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Wear it like
Stylist, LouLou Storey, gives us her tall style tips.
DIY Fashion Projects
SCANDINAVIAN STYLE SECRETS
Life inside a tall fashion startup
SOLO FEMALE TRAVEL
7 Fashion trends inspired by tall girl struggles.
Make a statement without overspending. Crisp, minimal and effortlessly chic. Buckle up, its going to be a bumpy ride!
Why you should travel alone AT LEAST once!
24 GROWING UP TALL
Our resident confidence coach Jen looks back.
We've got it Sewn
Start sewing and change your life.
30 Female Friendships Are they really a tall order?
... AND MUCH MORE SUMMER 17 | PAGE 3
STYLING YOUR Uniqueness STYLIST LOULOU STOREY TALKS TALL STYLE TIPS Surely it can’t be that difficult to be
ourselves and allow our clothes to shout
when we give ourselves permission to
yourself, express who you are and allow
‘this is me’. Where do you start? How do
dress smarter it gives us more scope to
your confidence to shine? But for some it we begin? Here. Turn your focus to
allow our personalities to shine. Tailored
is. We live in an overwhelming world full
clothing celebrates and showcases our
inspiring yourself, what you think about
of messages of what we should look like, you matters & you are the expert in YOU!
what we should be thinking, what we should be feeling and we can very easily lose touch with how extraordinary we
SMALL THINGS MATTER
If you could wear one item of clothing that summed you up,
We are all individuals and yet our
what would that be? How could
style can feel so generic. Often
you do more of it in your daily
longing to feel contemporary, stylish and authentically ourselves but instead, we end up feeling like we are nothing special. Wearing the same old clothes AGAIN. Feeling a little less than fabulous. It’s time to change that and feel the magic again! I'm here to show you how. We get used to hiding behind a false perception that we put out there or tailoring our dressing depending on who we are meeting; living up to their expectations not our own. But I say; start setting your own expectation. Set the bar a little higher, hold yourself to a greater standard & start following these rules
wardrobe? Just a small addition of a brooch or a new lipstick colour or creating a new combination of clothing can make all the difference to your look and most importantly your confidence. It can be a very scary prospect of facing ourselves in the mirror, physically as well as metaphorically. However what I have learnt from working with women in their homes over the years is that with this bravery of looking inward and taking small steps to growing confidence, we have an incredible realisation that there is so much to celebrate. Just wearing a
IT'LL DO IS BANNED If ‘it’ll do’ then it definitely WON’T do! Design feeling great in your clothes by asking yourself how you want to feel at the start of the day. Be mindful in what you wear, pay attention to what makes you feel good and you’ll be amazed at the changes you will see. It’s liberating, it’s exciting, it’s energising but you do have to show up for yourself and take action. I’ve learnt that it wasn’t until I committed to the change I wanted that I felt differently in my skin and I now see that with all the incredible women I work with.
It s amazing how quickly new habits can become so familiar to us.
forgotten piece of jewellery is often the first step to showcasing what has been hidden.
Let the liberation commence!
It’s time to start embracing the things about you that make you truly you. Truly different from your best friend, different from your sister, different from who you
DRESS SMARTER THAN YOU THINK
were 10 years ago, different from society’s Why wait for someday? Make today expectation of you. extraordinary! Put on that blazer, wear that lippy, pull that summer dress out of I know It can often feel quite scary giving the wardrobe and pair it with trainers. ourselves permission to step into Today is the day to feel fab and often
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TALL STYLING TIPS It can often feel quite scary giving ourselves permission to step into ourselves and allow our clothes to shout ‘this is me’.
Wear it like
YOU ARE ONE CHOICE AWAY FROM A TOTALLY DIFFERENT LIFE
Are you ready to make it? What would you change if CHOICE
capacity to make choices about where
route or would you go a different way;
was your word of the week? If you
our day goes and how our energy is
noticing and embracing any unexpected
reconsidered all of your commitments,
spent. Often, we don’t even see it
moments that may show up? That
knowing that you had the right to
happening. Before we know it, our
blossom lined street that you usually
change your mind; would you do
precious day has been defined for us,
bypass, the young girl helping an old
anything differently? Imagine going
not by us. You are always one decision
lady across the road or the laughter of
through every day this week, next week,
away from a totally different life so are
children playing without a care in the
any week with 'choice' as your guide.
you ready to accept the challenge of
world. You'll notice all of these things,
What obligations, habits and
letting 'choice' guide you for one week?
whatever they may be, purely because
expectations might you reconsider?
Are you up for reclaiming your right to
you switched off auto-pilot when you
decide how to spend your time?
made a choice to take a different route.
It doesn’t have to be about the major
All for the price of an five extra minutes
stuff. Big decisions and choices often
If you answered yes, then maybe you’ll
on your journey time; which you’d have
come kicking and screaming into our
end up cancelling that needless
easily spent replying to those deleted
lives, determined to get our attention
meeting? Maybe you’ll choose to turn
regardless of whether we want to give
your phone off and eat your lunch
it. It’s all about those smaller
outside in the fresh air for a change, or
You don’t need to make drastic
commitments, the sneaky ones that slip
simply hit delete on a load of emails that
changes, simply deciding to 'embrace
in under the radar and pile up; slowly
don’t really need an answer. Given the
the possibility of choice' throughout your
eating into our time and devouring our
choice would you take your usual
week will give you an energising boost.
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TRENDING: #TALLGIRLPROBLEMS 7 fashion trends inspired by the tall girl struggle
I love keeping up with the fashion
lie, I am guilty of loving a few of these
trends. It is exciting to see all of the new
trends now that they are popular. Here
and repeat fashions presenting an
are 7 Fashion Trends Inspired By Tall Girl
opportunity for a wardrobe refresh. I
only recently realised that some of today’s popular trends have actually
been inspired by the things us tall girls have struggled with for decades! The
If you are not careful you could look like
fashion industry seems to find
Baby Huey in the wrong outfit. Don’t get
inspiration in our struggles, and ironically
me wrong, crop tops with high-waisted
doesn’t provide us taller-than-average
jeans or a skirt are two of my favourite
girls with enough options to relieve
looks right now but if you want to rock
our wardrobe woes!
this trend, you need to remember that it's all about proportion.
I asked my fellow tall women about which trends we’re just NOT buying into, simply because they are things we’ve naturally struggled with due to a lack of height-friendly options. I’m not going to
ANKLE PANTS AND JEANS These are essentially, 'high waters' and I used to hate being asked if it was raining outside so... NO!
TALL GIRLS INSPIRE THE FASHION INDUSTRY ...but are left wondering where all their tall options are! fashion, the more tunic choice we'll
have. We don't need to go to a specialist retailer for this trend and can enjoy the
It might just be that
reduced prices of shopping on the high
I’m getting older but
street or in the regular stores.
these days, it seems
EXAGGERATED LONG SLEEVES
like shorts keep getting shorter. Cheeks are on view everywhere (but
This one is fairly new and as a tall girl you
then again, I am in
may be unfamiliar with the concept; it’s
when tops have extra long sleeves that
I was younger, I
hang pass the hand! *dreamy*
wouldn’t have even dreamed about
These are the sleeves we’ve been
longing for all our lives! I love the feel
to school. My long
and the experience of a sleeve being too
long or needing to be rolled up so I'm
made shorts look like inappropriate denim underwear but
really hoping that these don't turn out to
be a fad!
things have changed for the All I need to say is that I always failed the better. skirt-length (fingertip) test when I wore a regular skirt to school. Every skirt was a
Go for a longer tailored short like these
mini skirt. If this is a trend that you’d love
paperbag waist shorts from Missguided.
to wear and you don’t want to hit the mall or the high street to borrow off the
¾ LENGTH SLEEVES
So as we tall girls continue to create and inspire fashion trends, there is always going to be someone out there taking the fashion credit for what we have been wearing all of our lives. Stand tall and stay fashionable!
short team; there are lots of well proportioned mini-skirts on offer from fast-fashion retailers like ASOS Tall, New
This was definitely just a sleeve struggle
Look Tall and Topshop.
for us tall girls and now, it’s everywhere! I didn’t even know that there was such
a thing as ¾ length when I spent all those years pushing and rolling up my
These were just too-short dresses. So we threw them on over leggings to cover
sleeves. If you want to
everything! Now, the tunic top and
follow the ¾ length
sweater has very much become a
trend, you don’t even
have to shop at the specialist tall stores.
On the plus size, as long as it stays in
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MAKING YOUR TRAINERS WORK FOR YOU The HøFSisters show us how to make a style statement in comfort
CLASSIC LAYERING WITH A TWIST
We’ve all walked about in painful shoes, regretting the moment we decided it would be a good idea to squeeze our
Ok this look may not be totally office
feet into those beautiful pointy heels. Recent media focus on employers
forcing women to wear heels as part of
antiquated dress codes have done
nothing to ease my personal resentment
of daytime heels. At least now the
widespread popularity of block heels has
done something to improve comfort
levels but there’s nothing like the warm
embrace of a trainer to put a spring in
into the casual
your step and, in my case, to make me
realm. But the
far more productive.
blazer and shirt add
Granted, my job involves hot footing it
enough of a
around London on a regular basis but
still, I can assure you I’m generally a
edge for days
much happier person in trainers. The
best part is that trainers don’t have to
don’t need to see clients or are out and
mean casual. They can be styled for
about doing research or chores.
smart casual and dare I even say it office wear, and unapologetically so. Don’t
FISHNETS & PATTERNED TIGHTS
believe me? Let's take a closer look!
WHITER THAN WHITE If you’re wearing trainers to the office,
STATEMENT TRAINERS ON A BLACK CANVAS
make sure they’re bright white and
A black canvas is
you’re wearing them with classic office
sharp and smart,
wear – tailored trousers, blouses, blazers,
allowing for zany,
sophisticated dresses and smart
zingy trainers and
handbags. The look will work because
strong jewellery. This
the rest of you looks sharp.
look is effortless to achieve, yet big on impact. Cara’s strong eyebrows seem to
Wearing fishnets or patterned tights under cropped trousers can make an outfit with trainers seem a whole lot more glamorous. Who says it's impossible to be comfortable and chic at the same time? Head to the HøFShop for our favourite style choices.
work particularly well with this look, as a final statement accessory.
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LET'S GET CREATIVE! AKIA'S DIY FASHION PROJECTS I work as an Instructional Aide at a middle school so I am off work for 2 ½
CUT OFF SHORTS Why bother
months during the summer and that
UNFINISHED (RAW) HEM JEANS
means my shopping has to be cut down
over $30 for
drastically! Which got me thinking and
raised the question; how I can I get my
may not even
hands on trendsetting fashion during
the summer without overspending?
derriere! You can use a pair
I hit the web with my new best friend,
who I hate as much as I love; Pinterest!
have or pick
Pinterest is an enormous online visual
board where you can find inspiration
and entertain yourself with tons of
interests and hobbies, 'pinned' by other
store for $7
people. Growing up I’ve always had a
and cut them
thing for Do-It-Yourself Projects and one
just right for
of the main reasons behind that was
trying to find my style as a young tall girl. I wanted to attract attention in style but not in height so I began to experiment with my clothes at home. I remember this being a lot of fun and if I got my
DECORATED FLIP FLOPS
hands on a teen fashion magazine, it
Okay., so you may not be the woman
was game on! If only they had Pinterest
buying $1.00 Flip Flops but if you
back then. Anyway, back to my DIY
I did this recently with a pair of jeans
spend less than $5, you can definitely
that were extra-long but had a super
make them unique with a bit of
tight stitched hem and after a few snips,
creativity and some Pinterest inspiration
I'd given them a new, fashionable lease of life!
AND WHITE TRAINERS
Sharpies, Embroidery, ribbon laces... the
This is exciting! Especially, when you
options are endless!
can’t find what you are looking for in stores. Personalised
Since I knew my daughter and I could have some fun creating our own pieces, I made a list of what we could do. Today I am going to let you in on some of our plans. If you have time on your hands this summer, why not try one and see how you get on?
tees are my favourite DIY project. It costs so little to create a stand-out piece and you'll be able to leave a lasting, and oh so stylish, impression.
SCANDI STYLE. WE KNOW WE LOVE IT BUT WHAT IS IT & HOW DO WE GET THE LOOK? The Danes’ aesthetic, along with their
Q3. What are the foundation pieces of a
We love to wear clothes that we feel
Swedish and Norwegian neighbours, is
tall girl’s Scandinavian wardrobe?
good in and give us a sense of purpose
increasingly influencing the rest of the
to our day – a certain utilitarian vibe if
world on the style front. We know that
We are often banging on about cost-
you like. If you’re worried about your
we love it but what is it? And how do we
per-wear over at HøFSisters. Every girl
shoes pinching, or have to keep hoiking
get the look right? In our tall world, there
should have a few hard-working pieces
up your tights then you’re missing the
are two women who immediately come
in their wardrobe that maybe cost a
point of Danish fashion!
to mind. We asked the beautiful and
little bit more, but are timeless and
inherently stylish HøFSisters, Hannah
classic in design. For example, a
Q5. Are there any Danish brands you
and Zoe to share their secrets to help us
beautiful, crisp white shirt (get one
think should be on the international tall
better understand 'Scandi Style'.
made if you can’t find one to fit), a
luxurious chunky knit in a neutral Q1. The first thing we’d love to know is;
colour, a denim jacket or a
Yes! Ganni, Gestuz and Second Female
how would you define Scandinavian
cashmere/wool coat. It may feel painful
are three of our favourite Danish brands.
at the time but these are investment
We’ve featured all of them over on
pieces that you will use over and over
HøFSisters. For accessories look to
Crisp, minimal and effortlessly chic.
Q2. What is intrinsic to Danish fashion
Q4. What is your style ethos as Danish-
and what sets it apart from Swedish and
inspired fashion bloggers?
Norwegian style? The Danish influence comes from our
"FRESH-FACED MINIMAL IS THE MANTRA OF DANISH FASHION"
When we think of Danish style, we
mother, who grew up in Copenhagen.
conjure up an image of a fresh faced
We have travelled there many times
(typically make-up free) Queen of
and always have this sense of coming
Q6. We would say the HøFSisters, but
layering. The Danes can pull off anything
home. Denmark has influenced our
who would you say the top tall
because of their inner confidence, cool
style ethos greatly, which revolves
Scandinavian style icons and
and poise. Even a baggy coat over baggy
around comfort and not taking
trendsetters are right now?
pants and trainers looks sophisticated in
ourselves too seriously!
the hands of Danish fashionistas like
Haha you’re very kind! Sadly we’re only
Pernille Teisbaek. The Danes are minimal
half-Danish so maybe couldn’t claim
with a little bit of boho and a little bit of
that title… Tall Scandinavian style icons?
That’s a tricky one! Danes don’t tend to obsess too much about their height, so it
The Swedes are the experts in minimal,
doesn’t become a defining aspect of
the defining feature of some of our
who they are.
favourite brands like Hope, Cos, Filippa K and Hunkydory.
Pernille Teisbaek has an enduring style, looking cool and radiant, even days after
We’re not experts in Norwegian fashion
giving birth! Anine Bing is also one of our
but it tends to lean towards more high
favourites – that girl really knows how to
make a t-shirt look good.
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CRISP. MINIMAL. EFFORTLESSLY CHIC Two of the most important people in the Danish fashion industry right now are Ditte and Nicolaj Reffstrup, the couple behind Ganni, a brand which has fashionistas and celebrities crawling over themselves to be associated with. We are going to boast now by saying that we featured Ganni back in June 2016 for Zoe’s birthday, long before they were a
TALL GUIDES TAKEAWAY What are your top 3 Scandi style tips for tall women who are looking to achieve this look on a budget?
1. It’s better to under-work a look than overwork it. 2. A loose fitting t-shirt, tucked into jeans and worn with
flat shoes is a winning effortlessly-chic Scandi look.
Q7. What would you cite as your
3. Opt for less make up rather than more. Fresh-faced
minimal is the mantra of Danish fashion.
These would be our most loved, worn and comfortable clothes. Hannah: my wardrobe staples are definitely my cashmere Joseph coat and Dad’s cable knit yellow Dunhill jumper
THE RESULTS ARE IN
which must be more than 20 years old! I love wearing this because it reminds me of him and it has SUPER long sleeves! Zoe: my wardrobe staples
These stylish queens of layering have given us their A's to our Q's. Next up, YOU! We asked the Tall Guides Mag readers to vote on their top scandi-style must have and the results are in!
revolve around classic materials: a silk Equipment shirt, a V-neck cashmere jumper and my all-time favourite leather leggings from Joseph. H&Z: Our new wardrobe staples are the P448 high tops. They are so comfy and ridiculously cool. They help us live our Scandi style ethos by allowing us to look trendy in just jeans and a tee! You can buy yours at our HøF Shop, which sells styles up to a UK11.
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The Highs and Lows of a Fashion Startup Lydia takes us on the start of her 'LWP Fashions' startup journey. Buckle up, it's going to be a bumpy ride
ver the past week, I have had a lot
I was a college student trying to start a
I was so excited. Another go! We chatted
happen in the way of startup ‘go’s and
business, and everyone knows how
about what I needed done, and what
woes’. I was invited to participate in a
much money most college students
she needed from me. She gave me a list
local fashion show, to showcase my
have... ZERO MONIES. So I applied for a
of the kinds of fabrics she would need
collection of tall fashion… or at least what
credit card. They gave me the standard
and I went straight out and got them.
I have. That was a huge go! However, the
answers of limited credit, not a long
We met up in person and chatted for a
first massive hurdle that I had to
enough history, blah. Was this going to
bit, then I found out she lived on the
overcome was that the show was in two
be another startup woe? I went to the
other side of the city, so I gave her a ride
weeks, and I did not have any pieces to
bank and ended up with the same
home. During the drive to her place, I
showcase! Cue PANIC MODE. More like,
answers. *Sigh* Not one to be defeated,
found out that I was
MUST GET THINGS DONE MODE. I
I decided to use what I could out of my
her first major job, and
started making calls and phone
paycheck. Now all I had to do was find
her highest paid one.
bombing whoever I could think of.
someone to create the samples for me.
We had agreed on $350 for a total of two
The first phone call I made was to the
I had given myself a deadline of about
different kinds of t-shirts,
Art Institute’s fashion division. I spoke
48 hours (from when I got the invite to
and two pairs of jeans.
with a lovely lady there, who put my
participate in the fashion show) to find
I had already paid
information out to the students. It was
someone. Not a lot of time, but if I could
her $200 dollars at
another go! So far, I have had one
not get it done in two days, I most likely
the point I found out
response from a student, and she is
would not find someone who would be
that I was her first
going to be making patterns and
able to meet the show’s tight deadline.
client and it definitely
samples for me over a longer period of
made me a little
time. This didn’t quite solve my
I don’t remember why I had to go to
nervous, but I decided
immediate need for the fashion show, so
Sephora, but I did, and I ended up
to go with her anyway.
it was a little bit of a woe, but I’m ok with
meeting serendipity there, at least I
I should have
that. Still a go!
thought so at the time. There’s a lady
listened to my gut.
who I always go to for beauty advice, Money has always been one of the
and to have my makeup done for
We stayed in contact
biggest hurdles for me when it comes to
special occasions. She was there that
over the next week.
startup life. Most startups can probably
day, and we started talking. I told her
She’d ask me questions
my news and explained what I was
about what I wanted, I would answer.
trying to do, and she said that she had a
She sent me pictures, they looked
friend who has recently graduated from
alright, and everything seemed genuine.
the art institute with a degree in
I felt hopeful that I would be able to
fashion. And this friend of hers knew
showcase some outfits in the upcoming
how to make samples. It was a go! She
gave me her information, and I contacted her.
When I contacted her about picking up the pieces, she said she would be
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By the time she got back to me 48
spending all day Saturday sewing them.
hours later, I was about ready to call it
From the pictures she had sent me, I
because I had reached my deadline.
thought she had already been doing
that. Apparently not. Another woe. My hope for having pieces to showcase was slipping away like sand through my fingers. Meanwhile, my feelings of unease were growing stronger. When I went to pick them up that Sunday, she showed me what she had put together. The sand had completely slipped through my fingers. She pointed out strings that had not been trimmed. Fabric that had not been properly sewed, and had ripped. Places to take a blue sharpie to where the fabric had been caught. All of this was about the jeans. We hadn’t even talked t-shirts yet. Another woe. She showed me the t-shirts. She’d made an off the shoulder one, and a regular one like I had requested, but they were made for someone who was 5’3”, and 120lbs. I said thank you to her, and took the samples. I am still undecided on whether or not I am going to finish paying her. After the mishaps with the samples, I contacted the fashion show host and let him know that I would not be able to participate and showcase my collection because the samples were of poor quality, and I would not have them representing my line. I was devastated. He came back to me and said that it had been postponed for six weeks because he had to go into surgery, and would not be recovered in time for the show in less than a week. A go! Not that he had to have surgery, but that I would have the time to get proper samples made, and have something to showcase that I would be proud of! A tremendous go! *Let the happy dance commence* So here is to all the ups and downs of a fashion startup, and to opportunities not lost! Follow my journey over at tallguides.com SUMMER 17 | PAGE 19
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WHY EVERY TALL GIRL SHOULD TRAVEL ALONE AT LEAST ONCE IN HER LIFE
YOU CAN DO WHAT YOU LIKE, WHEN YOU LIKE Dutch, globetrotter and tall blogger, Karen is forever thankful that her 26 year-old-self decided to travel alone
Granted, travelling alone is not for everybody, but I do think everyone should travel solo at least once in their lives. My first solo trip was when I was 19. I travelled alone to France to go work on a campsite for the summer. When I was 26, I decided to go a bit further, to the other of the world from where I live - I went backpacking in New Zealand for 2 months on my own.
My backpack adventure to New Zealand was my first intercontinental trip alone and it was when I got bitten by the travel bug! I was going through a breakup, I needed some head space and time away. I had always wanted to go to NZ, so I saved some money, I booked a ticket and I went. It was one of the best decisions I ever made. I had the time of my life, made friends, cleared my mind, and was able to reflect on my ‘normal’ life at home from a distance - my job, my living situation, my personal relationships. It helped me get through that tough post break-up time too. I am forever thankful though that my 26year-old self took the decision to go travelling alone and this is why I think everyone should do it, either for a shorter or a longer period of time.
1. It teaches you a lot about yourself
5. You have to (learn to) make your own decisions
Mainly: it teaches you to be at ease with yourself, with your own company and to
There is no one to rely on or to fall back
rely on yourself. Going to the cinema on
on, you choose whether you go left or
my own or having dinner alone in a
right. It’s just you, following your gut, or
restaurant does not bother me anymore. If to give it a more wanderlusty vibe: people wonder and stare, I let them; I will
following the sun. This can be hard
likely never see them again anymore
when you are more a ‘follower’ than a
anyway – same goes for wearing heels.
‘leader’, but it's worth doing for that reason alone, as it gets you out of you
2. It is easier to connect with people when
comfort zone. Plus there’s no right or
you travel by yourself
wrong in the decision of where to go.
When travelling with someone, you are
6. Distance creates perspective
always in some way, shape or form focused on each other. When you are
Being able to literally distance yourself
alone, you’re more likely to start a chat
from your ‘normal’ life will give you a
with the restaurant owner, with that other
fresh perspective. Distance can create a
girl who is having coffee by herself too, or
new found appreciation for the things
with a hot local guy. Who knows what
you have going on in your life at home,
connections you might make?
and help you see the bigger picture. You will quickly notice the things and people
3. You will appreciate the things you
you miss most and more importantly,
normally take for granted
who and what you don’t miss at all… Happy travels!
Regardless of where you go, they will not have the same things you have at home. Sometimes that’s something minor like your favourite brand of toothpaste,
HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT SOLO FEMALE TRAVEL?
sometimes it’s something bigger like running water or electricity. 4. You can do whatever you like, when you like No one tells you what to do or when to do it. You don't have to account for anything. If you want to go see a sunrise at 5am, you can. Maybe you want to stay in bed all day, you can do that too. And that is so liberating.
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YOU'RE RATHER MASCULINE! Dictionary connotations include 'strong' and 'bold' I'll take that says our resident confidence coach, Jen! “You’re rather masculine, aren’t you?!” I
To this day, I still have no idea what
I held a multi-option poll (turned MEGA
froze. My 13 year-old-self stood, rooted to
came over that shy, self-conscious girl to
discussion thread); the results of which
the spot; towering over my peers and
produce that kind of SASS. I would truly
you can check out here:
the pretty, popular girls who had
love to go back in time and give the
befriended this particularly loud lad in
younger-me a massive hug, for standing
the year above - who was desperately
up for myself so hilariously.
trying to impress them. I could hear the girls stifling awkward giggles, and found
And besides, what’s so bad about
myself juggling the urge to burst into
masculinity?! (Dictionary connotations
tears with visions of ripping his smug
include ‘strong’ and ‘bold’; I’ll take
Tipping 5’9” (and counting, back then),
For me, this is one of those go-to
with size 8 feet and a dress-size-up from
memories that I believe defined my
my own mother, I constantly felt like a
choice to pro-actively pursue
giant sore thumb compared to the
confidence, over insecurity. HUGE
petite, dainty girls who were everywhere
disclaimer: It hasn’t always been an easy
I looked. Even with my best mate
process, and I absolutely have my
coming in at just two inches shorter
demons. Tall ones, too.
than me, I was nowhere near confident in my own skin, and hadn’t yet found
But confidence isn’t necessarily a given
much courage in my young voice.
for any of us; let alone those of us who defy ‘norms’ in some way or another. In
But then all of a sudden, out of
every case; it’s always what we choose
the blue, came my reply. I coolly
to do next, which shapes the way we
shrugged, and looked him
dead in the eye: “I’m probably more masculine
Having spent a significant chunk of my
than you’ll ever be.”
childhood looking like a grown-up, this
story is one drawn from a selection
Oh… SNAP! The crowd
which I’ve carried through the years -
cracked up. He stood
ultimately serving me with a hefty
there grappling for words.
supply of opportunities to sink or swim
One of the girls turned to
in a body-conscious world.
me, and through hysterical squeals uttered, “Great
And of course, I’m not alone in my
come-back!” I turned on
experiences, either. The Tall Guides
my heels and marched
community, #teamtall, recently did
off with my friends,
what they do best, and rallied around
perplexed as to what
supportively to provide their stories,
had just happened and
insights and personal experiences
very aware of the
about growing from a tall teen into a
heartbeat inside my ears.
Coming in at the highest number of votes? “At times, my height has reduced my confidence.” But in third place sits this relatable heartbreaker: “I grew up trying to shrink myself.” (My ‘Uncle Fester’ posture in all photos from my youth is a fabulous demonstration of this. I’ve really captured his essence…) When we look back on our experiences as youngsters, it’s undeniable that many of us have shared times where we’ve felt like we ought to be different in order to fit in. To somehow blend in with those around us. And for some of us, the difficult reality is that we might feel like we’ve never really shaken it off. BUT – there is good news... WWW.TALLGUIDES.COM
Fourth position in the poll demonstrates that, for a vast number of us, “At times, my height has increased my confidence. So, what’s the big secret to converting our self-consciousness into our
IT STARTS BY SAYING "THIS IS WHO I AM RIGHT NOW. AND I ACCEPT IT"
advantage, if we haven’t actually managed it before? Here’s the frustratingly obvious and simple truth: It starts with selfacceptance. Because confidence can start whenever you want it to. Not when you’re smaller, thinner, or taking up less ‘space’ for someone else’s comfort. Not when you weigh less, have learned more, or have climbed another ladder. Not when someone else gives you approval; not when you have more experience. Not even when you’re “finally ready”, (whatever the hell that looks like). It starts with saying “This is who I am, right now… and I accept it.” Every hour, every day, every week; until it starts to stick. No judgements, no conditions, no expectations – just total self-acceptance there and then. The truth is that we can only ever move forward once we fully accept the point we are starting from. Without doing so, we are forever chasing goal posts that will be permanently out of our reach. The quickest route to confidence and everything that comes with it is accepting yourself, just as you are… over and over again. And guess what? It starts RIGHT NOW if you want it to...
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START SEWING & CHANGE YOUR LIFE For as long as I can remember, I’ve loved clothes. Despite how hard they’ve always been to find for my tall and curvy frame, I’ve done my best to pull together stylish
MY TOP 3 TIPS FOR GETTING STARTED
Mary Alice, the tall & curvy style expert behind WellSewnStyle.com, encourages us to get creative
people in these groups will almost certainly be able to answer it! Since I’ve started making my own
and well-fitting outfits. But over the past
1. Learn to sew: If you’ve never sewn
clothes, I finally have a wardrobe that
several years, and especially after my
before, or you have limited experience I
truly reflects my personality, instead of
body changed when becoming a
can’t recommend enough the value of a
only wearing what fits. Furthermore, I
mother, I’ve become acutely aware of
proper beginner course. By working with a
have never felt more confident about my
how fewer options there are for those
professional seamstress, I was able to
body, simply because I am making
who are tall and/or curvy. Store after
significantly upgrade my skills and learn
clothes to fit my body instead of making
store, dressing room after dressing room,
all the whys behind the How-Tos. A great
my body fit the clothes - and this is
you start to think it’s YOU.
teacher, and some serious late-night
everything! I highly recommend you give
research, is a total game-changer! Plus, it’s
sewing your own clothes a try.
If none of the retailers’ garments fit, it
nice to have someone on your team. In-
most definitely must be your body, right?
person group classes are surprisingly
We also asked the Tall Guides Magazine
WRONG. Unfortunately ready-to-wear
affordable! And nowadays you can learn
readers how they would prefer to learn
retailers are deeply out of touch with
just about anything online. Check out
to sew. The results are in and over 58% of
how to design clothing for the diversity
craftsy.com for affordable yet effective
you would opt for a face to face sewing
of women’s bodies. So this is why I sew. I
class... but clearly not with family &
got so tired of all the drama, the tears,
the feeling bad about myself that I
2. Make time to practice: sewing, like any
decided to take matters into my own
skill, requires consistent practice. If after
taking a class you realize you really like sewing, set up a sewing schedule! Try to
I’ve known how to sew since childhood,
sew a few hours every week and you’ll
but I never applied that knowledge to
marvel at how quickly your skills will
garment making. But two years ago, I
decided to give sewing my own wardrobe a try. I began researching and
3. Connect with other sewists: Facebook is
talking to other women who sew and
awesome for finding groups. I am part of
started practising each day. I found I was
the Curvy Sewing Collective group,
actually pretty good at this sewing stuff!
Patterns for Pirates,
And now I am even making a career out
Pattern group, the
of it through sewing education, personal
Just Sew group and
styling and launching a ready-to-wear
the Vintage Sewing
collection for US sizes 12-28 including
Machine group. The
tall and petites later this year.
amount of wisdom in the groups is
Here are some of my favourite makes
from the past year. Best part? They are
all LONG enough! Perfect length
hemlines, jumpsuits that fit, tops that
cover, long sleeves that are actually wrist
length. Hurrah for sewing!
TALL, TATTOOED & MUSLIM Erm… lots of different reasons really” That’s what I tell people when they quiz me on why I’m wearing this scarf on my head. Why now? Why at 27 years old, after living a predominantly western life am I choosing this ancient practice of popping a scarf over my head? I am a British born Pakistani, originally from the North East of England, and now living in the Midlands with my husband and young son. At 17 I left home with my white boyfriend and moved into student digs. At 19 I got my first tattoo, a quote from a poem I told everyone had a deep and powerful meaning to me, which in actually fact had no significance but made me feel interesting. At 21 I got my second tattoo of a swallow which I had no idea meant “prison bird” but helpfully I was told this by my tattoo artist… just as he was finishing up. I drank what I wanted, ate what I wanted, I clubbed harder than my white friends and would look down at my Asian friends. I’m better than them. I’m more liberal. Essentially I would class myself then as a ‘part time Muslim’. A Muslim that would fast to lose a few pounds. A Muslim who would abstain from pork because it looks disgusting to me. Just after my 22nd birthday, he came along. My husband. We tell everyone that asks how we met that it was through friends. The blunt truth is I googled “chat rooms” and clicked the first link I saw and there he was. 24/M/UK. There I was 22/F/UK. We text. We called. We met up every four weeks or in other words, every time
we got paid and just over a year after
it involves modesty and the
meeting online in that obscure chat
recommendations of being a Muslim
room we decided to get married. He was
but it’s slipping off. Slowly. Was this all
like me. Are we westernised or practising
just a phase? Have I made a mistake?
Muslims? Can we call ourselves Muslim while sexting? We can’t define who we
Honestly, I miss my skinny jeans, my
are. We’re blurry.
heavy jewellery, my hair… but then I know my faith and I know what’s right. I
And now here I am. 4 and half years into
know we can’t eat pork, I just don’t know
my marriage and I’ve decided to wear a
why. I know we can’t drink alcohol but I
Hijab. Obviously I’ve made sure I wear
don’t know why. I know we fast for one
bright scarves, ones that suit me and my
month but I don’t know why.
outfit. It covers my hair properly and it’s
Sometimes there’s wisdom in things and
you just have to go with it. Sometimes you want to change but you’ll always be
It’s been a year since I started wearing it
and my mother still hasn’t seen me in it. She won’t talk to me. I can be a Muslim
At the end of the day, I want to stand 6ft
but not THAT much of a Muslim. I mean
tall and feel free in my choices. Yet, I
what about all those nice earrings I
know with this piece of fabric over my
have? I know why I wanted to wear this
hair I’m limited.
scarf, but now I can't remember. I know I want my cake and I want to eat it.
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collapse from exhaustion and 48 hours
Last year, I felt the need to connect with
connecting with other people. They’re
later, get back on the road. This was a
women in a way where men could not
very social. They host gatherings that
very convenient excuse.
get involved in the conversation. I
appear to have taken months to
started a secret group on Facebook
organise, while only taking an afternoon
I had to commit, in advance, to
called 'Girls Only, No Boys Allowed' with
of their time. And they never seem to
weekend activities with friends or else I
some of my close friends. Less than a
tire of it. These women are a source of
would not do it once I was home. I can
year later, there are over 400 hundred
envy for their ability to 'connect'. What
sometimes feel like I “perform” at work
members. Some of the women tell me
have they figured out that the rest of us
all day and that feeling is certainly not
this has become a sacred space for
have not? What prevents us mere
something I want to incorporate into
them and posts range from deep
mortals from having closer connections
my personal life.
discussions about every subject
with the women around us?
imaginable to celebrity crushes. This My solution? I’ve found that if I make a
group has replaced my need to connect
meal for a small group of friends, invite
with encouragement, support, diverse
a few gals to the movies, or arrange a
friendships and lots of laughter!
play-date for dogs, these are small Before embarking on your journey to
commitments that provide easy ways
If you had to start a group tomorrow,
connect with other women, start by
for me to stay connected. Once you’ve
what would the focus be and why?
compiling an inventory of why you feel
figured out the reasons why you may
that you have lacked connection up
have lacked connection in your life, start
until this point...
small and arrange to do a couple of things with friends that you know you’ll
Maybe it is because you were bullied by
be able to commit to. Stick to the plans
the popular kids in high school? And
you make, show up (in every sense!) and
now you see all of your current
take it from there.
Give Yourself a Break It’s OK not to give in to social pressure. It’s OK to not be out and about, meeting up with other human beings EVERY weekend. Connection requires effort.
colleagues as those popular kids from
And if you’re not feeling up to it, it’s
high school? Is it because you are (or
perfectly acceptable to say no.
used to be) married to someone who is
Build A Community
always the centre of attention at a party? Whatever the reasons are, write them down. Get them out of your head and on to paper - cue the Tall Guides Notebook! Why do we even need to connect? Is the point of connecting just to be able to take a photo to put on social media? Are we trying to distract ourselves by filling a void that can actually only be filled if we do some internal work? For example, I travel extensively for work and while that may sound glamorous, I found myself stuck in a rut where I would get home,
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However, if you crave connection, you What if you’re a terrible cook or you live
may have to push yourself past your
in an small apartment where
initial discomfort. Don’t allow what you
entertaining can be cramped? Look for
don’t have today to affect what you
something to do that interests you. For
could have in the future. The
example, if you are a natural caregiver,
maybe you could contact your local
make with other
hospital to volunteer. Maybe you’re
trying to improve your fitness? Contact
feed your soul.
your local gym to see what classes they
Take a small
offer. Whatever it is that interests you,
look for an outlet… And if you can’t find a
group that shares your interests, seize
the opportunity and start your own!
7 SURPRISING FACTS ABOUT TALL PEOPLE Samantha James from The Tall Friends Society
5. WE LIVE IN THE SAME LAYER OF THE ATMOSPHERE Here’s the science! The Earth’s atmosphere is divided into five layers. It is thickest near the surface and thins out with height until it eventually merges with space. The troposphere is the lowest layer of Earth’s atmosphere, which starts at Earth’s surface and goes up to a height of around 7 to 20 km (4 to 12 miles, or 23,000 to 65,000 feet) above sea level. As people, it’s highly unlikely that we’ll ever grow to over 7km / 4miles
1. WE CAN HEAR YOU… YES, REALLY!
know that we are tall, but the odds are
Chances are, the majority of us are not
experienced living in our own body.
actually deaf. We CAN hear your
that we already know; due to the length of time we have been here and
comments about our height and unless However, if you absolutely must the person with you is visually impaired, comment on our physical appearance, it probably isn’t necessary to point out how tall we are!
2. WE ARE NOT LOCAL LANDMARKS Despite how it may first appear, we are real people and not landmarks in the local scenery. So if you arrange to 'meet by the tall person', please be aware that we have free will and may well have moved on.
3. WE ARE FULLY AWARE THAT WE’RE TALL
why not compliment us on our hair, eyes or charming personality? That would be far nicer I’m sure.
4. WE ARE NOT SUBJECT TO FOOTWEAR REGULATIONS At the time of writing, there has been no legislation or regulation passed stipulating or limiting the type of shoes tall people can choose to wear. Tall people ARE allowed to wear high heels – Crazy I know!
tall so please note: the weather is NEVER going to be different for us. There’s no need to ask for a weather report that corresponds with our vertical dimensions.
6. WE DON’T HAVE TO PLAY BASKETBALL Of course, it is perfectly feasible that we may chose to participate in certain sporting activities. However, if we have not opted to partake in specific heightorientated sports, this is not a “waste of height“. It is more a waste of brain cells to believe such nonsense!
7. SMILE & THE WORLD SMILES WITH YOU Most tall people are lovely human beings. Usually you’ll find that we are decent and friendly individuals. So
Not every tall person has just emerged
instead of gawping open-mouthed like a
out of a parallel universe, and thus we
fish, maybe you can spare making us feel
are very aware of our own physical
uncomfortable by just giving us a
dimensions in this plane of reality. Of
friendly smile instead… most of us may
course, the urge may be strong to let us
even smile back!
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