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Dear Readers


As the sun is setting on another beautiful summer, we suddenly take note of all that we had wanted to do in these “free” days, but haven’t gotten around to. It is human nature to try to hold on with all our might, willing the clock to slow down, ever more aware of its unforgiving speed. For a quick moment, it might be a balm to know that summer isn’t officially over until the 21st, but that fact becomes irrelevant once we note that the school year starts right around Labor Day, and even more, the 21st marks something of far more significance this year – as it also happens to be the start of the real new year, Rosh Hashana. For most of us, though, the summer is pretty much over once thousands of Brooklyn residents return from their two-month getaway, making this the final weekend of our summer vacation. It’s strange. For those who’ve settled back into city life, even just a few hours in – summer seems a thing of the distant past. But while the popular vacation season is over, the sunny outdoors still beckon. Most schools aren’t starting classes until after Labor Day, allowing this American holiday to give us one more opportunity for memory making. But before you pack into the car for another long ride to some distant locale, let’s rediscover our own lovely Brooklyn. In Let’s Go Fly a Kite… Amy Nathans explores many local attractions we may have overlooked. Rather than wallow in regret for not

getting around to all that we wish we would have, let’s instead take a closer look at our hometown, and recognize the treasures in our own backyard that beg to be enjoyed. Being a connoisseur of all things wonderful and memorable, I was surprised to note how many of the parks and attractions we have not yet visited. A quick survey assures me that my family has enjoyed only half of them. As you read that list, check to see where you rank on your veteran Brooklyn familiarity. From The Origins of Ice Cream to When the Stars Come Out, the recurring theme is that of summer bidding us adieu. I’ve always found the cognizance of the passage of time to be somewhat melancholy. And yet, it’s that recognition that adds value to each moment. As we let go of the old, and we prepare for another new year, let’s make it a point to value the time still left in the current one. Appreciating our greatest gift, time, is in essence a tefilla of hoda’ah to our Father on High. So, wherever this weekend finds you, opt for gratitude and mindfulness; the residual sweetness of the last licks.



PUBLISHER: TACHLIS MANAGING EDITOR: Tziri Hershkovitz Copy editor: raizy shlezinger CONTRIBUTING WRITERS: Dr. Peryl Agyshtein, Varda Branfman, Gittel Feldinger, Surie Frenkel, Rebbetzin Malka Friedman, B. Gordon, Shirley Hess, Draizy Israel, Dan L. Kaff, Yehudis Litvak, Amy Nathans, Dr. David Rosmarin, Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier, Yael Tusk, R. Jacobson graphics: Tehila Burgh, Cartoon art: Devora Younger advertising: Chanie Kraus To advertise: 718-704-0944, Ext.1 or contact: T: 718.704.0944 F: 877.331.3738 THE TACHLIS is not responsible for the content or reliability of the articles, advertisements, or other material, nor the kashrus of products and services. Copyright © 2017 by TACHLIS No part of this publication may be reproduced without prior permission in writing from the publisher.





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Your Input

I greatly enjoyed and appreciated P. Samuels “It’s Picture Time (#92).” At our most recent family photo shoot, I incorporated many of her suggestions, especially of allowing a casual activity at the end. My favorite shots are of the children biting into their large slices of watermelon. We also did the blowing bubbles (before the watermelon!) and the results are darling. I believe the smiles in the group shot (taken first!) is also credit due her. Thanks for that timely article! Blima W.

My name is Pesachya Zaveloff, DDS, MS. I am currently the head endodontist (Root Canal Specialist) at ODA. I am writing to you with great concern in reference to the articles that Mrs. Tusk has been writing. Mrs. Tusk is not a doctor or a dentist and is submitting for print her view on medical and dental topics. Her articles contain references to other articles from books and other sources which are not peer reviewed and scientific. Her views are extremely unfounded. To say that Root Canal Therapy can cause cancer or MS is just wrong. I brought my concern to the AAE (American Association of Endodontists). They told me off the record not to bother responding to this “quackery.” I felt I must respond as our patients were horrified by the article - so much so that a patient of mine with MS told me that her daughter asked her if the need for her root canal therapies came before her diagnosis of MS. Other patients have called in who were supposed to have simple root canal therapies and are instead extracting their teeth. If you would like a rebuttal, it would be my pleasure. I will bring down all peer reviewed and scientific articles. Please have Mrs. Tusk’s articles reviewed by a board of professionals. Dr. P. Zaveloff DDS, MS  Yael Tusk responds:  I do not cite my own personal opinion here, but the opinion of experts in dentistry. Mainly Dr.’s Weston A. Price, who was a pioneer in this field and Hal Huggins, DDS, a current dentist and researcher, who has actually helped thousands reverse disease by improving their dental health. Please read the works of these dentists and researchers to understand the basis for their findings. I alone never could have come up with the idea that root canals cause health problems. In fact, when I read about it in Dr. Price’s book, I found it very difficult to believe. After conducting extensive research, I find that the information is so compelling, it is difficult to ignore.  Recently, dentist George E. Meinig has summarized all of Dr.

Price’s extensive root canal research in the book “Root Canal Cover Up.” I encourage all dentists and lay people to read the books by all three of these authors to assist them in reaching a more educated unbiased decision. I am well aware of the fact that the mainstream dental associations condone root canals, but I am convinced that they are persisting in ignoring a century’s worth of incriminating evidence. There are thousands of dentists who have received holistic training, and understand the dangers of root canals. It is very hard to give or receive proper treatment when the healthcare provider and patient are not seeing eye to eye. I strongly encourage patients to find doctors that understand their needs. I apologize to any dentist whose life I am making difficult because of this series. Nevertheless, the evidence speaks for itself, and is accessible to all patients and practitioners who would like to make the safest root-canal decision. Holistic dentists

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22—your input are not difficult to find. Finally, although I am not a dentist or a doctor, I am very much not in favor of “eminence based medicine” (to quote Dr. Malcolm Kendrick). Truth speaks for itself, and the evidence here is actually so clear that even someone who is not medically trained will be able to understand it. “BACK IS BEST!” is what parents are told on how to put their babies to sleep. But the question that begs an answer is: back is best – for whom? My guess is that it’s best for the doctors, therapists, orthopedists, or anyone in the medical field wanting to make money. When babies are put to sleep on their backs, the baby’s malleable skull flattens. The baby’s brain then has no place to grow, causing it to grow in the width, resulting in grotesquely flat large heads which are disproportionate with those tiny little bodies.

Orthopedist are suddenly becoming rich fitting helmets onto the little heads to get the proper shape back. Babies sleeping on their backs usually have less tummy time, which often results in delayed motor skills. Therapists are then introduced to help with baby’s development. Saddest of all is that when babies are being put to sleep on their backs, the food which occasionally comes back up, can stay stuck in the throat, which can cause choking or, ch”v, SIDS - the very thing it was supposed to prevent.  For over thousands of years parents and caregivers have put their newborns to sleep on their sides or stomachs. Babies’ skulls and brains developed normally, babies’ motor skills developed normally, and babies have been more developmentally advanced. When baby woke up and was on his stomach, he learned to pull up on hands, turn and crawl

faster. When food would come back up it was easier for baby to spit it up and thus avoid choking. Their heads were properly proportioned and they learned to crawl faster being that they had more tummy time. Our ancestors weren’t that stupid. Putting babies to sleep on their backs is a rather recent experimental study with far more side effects for those infants (and parents) – not even preventing that which it is supposed to. Recent studies suggest a fan (fresh air) circulating the room, and no plush/soft pillows or mattress for the baby’s face to sink into. Let’s use common sense, and not, ch”v, hurt our children in the process. Peshy Perl This is your forum. Share your responses and opinions with TACHLIS readers by writing to inbox@, or fax 877-331-3738, or mail to The Tachlis, 199 Lee Ave #928, Brooklyn NY 11211




Parshas Ki Seitzei

The Magnitude of a Mitzvah Rebbetzin Malka Friedman The mitzvah of ‫ שילוח הקן‬is in this week’s parsha. If one comes upon the nest of a kosher bird, it is a ‫מצוה‬ to send away the mother bird and then take the eggs. The Torah tells us that the reward for he who performs the mitzvah of ‫ שילוח הקן‬is ‫אריכת ימים‬, longevity. The only other mitzvah stated in the Torah with the reward of longevity is the mitzvah of honoring one’s parents. How is it that one of the easiest, clearly defined mitzvos, the mitzvah of chasing the mother bird and taking the eggs, and one of the most difficult of mitzvos, honoring one’s parents, which is a continual, never-ending mitzvah, have the same stated reward? It says in Pirkei Avos: ‫ שאין אתה‬,‫הוי זהיר במצוה קלה כבחמורה‬ ‫ יודע מתן שכרן של מצות‬- “Be cautious with a light mitzvah as with a difficult mitzvah because you don’t know the reward of mitzvos. Every mitzvah has its unique properties and ability to bond us with Hakadosh Boruch Hu while elevating our physical world to a higher capacity of receiving Hashem’s Life Source and Brocha. Even though our physical eyes are unable to see it, the world is radically changed by every mitzvah. A person who embarks on a mitzvah becomes a ‫כלי‬ ‫מקבל ברכה‬, a vessel that is capable of receiving brocha.

R’ Meir Mimar, or as known to his friends, Meirka, was a chossid of R’ Mordechai of Lechovitch. On one of his frequent journeys, R’ Meirka stopped at a Jewish inn to rest. As he was relaxing, he heard a commotion outside. Through the window, he saw a group of Jewish paupers approaching the inn. Their ragged clothing, weather-beaten appearance, and drawn faces revealed the situation of the group. R’ Meirke was aware that there were the groups of aniyim that would travel together from city to city, going from one soup kitchen to the next, collecting whatever tzedoka was available in the city, and then moving on. As he surveyed the group, R’ Meirka noticed a man amongst them that appeared different than the rest. There was a serenity on his face and R’ Meirka thought to himself, “This man has ‘Hadras Ponim’ - a special radiance.” R’ Meirka stood to the side and observed the scene. The innkeeper opened the door and invited the group of aniyim to sit down to a meal. The men jostled each other good-naturedly as they hastily washed for Hamotzei and took their places at the table. Large loaves of bread were brought out and placed in the center of the table. The group went for the bread with gusto, making a quick brocha before downing the bread and gulping the meal served. Only this one man stood to the side. When the others finished washing, he went to the sink, filled the washing cup and carefully washed his hands. With his eyes closed, the man lifted his hands

above his head while quietly making the brocha ‫על נטילת ידים‬. He then took his seat at the end of the bench and took a piece of bread from the bread board in the middle of the table. It was then that R’ Meirka saw something unusual. The man was holding the fresh, hot bread in his hands, about to make a brocha, when he suddenly returned the bread to the board on the table. He then reached for his back pack, took out a moldy piece of bread, and made Hamotzei. Soup was served and the meal finished. Unlike the others, the man spent considerable time benching. “Why wouldn’t he eat the bread?” R’ Meirka pondered the question a moment and then walked into the kitchen. The innkeeper’s wife was cleaning up after the meal. R’ Meirka asked her, “May I ask you a question?” “Of course,” she answered. “When did you make the bread served at this meal?” “Why, it’s fresh from the oven. I made it today,” she responded. “Tell me, did you take challah from the dough before you baked the loaves?” The innkeeper’s wife turned pale. “Oh, no! “ she cried. “I forgot to take challah! How could I have forgotten?” R’ Meirka left the kitchen, now totally convinced that this man was a hidden tzaddik, traveling with a group of paupers. R’ Meirka decided to seize



the opportunity and receive a brocha from this special individual. “Where did that group go?” he asked the inn owner a while later. “I don’t know. They left without telling me their destination, but I did notice they took the road to the north.” R’ Meirka left the inn and headed quickly up the north road, determined to catch up to the group and get his brocha from the hidden tzaddik. After a while, he met up with the group, as they had stopped at a clearing for a rest. R’ Meirka scanned the faces, but couldn’t find his man. “Where is the man that was traveling with you, the quiet fellow with the white beard?” he inquired. “What do you want with that weirdo? He doesn’t talk much and is always either going off by himself or davening,” was the reply he received. “Where is he now?” R’ Meirka asked. The man shrugged his shoulders. “I don’t know. I think he went that way into the forest.” R’ Meirka followed the directions and after a few minutes, found the man sitting on the trunk of a fallen tree, his eyes closed in concentration. R’ Meirka stood before the man and coughed. “Do you want something?” he asked R’ Meirka. “Yes,” R’ Meirka answered. “I want a brocha.” The man gave Meirka a piercing look, extended his hand and said, “First, give me some tzedaka.” R’ Meirka put a large sum in the tzaddik’s hand and received a brocha in return. He then returned to the inn, gathered his belongings, and continued on his way. The horses plodded along. At one point, R’ Meirka realized that he had somehow veered from the road and was in unrecognizable territory. In dismay, he realized he was lost, with no way to extricate himself from his predicament. As the sky grew darker, R’ Meirka searched for a light in the darkness.

“There must be a house somewhere where I could spend the night. I’ll then figure out how to proceed in the morning,” he thought. The trees were getting denser, the winds stronger, and as the moments passed, R’ Meirka was becoming more and more frantic. Finally, he saw a light in the distance. With a sigh of relief, he steered his horses toward the light. As R’ Meirka approached the front door, a woman came to open it. “Is this an inn?” Meirka asked her. “Can I spend the night here and get directions in the morning to get back to the main road?” The woman’s response was positive on both accounts. R’ Meirka jumped off the wagon, hoisted his backpack onto his shoulder, and entered the inn. The woman showed him to a room. As R’ Meirka was acclimating to the environment, he overheard the woman say in a sinister voice, “We got ourselves a big fish tonight.” R’ Meirka paled, thinking to himself, “This is really not a safe place.” He tried opening the door, but it was locked and R’ Meirka was trapped. “What should we do first?” one raspy voice questioned. “Kill him or eat dinner?” “I am really starving,” came the response. “Let’s tie him up first and we can kill him after we eat. We’ll search his belongings for valuables, and then dump the body.” The bedroom door burst open. Three burly thugs grabbed R’ Meirka, bound his hands and feet and gagged his mouth. “Ribono Shel Olam,” cried R’ Meirka from the depths of his heart, “You are Kol Yachol. Save me from this fate they are planning.” R’ Meirka began to recite viduy. Suddenly, there was a banging and shouts of, “Open the door! Open the door!” The shocked bandits had no intention of abiding, but the frantic knocking continued. Finally, the door flew off its hinges as a group of twenty freezing merchants broke the door down. Horrified, they realized that

they had walked into a bandits’ lair. Acting quickly, the merchants rallied and prevailed over the bandits, tied their hands and feet and released R’ Meirka from his bondage. “We never come this way,” one of the merchants told R’ Meirka, “Our horses veered off the main road and led us to this house. You are a fortunate man.” In the morning, they turned the bandits over to the authorities and parted ways with R’ Meirka who made a beeline to his Rebbe, R’ Mordechai of Lechovitch. As R’ Meirka entered the Rebbe’s room, R’ Mordechai said, “Meirka, Meirka, because of you, I couldn’t sleep the whole night. You must know that it was in the zechus of the tzedaka you gave to the tzaddik, R’ Leib Sora’s, that his brocha to you for health and a long life was able to be realized and save you from certain death.” A mitzvah’s magnitude cannot be quantified. The difficulty of the mitzvah isn’t always the deciding factor; every mitzvah brings brocha. The Zohar HaKadosh teaches that when one performs the mitzvah of ‫שילוח הקן‬, he shoos the mother bird from her nest and takes the eggs. The mother bird flies up to the heavens, crying, “My children! My children are taken from me and lost.” All of the angels in the heavens begin to cry for the poor mother bird. Hakadosh Boruch Hu, hearing the cries for the lost children of the bird, responds, “Where are my children, Bnei Yisroel? They have been taken from their nest into Golus. Who is crying for my children?” The mitzvah of ‫ שילוח הקן‬is ‫מעורר‬ ‫ רחמים רבים‬for Klal Yisroel. Our Haftorah this week says, ‫ברגע‬ ‫ קטן עזבתיך וברחמים גדולים אקבצך‬- “For a brief moment have I forsaken you and with abundant mercy shall I gather you in.” Ribono Shel Olam, the “brief moment of abandonment” is too long for us. We are crying out to You -- gather us in with the abundance of Your Infinite Mercy - ‫במהירה‬ ‫ אמן‬,‫בימינו‬.




The ungrateful teenager

I’d be the first to thank Hashem, if… “You shall not reject an Edomite, for he is your brother; you shall not reject an Egyptian, for you were a sojourner in his land.” – Devarim 23:8 Rabbi Ben Zion Shafier Our attitude toward the Mitzrim

The Torah lays out our attitude and approach to the different nations and tells us, “The Mitzrim cannot be totally rejected because you lived in their country.” Rashi is bothered by this mixed expression. If we are supposed to be grateful for the good that the Mitzrim did for us, why use the expression “don’t reject them?” This doesn’t sound very appreciative. Rashi answers that the Torah is teaching us precisely that point. Our attitude towards the Mitzrim should be mixed. On the one hand, we don’t forget that they threw our infant boys into the Nile River. On the other hand, they did provide a home for us. So we have ambivalent feelings. We don’t completely accept them, but we can’t reject them either. When we think about the background, this Rashi is very difficult to understand. Our stay in Mitzrayim was not pleasant. Tortured and bled, oppressed and hounded, the Jew was treated far worse than a beast of burden. We had no rights. We had no life. We couldn’t choose our destiny or protect our children. What possible debt do we owe to them? Even more telling is that the Mitzrim weren’t doing us a favor by allowing us to stay in their land. We were the backbone of their economy. Their entire production was based on slave labor, and we were the slaves. They didn’t feed us for our good; they did it so that we could produce for them. They didn’t give us a place to sleep for our comfort; they did it so that we could be awakened at dawn, to the crack of the whip, to slave away in the sweltering heat. In plain language, we were property – owned by the Mitzrim, kept for their profit. Any good that they did for us was only for their selfish interests. Do we owe such people hakoras ha’tov? This question can best be answered with a moshol brought by the Chovos Ha’Levovos.

Two teenage brothers living on a grand estate had a conversation. One said to the other, “Father is such a wonderful man! He is so generous with us, and so concerned for our good. Look at the entire program he has created for us – private teachers and tutors – all to benefit us. Everything that he does is focused on our betterment. I feel so grateful to him.” His brother looked over and said, “Oh, I don’t know about that. First off, this getting up at 6:30 in the morning is a huge drag. And this whole ‘get an education routine’ is pretty lame. Not to mention five miles of running every morning! It’s just plain dumb! To tell you the truth, I’m not so sure he really has our good in mind at all. I think the old-timer just wants to keep us out of his hair.” What is the difference between the two teenagers? One is adopted; the other isn’t. The adopted son grew up without. He knows what it means to suffer. Having lived in an orphanage for two years, he knows what it is like to go to bed hungry, to sleep in a cold, dank cellar. When his adopted father took him in, everything was a vast improvement, so he has an unending sense of appreciation for what he now has. His brother, on the other hand, grew up in the lap of luxury. Since he first opened his eyes, all that he has ever known is comfort and abundance, and so none of it means anything to him. He is a spoiled brat.

I would be the first to thank G-d, if…

The expression hakoras ha’tov is highly illustrative of this concept. The word hakorah means to recognize, to discern. Chazal were teaching us that this issue pivots on perception. By nature, a person is grateful; the difficulty lies in recognizing what we have to be grateful for. This seems to be the answer to this Rashi. There is no question that the Mitzrim’s motivation when they were playing host to the Jewish nation was not for the Jews’ benefit, but for their own. However, the Jews did benefit. For 210 years they had a land in which to live, food to eat, and a place to sleep. In that sense, their very exis-

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I have to Hashem? However, this is based on my understanding of the sheer amount of good that I receive. Unfortunately, we are a bit like the spoiled teenager who has everything and therefore has nothing. It is difficult for us to thank Hashem. It isn’t that we don’t have; it is that we don’t perceive it. When I train myself to appreciate the great wealth that I enjoy, I gain an automatic sense of wanting to pay back. By doing this, I enjoy my stay in this world to a much greater extent, I am grateful for what others do for me, and I have an unending sense of appreciation for all that the blessings I have received from Hakadosh Baruch Hu. Rabbi Shafier is the founder of the – The Shmuz is an engaging, motivating shiur that deals with real life issues. All of the Shmuzin are available free of charge at or on the Shmuz App for iphone or Android. Simply text the word “TheShmuz” to the number 313131 and a link will be sent to your phone to download the App.

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How to Remove Mercury Fillings Safely By Yael Tusk, M.S., O.M. In Eretz Yisrael, where I live, dental care for children is covered by most insurance plans. Inexplicably, they offer silver mercury fillings free of cost, but charge a considerable fee for white fillings. I was particularly upset when I learned of this, and wondered why they were being so generous with such an extremely toxic substance... Naturally, being ignorant of the dangers of mercury, most people accept the free fillings. I assure you, nothing in life is free, and the price for amalgam fillings is higher than you can imagine. What should I do if my kids already have mercury fillings in their teeth? If the fillings are in baby teeth, it may be best to leave well enough alone and wait until the teeth fall out, since removal of amalgam fillings can release a lot of mercury vapor all at once. This also has its risks. If the child has symptoms that may be due to mercury poisoning, such as tics, seizures, visual deterioration or cognitive developmental delay, it is best to discuss the situation with an expert holistic/ biological dentist to decide whether removing mercury is a better choice than waiting for the teeth to fall out. If you wonder if an illness is related to mercury toxicity, testing for heavy metal poisoning followed by detoxification will most likely be necessary if one hopes to reverse the condition. More on this later.

What if there is mercury in permanent teeth? Because of the incredible toxicity of mercury, removing mercury fillings is not without risks. Drilling into amalgam fillings releases huge amounts of toxic mercury vapor which can be inhaled by all present. There are two safety precautions which are nonnegotiable, and must be taken when removing amalgams. Do not remove mercury from your mouth without them: Mercury removal should be conducted in a well-ventilated room with an oxygen mask placed over the patient’s nose to reduce inhalation of mercury fumes. A rubber dam is placed around the tooth, covering the rest of the mouth to prevent the mercury from being swallowed or otherwise absorbed. There are other important safety precautions to consider. These are generally practiced by biological dentists since they have had extensive training in the area of safe amalgam removal, and are particularly aware of the seriousness of mercury toxicity. Particular caution is warranted in the case of a chronic illness that may be related to mercury poisoning (such as multiple sclerosis, arthritis etc). Unsafe removal of amalgam fillings can increase the body’s mercury burden and potentially worsen symptoms, or even trigger new autoimmune disease. Therefore, biological dentists generally take the following additional precautions: Ideally, the mercury should be removed in a particular order. Using the protocol of Dr. Hal Huggins, dentists test the electric potential of each tooth, and remove fillings in quadrants starting from the tooth with the most negative electrical current and finishing the quadrant with the tooth that is most positive. The Huggins protocol also recommends completing mercury and root canal removal within a thirty day time-period whenever possible. Leave at least two days between appointments. They also caution: Never cross the midline during the same appoint-

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R’ Yitzchok of Kolomaya, R’ Menachem Mendel of Kossov, Blima Hirsch (zivug sheini - R’ Uir Strelisker)

DATE OF BIRTH: 1730 BIRTHPLACE: Kolomaya, Ukraine PETIRA: 15 Elul 5547 (1787) KEVER: Old Jewish cemetery in Tysmenystia, Ukraine destroyed in 1945 - Vizhnitzer chassidim are currently negotiating with local government to erect a memorial for Reb Yaakov Kopel in the area. PARENTS:  R’ Nechemia Feivel R’ Yaakov’s ancestors belonged to the Chachmei Ashkenaz. WIFE:  Chaya Sora (daughter of R’ Zalmen – descendant of Tosfos Yom Tov)

REBBES: The Baal Shem Tov SFORIM: Shaar Gan Eden, Kol Yaakov on the siddur, Kol Yaakov on Rosh Hashana & Yom Kippur davening, Kol Yaakov on the Haggada. SURNAME FACTOID: Legend has it that R’ Yaakov Kopel Chossid was a descendant of Rav Ovadia Bartenura. The family had been in Portugal and forced to leave during the Inquisition. Their wanderings took them to Holland where they settled for a while in the city of The Hague (hence: Hager)

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Yaakov Kopel was probably born in a village nearby and lived in Kolomaya after his marriage. He preferred not to be recognized for his ruchniyus and to live a simple private life. His seforim were published posthumously by his children because he wanted his learning and avodas Hashem to be purely l’shma. For parnassa, his wife ran a textile shop. Many times, when she was busy, R’ Yaakov could be found measuring and cutting material. Although R’ Yaakov was known to both Jewish and non-Jewish customers as the “Shivisi-nik,” due to his custom of putting his hand over his eyes as he would say “Shivisi Hashem l’negdi sameed,” most people were unable to perceive his greatness. The Baal Shem Tov was the one who recognized R’ Yaakov Kopel’s special qualities when he once came to Kolomaya for a Shabbos. Before Kiddush on Friday night, he told his followers that he sensed a great light in the city and insisted on seeking out its source. Following this light, only visible to the Baal Shem Tov, he came to a modest house next to a textile store. When the Baal Shem Tov looked through the window, he saw R’ Yaakov Kopel dancing around the Shabbos tisch, with pure hislahavus in the joy of a mitzva. R’ Yaakov Kopel only stopped his dance after about 2 hours to make kiddush. At this point the Baal Shem Tov made

House of Baal Shem Tov in Kolomaya, part of this structure was the Kossover shul

himself known to R’ Yaakov Kopel who explained to him the deep mystic joy that caused him to dance and sing. From then on, R’ Yaakov Kopel belonged to the inner circle of the Baal Shem Tov’s talmidim. He also became the Baal Shem Tov’s shaliach tzibbur and composed beautiful original nigunim. It was said that his nigunim themselves explained every word of the davening. R” Yaakov Kopel was zoche to inherit the Baal Shem Tov’s tefillin, which was the only item of value he bequeathed his children. Although R’ Yaakov Kopel never wanted to serve as Rebbe, his children were not able to avoid it. His descendants became the Kossover – Vizhnitz dynasty.

This is a picture of where the Jewish cemetery in Tysmenytsia, Ukraine was, where R' Yaakov Kopel Chossid was buried. Cemetery has been plowed over & rebuilt. No longer existent.

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Go Fly a Kite… In Brooklyn

Amy Nathans


In an obvious nod to the grass being greener on the other side, way too many Brooklynites load their cars and fill up their gas tanks at mere mention of vacation. What is somewhat ironic is that while we leave to discover attractions any place but, there are families flocking to Brooklyn, or the greater New York area, ready to explore their itinerary – replete with destinations we’ve never even heard of! Tourists often know more about local attractions than the locals - probably because the tourists have done the research – while the locals are busy researching alternate locations to explore on vacation. Thanks to the Brooklyn Waterfront initiative, Brooklyn now has many lovely parks where children can play, exercise, explore, learn – or just fly a kite. In these last few days of summer vacation, let’s discover our own backyard.

THE BROOKLYN WATERFRONT GREENWAY The Brooklyn Greenway Initiative (BGI) was conceptually ingenious, in that it wouldn’t require any major government investment. Each proposal for a new construction project on the waterfront needed to include plans for beautifying the grounds surrounding property. Some of the other requirements were to make it family friendly, as well as constructing it so that the biking lane will smoothly connect to the adjoining properties, all along the waterfront. Ultimately, with typical government involvement, the plan took far longer to complete than anticipated, and did


end up utilizing plenty of funds and assistance from the DOT, Department of Parks and Recreation, Federal Bureau of Prisons, and more. Founded 13 years ago, some of the parks have been around for seven years, while others are only catching up now. The goal is to have the greenway run for 26 miles. At present, it’s up to 18.

BROOKLYN BRIDGE PARKS The largest park in the initiative, the Brooklyn Bridge Park (1) encompasses Piers 1 – 6. A fascinating facet of this project is its being the largest park that is built on a landfill. Initially



opened in 2010, new features are popping up regularly. Presently there are fun kids’ parks, large areas for exercise, sports fields, smaller fenced-in areas with more educational features, and an exciting carousel as well. Pier 6 is a popular destination in itself, with six unique children’s park. Adults appreciate the lovely grounds, the lightly educational elements at some of the parks, and best of all its being free! The ferry to Governors Island (2) docks at Pier 6, making another wonderful destination easily accessible. The ferry is just $2, and children under 13 can ride at no cost. Governors Island is

172 acres of magnificent land, open to the public since 2014, and most attractions are free. There are also historic buildings will which fascinate history buffs. The East River Ferry, an exciting means of transport for kids, in and of itself, stops at Pier 1, at the Brooklyn Bridge Park. In the summer, it also continues on directly to Governors Island. Heading north, it docks at South Williamsburg, and if you choose to go further north, the ferry will take you to Hunter’s Point South Park. This 10 acre waterfront park was an abandoned industrial area until recently, but is now replete with a great

playground and a waterside promenade. Just a short stroll through this park will get you to Gantry Plaza Park (3). Williamsburg residents, being so near the waterfront, have Gantry Plaza Park easily accessible via the B62 (on Wythe Ave) which will take them over the Pulaski Bridge (get off at Jackson Ave and 11th Street, and walk three blocks towards the water). The Gantry Plaza offers spacious grounds, a fun park, cool hammocks – an all-around beautiful spot to relax and enjoy. And right in Williamsburg’s backyard is the Naval Cemetery Landscape (4). Until recently an awful eyesore, this 1.7

acre lot was developed in partnership with the Brooklyn Navy Yard, and beautified with a variety of native plants, beneficial to pollinators such as bees, moths and butterflies. It is relevant to note that this area was formerly a Naval Hospital cemetery, in use from 1831 to 1910. Decommissioned in the 1920s, all the known remains were reinterred in Cypress Hills. There are no known markers, and the walkway is elevated off the ground, out of respect for the dead, I suspect. It is said to be serene and relaxing, but being a former cemetery, I can’t see myself picking the spot for relaxation.







Still, since some heimish Brooklynites do unwind at the site, it’s important for kohanim to be aware, that while most bodies were moved, some weren’t, making the area off limits to them. SEA GLASS AT THE BATTERY (5) This delightful attraction is a fish-themed carousel. Instead of horses taking you ‘round and ‘round, this

time it’s illuminated fish that ride up and down and round, in circles. You get to lean back and relax and feel magically transported under the sea. There are some “dolphin” stationary seats, for those who don’t enjoy the swimming experience. When going with a group, choose seats facing each other, rather than next to each other, so that you can see everyone in

the group. At $5, it is likely one of the most expensive carousel rides out there, but even at only approximately 3 minutes, it is one that the kids (and you!) will most certainly remember.

PICNIC TABLES GALORE Picnic tables are a staple feature in most parks. On a warm, dry evening this week, make it a point to

plan a picnic dinner. I like packing paper placemats, or a disposable tablecloth along with the paper goods. For food, opt for the least messy (for me, that’s usually chicken fingers). A convenient side would be something that doesn’t need to be kept warm (potato or pasta salad); even mashed potatoes in a tightly sealed container will remain warm. Remember to pack along a drink, although water bottles will work. Bring some fresh wipes for before (if it’s after some playtime) and after (hey, food can be messy!), and cleanup will be a cinch. Don’t make the event all about photos, but do have a camera at the ready. It’s family memories like these that are absolutely priceless.

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LABOR DAY How did this secular holiday evolve from workers protesting for better conditions to the unofficial end of the summer season to the second largest day for retail sales in the United States? R. Jacobson

Humble Origins

The idea of Labor Day, a day recognizing the contribution of the nation’s workers and advancing their rights, actually started in Canada before it spread to the United States. Canadians organized their first Labor Day in Toronto, Ontario to support striking workers in 1872. During the 1880s, workers in the US were often at their jobs 12 – 16 hours a day. Many worked seven days a week and it was not unusual for six year old children to be working in mines, mills or factories. It goes without saying that the conditions in many of these workplaces were far from safe. In short, the conditions of workers, especially the young, poor, or newly arrived in the country, were appalling. The late 19th century saw American industry valuing increased production level over basic human rights. In 1882, the only days workers were given off without deducting from their pay were every other Sunday, the Fourth of July and December 25th. On Tuesday, September 5, 1882, in an unprecedented event, 10,000 employees took unpaid leave to march to a park in Manhattan where speeches, a picnic and concert were organized by the *For Your Inquisitive Mind

Knights of Labor and the Central Labor Union. Their goal was bringing attention to the plight of workers and trying to improve their status. For the first two years that this form of Labor Day was observed in New York City, the date was September 5th. Since 1884, Labor Day has been observed on the first Monday in September, making it a forerunner by far of our three-day legal holiday weekends.

The Final Push

Although many states began adopting Labor Day as a legal holiday, it wasn’t until 1894 that President Grover Cleveland passed it through Congress as a national holiday. The background to Labor Day becoming law is a rather fascinating, albeit mostly forgotten, piece of history. A recession in the early 1890s had caused a setback in the economy. There were many layoffs, as well as reduced wages, at the Pullman Railway Company in Chicago, Illinois. Having had enough, 4,000 employees began a strike in May of 1894. Soon, American Railway workers joined the strike and riots broke out. President Grover Cleveland, who



In 1926, the Ford Automotive plant in Dearborn, Michigan, a leading industrial indicator, adopted the fiveday work week without a decrease in workers’ salary. The struggle continued as in 1929, the Amalgamated Clothing Workers of America Union demanded a fiveday work week for their employees as well. Finally, in 1940 as a provision of the 1938 Fair Labor Standards Act, a maximum 40 hour work week became mandatory. Part of what really made industry leaders realize that a five-day work week was also beneficial for them was the fact that after having Sundays as their only “day off,” many workers were in no shape to appear at work on Monday morning, suffering from hang-overs. This caused many businesses to give time off every other Saturday afternoon, even before the shorter work week became mandatory.

Waning Significance

was not especially sympathetic to workers, called upon the army to quell the strikers. Some argue that the riots didn’t break out until the aggressive armed forces arrived at the scene. What all agree, is that it turned ugly, quickly. In just a few days, 30 people were killed, 57 wounded, and there was $80,000 of damage to property. Although the American public initially viewed Cleveland’s actions favorably, the mindset changed at the news of the deaths. Realizing he had gone too far, in a conciliatory move, President Cleveland rushed the new legislation through Congress, and six days later declared Labor Day a national holiday.

The Jewish Twist

Ultimately, the new attention paid to the workers’ plight, created the shorter work week, which was of great benefit to the Shomer Shabbos workforce segment. In 1908, a cotton mill in New England was the first place to institute a five-day work week to accommodate its Shabbos observing employees. The Adamson Act was passed on September 3, 1916 to establish an eight-hour work day.

In other parts of the world the Labor Day holiday still carries more of a political nature than in the US. Although a Labor Day Parade still takes place in NYC, close to the locale of the 1882 march, the significance of the day is no longer what it was. It has become a midpoint between the Fourth of July and Thanksgiving as well as a closing date to the summer season which kicks off with Memorial Day. In addition, it has become the second busiest day in retail sales after Black Friday which follows Thanksgiving. During the first part of the 20th Century, fashion rules were that white shoes, straw hats and lightweight fabrics were only worn between Memorial Day and Labor Day; that was the time of year that the upper-class society would usually spend at their seaside resorts or mountain cabins. But that too has changed, to the extent that perhaps the only significance left for the American general public is that Labor Day opens up the fall sports season and new semester at school. The decline of the popularity of labor unions in the US has made the original purpose of Labor Day even more remote. However, it still serves the purpose of giving us that push back into the real world and reminding us that, like it or not, summer is over, school is starting and before we turn around, we’re into the Yamim Nora’im. High time to appreciate our very real purpose - Avodas Hashem.

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ith summer allowing for just some “last licks,” what’s the first thing that comes to mind? It’s ice cream, of course! For some reason, I was under the impression that ice cream was likely invented somewhere around the time that most homes acquired refrigerators. Turns out, I was off by over 2,000 years. Granted, the early versions were not quite the milky delights we enjoy today, but some Greek historians noted that Alexander the Great enjoyed snow and ice which were flavored with honey or nectar. The Caesar that was responsible for the Churban, Nero Claudius Caesar (54 – 86 C.E.), would send runners into the mountains to get snow, which was then flavored with fruits and juices.



Sometime in the ensuing years, a recipe that was similar to sherbet was invented. The Western world found out about it when Marco Polo (1254-1324) brought the recipe back from his travels. It took until the 1500s for this recipe to evolve into ice cream, or “cream ice,” as they called it then. In 1553, the wife of Henry II, introduced it in France, and about 100 years later, Charles I in England was known to favor the dish too. It wasn’t until the 1660s, though, that ice cream became available to the general public. It was a Parisian café that first introduced the recipe that included blended milk, cream, butter and eggs.

ICE CREAM IN AMERICA The first official account of ice cream in the New World is noted from a letter written in 1744 by a guest of Maryland’s Governor William Bladen. There was the first advertisement, too, in the New York Gazette on May 12, 1777, where

candy shop owner Philip Lenzi announced that ice cream was available “almost every day.” President George Washington was said to have spent approximately $200 for ice cream during the summer of 1790, and President Thomas Jefferson was said to have a favorite 18-step recipe for a particular ice cream delicacy. In 1813, Dolly Madison served a magnificent strawberry ice cream creation at President Madison’s second inaugural banquet at the White House. Until 1800, ice cream remained a rare and exotic dessert enjoyed mostly by the elite. About that time, insulated ice houses were invented. Manufacturing ice cream soon became an industry in America. Like other American industries, ice cream production increased because of technological innovations, including steam power, mechanical refrigeration, electric power and motors, and new freezing processes and equipment. In addition, motorized delivery vehicles dramatically changed the industry. Due to ongoing technological advances, the current total annual frozen dairy production in the United States is more than 1.6 billion gallons. It is most interesting to note that in 1874, when the American soda fountain shops emerged with the invention of the ice cream soda, they were met with criticism by devout Christians, for eating “sinfully” rich ice cream sodas on Sundays. At that point (late 1890’s), ice cream merchants left out the carbonated water and invented the ice cream “Sunday. The name was eventually changed to “sundae” to remove any connection with their “Sabbath.” As more prepackaged ice cream was sold through supermarkets, traditional ice cream parlors and soda fountains started to disappear. But that trend is slowly reversing as more and more ice cream stores offering a huge variety of flavors and toppings, are popping up all over the place. Ice cream might be quintessentially a summer dish, but luckily, for these shops – and for us, we have taken to enjoying an ice cream cone, year-round. Bon Appétit!

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When The Stars Came Out

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Kept cozy by the fire Chaperoned by muchtoo-nice volunteers Who later drove them, grungy and bleary-eyed, To the Swan Lake shul at sunrise.

The campfire was cancelled, we assumed. The boys had gathered broken chairs, dry branches, other stuff All week, lugging it all To the homemade firepit in the forest where, summer after summer, Fires became receptacles for cotton ball marshmallows and franks that charred in seconds (Hard to tell them apart, sometimes, from the sticks that spun them). Half a dozen, sometimes more, hardy all-night boys

We didn’t think it would happen this year, Hadn’t signed up for the deluge that descended.

As thunder and light crackled like a mammoth fire, Rabbi Goodsell, head of all things day camp, all things country and fun Sat, chin in hands, on a rusty lawn chair on the soaked-through lawn. He deliberated. He jumped up. “Campfire is on. Come on!” And it was, and we did, Thanks to the tarp covering the collected wood, Piled high now like a tepee. The rain stopped. The fire happened. Took a little longer to get going, but whatever. As the stars came out in a clearing sky, The frank-andmarshmallow-infused smoke carried across the mountainside Past, way past, considerably past sunrise.





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Religious OCD Do you have experience with religious OCD? How do you handle a case of someone who doesn’t trust any therapist because he feels that no one should be telling him what to do or not to do, because of his OCD? Could this be done without medication (which I want to stay away from!)? In your experience do these children heal enough to marry a healthy spouse and lead a healthy life, or does the condition remain with them for life? Thank you for helping me get a little clearer on this painful issue. -A Concerned Mother

Dear Concerned Mother, Obsessional thinking connected to religious beliefs and rituals is a common form of OCD and you very correctly identify a key difficulty of treatment – trust. Trust between therapist and client is the most important component in any therapeutic relationship. In OCD that manifests in religious behavior, curtailing and limiting that “righteous” behavior is an absolutely necessary component of the treatment and this can be very distressing for a client. (“You don’t want me to listen to the megillah again, even though I know I missed words?! But, I wasn’t yoitzei!”) For this reason, it is imperative that the treating clinician appreciate the valid source of the client’s religious belief and convey this appreciation to the client. Exposure is the hallmark of behavior therapy for OCD, but in exposure, we do not simply drop you into the pool and say “swim.” Understanding the client, understanding where they are coming from and helping them to move at a pace where they are leading and not following is the key to successful treatment. Some clients find it helpful to work with people who are religiously similar to themselves (some, by the way, specifically avoid this familiarity). For some clients, we involve a rebbe or a rav in treatment so that the client can feel supported religiously, but it is all about achieving comfort and then trust. Differentiating between avoiding anxiety and supporting the courage to change is sometimes a difficulty here, but the treatment itself usually catches this problem. Sensitive, empathic therapy is never a contradiction to results.

With reference to medication, research has consistently shown behavioral therapy (specifically, ExRP; Exposure and Response Prevention therapy) to be the most effective treatment for OCD and no medication is required to benefit from this approach. A majority of our clients being treated for OCD are not being prescribed any psychiatric medications and they still do quite well. That said, there is evidence to show that medication can be helpful for some individuals with OCD and in persons who suffer from other psychiatric conditions (such as depression) in addition to OCD, medication may be an important addendum to comprehensive treatment. As far as future prospects for your son, there is absolutely a very good reason to be positive. OCD can take over everything when it strikes, and at its worst, OCD is truly a scary condition, but the data on treatment outcomes in patients with OCD is among the most promising in all of psychiatry. In our clinic, we consistently find that more than 90% of our clients show significant improvements in just a few months and research tells us that those gains are lasting. Though relapses in OCD are not uncommon, in a person who has received good treatment, relapses are less frequent and less severe. With appropriate treatment, most people with OCD go on to live healthy and productive lives. All our best, Gabriel Hoffnung, PhD, & David H. Rosmarin, PhD, ABPP Gabriel Hoffnung, PhD is a postdoctoral fellow at the Center for Anxiety’s Monsey office. He combines a strong background in neuropsychology with a staunchly behavioral approach to provide treatment to adults, adolescents and children in both English and Yiddish. David H. Rosmarin, PhD, ABPP, is an Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, part-time, and a board-certified clinical psychologist. He also directs the Center for Anxiety which has offices in Manhattan, Brooklyn, Monsey, and Boston. Readers may submit their questions on anxiety or any mental-health related topic to be answered by the columnists in the next column. All identifying details will be changed. Questions can be submitted directly to Subject line should be “Tachlis magazine question.”




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chinuch— 61 to get a babysitter for the kids. Who could she get at such short notice? She was stumped. She desperately called her husband and said that they would have to skip the dinner because they didn’t have a babysitter. Luckily, her husband resolved to call his brother and see if any of his older nieces could babysit. At the last minute, a babysitter was found and Basya and Yoel headed out the door to the restaurant. Once in the car, Yoel turned to Basya, “So, where are we going?” he asked as he pulled out of the driveway. “We’re heading to the new dairy restaurant.” “Great, but Basya, where is it?” “Oh, Yoel, I forgot to ask!” Basya sighed. With that, Yoel simply said, “Basya, you should have told me you didn’t know. I would have looked it up.” Even with these gentle words, Basya began to cry, “Why are you always so negative? Don’t worry! We are going to make it to the dinner.”


Organizing the Disorganized: Executive Function Disorder Rifka Schonfeld “What time is the birthday dinner for your sister?” Basya’s husband asked her for the third time that night. “I’ll call her in a few minutes,” Basya replied. “Okay, Basya, but please do it this time. I have to ask my boss if I can leave early, but I don’t know what time I should ask for. Besides, you didn’t even ask if I was available that night,” her husband pleaded. “Sure, Yoel, I’ll do it as soon as I finish the laundry,” Basya answered with irritation.

The next morning, on his way out the door, Yoel asked Basya exactly what time the dinner was so that he could let them know at work. “Oh, Yoel, I am so sorry. I simply forgot. I will call right now,” Basya suggested. Yoel sighed deeply and recommended that Basya make the call immediately. He would wait to ensure she made the phone call. When her children came home from school on the day of the dinner, Basya remembered that she needed

NOT JUST FORGETFUL While it might seem that Basya is simply a scatterbrain, in reality, there is something much deeper going on. Basya is suffering from a syndrome called Executive Function Disorder. The National Center for Learning Disabilities defines executive function as a term used “to describe a set of mental processes that helps us connect past experience with present action.” We use executive function when we perform such activities as planning, organizing, strategizing and paying attention to and remembering details. People with executive function problems have difficulty with planning, organizing and managing time and space. They also show weakness with “working memory” (or “seeing in your mind’s eye”), which is an important tool in guiding one’s actions. HOW CAN I RECOGNIZE SYMPTOMS OF EXECUTIVE FUNCTION DISORDER? Symptoms of Executive Function Disorder can arise in school, at home or in the workplace – anytime we are called on to self-regulate behavior.

62—chinuch Drs. Joyce Cooper-Kahn and Laura Dietzel, in their book Late, Lost, and Unprepared, detail the different executive functions: Inhibition: The ability to stop personal behavior at an appropriate time, including thoughts and actions. The opposite of inhibition is impulsivity. For instance, Basya made the decision to go to the birthday dinner without consulting her husband’s schedule. Shift: The ability to move fluidly and flexibly from one situation to another. With Basya, when she realized she did not have a babysitter, she felt stuck and was unable to generate ideas to solve the problem. Emotional Control: The ability to contain emotions through rational thought. In our example, Basya began to cry when her husband suggested that they should have gotten directions to the restaurant. Initiation: The ability to start an activity and to come up with ideas or problem-solving strategies. Basya kept putting off calling her sister to find out the exact time and did not get the address or directions to the restaurant. Planning and Organization: The ability to manage future tasks. Basya failed to think about getting a babysitter for her children until a few hours before the dinner. Self-Monitoring: The ability to measure one’s own performance against the standard of what is expected. Regardless of the fact that Basya and her husband scrambled at the last minute for a babysitter and are heading to an unknown location, Basya cannot understand why her husband is frustrated. The executive functions are a different, but interconnected and overlapping, set of skills. Figuring out where the problems lie and how severe the difficulties are will help educators and social skills specialists end the frustration for everyone. HOW TO GET ORGANIZED The Center for Learning Disabilities suggests multiple ways to improve life and overall organization for those

struggling with Executive Function Disorder. STRATEGIES FOR CHILDREN AND ADULTS Take step-by-step approaches to work (both for jobs or homework). Rely on visual organizational aids. Use tools like time organizers, computers or watches with alarms – giving yourself reminders will help you get things done on time. Ask for written directions with oral instructions whenever possible – this will allow you to refer back to the information at a later time. Plan and structure transition times and shifts in activities. These shifts will allow you to move seamlessly from activity to activity. MANAGING TIME Create checklists and “to do” lists, estimating how long tasks will take. You can do this together with your child as well. Break long assignments into chunks and assign time frames for completing each chunk. Use visual calendars to keep track of long term assignments, due dates, chores, and activities. Be sure to write the due date on top of each assignment. Meet with a teacher or supervisor on a regular basis to review work and troubleshoot problems. MANAGING SPACE AND MATERIALS Organize workspace. Keep desks clear of clutter and extraneous materials. Consider having separate work areas with complete sets of supplies for different activities. For instance, keep homework materials in one place, reading materials in another, and bill

paying materials in yet another. BREAKING THE CYCLE Since a refusal to ask for help and lack of self-monitoring are symptoms of Executive Function Disorder, many people with the disorder live in constant disarray. However, with a bit of assistance and minimal tweaks, life can be easier and simpler. Let’s work together to get your life together! An acclaimed educator and education consultant, Mrs. Rifka Schonfeld has served the Jewish community for close to thirty years. She founded and directs the widely acclaimed educational program, SOS, servicing all grade levels in secular as well as Hebrew studies. A kriah and reading specialist, she has given dynamic workshops and has set up reading labs in many schools. In addition, she offers evaluations G.E.D. preparation, social skills training and shidduch coaching, focusing on building self-esteem and self-awareness. She can be reached at 718382-5437 or at . You can view the web at Register now for a anger management workshop by Dr. Ross Greene on November 14, 2017. Please call Mrs. Schonfeld at 718-382-5437 for more information.

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Mr. Weiss swiveled on his tall stool as he took in the half-full shelves all around him. In the height of summer, the sight would have been indicative of a poorly stocked store – or a good day of sales, but as summer was drawing to a close, every item still on the shelf simply served as a reminder of the deficit to his bottom line. On this rainy Sunday, all the remaining families in the little bungalow colony were packing up to go home. Already, half of the families had left for Brooklyn. Mr. Weiss’s plan was to leave the following day. He figured that the longer the store was open, the more likely it was for another product to be exchanged for cash. Unfortunately, the only customers coming into his store were those looking for either of two items;



a bottle of milk or a large box for packing, which he had sold for twenty-five cents a piece. He was already out of both. Get rich from this store, he wouldn’t. But Mr. Weiss wasn’t looking to strike it rich with this venture. Being out of a job, it just seemed like a good idea at the time. He would be spending his summer in the bungalow colony anyway, and the place had the facilities for a grocery. For the previous two years, though, the large room with the ready shelves sat empty. In retrospect, that fact should have probably served as a cautionary tale. “Go for it, Nosson,” he friends suggested. “Considering how much we spend at the supermarket up that road, you’ll be rich from one family’s spending alone,” his neighbor encouraged.

“The money we’ll save on groceries, will already be worth it,” his wife reasoned. Mr. Weiss thought of everything. Writing long lists of the products his customers will most likely need, calculating the quantities, and figuring out the markup. Essentially, he planned very logically, but he hadn’t taken into account, that not being a grocery owner in the city meant not having established accounts with the vendors. This little issue meant receiving higher wholesale prices than his competitors. Another important fact that hadn’t entered his mind was that at the end of the season there will be many products left on the shelf, and with no city grocery to transfer them to, he’d have to write them all off as a loss. The rain was coming down in torrents, making the atmosphere in the store ever more dismal, and Mr. Weiss readied himself to leave. It was all from Above, he knew, and so he earnestly asked the Eibeshter for His help now too. As he was about to take the day’s total out of the register ($17.56, not much, but he couldn’t quite afford to lose it), the screen door at the front of the store whined and snapped shut. “I’m out of milk,” he called apologetically, to the woman who entered his store. “That’s quite all right,” Mrs. Goldstein replied. She grabbed the nearest shopping cart and started filling it with items from the first shelves. Pastas, cereals, canned goods. Pretty soon she was onto snacks, then back onto staples. Mr. Weiss watched wide-eyed as his shelves became bare. Rolling two loaded shopping carts up to the register, the young woman gushed, “Thank you so much for waiting up on me! I don’t like my kids coming downstairs to empty cabinets, and it’s such a hassle to make the grocery our first stop when we arrive in the city.” Mr. Weiss knew that his prices being slightly more expensive that in the city would, Baruch Hashem, not phase this particular customer. But he also well knew that many groceries in the city readily deliver. Mrs. Goldstein, if she so chose, could have easily called in her order for fresh goods and not taken the last few items of his most basic selection. A weight lifted off his chest as she was handed a bill for the rather large total, but she wasn’t done. “The Katzmans,” she said, as her pen hovered over the next check. She was referring to a lovely family they both knew couldn’t afford to settle their bill. Mr. Weiss gave her the four-figured total and tried not to show how moved he was. There was general tzedaka, he knew, and then there was tzedaka v’chesed. He was humbled and grateful to be the recipient of the latter.


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t’s Sunday, my second favorite day of the week. I hear loud noises outside my window, and jump out of bed, almost knocking over my washing cup. I reach to pull open my shade, anyway. Across the street are Mendy the Mover’s truck and an unfamiliar,

blue car. I skip back to my bed, do negel vasser and then get dressed. I know I should have washed first and then looked out the window, but, sometimes, I get mixed up. Usually, though, I get things almost right. When I go back to the window to look some more, I see a family climbing out of an unfamiliar car. The mommy opens her door and steps out. The tatty opens the back doors and the kids climb out. I can’t tell how many kids there are or how old they might be. I’ll have to keep watching. Next, the moving men climb out of their truck. I suppose one of them is Mendy. I have no idea who his helpers are. At about the same time that things across the street are getting exciting, my brothers, Yoni and Pinny, leave our house. They are running late. More exactly, they are running and they are late. Despite the time, they pause at the new house to stare at the new family. It’s not nice to stare. Also, if they don’t hurry, they’ll miss their bus. It’s quiet at home today, since Mimi is having a sleepover at Aunt Yael’s. Now that my brothers have left our house, it will be even quieter. I’m not surprised that they have to sprint to the bus stop. Their tzitzis are flying and they are holding their hands on their heads to keep their kippahs from falling off. Yoni and Pinny make it to the corner just before the bus does. As they climb aboard, I notice that Pinny’s hands are empty; he’s forgotten his lunch, again. Across the street, the movers climb in and out of the truck. They make carton mountains on the sidewalk. I look at the children running around the lawn. I think there are four boys in the new family. Those boys are bounding in and out of the house, behind the boxes, and in front of the movers. The movers ignore them and continue to unload the truck. If Aunt Yael were to witness the scene, she’d likely smile and say that the new kids are “being such boys.” Aunt Yael is at her house, probably making pancakes, though. I wonder what Aunt Yael (my tatty’s little sister) would say to being new to Meadow Wood. I can’t imagine being new. We’ve lived here, forever. Besides the boys, there’s a girl. She’s just sitting in their car. I’m sure she’s better behaved than her brothers

because she’s a girl. I’m sure Aunt Yael would agree. She invites Mimi or me, or both of us, for sleepovers, but never our brothers. The girl finally gets out of the car. She’s carrying a cage with something moving inside. She brings the cage into her new house. I hope she’s not adding something awful, like a snake, to our neighborhood. I’d keep watching, but Mommy calls me for breakfast. So, I hurry through birchos hashachar, run a comb through my hair, and then run downstairs. Mommy serves me French toast made from yesterday’s leftover challah. French toast is my fifth favorite breakfast, after cereal, eggs, oatmeal, and yogurt. No one is home except for Mommy and me. Tatty is already at Mr. Idelson’s learning. On Sundays, they learn Daf Yomi together and then walk together to Rabbi Yoseph’s Gemara shiur. It’s so nice when it’s quiet. As soon as I wash my dishes, I kiss Mommy and then return to my spot by my bedroom window. Mommy seemed in no hurry for me to finish my chores. The boys are still going in and out of the house. The movers are still working, too. Mendy and his helpers are carrying in full cartons and taking out empty ones. They stomp on the empties to get them flat before reloading them into their truck. I think it would be fun to stomp on a few, but exhausting to have to stomp on all of them. The new mommy and tatty also go in and out of the house. Sometimes, they stop to talk to the movers. All of their boxes have colored stickers on them. I wonder what those stickers are for. The new boys keep getting in Mendy and his helpers’ way. One of the men nearly trips on one of the boys. I think the mommy and tatty should tell the boys to play somewhere else so nothing gets broken and no one gets hurt. During all of this hoopla, the girl just sits under the big maple tree in front of her house. She’s reading a book. I wish I could see the title since it might be one I like. I don’t see the cage anywhere. Maybe, she left it inside. Parts from a swing set are being carried off of the truck. The new neighbors could be worth visiting! Yoni and Pinny would probably love to play with them. My brothers’ favorite games involve lots of boys. Frankly, I’m not interested in hide and seek. My brothers like bikes and balls, too. The movers were unloading those things. Maybe, the new boys and my brothers will become friends. One of the boys comes out of the house, again, and then joins his sister under the maple tree. He is eating a container of yogurt and gives a container to his sister. I guess he and his brothers are missing school because of the move. I’d think it would be easier for his parents if their


girl finally

gets out of the car.

She’s carrying a cage with something moving inside.

74—chinuch kids were in class. I’d watch more, but I smell good things through my bedroom’s floor. Mommy is baking with apple, vanilla, and cinnamon. Those are my favorite smells, except for chocolate. I return to the kitchen since I’m sure Mommy needs someone to lick out the bowl and to taste test the finished cake. After all, she needs someone to perform “quality control” and I’m the only other member of the Glick Family who’s home. On our kitchen table, I see a box holding bottles of water and soda, oranges and bananas. Mommy pulls a tray of my favorite muffins, cinnamon raisin, from the oven and then adds them into the box. From a second tray, she passes one to me and tells me to make a bracha. “For the neighbors?” I ask, gesturing to the box on our table. “For the neighbors. Do you want to come? I want to invite them for dinner. They won’t be ready to cook, tonight.” “Can we make spaghetti and meatballs?” That’s my favorite. Maybe, Mommy’ll let me roll the meat and drop the balls into the sauce. “Sure.” Together, we cross the street. The new mommy is outside, so we hand her the box and introduce ourselves. The new mommy says that they are the Barronoff Family. They moved to Meadow Wood from another part of New Jersey. They don’t know anyone in our neighborhood, not even Rabbi Yoseph, who I thought everyone knows. Mommy tells Mrs. Barronoff that we’ll introduce her to the rabbi, to the people in our shul, and to our other neighbors. Mommy and Tatty know everyone. The new girl comes out of the house. She smiles a half smile at me and stands a little behind her mommy. “Ju-Yehudis, do you want to show…” Mommy offers my name, “Dina.” “Do you want to show Dina your cat?” “A cat?” I’m surprised. None of my friends have cats. No one I know has any pets. At least, she didn’t bring a snake. “Does it live in the house with you?” I ask. “Yes. Sometimes Leo sleeps with me in my bed. I hope he stays with me, tonight. His purrs are so soothing. Tonight, it’s going to be hard to fall asleep.” I’m about to ask the new girl more questions, but her four brothers interrupt. “This is Avi, Moshe, Eli, and Levi,” says Mrs. Barronoff. The boys spy the muffins and then look at us mommies and girls. “Can we?” asks one, who I think is Moshe. I’m not sure. I am sure, though, that it doesn’t matter to boys whether or not they have just moved to Meadow Wood or have lived here forever - they’re always hungry. “Sure,” says Mommy. “Remember to say a blessing,” says Mrs. Barronoff. Each of them takes a muffin and then says a bracha quietly. Their brachos sound a little different from mine.





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I take a muffin and make a bracha loudly. I say all the words correctly. I look at Mommy but she doesn’t seem as proud as I thought she mightbe. She and Mrs. Barronoff exchange secret looks. Mommy smiles, a little embarrassed. She makes that face that means I got it almost right. I wonder which part was wrong. I know I’m already ten, but it’s hard to get things right all of the time. I try, anyway, since I want Hashem to be happy and my parents to be proud of me. Mrs. Barronoff also smiles. I have no idea what her smile means. She might be a good grownup to get to know, though, since she has four noisy sons and is still able to smile. Mommy has two noisy sons and sometimes frowns. Yehudis invites me in to meet her cat. Fortunately, Mommy saves me. “Girls, brings some drinks to the movers,” Mommy suggests. Phew! I don’t want to meet Leo. Also, I’m confused about the new family. They have a pet. They say brachos weirdly. Mrs. Barronoff seems unsure of her only daughter’s name. After the new girl and I give the movers some drinks, Mommy takes me home. “We’ll see you at six for dinner,” Mommy says as we leave. Maybe I’ll understand the new neighbors better by then. In the time between my brothers’ return from cheder and dinner, Mommy lets me shape the meatballs. She lets me drop them into the pot, too. Mommy reminds me that I could have stayed across the street to watch the movers put together the Barronoffs’ swing set. I could have seen the slide snapped into place and the swings hung up. I don’t mind that I left. I like cooking with Mommy. I like hearing my noisy brothers come home from yeshiva. I think I’m beginning to miss Mimi, too. She visited Aunt Yael for Shabbos and then stayed with her, today. At least she’ll be home for dinner. Mommy lets me pick out the flowers for our dinner. Usually, I only get to pick them out before Shabbos or Yom Tov. I like our roses best, but I have to wait for Mommy to cut them off of our bushes. The hollyhocks and mint, though, I snip myself. Purple mint blossoms are my second favorite summer flowers. At dinner, the Barronoffs say “please” and “thank you” at all of the right times. Even though Mrs. Barronoff looks very tired, she helps Mommy in the kitchen. Mr. Barronoff and Tatty sit, after birkas hamazon, and talk about grownup things. The kids from both families pile into Yoni and Shmuel’s room. We read from The Little Midrash Says and from The Mitzvah Pirates. The Barronoff kids, except for the youngest two, who are already asleep on our sofa, act like they never read these books before. Yehudis tells me that they never did since they’re new baalei teshuva. She also tells me that she wishes she had a sister, even one like Mimi. It’s going to take me time to get used to the Barronoffs. It’s going to take time for them to get used to Meadow Wood. Meanwhile, we’ll all have to act like Morah Weiss taught; we’ll all have to judge favorably.



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creative adults captioned that: Give the carrot to the bunny. I'll hold unto it, it'll be funny.PERRY S. A carrot for the rabbit. S.S.

Between the carrot and the stick, the carrot wins, every time. T.B.

Please send your name, age & location to, with your child's information in the subject line. Or mail art work to 199 Lee Ave #928 Brooklyn, NY 11211





Reizy W

Volvi Berkowitz, 6

Perel Littman, 6

Yoseph Chaim B, 7


artists Bruchy klein, 4

etty blumenburg, 6

esti lovi, 6

mordechai weiss, 6

mordechai weiss, 6

nechama littman

shaindy blumenburg, 8

kalman adler, 5

Yosef Shmiel Stark

Chaim Mordche B, 7

Yitty Weiss

Thank you all for your art work!

Gitti Hershkovitz, 4

Gittel Leah, 5

Rivky Weissman, 7

Due to limited space we couldn’t publish everything.But please do keep sending your beautiful creations and we will get you in iy”H.

80—brain games Symbol Meaning

Brain games

K Q R B N x + # 0-0 0-0-0 ! ?


Chess Club


White to move and make a checkmate in 3 moves



King Queen Rook Bishop Knight Moves to Captures Check Checkmate Castles King’s side Castles Queen’s side Good move Bad move

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Wordoku is like Sudoku, only with an additional puzzle. Each letter can only appear once per line, and once per 3x3 grid. Can you find the hidden 9 letter word?


JigsawDoku Arukone

Like the original Sudoku, your goal is to fill all the squares with numbers 1 through 9 – this time it’s not each FREEonly SHIPPING ON row $39 and each column, but also each wonky jigsaw shape.

Clue: Open to new ideas.

Random sudoku puzzle























Letters: CEINOPRTV Showing puzzle number: 326723 Puzzletype: Symmetrical Sudoku Startnumbers: 30 Difficulty: Harder (0) Solution methods: SiSo SC DC XW Solve puzzle Show solution Print

ANSWERS TO LAST WEEK’S BRAIN GAMES OctoPlus: All the numbers are whole numbers (intro), B is an even number (clue 4),

E is an odd number (clue 6), so B minus E is 15 (1 and above). No number is greater than 50 (intro), so B is 36 and E is 21

(2, 3 and above). C is 9 (2). F is 3 (3). D is 18 (4). H is 6 (7). G is 15 (5). A is 42 (8).


Chess 1.Qe4-g6+ Ke8-d8 2.Qg6xg5+ Kd8-e8 3.Qg5-e7#. If 1. …h7xg6, then 2.Rh1xh8#

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SHMIRAS HALASHON HALACHA #58 If you've heard loshon hora about someone, it is forbidden to repeat it to them.






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5778 / 2017 In memory of Steven Esses a”h, Chairman, Just One Life, Israel

Tuesday night, September 26, 2017 at 8:00pm 6 Tishrei, 5778


Committee: Steve & Renee Adelsberg, Rabbi Kenneth & Joanne Auman, Jack & Jamie Doueck, Jack & Carole Forgash, Joel & Miriam Gold, Michael & Marilyn Goldman, Ezra & Shifra Hanon, Joey & Marilyn Harary, Dr. Yossi & Yosefa Knoll, Paul & Shelly Kopyt, Frank & Rosalyn Snitow, Sammy & Nancy Sutton. ,

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