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Cornered
By Mike Baldwin
talk|23 aug 2012|talkmag.in
The Duplex
By Glenn McCoy
I have problems with my elder sister. No matter how hard I try, I can't relate to her. We stay in different hostels. Though we meet every Sunday, we have never had a good conversation. She has fallen in love recently, but I don't like the boy she is dating. This has made our relationship even more stressful. She has stopped sharing her thoughts with me. I feel her boyfriend has been brainwashing her. What do I do? Sophia Janet, Bilekahalli
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If a relationship is demanding and stressful, it will not last. What is important is trust and respect for private space. Meeting every Sunday has become just a ritual. Poor communication means neither of you is a good listener. As for her boyfriend, you should recognise her sentiments. You can't have some sort of proprietary hold over her just because she is your sister. She won't share anything with you if she knows you have a negative perception about her boyfriend. Just be there when she needs you, and don't try to force a relationship. I knew a girl who would chat with me all day. We used to hang out together and had realised we were more than good friends. But because of my busy work schedule, I took a break from my love life. After a while, I tried to get back in touch with her but she is not responding like before. She is not comfortable with me, and most importantly, she is not willing to meet me. How can I make her understand I love her? Dilip Rajendran, Electronics City
Your priorities are different and your feelings are not genuine. She will obviously not return your calls as you have not
Across Poly clinic which shares the name of the road it's on (7) 3 Karnataka Rajyotsava is celebrated on the 1st of ____ (8) 5 The place for sizzlers at Church Street, now shut (4) 8 Hansraj ____ : Current governor of Karnataka (8) 10 Number of districts in our state (6) 11 _ ___ Road: Hard rock cafe locale (2,5) 14 Pub on Residency Road synonymous with what you are solving (4) 17 ____ Soudha: The State Government plans to erect a statue of Mahatma Gandhi in this Government building (6) 1
20 Multiplex at Garuda Mall (4) 21 Satya Sai Baba Ashram at Brindavan (10) 22 India's largest amusement park, situated on the Bangalore - Mysore highway (8) 2 3 4 6 7
Down Act in the news on account of moral policing in the Dakshina Kannada district (6) ___ Hills: Scenic spot around 60 kms from Bangalore (5) National park 25 kms from the heart of the city (12) Restaurant on Cottonpet Main Road recently in the news (11) Serial killer who was recently sentenced to life
imprisonment (7,7) 9 City in North Karnataka (5) 12 Contagious disease which has claimed over 25 lives in the state this year (5,3) 13 ___ Market: Market In Shivajinagar (6) 15 When in Karnataka Shiravati River drops 253 meters (3,5) 16 Tourist destination where R K Narayanan's Malgudi Days was filmed (6) 18 Karnataka town whose name is associated with South Indian food (5) 19 _____ Limbavali :Minister in the news on account of a power plant in Dhanagur reserve forest land (7)
D for Papa A while back, I had gone to meet a friend of mine. While I was talking to my friend's kid brother, his father came and sat before me and was trying to prove how smart his child was. He said “Son, please read A B C D.” He refused. The father said, “Okay, fine. Show me what stands for Papa in the book.” He thought the child would point at F for Father. The kid was very smart indeed. He turned over A for Apple, B for Boy, and C for cat and finally pointed at D for Dog and said, “This is Papa.” The father was shocked; and I burst into laughter. All he managed to say was, “Very good. Is this Papa?” Shivangi Singh, by email
Prof Good Sense been talking to her. She will not wait for you. Maybe you are tired and exhausted, but that’s no excuse to cut yourself off from someone you love. I recommend you read Erich Fromm’s Art of Loving. Love is about caring. You can’t take time off from love. You will benefit from this book. However hard I try, I don’t get a girlfriend. Even though I look good and am talented, I am not lucky. Girls I meet say ‘You’re like my brother’ and all that crap. I’m confident about myself but I can’t figure out what a girl needs from me. I give girls attention, respect, care, and love but they just walk off. I keep hoping some day they will realise. Will that happen? And what’s the problem with me? Nikhil G K, Ramamurthynagar
If you are confident, you will have a girlfriend. Don’t be desperate. Having a girlfriend or boyfriend isn’t everything. You have other responsibilities as well. What a girlfriend needs in you is subjective. Don’t sound so hopeless. Prof M Sreedhara Murthy teaches psychology at NMKRV First Grade College. He is also a well-known photographer. Write to him: prof@talkmag.in
Slime and Lemony Cake Drawing inspiration from a television cooking show, my father attempted to make a lemon yoghurt cake from scratch. He enlisted me to assist in the baking. We found all the essential ingredients at home - flour, eggs, milk, lemon and the allimportant yoghurt. Although the yoghurt seemed too sour for our liking, we went ahead with the recipe. Once the cake was baked, we cut a piece with eager anticipation. However, it tasted strange and doughy. After my mother returned home, she discovered that the sour yoghurt we used was actually fermented idly batter! No points for guessing who was enlisted again to finish off the botched batch of lemon idly cakes. Elliot B Clarence, Kothanur
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