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  TAKE  THE  ‘QUEENLY  QUIZ’  TO  IDENTIFY  YOUR  QUEENLY  PURPOSE.  

Your  ‘Queenly  Quiz’  is  waiting  for  you.    Please  remember  this  is  for  your  benefit  and,  your  growth  so   be  as  completely  honest  as  you  can  and  enjoy!       The  results  will  assist  you  to  reach  ‘Queenly’  status  in  your  life.     1. When  you  look  in  the  mirror  do  you  dislike  what  you  see?   a) b) c) d) e)

Always   Often   Sometimes   Rarely   Never  

  2) How  often  do  you  compare  yourself  to  others?     a) b) c) d) e)

Always   Often   Sometimes   Rarely   Never  

  3) Do  you  constantly  wish  for  something  more  e.g.  a  better  body,  more  money,  a  better   relationship?     a) b) c) d) e)

Always   Often   Sometimes   Rarely   Never  

  4) Do  you  have  difficulty  getting  out  of  bed  in  the  morning?     a) b) c) d) e)

   

Always   Often   Sometimes   Rarely   Never  

YES  U  CAN  4  WOMEN  

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5) Do  you  lack  the  energy  and  motivation  to  get  through  your  day?     a) b) c) d) e)

Always   Often   Sometimes   Rarely   Never  

  6) Do  you  find  it  difficult  to  maintain  a  healthy  lifestyle?     a) b) c) d) e)

Always   Often   Sometimes   Rarely   Never  

  7) Are  you  reluctant  to  socialise  with  others?     a) b) c) d) e)

Always   Often   Sometimes   Rarely   Never     8) Do  you  feel  uncomfortable  in  large  gatherings?     a) Always   b) Often   c) Sometimes   d) Rarely   e) Never  

   

YES  U  CAN  4  WOMEN  

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9) Do  you  find  it  difficult  to  open  up  and  share  your  feelings?     a) b) c) d) e)

Always   Often   Sometimes   Rarely   Never  

  10) Do  you  feel  that  you  are  lacking  the  love  and  support  that  you  need?     a) b) c) d) e)

Always   Often   Sometimes   Rarely   Never  

      11) Do  you  having  difficulty  controlling  your  emotions?     a) b) c) d) e)

Always   Often   Sometimes   Rarely   Never  

  12) Do  you  feel  angry,  upset,  guilty  or  resentful  often?     a) b) c) d) e)

   

Always   Often   Sometimes   Rarely   Never  

YES  U  CAN  4  WOMEN  

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13) Do  you  worry  about  your  financial  situation?     f) g) h) i) j)

Always   Often   Sometimes   Rarely   Never  

  14) Do  you  struggle  paying  your  bills  on  time?     a) Always   b) Often   c) Sometimes   d) Rarely   e) Never     15) Do  you  wish  you  could  live  a  debt  free  life?     a) b) c) d) e)

Always   Often   Sometimes   Rarely   Never  

  16) Do  you  find  it  difficult  to  live  by  your  values?     a) b) c) d) e)

Always   Often   Sometimes   Rarely   Never  

  17) Do  you  find  it  difficult  to  speak  up  and  assert  yourself?     a) Always   b) Often   c) Sometimes   d) Rarely   e) Never    

   

YES  U  CAN  4  WOMEN  

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18) Do  you  hold  back  from  trying  new  things  because  you  fear  failure?     a) Always   b) Often   c) Sometimes   d) Rarely   e) Never     19) Do  you  value  the  opinion  of  others  over  your  own?     a) Always   b) Often   c) Sometimes   d) Rarely   e) Never     20) Do  you  worry  about  what  people  are  saying  or  thinking  about  you?     a) b) c) d) e)

Always   Often   Sometimes   Rarely   Never  

  21) Do  you  find  yourself  saying  ‘yes’  to  things  you  don’t  want  to  do?     a) b) c) d) e)

Always   Often   Sometimes   Rarely   Never  

  22) Are  you  overly  critical  of  yourself  and  others?     a) b) c) d) e)

   

Always   Often   Sometimes   Rarely   Never  

YES  U  CAN  4  WOMEN  

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23) Do  you  often  search  for  negatives  when  you  are  praised  or  complimented?     a) b) c) d) e)

Always   Often   Sometimes   Rarely   Never  

  24) Do  you  suffer  from  allergies  or  frequent  bouts  of  illness  or  colds?     a) b) c) d) e)

   

Always   Often   Sometimes   Rarely   Never  

YES  U  CAN  4  WOMEN  

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Now  add  up  your  score,  a=5,  b=4,  c=3,  d=2  and  e=1     96-­‐120  points:   This  is  not  a  time  for  despair.    This  is  a  time  for  celebration  because  you  have  taken   the  first  step  in  getting  yourself  to  where  you  want  to  be.    You  may  be  struggling   internally  and  externally  right  now  but  help  is  just  around  the  corner.    Take  the  next   step  and  visualise  your  life  the  way  you  long  for  it  to  be  because  if  you  choose  the   right  path,  it  will  be  yours.     72-­‐96  points:   You  know  that  the  life  you  have  is  not  what  you  dream  of.    You  lack  the  confidence   and  the  self  esteem  to  create  what  you  desire.    I  acknowledge  you  for  getting  this  far   because  now  that  you  have  the  awareness  you  have  the  power  to  transform  into  the   Queen  and  enjoy  a  life  of  happiness.    It  is  up  to  you  now.    What  will  you  choose?     48-­‐72  points:   You  are  on  the  verge  of  going  backwards  in  life  or  forwards.    What  you  do  now  will   determine  whether  you  will  enjoy  the  life  you  are  creating  and  wear  the  crown  or,   whether  you  will  remain  stuck  in  a  role  that  you  do  not  enjoy.    Your  future  depends   on  the  choices  you  make.     24-­‐48  points:   You  are  nearly  there.    A  few  tweaks  and  you  can  be  crowned  Queen.    Take  the  time   to  focus  on  what  you  need  to  learn,  do  or  be  in  order  to  create  for  yourself  the  life   that  you  want.        0-­‐21  points:   Congratulations.    You  are  the  Queen  of  your  life.    You  are  in  full  control  of  your   destiny  and  have  a  good  idea  of  what  you  want  and  where  you  want  to  go.  

   

YES  U  CAN  4  WOMEN  

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THE  SEVEN  STEPS  TO  BECOMING  THE  QUEEN  IN  YOUR  LIFE!  

To  be  a  queen  we  must  begin  with  a  great  self  esteem.    Firstly  what  is  self  esteem?    It  is  nothing  we   can  visibly  see  or  touch  or  feel  however  every  time  we  look  in  the  mirror,  talk  to  ourselves  or  check   in  with  how  we  are  feeling,  it  is  there.    How  we  see  ourselves,  how  we  talk  to  ourselves  and  how  we   feel  all  comes  down  to  our  level  of  self  esteem.         The  dictionary  term  for  esteem  is  to  ‘think  highly  of.’  An  example  of  this  would  be  your  admiration   for  someone  who  does  something  of  value,  meaning  that  you  would  hold  them  in  high  esteem  and   self  means  just  that,  you!    When  you  put  the  two  together  it  means  to  hold  yourself  in  high  esteem.     How  much  do  you  value  yourself?      How  important  do  you  think  you  are?    How  do  you  see  yourself   and  how  do  you  feel  about  your  achievements?     There  are  many  factors  that  are  a  direct  result  of  our  self  esteem  or,  the  way  we  see  ourselves  and   this  can  affect  our  health,  our  finances/wealth  and  our  happiness.    All  these  three  components  are   intertwined  and  if  one  is  not  working  for  us  then  it  will  impact  the  other.    For  example,  if  you  are  in   debt  and  worrying  about  how  you  will  pay  off  what  you  owe  it  will  compromise  your  health  and   could  result  in  mild  depression  and  a  weakened  immune  system  which  means  you  will  be  more   susceptible  to  colds  and  flu’s  etc.    It  will  also  impact  on  you  internally  as  the  happiness  you  show  the   world  may  be  in  conflict  with  what  you  are  truly  feeling.    Often  we  project  a  false  persona  because   to  open  up  to  the  outside  world  will  leave  us  in  a  vulnerable  position  therefore;  we  live  with  a   continuous  internal  struggle.    It  doesn’t  have  to  be  this  way.     Self  esteem  is  all  about  knowing  that  you  are  worthy  of  being  loved  and  accepted.    It’s  doesn’t  mean   bragging  about  how  great  you  are,  it’s  more  about  knowing  within  yourself  that  you  are  worth  a  lot.     This  is  so  important  to  your  development  and  to  how  you  perceive  your  world.    A  person  with  high   self  esteem  is  confident,  able  to  make  mistakes  and  learn  from  them  and  be  motivated  to  achieve.     Developing  high  self  esteem  in  one  of  the  biggest  and  most  valuable  gifts  you  can  give  yourself.  

 

1)  

What’s  the  big  deal  with  self  esteem?   Good  self  esteem  will  allow  you  to  feel  proud,  no  matter  what,  and  you  will  be  more  willing   to  try  new  things  as  you  won’t  be  afraid  of  getting  it  wrong.    A  person  with  high  self  esteem   will  know  that  it  is  ok  to  make  mistakes  as  that  is  how  they  learn.    Self  esteem  will  help  you   to  believe  in  yourself  and  will  enable  you  to  make  their  own  decisions  based  on  what  you   know  is  best  for  you.    Good  self  esteem  means  you  will  be  less  afraid  and  more  in  control  of   your  life  and  you  will  know  that  you  are  worth  caring  for  and  worth  protecting.    Those  who   hold  themselves  in  high  esteem  are  empowered  and  nothing  or  no  one  can  take  that  away   from  them.      

   

YES  U  CAN  4  WOMEN  

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2)  

How  is  self  esteem  developed?   Think  back  to  when  you  were  born.    As  a  baby  there  was  no  way  you  would  have  thought  of   yourself  as  anything  but  perfect  just  the  way  you  were  yet  as  we  get  older  there  are  many   external  factors  that  play  a  part  in  developing  or  reducing  our  levels  of  self  esteem.    For   example,  your  family,  grades  at  school,  sporting  achievements,  teachers,  classmates  and   friendships  can  all  affect  our  self  esteem  in  these  formative  years.    If  you  get  good  grades  at   school  and  are  encouraged  by  your  teachers,  friends  and  classmates  who  validate  you,  then   this  is  without  a  doubt  going  to  propel  you  forward  and  keep  your  self  esteem  at  a  high  level.      

  3)            

Getting  a  grip  on  low  self  esteem   Let’s  look  at  some  of  the  reasons  you  may  develop  a  low  self  esteem.      Have  you  ever     come  across  a  child  who  doesn’t  think  of  themselves  as  worthy  or  lovable?    If  you  have  you   will  no  doubt  have  noticed  that  these  children  will  often  be  very  critical  of  themselves  and   won’t  consider  themselves  to  be  good  enough  or  important  enough.   We  know  that  teachers,  carers,  sporting  coaches  and  classmates  can  impact  you  in  the  early   years  however,  the  family  environment  that  can  contribute  also.    If  mum  and  dad  argued  a   lot  or  there  was  a  lot  of  yelling  involved  this  can  cause  any  child  to  go  within.    The  same  goes   for  the  trauma  of  divorce,  moving  house  and  schools,  having  to  make  new  friends,  illness   such  as  diabetes  or  allergies  like  asthma,  puberty  or  bodily  changes.    These  are  all  factors   that  can  be  detrimental  to  your  development  as  a  child  and  more  often  than  not  the  others   are  blissfully  unaware  of  the  damage  they  are  causing  to  your  inner  world.     It  only  takes  one  negative  comment  or  one  upsetting  incident  to  begin  the  decline  in  your   self  esteem.      This  is  why  it  is  vitally  important  to  look  for  any  warning  signs  that  may   indicate  that  your  self  esteem  is  being  compromised.    Some  of  the  warning  signs  to  look  for   are  the  voicing  of  negative  comments  such  as;     “Why  do  bad  things  always  happen  to  me”     “I’m  not  good  enough”     “I’m  not  skinny  enough”     “I  don’t  know  enough”       Comparing  yourself    with  others,  a  decline  in  your  work  habits,  a  change  in  the  way  you   interact  with  others,  a  want  to  be  alone,  a  loss  of  interest  in  any  activities  and  not  opening   up  or  talking  as  you  normally  would  are  just  a  few  of  many  signs;  however  it  will  give  you  an   idea  of    what  to  look  for.  

 

   

YES  U  CAN  4  WOMEN  

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Giving  your  ‘self’  a  boost!   It  is  both  natural  and  ok  for  you  to  have  your  ups  and  downs  but  having  a  low  self  esteem  is   definitely  not  ok.    A  low  self  esteem  can  make  you  feel  sad,  anxious  and    withdrawn.    You  will   be  less  inclined  to  try  new  things  and  will  miss  out  on  the  many     opportunities  that  life  has   to  offer  you.    Low  self  esteem  can  prevent  you  from  making  valuable  friendships  and   enjoying  the  company  of  others.  

4)  

  Having  a  high  self  esteem  is  essential  because  as  adults  we  are  required  to  make  tough   choices  or  decisions,  especially  when  under  pressure.    You  need  to  learn  to  believe  in   yourself  and  what  you  can  achieve  instead  of  what  others  think.    If  you  feel  that  you  are   suffering  from  a  low  self  esteem  here  are  a  few  things  you  could  try,  to  boost  your  levels.     Make  a  list  of  all  the  things  you  are  good  at.    It  can  be  anything  such  as  playing  a  sport,   writing,  being  organised,  having  a  kind  and  gentle  nature.     Give  yourself  three  compliments  a  day.    Learn  to  focus  on  what  you  do  well  instead  of  what   you  perceive  you  do  badly.    Focus  on  what  you  want  and  NOT,  what  you  don’t  want.     Stand  in  front  of  the  mirror  and  see  as  many  things  as  you  can  that  you  love  about  you.    It   could  be  your  wonderful  sparkling  eyes,  your  beautiful  smile,  your  great  dress  sense,  your   shiny  healthy  hair,  your  clear  smooth  skin,  your  manicured  nails,  your  strong  arms  or  legs.     If  you  find  yourself  talking  in  a  negative  way,  turn  it  around  and  into  a  something  positive.     For  example,  instead  of  saying  “I  can’t”  say  “I  can.”     Give  yourself  permission  to  focus  on  all  the  good  things  that  are  happening  in  your  life  and  make  a   point  of  living  with  gratitude  and  love  in  your  heart  for  all  things  including  YOU.     5)   A  shot  of  courage  and  a  dash  of  praise!   Create  opportunities  for  your  ‘self’  to  be  courageous.    For  example,  if  you  are  asked  to  do   something  that  takes  you  outside  of  your  comfort  zone,  say  YES.    You  can  work  out  the  ‘how’   later.    Every  opportunity  you  get,  take  it,  because  it  will  contribute  to  your  growth,  to  your   confidence  and  to  your  self  esteem.       Give  yourself  encouragement  by  talking  to  yourself  in  a  positive  way  and  showing  yourself   compassion.    If  you  make  a  mistake  look  at  it  as  a  lesson  because  it  is  by  making  mistakes   that  we  learn  and  grow.    If  we  didn’t  make  mistakes  we  would  be  stuck  in  a  void,  never  going   anywhere.    If  you  wish  to  get  out  of  the  rut  and  into  life  then  living  outside  of  your  comfort   zone  is  a  must  and  I  honestly  believe  that  with  progress  comes  happiness.    

   

YES  U  CAN  4  WOMEN  

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6)  

Lighten  up   Life  is  a  roller  coaster  ride  for  everyone  and  we  all  face  the  good  and  the  not  so  good  times.     It  is  easy  to  laugh,  be  positive  and  have  fun  when  all  is  going  well  but,  when  times  get  tough   it  is  even  easier  to  withdraw,  get  angry  or  feel  upset  and  negative.    It  is  when  times  are   challenging  that  it  helps  to  remain  positive  and  light.    These  moments  don’t  last  forever  and   often  we  make  them  worse  by  engaging  in  negative  behaviour.    I’m  not  saying  you  are  not   allowed  to  cry  for  crying  is  a  fabulous  way  to  release  and  I’m  not  saying  you  cannot  feel   angry  or  upset.    What  I  am  saying  is  that  it  is  perfectly  okay  to  feel  these  things  as  long  as   you  don’t  dwell  on  them  and  you  do  not  hurt  anyone  else  in  the  process  of  releasing  these   emotions.        Embrace  all  your  emotions  and  learn  to  accept  them  as  a  part  of  you  because   when  you  do  you  can  begin  to  truly  love  yourself.        When  you  feel  like  crying,  let  it  out,  and   then  move  on.         Practice  having  a  positive  mindset  and  be  generous  and  forgiving  of  yourself.    Don’t  criticise   or  place  judgment  on  yourself  or  others  for  when  we  employ  these  tactics  we  end  up   experiencing  blocks  and  we  are  giving  our  power  away.     Make  laughter  a  part  of  your  day  and  enjoy  the  feeling  of  not  getting  too  bogged  down  in   the  serious  side  of  life.    Learn  to  laugh  at  yourself  and  remember  a  smile  will  brighten   someone’s  day  and  enjoying  a  good  laugh  is  a  great  way  to  boost  your  self  esteem,   strengthen  your  immune  system  and  increase  your  levels  of  serotonin  (the  natural  happy   drug)  and  it  creates  a  sense  of  fun.     All  we  need  is  love!   In  my  opinion,  there  is  nothing  more  important  in  this  world,  than  the  love  you  have  for   yourself  and  for  others.    We  are  all  connected  and  we  all  have  a  deep  desire  to  be  loved.     Self  esteem  begins  with  loving  yourself.    Loving  yourself  for  all  that  you  are  and  seeing  the   beauty  instead  of  the  perceived  flaws.    We  thrive  on  love  just  as  a  plant  thrives  on  water.     The  love  we  have  for  ourselves  and  others  in  our  hearts  helps  us  to  grow  and  enjoy  the   beauty  in  everything.    Love  makes  the  world  go  round  and  the  more  we  give  love  the  more   we  will  receive.     I  trust  this  quiz  and  report  has  given  you  an  indication  of  what  areas  you  may  need  to   improve  on  so  you  can  enjoy  an  abundance  of  health,  wealth  and  happiness  in  your  life.     It  is  never  too  late  to  begin  to  lead  a  healthy  lifestyle  or  to  get  out  of  the  debt  and  into  the   money.    Happiness  is  just  around  the  corner  and  isn’t  that  difficult  to  find  if  you  know  where   to  look.  

 

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YES  U  CAN  4  WOMEN  

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Today  is  the  first  day  of  the  rest  of  your  life  so  how  do  you  want  to  live  the  rest  of  your  life?     Would  you  choose  to  spend  it  worrying,  arguing,  staying  angry,  hating  the  way  you  look,   staying  stuck  or  would  you  prefer  to  spend  it  laughing,  having  fun,  taking  chances  and  taking   on  new  challenges,  working  in  a  job  that  fulfils  you,  living  debt  free  and  enjoying  more  of  a   disposable  income.     We  all  have  choices  in  life  and  the  choices  you  have  made  so  far  have  placed  you  right  where   you  are  today.            Have  you  made  quality  choices?        Have  you  made  choices  based  on  what  you  want?        Are  you  happy  with  the  choices  you  have  made  so  far?     Imagine  yourself  at  your  90th  birthday  party.         What  are  you  wearing?   How  are  you  feeling?   Who  is  celebrating  with  you?   What  are  they  saying  about  you  in  their  speeches?   Are  you  looking  back  on  life  with  regrets?    or   Are  you  looking  back  on  life  knowing  that  you  have  lived?   Are  you  fit  and  healthy  and  able  to  walk  into  the  room  by  yourself?   Are  you  laughing  and  enjoying  all  the  attention?   What  are  you  thinking?     Make  your  choices  based  on  how  you  want  your  90th   birthday  to  be  celebrated,  how  you  want  to  be   thought  of  and  how  you  want  to  be  feeling.     I  wish  you  all  the  best  and  every  success.      

fâátÇ  

   

YES  U  CAN  4  WOMEN  

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