STYLE WEEKLY’S MAGAZINE FOR RICHMOND VOLUNTEERS AND PHILANTHROPISTS
Bridal vendors say “I do” to a couple in need — and in love. Eating for a Cause page 3
Helping Haiti page 4
Because of a serious health issue, Kayleigh Wince and Brian Nabili, with their daughter, Layna, are getting help with a wedding to remember. See page 8.
SOUL NOURISHMENT page 6
Chocolate Overload Ballet Uncorks page 10
A Daughter’s Inspiration page 11
SCOTT ELMQUIST photo
Making a Difference Virginia association of fundraising Professionals member in the sPotlight
Thousands of people here in Central Virginia have limited food choices—and sometimes, they have no choice at all. They are our community’s most vulnerable members, from elderly neighbors on fixed incomes to people living paycheck to paycheck. And many of them are children who don’t know the source of their next meal, but who need regular nutritious food to learn, grow, and succeed. With your help, we can ensure that a balanced and adequate amount of food is what every Central Virginian eats.
What they eat Maureen Neal Vafre celebrates maureen neal and the daily Planet for its creative collaboration put together for the daily Planet’s 40th anniversary event. every so often a great idea is transformed into reality. on october 24, 2009, two organizations, daily Planet and the healing Place, came together to celebrate the profound changes daily Planet has made in richmond communities. the healing Place along with Vcu theater students worked together to produce a play dealing with addiction, to help break the stereotypes that surround addiction and homelessness. this play was showcased at the daily Planet’s 40th anniversary event, along with an interactive discussion between the performers, past residents of the healing Place and the audience. it was a very powerful night that helped raise awareness and celebrated the achievements of two organizations that are helping to bring positive change to richmond.
Discover a history that covers over 260 years of the settlement of Virginia, the founding of a nation, economic stress, and several generations.
Elegance RICHMOND GIVING | winter 2010
Experience life in Virginia since the 18th century, the paradox of hardship amid elegance, and how the past continues to shape life in America today.
Give, volunteer, educate, entertain, enjoy, and explore at Richmond’s only 18th century public plantation home.
Wilton House Museum 215 S.Wilton Road Richmond,Virginia 23226 (804)282-5936 www.wiltonhousemuseum.org
… isn’t always nutritious … isn’t always reliable … isn’t always there.
Thousands of people here in Central Virginia have limited food choices—and sometimes, they have no choice at all. They are our community’s most vulnerable members, from the elderly on fixed incomes, to the working poor, to those experiencing sudden job loss. And many of them are children who don’t know the source of their next meal, but who need healthy food to learn, grow, and succeed. Please help us provide life-sustaining food to these neighbors in need. Now, more than ever, they’re counting on us. www.cvfb.org/give • www.mowdelivers.com/give
working together to feed more
Central Virginia Foodbank • Meals on Wheels Serving Central Virginia 1415 Rhoadmiller St. • Richmond, VA 23220 • (804) 521-2500
Cause+Effect Community service news, notes and ideas
eat (and drink and sing) for a cause A variety of local restaurants provide special nights at which a portion of patrons’ purchases help a local nonprofit. Here’s a sample to get you started.
Capital Ale House: Thursdays from 5-10 p.m., selected organizations get 25 percent of food purchases when patrons bring in that group’s flyer. In March, recipients will include UNOS, the Junior League of Richmond and Friends of Pocahontas State Park; April funds go to the American Canoe Association and the Richmond Jazz Society. Three locations. capitalalehouse.com. F.W. Sullivan’s Fan Bar & Grille: Haitian relief benefit and other charitable causes are announced through Twitter and Facebook to the restaurant’s large following. 2401 W. Main St. 308-8576. facebook.com/sullivansfans. Morton’s the Steakhouse: Twice-yearly philanthropy weeks benefit local charities including Comfort Zone, Children’s Museum and Stop Child Abuse Now. Organizations get $25 for each dinner served. 111 Virginia St. 648-1662. mortons.com. Positive Vibe Café: An internationally recognized training and employment program for food-industry workers with cognitive or physical disabilities. Top-caliber professionals volunteer time to “perpetuate the positive” with guest-chef dinners. Fundraisers and concerts throughout the year at 2825 Hathaway Road. 560-9622. positivevibecafe.com. The White Dog Restaurant: Several times a year, dinner proceeds go to the Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals, the National Disaster Search Dog Foundation and other animal-related charities. 2329 W. Main St. 340-1975. thewhitedog.com. Richmond Restaurant Week: This popular annual event is held in late October; two dozen restaurants participate in a fundraiser for the Central Virginia Food Bank. Organized by the owners of Acacia Restaurant, the event raised $23,000 in 2009. richmondrestaurantweek.com.
Karaoke: Fundraising karaoke venues include the Triple at 3306 W. Broad St., 359-7777, and Plaza Bowl at 523 E. Southside Plaza, 233-8799.
A singer belts one out at Daddio’s Bar & Grille which has started an open-mic night to benefit local charities.
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Open Mic for a Cause: Run by musician Elana Lisa and held at Daddio’s Bar & Grille (12385 Gayton Road), these open-mic nights run every first and third Tuesday of the month. Musicians of all kinds — from amateur to professional — are invited to play, raising money for various charity groups. Information at 938-6375.
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hen Haiti was struck by a massive 7.0 magnitude earthquake, Richmonder Kathy Faw already had a fundraiser on the calendar, taking place 10 days later at the Canal Club to benefit the Patricia Sullivan Haitian Outreach Foundation, a nonprofit organization she started in 2008 in honor of her mother. While the event, which attracted 300 people and raised $20,000, was intended initially to aid the foundationâ€™s primary beneficiary â€” a school located in Mirebalais, about 25 miles north of Port-au-Prince â€” Faw decided to send part of the proceeds to Edsom Francois, a Haitian translator with whom she had worked on several visits to Haiti. Francois and his family are living in their front yard since their home was demolished by the earthquakeâ€™s tremors. â€œWhen you have a close friend, how can you turn them away?â€? asks Faw, a nurse at Memorial Regional Medical Center who first visited Haiti as a student with Bon Secours College of Nursing. â€œWe can know we made a difference to at least one family.â€? While Faw prepared for her fundraiser, the president of the Richmond chapter of the American Red Cross, Reggie Gordon, was leaving his office when he was stopped by an elderly man, a street corner minister whoâ€™d seen Gordon on television. The man had collected money for Haitian relief efforts from the panhandlers in downtown Richmond, all of whom expressed concerned for the plight of the Haitians. Gordon was speechless. Richmonders found themselves compelled to help the Haitians in ways big and small. Here are some:
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church has had a long-standing relationship. s 4HE #ATHEDRAL OF THE 3ACRED (EART AND 3T "RIDGET Catholic Church celebrated Haiti Solidarity Sunday in February to support their sister parish, the Catholic Community of Carissade in Haiti. The two churches COLLECTED MORE THAN s 6IRGINIA #OMMONWEALTH 5NIVERSITY STUDENTS held canned-goods donations, a dance-a-thon, Greek Week penny wars, a jewelry sale and other events to raise money. The University of Richmond organized a day of activities in solidarity with Haiti. Students also hosted a basketball game fundraiser and silent art auction to benefit Haiti. s 4HE 2ICHMOND 0UBLIC 3CHOOLS ESTABLISHED RPS Cares: A Relief Effort for Haiti, a district-wide fundraising campaign for the American Red Cross and Doctors without Borders, while public and independent schools throughout the region held various fundraisers. Activities included a dodge ball tournament, bake sale, loose change collection, talent show, pajama day and water bottle collection. s #ARYTOWN MERCHANTS JOINED THE !REA Faith Community in screening the award-winning documentary, â€œGhosts of CitĂŠ Soleil,â€? which takes a harrowing look at Haitiâ€™s hellish slums, at the Byrd Theatre to benefit Haiti Outreach Ministries. s 7ILLIAMS -ULLEN THE 5NIVERSITY OF 2ICHMOND School of Law and the Hispanic Chamber of Commerce held a special pro bono immigration clinic to assist members of the Haitian community with new U.S. Department of Homeland Security provisions established after the earthquake.
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Full Plates Four times a year, chef Ida MaMusu offers the Cultural Cooking School for Girls, a 10-week program that aims to teach young women ages 11 to 16 the basic concepts of cooking and nutrition. Motivated by the desire to pass on the legacy of her grandmother and mentor, and give back to Richmond, the Liberian native often pays out of pocket for girls who can’t afford the $500 class fee, which includes food, field trips and a set of 32 pots and utensils for each graduate. In addition to running Chef MaMusu’s Africanne at 200 E. Main St., she can be found with her students on Tuesdays this spring at the Byrd House Market, where they’ll prepare and sell food to benefit the cooking school. What do classes consist of? I really don’t teach cooking; I teach the art. I don’t teach them recipes; I teach them how to make their own recipes by knowing the spices, knowing the temperature of the pot they’re cooking in, knowing how to shop in a grocery store. … We have the grocery store manager give them a tour of the grocery store, a butcher come in and teach them how to cut meats, representatives from the health department and the fire department teach them about food safety and fire safety. We visit restaurants where they Ed Wiles has logged hours, learn etiquette, how to talk to the80,000 waitress volunteer and not to choose the most giving back to the place that helped him start over. familiar thing on the menu. We talk girl stuff. We talk about their periods, personality, some of the problems they are having in school. Then, for three weeks, we actually cook.
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What life skills do your students learn? They learn the principles of eating healthy. Some of them come to me at 11 or 12 and they’re already overweight. You ask their favorite food, and they’ll tell you pizza, fried chicken — you never hear vegetables. … I had one kid who suffered from constipation, and because of that her hair was falling out, her stomach hurt, she was ill. And it was because she didn’t eat vegetables. One girl didn’t have regular periods, and it was because of her diet. I had a child who said she didn’t know chickens had parts — all she knew was the wings because that’s all she saw. Once I started working with them on how to eat better, everything changed.
What challenges do you face? Many of the kids that I teach are underprivileged, and they don’t have any money. Ninety percent of the kids can’t pay. I do what I can with the limited resources that I have. I don’t want to stop because of the economy; we just have to figure out a way to be creative and keep teaching. I’m not giving up. It’s my obligation. What is your greatest hope for your students? To learn not only to feed people, but to heal people through the art of cooking. That they shop looking for healing foods, food that can give them long, healthy lives. That they learn how to eat healthy without boundaries or fear. I tell them, “You never know where your life is going to take you. Now is the time to open yourself up to new ideas and new food.” To Learn More: Visit chefmamusuafricanne.com.
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Youth turn out for the Manchester Family YMCA’s Skate Park Adventures on a Saturday in April. Three branches of the Greater Richmond YMCA held special events as part of YMCA Healthy Kids Day to raise awareness about wellness and positive lifestyle changes for families.
Hearts of Generosity
Above: At a recent planning session for the wedding, from left: bride Kayleigh Wince, her mother, Kelly Wince with granddaughter, Layna, Mill at Fine Creek owner Lisa Benusa, the groom’s mother, Laura Nabili and wedding planner Lindsay Averette.
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Left: Kayleigh Wince and Brian Nabili the day of the proposal. The proposal was before his being diagnosed with cancer.
Bridal vendors say “I do” to a couple in need — and in love.
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t first glance it seems like a routine weddingplanning session: Lisa Benusa, owner of the Mill at Fine Creek in Powhatan County, leads the pretty, fresh-faced bride, Kayleigh Wince, 22, around the polished rooms at the historic site where her wedding ceremony, cocktails and reception will be held Feb. 21. “Are we OK with chocolate?” asks Lindsay Averette, the lead wedding planner, about the favors guests will take home.There are other decisions to be made: What shade of blue for the linens? What type of lilies for the flower arrangements? What kind of food? “He’s a burger man. But also steak,”Wince says of the tastes of her fiance, Brian Nabili, 24. It all seems normal, except it’s not. Not normal because this wedding is being crash planned in about two weeks. Not normal because almost every material aspect of the ceremony and reception — more than $30,000 worth of food, decorations, flowers, venue, planning, honeymoon hotel room and labor — is being donated by vendors from the Richmond wedding industry. Not normal because the groom suffers from an extremely rare cancer of the limbs called epithelioid sarcoma, and in November he was told he had six to eight months to live. The two-year engagement of Kayleigh
Wince and Brian Nabili has been fraught with misdiagnoses of Nabili’s illness, a slew of exhausting surgeries and a terminal prognosis. That’s all while they’ve been raising their two young children — Anthony, who is almost 2, and Layna, who is six months old. Wince works full-time as an operations manager, but Nabili has been unable to work for some time. The couple has been together since Wince was a junior in high school. But with all that’s been going on, there’s been no time — or money — to plan a full wedding before Nabili starts chemotherapy treatments in late February. “He said to me the other day … he’d marry me through a drive-through,”Wince says.The bride’s mom, Kelly Wince, says she was helping her daughter plan a simple ceremony and reception at Pocahontas State Park with a budget of about $500 for 150 guests. Laura Nabili, the groom’s mom, would help with the cooking. That plan changed two weeks ago. Kelly Wince wanted her daughter to have a much-needed night off, so she entered her in a contest for a girls’ night out sponsored by WTVR-6. Wince also sent an e-mail to Casey Burke Bunn, who was helping manage the contest through her Web site, RSVPhere. com, explaining why her daughter deserved some relaxation.
“My heart was breaking for her,” Bunn says.“I wanted to reach right through the computer and just comfort her.” Bunn relayed the couple’s story to Meghan Ely, a wedding industry consultant and the managing director of the Richmond Bridal Association.The wheels began turning. Ely sent a mass e-mail to just about every contact she had locally. Within an hour, Ely says, a flood of donations poured in — some from association members, some not. Many e-mails, Excel spreadsheets, blog updates and phone calls later, a dream wedding for Wince and Nabili was in the works. At the crash planning on a recent Tuesday, more logistics are discussed and options weighed.“I can pull all-nighters,” Laura Nabili says after the mill’s Benusa gives her the perfect extra fabric for some homemade sashes for the bridesmaids. Sometimes, amid excitement over the photo booth, analysis of the cake and cooing over baby Layna, who is along for the ride, the discussion turns to the sheer emotions running behind it all. “It still hasn’t completely sunk in to me and Brian,” Wince says. “You’re really helping us as much as we’re helping you,” Benusa says.
above: scott elmquist photo; inset: photo courtesy Kayleigh wince
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Children’s Health Involving Parents of Greater Richmond • Feb. 4 • Virginia Holocaust Museum
Fourteen fountains were flowing, most of them filled with chocolate — white, dark, milk and colored. Others held decadent peanut butter and caramel, or more savory cheese sauces — even gravy for a mashed-potato bar. More than 700 people attended the fifth annual Chocoholic, presented by Verizon, to benefit the Children’s Health Involving Parents, a nonprofit that works with families in need to improve the health of children. “It’s essentially a giant, chocolate happy hour,” director of development Amanda Abate Murphy says. The event featured Catering by Jill, Chocolate Fountain Bliss, a beer hall sponsored by Capital Ale House, and a variety of local specialty vendors. The charity also honored Dr. Sheldon Retchin, chief executive of the Virginia Commonwealth University’s Health System and vice president of VCU Health Sciences, with its Carl Woodson Champion for Children Award for his work improving health and for the university’s “commitment to eliminating health disparities” in the area. Without accounting for expenses, Murphy says, Chocoholic pulled in $60,000.
1 The fundraiser leaves no doubt: It’s about chocolate and more chocolate. 2 Jeff Conley of Wachovia Bank and Aisha Shamburger of VCU. 3 Dr. Sheldon Retchin wails on the harmonica to help raise additional funds. 4 Richard Womble of Rochonnet Delights offers Jay Ipson, executive director of the Holocaust Museum, a black cherry bourbon truffle. 5 Amy Berryhill, Jaime Woltz, Lauren Harrison and Krista Riedel. 6 Danielle Hunt, a volunteer for the evening, samples a strawberry and flowing chocolate fountain.
Richmond Ballet • Feb. 6 • The Commonwealth Club
RICHMOND GIVING | WINTER 2010
Yet another snowstorm may have hit Richmond, but it wasn’t enough to keep many of the 250 expected guests away from Richmond Ballet’s biggest fundraiser of the year, Uncorked. The 17th annual auction raised more than $235,000 to support the nonprofit arts group’s education, outreach and training programs, spokesman Aaron Sutten says. And the bids flew on luxurious wine-focused packages, such as a European vacation, the chance to make a barrel of wine and a dinner of a lifetime, featuring six rare wines paired with a six-course meal prepared in the winner’s home by chef Joseph Comfort, owner of the Iron Horse restaurant in Ashland.
1 David Shuford with auction committee members Helen Nunley, Walter Hooke and Renee Rohr. 2 Guests browse items featured in the silent auction. 3 Dancer Cecile Tuzii with dancer and resident artist, Igor Antonov. 4 Silent auction items featured wine in starring roles. 5 Board member Donna Ranson, with board chairman Mary Anne Hooker, Suzanne Crump and board secretary Cyane Crump. 6 Dancers Kara Brosky, Lauren Breen, Laurie Lou Garside and Fernando Sabino.
by Thom Horsey
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f you had asked me on Oct. 9, 1997, what the Greater Richmond ARC was or what it stood for, I wouldn’t have been able to tell you if my life depended on it. Then on October 10, 1997, my life — and my family’s — actually did. That was the day our daughter Mary Lyndell (“Liddy”) was born with Cornelia de Lange syndrome, and the ARC, formerly the Association for Retarded Citizens, became an integral part of our lives by providing pivotal guidance and therapies. I can tell you firsthand that parents face a lot of questions and fears when their children are first diagnosed with a disability: How will we care for them? Will they learn to walk or talk or feed themselves? Will they be able to go to school, get jobs, or someday live by themselves? What made the association so important was that its trained childhood specialists focused on not only Liddy, but also our entire family in the belief that healthy individuals are best served by healthy families. In fact, ARC was founded more than 50 years ago by a group of families for families, and that focus remains unchanged. There were a lot of triumphs in our journey. At 28 months, Liddy started walking, holding onto our coffee table for help. That’s when we threw out the milestone books and let Liddy be Liddy. She didn’t talk, but she expressed herself plenty, especially her own happiness: She was always laughing and giggling. Liddy died when she was 8, not because of her developmental disorder, but from complications related to lymphoma. I miss her. I won’t ever forget what I learned from her. I won’t forget my connection to the association either. As an ARC advocate, I’ve been in the front lines working to generate funds for much-needed services. These include the association’s Infant and Child Development Services program that annually serves almost 600 children and their families throughout Richmond, providing on-site and at-home visits and specialized services including occupational, speech and physical therapies. We were fortunate to have the resources to enroll Liddy in that kind of program, but not everyone is — which is why we started the Ladybug wine tasting and dinner fundraisers 10 years ago. The money raised each spring helps families in financial need to obtain the necessary services for their children. The program has proven critical for the entire family: A survey of associa-
tion participants showed close to two-thirds of the children receiving some type of therapy or educational service mastered their goals or showed significant progress. Importantly, 100 percent (yes, you read that right) of the parents and caregivers expressed greater confidence in meeting their child’s needs. There’s no price tag you can put on those results. Along with the upcoming Ladybug fundraiser, the association will make news in the next few months with the opening of ARCenter on Saunders Avenue, a building to house Infant and Child Development Services and the most fragile of the association’s clients, who range in age from infancy through adulthood. For example, the center will serve children with developmental disabilities who are of school age and who need an after-school program so their parents can remain employed or pursue an education. To date, providing almost 100 children and teenagers with after-school and summer day services has reaped results, with 90 percent of the participants improving their social skills, as but one example. Additionally, this program has allowed almost 100 percent of the parents and caregivers of children in attendance to remain employed or continue their education. As a community, our responsibility is to nurture and support our children. These programs go one step further, providing a framework and safety net for the entire family. And I can tell you firsthand, these programs are essentials because no one can foresee the future, and life can change dramatically. Sometimes in just a day.
[They] Focused not only on liddy, but also our entire family in the belief that healthy individuals are served by healthy families.
RICHMOND GIVING | WINTER 2010
Thom Horsey is past president of the board of directors of Greater Richmond ARC, formerly the Association for Retarded Citizens. The Ladybug Wine Dinner will be held March 29 at 6 p.m. at the Old Original Bookbinder’s Restaurant. Tickets are $150; the Ladybug Winetasting and Silent Auction will be held May 2, 6-9 p.m., at Plant Zero in Manchester. Tickets are $75. For information call 804-358-1874 or visit richmondarc.org. Opinions expressed in First Person are those of the writer and not necessarily those of Richmond Giving.
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