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Leah Smith

A Journey To Stardom

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Can A Mere Friend Break Your Heart?

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OR’DAN ARMSTRONG

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FROM OUR EDITOR... PUBLISHER & EDITOR IN CHIEF

Winter has arrived, and for many this marks the beginning of a long wait until the first robin appears or the quietest crocus peeks out of the softening ground. Yet winter is not without its beauty. On a sunless day, the grays merge to form a somber and peaceful landscape.

ZIQUIA L. ANDREWS ASSOCIATE PUBLISHER

CORRIE JOHNSON

Think of the silhouette of a leafless tree. Its leafy abundance may be missing, but its beauty is still intact. For me, winter often serves up a wellspring of precious childhood memories packed with hours of winter fun and big mugs of marshmallows and whipped-cream-topped hot chocolate.

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Of course, after the Holidays have come and gone, winter also provides a season of peace and reflection. It gives us the opportunity to stay inside; and look within ourselves, as we're not called outdoors to enjoy the warmth and sunshine that we normally do; depending on where you live. We tend to concentrate on New Year Resolutions; hoping to truly make a change or do something different this time around.

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SHAWNA MURPHY EXECUTIVE ASSISTANT TO THE EDITOR

APRIL CURTIS

As we reflect, let’s remember to pursue God. In the book of Psalms, in chapter 145, David calls us to take the time to look back on our lives and reflect on the goodness of our God. Even though it may be cold or frozen outside, we don’t want our relationship with God to be frozen as well.

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Contents

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What Did I Trade For the Kingdom of God Beginnings and Endings How To Be Successful In High School Dealing With School Bullies How New Years Resolutions Began

JOR’DAN ARMSTRONG

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Meet Jor’Dan Armstrong. This young man will change the way you feel about Christian music. His music is full of energy. “Jor’Dan Armstrong is what is missing from Gospel music today” ―DaSouth.com

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Radiate Kindness and Love; and Get it Back

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WHAT’S NEXT? Are you at that point in your life where you just can't figure out where or what God is leading you into? If so, be prepared, because your future might hold something you could have never even dreamed of.

-180 RADIO: TOP 20 COUNTDOWN Get in on the hottest releases to hit the airwaves.

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|ON THE COVER|FEATURED INTERVIEW

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A JOURNEY TO STARDOM

Leah Smith has shared the stage with Grammy Award winning artists such as Aretha Franklin, Alicia Keys, and Israel Houghton. A former member of Israel Houghton and New Breed, Smith has already toured the United States, Asia, Europe, and Australia. Her sound has become legendary among the gospel and secular soul world. Her musical talent― has received much attention from networks such as BET.

READ HER STORY

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AFTER THOUGHTS:

Is it possible to stay pure in a relationship; even in college? Is it possible to gain back the innocence you once possessed and wait? Let’s find out!

WHAT’S ON OUR PLAYLIST Our choice of great music we enjoy everyday.

What’s on your playlist? Drop us an email at: mail@temperancemag.com.

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CAN A MERE FRIEND BREAK YOUR HEART? People tend to believe you are broken hearted when romantically rejected; but is it possible for your heart to be broken by someone you hold dear just as a friend?


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Radiate Kindness And Love ‌ And Get it Back By, Gerard O. Donovan

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ll of us know that when a small stone is thrown into a pond can stirs up ripples all around it. This imagery is a good way of showing how a single person can make a big impact on the people around them. It shows how their attitude can affect others without his notice or knowledge.

Now think back on how you've been handling yourself and your attitude the past few years. Have you been kind and positive; or have you been acting exactly the opposite? Remember, what you're giving out can affect everyone around you. The great thing about being kind, loving, and positive about things is that in return it also always comes back to you.

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One's relationship with friends, colleagues, and loved ones can be harmed. The best way to get it remedied would be to start becoming a bit more kind when dealing with people. It's a difficult road to try to change but starting to recognize how you've been a bit unkind can start you to become better. Practice a better way of life. It will be hard to change your way of thinking and dealing with people but often reminding yourself of what you've set out to change will help. Once you start being positive and becoming kind in your dealings with everyone you'll see it won't only be you who'll change. The changes that you'll start seeing would be having a more positive interaction with people. You'll also see that you'll see less stress in your relationships


and less stress within yourself.

love you back, you'll see that you'll also start loving yourself more.

Reap the benefits of a better life. Being positive and being loving can start you on a road where you have less conflicts and better dealings with everything and everyone around you. It will also feel good to become kind even to those who are being unkind. Who knows seeing you will start them on their own journey of change. Lastly, when you start changing yourself it's not only others who'll

Remember, all your actions will cause ripples going outwards. It's up to you what effect you'll send out to others and the world. All things are connected and you can choose to send out love and kindness. Those ripples in turn will go back to you. ŠTY

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By, Jeremy Biggar

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ave you ever gotten to a point in your life where you are asking God, ‘Now What? – Where do you want me to go? – What do you want me to do?’ Maybe you have not gotten there yet or maybe you are there now.

Well, whatever the scenario may be, you can rest assured that God is going to lead you in the right direction. There are plenty of examples all throughout the bible of how God led different men and women when they too were asking the question, ‘what next?’. What does God do? He simply says, ‘I’ll show you’ – and then does the impossible. But maybe that is just it. Maybe God is not showing you the next step because you just would not believe it. I mean, God does not want your negative thoughts, unbelief, or lack of faith. In Mark chapter 5, Jesus was teaching and healing the sick when a synagogue ruler, Jairus, came to Jesus pleading to him to come heal his dying daughter. While Jesus was on the way, men from the rulers house came to him saying that his daughter had died.

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But Jesus, ignoring what the men had said, said to Jairus, “Don’t be afraid; Just believe.” – Mark 5:36. You see, the ruler had faith that Jesus could heal his daughter’s sickness, but I doubt he would not of had the faith in Jesus to overcome and look past death. However, before Jairus could even say one word, Jesus silenced his unbelief. Even when Jesus arrived at Jairus’ home, Jesus cleared the room so it was just Him, His disciples, and the girl’s parents. He wanted no unbelief, however He left only the girl’s doubting parents so He could show them what a real miracle was. And what was their reaction? …..”they were completely astonished.” – Mark 5:42. Someone who has faith is not ‘astonished’ when whatever they were believing in comes to life… literally. A big problem a lot of us have is that we’re searching for ‘what’s next’ in our lives in all the wrong areas. Such was the problem of a sick woman. Jesus, still in the midst of traveling to the rulers house, had a strange encounter with a woman who had a bleeding disorder. As Jesus was walking through the town, the woman fought through the crowds so that she could touch Jesus’ cloak. She believed that she could be healed from such a simple act. Mark 5:28 - “…because she thought,


“If I just touch his clothes, I will be healed.” And guess what, she was. “Immediately her bleeding stopped and she felt in her body that she was freed from her suffering.” – Mark 5:29. Why do I tell you this story? Because this woman realized that in order to find out what was next in her life, she had to get closer to Jesus. You see, this woman had this disorder for twelve years. She searched and searched for answers, the ‘what was next’, but couldn’t find any. “She had suffered a great deal under the care of many doctors and had spent all she had, yet instead of getting better she grew worse.” Mark 5:26.

If you want to find out ‘what’s next’ in your life then look to the One who has created tomorrow. Believe. Have the faith, and remember, sometimes God will not show you the next step because His plans, or view of a miracle, is a million times larger than yours would ever be. So sometimes, He just has to give it to you all at once. ‘Snap’ – water turned into wine. ‘Pow’ - shepherd made king. ‘Swoosh’ – sea divided. ‘Boom’ – sin conquered and death overcome! I would have never believed it either... that is why He is showing me. ©TY

After years and years of searching, after all the doctor visits, she discovered ‘what was next’ by, as I said, simply getting closer to Jesus. Haven’t we all had that problem, or still do? A problem is thrown on us and we call on God as a last resort. “Cast your burden on the LORD, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved.” – Psalm 55:22.

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n w o d t n u o C 0 Top 2 1. Fuego – Lecrae feat. KB & Suzy Rock 2. Live it Up – Ambassador feat. Trip Lee 3. Come Alive – 116 4. Snap Off – Thi’sl feat. AD3 5. Never Argue – Zerubbabel 6. Hunger Games – Da T.R.U.T.H. 7. Fantasy World – Sherrod White 8. Trap Money – Flame feat Young Noah & Thisl 9. Arrogant – Jay (Underground Joint of the Week) 10. Fantasy World – Sherrod White 11. Excellent – Propoganda 12. In All That I Do – Primisis 13. Open Letter – KB feat. Swoope, Jai and Trip Lee 14. Until I Pass Out – Uncle Reece 15. It’s Alright – J’Son 16. Forgive My Soul – Okirike 17. Try Me – Flame feat. Young Noah 18. I Know – Lecrae 19. Loud Music – Canon feat. Derek Minor 20. Revolution – Lil Prophet feat. KAS

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Beginnings

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By, Jerry Ousley

“IN THE BEGINNING GOD CREATED THE HEAVENS AND THE EARTH.�

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love to watch a good movie, don't you? But one thing I absolutely hate is a movie that starts out good, has a decent story plot but ends leaving you hanging. I watched one the other day that had a great story and it kept your attention. It basically was about a sphere found on a sunken space craft that was determined to have come from man's future. However, the captain's log ended with an unknown entry. The mystery was to figure out what this sphere was and what that unknown entry had been. In the end the sphere suddenly shot up out of the craft and into outer space and the three people left had been granted powers to make their dreams reality. To keep from telling what they knew they simply agreed to make their minds forget which explained the unknown entry but man, the ending stunk!

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What about the six seasons of the TV series "LOST;" there was a stinking ending if I ever saw one. All those years watching that show, trying to figure out what the final outcome was going to be and it just ended with the explanation that they were all dead! What a rip! Everything imaginable by man has a beginning and an ending, whether it is good or bad. Because we are finite creations with finite minds, we can't really picture a situation that doesn't include a beginning and an ending. It has to start and it has to finish. The Book of Genesis has a beginning and an ending. However its beginning and ending, in a way, shows the plight of mankind in a nutshell. Genesis 1:1 (the beginning) says, "In the beginning God


Endings created the heavens and the earth." That was the start of all things. During the fifty chapters of the book we read about how everything got started, how man was created, how he sinned and was cast out of the paradise of Eden, and how he literally messed up with God. We read how his sin continued and even got to the point that God destroyed everyone except for Noah, his wife and his sons along with their wives and basically started over. We continue to read of wars, kingdoms and so on. The book finally ends at 50:26 and says, "So Joseph died, being one hundred and ten years old; and they embalmed him, and he was put in a coffin in Egypt." What a great beginning; but it ends with death; such is the story of man. We have taken those beginnings and endings we seem to need to define our existence and invented time. We mark our lives in years that for most of us start January 1 and end December 31. New Years Day is upon us. In just a few days we'll embark on our journey into the New Year. Some will begin with resolutions; things they feel need improvement in their lives with a plan to accomplish that. Some will make it while others won't.

None of us know what we'll experience this year. That knowledge is known only to God. He knows and if we'll listen to His voice in our hearts He will direct us through this coming year in ways that will work out for our best. Sometimes it is hard. We may think He doesn't care at all. But He does. Some may not know Jesus Christ as their Savior. This year it would be wonderful if those folks would make their resolution to get their lives straight with God. It would certainly make a big difference for them. Whatever is going to take place this year let's determine that we are going to go through it with the wisdom of the Lord, walking hand in hand (spiritually speaking) with Him and whether we see a new beginning, or a coffin in Egypt, well, we'll be ready for either. ŠTY

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HOW

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BE SUCCESSFUL IN HIGH SCHOOL By, Clint Cora

To be successful in high school means a lot more than just studying and grades. Yes, grades can be part of overall high school success but they are not the entire story. Here are some other important factors to know if you want to be successful in high school.

Even if you put in enough time for studying to get good grades, you should still take some time to do sports or exercise. It’s good to have a balance of body and mind. Like study habits, it’s best to develop good physical fitness habits now because it will be darn hard later in life. If you don’t believe me, just take a good look outside or in a shopping mall. What do you see? Lots of unhealthy overweight people, right? If you want to keep having a sexy body for many years to come, you have to keep physically active. There's no way around it. It doesn’t matter whether you exercise through sports at school, outside organized clubs/leagues, with your friends or even on

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your own. Just be active. Find activities that you will enjoy. If you don’t know what you like, try different things out. You can play tennis, team sports like basketball, workout at a gym, snowboard, do martial arts or even dance. The options are endless. Don’t be a slouch. Make sure that you have a decent diet too. That doesn’t mean overloading with junk food or starving yourself. You need good fuel to provide energy for exercise. Make time for a social life too. Hanging out and having fun is okay but if too much of it is affecting your grades, then you have to cut down. Go ahead and party once your grades are back up but don’t let them sink again. Stay out of trouble with the law too. You don’t want a criminal record to prevent you from having a successful future career.

Look at the most popular, successful students at your high school. I don’t necessarily mean the hottest looking, the most athletic, the toughest, or even the smartest. These kids may not


always be well liked by everyone. Instead, look at those who are the friendliest and most well liked at school. These kids have virtually no enemies. Their grades are decent but not necessarily the top. They are fit but not necessarily the athletic stars. Ask yourself, what makes these kids so well liked? They are probably very well rounded and have the best attitudes. They seem to have good leadership skills. Study these students and copy them because I can predict with confidence that they will eventually become the most successful in life. These kids have what is known as superior people skills. Success in future careers will depend on a combination of intelligence and people skills far more than just intelligence alone. This is a secret I’ m sharing with you way in advance. Most students even in university or college won’t know about this yet! If you want to get ahead in developing people and leaderships skills that will be of value in a future career, think about getting a part-time job during the school year and definitely work during the summers. Besides making some of your own extra spending money, you will learn to deal with different people. This is a skill you won’t learn in school but will be very important in your future.

Don’t even think about quitting high school! History has shown that those who finish high school will get further ahead in life. Yeah, yeah I know, there are some people who have become multi-millionaires and big stars without ever graduating from high school but they are extremely rare. Sure there’s a chance that you may become successful without a high school diploma but why gamble? Don’t you want to increase your overall chances of becoming successful? If so, you will need a high school education. Being educated just gives you more options out there in life. It opens more doors for you. Also, if it is important for others to respect you as someone who could speak with intelligence, an education will definitely help. Don’t quit high school to rush into work. If you are going to work for the next 40-50 years, then taking a few years to get through high school is not a huge investment of your time. It is actually investing in yourself. Do your time now for greater potential rewards later. If you already quit high school a number of years ago, it’s never too late to go back and get your diploma as a mature student, especially at night school. ©TY

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Dealing with School Bullies By, G.R. Melnick

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ew students can get through the school day without either being bullied or seeing someone being bullied. With national odds at 60% of teens witnessing bullying, chances are that there are few days without seeing bullying. Bullying comes in three major forms, physical, psychological, and cyber. Boys usually do more physical bullying like shoving, tripping, or striking. Girls most often use psychological bullying like spreading nasty rumors, teasing or taunting. The student who is different is most often the one the bully chooses. It might be because of appearance, social position, looks, race or religion. The easiest targets for bullies are the students who do not belong to a popular group. Bullies are not brave, not really so they choose those they consider the most vulnerable, those who

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have no attachment to any popular group. The results for the person being bullied can have a dramatic negative effect on their life. The stress of bullying can lead to physical trauma such as stomach pains, loss of appetite and migraine types of headaches. For some students, the emotional trauma can even lead to suicide. If you are doing the bullying or are part of a group doing bullying stop and give what you are doing some thought? What may seem funny to you is not laughable to the person you are picking on. How do you know whether you are a bully?

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Do you pick on kids smaller than you? Do you enjoy teasing people?


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Do you blame others for anything that goes wrong in your life? Do you want to seem tough or a leader? Do you feel you always have to be right? Do you feel you always have to be a success at whatever you do? Do you get angry when someone else does something better than you?

If you answer yes to more than two of these questions, stop and think about what you are doing. How would you feel if someone you bullied committed suicide and left a note saying you were the cause of the suicide? Picture yourself trying to explain your conduct to the victim's family, or to your family. Imagine what rumors will fly around the school, and around the neighborhood. You would have to live with this the rest of your life. You wouldn't mean it to happen, but being sorry does not count when it involves destroying a life. Now switch and let's say you are the victim of bullying. What can you do about it before it gets too out of hand? There could be many reasons a person is a bully, but none of them make your life any easier if you are the victim. Your only worry is how to end it. So here are some things you can try to put an end to the problem: Avoid being alone as much as possible. If you don't have some friends of your own make a real effort to make some. It is unlikely you are the only victim of a bully, so look around for others and form your own group.

advice on how to deal with it, you are not asking them to handle it for you. What they do with it from that point on is up to you. Consider the different choices open to you and then choose the one that works the best for you. Off the wall ideas. These are ideas that are a bit different but worth at least thinking about: If you feel there is a real threat of physical violence get what is called a personal alarm. This is a small hand held device about the same size as a car door opener. When pressed it puts out a very loud 130 decibel alarm. You can get them on the net for anywhere from $10 to $20. Keep it with you if you really feel you are in danger. Knowing you have it would add a feeling of security. Try negotiation. Ask what you do that causes the bully to want to pick on you. Then ask what you could do to change the situation. You want the bully to know that what is funny to him is painful to you. Sometimes bullies are just clueless about the effects of their actions. If you think the bully could be violent then choose a time to negotiate when someone is around who could protect you. Otherwise just make sure none of the bullies group are near at hand so there is no audience to play to. Fantasize the future. If all else fails keep in mind that they day will come when the bully and you will part company. Think about a future where you are the person in power and the bully is the one seeking your help. Even if it never happens, it is still fun to think about that time. It's sort of like buying a one dollar lottery tick and then thinking about how you would spend the millions you will win. ©TY

Don't for one minute believe you deserve being bullied. For whatever reason you might be different, you might not fit in, but someday you could well end being their boss. Feel good about yourself, even if you have to pretend at the start. The only way a bully can win is if you buy into the put downs.

Walk away. Keeping your cool and letting the bully get under your skin denies them their pleasure. Their ego is fed when you rise to their taunts. Is that something you really want to do? Bullies are like stray dogs, once you feed them they will keep coming back for more. Don't get physical. If the bully thought for one minute that you were a physical threat you would not be picked on. So unless you have some sort of Kung Fu talent, keep your cool. Dealing with gossip. Sad but sure people love to gossip. Adults do it, kids do it, and rarely does anyone think of the consequences to the person they are gossiping about. The only way to handle it is to find a few friends, explain how the gossip is hurting you and then set the record straight. Make sure your friends know that you would not believe nasty rumors about them and that you would hope they would not accept the ones being spread about you. Talk to a teacher or your parents. Yeah, I know this is a tough one. No teen likes having an adult fight their battles for them, but sometimes you have no choice. Look, their job is to give you the best start in life they can and defending you against bullying is part of that job. Tell them you have a problem, and you need advice on how to deal with it. By doing it this way, that is asking for

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'm sure that like me, when many talk, or hear, about heartbreak, we automatically connect it to romantic relationships. It feels like friends never really manage to disappoint us enough for it to qualify as heartbreak but I beg to differ for recently, a couple of close friends broke my heart and it hurt just as much. Culturally (correct me if I'm wrong), many of us grow up in households where an open show of emotions is not usually encouraged and as a result, we've learnt to perfect the protective shield around our hearts. Personally, I don't think that a show of emotions means one is weak; I just think that it makes one appear weak and puts the other person at an advantage because they appear to be stronger - and this is not necessarily true. We don't go through many romantic relationships in our lives - not as much as friendships - so when we realize our friends' capacity to hurt us in ways that break our hearts, some of us become even more protective of that strong, yet fragile, part of ourselves by going into denial. Recently, I experienced such heartbreak and it was weird how much it hurt me. A couple of people who I'd considered to be really close friends for some time disappointed me in a way that some may consider minor but it still hurt - I guess the saying that it's the little things that matter in relationships really is true. They didn't devastate my world or do any serious damage; it was simply a case of exhibiting 'seemingly inconsequential' actions that belittled our friendship (in my mind) and that hurt my feelings.


I know I'm not the only one who feels this way - many do but we feel weird about admitting it because it makes us seem needy - I mean, people, and even you, would go like 'it's not like you guys are dating or anything,' but the truth is, every important relationship in our lives has the power to hurt or heal us, whether it's romantic or not. This is why it hurts when the good news you've been dying to share with your friend is received in a lukewarm manner - he / she can't even drum up any enthusiasm for your good fortune. At that moment, you realize that your good news is not as sweet when your friend is not as excited for you. What of the moment that job, or gig, comes through? You tell your friend, expecting to share happy laughs, only for him / her to rain on your parade with annoying words of discouragement or conspiracy theories on why the good luck wind blew your way making you feel like you don't deserve it. Think of those times when you look so good and you know it, only for your friend to pretend not to notice but she never fails to mention your flaws; or is your friend the one who happily encourages you to make bad fashion choices because it puts her ahead of you in the looks department. Let's not forget the friend who throws you away, or relegates you to a very distant background, once their life changes for the better and they become successful; suddenly, you're not worthy to be part of the posse because you're not cool enough so you're left out in the cold, wondering why your best friend changed along with her success. These are not life changing issues - in fact, they are actually pretty minor issues - but they have the capacity to hurt deeply though many of us refuse to openly admit how much. Well, whether we admit it or not, sometimes when that friend acts in ways that belittle the value we place on our relationship with them, it hurts so much, it breaks our heart. ©TY

CHIS COBBINS— Shooter One of his greatest this time featuring Canon. This single is off his new album “Better”. Do these guys ever stop? Load ‘em up Chris!

JIN— Brand New EP MC Jin has always brought it. Even thought this may not have been his best work, it’s still hot! This will probably be on our playlist for a long, long time.

DRE MURRAY— Only Few Dare [To Be Bold] Awesome! This young man will wow you lyrically and literally. The beat drops, the words flow, and all else seems to be still for that moment while playing this song. It is a MUST to have.

LECRAE—Tell The World “Tell The World”, featuring Mali Music is to me ― actually better than “Church Clothes”. I find that it speaks a lot of truth. Believe me, you will not be able to take it off of repeat!

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Jor’Dan Armstrong

Stronger Than Ever

Thanks for doing this with us Jor'Dan! How have you been? I'm great! Thanks… Just really excited about my new album, "Stronger". How are you guys? We are doing great. Thanks for asking! You have become an inspiration to many. DaSouth.com even said, and I quote; "Jor'Dan Armstrong is what is missing from Gospel music today. He Comes equipped with a new sound for a new generation". What makes your music so unique from other artists? The fact that my music has a mainstream sound separates it from other gospel artists. And, my music has a positive message, which definitely helps to set it apart. Your talent comes from years of practice and I can imagine, hours of dedication. At what age did you get serious about making music? I believe I was about 19 years old when I really got serious. I was always singing in church as a kid, it wasn’t until I was 19 that I decided to do it professionally. I felt like something was missing from Christian/Gospel music and that it was falling behind as far as its sound. It seemed like the right place for me to provide a more youthful sound and I've always loved music. It was something I’ve always wanted to do it. Did you ever consider going secular? No, I didn't. Honestly, I always thought about what my parents and family would think about me doing that. I knew they would not approve. I really cared about their input and I wanted them to be proud of the music I was making. Also, I have a love for Jesus Christ that I want to express on a large scale, so I would be cheating that opportunity if I did secular music.

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You did try a little Caribbean/Reggae sound with Tropicana… lol. What brought that about? That song was inspired by a trip I took to Miami. I visited a Christian club there. They had a lot of music that influenced the sound of "Tropicana". They were having so much fun and enjoying the music that I just knew I had to get home and create something just as fun that embodied that same energy that I felt in Miami. I wanted something fun that sounded great.

FUN FACTS Without music, I would be… dry. Music is…

angry, bitter, and

my life.

My music makes me feel… a sense of release because it comes out of me. I write the songs because… I feel like I have something to say that people need to hear and to express my love for Jesus Christ. Support my music because… I need your help to keep spreading the gospel. XBOX or PlayStation? Explain… PlayStation… I don't like the XBOX controller. It's too bulky. Plus, I've been playing PlayStation since 1999.

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Trackstarz Radio did a comparison from your last album with you and the famous Chris Brown, and it didn't seem to show you much love. . . They said things like, you needed better writers, or that they just didn't like a particular song. Now this was with your album “Champion”. Do you think you stepped it up with this new album? I definitely feel that I stepped it up. But also, I really feel that "Champion" was a great album. Everyone has a right to their opinion, but I do not agree with that comparison. To tell you the truth, I think Chris Brown should let me and my team write some records for him, lol! Would you feel comfortable going "line 4 line" with CB again with this one? Absolutely! I feel like on this album, everything was bet-


What were your feelings on that whole comparison thing that Trackstarz Radio did? Do you think that they were fair with the comparison? Yes, I do think they were fair. Again, everyone has their own opinion. People have their own thoughts about what they like to hear. So, I'm not mad at what they did or how they decided to show it. But, that doesn't change what I know God has for me, my music and my ministry. That "Champion" album touched a lot of people's lives. I still get feedback from people who play that album constantly.

songs on there as well. The album is available on iTunes, CDBaby, Amazon... any online music site where music is sold. ©TY

Mentally, spiritually, musically and physically I am stronger. Every day, I try to grow more in Jesus Christ.

ter. Me and my team were simply better at what we do. We have grown both professionally and spiritually and it really shows in the end product.

Now despite what Trackstarz and its staff thought about your music, you still get a lot of attention. You have performed and opened up for some of Gospel music's greatest such as, Kirk Franklin, Marvin Sapp, Mary Mary and Fred Hammond. How would you describe those experiences? It was a great pleasure. It felt really good to meet those artists. The opportunity to share a stage with them (some of whom are my favorite artists) was such an honor. It also helped me learn a lot about mixing the concert experience with ministry. The title of your new album is called "Stronger". Exactly how would you say you are stronger today? Mentally, spiritually, musically and physically I am stronger. Every day, I try to grow more in Jesus Christ. The title of the album was really a true statement about not only how I feel I have progressed, but also about a journey that I am constantly living. Each day, I am trying to be stronger (in every aspect of my life) that I was the day before. Now, "Stronger" is out now, correct? Give us some info on what we can expect from you in this release and where can we find it. Yes, "Stronger" is out now. People can expect to get some good quality music. "Stronger" really gives a more inside look on my relationship with God. There are more songs about today's issues. Overall, the album is more reflective and serious because I have matured as an artist and as a man. But, there are still those "fun/feel good"

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YOU AIN’T HIT THAT YET? 32

By, Lindsey Ray Alexander

All God needed was 2 willing individuals who would obey Him fully, in the midst of a generation deeply rooted in sex and self-fulfillment, and He began to meticulously orchestrate a love story beyond my own comprehension. I vowed to myself and to God to do this the right way this time. So did Travis. We met at a campus bible study about two years ago. Mind you, I was not looking for a relationship. I was going through a rough patch in my previous relationship. I was a hot mess, I’ll admit. I was angry, disappointed in God, and content with where I was spiritually and physically. We remained friends for those two years, casually carrying on conversation every now and then. Little did we know, God would strategically place us back into each others lives at the perfect time. When we were BOTH ready. God had to literally reveal who I truly was to myself, just how my previous abusive relationships made me bitter, and incapable of fully trusting a man. I allowed men to get close to my body, but never close to my heart. My logic was that if I allowed a man to infiltrate my heart, I lost power. Sex held no value in my sight, especially since it had been tainted, and taken advantage of. Sex was just another hobby, a form of recreation. He showed me that I deserved much more than sex. He showed me that chivalry is NOT dead. A man will treat you with respect, as long as your presence commands it. If we don’t act like ladies, why do we believe that a man will treat us as one?

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Here we are several months later. After taking time to date exclusively, and getting to know one another spiritually and emotionally, he realized that it was time to become official, and proceed to the courting phase. (I’ll go into depth about dating and courting in another post). It’s possible to stay pure in a relationship in college. It’s possible to gain back the innocence you once possessed. It’s possible to wait on who it is that God has for you, not molding a man into “The One”. You cannot manipulate another individual into “The One” when it’s clearly not in God’s plans. You’ll only end up disappointed. How do I know? He did it for me. Let us be honest with ourselves, however. Love does take WORK. Every day is not sunshine and flowers. Believe me, we work at our relationship daily. But the beauty of allowing God to write the most awesome love story outweighs the late nights, conflicts, and our differences in personalities. Our pasts aren’t squeaky clean. Howev-

er, they are truly behind us. I realized that it is impossible to move on in life, and especially in a relationship, while holding on to your ex’s memorabilia (Clothes, letters, gifts, etc). Grab some trash bags and let it all go!

lutely in LOVE with Jesus. That woman is me. Inquiring minds have been dying to know…You ain’t hit that yet?! No, I haven’t yet. *Smiles* ©TY

He took two college students, who had been deeply hurt and bruised by the repercussions of failing relationships, and healed them in ways that seem to be unimaginable. He brought them together at a time where they were both seeking God and His plans for their lives. He loved them, and with this same love they are able to shower one another with the most sincere love. I don’t want sex from Travis. I want to love him in a way that God Himself would be proud of. Behind this amazing man is a woman like myself, who felt as though she was undeserving of such a gift. Who settled for temporary happiness in men, who only wanted her for what she could do for them. Behind him stands a woman who has been changed. A woman who is passionate about seeing young women overcome challenges, and who is abso-

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By, John Wayne

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veryone knows that Year is really a duration of celebration, a period to become listed on with family and friends to express goodbye towards the problems of history and welcome the fortunes that the future holds. But ever wondered why January 1 marks the beginning of the year? Maybe you have thought about why we celebrate in the manner that we do?

New Year’s Traditions and Superstitions

There are a variety of superstitious traditions that began a long time ago which have lost their meaning in current day. Typically these traditions were enacted to influence the luck you might have within the coming year. For instance, the New Year’s Eve parties that people all know and love began due to the belief that what one did on the first day of the entire year may affect their luck. This is why parties go past midnight and into the New Year and in addition it explains why they require lots of family and friends. Once the clock strikes midnight it's common for all of us to kiss our loved ones and make plenty of noise to celebrate the beginning of a new year. Some of us simply do this without really considering it, there's a superstitious reason behind this. Traditionally, people kissed one another to make sure that the connection lasted throughout the year plus they made a large amount of noise because they believed it would scare the evil spirits away.

Good reputation for New Year’s Day The origins of recent Years celebrations date back 1000's of years. In around

2000BC the Babylonians celebrated the brand new year over an 11-day period. This period did not begin on January 1 once we would expect, it actually started using the first new moon following the first day of spring (also called the Vernal Equinox). It was not until 153BC that January was declared as the start of the year by the Romans. The month was named after Janus the mythical god of beginnings. The twelve months became a lot more like that utilized in present day in 46BC when Julius Caesar established the Julian Calendar. After consultation by having an astronomer he matched the calendar year with the movement from the sun and marked January 1 as the start of New Year.

New Year’s Resolutions

The popular tradition of creating new year’s resolutions also offers origins in Ancient Babylon and Rome. The Babylonians would typically return farm equipment that they had borrowed in the past year, while in Caesar's time Janus had become the symbol for resolutions while he had two faces that may look to the past and into the future. Today we make New Year’s Resolutions to try to improve some facet of inside us next season. Popular resolutions include quitting smoking, losing weight and getting out of debt. This sounds good but the sad the fact is that many of us break them prior to the entire year has gone out. In fact, a recent study found that 22% of people give up their resolution within the first week by the finish of March more than half of New Year’s resolvers have fallen from the bandwagon. ©TY

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LEAH SMITH

A Journey To Stardom Welcome Ms. Leah and thank you for taking this time and talking with us. How have you been? What have you been up to lately? I've been very well thank you. Lately I've been doing a lot of writing, recording, and planning for 2013 and beyond. I have a couple exciting projects on the horizon so I've been gearing up for those! Now Leah... Back in 2009, you independently released your debut EP project , 'Beautifully Made' and pretty much staking your claim in the music industry. Since then, you have been quite in demand. How are you handling all your recent success, sharing stages with legends, and appearances on BET? I take opportunities gratefully as they come. I like challenges. I love looking out into a crowd of people when I'm about to do a show and saying, "Wow, what do I

think I'm doing?" I like the feeling of it being "all too much." I'm forced to rely on God's strength and not my own, because on my own I'd crumble in fright before everyone. Performances are sink or swim opportunities really. I'm handling each opportunity with care by God's grace, staying dependent and grateful. It is mentioned that your very first performance was at the age of 4. Was it something that your parents talked you into or volunteered you to do, or did you actually ask to do it? I went to a very musical school when I was young. We put on two programs per school year. I remember our class was preparing to sing "In the Stable, In the Hay" for our Christmas show and I told the music teacher that I knew another verse to the song. I sang it for the whole class and my teacher said that I should sing it in the

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I've had many people call me Gospel Keys.

program. I think I was just trying to prove to the class that I knew something they didn't know, but it turned into a solo. I guess I haphazardly volunteered myself.

Leah Smith at her 106 & Park debut for Music Matters. Photo property of BET.com

Do you remember at all being nervous at all at that young age? I was very, very nervous. So nervous that I threatened to not sing. My parents bribed me with a toy. A very unhealthy precedent that sadly remains today. kidding! Some may know, and some may not know... But you were originally with Israel Houghton and New Breed. How did Mr. Houghton approach you into doing so and how long were you a part of New Breed? I was involved with a Baltimore-based children's choir named Sandtown for years as a kid. I worked with Sandtown's director/producer Alvin Richardson and recorded a demo of my own material with him. Sandtown ended up getting signed to Gotee Records and recording an album in 2003. Israel Houghton was one of the featured artists on the album. Alvin passed off my material to Israel around that time and Israel took interest. I moved to Houston, Texas (which was kind of a New Breed hub at the

Israel asked me to sing for their “Live From a Deeper Level “ recording. I was blown away!

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time) in 2006 to work on music and kinda fell into singing with New Breed which was incredible. Israel asked me to sing for their ‘Live From a Deeper Level’ recording. I was blown away! I sang with the group for a year and a half and got to see different parts of the world! You have been compared to other artists such as Alicia Keys and Beyoncé; and I'm sure hearing that over and over is tiring. So how do you label your style as a musician or artist and what do you feel makes your style unique? I've had many people call me Gospel Keys. I get why they say that so I'm not mad at'em. My style is very lyrical, rooted in soul, with singer-songwriter, rock, and pop influences. I'd like to think that what makes my style most unique is the message I present. I hold to a Christian worldview that pervades every lyric, every career choice, every wardrobe choice, everything!


What would you say is the reason you sing? I sing because I have to. Singing is very intrinsic to who God made me. The song titled, "Beautifully Made" off of your debut EP, declares the beauty in us all. While the song "Monster" seems to suggest a battle or struggle within self. These two songs delve deep within ones spirit, who may be searching for some sense of control. Have you ever been that person? Those two songs do seem divergent from one another, and I definitely wrote myself in both of them. I'm definitely someone searching for a sense of control. In "Beautifully Made" I'm being reminded of the worth and dignity God assigned to me as His creation and a bearer of His image. In "Monster" I'm reminded that I'm just a ticking time bomb if I'm operating outside of the life of God provided through Jesus. I'm learning that through all my doubts, esteem issues, and melt downs to depend on Jesus for forgiveness, salvation, strength, and life. So what's next for you? When do you think you will be blessing us with you long awaited LP, and what can we expect to hear on the full album? I'm working on an EP right now for a Spring 2013 release. The full length album is slated for a Fall 2013 release. On both of these projects you can expect to hear some really relatable lyrics. Musically I'm venturing into some "different" sounds. It's gonna be fun! Have you released anything yet from the new album? If so, what song(s) and where can we find them? I have not released anything from my new album yet, no. But please stay tuned to Facebook for updates and releases. They are on the way!

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I'm learning that through all my doubts, esteem issues, and melt downs to depend on Jesus for forgiveness, salvation, strength, and life.

In the spirit of Christmas past, what was your favorite childhood memory of Christmas in your home? My little brother got a toy train one Christmas. He was so happy putting the tracks together with my dad. I was off in my own little world with some toy and every time I "came to" I'd see my brother in utter jubilation over his train. Everyone was content! ©TY

FUN FACTS Without music, I would be… Music is…

in dentistry school.

an outlet.

My music makes me feel…

passionate.

I write the songs because… I have to. Support my music because… tistry school. :)

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WHAT DID I TRADE FOR THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN? By, Jimmy Monestime

Photo provided by: Jimmy Monestime

Recently I have been listening to some gospel rap music my friends and I made when we were young teens on fire for God. Next Level was our group’s name. It was a symbol of our dedication to always pursue to progress in our relationship with God. In 2004, we had our first recording. While it was a rough cut of us just free-styling for fun, it was the beginning of a journey that God had set out for us. The future was bright. The music was ahead of its time. The passion was at an all time high. It was just a matter of time before we were ministering to crowds the gospel of Jesus. We were young men of God, choosing to go down the narrow path that leads to the peace of God. That was the plan. That was the goal. That was the dream….. It is now nearly 10 years since our first recording. I listen to it and can’t help to ask myself, what happened. My fellow group mates and I are now in different areas of the country pursuing different life goals. So far from the dream. What happened? Looking over the years that passed, I had realized what held me back. While SOOOO MANY excuses came to mind, the one similarity was the fact that I was afraid of looking weird. I was afraid to be the kid who went hard for God. I was afraid of being that outcast. When people wanted to talk about what was cool at that time, I didn’t want to be the one to talk about the gospel. When folks wanted to joke about this, that, and the third, I didn’t want to step away because of my love for Jesus. I decided to keep my love for God in my heart, and look normal to the world. I didn’t want anyone to look at me weird because I loved God. At the same time, I

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loved God in my heart only, and I acted like it was ok. Now I’m sitting in a corner wondering how I let those years slip by. All the potential good work that could have been done is now “what ifs”. It’s the worst feeling wondering how far you could have been if you had kept working on a talent God gave you. I randomly grabbed the bible; I figured I needed God to say something to me because I feel like a total failure. As I turn to Matthew 5 to find something that God meant for me, I stumble on a number of verses that hit me like a truck. The verse that impacted me the most was verse number 10… “Blessed are they which are persecuted for righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of God”. Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness? What?! All this time I felt like it was terrible to be persecuted for righteousness. Who wants to be laughed at? Who wants to be attacked? Who wants to be out-casted? Persecution is really a relentless, non-stop attack on someone till they fall. Who wants that? I was sure I didn’t. Then I realized the promise at the end of that verse. “For theirs is the kingdom of heaven.” I never realized it before, but I had traded in the kingdom of heaven for acceptance on earth― to be a “normal kid”. I told God that he could keep his blessings and his kingdom because I wasn’t trying to be the Jesus freak that people would end up trying to avoid. Instead, I’d rather follow the trends and keep my head above water in this society.

say to people who needed it. Even if it was meant for one person, I decided to keep his word to myself for fear of being persecuted. I chose this fleeting world instead of his everlasting kingdom. 10 years down the drain! I’m 24 now. Life is busier. I have more responsibilities to the world but also to my GOD. I don’t remember the last time I wrote a rap to try to spread the gospel or encourage someone to keep their faith in God. Nonetheless, I find myself writing this article, if you want to call it that. I like writing just as much as I used to like writing rhymes. I figure I’d start over expressing what God puts in my heart through this avenue, in hopes that it will help that one person get through the day. Starting back at step one trying to avoid “what ifs” in my next ten years. All this to say, If God gives you a gift or puts anything in your heart that can help a fellow brother or sister, I strongly advise that you pray about it and find the courage to take the stand. This world is getting bleaker with every new sunrise. People need to hear the word of God from people like you and I. They need to know that it’s ok to standout and live for God even in this day where we will get laughed at for believing in an “Invisible God”. The promise of his kingdom is real and It’s ours for the taking, if we are willing to accept it. ©TY

What was I thinking? How could I give up God for this world that celebrates evil and blatantly disrespects the God I serve? How could I shut my mouth and keep the words that God gave me to

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