafiq Mohammed Mustafa. Three other men and two women have since been arrested in connection with the attack. While no terror organization has taken credit for the carnage, it is speculated to have been carried out by the Muslim Brotherhood, as Mustafa was arrested

We’re known as the People of the Book, so it’s no surprise, that we’re pretty educated. In a study produced by the Pew Research Center that was published on Tuesday, Jews were found to have four more years of schooling on average than the next-most educated group, Christians. In all, Jews worldwide receive, on average, 13 years of schooling; Christians receive only nine. Muslims and Hindus are the least-educated religious groups, each with about 5 1/2 years of formal schooling. The global average is less than eight years. Jews led the groups in several other categories. Jewish men and women have the smallest average gap in years of formal schooling at zero (Hindu women, on the other extreme, trail men by 2.7 years). Jews were the most educated in the 55-to-74 category. Sixty-one percent of Jews have at least some post-high school education; the global average is 14%. Ninety-nine percent of Jews have had some formal schooling. Among Jews worldwide aged 25 to 34, women are more educated than men. Jewish women in that age group have more than 14 years of formal schooling on average, and nearly 70% have attended some form of higher education. Jewish men in

that cohort, by contrast, have an average of 13.4 years of formal schooling, and 57% have had higher education. While 81% of American Jewish men aged 55 to 74 has had higher education, the number drops to 65 percent among those aged 25 to 34. Pew attributes the decline to the growth of America’s Orthodox Jewish population, which attains formal secular education at lower rates than non-Orthodox Jews. American Jews have the highest rate of higher education, at 75%(compared to 40% of Americans generally), and have an average of 14.7 years of schooling. Jewish Israelis have an average of 12 years of schooling, and 46% have had higher education. The least educated Jewish population is in South Africa, where Jews have an average of 12 years of schooling, and only 29% have higher education. But that’s pretty impressive considering that in the country as a whole, only three percent of the population has a higher education. Jews in Israel have far more education, on average, than Muslim Israelis, though the gap is narrowing. Among the oldest Jews and Muslims, there is a nearly sixyear gap in formal schooling. Among Jews and Muslims aged 25 to 34, however, the gap shrinks to 3.7 years.

much improved era of U.S.-Israel relations. Bibi has consistently been one of the most outspoken critics of the Iran deal. He has said that he thinks there are “various ways of undoing” the agreement. During the campaign, Trump called the Iran deal “one of the worst deals ever made” on multiple occasions. The Iran nuclear deal calls for Iran to limit its nuclear program in exchange for the lifting of international sanctions on its finances and oil industry. Many are skeptical that the Persian regime will be curtailing their nuclear program, even though they agreed to do so.

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Hamas, the Palestinian terror organization, is in a sharing mood this month. Gaza-based Hamas official Fathi Hammad has generously offered to lend rockets to any Arab army that is willing to use them against Israel. The announcement was made on Al-Aqsa TV this week. Although 80% of Hamas’s rocket arsenal was destroyed in 2014’s Operation Protective Edge, according to Former Defense Minister Moshe Ya’alon, the organization has been re-growing its supplies over the past two years. They now produce rockets on an industrial scale inside the Gaza Strip. Any Arabs that are willing to team up with Hamas can expect to be supplied with upgraded Qassam rockets and the new longer-range M-75, which is capable of reaching Tel Aviv. The group has also been trained to produce Iranian Fajrs, which have a reported payload of up to 175kg worth of explosives and has acquired Syrian-made M-302s. Although a huge percentage of Hamas fired rockets miss their intended targets, tens of people have been killed by them since 2007. Since Hamas-controlled territories are under blockade, the materials used to make the bombs have to be smuggled in by tunnel, sea, and via the Kerem Shalom truck crossing. Trucks are often caught carrying ingeniously disguised cargo through the crossing. Still, under these

Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu shared his hopeful feelings about his relationship with Donald Trump on “60 Minutes” this week. Netanyahu said that he hopes to be able to accomplish many things together with the president-elect, most important of which is dismantling the Iran nuclear deal. “I know Donald Trump,” Netanyahu told “60 Minutes,” “And I think his attitude, his support for Israel, is clear. He feels very warmly about the Jewish state, about the Jewish people. There’s no question about that.” The relationship between the Obama administration and Bibi Netanyahu has often been strained over the past eight years. Netanyahu said in the interview he “had differences of opinion” with Obama and that the “most well-known, of course, is Iran.” There is a strong sentiment among Israel’s right wing that the Trump administration will bring about a new and very

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Trump: TIME’s Person of the Year For the 90th time, TIME has named its Person of the Year, the person who had the greatest influence over the events of the past year. So it’s not a surprise for those who have not been sleeping through 2016 that one of the most talked about politicians earned the title. Yes, Donald Trump is TIME’s Person of the Year, much to the Democrats’ dismay. Adding insult to injury, TIME revealed that Hillary Clinton was at the top of the short list. The real estate mogul-turned-politician will take up residence at 1600 Penn-

sylvania Avenue in a few short weeks. His photo for the cover of the annual issue was taken at his current residence in Manhattan in his apartment overlooking Central Park, located in Trump Tower. While his supporters are optimistic, his critics are still tantruming in the streets and this release surely adds fuel to the fire. TIME magazine clearly states the person selected is “for better or worse” and does not reflect approval or popularity. Just look at past awardees: In 1938, Adolf Hitler won the title and in 1939 and 1942 it was Joseph Stalin, so the accolade is not necessarily positive. Since the list’s inception, every recent president of the United States has been named Person of the Year at least once with the exception of three – Calvin Coolidge, Herbert Hoover, and Gerald Ford.

Make America (and Russia) Great Again

It has been suspected that Russia intentionally made moves to sway the

presidential election in favor of Donald Trump. Last week The Washington Post reported  that the CIA confirmed the suspicion. According to the Post, unidentified officials claim to have identified individuals connected to the Russian government who gave WikiLeaks emails hacked from the Democratic National Committee and top Hillary Clinton aide John Podesta. Those emails revealed unflattering backstories to the DNC and the Democrat Party. According to the liberal media, this revelation raises the question for some over whether Clinton would have won without the intervention, angering both Trump and Clinton supporters. Of course, even if this conspiracy is proven true, it would not affect the legitimacy of Trump’s victory. It is not voter fraud to sway voters’ opinions, especially with the use of true dirty little secrets. Following the article, the White House was sure to reiterate that it is impossible to directly attribute Trump’s win to any single factor. While Democrats and even some Republicans are pushing for further investigation on the matter, President-elect Donald Trump dismissed the accusations. In his interview with Time magazine for his “Person of the Year” award, Trump suggested that the interference could just as likely been a lone wolf in New Jersey as from the Russian government. “I don’t believe they interfered,” Trump said. “That became a laughing point — not a talking point, a laughing point. Any time I do something, they say, ‘Oh, Russia interfered.’” Trump added: “It could be Russia. And it could be China. And it could be some guy in his home in New Jersey.” Trump did mention several times on his campaign trail that he desires a better relationship with Russian President Vladimir Putin. Over the weekend Trump’s transition team released a statement that read: “These are the same people that said Saddam Hussein had weapons of mass destruction. The election ended a long time ago in one of the biggest Electoral College victories in history. It’s now time to move on and ‘Make America Great Again.’” On Monday, Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell (R-Ky.) strongly condemned any foreign interference with U.S. elections and announced that the Senate intelligence panel will investigate Russia’s suspected election interference. “The Russian are not our friends,” McConnell told reporters at a scheduled year-end news conference. Echoing McConnell’s push for an investigation, Senate Minority Leader Charles E. Schumer (D-N.Y.) vowed that any inquiry would focus on “just the facts.” “We don’t want to point a finger and

I don’t want this to turn into a Benghazi investigation, which seemed, at least to many people, to be highly political,” he told “CBS This Morning.” “This is serious stuff, when a foreign power tries to influence our election or damage our economy, for that matter. This is serious and it’s gotten worse. And a bipartisan investigation that’s not aimed at one specific instance but looks at the broad scope of this is just what’s needed.” “You have the CIA saying one thing ... The FBI is saying something else. We need to get to the bottom of this in a fair, nonpartisan, non-finger-pointing way,” Schumer insisted. Schumer will be privy to top-level intelligence briefings until he is formally installed as a Senate leader early next year. But he said that based on information that he is aware of, “there’s no doubt about the hacking – let’s establish that.” “I was hacked into, my [presidential] campaign in 2008 was hacked into, so there’s no doubt about the hacking,” John McCain added. “Then the question is about the intention. But it’s all about the larger issue about the cyber threat we face from Russia, China and other countries. It’s another form of warfare and the entire issue is going to be investigated by the Armed Services Committee because it’s a threat to our national security.”

Iconic Astronaut Dies at 95

Many tots dream of growing up to be an astronaut and travel to outer space, although few actually get to realize their dream. John Glenn did. Glenn was the first American to orbit the Earth. His accomplishment spurred the nation to send out the Apollo missions and enabled a man to walk on the moon. On Thursday, the American astronaut passed away at the ripe old age of 95. Glenn had been a distinguished fighter pilot in both World War II and Korea. In 1962 Glenn orbited Earth three times. This was at the height of the Cold War, and Russia was winning the space race. The nation waited with bated breath to see if Glenn would make it back donwn to


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The Week In News Earth. A few minutes after liftoff, Glenn’s Friendship 7 capsule reached orbit. People listened in with excitement and awe. “Roger, zero G and I feel fine,” Glenn relayed from space. “Capsule is turning around. Oh, that view is tremendous!” Glenn’s successful mission gave America hope that they can combat the Russian giant. After he resigned from NASA, Glenn went on to win a U.S. Senate seat from Ohio. He served from 1974 to 1999, and even attempted to garner the nomination for president of the United States. Glenn was the true American hero. Just before his death, Glenn penned a letter to Amazon founder Jeff Bezos. Bezos is also a space enthusiast and founded space company Blue Origin, a privately-funded aerospace manufacturer and spaceflight service with headquarters in Kent, Washington. In the letter dated November 28, which was presented to Bezos at an awards ceremony Thursday evening at the Smithsonian Magazine American Ingenuity Awards, Glenn wrote that in 1962, when he took his historic flight, “you were still two years from being born.” When Glenn returned to space in 1998 on a space shuttle mission at age 77, becoming the oldest person to go into space, “you were already driven by a vision of space travel accessible not only to highly trained pilots and engineers and scientists, but to all of us,” he wrote. Bezos’ goal is to have “millions of people living and working in space.” Bezos hopes to fly paying passengers on trips starting in 2018. A future goal is to conduct an orbital flight. The company is in the process of building a new rocket that is expected to be launched by the end of the decade. It will be named New Glenn. In his letter, Glenn said he was “deeply touched” that the rocket was named after him. “As the original Glenn, I can tell you I see the day coming when people will board spacecraft the same way millions of us now board jetliners,” he wrote. “When that happens, it will be largely because of your epic achievements this year.” In 1998, Glenn became the oldest person to fly in space when he spent nine days aboard the Discovery at the age of 77. His mission generated excitement from the public for NASA, but the shuttle program was eventually closed. In a 2011 forum at the Smithsonian National Air and Space Museum, Glenn lamented its closing. “The average person [was] better educated ... back years ago than most people in the world. And then we put more into basic research and learned the new things first,” he said. “That little combination is just as true today. If we lose that edge in research and education, we won’t be a leading nation in the world. It’s that simple.”

Is DDT the Answer? They’re multiplying and some have Zika…eek! The U.S. mosquito population is on the rise and many are claiming it’s because of the ban on the insecticide DDT. A recent study conducted by researchers from Rutgers, the University of California, Davis, and the University of California, Santa Cruz, published an article in Nature Communications ascribing the disappearance

of DDT concentrations as well as urbanization to an increase in mosquitoes over the past half century. Back in 1972 the Environmental Protection Agency banned DDT due to claims that it affects mosquito-eating wildlife, particularly birds and raptors. The use of DDT has been debated for years. In 2006 the World Health Organization (WHO) reversed its 30-year phaseout of the insecticide by recommending indoor spraying in African nations beset by epidemics of malaria, a potentially deadly mosquito-borne disease. In 2015

WHO reported an estimated 214 million cases of malaria and 438,000 deaths. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reported 43,937 cases of West Nile virus from 1999 to 2015, with 1,911 deaths. “Mosquito populations have increased as much as tenfold, and mosquito communities have become two- to fourfold richer over the last five decades,” the paper said. “These increases are correlated with the decay in residual environmental DDT concentrations and growing human populations, but not with temperature.” However, environmental groups are

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Boeing & Iran Iran closed a deal this week with Boeing Co. to purchase 80 aircrafts. This is the first major agreement between a U.S.

company and the Islamic Republic since Iran and Western powers concluded the nuclear accord that removed sanctions on Tehran in July 2015. The agreement was implemented in January of 2016. The Boeing deal sealed on Sunday is valued at $16.6 billion, based on the company’s list price, which doesn’t include typical discounts. European rival Airbus Group SE has a similar deal for jet sales to Iran pending.

Since the deal involves a state-owned airline it must receive approval from the U.S. Treasury, State Department and Congress. But many are suspecting that President-elect Donald Trump may intercede to stall, or stop, the tentative approaches many companies have already made. Trump has been open about his Orthodox K - 5 Elementary School

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disapproval of the Iran deal and has said that he opposed commercial openings with Iran. Iran requested 15 of Boeing’s 777300ER long-haul jets and 15 of the newer 777X wide-body aircraft under development, as well as 50 737 Max single-aisle jets. Previously, Boeing said it could be forced to trim production of the existing 777 jet unless they received fresh orders on top of the 5,700 jet orders valued at almost $500 billion. Iran’s transport minister, Abbas Akhoundi, said the deal was “the first step for the renovation of the country’s aviation fleet.” Replacing aircrafts for Iran Air has been a priority. The carrier operates some of the world’s oldest airliners after years of sanctions, some imposed after the Iranian revolution in 1979. Boeing and President-elect Trump have had tense exchanges lately. Last week, Trump loudly criticized the future plan for Air Force One jets that come with an outrageous price tag. It is unclear whether or not Boeing informed the incoming administration about the Iran sale, but the company said in a written statement that the deal has the potential to sustain thousands of U.S. jobs. They also promised to work with Mr. Trump on the cost of the Air Force One deal. Many other companies are pursuing business with Iran. German conglomerate Siemens AG, French oil giant Total SA, French telecommunications firm Orange SA, and British telecom giant Vodafone Group PLC have been in talks or have hinted to potential collaborations. There are also many companies that have resisted any talks because they are anticipating resistance from a heavily Republican government. “Iran is a big market and there’s potential there, but we’re not sure how the sanctions are going to go,” said Anubhav Singh, the head of global sales and marketing at Afripipes, a South African telecommunications-equipment company exploring an entry into Iran. “We are being cautious and seeing how things pan out in the next five or six months.” Abercrombie & Kent Co., a luxury travel agency that recently started offering $5,695 guided tours of Iran for Americans, doesn’t have plans to pull back their programs. It will react in response to changes in government policy if necessary, spokeswoman Pamela Lassers said. “We are hopeful that President-elect Trump’s extensive business and hospitality background will make him receptive to the value of the travel industry,” she said.

RIF: Reading is Forever

Grandpa Fred is really well-read. The 100-year-old, who pedals his three-wheeled bicycle around his town of Madison, Wisconsin, likes to be busy. “When you get as old as I am, you have to find things to occupy your time,” Leidel told the Wisconsin State Journal. Among those things: Exercise that includes weightlifting and swimming laps, volunteering for the Experimental Aircraft Association — Leidel spent 37 years teaching at the University of Wisconsin-Madison’s college of Engineering, where he was also an associate dean — and at least one time, skydiving. But the most impactful and productive days of his week are the two days that he pedals over to Schenk Elementary School and reads to kindergartners there. The kids love their “Grandpa Fred” and look forward to his stories. “I like when he reads books to me, and I like it that whatever books you want to read and how many books you want, he does it,” Alaura Villarreal, who once had Leidel read seven books to her, told the State Journal. Teacher Lindsay Snyder explains, “So many of our kids don’t have other opportunities to read a lot of books at home. … His purpose for reading is really for fun. It gives them a role model of someone who gives back to our neighborhood.” This week, Leidel celebrated his birthday and still intends to keep on going. “As long as I am able to get over here,” Leidel promises.

Emoji What? This week, Today Translations, a London-based company, announced an opening for a new job. The job is really new – it’s first of its kind ever. Want to apply? Better brush up on your emojis. The company is looking for an emoji translator and is seeking an expert in deciphering


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The Week In News and translating the expressive, electronic messaging symbols we all play with on our phones. “Emoji translation is itself an emerging field – but one dominated to date by software, which is often insensitive to the many cultural differences in usage and interpretation,” the company said. “We are therefore seeking an exceptional individual to provide the human touch needed where translation software is inadequate – and to help us become the go-to translation experts in this area.” Responsibilities of the job include client, stakeholder and internal emoji translation, a monthly report on the emoji uses and trends across different cultures, and cross-cultural emoji research. Already 30 people have applied for the freelance position and will have to take a test on emoji proficiency. Perhaps this expert can help me out a bit. Which smiling face emoji should I choose? And why do some have teeth and some do not? And what’s up with the moon emoji and the clapping hands emoji? Could we all just use our words?

Bundespraesidentenstichwahlw-

iederholungsverschiebung

Take a deep breath, flex your muscles, crack your knuckles and prepare to say Austria’s word of the year. Even if you speak German, you may have some trouble pronouncing the ginormous word. Drumroll, please. Austria’s word of the year is Bundespraesidentenstichwahlwiederholungsverschiebung, which means “postponement of the repeat of the runoff of the presidential election.” Phew. We thought it had something to do with that nasty cold we just can’t beat. The tongue-twister was born of the record time it took to elect Austria’s president and was announced following a poll of 10,000 people carried out by the Research Unit for Austrian German at the University of Graz, in cooperation with the Austria Press Agency. A first round of elections in April was followed by a May runoff between the two most popular candidates. This was

annulled because of irregularities. A new date set for October was then postponed because of faulty absentee ballots to December 4, when the vote was won by Alexander Van der Bellen. Trust the German language to make things so complicated and tortuous to say.

Rich Coffee

Depending on your taste, a cup of coffee can cost you a dollar or maybe four dollars. Do I hear anyone spending $7 on their morning caffeine fix? Well, as long as it brightens your day. But when does a cup of coffee cost you at least $20,000? When the person sipping across from you is the president-elect’s daughter and confidante. The website CharityBuzz.com is auctioning off “Coffee with Ivanka Trump

in NYC or DC,” with an estimated value of $50,000. And many are vying for the chance to sip java with her. So far, the bidding for the cup of joe is at $23K – and there’s still a week to go. Money from the auction goes to the Eric Trump Foundation. What will the lucky winner get when he or she finally snags the prize? Just 45 minutes of coffee talk (no, Linda Richman will not be attending, although she will urge you to discuss) at the Trump Tower in NYC or Trump International Hotel in D.C., “dependent on Ivanka’s schedule.” The room will be crowded, though, as the Secret Service will be looming in the background. Remember to use a napkin while drinking your brew. “We expect all winning bidders and their guests to conduct themselves appropriately when attending an experience won at Charitybuzz. Polite manners and respect for the generous donor and adherence to any rules or parameters are a must,” the website warns. Oh, and travel and accommodations are not included, although you will be allowed to take a photo with Ivanka. If you’re spending $23K on coffee, it’s assumed that you have your own private jet to take you to the coffee shop. You know what they say. Some things, among other things, are better rich: chocolate and coffee.


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Tuesday, December 27th, 2016

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the Theatre @ Olympic heights community high school -20101 lyons rd. Boca RatonTicket Prices: VIP $100, $50, $25, $20 • Family & Separate Seating Available For more information call

561-465-2200

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Concert generously sponsored by Linda Love Golden


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Around the Community Friendship Circle Presents: ‘Bike 4 Friendship From Miami To Key West' Join us this President’s Day weekend as we ride 180 miles over two days through the magnificent Florida Keys to benefit children with special needs. This is a fully supported bike trip; a true cyclists dream! Accommodations in luxurious hotels, delicious kosher catering, bike transportation back to Miami, and even valet bags straight to your hotel room. We will set off from the Hebrew Academy of Miami Beach and finish at The Hilton Key Largo Resort, culminating in a seventy-five mile ride. Day 2 will continue with another ninety five miles from the Hilton Key Largo Resort to the finish line at The Double Tree by Hilton Grand Key West Resort. The route will be fully marked with SAG (Support and Gear) along the way. Pit stops stocked with energy drinks,

snacks, ice cold water, lunch and plenty of Friendship Circle enthusiasm will be open every 15-miles/1.5-2 hours of riding.

So what are we riding for? The Friendship Circle is a not for profit organization that provides programming and support for children with special needs and their families. The organization is one of the fastest growing Jewish organizations that caters to such children, with nearly 80 locations globally. Friendship Circle has facilitated connections between

5,000 children with special needs and 11,000 teen volunteers. This bike ride not only raises funds for the organization, it raises awareness as tens of cyclists, support vehicles, and media teams traverse the tropical terrain down the Florida Keys. In their distinctive Friendship Circle jerseys, the riders will be seen by thousands of motorists and hundreds of pedestrians. When folks inquire, we inform them of our mission; that no kid with special needs should feel alone. Whether you are a former professional cyclist, or a novice, we would love to see you out on the ride. Head on over to https://bike.teamfriendship.org to sign yourself up and start fundraising and training today.

The Jewish Retiree Club The Jewish Retiree Club offers intriguing lectures, fascinating workshops and enjoyable activities. These events are a framework for increased vitality, happiness and good health. The Jewish Retiree Club is a project of United Jewish Generations and it takes place every Sunday from 1:30 to 3:30 PM during the winter

months. The location is the Waterways Shoppes 3575 NE 207th St on the first floor next door to the ice cream shop. Some of our featured presentations are: Archaeological Exploration Seminar, Scribal Arts Workshop, Interactive workshops, Educational films and Inspirational Speakers such as Channel 7 Rosh Lowe

and Published Authors Dr. Don & Phyllis Stoltz. There is a suggested donation of $10 for each event (unless otherwise noted) which covers the lecture, presentation and refreshments. Parking is available free of charge. These events are made possible thanks to our sponsors: Adult Day of

Aventura and Hampton Court Nursing Home and Rehab. For more information or to make a reservation, email reserve@unitedjewishgenerations.com or call 305-770-4540. Find out about our other events at www.UnitedJewishGenerations.com

Awesome Toys That Teach: Three Tips for Buying Toys Which Promote Language Development Avivit Ben Aharon MS ED., MA CCC SLP As we gobble down the last bite of our Thanksgiving pumpkin pie, it officially becomes gift buying season. And toys are always on everyone’s gift list. As the mom of four boys, I firmly believe that when it comes to toys, more is not merrier. And in my role as speech pathologist, here is my holiday motto: Let’s move away from the techy toys, stop hunting for the coolest and newest playthings and instead focus on gifts which promote creativity, appropriate social skills and self-expression…skills which last a lifetime And it is easier than you think. This refocusing is particularly important for children with speech and language issues where a toy can become a resource, increasing their chances for success. The right toy can teach a child essential social skills such as patience, the importance of waiting for your turn and how to be a successful teammate as well as vocabulary, reading and memory skills. And with so many games now available in Spanish and

other languages, the playing field is leveled for everyone. Here are some of my favorites: Traditional toys like blocks, dolls, cars and trains may look old fashioned by are excellent communication skill builders. Because they do not speak, you have too! And the more you talk, sing or show your creative side, the greater the chances your kids will too. Board and card games are the ultimate social engager. In addition to building a culture of family fun, board games are timeless. My favorites include Twister, a golden oldie which is great for teaching direction as well as body and spatial awareness, Apples to Apples, the ultimate game to teach vocabulary and word usage and Zingo, a fast-paced variation of bingo, which improves vocabulary and reading skills, matching, and memory. Hedbandz is also a winning and engaging way to master critical thinking. Puzzles provide a superb opportunity to promote spatial intelligence as well as problem solving skills. The best part is

your child can play solo or you can make it interactive by adding other players. And if you do break down and are lucky enough to find this year’s blockbuster must-have toy, Hatchimals, don’t sweat it. In addition to increasing your

child’s coolness factor, Hatchimals reinforces nurturing skills and the importance of delayed gratification Can you receive too many toys? An overabundance of gifts presents

lots of unique opportunities. There is the option of donating or you can categorize and rotate them. Older children can be involved in the process, a perfect opportunity to teach the art of making choices, sequencing and delayed gratification. Rotating toys allows for repetition, an effective strategy for children with speech and language issues. It also changes the perception of a toy from being “old” to “new” every time you bring it out. And perception is reality. Avivit Ben Aharon, MS ED., MA CCC SLP is founder and clinical director of Gr8 Speech Inc. , an innovative online speech therapy solution. Gr8 Speech utilizes video conferencing technology to provide live, interactive, highly individualized services worldwide. Avivit is an experienced private practitioner working with children and adults and firmly believes in the power of speech therapy to unlock possibilities. For more information, please visit www.Gr8speech.com or call 954-247-8757.


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Jewish Heritage Night – ‘Celebrating Hanukkah with the Heat’ South Florida Jewish basketball fans have the opportunity to celebrate Chanukkah and cheer on the hometown Miami Heat with Goran Dragic and Hassan Whiteside as they take on the Oklahoma City Thunder with Russell Westbrook during the 9th Annual Jewish Heritage Night on December 27, 2016. The event, which begins at 6 p.m. at American Airlines Arena  is coordinated by Chabad of South Florida with the participation from the Heat organization. Rabbi Pinny Andrusier, a co-organizer for the event, noted that Jewish Heritage Night has grown over the years as more and more people attend every year, including those from around the country who fly in for it. “It’s more exciting than previous years and it’s truly become the Chanukkah event that everybody wants to attend.” Jewish Heritage Night features a pregame performance before the game that begins at 6:00 p.m. and a menorah lighting on the court at the end of the first quarter. There will also be a grand meno‫־‬ rah lighting during halftime at the arena's new digitally enhanced East Plaza. Per‫־‬ formances by Jewish recording artist Yoni

Z, illusionist Ilan Smith and the Rogers Park Band will also take place at the East Plaza. Following the game, there will be a free- throw-shot and Chanukkah party on the court. Glatt kosher barbecue and food sales will be served and Jewish t-shirts and souvenirs will also be distributed free to all Jewish Heritage Night ticket holders. Andrusier praised the Heat organization for being so accommodating over the years. “I don’t know of any other arena that stops play between the first and second quarter and tells everyone to rise and celebrate with the prominent Jewish population. I’m proud of the Heat that they acknowledge it by celebrating Chanukkah and lighting a proper menorah during the game. The great applause we’ve gotten speaks volumes of how appreciative the Jewish community is of the ceremony.” The event’s halftime festivities have featured participation from several officials over the years, including last year with NBA all-time great Alonzo Mourning, Miami-Dade County Mayor Carlos Gimenez and Florida Lt. Gov. Carlos López-Cantera.

“You have to give a lot of credit to the Miami Heat organization for recognizing Jewish Heritage and what better way to do it than on Hanukkah,” Gimenez said. Former Heat Power Forward-Center Amar’e Stoudemire, who played with the team in the 2015-16 season, praised the organization’s efforts while interviewed following last year’s Jewish Heritage Night. “I think they show an appreciation for all cultures and religions. They do a good job of making everyone feel comfortable

being a Miami Heat fan.” Vi s i t j e w i s h h e r i t a g e n i g h t . c o m , call 305-504-8440 or email Info@JewishHeritageNight.com for more information or to purchase discount tickets, or to find out how your child can get on the court to greet the Miami Heat players. This Press Release is courtesy in part by Sergio Carmona, the Sun-Sentinel, Chabad of Florida, the Miami Heat Organization and Jewish Heritage Night.

Sha’arei Bina Students Learn the Importance of Better Together We all know that certain things are better together, like peanut butter and jelly, love and marriage and Torah and Gemilut Chasadim. But what about students and senior citizens? Research has proven the value of intergenerational programs which purposefully bring together people of different generations in an ongoing, mutually beneficial planned program with specific goals. “Gone are the days where classes came and performed at a nursing home. Successful programs are interactive and involve reciprocity on part of both the seniors and students,” explained Mrs. Rivkah Bodkins, Director of Student Activities at Sha’arei Bina. The ninth grade at Sha’arei Bina has embarked on a five-month project together with the residents of Pembroke Plaza where they will engage in both one-on-

one as well as group activities. Before the first visit, the students participated in an orientation session provided by South Florida Psychologist Eli Feldman. “I was a little nervous,” explained Ninth Grader Avigail Roth. “But once we got there, I was excited to get to know them better.” “Excitement is a key emotional benefit of this program,” explained Mrs. Naomi Sprung, faculty member at Sha’arei Bina. “And the sense of appreciation the girls experienced after the initial meeting was even more impactful. One student actually verbalized her gratitude for having siblings after meeting with a resident who had lost her entire family in the Holocaust.” While the first meeting was more of a meet and greet, the next program will involve a discussion about personal values. Paired together, young and old will share their thoughts in a specially-created exercise that will hopefully surprise, delight

and educate. “Midot, chesed and community involvement are three of the core values taught at Sha’arei Bina,” explained Dr. Rochelle Brand, Head of School. “We recognize the importance of connecting young and old to restore a sense of community, provide our students with handson knowledge of the past and inspire our seniors with a glimpse into the future.”


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“Chanukah is Better with Butter.” Breakstone’s Butter is touting butter’s benefits this Chanukah

Butter is making a comeback! This season Breakstone’s is reminding consumers that butter is the best choice for Chanukah cooking and holiday baking. Focusing on the Jewish consumer, Breakstone’s Butter has launched a print, digital and social media marketing campaign: “Chanukah is better with Butter” to communicate with families. From a culinary perspective, butter is a preferred shortening for chefs because of how it boosts flavors blending. In his Food Network show “Good Eats,” celebrity chef/food scientist/humorist Alton Brown creates a mock “court” trial to defend the churned wonder. Calling butter: “this wholesome and versatile food, this friend to cooks everywhere,” Brown says butter, in general, has gotten a “bad rap” by the “the dark agents of industry and media.” While the general market consumer has always known that dairy butter is a must when it comes to cookies, pie crusts and decadent deserts, the kosher consumer often relies on pareve (dairy and meat-free) alternatives so the foods can be consumed freely after a meat meal (conforming to the kosher laws requiring consuming dairy and meat in separate meals). “We understand that kosher cooks tend to use oils and shortenings, but we’re here to remind them that butter is a natural, trans-fat free ingredient that imparts the best flavor and texture for succulent dairy meals,” says Mihira Patel, Breakstone’s Butter Senior Brand Manager. Even teen celebrity chef Eitan Bernath is a fan. “Butter just makes a better pie crust,” notes the 14-year-old blogger who appeared on another Food Network series, “Chopped,” when he was just 11. Bernath has created the recipe: “Chanukah Sugar Cookies with Butter Cream” using Breakstone’s butter which will be featured on social media and other platforms as well. Beyond baking, butter is the spread of choice for bagels & sandwiches for many. A breakfast of coffee and a bagel buttered with Breakstone’s has been the way to start your day for decades. As many Jewish families are gearing up for the holiday, Breakstone’s will be singing butter’s praises for the Festival of Lights. “From dreidel cookies to salmon in lemon butter sauce,” says Patel, “margarine can’t hold a candle to butter.” Chanukah Sugar Cookies with Buttercream Frosting Ingredients: For the Sugar Cookies: 3 cups flour 1 tsp baking powder ½ tsp salt

2 sticks of Breakstone’s Unsalted Butter, at room temperature 1 cup sugar 1 egg ½ tsp vanilla extract For the Buttercream: 2 sticks of Breakstone’s Unsalted Butter, at room temperature 4 cups confectioners’ sugar 2 tsps. vanilla extract 3-4 tbsps. milk Assembly: Blue and White Sprinkles Directions: For the Sugar Cookies: In a large bowl, mix together the flour, baking powder, and salt. Into another large bowl, cream the softened butter and sugar with electric beaters. Add the egg, milk, and vanilla extract into the butter mixture and mix until fully incorporated. Using your hands, press the crumbly dough together until it becomes one ball of dough. Divide the dough in half, wrap each half in plastic wrap, and refrigerate the halves for 1-2 hours. Preheat oven to 350 degrees Fahrenheit. Once the dough is chilled, take one out and roll to 1/8 inch thick. Using Chanukah themed cookie cutters, cut the dough into cookies. Repeat with the second piece of dough. Bake the cookies on a parchment lined baking sheet for 8-9 minutes. Once done, place the cookies on a cooking rack to cool completely. For the Buttercream: Cream together the butter and sugar in a large bowl with electric beaters. Add the vanilla, increase the speed to medium-high and mix until smooth. Adjust the consistency with milk as desired. Use immediately, or refrigerate in an airtight container up to 3 days. Allow to come to room temperature and mix until smooth. Assembly: Using a knife or small offset spatula spread the buttercream onto the cookies. Top with the sprinkles and serve. If not serving immediately, refrigerate then bring the cookies to room temperature before eating.

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Chanukah Marks Birthday Of Chabad In Broward County...Entering 37th Year The 37th Annual South Florida Chassidic Chanukah Festival is getting bigger and better. Considering that over 10,000 people have participated each year since the event was moved to Gulfstream Park in Hallandale Beach back in 2007, the staff and volunteers preparing the upcoming Festival set for Tuesday December 27th, 7PM, have coordinated a star studded program that will guarantee the biggest attendance ever. The crowd will be even bigger than last year, as tens of thousands of tourists, in love with Jewish Music, are expected that week in South Florida.  Avraham Fried will be the featured entertainment, as he will be performing live, in a full fledged concert. Fried began his career with the release of his first album “No Jew Will Be Left Behind” in 1981, featuring the song “Kel Hahodaos”, written by Kol Salonica. In the summer of 2009, Fried made a concert tour in Israel where he introduced Israeli singer and composer Chanan Yovel and featured the songs Rak T’filla and U’Nesane Tokef. His first DVD was released in December 2009. His music is mostly categorized as pop Jewish music, similar to Mordechai ben David and tends to integrate many styles of popular music, including pop, rock and jazz, with Jewish lyrics and themes. 8th Day, which was co-founded by

brothers Shmuel and Bentzi Marcus, is one of Jewish Music’s hottest acts. The group has released four studio albums that get air play regularly on the radio in New York and Israel. They have played hundreds of sold out concerts across the globe, touring in places like Australia, Spain, Israel, Hong Kong, and all over the United States. 8th Day’s fresh and unique sound is complimented by their catchy lyrics (mostly English with some Hebrew and Yiddish mixed in) and their spirited vocal harmonies. Their hit song ”Ya’alili” took the world by storm in 2011 and is still one of the most popular songs in Jewish music today. Their most recent album “All You Got”, was released in June of 2012, and has been critically acclaimed worldwide. It is one of the top selling albums of Jewish music in 2012. Fans and critics alike continue to be enthralled with the creativity and innovation of this oneof-a-kind music group. The Festival takes place in Hallandale Beach, at Gulfstream Park, US1 and Hallandale Beach Blvd.The event is annually produced and directed by Chabad of South Broward, leaders in Jewish Education, social services and community outreach. The last few years, the Chanukah Festival was seen live around the world via Jewish TV @ Chabad.org. It was the most watched Live Jewish TV Show.

People from across the globe, from the Ukraine to Israel, from South America to Australia, were fixed to their screens for the three hour Chanukah production that warmed so many hearts and inspired so many souls. The Festival will honor the Friendship Circle, a program with some 100 branches worldwide, that caters to children with special needs, who are teamed up with local teenagers. These teenagers serve as volunteers and friends of these children with special needs. Other Festival highlights include the lighting of Florida’s Largest Menorah, led by Cantor Rabbi Yossy Lebovics and a large lineup of Community Leaders and Dignitaries, free Chanukah gelt and goodies for the thousands of children in attendance, a delicious dinner (for a nominal fee), and scores of valuable prizes. Rabbi Levi Tennenhaus, the events’ coordinator and Chabads’ Program Director, encourages those who can afford to get reserved seating: “The event, as always, is free. However, in addition to our major sponsors, individuals are entitled to reserve VIP seats for $100 per seat. This will help both the Festival, which runs at an enormous cost as a service to the community, and individuals who want the luxury and convenience to sit up front with their seats reserved exclusively for them

and their families.’’ Chanukah marks the birthday of Chabad of South Broward. The first Chabad Center in Broward County, Chabad of South Broward now runs from their Headquarters in Hallandale Beach over forty-five programs and agencies,, including Project PRIDE, a non-sectarian drug prevention and education program, The Friendship Circle, an incredible interactive program for children and teenagers with special needs, the Chaya Aydel Seminary, Florida’s only Teachers Seminary for Women, the fast expanding CHAI TOTS Preschool and Hebrew School, Bar and Bat Mitzvah Clubs, CTEEN Club, 3 Mikvahs accessible to the physically challenged, Camp Gan Israel, Kollel for Businessmen and Professionals, and 15 Synagogues. Chabad of South Broward is headed by Rabbi Raphael and Goldie Tennenhaus, who came to Broward County, as Shluchim (emissaries) of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, Rabbi Menachem M Schneerson (1902-1994) in December 1980. Log on to Chabadsouthbroward. com for to see the scope of Chabad’s wide range of programs. For more festival information, and to reserve VIP and box seats, please call 954-458-1877 or email levi@chanukahfestival.com, or log on to Chanukahfestival.com.

effect in 2006 and life became so much easier for me in many ways. By 2008, the term “gluten-free” had become part of the American vernacular, and a slew of delicious cookies and cakes hit the market. However, the one product I couldn’t get my hands on was gluten-free challah: Jewish ritual bread used on the Sabbath and holidays. The challah-type products being sold were not from the five species of grain: wheat, barley, rye, spelt, and oat. Therefore products made without these crucial ingredients cannot be eaten with the blessing of “hamotzi”, effectively rendering these products not challah. The first four grains contain gluten, and oats

have been contaminated as well. Until now. I am pleased to share that I have founded a challah company to provide delicious, gluten-free challah to those who need it most. Some of our regulars know us by “Hamotzi Gourmet,” but in effort to expand to more bakery items, we have renamed our company, “The Gluten-Free Artisan.” We love our customers, and we aim to please! Hearing from you would make our day. You can visit us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or our website wwww. theGFArtisan.com to order some fresh loaves to be delivered to your door.

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The Gluten-free Artisian According to the University of Chicago’s Celiac Disease Center, one in 133 Americans has Celiac Disease. That comes out to 3 million Americans. To put that in perspective: all the celiacs in America could fill up the entire state of Nevada (or 936 cruise ships).  My journey started in 2002 when I was diagnosed with this commonly misunderstood disease. I had inherited a genetic autoimmune disorder that affects the digestive process of my small intestine. When I would consume wheat, rye, or barley, which all contain gluten, my immune system would respond by attacking my small intestine, which would in turn inhibit the absorption of important nutrients. I finally understood where my long-endured stomach pain, lethargy, and a whole list of other mysterious symptoms

stemmed from. However, how could I effectively change my diet? I was loath to cut out many of my favorite foods. The first foods I knew for certain were gluten-free became mainstays: Lays potato chips and Hershey’s Kisses. Other foods were complicated; I would have to call the company and ask where they sourced their modified food starch; was it from glutenous wheat or safe corn? This was always a hassle and not always worth my time, which frustratingly limited my food choices even further. Things changed in 2004, when the Food Allergen Labeling and Consumer Protection Act became a law. For the first time, people with Celiac Disease could simply read a food label and safely determine whether the product was truly gluten free or not. The legislation went into


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The Growth of TABR It is not simply the start of another school year at Torah Academy of Boca Raton, but a year representing explosive growth and expansion. Torah Academy, which opened its doors in 1999 with 18 students, now has an enrollment of 365 students ranging from age 2 to eighth grade. Since 2008, the school has experienced an enrollment increase of more than 200%, with the pace quickening year after year. In order to keep up with such high demand, dean of the school Rabbi Reuven Feinberg emphasizes the large, welltrained staff that enables the yeshiva to educate a broad range of learners with an all-encompassing curriculum. The school’s goal is to continue to exceed national and state standards in Jewish and secular studies, while maintaining its focus on the individual learner. Highlights of the program like the preschool “natural outdoor classroom”, schoolwide character development program, and middle school engineering module engage students across instructional domains. Rabbi Feinberg notes, “It remains a top priority of ours to fill our classrooms with teachers who specialize in their subject matter; those who are immersed in their particular subject can more vibrantly teach, and create a passion for learning in our students.” Torah Academy has also welcomed a new headmaster this year, Rabbi Rafi Draiman. In describing what Rabbi Draiman brings to Torah Academy, Rabbi Feinberg commented, “[He] represents the professionalism and commitment to Torah values that has become the hallmark of Torah Academy. Even in the short time Rabbi Draiman has been aboard, he has already created a unique rapport with students and parents alike. Under his educational leadership, Torah Academy is sure to continue to thrive and help our students reach even greater heights in learning and personal growth.” For him, the word “building” encompasses his philosophy and approach to education: “At Torah Academy, we are building students. We are building scholars, building self-esteem, and building the skills and knowledge that lead to success and meaningful accomplishment.” Rabbi Draiman will be overseeing the educational aspects of all four divisions: Early Childhood, Elementary (grades 1-5), Girls Middle School, and Boys Middle School. Rabbi Draiman is no stranger to per-

sonal accomplishment and extensive study. A native of Chicago, his training and experience in the field of education is impressive: he holds a Masters in Educational Administration from Loyola University in Chicago, and principal certificates from the Harvard Graduate School Principals’ Institute, NYC Leadership Academy, and Jewish Leadership Institute. He has also served as Director of the Principal Training Institute at the Consortium of Jewish Day Schools and has mentored for the Azrieli Graduate School of Education at Yeshiva Univer-

sity. He has been a school administrator for many years, most recently at Yeshiva of South Shore in Hewlett, NY. Assuming the headmaster role at a school as large and established as Torah Academy is no easy feat, but this is precisely what excites Rabbi Draiman about his task. He enthuses, “Torah Academy is an embedded, crucial part of the Boca community, where we can impact the community’s growth and engagement from within. The shared, unified purpose of preparing Jewish children for bright futures charges all of us with important work.” For more information about Torah Academy of Boca Raton, please call 561-465-2200 or visit www.torahacademybr.org.

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Sandler Family Major Gifts Event Features Former Canadian Prime Minister and Honors Coopermans A record-breaking crowd of 400 of the Jewish Federation of South Palm Beach County’s top donors filled the room at The Polo Club in Boca Raton on November 29, 2016 for a sophisticated evening of inspiration. After warmly greeting each other at a cocktail reception, they enjoyed an elegant dinner and two powerful speakers at this season’s annual Sandler Family Major Gifts Event. And this year, the longstanding premier event in local Jewish philanthropy was aptly held on “Giving Tuesday, the Global Day of Philanthropy.” Named for Phyllis & Harvey Sandler and their family, the evening celebrated Federation’s major donors, who contribute a minimum $10,000 to the local Federation’s Annual Campaign. “The Sandler family’s consummate commitment, generosity and philanthropy set a shining example for our community. We are so fortunate to have you in our community. Your love, dedication, perseverance and grace inspire us all,” said Federation Board Chair Anne Jacobson. Breaking yet another attendance record for the event, the donors spanned many decades in age, and hailed from throughout the community, illustrating the vibrant diversity of this Jewish community as well as the growth and diversification of Federation’s Major Donors Program. Including major donors’ adult children and grandchildren through the L’Dor V’Dor initiative added to both the power and festivity of the night. Jill Rose, who co-chaired the evening with her husband, Michael, and with Ellie and Martin Lifton, proudly welcomed the guests, highlighting how, “You, our generous supporters, one strong, caring and vibrant community, together are transforming the lives of our Jewish family right here in South Palm Beach County, in Israel and around the world with our Federation in its vital role as the true hub of the Jewish community. Through our Federation and the work of our partner agencies, we feed the hungry, strengthen the next generation’s support of Israel, and serve as a lifeline to those in poverty, under oppression in faraway corners – and so much more.” “With us here tonight we have some of the most dedicated and active leaders in our Jewish community,” said Michael Rose. “Please join me in recognizing and thanking Anne Jacobson, Chair of our Federation Board, Larry Feldman, our Campaign Chair and all those who guide our efforts every day.”

The Federation’s Ketubah Society Hall of Fame posters were on display, recognizing those who have demonstrated a cumulative financial commitment of $1 million or more during the Federation’s 37 year history. During the evening, Toby and Leon Cooperman and Judi and Allan Schuman were welcomed to the prestigious society and lauded for their “extraordinary commitment to the Federation and for creating initiatives that will forever change our community.” As honorees of the evening, the Coopermans were introduced by their longtime friend and Federation lay leader Adele Lebersfeld. “From Toby and Leon’s humble beginnings meeting at Hunter College, they have built an incredible life of love for their family, community and those in need,” she said. “They lead by example with quiet dignity, affecting countless lives simply because they believe it is the right thing to do and they are blessed to be able to do it.” A standing ovation greeted the couple, whose recent transformative endowment to the Federation will aid in funding vital programs and services for generations to come. “We are so happy to participate in making this community even stronger,” said Toby Cooperman, wholeheartedly thanking “the visionaries who built this Federation.” “Our ability to give is a testimony to the American Dream, and we have a moral imperative to give others the opportunity to pursue that dream by sharing our financial success,” said Leon, whose parents emigrated from Poland and raised him in a small apartment in the Bronx where he attended public schools. Quoting the Talmud, he said, “A man’s net worth is measured not by what he earns, but rather what he gives away.” Judi and Allan Schuman were also celebrated at the event. David Pratt, Federation’s Vice Chair of Financial Resource Development announced the couple’s recent extremely generous endowment and creation of the Judi and Allan Schuman Center for Israel Engagement at the Federation. “Your vision and generosity will provide assistance to people looking to travel to Israel under Federation’s auspices, while also bringing pieces of Israel to us, and so much more,” he said. Called a mensch and great friend to the American Jewish community in his introduction by Federation President & CEO Matthew C. Levin, with poignancy and power, Jerry Silverman, President & CEO of Jewish Federations of North

Allan Schuman, The Right Honourable Stephen Harper, Judi Schuman

Leon & Toby Cooperman (honorees)

Marjorie Horwin and Jim Tisdale; David Pratt, Proskauer; The Right Honourable Stephen Harper; Al Gortz, Proskauer; Richard Steinberg, Steinberg Global (Major Gifts Division Corporate Sponsor)

Michael & Jill Rose, The Right Honourable Stephen Harper, Ellie & Martin Lifton (event co-chairs)

The Sandler Family Seated – Phyllis Sandler; Standing L-R – Gary & Robin Rubin, Harvey Sandler, Amy & David Ross, Andrea & Larry Schnurmacher

America (JFNA) brought home how truly critical is the work of the Federation, and the generosity of the major donors.

“You should be proud of all that is being done by the Federation and its beneficiary agencies each and every day,” Silverman said. “The vibrancy of this community from the very youngest to the very oldest and the chesed that abounds are palpable. This Federation ensures there are structures in place to ensure that we are always ready - locally and globally – to help when and where we are needed. We are part of so much good going on around the world, but the threats and the needs are rising and our people face more challenges. They need to know they are not alone.” Calling him “an unwavering, supporter of the State of Israel’s right to exist,” Martin Lifton introduced The Right Honourable Stephen Harper, former Prime Minister of Canada, whose 8-year tenure ended a year ago. The audience was riveted as Harper, who famously declared as P.M., “Through fire and water, Canada will stand with you,” laid out how and why he was an outspoken defender of the Jewish homeland on the world stage. He avowed that the Holocaust must be fully understood “as more than a historical event, but also as an example of the eternal nature of anti-Semitism and the dangers of failing to recognize its existence. “The crude anti-Semitism has mutated,” he said. “It used to exist in dark corners but has transformed into language that is acceptable in open discourse, including hating and scapegoating Israel for all that is troubling in the Middle East. Yet Israel is our only enduring, unquestionable ally in their dangerous neighborhood, and the only country in the region anchored in freedom, democracy and the rule of law.” “When Israel is threatened we are all threatened, Harper said. “They begin by hating Jews and then the hatred spreads - like the jihadist movement that started against Israel and now threatens us all. Either we stand with Israel on the frontlines or they will come for all of us.” Morrison, Brown, Argiz & Farra, LLC; Proskauer; and Steinberg Global Asset Management, LTD are the generous Major Gifts Division sponsors. The Boca Raton Observer was Exclusive Magazine Sponsor for the Sandler Family Major Gifts Event, and Southern Glazer’s Wine & Spirits of America Inc. and Atlas Party Rentals were the In-Kind Sponsors. Special thanks were given to the event’s generous underwriters: Linda & Don Brodie, Ellie & Martin Lifton and Jill & Michael Rose.


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Zvika Greengold One Man against the Syrian Army By Avi Heiligman

We say in Al Hanisim “Rabim b’yad mi’atem, [and Hashem delivered] the many into the hands of the few.” Many times in Jewish history the small Jewish nation survived countless attempts by our enemies to destroy us. At times when there was a Jewish army, Hashem was always there to protect the soldiers. During modern times this was evident throughout Israel’s wars against her Arab neighbors. The Yom Kippur War saw incredible armies from Syria and Egypt defeated by an ill-prepared Israeli Army. One of the most incredible acts of heroism took place on the Golan

Syrian tanks after the Yom Kippur War

Heights by a soldier named Zvika Greengold.

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vika was a 21-year-old lieutenant from the Galilee when the Yom Kippur War broke out on October 21, 1973. He was sitting at home and became alarmed because jets were screaming overhead to the border. Fighter jets did not practice on Yom Kippur and so Zvika ran to his radio to find out the latest news. Egyptian forces had launched an attack on the Suez Canal, and Syrian armor (tanks) had been amassed in the Golan

Heights. Zvika hitched a ride to the Golan Heights where he found a very confused and desperate situation. Israel had captured the Golan Heights six years earlier, and it was vital that it remain in Israeli hands. If the Syrians controlled the area then they could place artillery there that could penetrate deep into Israel. Syrian commanders knew the advantage of the Golan and put the bulk of their 150,000-man and 1,200tank army in the Golan Heights. In the area that became known as Emek Habacha-Valley of Tears, the most the IDF could send to

the front was one brigade with about 80 tanks. The 300 Syrian tanks in Emek Habacha were some of the best in the world. The Soviet T-62 was better than the best Israeli Centurion tank but they were only a limited number and had some weaknesses. The rest were older T-54 and T-55s but still were a formidable foe in the largest tank battle since WWII. Zvika reached the crossroads of Nafekh on a half track. Nafakh also needed to be taken over by the Syrians if they wanted to have control over the heights – they couldn’t just bypass it

like other outposts. Even though he wasn’t attached to a particular unit, Zvika was granted his request to join his old unit, the 74th Battalion, already on the line. After helping some of the wounded men at the base, he saw two badly damaged tanks that were unmanned. He radioed headquarters that “Zvika Force” was going to battle. He did this in order to confuse the Syrians who were listening to radio traffic. Neither Israeli nor Syrian commanders had the slightest clue that Zvika Force had just two damaged tanks! The two tanks spotted Syrian tanks coming in unopposed and Zvika proceeded to blast six of them out of action. Zvika soon lost one tank and its commander Hagai Tzur was sent back to base. The one tank continued alone against the rapidly advancing Syrian tank army. Greatly outnumbered, he changed positions very frequently to convince the enemy that there was more than just the one tank. The underbelly of the Syrian tanks were vulnerable to shells fired from Zvika’s Centurion tank and he used this to his advantage. As the enemy tanks reached the top of a hill, Zvika fired, hitting the underside of the Syrian tanks.


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Zvika was told that anything he saw he should shoot at because there were no friendly tanks in the area besides his. He shot at a silhouette of a tank and it

sition. The lead tank came within twenty meters, and then he fired. Zvika then used the fire from the burning tank to direct his fire in the darkness, and played cat

more tanks and moved to the slopes where only the gun and the turret of the tank were visible, thus making him a very small target. After an hour the Syrians

Neither Israeli nor Syrian commanders had the slightest clue that Zvika Force had just two damaged tanks

burst into flames. On a slope he saw another three enemy tanks and destroyed them in succession. He moved to another spot, as many other Israeli tanks did to great success during the war, and saw a column of thirty tanks and trucks coming at his po-

and mouse, ducking behind natural boundaries as well as shot up tanks. He had the advantage of knowing that every tank he saw was enemy, but the Syrians couldn’t be sure that what they were shooting at was Zvika’s Centurion. He killed several

retreated and his kill figure reached double digits. Over the radio, Zvika heard desperate pleas for reinforcements, and everyone was being told that were none. Then he realized his tank was the only one between the Syrians

and Nafekh. His colonel at first thought that he was at least at company strength and sent him the first reservists to reach the Golan. Zvika went to join the ten reservist tanks, but they were ambushed and badly mauled. Then Zvika’s tank was hit and his clothing had caught fire in the explosion. The driver was killed and the rest of his crew wounded. Still, he wasn’t done, as he took control over one of the tanks still able to fight. Soon it was just him and the Syrians because the other two tanks left the battlefield with casualties. Then a miracle happened. The Syrians stopped advancing. This gave the IDF time to bring up reinforcements to push back the Syrians. However, Zvika was too burnt, literally, to continue. With burns,

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wounds and covered in soot, he collapsed during a break in the fighting and was taken to a hospital. Zvika Greengold is credited with killing between 20 and 40 tanks and was a critical part of the IDF effort that stopped the Syrian advance during the Yom Kippur War. The Syrian commanders never realized that were up against just two damaged tanks led by one resilient officer. For his actions, Zvika was awarded Israel’s highest medal for bravery in battle, the Medal of Valor.

Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions for future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@gmail.com.

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Gift of Life Marathon

Steps for Life 5K of South Florida You have the power to save someone’s life, but you don’t need to leap into an icy river or a burning building to do it! Participating in the Steps for Life 5K Run & Walk helps Gift of Life Marrow Registry cure patients with blood cancer and other conditions. The non-profit organization, headquartered in Boca Raton, does this by matching cancer patients in need of transplants with vol-

unteer donors who can provide lifesaving bone marrow or peripheral stem cells. “Our goal is to ensure that every person in need of a transplant can find a matching donor,” said CEO and 21-year transplant survivor Jay Feinberg. “Many people do not have a donor match within their family, and must search the public registries to find someone compatible. That’s where Gift of Life comes in.” The annual Steps for Life is a fun, family-friendly event, and will feature the emotional and heartwarming introduction of a transplant recipient to their donor for the first time. Children 6 and under can run the Superhero Sprint free,

with a cape and medal provided. Light snacks, drinks, music, and fun are all part of the morning’s activities. Your participation directly helps in the fight against blood cancers! Please join us! Details: Date: Sunday, January 15, 2017 Time: 8:00 a.m. registration, 9:30 a.m. certified, timed 5k begins Location: Florida Atlantic University Stadium Register: www.giftoflife.org/stepsforlife Gift of Life was founded in 1991 by leukemia survivor Jay Feinberg after his family’s four-year search to find his lifesaving marrow donor. To learn more, visit www.giftoflife.org, or call 888-9MARROW.


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Parsha Perceptions

Vayishlach: ‘The Jewish Journey’ Rabbi Lord Jonathon Sacks

Why is Jacob the father of our people, the hero of our faith? We are “the congregation of Jacob”, “the children of Israel.” Yet it was Abraham who began the Jewish journey, Isaac who was willing to be sacrificed, Joseph who saved his family in the years of famine, Moses who led the people out of Egypt and gave it its laws. It was Joshua who took the people into the Promised land, David who became its greatest king, Solomon who built the Temple, and the prophets through the ages who became the voice of God. The account of Jacob in the Torah seems to fall short of these other lives, at least if we read the text literally. He has tense relationships with his brother Esau, his wives Rachel and Leah, his father-inlaw Laban, and with his three eldest children, Reuben, Simon and Levi. There are times when he seems full of fear, others when he acts - or at least seems to act with less than total honesty. In reply to Pharaoh he says of himself, “The days of my life have been few and hard.” This is less than we might expect from a hero of faith. That is why so much of the image we have of Jacob is filtered through the lens of midrash - the oral tradition preserved by the sages. In this tradition, Jacob is all good, Esau all bad. It had to be this way so argued R. Zvi Hirsch Chajes in his essay on the nature of midrashic interpretation because otherwise we would find it hard to draw from the biblical text a clear sense of right and wrong, good and bad. The Torah is an exceptionally subtle book, and subtle books tend to be misunderstood. So the oral tradition made it simpler: black and

white instead of shades of grey. Yet perhaps, even without midrash, we can find an answer - and the best way of so doing is to think of the idea of a journey. Judaism is about faith as a journey. It begins with the journey of Abraham and Sarah, leaving behind their “land, birthplace and father’s house” and travelling to an unknown destination, “the land I will show you.” The Jewish people is defined by another journey in a different age: the journey of Moses and the Israelites from Egypt across the desert to the Promised Land. That journey becomes a litany in the parsha of Massei: “They left X and they camped in Y. They left Y and they camped in Z.” To be a Jew is to move, to travel, and only rarely, if ever, to settle down. Moses warns the people of the danger of settling down and taking the status quo for granted, even in Israel itself: “When you have children and grandchildren, and have been established in the land for a long time, you might become decadent.” Hence the rules that Israel must always remember its past, never forget its years of slavery in Egypt, never forget on Sukkot that our ancestors once lived in temporary dwellings, never forget that it does not own the land - it belongs to God - and we are merely there as God’s gerim vetoshavim, “strangers and sojourners.” Why so? Because to be a Jew means not to be fully at home in the world. To be a Jew means to live within the tension between heaven and earth, creation and revelation, the world that is and the world we are called on to make; between exile and home, and between the universality of

the human condition and the particularity of Jewish identity. Jews don’t stand still except when standing before God. The universe, from galaxies to subatomic particles, is in constant motion, and so is the Jewish soul. We are, we believe, an unstable combination of dust of the earth and breath of God, and this calls on us constantly to make decisions, choices, that will make us grow to be as big as our ideals, or, if we choose wrongly, make us shrivel into small, petulant creatures obsessed by trivia. Life as a journey means striving each day to be greater than we were the day before, individually and collectively. If the concept of a journey is a central metaphor of Jewish life, what in this regard is the difference between Abraham, Isaac and Jacob? Abraham’s life is framed by two journeys both of which use the phrase Lech lecha, “undertake a journey”, once in Genesis 12 when he was told to leave his land and father’s house, the other in Gen. 22:2 at the binding of Isaac when he was told, “Take your son, the only one you love Isaac - and go [lech lecha] to the region of Moriah.” What is so moving about Abraham is that he goes, immediately and without question, despite the fact that both journeys are wrenching in human terms. In the first he has to leave his father. In the second he has to let go of his son. He has to say goodbye to the past and risk saying farewell to the future. Abraham is pure faith. He loves God and trusts Him absolutely. Not everyone can achieve that kind of faith. It is almost superhuman. Isaac is the opposite. It is as if Abraham, knowing the emotional sacrifices he has had to make, knowing too the trauma Isaac must have felt at the binding, seeks to protect his son as far as lies within his power. He makes sure that Isaac does not leave the Holy Land (that is why Abraham does not let him travel to find a wife). Isaac’s one journey (to the land of the Philistines) is limited and local. Isaac’s life is a brief respite from the nomadic existence Abraham and Jacob both experience. Jacob is different again. What makes him unique is that he has his most intense encounters with God - they are the most dramatic in the whole book of Genesis - in the midst of the journey, alone, at night, far from home, fleeing from one danger to the next, from Esau to Laban on the outward journey, from Laban to Esau on his homecoming. In the midst of the first he has the blazing epiphany of the ladder stretching from

earth to heaven, with angels ascending and descending, moving him to say on waking, “God is truly in this place but I did not know it . . . This must be God’s house and this the gate to heaven.” None of the other patriarchs, nor even Moses, has a vision quite like this. On the second, in our parsha, he has the haunting, enigmatic wrestling match with the man/angel/God, which leaves him limping but permanently transformed - the only person in the Torah to receive from God an entirely new name, Israel, which may mean, “one who has wrestled with God and man” or “one who has become a prince [sar] before God”. What is fascinating is that Jacob’s meetings with angels are described by the same verb ‘p-g-sh’, which means “a chance encounter”, as if they took Jacob by surprise, which clearly they did. Jacob’s most spiritual moments are ones he did not plan. He was thinking of other things, about what he was leaving behind and what lay ahead of him. He was, as it were, “surprised by God.” Jacob is someone with whom we can identify. Not everyone can aspire to the loving faith and total trust of an Abraham, or to the seclusion of an Isaac. But Jacob is someone we understand. We can feel his fear, understand his pain at the tensions in his family, and sympathize with his deep longing for a life of quietude and peace (the sages say about the opening words of next week’s parsha that “Jacob longed to live at peace, but was immediately thrust into the troubles of Joseph”). The point is not just that Jacob is the most human of the patriarchs but rather that at the depths of his despair he is lifted to the greatest heights of spirituality. He is the man who encounters angels. He is the person surprised by God. He is the one who, at the very moments he feels most alone, discovers that he is not alone, that God is with him, that he is accompanied by angels. Jacob’s message defines Jewish existence. It is our destiny to travel. We are the restless people. Rare and brief have been our interludes of peace. But at the dark of night we have found ourselves lifted by a force of faith we did not know we had, surrounded by angels we did not know were there. If we walk in the way of Jacob, we too may find ourselves surprised by God. Rabbi Jonathan Sacks served as Britain’s chief rabbi from 1991 to 2013. He was recently named as the 2016 Templeton Prize Laureate. His latest book is Not in God’s Name: Confronting Religious Violence.


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Hanukkah: La Fuerza Se Despierta Por el Yael Zoldan, M.A. Hanukkah está aquí, la estación de la luz. Es hora de celebrar los milagros antiguos, nuestra victoria sobre la oscuridad espiritual. Pero ¿cómo celebramos cuando las cosas se sienten tan oscuras? ¿Dónde está la luz? En nuestro mundo, los hombres justos son masacrados mientras envueltos en chales de oración, sus vidas apagadas cuando están delante de Dios en oración ferviente. En nuestro mundo, las mujeres judías y los niños caminan con miedo en las calles de Francia. Irán reúne fuerza. Isis levanta una bandera negra del mal. Y con todo esto, la vida continúa. Catchy canciones de vacaciones siguen jugando, comprar uno obtener uno gratis! Esta complacencia me parece una oscuridad. A veces me tranquilizo. Es fácil sentirse de esta manera en diciembre, cuando el día termina a las cuatro y el sol brilla finamente y el aire es frío. Me digo que es sólo un truco de la luz. Pero no es sólo eso. Es el silencio donde debe haber indignación. Es el acuerdo tácito que permite que el mal florezca. La humanidad parece estar haciendo la vista gorda, y el mundo gira y gira.

Pero el pueblo judío no es complaciente. Estamos luchando. Así como en los días de la antigüedad, cuando oscuran las tinieblas, luchamos con la luz eterna de la Torá. En shuls y escuelas estamos aprendiendo los textos antiguos y extrapolando nuevos significados. En los sótanos y salas de estar, prosperan las sociedades de préstamos libres, se hacen referencias médicas, se traen comidas caseras a los hambrientos, visitas a los enfermos, comodidad para sus familias. Se está levantando dinero para apoyar a los pobres, para apoyar a nuestro ejército. Se hacen oraciones por los enfermos y heridos. Estamos celebrando Shabbat con renovado vigor y llegar a nuestros hermanos judíos a unirse a nosotros. En la manera consagrada de los judíos, la red de la bondad, del tikkun olam, reparando el mundo, se extiende y crece, extendiéndose más y más en los rincones ocultos de la tierra, en los rincones más oscuros de nuestros corazones. Estamos recolectando méritos y generando bondad. Estamos iluminando nuestro mundo. Hanukkah viene y mis hijos me miran con ojos brillantes. Al igual que los niños judíos en todas partes, no saben acerca de

la oscuridad, creen en la luz. Quieren escuchar la historia de héroes, de hombres y mujeres valientes que se negaron a someterse. Quieren escuchar la historia antigua de los judíos y quieren sentirla en sí mismos. Así que se lo diré a ellos. Pero también les diré que la luz no brilla gratis. Que así como en los días de antigüedad, hay una guerra que tenemos que luchar. Una batalla contra la complacencia, contra el lento deslizamiento gradual hacia la oscuridad, el oscurecimiento de nuestras almas y nuestra esperanza y nuestra fe. Es una guerra que luchamos toda nuestra vida con el mundo y con nosotros mismos. Les diré que no es difícil encenderse; Es difícil seguir brillando. Los milagros llegan a los dignos, a los que ganan su luz. Es Jánuca, así que les recordaré que El que creó las tinieblas también creó la luz, y El todavía está a cargo. Yo les susurraré: “Que el que hizo encender sus luces, hazlo ahora por nosotros, bayamim haheim bazman hazeh”. El mundo cambia, pero no ha cambiado.

Les diré a mis hijos que somos las diminutas luces. Estamos recogiendo el leña. Estamos ventilando las chispas. Una menorah desafía la bandera nazi 1931 Y les mostraré la foto tomada en Alemania en 1931, por la esposa del rabino Akiva Posner. Una menorah de pie en el alféizar de la ventana con una bandera nazi ondeando en el aire detrás de él. En la espalda la mujer justa inscribió: “Muerte a los judíos, así dice la bandera. Los judíos son eternos, así responde la luz. “ Les diré a mis hijos, que es un mundo oscuro. Debes ser la luz. Yo mismo diré lo mismo.

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Hanoucca: La Force s’éveille Par Yael Zoldan, M.A. Hanukkah est ici, la saison de la lumière. Il est temps de célébrer les miracles antiques, notre victoire sur les ténèbres spirituelles. Mais comment célébronsnous quand les choses se sentent si sombres? Où est la lumière? Dans notre monde, les hommes vertueux sont massacrés alors qu’ils sont enveloppés dans des châles de prière, leurs vies éteintes comme ils se tiennent devant Dieu dans la prière fervente. Dans notre monde, les femmes et les enfants juifs marchent dans la peur dans les rues de France. L’Iran rassemble la force. Isis soulève un drapeau noir du mal. Et avec tout cela, la vie continue. Des morceaux catchy de vacances continuent à jouer, achetez un obtenez un libre! Cette complaisance me fait sentir l’obscurité. Parfois je me rassure. C’est facile de se sentir de cette façon en Décembre quand la journée se termine à quatre et le soleil brille mince et l’air est froid. Je me dis que c’est juste un tour de la lumière. Mais ce n’est pas tout. C’est le silence où il devrait y avoir indignation. C’est l’accord

tacite qui permet au mal de s’épanouir. L’humanité semble fermer les yeux, et le monde tourne et tourne. Mais le peuple juif n’est pas complaisant. Nous nous battons. Tout comme dans les jours d’autrefois, quand les ténèbres apparaissent, nous nous battons avec la lumière éternelle de la Torah. Dans les shuls et les écoles, nous apprenons les textes anciens et extrapolons de nouvelles significations. Dans les sous-sols et les salons, les sociétés de prêt gratuites prospèrent, les références médicales sont faites, les repas faits maison sont apportés aux affamés, les visites aux malades, le confort pour leurs familles. L’argent est soulevé pour soutenir les pauvres, pour soutenir notre armée. Des prières sont prononcées pour les malades et les blessés. Nous célébrons le Chabbat avec une vigueur renouvelée et nous joignons à nos concitoyens juifs. Dans la manière honorée des Juifs, le réseau de la bonté, du tikkun olam, réparant le monde, se répand et se développe, atteignant de plus en plus dans les coins cachés de la terre, les coins les plus

sombres de nos cœurs. Nous rassemblons des mérites et répandons la bonté. Nous allumons notre monde. Hanoucca arrive et mes enfants me regardent avec des yeux brillants. Comme les enfants juifs partout, ils ne connaissent pas l’obscurité, ils croient à la lumière. Ils veulent entendre le récit de héros, de braves hommes et de femmes qui refusent de se soumettre. Ils veulent entendre l’histoire ancienne des Juifs et ils veulent le sentir en eux-mêmes. Je vais donc le leur dire. Mais je vais aussi leur dire que la lumière ne brille pas gratuitement. C’est comme dans les jours d’autrefois, il y a une guerre que nous devons combattre. Une bataille contre la complaisance, contre le lent glissement progressif vers les ténèbres, l’obscurcissement de nos âmes, notre espérance et notre foi. C’est une guerre que nous combattons toutes nos vies avec le monde et avec nous-mêmes. Je leur dirai qu’il n’est pas difficile d’être éclairé; Il est difficile de garder brillant. Les miracles viennent à ceux qui méritent leur lumière.

C’est Hanukkah, donc je leur rappellerai que Celui qui a créé les ténèbres a aussi créé la lumière, et Il est toujours en charge. Je leur dirai à voix basse: «Que celui qui a fait brûler leurs lumières, faites-le maintenant pour nous, bayamim haheim bazman hazeh.» Le monde change, mais il n’a pas changé. Je vais dire à mes enfants que nous sommes les petites lumières. Nous rassemblons le feu. Nous allumons les étincelles. Une menorah défie le drapeau nazi 1931 Et je leur montrerai la photo prise en Allemagne en 1931 par la femme de Rabbi Akiva Posner. Une menorah debout sur le rebord de la fenêtre avec un drapeau nazi agitant dans l’air derrière elle. Sur le dos, la femme juste a écrit: «Mort aux Juifs, dit ainsi le drapeau. Les Juifs sont éternels, répond donc la lumière. “ Je vais dire à mes enfants, c’est un monde sombre. Vous devez être la lumière. Je vais dire la même chose à moimême.


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Between The Lines South Dakota Is Getting Its Only Full-Time Rabbi — And Becoming The 50th State For Chabad Julie Zauzmer Chabad, the Orthodox Jewish group known for its indefatigable outreach efforts, seems so omnipresent in remote locations that when a satirical site said that Chabad wanted to be the first group to land on Mars, it didn’t seem all that farfetched. They haven’t made it to space yet. But very soon, Chabad will have planted its flag in all 50 states. South Dakota is getting a Chabad House — marking the last state for the Orthodox organization, and the first fulltime rabbi for South Dakota in years. Rabbi Mendel Alperowitz, a 27-yearold seminary graduate who currently works in Chabad’s headquarters in Brooklyn, will move with his wife Mussie, 26, and their 18-month-old and 2-month-old daughters to set up a Chabad House in Sioux Falls. “What inspired us so much is that we really saw a community of people, despite living out for a number of years far from their Jewish rituals, so passionate about their heritage,” Alperowitz said. Mussie echoed: “When you see so many people asking you, you really feel like, ‘Wow, we’re needed.’” There hasn’t been a full-time rabbi in the state of South Dakota in many years, possibly since Rabbi Stephen Forstein’s departure in 1982. The state has fewer than 500 Jewish residents, according to the Census Bureau, which said in 2010 that the two Dakotas were the only states in the nation with fewer than 1,000 Jews. Those who do live in South Dakota are currently served by one Conservative synagogue and two Reform ones, one of which dates back to 1876 when Jews were among those who flocked to the Black Hills during a gold rush. The three synagogues employ student rabbis who travel from their rabbinical schools to conduct life-cycle events and some Shabbat and holiday services. The Alperowitzes will provide more worship services and more Jewish education for children and adults. “Oh my, we are so excited,” said Aloma Graham, 56. “I just cannot believe something like that is coming here, that we can actually be a part of. I’m so excited.” Graham was born and raised in South Dakota, where she hardly knew anyone who was Jewish. But she started looking into her family history years ago, and she found out that before her grandmother

became a Baptist, married her grandfather and moved from Brooklyn to South Dakota with him to buy a farm, she was Jewish. Graham said that she felt she identified more with the Judaism that her grandmother renounced than with the Catholic faith that her mother and stepfather raised her in. “I went back to that and started doing some reading and studying and trying to reconnect to that part of my life: my community as a Jewish soul,” she said. “I felt a sense of community, the sense of being part of something.” But that community was very remote, more of a belief than a reality. Now at last, after decades of observing holidays and attempting to keep kosher on her own, she will have a real Jewish community right in her home town. Alperowitz heard story after story like Graham’s when he first visited South Dakota last spring. He volunteered as one of the roving Chabad rabbis who visit remote communities for each major holiday, and he and Mussie went to Sioux Falls to throw a party for the festival Purim. Forty-five people showed up. “People were so excited. They were saying, ‘You’ve got to move here. We need someone here,’” he said. “They were almost lobbying.” By the end of that first trip, the Alperowitzes started to take the idea seriously, and soon they said that they felt ready to commit permanently to South Dakota. Mussie described it as “pretty much a life thing.” The community they’ll find in Sioux Falls will have few Orthodox Jews like them. Stephen Rosenthal, a board member of Sioux Falls’s Reform synagogue who has lived in South Dakota for more than 40 years since he followed his father’s meat business there, said he warned the Alperowitzes that they will be ministering to mostly Reform Jews. “Our congregation is Reform, and we will have an Orthodox rabbi as the one rabbi in the state. There will be problems,” Rosenthal said. “I don’t know what those problems will be. We don’t have one hundred percent the same theology.” Rosenthal said he appreciated the rabbi’s openness to discussion when he brought up his concerns, and he’s looking forward to deeper Jewish education at the Chabad House — and possibly some good meals there. Rosenthal and his wife keep kosher, despite the fact that they can’t buy

kosher meat anywhere in their state. They stock up on trips to Omaha, almost 200 miles away, or Minneapolis, about 250 miles. Alperowitz himself was raised in one of Chabad’s 3,300 centers, which often double as the rabbis’ houses and are found on every continent but Antarctica. His parents ran a Chabad House in England (where today there are 24 Chabad locations — plus more in Scotland, Ireland and 34 more European countries). Since his ordination in 2012, Alperowitz has worked for Chabad and has not run a congregation of his own. But he was drawn to the idea of serving these remote

Jews. “It’s safe to say that on my block [in Brooklyn] there may be more Jews than the whole city where we’ll be in South Dakota,” Alperowitz said. He likes the idea of a small congregation where he can pay attention to every member. To visit Jews in the far reaches of the state, he expects a lot of long drives through the Black Hills, he said. “That’s our goal in moving there: to make sure there isn’t one Jew in the state that feels lonely.” (c) 2016, The Washington Post Writers Group


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Psychology Today

Who? Biased? – Not Me!! Dr. Yaakov Siegel

“You never take me out.” “I have no clothes.” You always give Malky chocolate milk and not me.” “I’m so bored; I have nothing to do; I have no friends.” Do any of these statements sound familiar? Are the people you have heard say them particularly happy? Are they relaxed? Emerging research points to a connection between negative filters (known as Attentional Bias) and feelings of depression or anxiety. Attentional bias refers to the human tendency to pay more attention to some things than to others. Sometimes, our bias causes us to outright disregard information. It is the process of seeing what we

want to see without ever considering what else is there. Insurance companies are notorious for exploiting Attentional Bias. Homeowners pay to protect their home from unforeseen events. The salesperson will draw attention to the number of houses in your neighborhood that have been struck while completely ignoring the higher number of houses that were just fine. (This is not to suggest that we all run out and cancel our policies. Insurance is probably a good idea, but not because the probability of needing it is particularly high – but rather that the stakes are high. One unfortunate event can have a

huge impact. That’s why insurance makes sense. Our attentional bias might lead us to believe otherwise.) This ability to filter out information is important in that it helps us quickly assess large amounts of data to solve problems. It becomes dangerous when it turns into a cognitive bias. Cognitive bias refers to judgments and opinions formed on the basis of inaccurate or incomplete evidence. Depending on what we choose to pay attention to, we will form our beliefs, actions and choices – and not always with the most factual basis. Dr. Albert Ellis is a NYU professor

and founder of the popular and effective Rational Emotive Psychotherapy. He argues that events do not cause suffering but rather the way we notice and interpret our experience is responsible for the way we feel. Attentional Bias can lead to anxiety or depression. Studies show that depression and anxiety occur when we filter out neutral or positive events and attend to negativity and threats instead. Attentional bias affects us in three ways: thinking, feeling and acting. The way we think: Dr. Ellis suggests that we flag our own thoughts and speech to notice biased words like “always, never, should, must.” When these appear, take it as an indication that some factors are being left out. Do you really always give Malky chocolate milk and not me?! The way we feel: Feeling anxious or depressed may be an indication that bias is at play; focusing on negative and frightening realities and ignoring the rest. Do you really have nothing to wear?! The way we act: Avoidance of people, places and things may be a sign of attentional bias; highlighting an unpleasant experience and downplaying opportunity. You really have no friends? Rational Emotive Psychotherapy is an intervention designed to address attentional bias. The patient is trained to notice when he or she is cherry-picking information and building their lives around a narrow and irrational outlook. Over time, the patient learns to naturally replace negative filters with more functional, pleasant and accurate ones. Instead of “You never take me out” you can try “I really enjoy going out with you, we should do it more often.” Replace “I have nothing to do” with “there is plenty to do but I wish it were more exciting.” Rational emotive psychotherapy is the best way to combat cognitive bias – it really works. Dr. Y. Siegel is a licensed psychologist in private practice. He has held positions in Federal and State institutions providing clinical services and psychological assessment.  He also served as clinical coordinator at an addiction center where he supervised and trained staff.   Dr. Siegel can be reached at 732-8061513 or drsiegel@siegelpsychological. com.


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Kollel Chatzos

Greetings from the Chatzos Kollel Bais Hora’ah Questions Overheard on the Bais Hora’ah’s Halacha Hotline during the Midnight Hours A yid called, relating that he just awoke from a terrible nightmare and undertook a taanis chalom for the following day. He wanted to know whether he is permitted to eat until alos or has his fast already begun now. A yid called immediately after alos, saying that he just realized he forgot to daven Maariv; can he still daven? A yid was on the road and had to eat something urgently. His only utensil was not yet toveled. He called to ask whether he may use it anyways.

Motzei Purim, two o’clock at night, a yid called, saying that he is still drunk, but wants to know if he is allowed to daven Maariv in his shikur state. A yid called late at night. His wife just gave birth, and he wanted to know whether he should make a bracha of Hatov v’Hameitiv. The previous Tisha b’Av night, a yid called in middle of the night, asking whether he could take Tylenol to relieve an excruciating headache. And these exceptional shaylos are interspersed with the many urgent Yoreh De’ah shaylos that must be answered before the following morning…

I Could Figure Things Out Without Kollel Chatzos… An interesting episode, shared with the Kollel Chatzos Office My wife was not feeling up to herself, so we went to the doctor to make sure that everything is okay. To our shock, the doctor informed us that nothing is okay and rushed us to the hospital before we could even process the 360-degree life turnover that had happened within the short span of that fateful appointment. In the ER, they whisked us into the ICU, hooked my wife up to a labyrinth of machines and told us to pray hard. I tried to follow instructions. I wanted to daven hard. For a moment, a thought fluttered through my mind that I should partner with Kollel Chatzos, so that the talmidei chachamim should daven for my wife. But immediately afterwards, a louder voice in my brain countered that I

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shouldn’t be swept up by the kollel’s ads. I would be better off calling a chashuve mekubal in Yerushalayim, whom would certainly evoke rachamei Shamayim on my behalf. With shaking fingers, I dialed the mekubal and submitted my wife’s name. I could not believe his advice; have a minyan talmidei chachamim learn and daven at chatzos halayla as a zechus for the choleh. I had thought I could figure things out without Kollel Chatzos. But now, I feel like, indeed, Kollel Chatos is the right “ruchniyus hishtadlus.” I look forward to calling Kollel Chatzos, once more, in the near future and share the good news of my wife’s yeshua.

Sara Raskind, RN BSN CLC, is a Registered Nurse specializing in maternal child health and a Certified Lactation Counselor.

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You gotta be kidding An army of Syrian soldiers with tanks, mortar, and infantry is traveling down the Golan Heights to attack Israel. They come over the top of a hill, and down below is a small Jew yelling at them: “Hey you loser, I’m here and waiting. Nu, send me a few of your best.” The Syrian commander angrily orders a group of infantry to attack. After the dust settles, there’s the Jew laughing. “That’s the best you got? I’ve seen tougher soldiers by the Hadassah ladies’ bazaar.” Enraged, the Syrian commander turns to his top colonel telling him to take a platoon of tanks and kill the pest. Again the dust settles, and again only the little Jew is left standing. “That’s it?” he yells. “That’s the best you could do? With this you’ll be lucky if you could defeat a Girl Scout troop.” The Syrian commander is beside himself with anger. He lines up his entire remaining division and gets ready to attack. Just then one of the wounded Syrian soldiers, lying on the battlefield, lifts his head and yells to his commander, “Go back, go back! It’s a trap! There are two of them!”

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Hamikdash; Yerushalayim; Pach; Eight; Shemen; Chashmonaim

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Torah Thought Has Chabad Quietly Revolutionized the Role of Rebbetzin? Rabbi Efrem Goldberg With its culture of lovingkindness, acceptance and warmth, Chabad successfully transcends the divisions that divide us and instead, the movement finds resonance and embrace in the diverse segments of the Jewish community. By: Rabbi Efrem Goldberg With 5,600 rabbis serving in over 90 countries one would have thought that Chabad had the entire United States covered, yet they only placed a rabbi in the 50th state last week. South Dakota may only be home to about 400 Jews, but that isn’t stopping Rabbi Mendel and Mussie Alperowitz from buying one-way tickets, opening a Chabad House in the wild west, and seeking to build a relationship with each and every one of their Jewish brothers and sisters in the entire state. This past June marked 75 years since the Lubavitcher Rebbe zt”l, Rav Menachem M. Schneerson and his wife, Rebbetzin Chaya Mushka, came to America from war-torn Europe.  The Rebbe didn’t accept the mantle of leadership until 1950, but his vision and influence were felt immediately upon his arrival to these shores and they continue to be felt 22 years after his passing. Avraham Avinu was arguably the most influential person who ever lived. Today he is claimed as the spiritual ancestor of two and a half billion Christians, one and a half billion Muslims and thirteen million Jews around the world, representing more than half the people alive today.  Lord Rabbi Jonathan Sacks points out that Avraham, in partnership with Sarah, achieved that influence and impact without ruling an empire, commanding a great army, performing any miracles, or proclaiming to have prophecy.  All they did was heed the call of Lech lecha to begin a Jewish journey, and to define for all time what it is to be a Jew. Avraham and Sarah revolutionized the world without political power or force.  They did it by preaching faith and showing lovingkindness.  They are the supreme example in all of history of influence without power.  It is hard to think of many Jewish leaders since Avraham who have left more fingerprints across the globe than the Rebbe.  By assembling a spiritual army and opening up Chabad houses and centers around the world, there is practically no destination left where Jews travel

or which they won’t find a Shul, kosher food, a mikvah, and, importantly, a warm smile and an open heart. When traveling recently, I found myself at a dinner marking the opening of a magnificent new Chabad building in an exotic location outside of the contiguous United States. The event was attended by both financial supporters as well as those supported by that Chabad.  The participation and warm words from dignitaries and government representatives in attendance testified to the genuine relationships the Chabad rabbi and rebbetzin have established beyond the Jewish community. As I sat there marveling at the accomplishments on display, it occurred to me that perhaps by preaching and inspiring a message of unapologetic faith in and dependence on the Almighty, unconditional love for all Jews, and unparalleled warmth and lovingkindness, the Rebbe was able to create a movement that transcends many of the controversies currently dividing the Jewish community.  The Rebbe certainly had his share of detractors when he was introducing some of his campaigns and placing great emphasis on Moshiach, but today Chabad has earned the admiration and respect of diverse segments of the Jewish people. Consider the following two examples, which while based on my experiences and not statistically conclusive, I believe often go underappreciated.  The orthodox world has been rigorously debating women’s roles in Jewish communal leadership and whether women can formally serve as rabbis.  Meanwhile, though it has no stated progressive agenda or goals, Chabad has quietly revolutionized the role of women in leadership.  Chabad rebbetzins may not have the title of rabbi, but in most cases they are involved in, and empowered with, setting the vision of their community and executing the leadership necessary to make it a reality as much as their husbands are.  They design programming, lead meetings, teach, give support at lifecycle events, play very public roles and are often listed as co-directors, equal with their husbands. At the opening I attended, it was the rebbetzin, not the rabbi, who served as the master of ceremonies.  The rabbi gave a wonderful dvar Torah and speech, but it was the rebbetzin who welcomed hun-

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dreds of people, offered expressions of gratitude to the list of dignitaries, gave her own dvar Torah, and charged the community with a vision of where they are going next. The contemporary Chabad rebbetzin is functioning in a significantly different way than her predecessors and many of her peers in the orthodox world. And yet, one doesn’t find people questioning her motives, her commitment to halachik norms, or her respect for rabbinic authority.  Her selflessness, mesirus nefesh and boundless love and devotion, with no other agenda regarding women’s roles, seem to insulate her from the usual suspicions and criticisms. A second example: In world of tragic antagonism between the “right” and the “left,” both groups claim Chabad as a being more similar to them.  The “left” has an affinity for Chabad’s emphasis on loving all Jews, being non-judgmental, warm, and opening.  The “right” identifies

ter that conversation that for many people, “right” and “left” are not a function of actual hashkafic differences or variances in halachik practice, but a function of how open or closed they feel someone is to others, particularly those that are different from themselves. With its culture of lovingkindness, acceptance and warmth, Chabad successfully transcends the typical labels and divisions that divide us and instead, the movement and its rabbis and rebbetzins find resonance and embrace in the diverse segments of the Jewish community. There is so much to admire and appreciate about Chabad.  Minimally, every one of us should be incredibly grateful for the ability to go almost anywhere in the world on business, vacation, or to live and to have a Chabad house welcoming us and providing for our Jewish needs.  We should be in awe of the selflessness of people like Rabbi Mendel and Mussie Alperowitz who move to places with no

with Chabad’s strict standards of modesty, stringent positions in halacha like cholov yisroel and pas yisroel and general Chassidic orientation. I was once talking to someone who was complaining to me about how his rabbi is too far to the right and why can’t he be more like the Chabad rabbi who is so centrist.  I asked him: in what way is your rabbi more to the right of the Chabad rabbi?  Do you realize that your rabbi has a college degree and the Chabad rabbi never studied secular subjects?  Do you realize your rabbi is more comfortable with less strict standards of modesty and  halacha than the Chabad Rabbi?  Do you appreciate that the Chabad rabbi always goes out in public with his black hat and wears a gartel while he davens while your rabbi doesn’t wear more than a kippa?  How is your rabbi more “right wing”? The individual argued that his rabbi was more to the right because he wasn’t as open, tolerant, welcoming, friendly or warm as the Chabad rabbi.  I realized af-

Kosher food, no school for their children, often no mikvah, no eruv, and only a handful of other shomer Shabbos people. It doesn’t deter them that there is no endowment, or consistent membership dues, and that if they are going to keep the lights on it is up to them to raise the funds to do so. Most of all, I think we can learn from Chabad how to continue the journey that Avraham and Sarah began.  The combination of faith in the Almighty with lovingkindness to His children can radically influence and improve the world and can help us transcend the differences that too often get in the way of our greater mission.  Like Chabad, let’s not have agendas that alienate, divide and create controversy, but be focused exclusively on the agenda of helping Hashem find expression in this world and showering love and kindness on others. Rabbi Goldberg is the Senior Rabbi of Boca Raton Synagogue.


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Democratic Party? Why Jewish voters have become disenchanted with the Democrats BY NACHUM SOROKA

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the many lessons learned from the recent presidential election, there is one unanimous standout: everyone was wrong. The pollsters were wrong in their survey methodology and the media was wrong in assessing the national temperament. On both sides of the aisle, politicians came up incorrect: Republicans who refused to back Donald Trump were forced to backtrack on their tough talk and Democrats who were certain they bagged the White House

for another four years were left eating their words – and protesting in city streets. For years, the GOP had been chastised as the party that lost touch with its base. Since President George W. Bush left office, two embarrassing presidential defeats, the rise of the grassroots Tea Party movement – which did away with many of the establishment Republican politicians – and a more liberal and Hispanic voting demographic all foretold the demise of Lincoln’s

Party. Mitt Romney was infamously caught admitting that he believed that it is a foregone conclusion that 47 percent of the country will always vote Democrat. The party found that it could no longer ride the coattails of its 20th century hero, Ronald Reagan. “No one under the age of 51 today was old enough to vote for Reagan when he first ran for president,” the authors of the party’s 2012 election post-mortem wrote. “We sound increasingly out of touch.”

Donald Trump’s easy success in the summer’s primaries was deemed to be the death knell of Republicans as we knew them. Trump’s supporters were not the ideologues who felt threatened by an overzealous government bureaucracy and wasteful spending, like Republicans of yore. They were the Muslim haters and the Confederate flag wavers. A June poll conducted by right-wing NewsMax reported that 73% of Republicans felt that the party had grown out of touch


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with voters. Republican establishment experts were hoping for a Trump loss, which they considered the only chance for the party’s survival. “It’s important that he lose badly,” Peter Wehner, who served in three Republican presidential administrations, including a senior policy position in the George W. Bush White House, told the LA Times. “This has to be a repudiation of Trump and Trumpism.” But then, overnight, on November 8, all that changed. Donald Trump won the electoral vote soundly with 306 electors, and suddenly it was the Democratic Party that was considered out of touch with voters, particularly the white, working class. Pundits accused the party of becoming too cozy with Wall Street and too removed from factory and farm workers. “The party that had been the voice of working people for decades gradually lost touch with that constituency, and eventually became much more the voice of professionals, the kind of people who read the New Yorker and Slate,” said George Packer, a fellow at the Dorothy and Lewis B. Cullman Center of the New York Public Library and New America. It seems fairly certain that we don’t quite know where we stand as a nation. Is the country heading straight to liberalism, and only took a slight detour with this election, or was electing Donald Trump a SOS cry from the “silent majority” and a rallying call for the forgotten working class to retrench?

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U.S. has 3,100 voting districts, and Donald Trump managed to win over 2,600 of them. Indeed, the story of this year’s election is the same as many of the previous ones: Democrats enjoy popularity among the large, populous urban counties and Republicans carry the rural ones. Hillary Clinton took the country’s 100 largest counties by more than 12.6 million votes this year. In 2012, Barack Obama won 686 out of the country’s 3,100 districts. So it seems that our politics is divided by county lines. The white collar city worker votes Demo-

An overwhelming percent of Jews voted for Obama in 2008 but that number slipped in the 2012 elections

crat and the rural farmer votes Republican. But that distinction does not hold true amongst one demographic: the Jewish one. After the election, a voting map created by DNAinfo depicted that, as expected, 79 percent of New York City’s population voted for Clinton. Trump supporters were only noticeable in Staten Island and Boro Park and Midwood (aka Flatbush), two neighborhoods which are home to the highest concentration of religious Jews in the country. For many Orthodox Jews, the community’s support of Trump is not surprising. But the facts are that for generations, Jews have always been associated with liberalism and the Democratic Party. While the majority of the Jews who lived in the U.S. in the 19th century lived in the South and were thus pro-slavery, many of the Jews who emigrated to the U.S. in the beginning of the 20th century were involved with socialist and communist movements back in Europe and were active in forming the labor unions of the early century. After World War II, in the wake of the Holocaust, American Jews were drawn to FDR’s inclusive domestic policies and the founding of the United Nations, which was intended to prevent another massive war and genocide. To be sure, Zionism was not even a priority to

most American Jews at that time. When Israel was founded in 1948, Democratic support of the State only strengthened Jewish support for the party. At this year’s Democratic National Convention, Israel came to the forefront – but not in a good way. Many on the party’s Platform Committee insisted on an amendment to the platform that would have rebuked Israel for its “occupation” of the West Bank and for creating “illegal settlements” that have come at the expense of Palestin-

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ians. When the vote came to floor, it was defeated 95-73, with members loyal to presumptive Democratic presidential nominee Hillary Clinton leading the opposition. After the vote, many of Bernie Sanders’ supporters chanted, “Free, free Palestine,” hardly a heartwarming sentiment for Israel supporters. A large part of the American Jewish community’s support of pluralism comes from secular Judaism’s support of “Tikkun Olam.” All Jews can empathize with the need for religious freedom and workers’ rights, particularly back in the time when the majority of Jews were factory workers. Secular Jewish organizations such as Hadassah and the UJA have always been heavily involved with humanitarian causes throughout the world, not only in the U.S. and Israel. But Jews as a group are becoming more and more associated with conservative politics in America. The changing demographics of American Jewry is the primary explanation for this shift in beliefs. A 2012 study by UJA-Federation of New York found that 60 percent of Jewish children in the New York City area live in Orthodox homes. In just one generation, a majority of the city’s one million Jews may be classified as Orthodox. The rapid growth of the city’s Orthodox population is attributable to the high

A 2015 Gallup poll shows 29% of American Jews “identified as Republicans or leaned Republican” (up from 22% in 2008), while 61% “identified as Democrats or leaned Democratic” (down from 71% in 2008).


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birth rates among chassidim, who have more than seven or eight children per family. Orthodox Jews, like devout Catholics, hold more socially conservative views than their secular counterparts. The rapid growth of the City’s Orthodox population has not gone unnoticed by politicians who need its vote. As such, notice the City’s noncommittal stances on hot button issues like metzizah b’peh and English classes – or lack of them – in chassidish yeshivos. There are also secular Jews who are more culturally conservative than the typical American Jew. This group, which includes immigrant, Russian-speaking Jews, “see a conservative political philosophy as most opposed to the government that oppressed them for decades,” notes Dr. Steven M. Cohen, a research professor of Jewish social policy at Hebrew Union College Jewish Institute of Religion.

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same changing demographic experienced by New York City’s Jews is representative of other parts of the country. While 70 percent of Jews still voted for Barack Obama over Mitt Romney in 2012, even back in 2004, George W. Bush credited a mix of conservative, religious voters for his victory over John Kerry. Orthodox Jews helped Bush carry swing states like Florida, Ohio and Missouri. Nathan Diament, director of public policy for the Union of Orthodox Jewish Congregations,

said at the time, “It is not just that we are evangelicals who read our Bible right to left. But what is in common is an appreciation for the role that religious faith plays in a person’s life and in the life of a community.” The 70 percent of the Jewish vote for Obama in 2012 was still remarkably less than the 78 percent he received in 2008. “Was that a

In 2016, Jews overwhelmingly crossed over party lines

liberal Jews in America have faced the dilemma of supporting the Jewish State versus a more inclusive, liberal agenda. To this day, some of Israel’s most vocal critics are Jewish, such as Norman Finkelstein and Noam Chomsky, but the majority of American Jews is made up of staunch supporters of Israel who will vote accordingly. Back in 1980, Jimmy Carter credited a primary

Boro Park resident told the Times in November. “She had no message for the voters. She didn’t give any good reason to vote for her.” The voter highlighted the discrepancy between Orthodox Brooklyn and the rest of the city. “It’s like West Virginia, Wyoming, and you’re talking the heart of New York City,” he said. “My community represents what happened in America, except we’re not the suburbs,” Dov Hikind said. “The Democratic Party has abandoned us.”

“The party that had been the voice of working people for decades gradually lost touch with that constituency.”

reaction to some of [Obama’s] policies, his relationship with the government of Israel, or other issues? It’s difficult to say, but we think there has been some small trending over the last 15 to 20 years toward voting for more Republicans on the part of some Jews that are maybe historically voting Democratic,” said Dr. Steven Windmueller, a demographer from Hebrew Union College’s Zelikow School of Jewish Nonprofit Management. Israel and Zionism have played a pivotal role in the changing stance of American Jewry. Beginning with the Six Day War in 1967, generally,

loss in New York to his stance on Israel, and Carter ended up receiving only 45 percent of the (otherwise liberal) Jewish vote in the general election. In 1992, George H. W. Bush received only 10 percent of the Jewish vote after Bush was openly disdainful of Israeli Prime Minister Yitzchak Shamir. This past election, there were a number of reasons cited by Orthodox voters why they supported Trump, some having to do with their support of Israel, some with their conservative values and some for benign causes. “(Hillary is) corrupt, but I don’t care about that,” a

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it really matter whom the Jews vote for? Jews represent a mere 2 percent of the U.S. population, hardly a group that an aspiring politician should care about. But Jews as a group are more likely to vote than the rest of the country. Only 74 percent of eligible American voters make it to the polls; 90 percent of Jewish voters do. And 70 percent of all Jews in the U.S. live in key states such as California, Florida, New Jersey, Illinois, and Pennsylvania, which account for 167 electoral votes. It takes 270 votes to win an election. Already on a local level, politicians are being forced to notice the significance of the changing Jewish electorate. Mayor Bill de Blasio and Governor Andrew Cuomo have courted Orthodox Jews as their Jewish liaisons. As we keep on growing, the people in power keep on listening.


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Chanukah G-d Fights Our Wars By R’ Ben Tzion Shafier

The Miracle of the Oil WHY DO WE CELEBRATE CHANUKAH?

“When the Yivanim entered the Bais HaMikdash, they defiled all the oil set aside for lighting the menorah. When the Chashmonoim were victorious, they searched and were able to find only one small jug of oil with the Kohain Gadol’s seal intact. It had sufficient oil to last only one day, but miraculously it lasted eight days. In honor of the miracle of the oil lasting eight days, Chazal inaugurated these days for Hallel and thanksgiving.” — Gemara Shabbos 21b

AL HA’NISIM: THE MIRACLE OF THE BATTLE The Maharal states that this Gemara seems to contradict what we say in Al Ha’Nisim, a tefillah that was written by the Taanaim hundreds of years before. In the Al Ha’Nisim, we proclaim thanks to Hashem for the miracle of the war. We thank Hashem for delivering the Yivani armies into our hands. “You fought their battles, judged their judgments, took their revenge. You put the mighty into the hands of the weak, the many into the hands of the few…” According to the Al Ha’Nisim, the miracle of Chanukah was that Hashem delivered us from the armies of the Yivanim. Yet the Gemara in Shabbos says that we celebrate Chanukah because of the miracle of the oil lasting eight days. The Maharal asks, “Which one is correct?” The Maharal answers that both reasons are true, and both are consistent with each other. The actual event for which we give thanksgiving and sing Hallel is the salvation of the Jewish people. We won a war against all odds. However, it wasn’t clear that the victory was a miracle. To people living in those times, the military success seemed to be natural. It was attributed to Jewish resilience and bravery. It didn’t appear that Hashem had delivered us from the hands of the Yivanim;

rather, it appeared as “their might, and the strength of their arms.” It was only through the miracle of the oil that they came to understand the miracle of the battle. Once people saw the oil last eight days – an overt miracle from Hashem — they

The miracle of the oil revealed to them the miracle of the war.

then came to see that their success on the battlefield was from Hashem as well. The miracle of the oil revealed to them the miracle of the war.

ISRAEL DIDN’T HAVE A STANDING ARMY

This Maharal becomes difficult to understand when we take into account a basic historical overview. The events of Chanukah take place around the middle of the era of the Second Bais HaMikdash. From the time that Bavel destroyed the first Bais HaMikdash up until that point, the Jewish people lived under the reign of gentile monar-

chies. Our right to exist and our form of self-government was decided by the ruling parties. We were a vassal state under foreign rule, and when the Yivanim entered Yerushalayim, the Jewish people did not even have a standing army. This wasn’t a war of a stronger army against a weaker opponent. It was a war in which the most powerful empire in the world was pitted against a band of unorganized, unarmed, private citizens. While the war itself lasted three years, during the entire first year of fighting there were no formal battles. Two armies were not squaring off against each other; there was no Jewish army. The fighting consisted of guerrilla skirmishes. Some Jews would sneak up on a lone detail of Yivani soldiers, kill them, and take their arms. Bit by bit, more Jews would join Yehudah Ha’Macabi, but at every point during the war, the Jews were far outnumbered, outgunned, and preposterously less battle-ready than their enemies. Even more startling is that almost all of the original fighters had no battle experience. The leaders of the rebellion were Kohanim. A Kohen is a Torah teacher, one who serves in the Bais HaMikdash, one who guides the klal Yisroel in ruchniyus (spiritual matters). He isn’t a soldier. So this was a war led and fought not by soldiers, but by roshei yeshiva. It was akin to Reb Shmuel


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HOW COULD ANYONE NOT SEE THE MIRACLE OF THE WAR? No intelligent assessment of the situation would have predicted a Jewish victory. How then is it possible that the Jews at the time saw these events as anything other than the miracles that they clearly were? The answer to this question seems to be that when one is many years away and far removed, he gains a historical vantage point. He is able to see an event in context and can easily recognize it as a miracle. But to those living in the dayto-day heat of the battle, it is much more difficult to see the event from that perspective. To those involved, it seemed to be a natural course of events. Granted the odds were slim, but the Jews won. Skirmish after skirmish,

battle after battle, the Macabees came out victorious. There is no question that they did well, which is why it seemed that their skill, their cunning, and their wisdom in battle won those wars. And as such, to people living in those times, the miracle was hidden. And then a single event focused their sight. When the Kohanim returned to the Bais HaMikdash and took out that little bit of oil that couldn’t possibly last for eight days and watched it remain aglow night after night, everyone knew it was miraculous. When they experienced the miracle of the oil, it reshaped the previous three years in their minds. Then they could see the battles themselves as the miracles that they were. Exactly as the Maharal said, “The miracle of the oil revealed the miracle of the battle.”

B’ZMAN HA’ZEH In our own times, we witness an eerie parallel to these events and to

the same mistaken interpretation. For almost two thousand years we have existed as a lone sheep amongst seventy wolves. Universally hated and oppressed, the Jewish people have survived. And now, after almost 1900 years of wandering, we find ourselves back in our own land. Since 1948, the Jewish nation has witnessed profound miracles in the repopulation and development of the land of Israel. But it is the survival of our people that is the greatest miracle. In 1948, the population in the Middle East numbered roughly 650,000 Jews, surrounded by some 50 million Arabs. On May 15, 1948, one day after the State of Israel was declared, five nations attacked, each with well-trained armies and air forces, each alone capable of annihilating the small band of Holocaust survivors. At the time there was no Jewish army, navy or air force. Yet, against all odds, we won

that war, and against all odds we continued to win war after war – until now, ironically, when the Jews are considered the superpower in the region. To most people, Jew and gentile alike, it seems that this is just the way of the world. To the average witness to these events, it isn’t a demonstration of the hand of Hashem. It is just the ebb and flow of history. The lesson of Chanukah is to see behind the veil of nature, to tune our sight into the true cause of events, and to see that it is Hashem Who runs the world and fights our wars – then as now.

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Light Unto Your Menorah A Close Look into Your Chanukah Candles: From Israel to Your Window By Brendy J. Siev

These weeks, we emerge from work and school to a world prematurely dark. We inhale the cool, crisp air and smile: Chanukah is coming. Time to load up on potatoes, oil, gelt, and boxes of motley candles. Most of these candles have traveled to our homes from Israeli factories that have produced candles for decades. Here’s an insider’s look into the process and places that make the candles that make Chanukah, well, Chanukah. A BUNCH OF HOT WAX

Chanukah candles, according to Esther at Safed Candles, come from paraffin wax, a wax derived from petroleum. The paraffin is heated in large vats; different colored dyes are added to the vats to color the candles. The hot wax is poured into smaller pitchers and then into large steel forms, perforated with long

WHERE DO MY CANDLES COME FROM? Safed Candles

Safed Candles sends thousands of candles from Tsfat to stores all over Israel and America. Their factory, though, recently moved operations from Tsfat to northern Isra-

candle molds. Each mold has a wick embedded inside. As the wax cools, the tray is tilted to toss the candles out of the form. Hundreds of pencil-thin, fiveinch-long candles file out, ready for packing into boxes of 44, the perfect number to last a single menorah a whole Chanukah. Decorative candles at Safed Candles

el. These candles are white-based, hand-dipped and colored. The factory has been open for 28 years; their founder, an Israeli, learned candle making in California and brought his skill back to Israel. Paraffin, Esther tells us, makes for prettier colors. Beeswax is more


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malleable and suitable for shaped candles and sculpted candles. The message of their candles, says Esther, is that this Chanukah, we must “start seeing more light in the world. We need that.”

Menora Candle Company Most candles come from the Menora Candle Company, a company with a heroic history that produces 55 million candles in just two months. The factory opened in 1939. Twenty-six years ago, Holocaust survivor Yisrael Sheiner purchased the candle factory. Now 88-years-old, Mr. Sheiner is an inspiration. Born in Pinczow, Poland, he and his family ran to the forest when Sheiner was a mere 11-years-old to escape the Nazis. They lived in an underground bunker for three years; Yisrael eventually fought with partisans in the woods.

The ubiquitous candles perfect for Chanukah

Chanukah is a holiday that is close to his heart. One Chanukah in the bunker, Yisrael drew a replica of the family menorah onto a piece of wood and carved it out for them to “light” underground. Sheiner often thinks of that year’s Chanukah celebration in the bunker. He spent the post-war years in France, but he made aliyah when he turned 65. In a way, the Menora Candle Company became his shlichut, his mission. He purchased the candle factory and then deliberately moved its operations to Sderot, two kilometers from the Gaza border. Sheiner wanted to bring industry and jobs to this remote Southern city, a city that over the past decade has felt the scars of being on the frontlines of the most recent intifada. Seven years ago, in fact, the factory itself was targeted by a Qassam rocket from Gaza. It blew out the windows and doors of the factory, though thankfully all the workers

and inventory were unscathed. But Sheiner believes, as Haaretz reported, that it’s “symbolic that the most bombarded city in Israel produces candles that stand for heroism and resilience.” His candlelit mission did not end with developing a border city: the factory also employs many special needs adults. Between 150 and

200 special needs adults work in the packing plant; around five work in the factory. Ilan Ben Moshe purchased the factory when Sheiner was finally ready to retire at 82. The two continue to meet regularly. Ben Moshe told Voice of Israel reporter Judy Lash Balint that the special needs employees “help make us good in our hearts.

We treat them like one of the Menora family.” If to most children chocolate gelt and gifts are the closest experience to being Charlie in the Chocolate Factory, Ben Moshe believes his candle factory is closest to the real fantasy. As Willy Wonka would say, the job is done with love. Continued on page 92


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It’s “symbolic that the most bombarded city in Israel produces candles that stand for heroism and resilience.” This is particularly key for the Sderot community. The community, founded as a transit camp for Jews leaving Arab countries during the early 1950s, evolved with the influx of Jews from the former Soviet Union into a diverse city. During wartime, those in Jerusalem and Tel Aviv hear alarms, enter their sealed rooms, and then return to business. But those in Sderot, Ben Moshe says, have ten seconds to respond to the alarm and to hide. For those working in a building, this may be emotionally manageable, but thoughts immediately go to children who may be in school, the park, or garden. “People have psychological and physical scars,” Ben Moshe told Voice of Israel. “So we try to organize fun days for families and locals. Our workers are like our family.” A third of the candles made in Israel are exported to the United

States, Canada, France, and Australia. In all, the candles reach 30 countries. As soon as Chanukah ends, the Menora factory begins making candles for next year. The fact that the factory thrives, producing millions of candles, is the message of Chanukah and all Jews. By the first light of Chanukah, every home in Israel is infused with the soft glow of Chanukah candles, a glow that unites all Jewish families for eight days. And thousands of their brother candles, cast from the same mold, shine in Jewish windows in 30 other countries. From deep in a bunker, to a city surrounded by enemies, to streets lined with friends, neighbors, and family, the menorah and its candles tell our Jewish story: We survive, we thrive, and we work through adversity to keep our spirituality and hope burning.

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A Taste of Chanukah By Naomi Nachman

I can’t believe that it’s Chanukah already! I have had so many calls and email requests for several of my Chanukah recipes that have been featured over the last few years so I decided to put together a Chanukah roundup for you to use and enjoy over this chag. Note: I use an oil thermometer to monitor the oil heat; the perfect frying temperature range is usually between 350°F and 375°F.

Ricotta Cheese Latkes Ingredients 1 ½ cups ricotta cheese ½ cup milk ½ teaspoon vanilla extract 2 eggs, separated ¼ cup sugar 1 cup flour 1 tsp baking powder Pinch kosher salt 2 tsp canola oil

Preparation Place ricotta, milk, vanilla extract and egg yolks in a bowl and mix well. Stir in sugar, flour, baking powder and salt and mix gently until smooth. In a separate bowl, beat egg whites to soft peaks, then fold them into the cheese mixture. Heat oil in a 9-inch pan till oil is hot (approximately 360°F), drop 1/8 cup worth of batter into the pan and lower heat to medium. Fry on both sides until brown, about 2 minutes per side.

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ball, about 2-3 minutes. Remove from the heat and place in a mixing bowl. Using an electric mixer, add the eggs, one at a time, until fully incorporated. Place the dough in a pastry bag with a large star tip. Heat the oil in a saucepot to 360°F. Pipe the churros into the hot oil and cook until golden brown. Remove from the oil, drain on a paper towel, and roll in cinnamon sugar.

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Deep Fried Oreos Ingredients 2 quarts vegetable oil for frying 1 large egg 1 cup milk (parve) 2 tsp vegetable oil 1 cup pancake mix 1 (18 oz.) package cream-filled chocolate sandwich cookies (such as Oreos)

Preparation Heat oil in a deep fryer to 360°F. Whisk together the egg, milk, and 2 teaspoons of vegetable oil in a bowl until smooth. Stir in the pancake mix until no dry lumps remain. Dip the cookies into the batter one at a time, and carefully place into the hot frying oil. Fry only 4 or 5 at a time to avoid overcrowding the deep fryer. Cook until the cookies are golden-brown, about 2 minutes. Drain on a paper

with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website, www.theaussiegourmet.com or at (516) 295-9669.

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Health & F tness

Timeless Parenting By Hylton I. Lightman, MD, DCH, FAAP

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nce upon a time, people got married, had children, and raised them to be self-sufficient, fully functioning adults. Then their children got married, had their own children and raised them to be self-sufficient, fully functioning adults. The older generation helped their young adult children learn to parent. In time, new, young parents discovered their own way, finding their own voice to raise their children. As Tevye the Milkman says in Fiddler

on the Roof, “Everyone knows who he is and what G-d expects him to do.” This may seem like a fairy tale today, but I can testify – this is how parenting worked for many generations with little fuss or fanfare. As a pediatrician, I fear that we have lost this time-proven continuity as one coddled generation is raising an even more coddled generation. What happened? I see parents treat children as their peers and equals with no

boundaries. Protracted childhood and adolescence lets people avoid responsibility – they expect to be taken care of ad infinitum. I’ve heard the current generation called the “snowflake generation.” Why? Because each person is unique. Each person is special. Each person is an individual. And when you touch one – or have some kind of expectation of them – they melt immediately. There’s a terrific video I recommend on this topic with parenting expert John Rosemond presented by Prager U called “Vitamin N.” You

authority? The venerable parenting specialist Rebbitzen Sima Spetner is uncompromising in her belief that respect for parents is the foundation for respect for G-d and awe of heaven. Parenting effectively means that often you will not rank on your child’s list of favorite people. That’s fine because you’re there for the long haul. Parenting requires boundary-setting. Using your judgement. Saying NO sometimes. When your child accuses you of being mean or unfair, smile inwardly because

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can find it on YouTube. Rosemond has been talking about the lack of Vitamin N (for “No”) since the 1980s (he’s clairvoyant). His premise: Vitamin N – saying NO to your children – is as important as Vitamins A, B, and C for a child’s healthy growth and development. In fact, Rosemond said, Vitamin N is “the most character-building two-letter word in the English language.” I’ve seen children bossing their parents. It never ceases to amaze us when a parent asks their child whether he wants to see the doctor. They are in the waiting room with an appointment. Of course they are going in. When families are run like democracies, how are children going to learn to respect any higher

you’ve stepped up and acted as their parent, not their friend. As parents, we enjoy some successes in the moment. Invariably, we are going to fail in many moments. But pick yourself up and go on. You might fail again, but it will be a “good” failure. Stay the course. Your children and society will be better for it. I’m cheering you on.

Dr. Hylton Lightman is a pediatrician and Medical Director of Total Family Care of the 5 Towns and Rockaway PC. He can be reached at www.totalfamilycaremd.com, on Instagram at #lightmanpeds or visit him on Facebook.


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Notable Quotes “Say What?!”

You can bet that the men and women we honor today — and those who died that fateful morning 75 years ago — never took a knee and never failed to stand whenever they heard our national anthem being played. – U.S. Pacific Command commander Adm. Harry Harris, whose father and four uncles served in World War II, at a Pearl Harbor memorial

A real estate agency that sells apartments inside Trump Tower is advertising the new 24-hour presence of Secret Service agents as a, quote, “new amenity,” while they’re advertising the eggs that hit your windows as “free grocery delivery.” - Jimmy Fallon

Holiday shopping is upon us, and Amazon is trying to make it even easier by debuting a new store concept called Amazon Go. It’s a store where sensors detect which items you’ve grabbed, charge your Amazon account, and you can just walk out… Maybe other retailers can learn from this. Hey, CVS Pharmacy, are you watching? This is how you do self-checkout. Not me scanning my own stuff for 15 minutes while a woman with a ring of keys judges me. – James Corden

To look up out at this kind of creation and not believe in G-d is to me impossible. It just strengthens my faith. - Astronaut John Glenn, who passed away last week, in 1998, talking about what it’s like to see the Earth from thousands of miles above

Trump won in spite of losing in TIME’s online poll to Hillary Clinton. Can she win anything? Really, Hillary’s now just hoping to win a mug that says “World’s Best Grandma.” - Jimmy Kimmel

That play[ed] great before the election. Now we don’t care, right? - Trump, at a “Thank You” rally when the audience started chanting, “Lock her up”

There are reports that Trump will be getting a Goldendoodle puppy when he takes office. To teach it how to beg and roll over, they actually brought in Mitt Romney.

Donald Trump said he has asked President Obama to help recommend some of his appointments. Obama said fine, and recommended Hillary Clinton for president.

– Jimmy Fallon

– Conan O’Brien

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The Supreme Court has ruled that Samsung did not violate Apple’s patent on smartphone technology. The justices said, “It’s clear that Samsung came up with the idea of a phone bursting into flames all by themselves.” - Conan O’ Brien

[I] fell in love with him because he really talks about helping African-American black people, and that’s why I’m here. - NFL Hall of Famer Jim Brown to CNN after meeting with Trump

The Dakota Access oil pipeline, which the Sioux tribe has been protesting for months, will no longer be routed through their land. It’s a big win for Native Americans — and if the next 9 billion things go their way, we can finally call it even. – James Corden

[W]e have, by no means, overcome the legacies of slavery and Jim Crow and colonialism and racism… - President Obama on the “Daily Show”

I am going to run for president in 2020. - Joe Biden to a group of reporters

Russia’s getting out of hand? So says the defeated. Not to worry... Remember I can keep an eye on them from here. – Sara Palin tweet, trolling Democrats

Presidential Tweets The final Wisconsin vote is in and guess what - we just picked up an additional 131 votes. The Dems and Green Party can now rest. Scam! Can you imagine if the election results were the opposite and WE tried to play the Russia/CIA card. It would be called conspiracy theory!

I am not committed to anything. I learned a long time ago, fate has a strange way of intervening. - Ibid., when asked if he was joking

This week, Donald Trump is going to North Carolina, Iowa, and Michigan — all states that voted for him — for his “Thank You” tour. Then, he comes here to California for the “You’re Dead to Me” tour. – Conan O’Brien

A lot of his message has been about where he sees things not as good as he’d like….but in the same way President Kennedy talked about the space mission and got the country behind that. I think whether it’s education or stopping epidemics ... [or] in this energy space, there can be a very upbeat message that [Trump’s] administration [is] going to organize things, get rid of regulatory barriers, and have American leadership through innovation. – Bill Gates, after meeting with President-elect Trump

Is this something of a national emergency? – A CNN pundit discussing Trump’s victory

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Dating Dialogue

What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LMSW of The Navidaters

Dear Navidaters,

I’m supposed to be getting married in eight weeks from now and I want to break my engagement off. What makes it so impossible is the fact that I have already broken another engagement and can’t imagine what would happen if I did it again. The reason I broke my first engagement was because I felt as though once I became engaged my chosson no longer treated me with the same respect as he showed prior to our getting engaged. While beforehand he would open a door for me, or ask my opinion about things, or even just have the patience to listen to what I had to say, he suddenly started showing his true colors and acted as though he didn’t have to be on good behavior anymore. It was even obvious to my family and they actually not only supported me breaking the engagement but were very supportive in general. It was still a very hard period in my life, and I wouldn’t wish the experience on anyone. But I eventually got through it. When I got engaged this second time around, I made sure to pick someone very, very kind and caring. On paper, he is perfect in every

way. The problem is that he doesn’t excite me – not even a little. I don’t look forward to seeing him and often when wea are together, I feel bored and can’t wait until he takes me home. This has been troubling to me for a while, but I didn’t want to complain to my parents – or even to myself! But last week, when we were supposed to go out together for dinner, he called to tell me that he was feeling sick and had to cancel. Rather than worrying about what was wrong with him, I found myself feeling so relieved that I wouldn’t have to see him that evening. That really scared me! How can I embark on a life with a man who I don’t enjoy being with? Yes, he is nice and kind and has all the good qualities that my first chosson didn’t have. And I appreciate how important those qualities really are. But now I’m thinking that I was so desperate to find a good man, that I overlooked my need to be enthusiastic about the relationship. I feel so stuck and wonder whether I should just make the best of things, since I brought this on myself, or risk being the talk of the town and break up – yet once again? Please give me some advice and probably much-needed perspective. Sincerely, T. R.

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can appreciate your trepidation at this point, where you seem to feel that chemistry is missing from the relationship with your chosson and

yet are afraid of breaking up with a nice, kind man. Regardless of what the neighbors may say, you need to make a decision for yourself and your future. You seem to understand that this question is serious. It is. You need serious help from a professional who is experienced in counseling engaged couples. And you

need the time to do so without pressure. The chances of your making a heathy decision will be greater if you quietly pause your wedding preparations without telling anyone besides your parents and invest all of your time in talking with a professional, alone, and with your chosson. Some of the questions you will

explore will center on him and his ability to deal with difficulties in the past and the present crisis. Is he being patient and kind to you during the process? Have you seen him deal with others in a way that you admire? Who are his heroes and why? Has he had a chance to talk about what fires him up? Does he feel he has present-


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ed himself as he truly is? Have you varied the venues of your dates and activities together? Has he done only what he thinks you like and not what he likes? How is he reacting to the pause? Other questions will center on you. Do you enjoy being the initiator and the “exciting” one? What are your perceptions of marriage? What about differences in style and personalities? Do you articulate to him what your wants and interests are? What you like to do? Other questions will focus on alignment. Are you two on the same page in terms of priorities of material, spiritual and social values? Talking all of this through with help will take time. Make sure you have lots of time before you make your decision about your future. And daven throughout for the wisdom to make a good decision. Good luck!

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read your letter a few times and I gave much thought to what you were saying and feeling. As a mother and a kallah teacher, I would recommend that you break off this engagement as well. There has to be an emotional connection between you and your spouse. Otherwise, what will happen is that when things get a little rough in your marriage – which eventually always happens on occasion – you will have no motivation or desire to work things through. You say that you can’t wait till he takes you home from a date. That is a huge red flag. Listen to your inner voice and hear what you are saying. You answered your own question. How can you embark on a life with a man who you don’t enjoy being with? That will affect every part of your relationship. You cannot make a decision based on what others are going to say about you. Would you rather wait until you get divorced? You need to think about you and only you at this time.

Marriage is hard work. It is a lifetime of continuous avoda. In order for that to happen, two people who enter that pact must have a sincere desire and an excitement to want to build and create a unified home together. You would be beginning this important stage of your life without any of those feelings. Can you imagine what will happen when you hit a bump along the road? You need to sit your parents down and have a talk with them and explain how you feel. There is no way they will want you to go through with this, feeling this way. And then I think you need to give yourself some time to develop your inner self. Think about who you are, where you are going, what you want to accomplish in life, the reasons you want to get married, and where you see yourself in ten years from now. Develop yourself as a person, build yourself up so that when you do begin to date again you will have a lot more confidence in yourself, allowing you to realize that you deserve to marry someone you are excited to be with. Hatzlacha.

The Mother Sarah Schwartz Schreiber, PA Your dilemma kept me up all night. You, my dear, are wedged between the proverbial rock and hard place. As you state, “How can I embark on a life with a man who I don’t enjoy being with?” Well, simply put, you can’t. What makes your quandary so painful is that while you ruminate over your prerequisites for a mate (excitement and enthusiasm) and you rationalize that Shidduch #1 caused you to choose Shidduch #2, there is another person – that “kind and caring” individual – who is adversely affected. Your problem does not have a happy ending – not for you, who will have to endure the public humiliation of two broken engagements, or for your erstwhile chosson, who will have to endure the trauma of a broken engagement (in your words, “I wouldn’t wish the experience on anyone”). It’s grownup time. Don’t waste another moment

Many people stay in bad situations because of the fear of judgment and the sometimes practical repercussions of that judgment.

wringing your hands; enlist the aid of your chosson’s rav, the shadchan, or another qualified individual in terminating the engagement in the most sensitive way possible. Back to you. While you don’t mention whether you sought professional guidance during or after your first broken engagement, it is imperative that you seek counselling now. Aside from your personal support system (your family and friends), only a professional can give you the tools to deal with the “post traumatic stress” of two breakups. Let’s examine Shidduch #1: was your “oisvorf” filter working during the dating process? A therapist can help you hone your ability to evaluate a potential shidduch from an objective, thoughtfully considered perspective. With Shidduch #2, you concede that desperation (that reckless driver) caused you to get engaged to a young man who was “paper-perfect” but not for you. Warning: after two mishaps, you are at exponential risk of falling prey to desperation once more. A qualified counselor has the knowledge and expertise to rebuild your self-esteem and help restore your confidence to date again and, b’ezras Hashem, choose the most loving, caring chosson ever. Many decades ago, a mother of a 19-year-old young lady asked a venerable mechanech whether she should allow her daughter to date a boy who “broke a shidduch.” His answer was swift and definitive: “Not unless the

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ome people might say that it’s often hard to find a good man nowadays even in the frum sector. Whether or not that’s the case, I don’t feel I have enough information about your situation to fully properly advise you, except to first and foremost suggest that you see a dating coach. A good dating coach will inquire about what your dates are like, where he takes you on your dates, and what are some of the subjects discussed on your dates. Also, since I don’t know how long the two of you have known each other, it’s hard to gauge where you two should be mentally or emotionally with one another. I don’t think breaking off the engagement before exploring certain options is the right move, though it would be very helpful for you to date longer and get to know one another a lot better before you actually tie the knot. I am thinking you may need to shake up how the two of you are dating and what your conversations look like on your dates. Malka Schulman has “the Dating Box” with great questions and topics to discuss with a potential mate. I suggest you also write some of your own serious or deep questions that you’d like to know about your Chosen too. Obviously, be prepared to answer them in return. Try to structure these questions/answers as some sort of game, so that it doesn’t feel like an interview. Rabbi Dov Heller also has a great list of 39 questions you must answer before you say “I do” to anyone, on his website www.claritytalk. com. Also, I suggest you both make a list of fun places the two of you can explore and/or experience together. These activities should help your relationship blossom. Through learning about each other and experiencing things together you can fall in love with a person.


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Pulling It All Together The Navidaters Dating and Relationship Coaches and Therapists

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uch like Rachel Chafetz and Rebbetzin Horowitz, I found myself giving an awful lot of thought to your e-mail and personal situation. You are undoubtedly going through quite an ordeal. You wisely broke off your first engagement to a man who quickly showed you his true colors. You then made a second wise decision to look for the important character traits of kindness and caring in a mate. You took out your best magnifying glass and found what you were looking for, but in your search forgot to put down your lens and take a look at the bigger picture.

And here you are, bored and unfulfilled in your relationship. Your greatest excitement to date was when your fiancé cancelled your date. Your internal compass guided you when it said, “This feeling is scary.” That is because your intuition is spot on. The relief you felt when he cancelled the date speaks volumes. What exactly your relief speaks to, I do not know and can’t know due to the nature of the column. As if this conflict wasn’t enough, to add insult to injury, you

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have the additional concern of how the community will receive you and judge you. Many people stay in bad situations because of the fear of judgment and the sometimes practical repercussions of that judgment. “Whew! Now what?” was my personal reaction to all the sound but very different opinions and perspectives of the panel. When the panel is all pretty much in agreement, it can be a very affirming and clarifying experience for the individual writing in. The nature of your inquiry has panel members giving you conflicting advice. Rebbetzin Horowitz keenly suggests taking the time to make this decision for yourself and offers insightful and key topics for you to explore with a mental health professional. Rachel Chafetz thinks it is wise for you to break off the engagement and provides good evidence to buttress her case, and Sarah Schwartz Schreiber agrees. Irit Moshe says, “Not so fast,” and suggests you see a dating coach, get to know each other better, and maybe shake things up on your dates. The panelists do not see eye to eye, which is a good reflection of your inner turmoil. Do I stay or do I go? Two different relationships. Two different men. Two different sets of circumstances and problems. One common denominator: You. I think it would be wise to see a therapist at this point in time. Your therapist will not advise you whether to stay or leave your fiancé (though you can explore your ambivalence as much as you need to) but will support you in making the decision that feels right for you. In therapy you will explore your attraction to both of these very different men. There is something you found attractive about both of these partners. The first, (strikes me as probably) charming, exciting, maybe manipulative. The second, the former’s foil; kind, caring, boring. Aside from making the here and now decision of whether to stay or break it off, I would like to see you gain some insight into your attractions and decisions. How long after engagement #1 did you meet #2? After #1, what was your process? Did you take some time off to process your feelings and heal? Were you ready to date again when you started?

And at what point in this relationship did you realize you were unfulfilled? Was it before you got engaged? I’d also like for you to explore why you would consider settling for anything less than a decent relationship. I have to wonder about how you feel about yourself and what you believe yourself to be worthy of. This in my opinion is of utmost importance. You ask, “How can I embark on a life with a man who I don’t enjoy being with?” I will tell you what that life may look like. You will tolerate and you will tolerate some more. You will wonder if you made a mistake. You will push these thoughts and feelings down and at times feel that you are in control of them finally. You will enjoy time with your children, friends and family. You will make a life around your husband as opposed to a life connected to your husband. A love may develop between the two of you as you experience the joys and lows of life as partners invested in each other. There are women who choose this choice. Some are very happy and some are not. And then there are the women for whom this is a death sentence. The women who break off their engagements because the aforementioned description is a living purgatory. They are scared: scared of hurting their significant other, scared of disappointing family and friends and scared of the unknown. But they leave because they have an intuition or firm belief that this is not where they belong and that they are destined for something greater. I truly wish you the best of luck with your difficult decision. Give yourself permission to take as much time as you need to come to your decision. Sincerely, Jennifer

The Navidaters are dating and relationship coaches and therapists. Located in Lawrence, NY, their services include date debriefing, dating skills coaching, couples counseling, premarital and marital counseling. Sessions are held in the office or via phone or Skype. The Navidaters can be reached at 516.224.7779. If you have a dating or relationship scenario you would like to be featured in WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF, email thenavidaters@gmail.com. Check out their website, thenavidaters. com for more information. Follow TheNavidaters on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.


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Political Crossfire

Tweets and Theater Entertain, but Congress is the Main Event By Charles Krauthammer

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he most amusing part of the Trump transition has been watching its effortless confounding of the media, often in fewer than 140 characters. One morning, after a Fox News report on lefty nuttiness at some obscure New England college – a flag burning that led a more-contemptible-than-usual campus administration to take down the school’s own American flag – Donald Trump tweets that flag burners should go to jail or lose their citizenship. An epidemic of constitutional

national security address on Tuesday. Lt. Gen. Michael Flynn’s son got more attention. Trump has mesmerized the national media not just with his elaborate Cabinet-selection production, by now Broadway-ready. But with a cluster of equally theatrical personal interventions that by traditional standards seem distinctly unpresidential. It’s a matter of size. They seem small for a president. Preventing the shutdown of a Carrier factory in Indiana. Announcing, in a contextless

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45-second surprise statement, a major Japanese investment in the U.S. Calling for cancellation of the new Air Force One to be built by Boeing. Pretty small stuff. It has the feel of a Cabinet undersecretary haggling with a contractor or a state governor drumming up business on a Central Asian trade mission. Or of candidate Trump selling Trump steaks and Trump wine in that bizarre victory speech after the Michigan primary. Presidents don’t normally do such things. It shrinks them. But then again, Trump is not yet presi-


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