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intended destination. Having GOALS means you set your directions to where you want to go! Our conscious mind is a GOAL setter and unconscious mind is a GOAL getter. Once you set your GOALS, your all body, mind and soul will be focussed on what you want to achieve! Setting GOALS will fuel the energy and propel you towards your GOAL! Start with small GOALS, for example, revision of a Chapter in Mathematics, and when you achieve them, pay attention to your feelings! The feeling

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| There is no "Failure" only "Feedback": Lately one of my old students met me in the shops and told me he has failed one of his subjects in his University course. That made me think of how often we face "failures" in life? However, in NLP, one of the presuppositions is "there are no failures only feedback". This perspective will enable you to look back and identify the way we went about doing things. For this student, the feedback is that he may not have organised his study notes as he should have or the way he processed his subject content and used it in the examination environment may not have been not appropriate. Now think of your Trial Examination's feedback" and work on it!

5 of accomplishment will give you confidence, faith and courage to set higher GOALS!

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| Commitment to your GOAL: "Success in life depends upon going from one mistake to the next without losing your enthusiasm". While working to achieve GOALS, we sometimes enter a phase of self-doubt and feel disheartened. It is very natural as we are all humans! However, at such times just remind yourself of your commitment towards your GOAL! Commitment is a promise to yourself from which you refuse to back down. As Confucius said, "Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." So NEVER GIVE UP, as you don't know how close you are to your GOAL!

| Power of Focus: So did you set a GOAL for yourself! Now the next step is to provide that energy which creates the momentum for you to move towards your GOAL! This energy comes from FOCUS! Let me give you an analogy! When we go out we are exposed to sunrays. On a hot day they may make you feel uncomfortable. However when you use a magnifying lens and let the sun rays pass through, the rays will have enough power to burn! So FOCUS is like a magnifying lens through which you pass your energies and these energies then propel you towards your GOAL! FOCUS creates an environment around you which allows you to be motivated to achieve your GOAL! SO GO ON TRY IT YOURELF!! Once you have set your GOALS...and are 100% FOCUSSED... all you need now is PERSISTANCE! And BELEIVE in YOURSELF!

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| Get motivated: Most of the time, we do things for one of two reasons, either being motivated to achieve a goal or avoidance due to a fear of failure. It depends which way you are facing. Choosing the right mind-set will make all the difference between your success and failure. When facing towards the goal, you will find there is nice feeling and your body, mind and heart are congruent which allows you to be enthusiastic and energised and motivated. On the other hand, when you do things to stay away, due to the fear of failure, your goals will never be realised. Once you are in your "comfort zone", you will keep doing things the same way and at times feel that you are stuck or "treading water". This situation will drain your energy and you may feel tired and frustrated. Let's do a small task! On a piece of paper write "towards" on the right and "away from" on the left. Now write under each heading, in your given situation, what will drive or motivate you to take actions. Under "away from" you may write words which describe a situation you don't want to be in your life, like increasing debt, poor performance, failure of relationship etc. Now write under "towards" words which describes what you want in your life or want to achieve, like financial abundance, meaningful and strong relationships, career advancement etc. You will notice that when you write words under "towards" will give you a nice feeling. Now imagine you are standing between these two set of words. Ask a question to yourself - "which set of words am I facing towards?" If you are facing "away from", no matter what your intentions, you will fall in to your old habits or behaviour. This will create frustration, low energy, lack of motivation and feeling of "stuck" in life. Now let's see how you feel when you face "towards"! These set of words will create energy and enthusiasm inside you to take action and move towards it.

Life is an outcome of our choices, make a wise one! Narinder Parmar Narinder Parmar is HSIE, Head Teacher, at Smiths Hill High School, Wollongong, NSW. The Australian Education Times

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The Australian Education Times - November, 2013