#4 Do we know how to deal #5 Do we admire and #6 Am I ready to think of with each other’s not-so-rosy respect each other as him/her as a parent of my –sides? individuals? children? Do you know how your boyfriend
Your legacy to this world will by as
would react if you start having differences with his parents after marriage?
Are you in love?
much a part of you as your spouse.
Your dogs are your kids. Are you sure
Does it make you proud to think of
she’s not allergic to them?
him/her as a parent of your child? Are
you’re under the
you absolutely sure his/her are the
genes you’d want to mix yours with,
and would have no qualms about? In
reiterated count-lessly (and I’ll do so many more times, because it’s important), spend time with each other. Spend years. Yeah, two or more.
At the initial stage of a relationship,
drug (I know I was). A hallucinogenic this regard it’s very important to take
people are happy; they see and show
substance which makes him/her look each other’s families into account too.
only the positives. There’s no replace-
like The Best Thing God Has Ever Are you happy to see your child as a
ment of a long-term relationship if you
Created – worth living for, worth dy- part of not only yours but also his
are to understand each other’s negatives. And that step is vital to the sta-
bility of your relationship.
You’re not crazy enough to think
The next step, of course, is to develop
about marriage in that initial six
your own ways of dealing with those negative aspects. Decide whether it’s okay for you to live with going dog-less forever for your pet-o-phobic partner. Make your peace with your partner’s
months to one-and-half year all-rosyand-pink, are you? Don’t be.
family? If not, think. And very carefully.
Marriage is a life-altering decision. Keeping a few basic principles in mind and asking the right questions can help you avoid major mistakes. What’s
Loving and caring for someone is great your own set of questions to ask
not-so-well-off family before you decide
for the dream days of infatuation but yourself and your significant other
they’re The One. The time you take to
not enough for the reality of marriage. before you proceed to “I do”?
come up with your ways of dealing with
Ask yourselves whether you also
the not-so-perfect aspects of the
admire each other for the individuals
relationship will determine how soon you can be ready for a lifelong commitment.
that you are and the unique qualities that you possess. Trust me – you don’t want to get married to someone thinking they’re gold, only to find out postmarriage that all they are is glittery.
As the weeks pass by, we’ll try to make sense of urban India’s stories/queries/concerns/depression/ tensions/mania about love with the Raving Romantic - Sulagna Dasgupta. Perhaps through these windows you’ll get to know a bit more about yourself or your partner, or your existent or nonexistent relationship. Perhaps not. But you’ll smile, chuckle, laugh, stop laughing, start dreaming and start questioning, for sure.
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