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THE MAN IN THE GLASS
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y first job, at the ripe old age of 17, was a secretarial position in a large factory. Three years later, I was managing production. I thrived on working with the designers, troubleshooting issues and optimizing efficiency. But at the end of the day, I lived for that sense of accomplishment I experienced when copy after copy of the identical item came off the assembly line. To see a product I designed, replicated two thousand times, was incredibly gratifying. Inevitably, there were some that didn’t look like the others. “Seconds,” we called them. Perfectly functional and good-looking garments – they just didn’t match up to those that came before them, and therefore were removed from the batch. The concept of mass production is defined by the understanding of what constitutes the perfect product. After all the work that goes into defining, designing and deciding on the perfect piece, we absolutely want each one to be exactly the same. When creating something we’re proud of, there is a sense of being all powerful. It is at those times, if we allow ourselves a moment of introspection, that we’re truly humbled by the greatness of our Creator. The Ribono Shel Olam has been “mass producing” for thousands of years. Except that the Divine assembly line has never created a single product to be an exact replica of another. Of the billions of humans who have ever walked the planet, no two were ever alike. If Hakodosh Baruch Hu would have deemed it fit, we could have all been created with the same qualifications, temperament, and appearance. From a production standpoint, it would have certainly been “easier” to make us all the same. And nothing the Eibeshter does is arbitrary. He did give us all the same rules to live by, and yet He granted us each a life that
is uniquely our own. We’d have to be blind to not see the inherent message: Each one of us is an individual, a unique creation. And like other natural treasures found in our universe, our beauty lies in our uniqueness. There is nothing more foolhardy and wasteful than attempting to resemble replicas off of an assembly line. We have to remember that we are not our neighbors. We are not our friends. We are not our parents. We are not even our siblings. To hide behind a mask and pretend to be like anyone else is to be unappreciative of the way Hashem created us. An even greater danger is that we are prevented from fully discovering the innate talents and potential implanted within us by our loving Father. So concerned are we with fitting in and meeting others’ expectations, that we don’t allow ourselves to see where we might shine. Instead of wasting your life replicating another’s, take the time to get to know yourself. Make it your goal to understand why Hashem made you you.
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FIRST THE COMPLIMENT: I TRULY ENJOY TACHLIS, as does my entire family. It is the one publication that I feel comfortable bringing into my home and I know that I don’t even need to peruse the content prior to handing it to my impressionable preteens. The hashkafa and general positive outlook on life alway leave us inspired. That is why I was so disappointed to read about rapper Nissim Black’s justification for the genre in which he sings. I am sure Mr. Black is a very fine person, but how does he feel qualified to, and I quote, “go down to the lowest, darkest genre and elevate the … sparks of holiness within it.”? As he himself said, secular rap is far removed from spirituality, and it absolutely is not the kind of music that we want to even imply to our children that it has any element of Yiddishkeit or kosherness to it. That said, I actually enjoyed the article itself and was impressed with Mr. Black’s apparent sincerity. I just don’t appreciate having rap implicitly condoned. C.Y. Klein THANK YOU TACHLIS FOR ALWAYS BRINGING US UNIQUE ARTICLES that inspire and educate. I was so moved my Nissim Black’s journey! How appropriate for you to print it on Parshas Yisro. I couldn’t help seeing the similarities between the two. It is human nature to be cynical of one who keeps searching and going from one thing to another. The general appreciation of the behavior is, “how long will this last?” But the trajectory of this ger tzedek’s journey, to me, sounded very much like that of Yisro. When Moshe Rabbeinu arrived in Midyan, he encountered Yisro’s daughters by the well, and came to their rescue when the townspeople wouldn't allow them to get water. The episode that transpired, which eventually led to Tziporah becoming his wife, was instigated by the fact that Yisro, the community’s former priest, had left the religion, and that angered the locals. At that time, he recognized the fallacy of the Midyanite religion and in his search for the truth, he explored other belief systems. At that time he FEBRUARY 16, 2018
AS A MECHANECHES, I FEEL I MUST COMMENT ON THE POEM that appeared last week in your magazine. Even when something is done purely for the sake of advertising, there are limits. Do we really want out daughters incorporating that the sheitel is the most important part of their building a Yiddishe home? Do we really want them to idealize the most natural looking sheitel and dream about looking better than before they were married? What happened to kol kevuda bas melech pnima – the goals of being a true eishes chayil? It sounds to me like we’ve got our priorities all messed up. A former out of towner I AM GENERALLY IMPRESSED WITH TACHLIS MAGAZINE, but I feel that an advertorial in last week’s issue was definitely not complying with the general hashkafa and high standards of the content. From a chinuch point of view, we should never compare ourselves or our achievements to those of the Avos or any personalities from the Torah. This is especially true when we are referring to an item which is not entirely approved by all rabbonim. My place is not to get involved in the conflict of whether this is an absolutely acceptable mode of “dress,” rather I want to make something clear. Torah is Torah. It is sacred; it is holy. Advertising a professional product is commercial. It should not be connected to Torah. Those who permit this, buy it and wear it because they need the item. Let’s not confuse things. JDF This is your forum. Share your responses and opinions with TACHLIS readers by writing to inbox@thetachlis. com, or fax 877-331-3738, or mail to The Tachlis, 80 Red Schoolhouse Rd, Chestnut Ridge, NY 10977
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ויקחו לי תרומה מאת כל איש אשר ידבנו לבו תקחו את תרומתי- "Let them take for Me a donation. From every man whose heart moves him, you shall take My donation." The question is asked: why does the possuk say, take My donation instead of give My donation? The Sefas Emes explains that it was the motivation to give from the depth of the heart and to give generously that allowed Bnei Yisroel to reach the level of kedusha stated in the possuk of ועשו לי מקדש ושכנתי בתוכם )' ח- (כ''ב-"Make for Me a mikdash and I will dwell within you." The ability to give in the true spirit of giving allows a person to reach the highest of spiritual levels. It is then, that by giving, one receives more than he has given. There are two incidents associated with the Makom HaMikdash, the place where both Batei Mikdash were built. The first is Akeidas Yitzchok. It was in this place that Avraham and Yitzchok Avinu each performed an act of complete mesirus nefesh for Hakadosh Boruch Hu. Yitzchok offered himself as a korban tamim with a complete heart, a complete self-sacrifice, and Avraham Avinu offered his only son, his future, everything he lived for, as an offering to Hakadosh Boruch Hu. The second incident occurred after Bnei Yisroel entered the Land of Israel and received their assigned portions of the land. Two brothers’ portions were on either side of Har HaMoriah. One brother had a large family, while the other had no children. Both brothers harvested their crops. The brother that had no children said to himself, "Look at the abundance Hashem has given me. I don't need so much. My brother has large family. His needs are much greater than my own. I know he will not feel comfortable taking a gift from me. I will go in the darkness of night and secretly bring a portion of my harvest to him." The brother with the large family surveyed his large harvest and thought, "Look at the abundance Hashem has given me. Aside from the wealth of the harvest, I have the joy of a large, beautiful family. My brother has no children. The least I can do is to share with him my abundance and add joy to his life. I know he won't accept my gift, so I'll go in the darkness of night and secretly bring a portion of my harvest to him." In the middle of the night, both brothers lifted a hefty portion FEBRUARY 16, 2018
of their harvest on their shoulders and climbed the mountain separating their fields. It was at the top of Har HaMoriah that the two brothers met, looked into each other's eyes and experienced the offering of love given with a full heart, each one to his brother. The portions of harvest fell to the ground as the brothers embraced on Har HaMoriah, their offerings of love experienced. The Beis HaMikdash was founded on the ground of two utterly selfless portraits of giving. One selfless giving bein adom laMakom, between man and Hashem, and one bein adom lechavero, between man and his fellow. With this inauguration, the Beis HaMikdash became the center of the universe. One of the donations given in the parsha were the precious stones needed for the bigdei kehuna, (' ז- אבני שהם ואבני מלאוים לאפוד ולחושן (כ'ה. The Chida explains, יתרמו את תרומתי, Hashem tells Bnei Yisroel that just as you are donating to the Mishkan, so too I will donate to the Mishkan. What was Hashem's offering? The Ananei haKavod, the clouds protecting and hovering over the nation, brought the precious stones needed for the ephod and the choshen.
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examined the stone from every angle, but the joy on his face soon turned to anger. "Are you trying to swindle me?!" the king asked, furious. "This is not the stone you showed me when you were last here. You switched your beautiful gem for a simple stone of the same color." "Heaven forbid!" the brothers cried in unison. "We would never be so underhanded as to offer you anything other than what we brought the first time we were here." The king inquired into the events between the two meetings, from the first time he was presented with the stone to the present meeting. The brothers told the king that they went to rest and discuss matters at a nearby inn. They then told of the sick child and their attempt to quiet him by allowing him to hold the stone. "So now, we have an answer to the puzzle," the king exclaimed. "This stone has a special healing power in it. When you gave the stone to the sick child, the healing power left the stone as it entered the child's body. Now, the stone is a simple stone with very little monetary value." The Shinover Rav looked at the distraught father and said, "See how Hashem had to turn the wheels and events to bring the Rothschild brothers to a specific inn in Istanbul with the stone needed to heal the innkeeper's ailing child. Now, return home and anticipate the coming of a yeshua for your own child. Yeshuas Hashem keheref ayin. The chossid, a true believer in the miracles of Hashem, immediately headed home. Upon entering his home town, he got word that the king's personal physician had come to the city for a consultation. After some effort, the physician agreed to see the sick child and within minutes, the child had a diagnosis of the illness, accompanied by the proper medication to treat and heal the child into a complete recovery. Within our day-to-day lives, we are continually presented with opportunities to give. Hashem expects from us, His children, a higher form of giving - a giving from the heart. רחמנא לבא בעיHashem wants our hearts. The parsha is a portrayal of the truth of higher giving. We extend our hearts and within our attempts at giving, Hashem Yisborach gives Himself to us miraculously and expansively. It was on the precious stones of the ephod and choshen that the names of the tribes were inscribed. The Kohen Gadol carried the names of Bnei Yisroel on his shoulders and on his heart. Every person in Klal Yisroel is a precious gem, multi-faceted, and unique in brilliance. It is within our ability to reach higher levels of Ahavas Yisroel, to value each other, to care and to give. Let us take the opportunity of the light shining into the world this week with the ko’ach of Parshas Trumah to expand the potential of our relationship both בין אדם למקום ובין אדם לחבירו. May we be zoche to experience the profundity of love, a gift of the heart, and may we realize the words of the Haftorah: ושכנתי בתוך בני ישראל ולא אעזב את עמי ישראל- "And I will dwell within Bnei Yisroel and I will not abandon My nation, Yisroel." אמן
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“Speak to the Jewish people and they should take to Me trumah; from each man whose heart so motivates him, you should take My trumah.” Shemos 25:2 The entire Jewish nation — every man, woman, and child — experienced the revelation of Hashem on Har Sinai. They saw Hashem as clearly as humans can, and they attained a level of prophecy. Now they were being offered one of the greatest gifts imaginable: Hakadosh Baruch Hu, Himself, was going to dwell amongst them. They were going to experience Hashem’s presence regularly. They are being given the opportunity to participate in the building of the greatest edifice ever created — Hashem’s dwelling place in this world. The gold, silver and copper, the wood, hides and oil will all come from the people themselves: “from each man whose heart so motivates him.” It should come as no surprise that the people offered their donations to the Mishkan with zeal and enthusiasm. After only a short while, Moshe had to turn away more donations; there was more collected than could be used. Interestingly, the Baal HaTurim explains that when Hashem told Moshe to ask for contributions, He told him to ask in a gentle tone. Since it means that people will have to part with their money, please speak softly. It was all voluntary This Baal HaTurim is very difficult to understand, why would Moshe have to make this appeal in a gentle manner? This wasn’t a tax that the FEBRUARY 16, 2018
people were being forced to pay. It wasn’t some despot demanding an exorbitant bribe. This was a moment in history – the Chosen Nation was being given this great opportunity to be a part of building the house of Hashem, and they understood what it was for. Why would Moshe have to speak softly? Surely they would give willingly. The Jews were fantastically rich The question is even more pointed because the Jewish people were fabulously wealthy. Hashem promised Avrohom Avinu that when his children would leave bondage, it would be with great riches. Right before the Jews left, they went to their Egyptian masters and “borrowed” gold, silver, and all types of valuables. They despoiled Mitzrayim, walking out with wealth that had been gathered for hundreds of years. They were being offered to convert some of that wealth into one of the greatest honors given to man- to become a builder of the Mishkan. This was a singular event in the history of mankind – for eternity to be the one who provided the precious stones for the ephod, or the one who contributed the gold for menorah. If every contribution was given willingly, the entire generation had enough to give, and it was a great honor to give, why would the Eibeshter be concerned that Moshe gently coax them into giving? The answer to this question can be best understood when we focus on man’s relationship to his Creator. Hashem’s relationship to man The Chovos HaLevavos explains that
if you were to take the most generous, loving person that you have ever met and then multiply that mercy by ten thousand ten thousands, you woudn't begin to reach the love that Hashem has for each of His creations. The one concept that must be firmly embedded in the mind of every Jew is that Hashem is more concerned for his good than he himself is, and Hashem loves him even more than he loves himself. This love manifests in many ways. Chazal tell us that Hashem has mercy on the money of Yisrael, as if to say Hashem feels badly that the Jewish people have to spend money, even on mitzvahs. Granted it is for their good, and granted it is the greatest investment that they could ever make, but, it means parting with things valuable to them, and if it could be, Hashem feels badly. He is the Giver, always wishing to share of His good, to give more – not to take. This seems to be the answer to the question on the Baal HaTurim: There is no doubt that the chance to contribute something towards the Mishkan is a great honor. Anyone whose donation would be accepted would bear a mark of nobility that he would cherish for years. But it involved his giving. He had to part with some of his wealth, and the Eibeshter, if it could be, felt badly. It was as if Hashem was saying, “Oy, it must be difficult. You have that precious gem, that beautiful gold. I feel badly, even asking.” Even though the act of giving has taken something fleeting and turned it into the greatest investment, something that will remain with them for eternity, at the moment that the person gives over those stones, it was difficult on some level. Hashem felt his pain, and said, “Moshe, please be gentle with them.” This is a fantastic illustration of the extent of Hashem’s humility and concern for us, and the extent to which He is sensitive to our feelings. When we focus on the loving kindness that Hashem showers upon us daily, we grow in our apperception of that love, and then reciprocally, we feel an overwhelming sense of appreciation and love to our Creator. Rabbi Shafier is the founder of the Shmuz.com – The Shmuz is an engaging, motivating shiur that deals with real life issues. All of the Shmuzin are available free of charge at www.theShmuz.com or on the Shmuz App for iPhone or Android.
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Gedalya’s chavrusa was worried. Gedalya was taking way too many bathroom breaks and was constantly complaining of an upset stomach. Lots of people he knew had digestion issues – it just needed to be properly addressed. With some dietary changes Gedalya could lead a much more productive life. He would need to have a serious talk with his chavrusa. The thing is, Gedalya’s stomach was doing just fine. The digestion problems he was faking were just a cover-up for an issue that no dietary change could ever cure. Gedalya was in kollel full time – physically. but that’s where it ended. In reality, Gedalya was running a big Amazon business, all from the coffee room of his kollel. Why all the subterfuge? Gedalya was the fourth son born
to the Meisner family. Simply by virtue of his last name, Gedalya’s future was already mapped out for him. Stay in kollel as long as you can, after which only, ONLY take a position in a yeshiva. In other words, Don’t leave kollel until you are offered the highly-coveted position of maggid shiur. Gedalya, though, was not even remotely cut out for a kollel lifestyle. He had no zitz fleish whatsoever and had trouble focusing for long periods of time. With the blessing of his rav, he opened an Amazon account. What he lacked in focus, he made up for in ambition. Within six months he was bringing in ten different products from China, each of his listings selling out faster than he could replace the inventory. Now for the million-dollar question: If he wasn’t cut out
for kollel, and he got a psak from his rav, why in the world was he playing kollel yungerman? He needed to fill his parents’ feel good quota. If he came out of the closet and word got out that Gedalya Meisner went out to work, his parents would collapse. Their whole house of cards, so carefully erected, would fall apart. Their life resume read something like this: All of our children are either learning or in the Torah field. We have a torah’dige home. That is a total reflection of us. We can walk on the street with our head held high. And that is why Gedalya Meisner was masquerading.  Rivka’s boss offered to double her salary – an offer one didn’t sneeze at, especially since her experience in the
38— field was all of the five months since she graduated high school. The only problem was that in order to take advantage of the pay raise, she’d have to acquire a degree. Really, the problem existed only in a vacuum. Rivka’s parents had asked their dayan and he approved the program she would be attending. Perfect. Right? Well, not really. Rivka would attend the BA program on one condition only: It had to remain a tight secret; not even her siblings could be clued in as to where she went every Sunday. Thus the cloak and dagger began. In her previous life, before her degree program began, Rivka spent every Sunday with her friends. As a working girl, it was the only day she got to air out a bit. They would go out for lunch, do some light errands and catch up on class news. Now she needed a new coverup story every Sunday. How many times can a girl have the flu without her friends getting suspicious? There were only so many appointments she could fabricate. They wanted to know when her teeth had gone so bad that the dentist became so popular a venue in her life. But the secret needed to be kept. Rivka’s shidduchim couldn’t be sabotaged, her ehrlichkeit couldn’t be called into question, and thus the masquerading would continue.  Mindy was not scholastically inclined. Her academic struggle put a damper on her entire school experience despite the fact that she was a social butterfly. Midterms and finals were stretches of heightened stress she was learned to endure with dignity, and assignments were a form of torture she never got used to. She had lost count of the many failed assignments and modified tests she’d had to put up with. The only thing that kept her moving forward was the thought that after 12th grade came freedom. But she was soon to learn otherwise. As Mindy entered her senior year of high school, seminary applications and brochures became a regular sight at the dining room table. The day Mindy’s mother suggested they participate in an open house for the very top seminary in Eretz Yisroel, was the day the fireworks started. Mindy refused to even think about going to seminary, let alone one where the learning was heavy duty and advanced. Her mother had never considered that not going to seminary was an option, hence the absence of previous discussions of the topic. It would look bad for shidduchim. Everyone had a seminary on their shidduch resume. Mindy begged and pleaded, cried and begged some more. To no avail. Mindy’s parents would pull some financial strings and get her accepted in a top seminary. What’s one more year in the scope of finding a good shidduch? Mindy would play the part of a happy seminary student, masquerading her scholastic angst.  Moshe scratched his beard. The credit card bill was FEBRUARY 16, 2018
a whopping $5,000 over their usual budget, which he already struggled to cover each month. Was there a new Yom Tov in the Jewish calendar he hadn’t been aware of? A mini investigation was in order. With all the kids safely out of earshot, he asked his wife about the swollen bill. She claimed it was about the new grandchild they’d welcomed this month. “Nothing over the top,” she assured him, and Moishe panicked. If every new einikel was going to blow the budget, he was moving to Alaska. They sat hunched over the kitchen table, going through each item.
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$1,200 Baby Bliss That was a Bugaboo stroller for the baby. Every new mother in the city had to showcase her firstborn in the Rolls Royce of strollers. Why should her family be deprived? The purchase of this “necessity” wasn’t dependent on financial status. It was a requisite, “normal” purchase. $1,800 Custom Catering That’s for the guy that set up the vach nacht. Basic package. It would be cruel to burden a young couple with the vach nacht expense. They were already dealing with the shualom zachor as is. $265 Feathers Baby’s boutique outfit for the vach nacht. The little prince couldn’t possibly show up to his own vach nacht in a simple stretchie, could he? No, no this was standard, not to worry. At this point, Moishe’s migraine needed medical attention and maariv couldn’t come soon enough. Moishe is far from affluent. He cannot afford any of these extravagant expenses, yet his wife is masquerading behind a facade of financial status, worried that not keeping up with the Joneses – or Cohens, as the case may be – would irrevocably damage her family’s shidduchim prospects. Even the thought of falling into a different social status would break her heart.  Make the choice to live your life. Your life is the greatest asset you own. It is far too valuable to be wasted on the life that everyone else is choosing. Don’t let it slip into mediocrity by choosing to live it just like everyone else. It is not a worthwhile trade.
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Your life was never meant to be lived like everyone else. You don’t look the same, you don’t sound the same, and your personality is special. Your deep-held values are unique. Even your laugh sets you apart. Throwing that away just for the sake of looking and living like everyone else is one of the cruelest things that you can ever do – it will always prevent you from fully living your life. Instead, champion the things that make you unique. Celebrate them.
FIND A MENTOR THAT YOU ADMIRE. Surely you are not alone in your desire to live a better, more fulfilling life. Others have traveled the same road prior to you. Seek them out because you will need to look hard for them – they are uncommon. Perhaps they are in your family, your chassidus, your workplace, or in your sefarim shrank. Whether in person or through their writings, soak up as much as you can from them. Learn from them and be inspired by them. Follow their life, not the masses.
IDENTIFY YOUR VALUES AND ALLOW REFLECT. THEM TO GUIDE YOUR LIFE. Regularly pull away to conGrab a piece of paper and pencil. Across the top write, “What I most want to accomplish in life.” Begin making a list. Post that list in a place where you will notice it every single morning. Allow it to shape your life. Base your decisions on those values. Allow them to guide your life even when they take you down a narrower road than
template and reflect. Our lives will always “drift” in the direction of conformity if we lose our directional bearings. Withdraw often. Review your list of values and reflect on the current trajectory of your life. Is it headed towards the end you desire, or just following the easy road of everyone else?
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“So there was total havoc! Mrs. Fisher was about to leave to her evening job with her double carriage in tow. Simultaneously, a grocery deliver boy arrived juggling a stack of boxes. Plus, it was bus time and all bus-waiting mothers were on display, the glass door serving as a barrier between them and their children." Her dramatic dialogue amused me. I was imagining adults pressing their noses on to the glass, forming vapor clouds with their breath, as they try to make conversation with their toddlers through a window. “With everything happening at once, it took us a while to gather our senses. If only we would’ve had access to the combination number. Until someone remarked that they think it belongs to you. We dialed, waited, redialed and waited some more. Left with no choice, we snipped the chain apart.” I noticed that she didn’t offer to share who it was that had done the “snipping,” and truthfully, it didn’t matter to me. “Don’t worry,” I reassured her, “I’m glad the door is open!” Only a chain, I thought while wheeling my baby into the now-freed lobby and confirming that it was my chain. No big deal. I parked my carriage all the way in the back, away from the eyes of potential robbers and texted my husband to purchase a new chain. The next day there was a timid knock on my door. Staring back at me from the peephole were two pinch-worthy, little girls, cheeks flushed from mounting five flights of stairs. I recognized them as Katz’s girls from the first floor. A brand new chain was in their hands. Stammering and stuttering, they finally spoke up. In practiced unison they said, “It’s a present … because it’s a better one than the one my brother broke … and my mother said it’s a present.” They then added from their own adorable intelligence, “Crazy. He makes trouble all day, our brother.” And they then sighed like overworked middle-aged ladies. I guess that’s the result of growing up in a home teeming with adults, eh? Although I would’ve probably acted similarly, had I been in her shoes, there was still discomfort in accepting the “gift.” I asked the little girls for their mother’s number, and promptly buzzed her to assure her that the purchase was unnecessary. “Let me pay you for it,” I told her. “Kids are kids. There’s really nothing to be worried about.” “Worried?” she exclaimed, “No, I’m definitely not worried. I know I did the right thing. My son learnt that tampering with someone else’s belongings is an unjustified act. I am, though, sorry for the inconvenience it caused.” I assured her that all’s well that ends well, reiterated
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the needlessness of the replacement, and recognizing that she woudn't change her mind, I thanked her again for the chain. That’s that, I thought. The following week my mother mentioned that my great-aunt Leah was looking into a shidduch for her son and was having a very hard time getting information on a family. “She mentioned that they live in your apartment building. I told her that you barely know anyone there.” “What’s the name of the family she’s inquiring about?” “Katz.” “Ma, I think it’s the chain family. There’s only one Katz in the building. And they have girls in the parshah. Tell Leah to call me. I have wonderful things to say.” A day later, great-aunt Leah called to chew my ear off. I always joke with her that I remove my earrings before she calls to avoid a choking hazard from her end. She got to the point straight away, “So this Katz family in your building - their daughter was suggested for my Shloimy, but I can’t seem to get the information I’m seeking. The information I received on the girl ranges from grand to grandiose, but I need more information about the family. I wracked my brain to find an acquaintance, a neighbor, a friend – somebody. Anybody! Finally, your mother mentioned that the two of you live in the same building.” Breathing seems an unnecessary function and forgotten notion when she merely opens her mouth, this aunt of mine. “Okay. What is it you want to clarify?” She continued, “Someone told me that they’re stuck-up people, the type never to admit mistakes. What do you say? Is it true?” She started to launch into a lengthy elucidation of how not admitting mistakes lead to unhealthy marriages, but I stopped her short. “Leah, mentchlich beyond the norm. And they davka do admit their mistakes.” “Yeah? How are you so sure?” she challenged. I proceeded to share the story, stressing how Mrs. Katz could have kept quiet. How she could have shoved the entire thing under the rug, especially since I clearly told Perri that I am moichel the chain. “Takke mentchlich,” I was able to hear her smile through the lines. “I’m sold!” A week later there was a l’chaim in apartment 1-C. I teetered down 5 flights on my 3 inch heels. Before entering, I threw an appreciative glance at the cluster of carriages chained messily. For once the mess of intertwined carriages and tangled chains didn’t hurt my eyes. The unlocking of one chain proved to unlock the truth, which continued linking yet another, everlasting chain.
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tangible, and illustrates how you personally connect with what Hashem wants of you. Another exercise that can be helpful is Lately, I feel like I’ve been stuck in a rut. I’m going through a lot of the to consider your life in ten domains. These same motions day in and day out, and at the end of the day, I wonder include Torah learning, marriage/couple what it’s all for. I know that I am doing everything Hashem wants me to relationship, parenting, family relations, do, but it’s hard for me to connect with the hislahavus I used to have. friendship/social relations, community involvement, career, recreation/leisure, and health/physical well-being. In each of these ou raise a question that occurs to all of us at many domains, try to think about the values that you believe are importpoints in our lives, especially when things have ant (e.g., being a good listener) and how those relate to what you’d been monotonous for a while and we can stop and take like to tell Hashem after 120. Then, rank each of these values on a stock of the harried ins-and-outs. It’s great that you are scale of 1 (least important) to 10 (most important). Notice what you asking this question because getting in touch with your have found. Remember, the answers are ultimately yours alone avodas Hashem can actually improve your life many and not things dictated by others. times over! Research has shown that individuals who After performing these exercises, you may find that your are more in touch with their life’s purpose seem to live actions are consistent with the values you have recorded; or, longer, cope better with the losses and difficulties of life, perhaps you need to change certain areas of your life to become and have a greater sense of life satisfaction. more consistent with what Hashem wants to see of you. You may It’s important to recognize that your own personal feel disheartened by the discrepancies you notice, but the point form of avodas Hashem, or what psychologists call valisn’t to make you feel worse but rather to think about how you can ues, is not something that we just encounter one day improve. Once you’re more aware of your values and how you are after an inspirational shiur. Rather, as Dr. Steven Hayes living a life of kedushah, the next steps will be clear. Ask yourself: puts it, “Values are intentional qualities of action that Is there something I can do today that will help me become more join together a string of moments into a meaningful consistent what Hashem wants to see of me? For example, perpath.” Our job is to consciously bring kedushah into our haps in the service of being a good listener, I will make a more lives through the actions that we take, the conversations conscious effort not to multi-task the next time my friend calls we have, and the decisions we make day to day. Rather me to talk about a challenge she is facing. than viewing living with kedushah as a goal to aspire These are only a few of many possible suggestions to help you towards, consider it as a road sign that points you in the in your journey of clarifying your own personal avodas Hashem. direction of the life Hashem wants you to live. Our values often change at various points in our lives, so someTo turn this into practical terms, there are a number of times we just need to stop and reflect to keep us moving forward. exercises you can perform that can help you get a clearer Speaking with a Torah authority on this topic can also help guide picture of what your values are and how you can make us in finding our own paths towards spiritual growth. your life more consistent with those values. One simAll our best, ple example is called “After 120.” Imagine that you were Center for Anxiety able to fast-forward to the end of your life, and you were Rebecca Holczer, MA is a postdoctoral fellow at the Center for Anxiety’s Monsey office. about to stand in front of the kisei HaKavod and describe She has received extensive training in the application of various exposure therapies, your life to the King of Kings. What would you want to tell as well as Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) to adolescents and adults experiencing anxiety, depression, chronic pain, and other disorders. Her clinical style is collaborative Him? What would you like to have remembered about and highly individualized to the needs of each patient. David H. Rosmarin, Ph.D., you? What kind of decisions did you make about the ABPP, is an Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical direction of your life that made you proud? What did School, part-time, and a board-certified clinical psychologist. He also directs the Center for Anxiety, which has offices in Manhattan, Brooklyn, Monsey, and Boston. your choices say about what mattered to you? RememWe look forward to readers' questions and concerns regarding topics related to mental ber, this is not a description or a prediction, rather it is health and treatment, and we'll publish up to 2 letters and responses monthly. Email a hope or a wish. 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אינעם אונגארישן פארלאמענט געגעבן א רעדע, אין וועלכער ער האט גע'טענה'ט אז די מסקנא פון א פראצעס אינעם ניינצנטן יארהונדערט ,אין וועלכן א גרופע אידן איז פרייגעשפראכן געווארן פון דער באשולדיגונג אין דערמארדן א קריסטליך קינד פאר'ן צוועק פון נוצן יענעמס בלוט ,איז געווען פאלש. "ס'איז קלאר ",האט יענער עקסטרעמיסט געזאגט" ,אז דאס אידנטום און די פירערשאפט פון לאנד האט זיך אריינגעמישט אין יענעם פראצעס" און באאיינפלוסט דאס געריכט צו באפרייען יענע אידן. איינס פון די מזרח-אייראפעאישע לענדער וואו די ווינטן פון אנטיסעמיטיזם בוזשעווען נאך היינט אין גרויסן ,הגם קיין אידן וואוינען מער כמעט נישט דארט ,איז אוקראינע .אין קיעוו ,דער הויפטשטאט פון לאנד ,געפינט זיך דאס באגרע- בעניש-ארט פון אנדרעי לושטשינסקי ,דער קרבן אין דער בארימטער פרשה פון מענדל ביילוס. נאך היינט-צו-טאג ווערט דער אנדרעי דורך מאסן אוקראינער באטראכט ווי א מארטירער ,א קרבן וואס איז אומגעקומען אין אידישע הענט ,און הונדערטער אוקראינער פארזאמלען זיך יערליך ביי זיין קבר אינעם טאג פון זיין טויט. שפירן פונעם בלוט-בלבול געפינען מיר אויך אין דער היינטצייטיגער אמעריקע ,בעיקר ,ווי פארש- טענדליך ,צווישן אנטיסעמיטישע ,נעא-נאצישע גרופעס ,אבער אויך צווישן קליינע פונדאמענטאלע קאטוילישע גרופעס. אין ,'97איז אויף א געוויסן אמעריקאנער סאציאל-נאציאנאליסטישן וועבסייט וואס איז פאפולער צווישן נעא-נאציס און אנדערע ווייסע ראסיסטן דערשינען אן ארטיקל פון אן "עקספע- רט" ,אין וועלכן יענער האט "אויפגעוויזן שווארץ אויף ווייס" ,אז הגם דער מנהג פון אריינמישן קריסטליך בלוט אין די מצות איז נישט אזוי פאר- שפרייט ווי ס'איז אמאל געווען "אנגענומען" ,ליגט אבער דערין א "גרויסער אמת". "איך גלייב אז אידן האבן אין דער פארגאנג- ענהייט דורכגעפירט ריטואלע מארדן אלס טייל פון רעליגיעזע צערעמאניעס ",שרייבט יענער" ,און כ'זע נישט פארוואס מ'זאל טראכטן אז זיי זאלן האבן אפגעשטעלט דאס פראקטיצירן די דאזיגע טראדיציע". יענער שרייבער איז גענוג ברייטהארציג ארא- פצונעמען די שולד פון "רוב אידן" ,אנווייזנדיג ,אז דער מנהג איז "ווארשיינליך פראקטיצירט געווארן בלויז דורך עקסטרעמע רבנים און מקובלים". דער בלוט-עקספערט ווייזט אן ,אז ער האט דורכגעפירט "דורכדרינגליכע ,גרונטליכע ,ארומ- נעמיגע" שטודיעס ,וועלכע האבן אים געפירט צו דער מסקנא ,אז אידן האבן אין דער פארגאנגע- נהייט ,און זעצן ווארשיינליך אויך היינט פאר צו ניצן גוי'איש בלוט "פאר פארשידענע רעליגיעזע צוועקן". "דער פאקט איז ",שרייבט יענער" ,אז עס זענען פאראן גענוג רעקארדירטע עדות'שאפטן פון מענטשן וואס האבן די זאך אליין צוגעזען".
אבער דאס אלעס איז קליינגעלט קעגן יענעמס שטארקסטן באווייז .דער פאקט וואס אזויפיל מענטשן ,במשך אזא-לאנגער תקופה אין דער היסטאריע ,איבער אזויפיל לענדער איבער דער וועלט זענען געווען איבערצייגט אינעם אמת פון דעם בלוט-בלבול ,דאס זאגט קלאר ,אז עפעס ליגט דערין... אין '09האט דער בלוט-בלבול באקומען פרישן מאמענטום ,און דווקא פון א גאר-אומגעראכטע- טא ָאף, נער ריכטונג .דאס איז געווען ווען אריאל ַ א פראפעסאר אין בר-אילן אוניווערסיטעט ,האט פארעפנטליכט א בוך איבער דער היסטאריע פון אידן אין איטאליע .אינעם בוך טענה'ט טאאף ,אז געציילטע בלוט-בלבול געשיכטעס האבן זיך גע- שטיצט אויף א שמץ פון אמת .ווי טאאף טענה'ט, האט זיך דורכאויס דער היסטאריע געמאכט עטליכע פאלן ,פון אשכני'זישע אידן וואס האבן אינעם מיטלאלטער דורכגעפירט פארשידענע כישוף-פארטרייב צערעמאניעס ,אין וועלכע טרוקן בלוט איז אויך גענוצט געווארן .טאאף זאגט ,אז דער בלוט-בלבול איז טאקע דעמאלט אויך געווען א שקר – דאס בלוט איז ווי פארשטענדליך נישט געווען קיין מענטשליכע ,און זיכער איז קיינער נישט דערמארדעט געווארן .פארט ,וויל טאאף זאגן ,אז דאס אליין ,דאס באנוץ פון בלוט ,זאל זיין נישט מענטשליכע ,איז עפעס וואס איז יא אמאל געשען. טאאף איז געקומען אונטער א מעכטיגן שטורעם פון קריטיק פון אלע זייטן .חוץ מזה וואס זיינע ווערטער האבן אריינגעשפילט אין די הענט פון אנטיסעמיטן איבער דער וועלט – וואס האבן יעצט ,צום ערשטן מאל אין דער היסטא- ריע ,געהאט אויף זייער זייט די "עדות'שאפט" פון א איד – איז זיין הנחה געווען באזירט אויף צווייפלהאפטיגער אינפארמאציע ,אריינגערעכנט "הודאות" וואס באשולדיגטע אידן האבן זיינער- צייט געמאכט אונטער יסורים און צוואנג .א צאל קריטיקירערס האבן באשולדיגט טאאפ'ן ,אז דער מאטיוו אונטער דער טעזע איז אן אלגעמיינע שנאה מיט וועלכער דער ספרד'יש-אפשטאמיגער פראפעסאר טראגט זיך ארום קעגן אידן פון אשכנ'ישן אפשטאם. טאאף האט שפעטער "אויסגעקלארט" זיינע ווערטער ,און געשריבן אז ער האט כמובן נישט געמיינט צו געבן שטאף פאר שונאי-ישראל – און האט באמת אליין אונטערגעשטראכן ,אז דער בלוט-בלבול האט בעצם קיין שום האפט .וואס ער זאל ,יעדנפאלס ,נאר נישט האבן געמיינט האט זיין בוך אבער אריינגעשפילט אין די הענט פון אידנפיינט איבער דער וועלט ,וועלכע האבן זיך פאסמאקעוועט מיט טאאפ'ס "געפינסן". מען קען גאנץ זיכער אננעמען ,אז דער בלוט- בלבול ,הגם ווייט פון אויסגעראטן ,שטעלט מיט זיך היינט נישט פאר קיין פאקטישע סכנה פאר אידן .עס דערציילט אבער יא וועגן יענעם פאנא- טישן ,וויסטן ,און בלינדן האס קעגן אידן וואס איז קיינמאל נישט געשטארבן און דרימלט תמיד אין א פארווארפן ווינקל פונעם גוי'אישן הארץ.
66 אין ענגלאנד ,אז אידן דערמארדן קריסטליכע קינ- דער אלס טייל פון אזא רעליגיעזער צערעמאניע. ווי עס זאל נאר נישט זיין ,האט זיך אנגעהויבן א סעריע פון בלוט-בלבולים ,וואס האט יארן-לאנג ווי געשטעלט אין שאטן דאס פייערליך געפיל פון זמן חירותינו ביי אידן איבער אייראפע און שפעטער אפילו אמעריקע ,וואס האט אויך געזען עטליכע בלוט-בלבולים דורכאויס איר היסטאריע. דער לעצטער ,און דווקא גאר-בארימטער בלוט-בלבול עפיזאד האט זיך אפגעשפילט אנהויב פונעם צוואנציגסטן יארהונדערט ,און איז אריין אין די היסטאריע-ביכער ווי "פרשת מענדל בייליס" – א איד אין רוסלאנד ,וואס איז דורך דער מאכט באשולדיגט געווארן אין דערמארדן א קריסטליך קינד פאר'ן צוועק פון ניצן דאס בלוט פאר די מצות .יענער משפט האט אויפגערודע- רט די וועלט ,און בייליס איז עווענטועל פריי-געשפראכן געווארן. ארום דער זעלבער צייט איז די סענא, מא ַ אידישע באפעלקערונג פון ַ אפסטעיט ניו יארק ,געפאלן א קרבן צו א בלוט-בלבול ,וואס האט באשולדיגט אידן אין פארכאפן א קריסטליך קינד פאר'ן צוועק פון ניצן דאס בלוט פאר די מצות. בייליס איז מסתמא געווען דער בארימסטער בלוט-בלבול געשיכטע אין דער מאדערנער תקופה ,אבער ווייט נישט די לעצטע .אין די יארן ערב און דורכאויס דער צווייטער וועלט-מלחמה, האט דער נאצישער פראפאגאנדע- מיניסטער ,יוליאס שטרייכער ,איבער די בלעטער פון זיין "שטורמער" צייטונג אויפגעלעבט דעם אלט-נייעם בלבול. הארט נאך דער מלחמה ,אין ,'946 ווען די קוימענס אין אוישוויץ און טרעבלינקע האבן נאך גערויכערט ,זענען 42אידן דערמארדעט געווארן אין דער פוילישער שטאט קיעלץ ,אין א פאגראם וואס איז אינציאטירט געווארן דורכ'ן בלוט-בלבול. ס'וואלט זיך געקענט דאכטן ,אז דער דאזיגער בלוטיגער אומזין איז אין דער היינטצייטיגער מאדערנער ,פארגעשריט- ענער תקופה ענדליך צעבלאזן געווארן .אבער ניין. דער בלבול לעבט און בליט ,נאך היינט ,און ווערט געגלייבט דורך טויזנטער מענטשן איבער דער וועלט – בעיקר אין די אראבישע לענדער. אין אנבליק פון דער ערשטער לבנון-מלחמה פון ,'983האט דער סירישער פארטיידיגונגס טלאס ,ארויסגעגעבן א בוך פא ַ מוסטא ַ ַ מיניסטער, טיטלירט "די מצה פון ציון" ,אין וועלכן ער לעבט אויף דעם בלבול ,אז אידן דערמארדן נישט-אידי- שע קינדער צוליב רעליגיעזע צוועקן .אין א גע- שפרעך מיט דער דייטשער צייטונג "דער שפיגל" האט טלאס זיינער-צייט גע'טענה'ט ,אז דאס בוך זיינס איז די פרוכט פון א "היסטארישע שטודיע ... באזירט אויף דאקומענטן פון פראנקרייך ,וויען ,און
דעם אמעריקאנער אוניווערסיטעט אין בעירוט". דורכאויס א יו-ען קאנפערענץ אין ,'991האט די סירישע דעלעגאציע ציטירט שטיקער פון דעם דאזיגן "היסטאריש-אקאדעמישן" ווערק .אין זעלבן יאר איז דאס בוך דערשינען אין ענגלישער איבערזעצונג ,און אין '02האט די לאנדאנער ל-הא ַיאט" באריכטעט אז "א ַ אראבישע צייטונג ַ "די מצה פון ציון" איז נארוואס ארויסגעקומען אין דער אכטער אויפלאגע ,און האלט אינמיטן איבע- רגעזעצט ווערן אויף פראנצויזיש און איטאליעניש. נישט לאנג צוריק האט אן עגיפטישער דירעקטאר געמאלדן ,אז ער ארבעט אויף א פילם באזירט אויף דעם בוך. דאס דאזיגע בוך איז ווירקליך פארוואנדלט געווארן אין א "בעסט סעללער" צווישן אנטיס-
עמיטישע קרייזן איבער דער וועלט ,און עס דינט אלס "וויסנשאפטליכער יסוד" פאר "שטודיעס" ארום דעם פענאמען ,פון גוי'איש בלוט אין אידישע מצות. אין אקטאובער ,'01האט די גרעסטע עגיפטי- כראם" ,אפגעדרוקט אן אר- ל-א ַ "א ַ שע צייטונגַ , טיקל אונטער'ן טיטל" ,א אידישע מצה געמאכט פון אראביש בלוט" ,וואס האט צעשמירט דעם "אקאדעמישן פאקט" אז אידן מישן אריין גוי'איש בלוט אין זייערע מצות .דער ארטיקל האט אויס- געפירט אז "דער בעסטיאלער דראנג אריינצומישן אין די מצות דאס בלוט פון נישט-אידן איז באשט- עטיגט געווארן דורך דער פאלעסטינער פאליציי, וועלכע האבן אין זייער באזיץ רעקארדס פון
מערערע פאלן פון פארשווינדענע פאלעסטינער קינדער ,וואס זענען אפגעפונען געווארן צעשניטן און אן קיין זכר בלוט .דער לאגישסטער הסבר איז דאס ,אז דאס בלוט איז גענומען געווארן דורך עקסטרעמיסטישע אידן ,וואס נויטיגן זיך אינעם בלוט פאר די מצות". אין מארץ ,'02 ,10האט די פירנדע רעגירו- נגס-געשטיצטע טאגצייטונג אין סאודי אראביע אפגעדרוקט אן ארטיקל פון א פראפעסאר אינעם "קינג פאיסאל אוניווערסיטעט" ,מיט'ן קעפל "די ספעציעלע סובסטאנץ פאר אידישע ימים טובים איז דאס בלוט פון נישט-אידישע קינדער ".אינעם אריינפיר צו דער סעריע שרייבט דער פראפעסאר: "איידער'ן אריינגיין אין די פרטי הדברים וויל איך פעסטשטעלן ,אז דער אידישער מנהג פון פארגיסן מענטשליך בלוט פאר'ן צוועק פון זייערע עסנווארג איז א וואויל-באקאנטער און היסטאריש-באשטעטיגטער פאקט". דורכאויס דעם מוסולמענישן ראמא- דאן-חגא פון פארגאנגענעם ,'03איז אויף א סירישער טעלעוויזיע-סטאנציע "אל- געלאפן א סעריע ,מיט'ן נאמען ַ טאט" ("גלות") ,וואס איז אפיציעל שא ַ ַ געווען געווידמעט דער געשיכטע פון ציוניזם ,אבער האט אפגעגעבן א סך ארט און חשיבות צום דעם בלוט-בלבול. די זעלבע סעריע איז דעם פאלגנדן יאר געלאפן אויף צוויי טעלעוויזיע-קאנאלן אין איראן. דער בלוט-בלבול איז א גאנגבאר ארטיקל נישט בלויז אין מוסולמענישע לענדער ,נאר אויך אין מזרח-איירא- פעאישע לענדער .אן אויספרעג וואס איז דורכגעפירט געווארן פריער אין יאר האט געוויזן ,אז דרייצן פראצענט פאליאקן גלויבן ,אז אידן נוצן דאס בלוט פון קריסטליכע קינדער אין די מצות. אין '05האבן צוואנציג דעפוטאטן פונעם רוסישן פארלאמענט ,דעם "דומא" ,אונטערגעשריבן א בריוו וואס האט באשולדיגט אידן אין דורכפירן ריטואלע מארדן ,און האט פארלאנגט פונעם פארלאמענט אונטערצונעמען שריט קעגן אידן .יענער בריוו האט ארויסגערופן א פלייץ פון פראטעסטן; אבער דער פאקט וואס גאנצע צוואנציג דעפוטאטן האבן זיך געשטעלט אונטער דעם בריוו ,זאגט עפעס וועגן דער מענטאליטעט אין יענעם ראיאן. אין יולי ,'97 ,27איז אויף דער אפיציעלער רעגירונגס טעלעוויזיע-קאנאל אין בעלארוס געוויזן געווארן א "דאקומענטארישער פילם" וואס האט דערציילט די "געשיכטע" פון א בעלארוסיש קינד, וואס איז אינעם זיבעצנטן יארהונדערט פארכאפט געווארן דורך א גרופע אידן ,וואס האבן דאס קינד געפייניגט און נאכ'ן דערמארדן ,אויסגעצאפט פונ- עם קערפער דאס בלוט ,וואס איז דערנאך גענוצט געווארן אויף צו באקן די מצות אויף פסח. אין '02האט א ראדיקאל-רעכטער דעפוטאט FEBRUARY 16, 2018
דער בלוט-בלבול אין אונזער תקופה אנגעהויבן נאך אין דער תקופה פון חורבן בית שני ,ווען די ערשטע סימנים זיינע האבן זיך באוויזן ,האט דער דאזיגער בלבול אונז באגלייט במשך די פאל- גנדע יארטויזנטער דורכאויס אונזערע גלות-וואנדערונגען און פון אונז געצאפט בלוט און קרבנות .עס וואלט זיך געוואלט גלויבן אז דער בלבול איז געבליבן זיצן אין די פאנאטישע צייטן פון מיטלאלטער .למעשה שטעלט זיך ארויס אז צענדליגער טויזנטער מענטשן איבער דער וועלט גלייבן נאך היינט אז אידן ניצן גוי'איש בלוט פאר די מצות
איינע פון די ערגסטע צרות צו פלאגן כלל ישראל דורכאויס דעם גלות איז געווען דער "בלוט בלבול" .עס זענען פאראן ווייניג זאכן וואס האבן געפירט צו אזויפיל בלוט-פארגיסונגען ,גזירות און נגישות און פאר'ן לויף פון אזא לאנגער צייט ,ווי דעם דאזיגן בלבול ,אז אידן מישן אריין דעם בלוט פון א נישט-אידיש קינד אין די מצות .די טעמע איז אבער נישט ניי און יעדער קען די היסטארישע פרטים. וואס ס'קען אבער יא קומען ווי א חידוש פאר מערערע איז דאס ,אז דער בלוט-בלבול איז נישט פארשווינדן פון דער מאפע ,ווי עס קען זיך דאכטן, נאר לעבט אויף אלע באקן איבער פארשידענע פלעצער איבער דער וועלט – הויפטזעכליך אין דער מוסולמענישער וועלט ,אבער אויך אין אייראפע ,און אפילו אמעריקע. דער דאזיגער מאנסטער איז געבוירן גע- ווארן אין אייראפע ,ערגעץ-וואו אינמיטן פונעם צוועלפטן יארהונדערט .די ערשטע סימנים פון דעם בלבול האבן זיך אבער אנגעהויבן באווייזן סך פריער – אזויפיל ווי מיט טויזנט יאר פאר דעם ערשטן אזא בלבול. ּפיאן איז געווען א גריכישער פילאסאף ,וואס ַא ָ האט געלעבט אין דער תקופה פונעם חורבן בית שני .דער דאזיגער "געלערנטער" האט געשריבן, אז ווען דער גריכישער קעניג אנטיוכוס (דער זעלבער וועמענס "רבים ביד מעטים" מפלה מיר פייערן יערליך דורכאויס דעם יום-טוב פון חנוכה) איז אריין אין בית המקדש ,האט ער דארט געפונען א גריך ליגן אויף דער ערד ,געבונדן הענט און ּפיאן ,האט געזאגט פיס .יענער גריך ,דערציילט ַא ָ פאר אנטיוכוס אז דער צוועק פאר זיין געפונען זיך דארט איז ,ווייל די אידן ווילן אים מקריב זיין אלס קרבן .דאס ,מקריב זיין א גריך און דערנאך ּפיאן מסביר געווען, פארברענען זיין פלייש ,האט ַא ָ איז א יערליכער אידישער מנהג ,און איז אייגנטליך טייל פון א צערעמאניע ביי וועלכער אידן שווערן אייביגע פיינטשאפט צו אלע גריכן. יוסיפון האט דעמאלט פארעפנטליכט אן ּפיאן" ,אין וועלכן ער ענטפער ,מיט'ן טיטל "קעגן ַא ָ שלאגט אפ די שקרים פונעם פילאסאף. TA C H L I S M A G A Z I N E
דאס צווייטע מאל אין דער היסטאריע וואס מיר געפינען סימנים פונעם בלוט-בלבול ,איז אינעם פינפטן יארהונדערט .א געוויסער קריסטליכער קראטעס (נישט סא ַ היסטאריקער מיט'ן נאמען ָ דער גריכישער פילאסאף מיט'ן זעלבן נאמען) שי- לדערט א געשיכטע מיט א גרופע "שיכור'ע אידן", וואס זאלן האבן צוגעבונדן א קריסטליך קינד צו א האלצערנעם קרייץ און אים דערנאך פארברענען לעבעדיגערהייט .דאס האט געזאלט זיין אזא חוזק- שפיל אויפ'ן חשבון פונעם אותו האיש. דאס איז געווען דאס ערשטע מאל ,וואס דער בלבול האט זיך באוויזן אין צוזאמענהאנג מיט א "קריסטליך קינד" ,און האט ווארשיינליך פארפ- לאנצט די ערשטע קערנדלעך פון דעם סם-גארטן וואס איז מיט דער צייט דערפון אויסגעוואקסן. דאס ערשטע מאל וואס דער בלוט-בלבול ווי מיר קענען אים היינט האט זיך באוויזן ,איז געווען נארוויטש ,ענגלא- אין יאר ,'144אין דער שטאט ָ נד .א גוי'איש קינד איז געפונען געווארן דערש- טאכן אין וואלד .א שרייבער פון יענער תקופה ,א נמאוט ,האט געוואוסט מא ָ מאס פון ַ טא ָ געוויסער ַ אנצוגעבן אזא דערקלערונג :יעדעס יאר פסח-צייט זעצן זיך צונויף די מיטגלידער פון אן אינטערנא- ציאנאלער "אידישער קאנסיל" ,און באשטימען איין לאנד ,יעדעס מאל א צווייטע ,אין וועלכן א קריסטליך קינד זאל אומגעברענגט ווערן .יענער "געלערנטער" האט אפילו געוואוסט אנצוגעבן דעם טעם הדבר ,אז אידן האבן בקבלה א נבואה וואס לויטעט, אז בכדי זיך אומצוקערן קיין ארץ ישראל און אויפבויען דעם בית המקדש אויפסניי ,מוזן זיי יעדעס יאר מארדן א קריסטליך קינד. דאס פשט'ל איז גוט אויפגענו- מען געווארן דורך די מאסן .דאס טויט קינד איז באלד פארוואנדלט געווארן אין אזא סארט "רעלי- גיעזן מארטירער" ,און ענליכע געשיכטעס האבן זיך אנגעהויבן אויסשפילן אין די פאלגנדע יארן. ס'איז פאראן א השערה ביי
היסטאריקער ,אז דער געדאנק שבו איז געקומען פון פארדרייטע שילדערונגען פון אידישע קידוש- השם אקטן דורכאויס די ערשטע קרייציגלערס. ווי באקאנט ,האבן די קריסטליכע קעמפערס פון איבער גאנץ אייראפע זיך ארויסגעלאזט אויף א "הייליגער מיסיע" צו באפרייען ארץ ישראל פון די מוסולמענער .אויפ'ן וועג ארויף ,האבן זיי באשלאסן פריער זיך אפצוגעבן מיט די "היימישע אפיקורסים" ,דער אידישער באפעלקערונג פון אייראפע .די גרויל-געשיכטעס פון יענער תקופה זענען אין אונזער היסטאריע פארצייכנט געווארן מיט'ן בלוט פון די קדושים ,וואס האבן אפגעגעבן זייערע לעבנס על קידוש השם .בדרך כלל האבן אידן באקומען די ברירה אויסצוקלויבן צווישן שמד און טויט .עס זענען געווען א סך פאלן ,אין וועלכע אידן האבן באשלאסן זיך נעמען דאס לעבן פון זיך און זייערע פאמיליע-מיטגלידער ,ווי איידער אריינפאלן אין די הענט פון די רשעים ,וועלכע וואלטן זיי געפייניגט און געצווינגען אנצונעמען דעם קריסטליכן גלויבן. זאגט די דאזיגע השערה ,אז די געשיכטעס פון אידישן העראאיזם ,צו אויפגעבן דאס לעבן ווי איידער זיך אפזאגן פון דער אמונה ,זענען דורך די קריסטן פארדרייט געווארן ,כאילו די אידן האבן גאר גע'הרג'עט קריסטליכע קינדער .פון דעם האט אויפגעשפראצט דער געדאנק ,וואס האט זיך אנ- געהויבן אין אונזער פריערדערמאנטער געשיכטע
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2/3 CUP WHITE FLOUR 1/3 CUP WHITE WHOLE WHEAT FLOUR (OR WHITE FLOUR) 1 1/2 CUPS PECAN MEAL DASH OF SALT
What you do: Preheat oven to 300 degrees. Line a cookie sheet with parchment paper and pregrease. Mix all dry ingredients together. Add vanilla, maple syrup, and liquid coconut oil. If yours is solid, melt it first. Form dough into "snowballs," slightly smaller than the size of a ping-pong ball. Place onto a pre-greased cookie sheet at least 1/2 inch apart.
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What you need:
Bake at 300 degrees for 30 minutes. Remove from oven and allow to cool for 10-15 minutes. Roll in powdered sugar until well coated. Store in an airtight container. Notes: Instead of maple syrup, you can use 3 Tbsp of white sugar. Add in an additional 2-3 Tbsp of vegan margarine or coconut oil. Yields approximately 20.
1 TSP VANILLA EXTRACT 3 TBSP MAPLE SYRUP (SEE NOTES FOR SUBSTITUTES) 1/3 CUP COCONUT OIL POWDERED SUGAR TO COAT
ALMOND SNOWBALL COOKIES WITH COCONUT AND MARASCHINO CHERRIES
What you need: FOR COOKIES: 1 CUP ALL-PURPOSE FLOUR
What you do:
1/4 CUP UNSALTED GROUND ALMONDS
To make cookies:
1/4 TEASPOON SALT 1/2 CUP COCONUT OIL (MARGARINE WORKS, THOUGH LESS HEALTHY) 1/4 CUP POWDERED SUGAR Â 1 1/2 TSP WATER 1/2 TSP ALMOND EXTRACT 18 DRAINED MARASCHINO CHERRIES (SAVE SOME LIQUID.) FOR GLAZE: 1 CUP POWDERED SUGAR 1 TBSP ALMOND MILK 1 CUP COCONUT FLAKES
Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Line 2 baking sheets with parchment paper. In a medium bowl, whisk together almonds, flour, and salt. In a large mixer bowl, beat together oil/marg and sugar until light and creamy. Beat in the water and extract. Gradually add flour mixture until the dough forms. Put 1 -2 tablespoons of dough in your hand, flatten it. Place cherry in center and form a ball of dough around the cherry.
Place 2 inches apart on your baking sheets and bake for 18-20 minutes, or until the bottoms are browned. Remove to wire racks to cool completely. To make glaze: Whisk together sugar and milk in a small bowl. (To add color to glaze, use less almond milk and add a teaspoonful of liquid from cherries.) Pour coconut flakes into another bowl. Roll each cookie in the glaze, then in the coconut. Let glaze harden before serving. (If you put on racks, excess glaze will drip off.)
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Warm up with this speedy, pretty soup recipe! Butternut squash is in season right now, and is an excellent source of Vitamin C – just right for cold season! This is a great option for people who prefer a lighter lunch starch, or as a dinner starch depending on your plan.
What you need:
2 small butternut squashes (about 2½ lbs), cut into cubes 1 red pepper, chopped 1 medium yellow onion, chopped 3 garlic cubes 8 cups water 1 Tbsp salt 1-2 Tbsp honey ½ cup almond milk fresh herbs, for garnish (optional)
What you do:
This recipe has been reprinted with permission from Tanya’s cookbook Volume 1. NUTRITION BY TANYA 844-TANYA-DIET (826-9234)
Combine all ingredients in a large soup pot. Bring to a boil; cover and simmer for 45 minutes. Using a hand-held immersion blender, purée soup until silky smooth. Ladle soup into bowls and garnish with fresh chopped herbs, if desired. Count 1 bowl (6-8 oz depending on your plan) as a starch.
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AN UNKNOWN TORAH GIANT IN AMERICA The awesome Gaon, the dynamic Posek and the great saint and excellent orator, Rebbe Avraham Aaron Yudelevich, of blessed memory, was born in Novaredek, Byelorussia, a suburb of Minsk, in 1850. His mother was a sister of the great Gaon and saint, Rebbe Meir Maris, Rav of Kobrin and author of the “Sefer Hanir” on the Jerusalem Talmud. She was also a descendent of the Maharam of Padua. He first learned with his famous uncle until the age of seventeen and then studies in Volozhin for just one year but for enough time forge a very close and lasting relationship with Rebbe Chaim Berlin, the son of the Rosh Ha’Yeshiva, the “Netziv.” When he was only a young man of twenty-two years old, he publicized his first work entitled “Pages for a Test” (Alim L’Mivchan) with approbations from the great judges of Vilna, Rebbe Yitzchok E. Landau and Rebbe Bezalel Ha’Cohen. On the title page he details the book’s content: “they are unique words of Pilpul and homiletics taken from [the author’s] thirteen works.” Although he published many works of homiletics, he said about himself:1 “most of my time I am involved with subjects of Halacha.” Rav Yudelevich was ordained by the famous author of “Shut Oneg Yom-Tov” and then served in several communities
throughout White Russia. In 1896, he published his first work of responsa: “Shut Beis Av” (vol. 1) which sent waves throughout the rabbinical world. His clarity, depth, total command of both Talmuds,2 the Rishonim, the Shulchan Aruch and the leading Achronim can clearly be seen in this first volume of his. This volume was also unique because he received a rare approbation from the “Gadol of Minsk,” who never gave approbation to books.3 4 In this volume we also see his correspondence with the Chofetz Chaim, “the Aderes,” the “Dvar Avraham” of Kovno and Rebbe Chaim Berlin. In 1899 he accepted a rabbinical position in Manchester, England where he lived for about ten years and, among his many accomplishments there, he established a proper Eruv, without resorting to various halachic leniencies. In fact, his second volume of “Shut Beis Av”5 is devoted to the Eruv of Manchester. When the “Aderes” left Mir to Eretz Yisrael, Rav Yudelevich very much wanted to replace him but, unfortunately, the position was never offered to him. He arrived in the USA in 1908 and served in Bayonne, NJ for three years and taught “smicha” at Yeshivas Rabbeinu Yitzchok Elchanan.” He then found a rabbinical position in Boston for seven years and returned to New York City in the winter of 1919 to become the Rav of the “Great Synagogue of Anshei Luvetz,” also known as the “Eldridge Schul.” He served there until his death in the winter of 1930.6 He was appointed president of the “Agudas Ha’Rabanim/Orators” not to be confused with the more well-known “Agudas Ha’Rabbanim” and chief rabbi of
the “Union of Kehillot of New York.” It is noteworthy that the Rebbe Avroham Aaron and Rebbe Gavriel Ze’ev Margolies were the second rabbis to have ever visited the White House: in 1924, to personally thank President Calvin Coolidge for his famous speech about religious tolerance.7 During these years of rabbinical service in Boston and NYC, he continued to publish responsa which give us much insight into the history of early 20th century Jewish Boston and New York City. The following are some of his many rulings that have Halachic relevance to this very day: Sanctity of a Synagogue: It is possible that synagogues in America don’t have complete “synagogue sanctity” since there are many “things” done in America and England which should not be done in a synagogue. There is much denigration to synagogue sanctity when a Chupah is held in a synagogue and there is a crowd of men, women, young men and women. I, therefore, feel that synagogues in America are established conditionally8 and, although, the opinion of Tosafos9 is that the “conditional” factor only helps to permit non-holy activities when the synagogue no longer functions, in America it is worse and there is no synagogue sanctity at all.10 Shaving with a Razor: Unfortunately there existed a laxity re; the use of razors, as Rebbe Yudelevich writes: “shaving with a razor, which American youth are in a sense, ‘forced’ to be lenient about it”. Rabbi Yudelevich, how-
1 Intro to “Drash Av,” vol 1 2 In that period, it was quite rare for even a leading Posek to have such a command of the Jerusalem Talmud. 3 So does the Gadol himself write in his approbation. 4 In the soon to be published collection of all his responsa, including those recently found in mss , Rebbe Avraham Aaron writes that the Gadol of Minsk requested of him to respond to a claim made by a certain Posek in Minsk, in a work “Mei Shlomo,” that there was rampant violation of eating prohibited fats. Rebbe Yudelevich successfully rejected all twenty of that judge’s proofs! 5 N.Y., 1919. 6 Unfortunately, Moshe Sherman, Orthodox Judaism in America, 1996, pp. 221-222 and B.Z. Eisenstadt, “Anshei Hashem B’Artzos Ha’Brit,” 1933, St. Louis, pg. 39, have confused the chronology of the events in his life. 7 The first rabbi to have visited the White House seems to have been the Gaon, Rebbe Eliezer Silver who met President Howard Taft in June, 1912. 8 Cf. Megillah 27b this same dictum re: the synagogues in Babylonia. The intention in the Talmud is that “things,” which are not necessarily holy, are also permitted , since the original sanctity was conditional. 9 Loc. cit; s.v. “Batei”. 10 Therefore, it would be permitted to bring the coffin of the president’s wife into the synagogue and have her eulogized there (this was the focus of his responsum; (Vol.5 ,#357).
advertorial_77 ever, did not hesitate to forbid the use of all razors.11 And, although a leading rabbi in the US permitted the use of a “safety razor,” Rebbe Avroham ruled, in that same responsum : “It is G-d forbid not permitted in any manner whatsoever to use the ‘safety razor’.” In 1910, Rebbe Avroham Aaron jointly published with his dear friend, Rebbe Yaakov Iskolsky, the popular monthly journal, “Ha’Mitzpah,” the first Torah journal in America, which, unfortunately, was published for only a half year. It can be safely said that besides the eminent “Gadol Hador” and Posek, Rebbe Moshe Feinstein (zt”l), no rabbi in the USA wrote as many responsa as did Rebbe Yudelevich! No other rabbi published as many volumes of Torah, both Halacha and Homiletics, as did Rebbe Avraham! In the introduction to his fifth volume of responsa, Rebbe Avroham Aaron, pours out his heart about the rabbis of the US and their weak halachic ability: “In this generation, especially in the “free America,” there exists two groups of rabbis. Just as in commerce there is a devoted professional who is an expert tailor or shoemaker and is happy with his work; a true shoemaker or tailor. There are also those who will merchandise these goods themselves one will open a clothing store for men or women, although they are incapable of stitching one stitch; still they are valid merchants. So too, a merchant of shoes opens a shoe store for men or women; although he cannot even place on patch on a shoe, he is a shoe salesman and can become very wealthy. The same with “Rabbanus” in our days – there is a rabbi who toils in Torah with much diligence and focus. There is also the rabbi who is not learned at all; he only opened a “store of Rabbanus” and he sells judgments and rulings, prepares divorces, performs marriages and becomes very wealthy. About such a rabbi, Jeremiah says:12 “for even the prophet and even the
priest have gone around to a land [even though] they know not,” i.e. the rabbis the priest whose lips are the “guardians of knowledge”13 and the prophet is the one preaches and chastises the nation;14 “the priest and the prophet”: they are the merchants of these professions like Rabbanus and preaching, but: “they don’t know”: they know nothing and are not knowledgeable about the “merchandise” they are dealing with, and yet they continue to be “merchants.” Thank G-d, I am, I am not one of these dealers and merchants but am a simple tailor or shoemaker; I am a simple rabbi who serves Hashem, who toils to find the correct halacha based upon the Gemara and the “Poskim”; and whatever novel halachot and ideas I am able to come up with from my toil, I present to the Torah scholars and only hope to Hashem that they will be satisfied.” In 1926, at the age of seventy –six, he opened a Yeshiva in New York City, with the help of the Geonim, Rebbe Dovid Werner and Rebbe Shloma Lima Levin. The Yeshiva was geared for recently -arrived young men from Europe who desired to become Poskim.15 In addition to his independent halachic rulings, in which he clearly displayed his strength as a Posek of the highest order with extreme courage, Rebbe Yudelevich never ceased from offering ethical and moral chastisement to the youth in his synagogue. He was not fearful of anyone. The following is an example taken from a sermon:16 “The important thing is that the children should not distance themselves from their elders and the new generation must be connected to the previous generation; just as one cannot be called a father if he does not have children, so too, children cannot be called “children” if they don’t respect their elders. Today the fathers are without sons because the sons are estranged from them. The
fathers sit alone at the table on Friday evenings because the sons have gone to the theatre to see movies and the parents are childless as if they couldn’t have children. And so the son is raised as an orphan since he does not listen to his parents at all. In our generation, the tragic prophecy in Lamentations(5;3) has, unfortunately, been fulfilled; “We were orphans, there is no father, our mothers are like widows,” we are like orphans, as if we don’t have a father, because we don’t listen to our fathers, and why don’t we listen to our fathers, because our mothers are like widows meaning the mothers run their households as if they are widows, because they don’t listen to their husbands and run the house as they desire. This causes that the children too do not listen to their father.” Rebbe Avroham Aaron became ill at the beginning of the winter of 1930 at the age of eighty and passed away on 5 Shvat, in Bayonne, at his son’s house which also was his first “station” in America, twenty-one years earlier. The funeral took place on the same day as his death. The well-attended funeral had the participation of thousands and he was eulogized by Rav Moshe Chaim Rabinovitz from Brownsville, the Gaon, Rebbe Binyamin Baruch Gut from Manhattan, his brother, Rebbe Zalman Tuvia Golovovksy and his son Rebbe Chaim Manis Yudelevich. He was buried in the Bayside, Queens, cemetery.17 Rabbi Dr. Nosson Dovid Rabinowich, the author of this biography, has devoted the last five years to in-depth research into Rav Yudelevich’s life and hundreds of response and writings. He has already published one of his book in 2014 and written a well-received Hebrew biographical essay . In honor of the 87th Yahrtzeit, Rabbi Rabinowich is publishing all his amazing responsa , both printed and from mss.: they are now available in a collectors’ edition: over 1500 pages in two beautifully-bound huge volumes.
11 Loc.cit., #231. 12 Jeremiah 14:18. 13 Malachi 14 The word “navi” connected to the term ”niv sfasayim.” 15 “Toldos Anshe Shem. ,” A Ra’avad, ed., N.Y. 1950, pg. 55. 16 Parshat V’Yakhel from his “Drash Av”, NY, 1922. 17 In addition to Rebbe Zalman Tuvia, Rebbe Dov Ber and Rebbe Moshe Magnes were his brothers. Besides Rebbe Chaim Manis, a respected Talmud Chacham and a rabbi in Atlanta and Akron, Rebbe Yerachmiel, Rebbe Yitzchak Zvi and Rebbe Binyamin of Bayonne were his sons. His only daughter was married to Rebbe Shlomo Silberberg who also served as a rabbi in Manchester. Unfortunately, there are no religious descendants of Rebbe Yudelevich ! Chaval!
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try extra hard to focus on what Morah Jacobi is saying in class today. I know that I have been falling behind. There are two things distracting me. The first is that I can’t stop imagining how wonderful it will be to bring Princess Fuzz-Cuddles home. Ever since Tovi came over to Yehudis’ house, I have been working nonstop on what I am going to say to Mommy. I’m almost finished with my plan. I filled up more than ten pages in my princess pink notebook. I’ll try talk to Mommy after school. The second is that I can’t it get out of my head that Rachel and Etty have been passing notes to Yehudis. I tried to lean over to Yehudis’ desk to read the notes, but I stopped myself when I remember what we learned about cherem d’Rabbeinu Gershom and about how we’re not allowed to read other people’s mail. I wonder if passed notes are “mail.” I think about opening a “post office” at my desk since I sit in the middle of our classroom and pass notes for lots of people. I could charge for my service. I think about what I could charge and about what I could buy with my earnings, but stop when I realize that passing notes is a type of theft – I’m stealing learning time from my classmates and being disrespectful to Morah Jacobi. As I do mental teshuva, the bell rings and class is over. I approach Yehudis after class, but she’s already surrounded by Etty, Rachel, and all of the other girls who never were nice to her. I try to push to get to her, but those other girls are packed tightly around her. I have to make do with listening to what they’re talking about. I can’t hear all the words, only that their tone sounds nice. I am so confused. Unfortunately, during our break, I don’t get a chance to talk to Yehudis at all. I don’t get to talk to her at lunch, either, since Dr. Mrs. picks her up before lunch to go to the dentist. As Yehudis puts her things into her backpack, she leans over to me and tells me to come over after school. “We need to talk.” Her words are ominous (that’s my newest word). Later, I drag my feet from the bus stop to my house. Maybe, I won’t visit Yehudis. Maybe, she doesn’t want to be my friend anymore. I made a mess with “the Mystery of Leo” and hurt her on other occasions. Besides, the popular girls were talking to her today and she didn’t even tell me she had a dentist appointment until she had to leave school. She used to tell me everything. Anyway, it’s never good news when someone says “we have to talk.” If she had something good to tell me, I would already know about it. I consider staying home and doing my homework alone. But, as I walk into my house, Mommy looks up from her dishes and says, “You have to go to Yehudis’ house.” So, I leave my backpack on my back and go back out the door. I promise Mommy that I’ll be home before dinner.
I decide to pretend that everything’s normal. I’ll help Yehudis study for the Brachos Bee and she’ll help me with math. We’ll look at the kittens, especially Princess Fuzz-Cuddles, talk about our siblings, and dream about my family’s trip to Eretz Yisrael. Maybe my visit will be OK. I say a quick tefilla to Hashem and then walk up the steps to the Barronoffs’ door. Dr. Mrs. lets me in and then returns to whatever she was doing. I go up to Yehudis’ room. When I get there, I see Yehudis in bed, hugging her pillow. She didn’t even hear me come in since she’s sniffling loudly. “Yehudis? What happened? Are you OK? What did they do to you?” My mind is racing a mile a minute, as Aunt Yael would say. Rachel and Etty just can’t ever be nice. “Who did what?” “Rachel and Etty… at school. They said something that’s made you cry?” Yehudis laughs. Snot drips from her nose. She returns to sniffling. “It’s not them. It’s Moshe.” “Moshe? What did he say?” “Nothing. I mean, it’s what he said, but it’s not.” I am so confused. Was I wrong about our classmates? What did Yehudis mean when she said “It’s what Moshe said, but it’s not.” “Start from the beginning!” Yehudis nods, sniffles and sits up. I hand her the tissues from her desk. She blows her nose, wipes her eyes, and then motions to her chair. “Sit, it might take a while.” I sit. “When the third graders at Yeshiva Toras Emes were assigned to be “big brothers” for the first graders’ Chumash party, Moshe’s partner sized him up and then spat out “I hate you! Why couldn’t I get a real Jew for my Big Brother?” Yehudis starts sniffling, again. “Then, when the big and little brothers were paired up for songs about Bereishis, that first grader added, ‘You’re the most stupid kid I know.’ Moshe ran out of the gym, grabbed his coat, and left school. He walked all the way home. It was a good thing Mom was home.” Yehudis returns to sniffling. I hand her the entire box of tissues. I don’t know what to say. “Mom and Dad told me that they never imagined we’d have so many tests.” We look at each other silently for a few minutes. I wish Leora was sunning in Yehudis’ window. Both of us could use a distraction. Yehudis says something about Moshe and also Avi going to a therapist. She says, too, that her Aunt Shoshi and Uncle Isamar are coming to Meadow Wood for Shabbos. Everyone is worried about Moshe. I reach to hug my neighbor and to tell her that everything is OK, but something holds me back. It’s itching my brain and has to do with Rachel, Etty and their passed notes. I work to push those thoughts away. A century later, I give Yehudis a hug. Yehudis gives one last sniffle then tries to smile. Half of a dimple shows up on her face. “At least I have you,” she says as she hugs me back. “I wish TA C H L I S M A G A Z I N E
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Moshe had a friend like you.” I pull out of our hug. I can’t hold back the uglies in my head anymore. “Really? What about Rachel and Etty? Are they your new best friends? Maybe you don’t really need me.” “What?!” Yehudis’ eyes widen and then narrow. “What are you talking about? They’re not my friends.” “But you were talking to them and passing notes to them and …” “…about the kittens. Ever since last Shabbos, at our shul’s oneg, when Mom told their moms about the kittens, they’ve been trying to be my friends. They think that if they’re nice, I’ll give them each a kitten.” “Will you?” I can’t help it, but I’m sniffling, too. I love Tovi, but I love Yehudis, too. I don’t want to have to fight with Rachel and Etty over her. I think about the fancy parve dessert that Etty shared with Yehudis during lunch on Monday, and about the new eraser sitting on Yehudis’ desk that matches the one sitting on Rachel’s desk. I can’t compete with them. All I can give Yehudis is my friendship. It’s quiet in Yehudis’ room. After a while, my friend says, “Maybe.” “What?” “Mom said that when they’re two months old, we have to give all of them away. She doesn’t want to take care of so many cats. And if they want them…” she shrugs, letting me finish the sentence. “You’d give your kittens to those girls? What about me? What about Princess Fuzz-Cuddles?” “Did you talk to your mom yet?” “I am going to today.” “You said that yesterday and the day before. Dina, I really want you to have her, but if you don’t talk to your mom, I can’t help you.” “I would hate for Etty, Rachel, or anyone else to have my princess.” “Me, too.” We look at each other. I sniffle some more. I try not to imagine Rachel petting my kitten. That can’t happen! I need help and I need it now. “Mimi?” says Yehudis. “Mimi?” What does she have to do with anything? “Yes, Mimi. You know, your sister, the one standing right outside my bedroom door?” I look up. Indeed, there is Mimi in all her younger sister glory.
Yehudis invites her in. I look at Yehudis. “Remember,” she says to me, “I have no sisters.” Yehudis scoots over on her bed and pats her mattress, motioning for Mimi to hop up. Mimi happily obliges. Mimi admires Yehudis’ stuffed pig, stuffed turkey, and stuffed monkey. Yehudis tells Mimi their names and about how each of them became hers. Mimi asks if she can hold Harold. Yehudis lets. Mimi cuddles up to her new, stuffed friend. Leora struts through Yehudis’ partially opened door. I guess Mimi didn’t shut it all the way. The cat curls up on her old windowsill spot and quickly falls asleep. It must be exhausting caring for four babies at once. After Mimi shrinks into the corner of Yehudis’ bed farthest from Leora, I ask her why she’s here. “Mommy came over to talk to Yehudis’ mommy. She had to take me because the boys are out. She said I should come up here and keep you company.” Yehudis looks at me. I look at her. Both of us shrug. “I guess they are talking in Mom’s office. That means that we can still go to the kitchen and get a snack without bothering them,” Yehudis offers. Mimi bounces off the bed. “Yes! A snack! Are there cookies? I love cookies.” Yehudis and I laugh, we each wipe our faces with some of Yehudis’ tissues and go downstairs. The second we open the cookie jar, Eli and Levi come running into the kitchen. Those boys have an amazing ability to sense cookies. Also, even though Mimi’s only one year older than Eli and only two years older than Levi, they treat her like a big sister. Yehudis and I settle our little siblings at the table with cookies and juice. We hear Mimi saying the bracha with Yehudis’ little brothers and then telling them that she’s going to teach them how to draw fish. Smiling at each other, Yehudis and I go to the living room to play with the kittens. To be continued...
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SUBMISSIONS WILL be DISPLAYED here! Please send your name, age & location to firstname.lastname@example.org, with your child's information in the subject line. Or mail art work to 80 Red Schoolhouse Road, Suite 107, Chestnut Ridge NY 10977. FEBRUARY 16, 2018
Avraham Shmiel Levy 7 Williamsburg
Baila and Shaindy Feuerwerker
C Eichler 6 Boro Park
Faiga Miriam Bernat 7 1/2 Williamsburg
Freidy berger 6 BROOKLYN
Raizy Kohn 5 BORO PARK
HERSHY Jacobowitz 8 Williamsburg
LEAH Mayer 6 Boro Park
Henny Singer 6 1/2 Boro Park
Surela Berger 4 Boro Park
RAIZY Klein 6 Williamsburg
CHana Gitty Mayer 5 1/2 Brooklyn
Chany Walter 5 Williamsburg
Thank you all for your art work!
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Dini (2)and Suri (4) Kohn Williamsburg
Chavy W Brooklyn
Due to limited space we couldn’t publish everything.But please do keep sending your beautiful creations and we will get you in iy”H. TA C H L I S M A G A Z I N E
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CHALLENGING BRAIN GAMES INCREASE YOUR CREATIVITY AND PROBLEM SOLVING SKILLS. PLAY WELL. PLAY BETTER.
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MORE OR LESS: DROP QUOTE: Find the hidden quote by dropping the proper letters into each square. The list of available letters is given at the top of each column. Note that words can start on one row, and continue on the next. Stumped? Try to fill in the short words first, and then look for patterns.
Each letter of the alphabet has been given a different numerical value between 1 and 26. Four numbers have already been entered in the solution area. Most of the remaining letters have an arithmetical clue shown below them which equates to the numerical value of the letter. Use the clues and your reasoning powers to match each letter with its correct numerical value. Symbols: (+) Plus (-) Minus (/) Divided by (x) Multiplied by (>) More than (<) Less than
WINNER OF OUR DECEMBER DRAWING: MINDY FRANKEL, BORO PARK ANSWERS TO LAST WEEK’S BRAIN GAMES Coded Crosswords:
Chess 1.Bg5-f6 Bd7xg4 2.Qh4-h8+ Bg7xh8 3.Rh1xh8#. If 1. …Bg7xf6, then 2. Qh4xf6 and 3.Rh1h8#
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