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February 2011

Sex therapy explained Seafood makes the party February outings for the lovelorn Lusting for an accent



Truth [ C o m i n g t o t er m s w i t h y ou r bod y. ]





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Put a finger in bling … Kits to bake at home from Pizza Tonight … Candy shop sentimentality … bridging traditional and contemporary at bohland and Graham … The work of sex therapist Norma Caruso … Scrubbing off winter at the spa… by Katherine Houstoun Mod MoM: your house gets greener with make-it-yourself

cleaning products. by Karen Guard 11



dETAILS: Dress the vanity with elements of French style,

both vintage and new. by Lauren Healy. 13



ProFILE: anya Lynn Garten puts all of herself on the line.

by Karen Newton 15

BodY & SoUL


LUSH LIFE: Love, or lack thereof, can’t stop us from explor-

ing richmond in February. by Karen Newton 16

ALTErNATIvES: When I drop my guard, (and my clothes,) I see myself as an artist sees me. by Valley Haggard 19


FITNESS: Commitment to better health and bodies drives three local women to the gym. by Katherine Houstoun 20




AgENdA: What do anderson Cooper, Giselle and John

Mellencamp have in common? They’re here this month. by Deveron Timberlake, Hilary Langford and Julie Geen 22




ENTErTAININg: annie Chalkley’s seafood prowess

promises dinner party perfection. by Tess Autrey Bosher 24



It’s not you, it’s your accent. by Julie Geen 30

oN THE CovEr: photo by Tom Smith/Shutterstock.

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belle Publisher: Lori

Collier Waran

Editor in Chief:

Jason Roop Editor: Deveron

Timberlake Art Director:

Jeffrey Bland Scott Elmquist Lauren Healy

Photography Editor: Fashion Editor:

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Tess Autrey Bosher, Julie Geen, Karen Guard, Valley Haggard, Katherine Houstoun, Hilary Langford, Karen Newton Copy Editor: G.W.


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Sarah Soble Coyne Administrative Support Team:

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From the Publisher I am in love with Richmond. Love. Infatuated even. I’m obsessed with everything local: restaurants, shops, birds, gardens, Twitter personalities. I love Richmond. But when I was asked a few years back to join the Style Weekly team, I said very quickly and without hesitation, “No.” The voice of Richmond for (at that time) 24 years was too important, too precious, for me to do it any service. Although I grew up in Richmond (more specifically, Hanover -- go Atlee High!), I was certain they’d picked the wrong woman. I won’t bore you with the back-and-forth details, but let’s just say after a while I was convinced enough that I could, with the promise of surrounding myself with a crazy amount of talent, help deliver to Richmond readers the kind of information they seek each week from Style. So like any proper woman will do without apologies, I changed my mind. After listening to Richmonders, the one theme that continued to echo for me was that the community lacked a publication or information source that would speak directly to the women of Richmond. It wouldn’t patronize; it would provide meaningful content; it would give them ideas, spark creativity, start healthy debates and allow them to consider other points of view. It would have entertaining components to include fashion, art, or sex (cue the gasp!). And because I love local, it would be 100 percent local. Nothing canned that you could read in any city. No, Richmond is a unique lady. She needs a voice of her own because the women in Richmond deserve that. Within two months of starting my tenure as publisher, we launched Belle. It evolved from a bimonthly to a monthly within the first year because of you, the Richmond woman. We’re grateful that you continue to return to Belle each month. We’re even more grateful for your feedback. And to show you that we listen, Editor Deveron Timberlake and her team will introduce new features in the coming months. Again, local content, written by local writers, so you can simply lie back, read and enjoy. Lori Collier Waran

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Vintage 1970s 14karat gold and cut glass ring, $465 at Anthill Antiques Chan Luu sterling silver rough-cut gemstone ring, $146 at GlassBoat Three-stone ring, $102 at Ruby at Shops at 5807 Glow by Sheila Fajl faceted round aqua jade ring, $70 at Pink

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Pizza Persona

Midwinter evenings can be less than inspirational when it comes to preparing homemade meals. Give yourself a break with pizza packets from Pizza Tonight, a new company offering do-it-yourself kits that feature artisan pizza dough, eight handcrafted sauces and magic sprinkles, a savory spice blend that provides the perfect finishing touch. It takes owner Victoria Deroche che 24 hours to make the dough, but it will take you only a few minutes to roll it out, sauce it up and pile it high with your personal combination of toppings. The result? Fresh-from-the-oven Neapolitan pizza with minimal effort. Stay tuned for gluten-free pizza dough and on-site catering services, complete with a portable wood-fired pizza oven. Pizza kits available at J. Emerson Fine Wine and Cheese, river City Cellars, Nate’s Taco Truck Stop, belmont butchery and through Fall Line Farms and relay Foods. Find out more at

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a modern update on the old-fashioned candy store, sweet spot at 2228 old brick road near short pump is a literal candy land, with all of the eye-popping colors and mouthwatering treats such a place requires. with vintage candies, handcrafted chocolates, bin candy and 50 flavors of soda, the shop offers plenty of options for spoiling your loved ones come valentine’s day. we asked the three candy-loving proprietors — who among them have nine children younger than 13 — to reveal what they’ll be gifting come Feb. 14.

Kate Vernon Favorite sweet to give:

Five separate gifts: cool Mountain blue raz soda, sour patch Kids in bulk, cow tales, triple power push pop and lightup bug gummies. To whom: My five kids Because: they always want the exact same thing, so i love to give them exactly that.

Chrissy Triano Favorite sweet to give:

peanut butter truffles

To whom: My husband Because: For him,

the perfect combination for a sweet treat is chocolate and peanut butter.

Sarah Solomon

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Favorite sweet to give: old Faithful

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and necco wafers To whom: My dad Because: My memories are of sitting on the couch and eating candy with my dad. i remember him buying these candies at a candy store in pennsylvania where he grew up.

s t y l e & s u b s ta n c e


r. norMa caruso Knows a thing or two about sex. a certified sexuality therapist, she’s treated individuals and couples in her private practice in richmond for 15 years and presented her work on treating sexual difficulties at professional seminars both nationally and internationally. with a bachelor’s degree in nursing and a master’s degree in psychiatric nursing, she also teaches at the Medical college of virginia and the international psychotherapy institute, a postgraduate program in the washington area. we asked her about what goes on in sex therapy. Belle: As a sex therapist, what are some common

concerns that you hear from clients? caruso: women frequently come in concerned about lack of sexual desire or difficulty achieving orgasm. Men commonly seek sex therapy for problems with premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. often times, couples ask for help to deal with differences in their levels of sexual desire. What should people expect from sex therapy? i work to understand the problem in the first session and gather more history and define goals with the client in later sessions. i may give individuals or couples assignments to complete at home between therapy sessions to help them accomplish their goals. in subsequent meetings, i have the clients discuss their success or difficulty in carrying out the exercises, as well as other obstacles impeding their progress. What are some misconceptions about women and sex? common misconceptions include views of women as passive, disinterested or less capable sexually than men. women’s sexual responses are actually

photo by scott elmquist

sex diagnosed

varied and complex. each woman needs to identify and enjoy her patterns and preferences. What myth would you like to debunk once and for all? people tend to believe that only women and the elderly experience loss of sexual desire. in fact, it occurs in all age groups and in males as well as females. a loss of sexual desire can be difficult to acknowledge and can put a tremendous strain on a relationship, especially because our culture tells us that everyone should enjoy sex. Why do you think our culture continues to reinforce such a misleading notion? How can cultural beliefs affect people? cultural beliefs around sex are deeply ingrained in us and therefore very difficult to change. unfortunately, they can limit our potential, create unrealistic expectations and put undue pressure on males and females. What wisdom do you hope clients will come away with from sex therapy? i want people to know that sexuality is complex. it can be affected by upbringing, experiences, attitudes, cultural values, lifestyle, psychological well-being and overall health. understanding these dimensions and building a solid sense of self enhances a person’s ability to fully express their sexuality. How would someone go about selecting a sexuality therapist? you might start by discussing your problem with your health care practitioner and asking them for recommendations. the american association of sexuality educators, counselors and therapists ( also provides the names of certified therapists in your area.

Just browsing [operatic edition.]

Website picks from Richmond women.

Melissa citro

Soprano with the Virginia Opera

Melissa citro, a new york city-based soprano, is no stranger to richmond, having performed strauss’ “Four last songs” with the richmond symphony in 2009. a scholarship winner at westminster choir college and the Juilliard school, the rising star returns to sing the role sieglinde in “the valkyrie,” her debut with the virginia opera. it plays at richmond’s centerstage on Feb. 25 at 8 p.m., or Feb. 27 at 2:30 p.m. visit for details and tickets. citro tells us about some of her favorite websites.

the rest is noise alex ross, music critic for the new yorker, writes this blog with a focus on contemporary classical music. i’ve heard and loved a lot of music for the first time here.

sittercity i have found babysitters in multiple cities through this service. it’s a good resource for traveling parents.

unhappy Hipsters i keep going back to this when i need to laugh.


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st y l e & s u b s ta n c e

a good scrubbing February brings grey skies, bitter winds and itchy, scaly skin. While you can’t do anything about the first two, take care of the latter with a fully indulgent body treatment. Consider it your midwinter pick-me-up. Salt Glow body treatment: This body exfoliation nurtures dry

skin, refines pores and conditions the body with essential oils all while enjoying a light massage. Includes a cleaning facial. $150 at ava’s Day Spa, 9127-T W. broad St. 747-9288. detox banana-leaf body wrap: Dry brushing stimu-

lates the lymphatic system and promotes detoxification, an aloe mixture soothes and nourishes the muscles and a banana-leaf wrap helps to draw toxins from your system. The 90-minute treatment is finished off with a Dead Sea mineral moisturizer. $165 at Kneading Therapy, 8658 Staples Mill road. 261-6004. Hot oil wrapSody and body Scrub: Enjoy 60 minutes

followed by a warm body wrap, complete with a soothing scalp and foot massage. $100 at renewal Day Spa, 9780 Midlothian Turnpike. 320-8094. Vanilla and laVender SuGar Scrub body treatment: This

treatment removes dead skin cells with a full-body dry brush and hydrating cane-sugar scrub, then moisturizes with organic bamboo silk lotion during a light massage. $90 at La Luna Massage, 3500 Grove ave., Suite 106. 484-2876.

photos by scott elmquist

of relaxation with an invigorating full-body exfoliation

tHe new traditionals if happy hour at acacia Mid-town is on the agenda, you might consider swinging by a few minutes early to check out the restaurant’s new neighbor, bohland and graham, a home store featuring american and english antiques and contemporary furnishings. owners liz and Mark ughetta stock their vast, airy shop with items they get locally and during their travels, which lately have included germany and Jackson Hole, wyo. liz, who previously worked at christie’s in new york, says she’s inspired by designer darryl carter’s “new traditional” style, which seamlessly blends the modern with the classical. “it’s a great description of the look we’re going for,” she says. “we have very traditional chippendale settees, but they’re unfinished and raw. it’s a mixture of textiles and styles.” bohland and graham is at 2605 w. cary st., 859-1577.

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Early 20th century marble lamps with silk shades, $500 a pair Turn-ofthe-century bamboo corner chair, $950

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Make eco-friendly products for a breath of fresh house. Karen guard

I illustration by JeFF bland/photo by scott elmquist


’ve always been a little worried about the household cleaners i use. what kind of crazy chemicals am i breathing in? then i had children and knew i had to make a change. i wanted to understand all of the ingredients and know that the household cleaners i exposed my family to wouldn’t be toxic. all the “green” and “eco” labels in the grocery store’s detergent section seem more confusing than just mixing up a few simple ingredients. Making cleaners at home really is that easy and provides some peace of mind, knowing i’m doing my best to keep my kids healthy. but it turns out that there are a lot of other benefits, too: you save money. it’s better for the earth — fewer chemicals, less wasted packaging. and, my favorite, you can totally customize your creations by adding your favorite scents. goodbye pine, unless that’s what you’re into! My two favorite recipes are here, but you can also make your own floor cleaner, bath scrub, laundry detergent and dishwasher detergent. once you have all your ingredients on hand these cleaners are super easy to throw together. add cute labels to your spray bottles and make cleaning a little happier, knowing you are making things better for your family and the environment.

all purpose cleaner IngredIenTs

• ¾ cup distilled white vinegar • 1 cup hydrogen peroxide • 1½ teaspoons castile soap (such as Dr. bronner’s) • 30 drops tea tree oil (this is a disinfectant) • 30 drops essential oil — use your favorite scent or combination (my favorites are lemon verbena, grapefruit or mint) dIrecTIons

Place all ingredients in a 32-ounce spray bottle using a funnel or a measuring cup with a spout. Add water until the bottle’s full. Shake to mix and get to cleaning.

glass cleaner IngredIenTs

• 1 cup rubbing alcohol • 1 cup water • 1 tablespoon white vinegar • 30 drops essential oil dIrecTIons

Place all ingredients in a spray bottle using a funnel or a measuring cup with a spout. Shake to mix.


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Fa s h i o n C u e s


French Dressing Objects of affection for the lady’s vanity. by

Lauren HeaLy

Blue silk chiffon Renoir gown (as backdrop) by Mary Green San Francisco ($146) at Lavender and Lace. Côté Bastide fleurs d’oranger toilet water ($36) Côté Bastide ambre eau de toilette ($28) and 1940s glass perfume bottle ($58) at Bygones. Pearl and chain bracelet with heart charm by Sara Garza ($30) at Sheppard Street Antiques. Chanel Spring 2011 nail color No. 489 Rose Insulent and No. 515 Pêche NacréE ($25) and Rouge Allure luminous satin lip color No. 85 Coquette ($32) at Saks Fifth Avenue.

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Hair combs made of vintage costume jewelry by Charla Bjostad ($38) at Pleiades Bridal Design Studio and Bygones.

find it HErE:

Bygones 2916 W. Cary St. 353-1919 Lavender and Lace 306 Libbie Ave. 484-6005 Pleiades Bridal Design Studio Designer Charla Bjostad By appointment only 1835 W. Grace St. 340-2966 Saks Fifth Avenue 9214 Stony Point Parkway 320-6960 Sheppard Street Antiques 103 S. Sheppard St. 355-7454


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The Shape of Words

Anya Lynn Garten has nothing to hide.


Karen Newton

fluctuated significantly. “It’s like I’m a work of art and I’m doing it for the sake of the art,” she says. Although she’d done commercial and advertising modeling in Colorado and South Korea, she discovered that the older she got, the less marketability she had in those fields. The academic world of modeling offered other benefits too, specifically role modeling. “When I take off my clothes for students at an age where their body images are forming, they can see a body with breasts that are sagging a little without a bra, that has a little paunch and show them that I do think I’m beautiful.” Garten recalls that growing up, most of her role models were men, and finding women who were intelligent as well as attractive was challenging — until she left for college and then she found herself surrounded by them. One of her professors, the embodiment of the smart, pretty woman, told her that she’d had a difficult time being accepted for both qualities. After her first year of teaching, her students’ comments ranged from “great legs” to “nice ass” to “wear shorter skirts.” She told Garten that such impres-

sions were not great for her teaching reputation. “That’s why I turned to writing at this part of my life,” Garten says — “to help reconcile, to tell my story of survival, the eating issues I survived, to give back and help affirm body image in young girls. You’d be hard-pressed to find a woman who hasn’t had a struggle with weight or body image.” She’s also working on a full-length memoir to be called is “33 ½ Condoms Later,” dealing with body image and insight into life with family members’ severe weight issues and debilitating mental illness. Because reading had always been a way for her to understand that she wasn’t alone in her struggles as a young person, Garten hopes that her book can do the same for girls and women trying to deal with a beauty standard that says younger and thinner is always better. “The satisfaction is different than from nude modeling,” Garten says. “When you use words, no one knows what you look like. Writing has helped me find my voice and identity. Without finding that voice, I would still be anorexic, still trying to look a certain way.”

photo by scott elmquist

t was an eighth-grade bout with anorexia that caused Anya Lynn Garten to take up journaling and poetry writing to deal with her selfesteem issues. The young adult writing award she won as a result was affirming enough to shift the focus from her body to her intellect. Now well past middle-school anxiety, Anya Lynn models for Virginia Commonwealth University classes, sometimes in the fashion department and other times as a nude model for art classes. She’s also posing for a series of silk-screened portraits by a local artist, some full-body nude shots and some in lingerie, pinup-girl-style. “You have to hold a pose for 20 to 30 minutes at a time,” she says over a hot toddy on a snowy morning in Carytown. “It takes practice. I think of it as a dance because you have to change poses every 20 seconds and learn to stretch the movement. I’m inspired by Degas’ work. You have to be aware of your body from 360 degrees. Standard models only have to worry about the front view.” Garten finds nude modeling, whether for students or a professional artist, affirming for her body image, even as she’s aged and her weight has



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Lush Life

Where to go this month no matter who’s in your party.


Karen newton


upids, hearts, doilies — it’s pretty tough to ignore all the odes to romance that seem to have appeared the moment the Christmas stuff came down. Lovers may not mind, but for the relationship challenged it’s tough to navigate around so much bliss. but there are ways, both to embrace it and stand up to it. Keep in mind that in addition to St. Valentine’s Day, February is also Creative romance ance Month. I like to think that that designation gives those of us without a sweetie ways to embrace the love without feeling obvious about being unattached.

Sparkling EvEning: wouldn’t uldn’t it be lovely to spend the evening tasting a variety of sparkling wines with your honey? wouldn’t uldn’t it be just as enjoyable to grab a friend and do the same? enough bubbles and you’re going to have fun either way. the e Virginia Museum’s First Friday event this month features a sparkler tasting with all kinds of romantic bubbles, such as Spanish cavas, Italian proseccos and French champagnes. amuse’s manager will pour a variety of his favorites, offering you and whomever a chance to imbibe and enrich your sparkler knowledge. afterward, ffterward, terward, you’ll most certainly want a bite to eat to soak up some of those bubbles (unless you’re heading straight home with your beloved and then you hardly need suggestions from me). yo y you u have two choices right there in the museum: best Café. or,, consider a short drive to amuse and be Fanhouse for a variety of small and large plates (the crazy dumplings are a must munch) under the watchful eye of Lady Godiva over the bar. Depending on your mood (and companion), how about sharing the Lady Godiva chocolate bread pudding, warm and with an abundance of sauce and cocoa-dusted ice cream? Chocolate and bubbles equal love anyway, at least in my book. Bard’S night Out: the loved and the lonely alike can appreciate raging teenage hormones and Juliet” at the Carand controlling parents, so richmond Shakespeare’s production of “romeo “ penter Center downtown is just the ticket. best of all, it’s not showing on Valentine’s Day, so you can enjoy the troubled romance from thursdays through Saturdays, Feb. 11-26, without feeling like everyone knows you couldn’t scare up a date for the big day. If you go on a Friday or Saturday night and want a cozy place for dinner before the show, nine north rth Fourth is only a few blocks away and, as the new kid on the block, offers a changing and interesting dinner menu to entice you to give them a try. If you’re with a sweetie, get a cell-phone photo of the two of you in the old phone booth in the back. Love in a phone booth, how retro.

Lady Godiva bread pudding at Fanhouse

Jeffrey Cole and Liz blake White play romeo and Juliet

rOmantic intErludES: while ile there may be some guys who would appreciate a classic romantic tale like that of Scarlett o’Hara and rhett butler, tler, chances are better you have some girlfriends who’d be all about an evening devoted to that great Southern romance. Gather them up for a night with ellen brown, author of “Margaret Mitchell’s Gone with the wind: a bestseller’s estseller’s odyssey from atlanta to Hollywood,” at Page bond Gallery on Feb. 18. If the romantic talk of rhett and Scarlett doesn’t satisfy all your needs, bellytimber, a block away, should be able to help with some of them. Including wood-fired pizzas, seldomseen pierogi and roast beast sandwiches, its emphasis is on casual with local ingredients. and it’ll give you and the girls a chance to talk about lost love. (Did Scarlett ever really get over losing the love of her life? Discuss amongst yourselves.) I’m as romantically inclined as the next girl, but I refuse to let a holiday devoted to love keep me from enjoying myself. the e way I look at it, the more times I’m out alone, the more chances I have to meet some guy who’s out there solo too. to t love and lust and all the possibilities of February!

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Saturday, February 19th, 2011

Jonathan Austin, Richmond’s favorite juggler with magic up his sleeve will be making us ooh and awh starting at 12:30pm

12-4pm • FREE and open to the public

Science Museum of Virginia Got cabin fever? Thinking about your kid’s summer plans? Then join us at Camp Connection! Enjoy an afternoon of fun-filled activities while meeting representatives from camps and summer programs.

Nutzy from the Richmond Flying Squirrels, will be shaking hands and available for photos from 1 – 2pm

Latin Ballet of Virginia performing at 1pm

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or call Tonie at 804-358-0614 x 331

Uncle Tyrone will make us laugh out loud with his own special brand of kid’s comedy at 2:30pm

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389 Nude Photos of Me


So this is what I look like naked.

etween February and July of 2010, artist Susan Singer took 389 nude photographs of me. Our first shoot was, in many ways, like a first date. I shaved my legs, preened in front of the mirror and, after putting my clothes back on, wondered what the hell had just happened. In other ways, however, our photo shoot couldn’t have been more different. Singer, who helps women work through bodyimage issues by painting them exactly as they are, helped me process my tumultuous mix of feelings as they came up, coaxing me through my most self-conscious moments and awkward poses. She offered only praise and encouragement as I stood in front of her red backdrop and arranged myself in her wingchair. but despite desperately trying to edit the narrative unfolding behind my glasses, the photographs we looked at later told the whole story. There I was — folds and curves, breasts and thighs, cellulite and scars. I went home and ate an entire bag of potato chips. like every other woman I know, I have a complicated relationship with my body. as a writer I spend most of my time in my head, conveniently ignoring everything it’s attached to. Through the years I’ve attempted to remedy this. I’ve gone on women’s retreats where we vowed never to insult our bodies again. I’ve had my body traced on butcher paper to get a realistic sense of its shape. and when someone complains about gaining five pounds, I laugh,


Valley Haggard

because I never gain five without gaining 50. but how much I do or don’t weigh is only one portion of the getting-painted-naked pie. I know intellectually that I’ve survived a lot more than a mere undressing: 35 years of sporadic hedonism, irregular exercise, multiple surgeries, pregnancies and birth, to name a few. Still, I’m not sure I won’t die if someone other than my husband sees hard evidence of this. What’s the line between pushing myself to the edge of my comfort zone and shameless exhibitionism? Singer’s pastels and oil paintings are clearly a joyful celebration of the human body in all of its perfect imperfection, but that’s easier for me to say when I’m looking at someone else. In 2009, Katie Shaw, curator of the Flippo gallery and an adjunct art professor at randolph-Macon College, asked me to participate in the artists and Writers Show in February 2011. I agreed instantly. I had no idea what I was going to do, but when I ran into Singer a few months later, a light went off. I’d seen her paintings of women of every age, shape and size before, and they’d struck me as glorious and groundbreaking. Was it really OK to be that fat or that skinny and that exposed? because the very thought of being naked in front of other people terrified me, I knew it was perfect. Why not take advantage of a gallery exhibition to work through one of my biggest fears? despite the initial shock of seeing myself in full color below the neck, something happened

between Valentine’s day and our second photo shoot in July. I’d just gotten back from the beach, but it wasn’t the tan that made me feel at home in my skin. The physical act of being naked in front of Singer for a few hours had actually done more for my body image issues than a lifetime of talking about them. I hadn’t died! and no one else had either. In fact, I’d felt more alive — more me — than I had since being a toddler running bare-bottomed around my own backyard. I pranced around Singer’s studio like it was not just my second nature, but my true nature. Instead of hiding behind props, I strutted my stuff. and the results were … gorgeous. I looked like a person who knew — and was happy — that her head connected to her body. am I now the body-image poster child? Not exactly. Will I be wearing a bikini to the pool next summer? doubtful. but standing beside Singer’s paintings and photographs documenting my journey in a well-lighted room full of other people will be a testament to how far I’ve come. My body didn’t undergo a drastic transformation when Singer painted it, but the way I feel — and think — about it did. The Artists and Writers Show, featuring Valley Haggard and Susan Singer, among other collaborative pairs, will be held in the Flippo Gallery of Randolph-Macon College in Ashland from Feb. 18-April 1, with a reception Feb. 20 from 3-5 p.m.


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Buff Minded


n Jan. 1, just about every woman has a firm grip on her new year’s resolution to lose weight, get fit and generally live healthier. Come February we’re more likely to be gripping a juicy cheeseburger with extra mayo. There are some women, though, who overcome the common self-control obstacles to embrace long-lasting changes. Here are secrets of three Richmonders who like their fitness straight up.


Katherine Cabell An account supervisor at the Martin Agency, Cabell got inspired by supermodel Heidi Klum. The 30-yearold was running several times a week when she read an article in which Klum explained her after-baby body. “She was quoted as saying something like: ‘You have to be realistic. What did you look like before?’” Cabell recalls. “I started to think, ‘It’s only going to get harder to stay in shape.’ That got me committed.” Describe a typical week in your fitness life. I am at Richmond Balance every day by 5:40 a.m. On Monday, Wednesday and Friday, I have a one-hour session with my personal trainer followed by an hour of cardio. On Tuesday and Thursday, I do an hour of cardio and then swim for 30 to 40 minutes. On Saturday, my boyfriend and I go to the gym in the morning together for an hour of cardio and then 30 to 45 minutes of weights, abs and stretching. Sundays are optional. What is your definition of being fit? It’s about being strong. It’s about being confident. It’s about knowing that your body can do anything if you are dedicated. What’s the hardest part of staying fit? In the beginning it was just going, but as you start to

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Katherine Houstoun

see how much you can accomplish and how powerful your body can be, it gets easier and ultimately you can’t imagine not going. For me today, it’s being more disciplined about what I eat; just because I burned a thousand calories in the morning does not entitle me to eat cookies all day — and I totally want to. How do you stay motivated, especially during the winter? For me, year round, the motivation is all about the me time — I am alone, I am listening to my favorite music, and it gives me time to mentally prepare for the day. I am also mayor of Richmond Balance via FourSquare, and it really bugs me to think someone might take it if I skip a day. How does being fit affect other areas of your life? I am so, so, so, so much happier. I have a very stressful job and I wasn’t handling it well before I committed to my current lifestyle. I also feel good about myself. I still have tons of insecurities but there is a different confidence that comes from being strong, not just skinny. What words of wisdom or inspiration can you offer wannabe fitness buffs? Get a trainer. I know it can be expensive, but it will change your life. Not just how you look, but your life. It was the best decision I have ever made, and I am so, so thankful for all the amazing positivity [my trainer] has brought to my life.

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Three Richmond women fill themselves with fitness.

Becky Eschenroeder

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Eschenroeder’s grandmother nicknamed her Rebecca LaBounce for the boundless energy she displayed as a child. She spent her childhood engaged in athletics — soccer, swimming, basketball, field hockey, lacrosse — and her college years in the gym, books in tow. As a 26-year-old teacher’s aide at St. Andrew’s School in Oregon Hill, she’s found stability in yoga. “After one class I was absolutely hooked,” she says. “Now my fitness life is much more balanced.”


Describe a typical week in your fitness life. Every day I get up at 5:20 a.m. and go work out at the YMCA and study while I’m there. Then I run after students up and down four stories at school all day. I teach yoga [about five classes a week], and whenever possible I practice at home because I feel that’s a very important part of being a teacher, continuing my own practice. What is your definition of being fit? I would say feeling healthy and balanced on a mental and physical level.

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How do you stay motivated, especially during the winter? I think it’s just positive, the benefits I get, the friends I make at the gym. It gives me so much energy. The way I work studying into it or to watch TV or read magazines while I’m working out, I really look forward to that. The rewards just come. Do you set fitness goals? My parents are fit, aware and active and my goals are to be as healthy and active and energetic in my 50s as they are. I’m blessed to have such incredible role models.

Jane Stafford

How does being fit affect other areas of your life? One of my goals is balance, and being physically fit is a huge part of that. I am able to not only be more fulfilled in my own life through fitness, but it also allows me to be a vessel of fulfillment in the lives of others, to be able to practice what I preach in a way. One of my number one priorities, even when I’m on vacation, is being physically active. It’s such a gift.

Stafford, 65, had been overweight most of her life when she received a wake-up call from a type-two diabetes diagnosis four years ago. A self-proclaimed “stop-and-start fitness and diet person,” the lawyer and consultant made some serious changes, joining Richmond Alternative Center for Health (formerly Richmond Athletic Club) and learning to control her portion size. “I’ve lost more than 30 pounds, and I no longer take diabetes medication,” she says. “I love going to the gym. I fell in love with how I feel.”

What words of wisdom or inspiration can you offer wannabe fitness buffs? Two words come directly from my teacher: Stay encouraged. My teacher exemplified to me somebody who looked at life and said, “I’m going to make my life what I want it to be.” She overcame disabilities with beautiful poses — it made me believe I could really do it. You get what you give: If you put positivity out into the universe, that’s what you get in return. — Interviewed by Deveron Timberlake

Describe a typical week in your fitness life. It’s pretty standard. Twice a week, I work out for an hour with weights with a personal trainer, who I love dearly. At least three days a week, I will do an hour at least of cardio with my iPod in my ears. I don’t run; I’m a walker. Generally, I have a solid five-day program. What is your definition of being fit? I think being fit is having the energy, enthusiasm, strength and endurance to do what you want to do. It isn’t that you can run a mile or lift 300 pounds. It’s personal to you. It’s what lets you live your life the way you want to. What’s the hardest part of staying fit? The hardest part of staying fit is staying dedicated to it. I think you have to do something every day. I don’t think you have to get dressed and go to the gym every day, but I think you should do something. The other side of that is trying to make sure that you eat right every day. If you fill up on bad carbs, you don’t want to work out.

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How do you stay motivated, especially during the winter? I feel so good. I have so much energy and so much enthusiasm for life that it scares me not to stay fit. It’s self-motivating. How does being fit affect other areas of your life? My mind is sharper. My enthusiasm is greater. I can get [my work] done more quickly. I’m just a different person. I’m not depressed; I don’t let the weather get me down. Your wellness infects your body with wellness. What words of wisdom or inspiration can you offer wannabe fitness buffs? Start small. Don’t go out and try to do three hours because you’ll hurt and never go back. Fifteen minutes can be your starting point. If you’re going to work out in a gym, find a gym that matches you, that makes you feel comfortable. And don’t give up.


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normality Optional

By Degrees anderson Cooper, object of news junkies’ affection and a Cnn anchor favorite, talks world politics, disasters and media in two appearances at the richmond forum, feb. 19 and 20. Single event tickets for the landmark Theatre program are $36-$70. See for details on a special matinee lecture added to accommodate fans.

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folkie Jenn Wasner claims that “everyone wants to be normal, but no one truly is.” it’s the basis for Wye oak’s third album, “Civilian.” The baltimore duo remains ethereal and devastating, harnessing the beauty of wandering guitar solos, expansive synths and dreamy brushed drums. occasionally they crank things up with reverberating riffs and electric beats, but it remains a mostly solemn affair. Wasner has one of the most unforgettable voices of indie rock and insists on breaking your heart with every song. prepare to be mesmerized. — H.L.


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“now ow you feel my heart and know I’m for real,” Charles bradley belts on “Golden rule,” one of the standout tracks from the 62-year-old’s roof-raising debut album. Inspired by a hard-knock life and early exposure to James brown live at the apollo, bradley’s radley’s songs smolder and kick up a funk. bouncing ouncing bass lines, chunky guitar licks and melodic horns flank the singer’s rasp, which gives a nod to both the godfather of soul and Otis redding. Gloriously unpolished, this is authentic heart and soul music. — H.L.

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if the fragrance of hyacinths gets you going, “The Garden is for lovers” month of valentine’s floral displays might lure you in. Consider lunch or brunch in the tea house and a circuit around the gift shop at lewis Ginter botanical Garden, 1800 lakeside ave. admission is $10; members get in free.

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The first thing author alisa bowman does in the introduction to her book is to assure you that you’re ok, “even if several times a week, day, or even hour you fantasize about your spouse conveniently dropping dead.” in this moving and often hilarious memoir and selfhelp hybrid, bowman candidly shares the near demise of her marriage and how she turned it around. She addresses typical marital issues such as poor communication, power struggles and never wanting to have sex with your spouse again. Her solutions include a bikini wax, lessons in the oft-overlooked art of being nice, and a dose of truth about expectations, sex differences and compromise. The happily married likely know her secrets. The unhappily married just might learn something. — J.G.

love afTerlife Fairy tales make beautiful ballet, as in the case of “Giselle,” whose devotion to love makes this performance of the richmond ballet particularly timely. With choreography by Malcolm burn and music from the richmond Symphony, this Carpenter Center performance showcases the city’s cultural institutions. Three performances Feb. 11-13; tickets are $15-$125.

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John mellencamp rides high after the well-received “no better Than This” album, and plays it for richmond on feb. 24 at 7 p.m. at the landmark Theatre. Super fans can pay $255 for a premium package; other tickets are $54.90-$143.80 and include a download of the album. a documentary of last summer’s dylanmellencamp-nelson baseball stadium tour opens the show.


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g r e at ta s t e


Seafood Supper Caterer Annie Chalkley leads us into deep waters.


hen Annie Chalkley, a born-andbred New Yorker, was engaged to be married to a Virginia gentleman 30 years ago, she couldn’t find a local caterer who could break out of the ham-biscuit rut and provide the sophisticated menu she wanted for her Charles City County wedding. So the young bride with a master’s degree in fine art and no culinary training catered the reception herself, launching a threedecade career.

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These days her thriving business takes her all over Virginia, catering special events from intimate dinners for 10 to weddings for hundreds. From the start, Chalkley’s inspiration has been “interesting freshness,” she says, blending her love for fine ingredients shipped in from the best purveyors — Italian olive oils and vinegars, bread from New York — with an appreciation for fresh, local flavors. Local to Chalkley can mean Powhatan or her own backyard on the James River; she and her husband, an avid hunter, recently feasted

on braised squirrel he shot from their bedroom window. Chalkley’s true culinary passion, however, is seafood, so we called on her expertise to create an all-fish menu. Novices, take heart: These are dishes that rely on quality ingredients, not advanced techniques, and will inspire the most fish-fearful among us to venture out to the seafood counter. Chalkley even shared her famous fried oyster recipe, as well as tips on choosing and preparing seafood and entertaining a dinner crowd.

Fried oysters with cornichon tartar sauce (serves 4-6 as an hors d’oeuvre)

Tartar Sauce Ingredients

2 tablespoon shallots, roughly chopped 2 teaspoons Worcestershire sauce 1 tablespoon capers 6 cornichons, roughly chopped Juice of 1 lemon, about 2 tablespoons ½ cup real mayonnaise Directions

To the bowl of a food processor, add all ingredients except mayonnaise. Process for several quick pulses, until mixture is finely chopped but not pureed. Add mayo and pulse briefly. Transfer mixture to a serving bowl and refrigerate while preparing oysters.


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1 pint of fresh oysters, labeled selects or for frying (about 14) ¼ cup cornmeal ¼ cup durum semolina flour ½ teaspoon salt ¼ teaspoon each freshly ground black pepper, garlic powder and paprika ½ teaspoon dried thyme Dash of cayenne pepper Thinly sliced napa cabbage, and lemon or lime slices for garnish Corn, canola or peanut oil, for frying Directions

Fill a large, heavy skillet, preferably cast -iron, about 2/3 full with oil. Heat oil over medium-high heat while breading the oysters. Drain oysters very well in a colander. To a plastic zip-top bag, add cornmeal, flour and seasonings. Prepare a serving platter with a generous layer of napa cabbage as the bed for the oysters, citrus slices for garnish, and the tartar sauce for dipping. When oil has reached 360 degrees, add oysters to breading mixture, tossing lightly to coat and then adding to hot oil. Fry oysters for about one minute, just until golden brown. Place oysters on top of cabbage and serve immediately. They can be prepared up to an hour ahead by holding the fried oysters at room temperature, on a rack placed on top of a sheet pan. Just before serving, reheat them in a 350-degree oven for 5-10 minutes, until hot.

SEafood primEr How to pick, cook and serve the best fish

 Shop around to find a seafood counter or shop that doesn’t smell extremely fishy and has a knowledgeable staff that welcomes your questions and requests.  Saltwater fish, as opposed to fish raised in freshwater, should never be stored over freshwater ice, which breaks down the flesh of saltwater fish. Look for some

barrier between the ice and the fish, unless the ice is salted.  When buying white fish, look for clear flesh that isn’t cloudy or iridescent.  The flesh of a filet should look smooth and intact, and its layers should not be separating.  Ask to smell any piece of fish you’re considering buying.

Saltwater fish should smell of the sea, and freshwater fish should have very little smell.  When buying whole fish, look for clear eyes (no milkiness), firm flesh, and no bruising. Scales on the fish should be flat against the flesh, not broken or peeling away.  Fresh fish should be used

the same day it’s purchased. If necessary it can be kept on ice in the refrigerator overnight. Frozen seafood items are often just as high-quality, and safer, than what’s offered as fresh in the case. Often so-called fresh seafood has been previously frozen and thawed, or may have been held on ice for days.


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rockfish carpaccio on toast

(serves 4-6 as an hors d’oeuvre)


½ pounds filet of fresh rockfish, grouper, halibut, cod or other extremely fresh, white, meaty fish 6 slices pain de mie, or pullman loaf (Chalkley prefers Dean & Deluca’s version) 2-3 tablespoons butter, softened 2 tablespoons high-quality olive oil (Chalkley prefers Colti buono) sea salt and freshly ground black pepper 1 lime, 1/2 for juicing and 1/2 sliced for garnish 1 teaspoon pink peppercorns dIrectIons

Preheat oven to 350 degrees. slice crusts from bread and cut into small triangles. butter bread generously and place in a single layer on a sheet pan. bake about 10 minutes, or until golden brown, watching closely. set aside on a serving dish. With a boning knife, slice rockfish on the bias as thinly as possible. Place slices in overlapping layers on a separate serving dish. brush or dot the carpaccio lightly with olive oil, and sprinkle with salt and pepper, and the juice of half a lime. scatter pink peppercorns on top. serve immediately with toasts and a small fork for assembly.


Toast can be prepared a day or two in advance, covered tightly or kept in a zip-top bag. Fish can be sliced up to an hour in advance, brushed with olive oil, wrapped tightly and kept chilled in the refrigerator. The rest of the preparation should be done just before serving.

Trout meunière (serves 4)


4 tablespoons butter 1 large Granny smith apple, unpeeled 1 cucumber, peeled 4 filets of lake or speckled trout 4 tablespoons of grape-seed oil 4 tablespoons flour ½ teaspoon fine salt and 1/4 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper 1 Meyer lemon, or if not available, half a grapefruit optional garnish: chopped fresh dill; finely diced tomato optional side dish: sautéed fresh spinach | 26 | FEbruary 2011



Preheat oven to 350 degrees. slice apple horizontally into 12 slices, about 1/8 -inch thick each, and carefully remove seeds from the middle of each slice. Place on a buttered sheet pan in a single layer. slice cucumber in ¼-inch thick slices and add to pan. Melt 1 tablespoon butter and lightly brush it over apple and cucumber slices. bake for 15-20 minutes, until apples are soft but not browned. Meanwhile, heat grape-seed oil in a large (12-inch) skillet until very hot. Add 2 tablespoons butter. To a zip-top bag, add flour, salt and pepper. Gently toss each filet in the flour mixture to lightly coat, and add to hot pan, skin side down. After 2 minutes, turn fish and add 1 tablespoon butter to pan, swirling to distribute. Cook another 2 minutes, or until fish is golden brown and crisp. remove trout from pan and place on serving plates, skin side down, on top of sautéed spinach if desired. Layer alternating slices of apple and cucumber next to trout, 6 slices per plate. squeeze the juice of a lemon or half a grapefruit in fish pan, add a pinch of salt, and swirl to combine with pan drippings. Drizzle 1-2 tablespoons of pan sauce over the fish, and sprinkle with dill and diced tomato if desired.

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Expert Entertaining  Prepare as much as possible ahead of time, but for those dishes or details that must be finished just before serving, make them fun and involve your guests. People don’t like to think of their hostess stuck in the kitchen slaving away alone, so let your friends help slice bread, garnish plates or fix drinks. If you’re serving risotto, taking turns stirring is the perfect job for a crowd.  When Chalkley throws a dinner party, she likes to serve the meal Italian-style, with the starch as a first course (a small portion of a rice, pasta or potato dish), and the meat or fish and vegetable served separately, as the entrée. This paces the meal nicely and makes it feel like a special occasion.  If you’ll be serving the meal family-style in large dishes that will be passed around the table, get out all the serving pieces in advance and label them with postits, so when you’re rushing to feed the hungry crowd, you won’t be trying to guess what should go where.  Wine and beer are always easy beverage options, but offering a special aperitif before the meal makes a gathering feel festive. It can be as simple as

Lillet with a twist of orange, or Campari and soda. The only rule of thumb is that it shouldn’t be too alcoholic or heavy.

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 When it comes to table settings, don’t be afraid to mix and match patterns, or throw in your favorite Target or yard sale finds. Chalkley bought one of her favorite tea sets — decidedly mod and sophisticated, with no mouse ears in sight — at Disney World. Layered tablecloths, colored glassware, pottery acquired on your travels and favorite knickknacks can all make up an interesting table and be conversation starters. Chalkley recalls her mother’s advice that as long as your objects d’art reflect your own personal style, they’ll work together. Annie Chalkley may be reached at 8292233, 399-5248, or


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Accent Waiting to Happen Some lovers only sound better.


ne night, long ago, i was in a bar drinking tequila and bantering with a man i found funny and charming. in the middle of a sentence, his face fell and i turned to see what caught his attention. A rugby team from Glasgow had just swept into the bar, every last one of them wearing a kilt. “Tell me the truth,” he said. “i don’t have a chance now, do i?” He didn’t. The Scotsman i cut from the herd was hoarse from shouting, and i couldn’t understand a word he said. but his accent turned off my common sense, quickly infecting my heart before i came to my senses three years later, stunned and 3,000 miles from home. That night at the bar led to a week of attending rugby matches and post-game drinking events, and bonding with a whole team of big brothers with such names as Shade, Murray and Callum. Then came the tearful goodbye at the airport, which led to reams of pale-blue airmail letters, a devastating phone bill and my Scotsman arriving in America nine months later to stay with me. He brought Murray, a tall, stoic man with a profile that could grace a coin, which was fine by me. The | 30 | FEbruary 2011


Julie Geen

more accents the better. Their first time at a grocery store found them gob smacked in the breakfast section marveling over a whole aisle just for cereal. but of all the marvels in America, nothing compared with Hooters: the delicious wings, the wine-sized bottles of Steinlager nestled in a bucket of ice, and multiple televisions broadcasting nothing but sports. Oh, and the busty girls in orange short shorts. Within a month, my Scotsman became such a fixture there that he felt obligated to take his favorite waitress out for dinner. For her birthday, he explained. “She’s our regular. She’s a great waitress,” he added while my eyes bulged. it was the burr in those R’s that got me through that particular nonsense. My Scotsman was no good. He was always three to nine hours late coming home from the bar. but an “Och, aye, i’ve done ye wrong,” salved a wound better than “i’m sorry baby,” at least the first 22 times i heard it. i wouldn’t have left the house with an American man wearing the shiny sweat pants the Scotsman favored. but he called them “track suit trousers” and the too-tight jeans were “denims.” He wasn’t much to talk about anything save rugby, cricket or George Thorogood, but who

cares when vowels are lilting all over the place? When we moved to Scotland, i can’t say things got any better. but now i was awash in accents, tea, rain and a whole rugby team. They broke each other’s heads open on the field, but showed up at my flat asking, “Might we have a wee cuppa tea?” — fussing over their mugs with the milk and sugar like grannies. At last, the spell wore off, ground down by sitting through eight-hour cricket matches, more broken promises and wee visa troubles that only could be solved by marriage. i flew home to my side of the Atlantic, cured of the notion that an accent and a few yards of tartan meant everlasting love. A few years ago i attended Murray’s wedding. He found another American named Julie, and ironically, my Scottish ex married a Scottish Julie. i was gratified to hear the lads called her Julie ii, and that “she nagged his face off.” because i was married, and not to him, he flattered and flirted with me. i told him i forgave him for everything. “Och, and so ye should. yer husband is a fine man and ye have two wee ones. yer life worked out great.” And so it has.

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